My wife of two years have left me for someone else. I am just left with a empty feeling,

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im 7 years in, it gets better

@@patrickkepler8187it does get better.

My wife cheated with multiple men. We had 3 kids 2,4 6yo and I wanted to protect them so I took her back. She cheated again of course. Once a cheater always a cheater. Divorced. New guy grooming my kids. Now they're a bit older. She told the kids I was abusive (lie) and the new guy was better. Big mistake. They took my side once they understood she cheated. What a nightmare. I blame myself for picking such a woman. Now my kids are even more damaged. Please pray for us.

True we feel like a hole has swallowed us and yet we have to push on.

I've been on receiving end of betrayal but tbh that person has had zero consequences. In fact he's married, had more kids and I've even caught him with another girl that wasn't his wife.

no one might ever tell you this , maybe they have but. Jesus is real and he loves you more than anyone else on this earth. He's a savior , he will hold your hand through life. Let him into your life tell him to lead you and carry you. Pray to him when you have time.

Stay strong and I hope you come back

@@jesussaves6510 thank you for your message I needed to hear that more than anything right now

@@chaleorta thank you

@@kenosi7345 how are you now?🙏🏾

Any clue?

God Bless you

Thanks for sharing.

Respect

I'm so so so sorry. Y'all are in my prayers.

Praying for you. Infidelity is very difficult.

Because what they are seeking they will never find in the world. I told my ex that he will take whatever issues he has with him, he didn't believe me.... He says he wants to be able to make someone happy and to be happy. Happiness comes from within - not from someone else. He'll never be "happy" until he can find peace inside that comes from the Lord. I'm sure your husband tells you how "happy" he is, but I'm pretty sure he's not really! I know mine is not, but he has to hit bottom and have a come to Jesus moment before his eyes are really open to the truth.

nembree622 amen! My ex has lost almost everything. He can not afford to live on his or that is why he is living with her and I’m sure taking a lot. He cannot live like he was with me free to be out because I trusted him. She knows the kind of lier he is so she is insecure. He cannot say anything because he has no home. His relationship with his sons is strained. And covid has hit his business. Events all cancelled. Well he made a choice. I will trust GOD!

Yes the issues will not go away until he addresses them. He did not want to get help for himself or us. His way is the right way and no one can tell him anything.

I know my ex husband thinks everything is ok he did nothing wrong.but maybe that's why he don't say hi or anything .maybe he feels guilty for what he done I don't know.but I would love to know why he did cheat on me.i tried to ask him but he don't want to go there.so I guess I'll never know why.

Rogzetta Lipscomb my situation also. I cut off communication because he refused to take my voice calls. I guess she will not let him out of her sight. She is insecure because of the lies and conspiracy that she and he did to me. He did not mean to hurt me but, repeated adultery and lying is a choice. I think that he just did not feel good about himself.

So very true! It is unfair to allow a cheating spouse to pretend to be a decent person, parent, or spouse. The children deserve to know WHO the unfaithful spouse IS! They shouldn’t get to hide behind anything. These liar’s should never get to hide behind their betrayed spouse. Seriously there is one decent person and another waste of space person and the children need to know and understand which parent is worth their respect. Obviously the cheater isn’t that.

I agree, my soon to be ex wife the unfaithful and her enabling family are upset that I told the kids what’s really going on. Seems very strange the make believe game their trying to play with the kids like the lies and charades just keep going? Ya no

They don’t think about their children when cheating and betraying their family. Regardless the kids will know eventually who the reason their family didn’t last.

I learned last week about my husband's porn issue after a 25 year marriage. I told my 23 year old daughter but am struggling to tell my 17 year old son as I don't want to say anything that will jeopardize him graduating high school in 2 months. Wondering if I should wait to tell him.

They have to know

I'm sorry. Best to you in your healing

@@staleydu1 Thanks so much. God will use it for my good somehow

Ron Allen: I’m going through this right now with my unfaithful husband. He too was a betrayed spouse. I made the mistake of believing that he knew how it felt and would never do that to me. He also would 86 friends if they cheated on their significant others. He also had never cheated on anyone until he cheated on me after 29 years of marriage! During our recovery time I came to realize that he avoids his feelings and there’s a name for it. Intimacy Anorexic. So, one day I asked him if he ever “processed” the betrayal of his 1st wife. He just said he put one foot in front of the other and moved on. That was when I realized that he never felt the pain. Never dealt with it. Never counted the cost to his own psyche. Never grieved the losses. Never questioned why it happened. My main safety net, that he knew how painful it was and would never do that to me, was blasted out of existence! So, I’m telling you this because even if your wife was betrayed before, she may not have processed it or fully felt what it did to her. She didn’t learn from it. I hope that helps you.

She obviously didn’t love you, so as hard as it is, you need to face the fact that she isn’t worth it and find someone who is WORTH it.

That's depressing, I was kinda hoping someone who experienced that themselves would be less likely to do that

I agree 100%. My wife cheated, my kids found out when they say the text messages on her phone. I got a lawyer and gave her back to the streets. Both my girls hate her guts!! I didn't have to say anything. I refuse to reconcile because I guess what I am as a man wasn't enough. Facts!!

My husband wants a divorce so he can marry his affair partner any advices for me.

Ditto we must forgive and have peace , he was and did what he did , you deserve a new life and peace give it to yourself only you have that power , forgive and be free.

How are you doing?

Prayers sent out your way brother

Praying for you!!!

I found out after 4 years even though he understood the pain that I went through with my first marriage

My husband of 5 years was having an affair that I found out about last weekend. I have nothing to gain from losing him and divorce. I feel like I’m losing apart of my soul not just my heart. I hope you’re doing better now 1 ur later

I know one thing, it isn’t fair. The cheater who broke a binding contract gets no punishment. They still get half. They pay no compensation and the AP knows of there marriage and nothing happens to them either. It’s just plan ruthless and soul killing pain for the betrayed. I just don’t understand it. How you can be sleeping around and lay next to your spouse at night knowing what you been doing 💔

I agree. There should be some kind of legal punishment for the dispicable crap that goes on that causes extra stress to the betrayed. Like the pictures and motels etc. Doctors visits..time off work.. Betrayed should be supported by laws and compensation should be enforced as a deterant. And to assist the betrayed to start again.

How are you now ?

I've been dealing with that for the past 3 yrs. Even the "other" woman whom he went to live with blamed me for their split up very recently. I just don't get it at all. I did nothing to him or her other than make sure my kids and I were going to be ok after the divorce. It doesn't make sense.

Guessing it all revolves around his shame. It comes out as anger but in reality the anger is directed within.

He could be a narcissist. Have you learned about this?

He feels guilty but is trying hard not to feel it. They avoid emotion at all costs.

And from my understanding The rich guy that she cheated but it’s nowhere in her life anymore he used and abused her for sex and destroyed our marriage I don’t blame the guy because he was just a young kid I blame her because she knew she was married for many years and was an adult but he also was not under the age of 18 he was 25 years old and knew that he destroyed a marriage from a Christian standpoint I mean I know I’m not perfect before God far from it but I will never break up families yes I said they go drinking sometimes I go clubbing in the past when I was younger but I didn’t wanna hurt anybodyOr calls children not to have their parents in her life

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My husband wants to do the same thing

That is sick

My wife had a ex fiancé come back into her life after 30 years. She asked for a divorce 8 days after I found out. She is puzzled why the divorce won’t be final for another month. I assume that they’ll get married just a few days after divorce. It makes me sick and angry but she told me that they discussed they’re life together after when I found out the affair

mine did similar. left me and my daughter with the premise of divorce, got a boyfriend, and then cheated on him like a month later.. some people just have zero class and morals

Well, that's not happiness or completeness. Guessing the shame is shoved deep down, but it will bubble up, and cause deep issues.

I hope you've moved on by now. She cheated on you twice because she did not want to fix things. I went through the same thing last year. I forgave and was all in after what he claimed was merely an emotional affair. he wasn't all in, and it was a sexual affair after all. Our redo was based on lies and he chased her down again and lied to me for months that he wasn't cheating. This time I wasted no time when I had the proof again. I had to drive him out and it's brutally hard. Very hard to get him to move and he still has a lot of things here, which he admits are like an anchor. He apparently is hurting too, even though he's still w/ the young idiot he picked. Turns out the grass wasn't so much greener on the other side and now he has finally has the terrible regret he didn't really have the first time.

PRAY for her! That is all you really can do for her. And, let God change you (we all need help in some way). Love your neighbor as yourself. Your spouse is your neighbor. Ask God what to do and He will show you. Maybe you could go to counseling first. Maybe find a Christian counselor, one who supports reconciliation.

I just heard this today (my husband is also a sex addict): Looking for emotional support from an addict Is like looking for a loaf of bread in a hardware store

He could develop empathy down the road but also he could not. Is it worth it to stay there and just wait for him to decide? To decide to engage towards his healing but in the meantime your healing and life are just in his hands. I would suggest focusing in you and your healing. Decisions will come eventually as you heal and get stronger

It’s been a year since I found out and I am not getting the truth either. We probably will never. My therapist says we need to worry about ourselves. They made the conscious decision to cheat. And it’s up to us to heal with in. Empower yourself. And take self care. Find the love you have for you. 💕