Na not boring. Simple. Much better living. 🤙

As an introvert that's been doing the van life thing for exactly two years now in the US, it "landed" quite well. Thanks.

love it

Wow, incredibly honest and almost therapeutic video, big applause for making it and sharing openly! Just because you prefer surfing, ocean and quietness over partying doesn’t make you boring. You just have different values in your life and frankly, it sounds you have the right ones, regardless of what others say.

Is that van transcendental? 😂 Doctor 🤵

And fucking world travel.

Not too different, actually. Have you ever wondered how one never seems to be bored when they're alone? It's always with other people does boredom set in. Peace is quite literally the absence of eventful stimulus which many would interpret as boredom. But it's semantics really. Synchronicity is very real and we achieve that with time spent alone in order to solidify and be more judicious about the people we let into our lives. Boredom is merely the mismanagement of psychological, intellectual and emotional resources. More often than not the first thing we do when we are bored is try to avoid dips in dopamine so we seek interactions that spike it's level otherwise known as pleasure. Pleasure is not contentment. We conflate the two so we end up chasing more dopamine seeking behavior. The issue with this is that when we don't get the rush of "feeling good" we get down and stressed which releases cortisol. Cortisol than down regulates dopamine receptors leading to decreased effectiveness of dopamine. See where this is going? You got it. Now one seeks more dopamine spikes to feel worse than they initially felt. This is addiction, depression and anxiety. Contentment is regulated by serotonin which tells you "this feels good I've had enough" instead of "this feels good but I want more." Contentment is being OK and accepting where you are at any given moment and if that is achieved by yourself in a seemingly boring life to others...so be it 😊 Mahalo my brother. Great video.

@@soapbox187 No. Peace is an 'Experience' it is not an abscence. The experience of inner peace is beyond words and is complete fulfillment.

only a few letters hun ❤

​@gilldanier4129 'experience' is a creation, borne of the cerebral realms therefore freed of all physical and emotional limitation therein lay THE beauty

What a True Quote! I so agree! I’m going to write that out & share it!

The quote isn't completely true, for example sitting in a room alone would not solve poverty.

Pretty much

@@bigballz4u Solve poverty? 🤣 Stop expecting other people to "solve" your problems.

@@bigballz4u it is not about poverty . Actually go into a room alone without distraction or pointless phone calls and think about what the quote really means.

Yes I really agree with this. When I look at the lives of the people I know that are busy and doing a jillion things all the time, I wouldn’t trade places with them. It seems like mostly noise to me.

This resonates strongly with me, I turn 50 this year and the older I get the more I prefer my own company. I can't stand the bbq conversations that revolve around houses, renovations and material crap. I'm very happy to just go to a remote surf spot and be the only one there or even share it with a couple of like minded souls

Boring is subjective, a human construct to entrap people into doing what other people want them to do. Boring is beautiful. 👊☘️

Amen

Boring’ has a negative connotation I would see it as someone who likes to be at one in the present and hasn’t succumbed to the constant madness of distraction in life that were bombarded with! 🙏

I never understood what people mean by someone is 'boring'. It just doesn’t make sense. It’s just another label created by humans. Boring because you are quiet? Boring because you do you? Boring because you found your way? I don’t get it.

Relate much. My family can't seem to understand that this is the way I want to live my life.

I turned minimalist about 5 years ago. The world is all a perception put out by an elite group of criminals that want people lost and weak and unable or interested to stand up against the criminals. TV programming has worked great for them. Now Mask up and obey.

@@old-soul they are stressed and lost trying to live life through others. Sad society out there

So true!

Would it feel wrong to do all those same things with someone else who also likes doing them alone? Then you could both do them alone together

@@yeboscrebo4451 Certainly not, my point is, finding someone who is at the same level as me is not an easy task lol. Most ppl enjoy drinking every weekend if not every day, have no purpose in life or self development.

same! ❤

I feel the same. I surf, go to the gym. I have friends, but I don't see them. I can spend all day working on my midi collection. Before I got married I would spend Mon-Fri by myself and meet my friends for one beer and one coffee, and a chat at their house. This would all happen in a 4 hour time frame, and then back to my house for a quiet night watching TV by myself. Sometimes I had girlfriends, but I'd limit my time with them. I was married for 18 years and had 2 kids, and met people through their sports activities, but I didn't consider them social friends. Now I'm separated, and I'm back to being alone most of the time. M kids live with me, and I still see my ex, still "date" her about once a week, but I just do my own stuff and wait for the surf to happen. Then I call my friends and we go surfing. Doesn't happen too often these days. Weirdly, I'm often the life of any gathering, but I don't seek out those occasions. I'd love to find a quiet woman one day to occasionally share some alone time, but until then, leave me alone.🤣🤣🤣 And Tejapi, if that's your pic - you're freakin' gorgeous!!

I am in the exact same boat as you. I have a couple great friends but we don’t hang out. It’s weird…I would do anything for them and vice versa but I only like being alone.

Wow. I like that

Well, that was very wisely put by the monk. I always ask, how can I get bored while being myself 😄

That's an excellent definition. It's also a great means of not becoming boring.

Wow yes , that definition sums it up perfectly , I have never been bored for 28 years , since 8 had cancer and was not given long to live , since then I appreciate where I am anytime anywhere ,

From one 60-ish yr old woman to another - I completely agree!

Ditto from another ❤

I'm a woman celebrating my 66th birthday today. LOVE this comment!!!

same! 60 y.o. woman here!

Boring 😊 63 & that's alright with me 🧡💙🧡

A surfer knows when they are old because you know more dead surfers than live ones. 😮

I can relate. Since turning 40 anyways. At 60 now Whatever floats youre boat. Right?

Love this Jim :)

i can totally relate to try to date older ladies. its hard and draining. you need to find someone whos open for it, and most arent. in fact, a lot like to humiliate and rub in the fact that theres no way. its cruel when youre young.

Make the most of what you can, while you can. Don't be afraid to try new things. Don't surrender to age, adapt to it. Nobody lives for ever but how long we are young is much shorter. Try not to take drugs, any drugs, even those that the doctor wants you to. It will shorten an already short journey. Finding what works for you is a constant struggle that is part of aging. Never expect the answers in a gift packet for $$$.

Couldn't have said it better

I'm the same, but can't seem to make my extroverted red head sister understand that I am very happy to be in in own company . She will never get it

That sounds perfect to me! We should hang out sometime…oh no, wait lol!

THAT IS NOT BY CHOICE

I can relate. Just curious how do you handle work?

@@RhymeandRamblings For me, it's my work that makes my alone time even more precious. I am a teacher and dealing with children and other adults all day long!

Same here! 🎉

Here here 💃 had my own recent check in lately, recognising the temptress of drama.. No thanks, adios amigo, I value my own humble awareness and freedom from unnecessary drama and guilt pushing. To anyone feeling a sense of unease or division from self by another, trust your gut, gaze upon disordered attributes from narcissism to the supposed spiritual sage. Corruptions from a calm self state are abundant. Never doubt your own goodness and humility. Others will attempt to thrive upon it, dismantle, entangle, confuse and occupy your true, healthy psyche-being. If in doubt, get out and be in your own honest, trusting space 👌🏼

@@apocalypticdaze2139 well written response... Thank you

It's only boring to those who can't appreciate the deep contentment in life that is hidden beyond the word and futile emotionally charged behaviors.

@@apocalypticdaze2139 it's not an easy place to exist in at the moment, to be content, at peace and happy within your present moment. It's as if people are addicted and hypnotised by the need for incessant drama in their lives. TV shows, social media, the professional victimhood that gets people money and fame. Once upon a time a person might share that within a tight trusted circle of family n friends. But now it's shouted from the roof tops, the infantile cry of look at me rising from the crib into the town square. Personally I'm sick to death of it, my fuse for self inflicted stories of drama to be someone of interest is the tip of the narcasistic iceberg. The human race has got themselves well n truly hemmed in by imagined stories that no one is really interested in.

I second this. Where I live I’m considered odd because I’ve removed myself from the usual getting on the piss etc but to be considered boring because I’m not on the piss or have a party house or whatever it’s bullshit

Haha I love this comment thank you so much :)

Love this quiet, honest, vulnerable post so much. Good on you for respecting yourself and living life your way, my deepest respect. This is crazy inspirational for someone like me who wears herself out being a social chameleon.

👏👏

In reality 90% of the world want to like this [ At Peace in their Person ].

I am 42 and just started actively working out who I am (previously it was just a mind numbing go with the flow/expectation mentality) hope to truly be aware about my authentic self and live more intentionality and be less apologetic moving forward. 😊

Same. Boring is the best!

I think creating peace in ourselves is what is needed to be able to show up in a loving and attentive way for others.

Thank you that's lovely feedback :)

Definitely living my dream :)

same! 🤗❤️

Same 😊

Same 😊

Thank you :)

Love that perspective. Not boring but content and comfortable. It's all about the perceptions, right, our own and others.

From my experience, this questioning is even more common when you're a woman. Some people, including my mom, can't believe that a woman might truly need and desire freedom and independence.

@@fletch2117 I’ve always been independent, it’s now also a necessity though being on my own. Sometimes life forces us to be adventurous and face our fears 😀.

I'd love to be a "boring person" and surf with you in the mornings! I'm in SoCal! I'm 22 and finishing a physics degree.

Feel the same and 20

I'm with ya bruv! True and true. I'm 24 and surrounded by the noise of others my age. Couldn't even bother with "hanging out" or even drinking haha. I spend my days Learning about things that interest me. Wouldn't have it any other way. Cheers

Was going to write this same comment mate! ...23 here. Cheers :)

Love this :)

love you, people! ❤

same, but who cares!? enjoy your life! ❤

Thank you so much Lisa

You can try surfing no matter what, even if you think you can't! Paralyzed people can surf nowadays, people without legs even. All it takes is just going out there and doing it. Book a lesson. It's not easy, but I guarantee you'll have a fun day anyhow.

If you can do burpee you can surf. Fat people can do burpees.

@@ieism1 THANK YOU

You can do it. Set aside the time to learn. You can start with a boogie board, then use a surfboard and paddle a lot. The extra weight will come off while you are enjoying yourself, staying in the flow.

Absolutely! Be true to yourself and you’ll discover peace and happiness.

Tolle's KZfaq has really helped me lately, regarding living in the moment. I will look at Rupert Spira

That is exactly it.

Yeah it’s funny as a hermit I find social media gives me just the right amount of connection without becoming overbearing.

Love those words!

lovely and wisdom words about tensionat and relaxation. ❤

Thank you legend :)

Thank you :)

I'm so glad :) thank you

Great advice :)

Love that!

Agree w/ & love the grocery store analogy ! I can have a short chat w/ an acquaintance , store clerk , neighbor & having filled up my " socialization tank " for the week , am then quite content to return to my country home , dogs , books , music , etc. Meeting a person while walking my dogs at the local county / national park is nice as some have shared their interest in dogs , bird watching , observing monarch butterflies , etc. yet I've noticed most people are also enjoying their time at the park alone . 🐕🌳 📚 🎶💟

Well said.

Love that :)

🙏🏻

Lucky enough to be living my dream :)

I’m 100% like you… (halfway around the world) “Boring” to me is FREEDOM FREEDOM from stupid small talk, egoic BS, consumer fads, competitive idiots, drama queens and kings. All that stuff wears me out. I WANT TO BE ALONE. I sort of have too. I will anger people because It seems to offend them that I don’t give a crap about their insanity. I’m a super quiet guy… Loner to me is not boring and yes I have few close friends BUT just like me they live very separate lives from the dying status quo and we see each other whenever things work out, there is no agenda or timelines that must be followed whether together or apart… why ? We respect each other’s independence BUT if there is a real problem we are there as soon as we can be. Living free from the burden of a collapsing social system is not boring… It’s actually a lot of work. Living free from the poison food you buy in a store or at a fast food garage dump isn’t easy… it’s a lot of work. Living a no debt life isn’t easy, it’s very hard AND doing ALL THAT and still have high quality stuff (just a lot less of it) is something that makes people understand that it’s actually a really smart way to live (boring or not). Problem is most are so indebted to the system they can’t easily get out…

Curated. That’s a good word for it.

Trust that the right people will align with you and come into your life at the right time :)

Keep your chin up. There are introverted women out there. Maybe you should put yourself in a place (location, etc.) where that special introverted woman would be. I met my partner in a place of very mutual interest, an art supply store. I was so intrigued with him, after asking him why he was looking at handmade papers, that I invited him to go across the parking lot to a coffee shop. All very safe. Low risk. It all worked. So put yourself in places that interest you and see who shows up. Smile. Invite them to low-risk places for coffee, etc.

No, wrong, people are the problem. loneliness is so under rated.

Thank you mate :) Love that realisation.

Thank you :)