Keep being picky, Elise and never go for less than you really want. It would be better to be on your own and able to live as you’d want to than to just settle for something that doesn’t feel special x

I only had my child at 32 and I got married at 36. I've never done what society expects of me. Life is too short to care what others think of you and you do what makes you happy.

I can honestly say my biggest regrets in life involve my having been way too concerned with romantic relationships and wasting so much emotional energy on them. Don't worry about being in a relationship- just enjoy BEING. Romance will follow.

Life comes in seasons, and a lot of your friends are in a different season than you. That is hard, but do enjoy the season you're in. I think your season is building your business, putting your time and energy into work. As your shop has I wish you happiness and love, whatever season you're in.

I was the same as you, at 28 I was still single and had thought I was 'on the shelf'. At 29 I met my perfect man. We married at 34 and I'm 36 now and pregnant with my first baby. Yes I've done it much later than I liked and much later than my friends, but I found my perfect man at the right time for me. We're both older, know what we want and it's just a real proper adult relationship no drama etc. Everything happens when it's meant to. Don't feel sad, it will happen. Also I'm super jealous of you and your business, I don't have that! See the amazing things in your life that others might wish they had achieved ! Xx

True that!!! My daughter has no children, got married at 20 and is now 40, married to the same man. I never ONCE asked her when she was having kids. Her younger sister had one and decided they were done. Both girls have had people from their husbands family and others ask them. I think it is incredibly rude. Don't you think if someone hasn't had kids in 20 years of marriage they probably don't want them or can't have them? Either is none of your business. Asking someone when they'll get married is just as rude.

I am 66. Felt old at 18, so I got married to a gay man. Next time, I was 21, felt old. So I married an alcoholic. When I was 31, I thought my life was over, so I married a musician. At 45, I thought my life was over. I married a great man, and 21 years later, he's still a great man, even though NOW I REALLY AM OLD. 😁

I'm 62 and never married. I had a child on my own at 38. I honestly don't feel I've missed out.

I've watched some of your videos when you were still in a relationship and living with your ex and I can honestly say you have grown so much as a person. You have become so independent and mature. You can really be proud of yourself.

Oh Elise ! You have come along way ! You are so mature and are a successful business owner ! I wouldn’t be surprised if some of your friends aren’t jealous of you being so independent , successful and free!

Beautiful woman, you have all the time. I’m 41, newly engaged for the first time, and planning a baby. I also have a gorgeous 3-year-old daughter I had completely by myself. Don’t be afraid if you choose that! Most of my friends didn’t settle down or start families until their late thirds and early forties. Much love!!

I didn't get married until I was 37. Now I'm so glad I waited for the right match who will grow and change with me over time. Finding someone who is really committed to the hard work of growing with you and building a life is the most important. Don't settle for less ever! It seems like you're just enjoying the journey and coming into your own. I admire your independence and strength. You're a role model for young women everywhere Elise 💖💖💖💖

That was great...maturity is a bumpy road , you are doing so well. Keep your criteria never give in just adjust as you age. ❤️🇨🇦

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. I'm 38 been single again for about 4 years. That last relationship was with a narcissistic sociopathic abuser. That's not fully the reason why I am still single. I am a single mom of 2 kids. I work full time. I barely have time for my kids and myself. I have no extra energy to put into another person. Plus I don't have the desire or energy to deal with another person. I personally am very content knowing that I will most likely spend the rest of my life single. I don't even want to date. Everyone is different and everyone's life path is different. If you want to be in a relationship...just keep your standards and never settle just because you are lonely. I hope you find someone worthy of you!

I totally feel you when you said i still fill like i am 20, i soon will be 28 and i still feel 25. I live alone with my bf but it is a flat that my parents gave to me, so i just pay the expenses and electricity and so on, and i have always worked with my parents at their nursing home, so i never felt like i truly could depend of myself even if i worked a lot and i am studying at university. I feel like there is something still missing and i just dont feel like a full adult yet

I absolutely adore this dress on you, Elise! This whole video made a lot of sense, and I appreciate you speaking your mind, experiences, and wants. It is quite crazy to think of how our criteria for a partner changes as we get older. I hope your single Valentine's Day is lovely today 🌻

Oh Elise, watching this video was like watching myself some years ago. I’m even a redhead, so that made the feeling even more intense 😂. Your story now was my story some time ago. In my thirties, all my friends married and starting to have kids. I felt so alone. I had no one to hang out with because they were too busy raising their families. I started doing new activities to meet new people and I did. Got a new group of friends, a little bit younger than myself, and I had a great time with them. Then, eventually, I met my husband, we got married and now we are trying to have kids. And I felt like you regarding kids. I never wanted to have one by myself, so that’s totally ok. What I’m trying to say is that you are young and have time. Don’t rush yourself to keep up with other people’s pace. Things or people arrive into our lifes at exactly the right time. I met my husband at 36, got married at 38 and I’m trying to have a kid at 39 and I woudn’t change A THING about how things happened and when, so keep doing your thing and everthing will work out. Regards from Argentina! 😊

i'm 27 and i've also been single for 5 years. Most of the people at work are married or in long term relationships and sometimes i feel like i'm the only one who doesn't have a life outside from work, which is a lie because even though i don't have a partner, i do have many friends, my cat, my family, my home and my desires to become a better person. We put too much importance into being in a relationship or forming a family, i've realized that i only want a relationship because i worry that people might think that i'm a loser or weird if i'm single at this age, not because it's truly a desire of mine.

Single at 26 vs single at 32. I will say that now I feel more drive towards focusing on what brings me joy, building a strong community , focusing on building my business, going back to school to become in expert in my passions, and deepening my spirituality....this is my difference....

Do not worry, the same questions are also being asked when you are in your late 30s too. ;-) Trust me. 27 is still a very, very young age, do not worry. And as for your friends, in case they will be distracted by kids, you will find new friends. One door closes, another opens.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It was very relatable. I'm 28 and single. It can be very lonely, because some of my friends have settled down and we are just different places in life. Sometimes i'm also sick of this pressure from society to find a partner and settled down. I'm quite alright and i enjoy being single, but one day I would like to have a partner and a family.

Been here since 22 Elise, and can’t believe how far 27 Elise has come! Everything brought you to where you are now 🌟

For me 30s are the best time in life! 20s were of no comperisson. The way you feel, understand, percept. Elise, it's all ahead for you😃 To settle at 25? To let go all incredible opportunities? Enjoy your best time in life🎆

Every Valentine's Day I watch "picnic at the hanging rock" - which is quite depressing, but I like it anyway. 33 and single, one year ago I was 32, single and with no friends... Pretty insane how things turned out, i never expected to have better relationships with random guys that i went to date on and say occasionall "hi" on the street than with my friends who i imagined being close to the rest of my life. Life is full of surprises. I can't have kids so it doesn't matter if I want any or not.

I'm 28 and single, I'm most afraid of losing my friends, but we somehow make it work, if we can't meet, we'll talk on the phone. Also I became friends with older couples and people who understand the struggles and frustrations about having children and meeting society's standard of what's normal. We'll make it work somehow, luckely we are not forced to marry the first guy that crosses our path like older generations, we get to build a life for ourselves, I'm grateful for this at least. I don't think you were picky necessarily, you were smart about it. You're a good and smart person, surely you'll find someone great.

The most worthy and beautiful things in life take time, Elise! And believe me, its WORTH THE WAIT! Doesn’t matter what others think or tell you to do.Do what’s feels right in your soul. ❤️✌🏻🌻

Always interesting content:) You are an amazing self-sufficient business woman - Bravo to your single self at 27.

Yes 20s are huge. I am in my early 60s and its not dissimilar. I'm happy its being happy with yourself no matter what.. I totally get it and I am the only one as many will get into relationships JUST not to be alone or stay so not to be alone. I think you are great. Times are different now Elise

Really loved and appreciated this chat Elise. Thank you!

Yes, it made total sense. Happy VD. Im cooking a really nice dinner for myself..3 days of planning it. 💜

Don't worry about what society expects you to do. Having kids isn't an obligation just because you're a woman. More and more women and couples are choosing not to have kids and while some people might think that's being selfish, is it really? My husband Chad and I have been married for going on 26 years and we have no children. We're blissfully happy! We can go out at the drop of a hat without having to find a babysitter, we can go on vacation whenever we like, and we don't have to worry about being interrupted when we do things we enjoy doing here at home. Find a guy who will support you and what YOU want without question. He's out there..but never feel like you HAVE to get married and start a family just because others tell you that's what you should be doing. They don't have to live your life...that's totally up to you! :)

I'm 56 years old and have 3 kids, 6 grandchildren. I love my life, but I will be honest, I sometimes envy my bestfriend who is single and goes and does whatever she wants to do, but then I think I wouldn't change a thing about my life. Keep living your life and enjoy it as a single woman Elise. Someday your time will come when the time is right. I love your life! Just enjoy it!

Having a child on your own is truly really really hard Elise. I am with you. That happened to me the stress and pressure is huge. On line is yuk, do not like it.. They say the best way to meet is through friends.. and work

This style of dress looks amazing on you. Thank you for this video. As a single 26 year old (and I have been single for the majority of 20s) I needed this. You are such a colorful, fun and strong person. I also live like I am still 20, I just can't feel myself growing up in a sense that I cannot simply come into a state of being mature enough for the creation of a family yet. I do feel like I might never be able to find someone I truly like. I don't wanna just date around also. It is a paradox. Anyways, I get you. Thank you for the video, really really appreciated.

You are a very special strong young lady, do not feel pressured to find the right guy, it will happen, he just isn't ready for you yet ;) ...I married very young and had a child, divorced after 31yrs of marriage and now very happy on my own. Also spending Valentine's Day on my own...Happy Valentine's to you

You are such a beautiful person inside and out Elise. Thank you for sharing your heart and your thoughts with us today. Cheers luv

Roses are red, violets are blue, happy Valentines Day - I'm single too! 💌💐

You are so much wiser about romance at your age than I was. I know you’ll meet the right person, probably when you least expect to. And I loved the Friends recreation of you three on the couch, dressed as brides, drinking beer and eating popcorn. Happy Valentines Day! ❤️❤️❤️

Happy Valentine's Day!❤💝

Yes, I relate so much! 90% of what you said is exactly how I feel in my life too!! You're not alone 💜

What helped me get my boyfriend: - not trust chemistry because it made me think that men are attractive with whom I played out the deatructive relationship with my dad - have 3 no go's and 3 musts (no smoking, no drinking, no drugs basically lol, and musts fo example sharing my environmentalist values etc) - realising I don't have to only date really breathtakingly handsome men haha since they turned out to be not great and their beauty made me feel inferior and made me behave in a weird way, childhood trauma etc, so I imagined kissing every guy and if I don't have to throw up, he's good and has potential haha - ditch the romanticized ideas of love we get from the media... - watch videos by Alan de botton - realise relationships take time and I can't possibly expect someone I dated for 3 months to give me the same level of commitment someone would give me after 2 years

Happy Valentine's Day/Evening to you Elise! God Bless. Sherry:)

sending everybody love and light! You are beautiful and worthy

Thanks for the lovely tips for valentine 💕 I think I am going to do that pampering tips for my self more often.

Happy Valentine’s Day pretty lady❤️

You have gotten so much wiser and mature plus found a path by almost 27. Be proud of yourself and know what happens, will happen. Your friends may not have been doing what they loved, now are in relationships. Hopefully, it works out for all of them and if not it might be because they didn't know themselves as well as you do. Valentine's is about love,-self love is probably the most important and family support. That will get you through anything else than happens.

Thank you for chatting this topic, love u.

This is a great video Elise. You are smart and you know what you want. Don't let society pressure you at all. Just know someday the right one will come along and you will know it. It's so worth it to wait for the right person. Several of my friends are in bad marriages and you don't want to go through that suffering with Mr. Wrong. You are on the right path don't let anyone steer you off that path. It's important to know what you want so you don't end up stuck with something you regret and have to get out of. You are young and just have fun and enjoy your life. Mr. Right will come along out of the blue one day.

Single for 4 years! Keep your standards high, you deserve to be cherished! Hugs from CA ❤️

this dress looks stunning on you! I hope you find this lucky guy :)

Times have change, I can see my grand children putting their study and careers first. My daughter brought them up on her own. I got married in mt 20s, my husband was the father figure in my grand childrens lifes. So its not that they didnt have a male figure their lifes, and they have heaps of uncles. Its just that they are a little like you they want a good career, and know they can look after themselves. I travelled a lot throughout my life taking family along, which has given my family the experience, that make them look beyond boarders, and the country they live in.

Happy Valentine's day Elise! Honestly, I'm 21, 1,5 year in relationship and I'm under the pressure of society too. I think it's kinda inevitable. Whether you are in relationship or not, people use to judge you or put a certain pressure on you.

i’ve been single six years now couldn’t be happier 😊 but valentines day was definitely a reminder. I became a single parent of 4 kids at 30 when my husband left me. It was a nightmare. He left and decided to just call every now and again and barely sent money etc. He went on to get his Phd and advance in his career and invest in properties. Fast forward i’m 46 and my kids are almost grown. I’m living in poverty and just starting from square one. You are smart to wait to have kids and never alone. I love being single, having my own space and freedom.

Happy Valentines Day!

I've been in a relationship for five years. I'm 28 now. All 3 of my relationships have been long term. But I realized that the only time I was ever truly happy was being single and living in my own when I was 20-23 I'm feeling very uncertain as of late. Except that my now fiancee and I are growing more and more incompatible by the hour. We just want different things, and I'm ready to start a family of my own and he's still preoccupied with buying action figures. 😒 Being single at 28 is so daunting now.

Love your suggestions

28 , single and everything you spoke about resonated with me , Same here ❤️

Very Relatable, I have many questions and don't know where to begin.Perhaps come back later, I will say Great conversation Thank you!

I hope you feel ok about staying true to yourself and your vision for your future and your business. If you make yourself a priority and just work to excel at your dreams the right guy will likely appear. And if not - you will be happy anyway doing what you love. There are many, many ways to exist in this world. ❤️. Love your channel- sending love and support from a Canadian fan. ❤️🇨🇦😊

I loved this video

This is my first Valentine's day not being single and i am married 🎀 we met online! Love your videos!!

That was perfect for Valentine’s Day Elise. I always think of those who don’t have a partner on the day, and how it might reinforce that they are “alone”, but there are literally millions who are in the same situation. I love your advice of reaching out to single friends and acquaintances to just give them some reassurance and a little boost. I have two questions. What is your favorite, all time love story/movie? Mine is an older movie called “Goodbye Girl”, (MUST SEE EVEN THOUGH IT IS OLD!!!) and I also love “Where the Heart is” (Natalie Portman). My other question is what style of house is your dream house? I loved the two houses that you showed us recently, btw.

Yes, it's exactly as you're saying, the life has changed troughout last few years (I'm 27 too). But I think it's important to choose the partner well, so it can take some time. I wish you to find your perfect man soon ❤️, I just hope you won't stop filming. 😄 And the dress is gorgeous! 😍

I have to say I can never understand how people can give your videos a thumbs down 👎🏼. They are always thumbs up 👍🏽

These days its nothing wrong with being picky. Nothing wrong. Live your life and it will come .Ive been watching your videos for awhile. I really enjoy the content.Dont settle for less.

I have never related to something so much! Thank you for sharing ❤️

like everyone said that dress is really gorgeous on you. it's the perfect fit and tone of pink

Hi Elise, actually most of what you talk about is the truth. I myself watched as my friends that drifted because of relationships took place and kids. Not everyone is meant to be married, or even in a relationship. Also, children are not in everyone's future. Being 'Picky' is what some of us are really about. To me, if you can't see yourself with someone in 5 or 10 or more years....it isn't (at least I see it that way) going to last. Not wanting to go through a 'divorce', I am single and have been all my life so far. It isn't bad or good, it just is what it is. Some are not really meant to be married. If you like yourself and enjoy your own company and don't need anyone to entertain you, being single is pretty good for sure. Take care of you Elise and be 'True' to yourself. God bless you in all things. Society makes us sometimes feel less than we are. Wishing you all the best in everything. Sherry:)

Dane here.... I am 29. and i was in a relationship from 17-22. and back then all my girlfriends were in relationships and i became single and was left out of the group. I have been single since then. The first few years by choice, and the last few years, i was so open to love, but it just hasn't happened yet. I rejected 3 men over the years who i didn't like and i have been rejected 3 times as well. i was SO in love with a guy, who strung me along for a while. ... So i am freaking out a bit over turning 30 and still there's a long way to go before i can have kids and a husband. which is what i want :) ..... But i just had to adjust. think of it in a different way. Because you can not force love. I will NOT settle. I want to be in love and find my best friend. So ... here's to the future. However this future looks. P.s I understand the part you spoke about with friends who is in a whole other situation than me. My friends who are married now, with second and third kid on the way... those girlfriends kind of look at me like i'm a confused mess and a child or something. PURELY because i haven't found love. *REMEMBER LADIES* you are NOT any less worthy because you are single. Having a man or not, does not define you. don't ever let someone make you feel less than you are.. you are awesome.

You need to meet a guy that will deserve you. You are such a goodhearted, sweet, intelligent and beautiful woman. As you said, chemistry and sharing values is crucial in a relationship. I wish you a Happy Valentine's Day !!!!! ❤️

Outside Beauty and egg supplies comes with an expiration date, inner beauty doesn’t. Ask yourself the following question, am I wiser today than 5 years ago, if yes stay on course, if not immediately change course.

I am also single! 27 years old

That cup by your elbow is making me nervous! 😄

You never know what you can do till you have to do it. You are a great mum to Luna, you would be a great mom. One day you will bump into that right person you can’t live without, just be sure to take care of things that a couple might do like savings accounts and buying a home. Don’t put those things on hold.

I totally feel you! I'm single too and planning on moving to a whole new place now that I finished my Master's. It's scary and weird cause I already feel pretty alone and "unsettled" all the time and now I'll be leaving the few friends that I have. My friends (even those that are living pretty "alternative" lives) are getting married too now. I'm one of the few people 25+ who is single and still running around trying new things like a crazy person. All the other friends I have who are doing more similar things to me are all like younger than me, maybe only 23 so not much younger lol but still. I also completely feel the same way about relationships. Only been in one, slightly-longterm relationship and I'm extremely picky. I want who I end up with to be THAT person too so who knows if I ever end up satisfied T.T XD

You’re very together for 27! I’m divorced and single. My daughter’s birthday is today. It’s my only day off from work. I’m trying to stay positive and busy. My ex and his new wife are talking to my daughter now. 😔

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Remember that nobody is perfect, and it takes time to get to know someone. You have to agree on the basics, though. Family, Marriage, Children, etc. Don’t give up on love! Keep looking, but be cautious. Everything you say makes sense! There is a match for you out there, and he will be amazing! 💞

It's just a day... luv u!

Love doesn’t have a timeline ,you will find someone ,and you will know .Good luck 👍

You are going to be a great girlfriend/wife to a blessed man. Hold out for a man who realizes how special you are. Happy Valentine’s Day. You are loved.

Love your dress🍒🎀♥️🎀🍒

Holy cow, have i followed you for half a decade already !? wow!.... where did time go?

My mom was 23 when she had me ..it was expected back then..now its more like 35.. times have changed for sure

Enjoy your situation in life. If your single find the best in it. If your in a relationship make the best of it. They each have their pros & cons.

I agree with Pauline 👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

I’m 34 and still single so I get where your coming from.

Pink dress is so sweet) I m also single) It has its ups and downs)

I'm 23 and already feel that separation and distance with my long life friends. I have been working and studying from home for the past two years so I haven't had much luck with making new connections. I still haven't had the experience of "getting wild" with the friends .... I hope I do and I hope it's not too late for me

Oh my God. Those perceptions about marriage and kids are spread in all countries. God. You are a young and successful woman. Just do your thing and if the right person for you comes in your way that is fine!!!Dont stress it. I m sure that your friends envy you for your success. Don't minimize your standards just to be with someone. I m 45 never married because i couldn't find someone to share the same values. Being single you have only 1 problem. Being with someone that is not the right one you have a lot of problems. Just focus on your goals and if it comes it will come. 💖💖💖💖

I rarely hear those questions asked to any of my single male friends and it annoys me. Most of the times the question " are you happy?" doesn't even come up. People assume my live is incomplete because I'm not planning on having children. Bruh, do you know how much time free time, money and energy i have left to spend for myself!? Thats an amazing feeling of freedom to me. I am lucky with friends with the same mindset though. I understand it would feel lonely if you can't share this with people around you.

I think the 4 criterias you had as a younger woman were really good ones! It is really important to have someone who is going in the same direction as you are, IF you are looking long term. Chemistry and attraction is enough for fun and flirt ;)

11:46 Don't worry, it felt more like a chit chat with a friend ♥

Today is my grandparents' 56th wedding anniversary 🥳 we facetimed each other and ate tiramisù

I am 29 and newly single. My friends all married, with kids or in relation... Its hard.

Just saw the video about the tiny home. I hope thr situation is safe. I think I'd feel safer in a gated community with security system.

My question is how many customers would come by the shop weekly and how has that changed with covid 19?

I’m 36 and dealing with a divorce right now... must to confess being single at a more mature age feels better

You have so many years ahead of u and having a bunny is enough some times people make u feel like u r missing out but theses people that r married and having children they don't even have time to stop and smell the roses my grandmother told me u never stop worrying about a child from the time u get pregnant until the time u die so enjoy your life

Oh Elise, I've been in a relatioship with a guy older than I, the age gap works so wierdly, like if I am the one too-in-love, hahaha, idk what to do