Life with Gender Dysphoria | Sunny Miller

Life with Gender Dysphoria | Sunny Miller | TEDxEBS

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6 жыл бұрын

Imagine suffering from gender dysphoria. What would your life be like? How would society view you? How will people behave towards you? Your friends? Your family? Take a personal journey with Sunny and discover the “Turning Point” and understand the impact our society has and how we can make it a place for everyone. Sunny Miller is a kindergarten teacher, that has suffered from gender dysphoria . He discussed his personal journey and how the society might need to change their behavior to people that are or have been in his situation. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@VixeyFrost 3 жыл бұрын

WHEN YOU HAVE A TED TALK ABOUT GENDER DYSPHORIA AND STILL MISGENDER THE SPEAKER IN YOUR DESCRIPTION

@breannamata3224 3 жыл бұрын

Hopefully it was a mistake but if not, it just comes to show some people will always continue to be cruel and heartless towards others. It just seems that the world can never really come to terms with peace on earth!

@ethancampbell8877 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@olwynglover8918 3 жыл бұрын

@@ethancampbell8877 It's not funny!

@apreil4821 2 жыл бұрын

That’s a bruh moment

@sandysimpson4785 2 жыл бұрын

"Misgender"??? i.e as in calling someone the gender that they clearly are as opposed to who/what they think that they should be??!?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@sagehoff969 4 жыл бұрын

Hey Ted Talks, why did you use "he" in your description for Sunny when she said explicitly that she is a woman?

@cactusjacksentme3211 4 жыл бұрын

It's not a big deal, no one really cares, sit down

@sagehoff969 4 жыл бұрын

@@cactusjacksentme3211 Hyped Oh sure, no one cares. It's not like it's the entire point of the video. Kinda convenient and underhanded, if it was done on purpose. Ignoring it, like you're trying to do, is also convenient. So, please, I insist. Take a seat, sugar plum.

@nilajeti1126 4 жыл бұрын

Wow that is really inconsiderate!! As a trans man, if I got up and talk about such vulnerable stuff, open myself up like a book, and look at the description and see them misgender me like that, honestly that would hurt a lot!!! Damn

@sandgate2355 4 жыл бұрын

I think it reflects that the journey is started, not fulfilled. At 7:44 (s)he talks about changing his name and choosing her name.

@RealMephres 4 жыл бұрын

@@nilajeti1126 You wouldn't want to tell someone your name and then get called by a different name, thus delegitimizing and disrespecting your request to call you in a specific way, do you? If you want that to occur, you sure are a weird person to consider.

@eelnetflix5196 4 жыл бұрын

I'm having an identity crises at 6:30 am and I haven't slept at all, someone please help because I'm exhausted lol

@user-pd6ij7jm3b 4 жыл бұрын

Hey! Everything will be ok. Just take some deep breaths, exploring your gender and overall identity takes time. Don’t rush yourself, if you’re in a safe environment I encourage trying things that help you feel euphoric. Things will settle in place over time and it’s ok to not be sure. Also, I hope you didn’t read the previous comment left here. If you did don’t listen to people like that, always be true to yourself! You are loved and you matter. Always remember that. :)

@user-pd6ij7jm3b 4 жыл бұрын

Sea It’s ok to disagree with something or not understand it, but you should never encourage one to take their life. That’s not ok ever. That’s really sad that you find joy in speaking such terrible things to another. I hope you work through your personal issues and change that mentality.

@Sea-zu4bj 4 жыл бұрын

Gab Sasala welcome to the internet. I should also inform you you are drunk on 1st world privilege to be changing genders

@sniggitysnack2166 4 жыл бұрын

@@Sea-zu4bj aww look guys, a little transphobe wants attention! How adorable. "I should inform you" that you're looking in the wrong place. Try the incel forums maybe? You can't go wrong by looking into the Westboro Baptist Church either.

@Sea-zu4bj 4 жыл бұрын

Sniggity Snack someone doesn’t live in a democracy

@gracemortiz-fp9iu 5 жыл бұрын

I'm really glad you're alive : ' ) thank you for sharing your story

@garymarkham4538 4 жыл бұрын

Wow. This is a totally new subject to me. I'm actually truly saddened by the bigotry and prejudice around the subject. First point has to be, you have a fellow human being standing in front of an audience baring their soul, and some of you guys choose to tear their self worth apart. Secondly, I'm always fascinated by people who say things like 'turn to Jesus'. Rather than saying things like that, why don't you treat a fellow human being as Jesus would have done, using compassion and empathy. Thirdly, open your minds folks. Try to understand another's perspective. What makes them so wrong and you so right? Try to make the world a better place through empathy and compassion. Ask yourself what you are doing to make the world a better and more accepting place for your fellow humans. If you can't do any of that, then try to just keep your opinions to yourself and walk away, because your actually making the world a worse place through bigotry and intolerance.

@fredrickneitzche6748 4 жыл бұрын

The world is just fine. Its humans and culture that are the problem. Stop crying k.

@RealMephres 4 жыл бұрын

@@fredrickneitzche6748 ?

@gwen9939 2 жыл бұрын

@@fredrickneitzche6748 cringe 14 year old who just discovered philosophy moment

@gildardolujan1143 Жыл бұрын

Well I don’t care wat you people do to you’re self. I don’t Iikeschools teaching kids young kids about trans

@gildardolujan1143 Жыл бұрын

I have kids I am strate. And I don’t want people like you teaching my kids about trans. You are trans and don’t have kids so don’t mess with mine. If my kids are trans I want them to figeret it out by their self. Don’t push your agenda on the kids

@leekimberlin623 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so tired of discrimination in this country and other countries all people have rights!!

@kirigayakazuto5756 4 жыл бұрын

No, all people SHOULD have equal rights. Sadly in some countries that's just not the case.

@aeolian951 Жыл бұрын

@@kirigayakazuto5756 MUST*

@marwar819 Жыл бұрын

No trans are trying to take ours away by forcing us to believe their ideology. Do the research.

@getajobsy 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story ❤

@marsagain5635 2 жыл бұрын

why am i here I've already got a life with gender dysphoria

@cloover-jg5zd 2 жыл бұрын

I... Same

@AliceMGT Жыл бұрын

I…ye- yeah….yeah.

@vivisglasses_ Жыл бұрын

@@cloover-jg5zd J E S U S?

@hyperN3725 Жыл бұрын

searxhed for coping strategies for gender dysphoria. found nothing

@aeolian951 Жыл бұрын

@@hyperN3725 Same :(

@toniluster2654 9 ай бұрын

This is my life story,told in the most profound way. Thank you "Turning Point".

@alarispoljanac9919 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it

@nikester5673 4 жыл бұрын

Im 13 but we are like the same person lol

@Sea-zu4bj 4 жыл бұрын

Yes both of you act like children but it’s normal for one of you

@natalia_vlatka 4 жыл бұрын

@@Sea-zu4bj, just don't ok?

@Sea-zu4bj 4 жыл бұрын

jaoz lagustera shut up

@sniggitysnack2166 4 жыл бұрын

You're valid, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 👍

@Urmom-dm2kf 4 жыл бұрын

Sea I bet you saw that it was about them being trans and immediately got triggered. You transphobes don’t even listen to their backgrounds or struggles

@themoon2988 3 жыл бұрын

Your environment and community supportive that what you make you lucky, especially when you have found the person who understand you. Thank your God for this and try to stay strong by trusting yourself. Good luck.

@leekimberlin623 4 жыл бұрын

We need to as a world 🌏 embrace each other there needs to be acceptance of all people in our world, will be a better place to live.

@JosueLopez-kk9us 3 жыл бұрын

the world will never be like that, in conjunction 5 percent of the population has either narcissistic or antisocial (psychopathy and sociopathy) personality disorder, and of course, that's just the ones diagnosed. I will suggest to you to not accept those types of people.

@IAmAir22 2 жыл бұрын

thanks for sharing

@emilyl5078 Жыл бұрын

I’m so proud of her for not only doing this TedTalk, but doing it in 2015!! It’s a whole different world today and speaking up when it was a lot less ok to be in the LGBT+ community is beyond brave. Stay strong sister, wherever you are!

@wasweissichbla Жыл бұрын

yep, that´s exactly what i thougt

@harsh4964 2 жыл бұрын

Love and respect from India 🇮🇳 🙏♥

@michaelmigliaccio3509 Жыл бұрын

🇮🇳 🔥

@yvonne-transitioning Жыл бұрын

Great presentation

@Kai-ug5vh 4 жыл бұрын

I'd be one of those 41%

@sniggitysnack2166 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. If it gives you any happiness, I love your profile pic, its adorable. I see you are subscribed to Geesus, as am I. I really hope things are going better for you 💖❤

@flightofthelawnchairman5766 4 жыл бұрын

I hope you're doing okay, too. You deserve to be okay. ❤️💛💚💙💜 (I like geesus, too!)

@aeolian951 Жыл бұрын

Same

@micktierney2779 3 жыл бұрын

Your story is my story ❤

@milvusz 2 жыл бұрын

Hey, @TEDxTalks. How about you moderate this comments section and use the correct pronouns in your description?!

@vivisglasses_ Жыл бұрын

ouch

@Diamoondust Жыл бұрын

FIX THE PRONOUNS IN THE DESCRIPTION PLEASE

@ryecatcher84 3 жыл бұрын

Soo eloquently spoken...very inspiring.

@garretttaylor2772 5 жыл бұрын

i have gender dyshpobia i have the body of a female but the brane of a male

@ethancampbell8877 4 жыл бұрын

I dont think thats how it works. Male and female brains are different.

@teapotcollector3670 4 жыл бұрын

@Garrett Taylor Dysphoria is awful, I wish you much luck on your journey through life. Always remember that you are valid no matter what other people may say to you.

@Kai-ug5vh 4 жыл бұрын

@@ethancampbell8877 Exactly Thats exactly how it works

@Lucifer_Mortala 4 жыл бұрын

@@ethancampbell8877 they actually did a study and trans people have the brain correlating to there gender

@temerianlillies 4 жыл бұрын

@@ethancampbell8877 Trans people have the "brain" of the gender they are transitioning into, that's what causes dysphoria. It's just brain structures, which is a real thing, male brains have certain structures only in male brains and vice versa for female brains.

@tinehammerbo9018 2 жыл бұрын

You are probably the bravest person I've come across

@davefisher1840 2 жыл бұрын

This was wonderful. May God bless you as you continue your transition.

@missmandyrubber9893 4 жыл бұрын

brave god bless

@DisturbeD802 5 жыл бұрын

Is this me ?

@kasperdomagala4544 5 жыл бұрын

This is me lol

@vivisglasses_ Жыл бұрын

idk you know

@BlueberryCats_ 2 жыл бұрын

🏳️‍⚧️

@toddmartin3159 Жыл бұрын

how would i be classified

@pl1676 2 жыл бұрын

This story is vague

@Kordon87 2 жыл бұрын

Sadness.

@jonathanavila9699 5 жыл бұрын

Was just looking for a unbiased point of view.

@Miloggy 4 жыл бұрын

Jonathan Avila There's never quite an unbiased point of view. If you want a good source, however, John Oliver had a good start.

@enigmaticamelia4099 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's really difficult to get an impartial view on this stuff, because you either live with it or you don't

@DeismaGames Жыл бұрын

Came here hoping to get an informative and scientific explanation on gender dysphoria. Instead I got a sob story. Damnit Ted I was counting on you!

@fernandosauret1906 Жыл бұрын

Same here, very very sad though

@ebenezersam9871 3 жыл бұрын

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@multihorse 5 жыл бұрын

Said some really good things, but was a very weak performance from the speaker

@olwynglover8918 3 жыл бұрын

She was probably VERY nervous and anxious. It's not easy talking about this like this, ya know

@olwynglover8918 3 жыл бұрын

*Things like this

@kriskabin 3 жыл бұрын

She has more guts than you'll ever have.

@mansi1955 3 ай бұрын

It's human to get nervous talking about ur struggles

@richardbedford6657 4 жыл бұрын

It may be time for people to realize that we are born physically male OR female while at the same time born male AND female mentally. We were married at conception to become an individual. This union has been attacked by the world which, for its own purposes, told us to suppress one half of ourselves to the subconscious mind and to express the other in the conscious ego. We may even forget that we have gender partner buried in our subconscious mind. What an insult this is to a beloved partner. The angst will most certainly be felt by the ego as dysphoria streaming out of the subconscious mind. It will most likely be mishandled by subjects and therapists alike with brutal SRS and superficial advice from therapists who do not really understand the cause of GENDER DYSPHORIA!

@mikecausey758 11 ай бұрын

I just farted.

@Hikari3.0 Жыл бұрын

He says he is a man , in his speech, but then also says he is trans , 🙀 so I guess you can be both now in 2020 , They live 👽

@castles8463 Жыл бұрын

Yes. You are all people who deserve love and respect. But you all share a psychological condition. Not a physical one.

@JohnLee. Жыл бұрын

I identify as a 55 1/2 yrs old, i’m still waiting on my retirement.

@calistafalcontail Жыл бұрын

Its a mental illness...okay. So why do we act like correcting the body is the thing to do? The body is not the issue, its the mind. Fueling something that warps your perception of reality and makes you demand from others to deny it, is messed up.

@adonisblox9198 Жыл бұрын

Bro it was taken off the Mental illness chart in 2015, get your facts in check

@MrRyan-fd9rd 3 ай бұрын

I had a cousin that swore he wasn’t homosapien, but rather 100% Neanderthal. Is he correct because he said so? Or is he just wrong and delusional?

@judgejudy3035 Жыл бұрын

So ridiculous.

@DaveNanan Жыл бұрын

This was more of a sob-story than an intelligent discussion about gender dysphoria 👎

@darlalei4303 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a woman. I don't ever think about makeup or wearing dresses. How can you "feel" like you are a woman, if you're not one? I think about people who were born without eyesight or limbs. They don't know what it feels like to have them. I would not add or subtract my body parts to different.

@sagehoff969 2 жыл бұрын

Oh and a little anecdote about the makeup and dresses. My fiance is a trans woman, and she never wears make-up and very rarely wears dresses. She's fine with a t-shirt and (really comfy!) cargo pants. Yet she is still trans, diagnosed and everything. So, no, not every trans woman thinks alike, or are stereotypically "feminine".

@twentyeight602 2 жыл бұрын

Gender identity and gender expression are 2 different things I get that you might not understand the whole "feeling like a woman" , and that's quite common for cis people because they don't or barely have that sense that something's wrong You started this comment with "I am a woman" you *know* you are a woman, so do trans women Lol sorry for the long comment I hope I could atleast explain a bit

@DeAnnaParisRN 2 жыл бұрын

@@twentyeight602 define woman.

@billyhunter144 2 жыл бұрын

@@DeAnnaParisRN I'm not a biologist

@keeprollin9911 2 жыл бұрын

@@DeAnnaParisRN A person who identifies with the term "woman". No problem!! ;)

@pl1676 2 жыл бұрын

Gender is all about your chromosomes. Any discussion beyond that obvious fact is leading to nowhere.

@hyperN3725 Жыл бұрын

there are people woth xxy and y chromosomes. should we make new genders for that?

@ialnavi Жыл бұрын

@@hyperN3725 who told ya that

@mediocrepancake313 Жыл бұрын

@@ialnavi Look up "intersex" conditions.

@vladi4ko 10 ай бұрын

i too gender people by looking at their chromosomes. prepare yourself for an on the spot karyotype

@pl1676 9 ай бұрын

@@vladi4ko I have never heard of karyotype named: "decieving people about your reproductional capabilities ", and did you ever heard of such?

@yodaDageezy 8 ай бұрын

You don’t have real problems if your main problem is about your gender.

@silverhawkroman 4 жыл бұрын

Sunny is also a female name. I don't think it would be fair to choose your own name since nobody gets that privilege without paying tons of money. You HAVE to let your parents decide, perhaps let them go with a female name they thought of back during pregnancy.

@Kai-ug5vh 4 жыл бұрын

Well no, uhm we pay a lot of money to also get our names legally changed

@kerriannechilders 4 жыл бұрын

You know, cis people can change their name too? It’s not a trans privilege?

@Urmom-dm2kf 4 жыл бұрын

You do know that cis people can do that to, right?

@sylviemartin5932 3 жыл бұрын

@@kerriannechilders yeah, if i didn't have dysphoria i would've probably changed my name anyway since i didn't like it.

@sushilovermf 2 жыл бұрын

well yeah ofc, a fetus can't choose their own name so they have to stick to the name their parents give them, if a fetus or a newborn could make such decision i bet most people would choose their name. So if you have the chance to choose it, why not do it? Your parents picking it for you can help but ur opinion on the name is also important since you are old enough to choose

@jremi 11 ай бұрын

Gender dysphoria affects a very small number of people… anywhere from 1 in 30 000 to 1 in 110 000. We now promote the LGBTQ+ ideology in school in the name of inclusion. But if the goal is to be inclusive, why don’t we also talk about people suffering from ADHD, autism, schizophrenia, anorexia, binge-eating disorder, and hundreds of other mental health issues. Why do we put so much energy in the LGBTQ+ ideology while ignoring all the other issues? Who decided this is more important? Why do we feel it is important to promote it in schools, indoctrinate the kids in the process, and turn many of them into gender confused people at an age where they are most vulnerable? The truth is… this is pure propaganda. I am not transphobic; I do believe that EVERYONE should be respected. What does scare me though is our society’s apparent inability to use common sense anymore, especially our legal system, and to see through a few activists’ agenda.

@kerilinko4 4 жыл бұрын

This made my head hurt..... how are you born into a male body, but not male 😒

@Urmom-dm2kf 4 жыл бұрын

Because your brain shows more signs of being female. Studies have shows that trans ppl’s brains have more signs of being the gender they identify with then the gender they were born. If you’re confused, please research and don’t hate.

@Urmom-dm2kf 3 жыл бұрын

@Arran Vijayadurai because none of you are trans

@fluffydice9410 3 жыл бұрын

You can be assigned a certain gender at birth but that won’t always mean you are that assigned gender

@kriskabin 3 жыл бұрын

Spoken like a typical cis gendered person.

@sagehoff969 2 жыл бұрын

@@kriskabin hey let's not hate on the cis for being cis. Let's hate on folks who are transphobes and purposely misinterpret us for their own gains. This person seems like they were just hearing about trans folk, and it didn't fit with their worldview so they needed more explanation. Not surprising, transphobes like to erase us where they can.

@stephanieencarnacion8286 4 жыл бұрын

God does not make mistakes.

@user-pd6ij7jm3b 4 жыл бұрын

You’re right. But everyone is different and that’s not a mistake. :)

@Urmom-dm2kf 4 жыл бұрын

That’s why they’re not a “mistake” you’re the only one saying that they are.

@AddilynneLastname 3 жыл бұрын

Theater Geek That’s From Japan wow someone capable of thought, that's new on youtube comments also the first was reply was good too just not as good

@i_eat_rocks1481 3 жыл бұрын

Your right god makes people trans

@fluffydice9410 3 жыл бұрын

He made you

@Anita1984isuponus 2 жыл бұрын

Kindergarten teachers need more screening

@InsaneCopePosse Ай бұрын

This is a joke

@billyhunter144 2 жыл бұрын

This person is grooming kindergarteners smh

@AliceMGT Жыл бұрын

Wha- how? Was there a report? When did they groom kindergarteners? Oh. Lemme guess. Since they’re a teacher, and also not someone you agree with, you immediately say they are grooming little kids to make them look bad based on a stereotype. I’m not denying the fact that every community has bad people, but not every person in that community is automatically a bad person just because one or two people are. (Note: one or two obviously isn’t an accurate number. There are billions of people on the planet, but you get my point. Anyway, have a nice day/night/whatever)

@vivisglasses_ Жыл бұрын

what the ffffffuuuc is the logic behind that

@AliceMGT Жыл бұрын

@@vivisglasses_ i don’t think there is any tbh

@user-je4eh9ht1k 11 ай бұрын

Kinda embarrassing the way you follow that propaganda like a mindless sheep. I can tell you who **does** groom kids though and it's the good ol' priests of the Christian church lmao

@andrewb90 3 жыл бұрын

This wasnt informing at all all. It was all just about this guys sob story

@wiredworld4042 4 жыл бұрын

Satan is deceiving you

@Urmom-dm2kf 4 жыл бұрын

I bet you say that to ppl with autism or depression.

@AddilynneLastname 3 жыл бұрын

your god and satan are fictions, they're not real, the worms will eat you too and your consciousness will end to nothing, the earth will reclaim you and all your offspring and family and friends, as she does everyone, even if yall really wanna get this delusional with it, but I'm sure all the people in power love you for drinking their control mechanism fictions down so smoothly, not that you'd be smart enough to know that's not a good thing, you're clearly not at all familiar with what actually is even right or wrong or good or bad, but believing fictions as fact was your choice now you can't unmake it, have fun I guess, delusional people can enjoy their delusions I guess that's your only option now

@mongel9211 3 жыл бұрын

@@AddilynneLastname Lol. I guess if god isn't real clearly the dude who thinks he's a female is.

@cloover-jg5zd 2 жыл бұрын

Y'all and your space fairies.. Smh

@asdffdsa898 Жыл бұрын

@@cloover-jg5zd its not about satan...its doubt. The truth is no one should ever allow doubt to consume them as this person has.