I appreciate you leaving this comment. What you're saying is very similar to the things my husband has told me about my behavior. I think more people need to hear from partners of individuals with BPD. It's so hard on you mentally. I have given Andrew PTSD from my behavior, and it's not okay. I'm sorry that you had to go through this. This comment is more helpful than many on this channel who say things like he's a piece of shit for leaving. He's not. He had to protect himself from me. That hurts me to admit, but I'm getting therapy that I have needed for decades now. We're also getting marriage counseling soon and I hope he can recover, too - even if it's not with me. I know how hard this is on the person who loves someone with BPD. Thank you again for your comment.

@@LifePlusCindy you are a gem among gems, it takes a lot to get to the point you're at. I can't imagine the struggle you've had to fight through, even just internally. I think people with BPD are some of the most wonderful people you can meet, the pure passion they feel is on another level. As an ex partner of someone with that disorder I can honestly say im VERY proud of you for taking steps, its not easy but you are amazing for getting this far, I wish you the absolute best in life and in working through things.Everyone is allowed mistakes, but its what we do after that really shows our characters

@@cheeriozombie She did not have a problem with what he said. In fact, his words are VERY important for this specific situation. It's people like you that are the reason the mentally ill are not treated properly. You need to take a good look at reality if that's your attitude. What he's telling her is constructive and he did it in a very articulated manner. How dare you even attack him for that.

@@cheeriozombie "This comment is more helpful than many on this channel" See, SHE said that to HIS comment. She didn't get offended and call him "abusive." You need to tone down the sensitivity, a lot.

@@ghostdetective311 SMH. She is in a hurt place. She just accepted straight disrespect; that doesn’t make it OK. The commenter literally edited their comment to say they didn’t want to be helpful. So why are YOU so focused on the comment being helpful when the commenter didn’t want to be? Yk, since that’s your argument in the first place.

This warmed my heart and I'm not even going through it ! Thanks for being there for everyone

Exactly, knew you had the right words to say Jenn. WE GOT EACH OTHER. ❤️❤️❤️

i love you jenn! perfect advice

Girl this hit so close to home.. I was with my daughters dad from 17 to 31 and he cheated with a chick 10 years younger than me.. she actually lives in my family home haha smh.. I am 38 now and have had another child since the split and so has he (allegedly) but I've been single the past 3 years and been working on myself and have tried dating but I'm not interested so just the kids and I but life is so so good.. so happy you are good also❤️

Thank you for your vulnerability and the accountability. Having BPD is debilitating. I’m empty too. I’m sorry for your loss. To Andrew I’m sorry for what you’re going through.

So well said!!!

Bravo

I did kind of think this may have contributed. So many couples break up after a miscarriage and it's so sad. I just hope both of them can find their ways again, either separate or apart.

AGREED!!! Don’t trade one addiction for another!!! It’s makes things so much worse!!!

I know that Cindy keeps saying she's BPD and all that but I personally believe that none of that makes her a bad person at all. AT ALL. We all have our problems and a life. Besides look at her right now. She's crying. She's in pain. She's having emotions. She's such a sweet person. I couldn't help crying with her.

BPD people are prone to abusing drugs and alcohol. I have BPD, I can’t drink period, despite being recovered and living a normal life since I completed DBT at 19. Anytime I get drunk is the only time my BPD comes out.

I found working on re-parenting did a lot of help especially from messed up childhoods like ours. You're still just a little kid inside that hasn't been loved or cared for or heard and they need you to see and validate them. You're worth it, you're worth investing in yourself.

You dont have to die alone, Cindy. You can heal and surround yourself with people who love you and will support you at your darkest times. You are worthy of that.

I have to agree 100%, I certainly won't judge you and I have to applaud you for wanting to dig yourself out of this mental state and situation and that shows personal strength!

Perfectly said

Such a wonderful comment ❤

In the vlogs, ngl Andrew most of the time seemed distant from her. Perhaps I thought he was annoyed at being recorded for vlogs but he didn’t seem to pay attention to her at times. On his phone. She would start conversation and hardly reply much. It bothered me but I didn’t know what went on behind the scenes. Then Christmas video came out and I thought woah he’s a different guy than I though. This is heart wrenching to see. I really hope she gets back to Arkansas and leave that house. It can make her just feel worse. Hope she takes the fur babies and leave as soon as she can to be with people that can help her heal.

@@triggeredlatina I noticed and felt the same as well honestly.

This times 1,000

This is phenomenal advice! Thank you for showing such love and care! Your work and healing really shows!!

Hey what type of medication do you take for emotional dysregulation?

@@lv9265 Bupropion 300 mg 😄

@@lv9265 I take Bupropion also. It’s a generic of Wellbutrin, it’s an antidepressant and SSRI. The thing with BPD is that there isn’t a specific medication for it and therapists often treat symptomatically- like if you have enough symptoms to be diagnosed with depression, then you’re prescribed antidepressants, but that’s not the whole picture of your symptoms. The one thing most point to is DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) as that gets more to the heart of behaviors and beliefs, challenges them, and helps you learn strategies and coping skills to combat when emotional irregularities arise.

In the case of borderline disorder… it’s not technically malicious manipulation. It’s lack of adult coping skills because people with BPD are almost always victims of child abuse and or neglect, therefore they do not learn the appropriate skills so in all reality, if you were to listen to a BPD adult, close your eyes. You would hear the cries of a child. Children have tantrums, children use threats and “manipulations” when going through emotional turmoil. It’s the same behaviours that of a child but in an adult body. BPD is only caused by two things, either the child grew up with a parent with BPD so genetic/environmental or their parent was abusive or negligent. I am a mother with BPD, thankfully I got therapy and saved my life before I had children. But fuck me it’s a constant fear that I will pass it onto my children genetically despite my best efforts to not make the same mistakes my mother made with me. She was very mentally and emotionally abusive and neglectful. Only reason I was ok as a child was because of my father, but when he died at 13, my life spiralled, my mother abandoned me and boom the dormant BPD came out. I hate so much hearing people call people with BPD manipulative… I heard it constantly from my mother that somehow me trying to voice how I felt, how she made me feel somehow made me a “sophisticated manipulator” People with BPD aren’t maliciously manipulative.. they aren’t trying to manipulate anyone. Often times when a BPD person for example screams they will off themselves if someone they love leaves them, it’s coming from a place of true fear of abandonment. BPD people weren’t loved properly as children by the very people who’s DUTY is to love and support them as children. So they make threats like that out of fear. Or they will treat those they love poorly out of what seems to be out of nowhere as a way to either get reinforced love and affection or to push people away before they can hurt them first. It’s an awful disorder. Horrible way to live. Constantly in fear, filled with self hatred, worthlessness, hopelessness, self loathing, chaos, self sabotage etc. Not saying that behaviour is right, healthy of justifiable. But when it comes to BPD, there has been so much fucking stigma, putting BPD in same category as psychopaths and narcissists.. for longest time psychiatric’s even refused to try and treat people with BPD until Marsha, can’t remember her last name, she is the creator of DBT therapy, she had BPD and thanks to her willpower, she created an effective treatment for BPD because there use to be no hope for people with BPD.

Cindy has been active on her The Sims channel for years. I followed her for years. Everyone love her. She has a great sense of humor and she made me laugh so many times. Trust me, guys, she's got a truly caring heart. What we see here is a Cindy in pain and experiencing raw emotions. I cry with her too. She's always been good at expressing her emotions.

Also, I'm glad you know It's never too late to start over

I agree with this 100%. By leaving you’re agreeing to break up and are starting the process of it. Moreover, you are doing the hardest bit with no help at all. I was in the same situation and it all worked out in the end. I can’t believe how many people think that that’s it. I believe that Cindy and Andrew will works things out. You can see how much they love each other. I don’t think it’s over

This, I completely agree, I think Cindy and Andrew are meant for each other, they only need time to heal and mend their relationship. Seeking therapy is the first step, most of all for Cindy's welfare, and then for their marriage's sake.

I also agree. I feel like leaving right now is another way of avoiding the painful emotions instead of working through them. Please take everyone’s advice and seek therapy sooner rather than later. You’re not alone, we all love you and want the best for you

You are so kind 💕

I'm not trying to be an alarmist here. Look at her eyes. There is a pretty big negative attatchment on her. But the last thing she wants to do is keep participating in Wicca. My dear friend was raised in it. Family has written books. Knows it well. He won't touch it after experiencing some pretty dark thing. She should really step away from that for a while and see if her life improves. I really with her all the best health and wealth. Love

@@lill1557 so true

Kudos to your dad, an absolute champion! 💖

The benefit to her sharing what is happening in her life is that more people watched this video and more people donated money. And I'm not casting judgment in any way, I'm saying there is a benefit to her sharing her personal life. Not to mention how alone she must feel, and getting extra affirmation from people via the internet is gonna help a bit. And people may even offer her tons of opportunity to help her with a new life, living space, or job.

​@@MistressElf I hope so! I just wanted to address her comments in the video where she said she had to post about it. I support her posting as much personal info as she feels comfortable posting, as long as it's what she wants to do. But I had a bad feeling that she shared more than she wanted to for some reason.

@@3dwichita376 I think if she was prioritizing reconciliation, then posting this video may cause a rift, as Andrew then would have to deal with the embarrassment of being exposed on the internet. So that's the benefit to keeping this private. But because she's in a heightened state of anxiety and uncertainty, I can see why she wanted to share with the internet.

@@MistressElf I understand posting and I understand not posting, whatever choice she makes as long as it makes her happy and she feels comfortable with it, that's all I was saying

Who even asked you?

Me too, but I am in Europe

Cindy takipçisi bir Türk gördüm 🥺, şu anda ülkemizde olanlardan dolayı ağlayıp durduğum için gözlerim şipşiş, fakat yorumun çok hoşuma gitti 🥺 Umarım sen ve ailen iyisinizdir, umarım herkes çok iyi olur 🥺🤍

@@belinaybasaran9184 aa merhaba🥹 evet gerçekten ben de sabahtan beri çok üzgünüm ama elimizden de hiçbir şey gelmiyor. İyi dileklerin için teşekkür ederim çok etkilenen bir bölgede değildim ama yine de ülkemizin her şehri için tehlike arz eden bir durum olduğundan insan korkuyor ve tanıdıklar da var tabii. Umarım sen ve sevdiklerin de iyisinizdir. İnşallah hepimiz bu günleri sağlıkla atlatırız✨

Sending love to Turkey from America ❤️ when i got a notification on my earthquake app for a 7.8 my heart absolutely sank.. Turkish people have been through a lot in the past year.

@@yespls4184 thank you so much 🙌🏻 I hope we will not go through anything like this again. I wish peace and happiness for everyone on this planet✨

We don't know about their private life, so we don't know whose fault it is.

@@FedeFG I don't see where I said who I thought was wrong, I do know we only see part of what is going on.

@@Ihaveasongtosing you said "this is not your fault"

@@FedeFG I meant it in the sense that bad things happen and you may not have a choice in what happened. Going to turn notifications off, for comments, as I'm not going to respond to you again.

@@FedeFG so she moves away from her family to live close to his and he just up and leaves sorry but he isn't without fault in this

She was just as responsible for it ending though. She's not innocent nor is he.

@@psychedelic.dreamer Still no one deserves what he did to her, the lies, the disrespect, the betrayal, the manipulation, and the mental abuse and tormenting he inflicted on her. Whatever she did doesn't come close to the awfulness of his actions.

​@@dundee6402she disrespected him and manipulated him just the same. One wrong isn't worse than another. He's not the only guilty party.

@@psychedelic.dreamer That's like saying someone who stole the candy of a baby is equally as guilty as someone who committed a murder. Not comparable at all, you know?

Final video goodbye Life plus Cindy goodbye