living alone diaries: venting about singleness, first days in my new apartment and makeup details

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living alone diaries: venting about singleness, first days in my new apartment and makeup details

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hey boos 🫶🏾,
we've finally made it to moving day and i couldn't be anymore happier. this entire week has felt like one exhaustive emotional rollercoaster, but i'm happy to have made it to the other side.
Very excited that I shared a little more detailed tutorial on my clean girl makeup look. I've shared all the products below for you :)
anyways, the topic of being single has been weighing heavy on my heart lately. i'm not sure if it's the silence in my apartment that gets to me most nights, or the fact that i use work as a distraction from how sad i really do feel most days... but, i just needed to vent and release these feels because i know someone else out there might be experiencing the same.
some nights are better than others, but this one just wasn't it. regardless if you're single or taken, please take the time to check in on your single friends/family members. the smallest "how is your mental" or "how is your heart today" could help lighten such a heavy load for them.
on a brighter note, i've been getting a lot more invites to influencer/creator events with brands i absolutely love and it's giving me so much hope that i can soon live out my creator dreams full-time! i honestly couldn't have gotten to this point without the constant love and support of y'all.
thank you for showing up for me and helping me strengthen my community on the internet. you guys help get me through many nights like these, you don't even know the half.
i hope your week is going amazing! take care all ways, always. enjoy! xo ❣️
(make sure you watch in 4k, the quality is top tier 🤩)
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@sheronjervis Жыл бұрын

Just came across your channel. I’m a 50 year old single woman. Trust me the dating game is so hard. These men are looking for a helper, feed me, dress me..etc. Take your time, love yourself and enjoy your life. It is hard sometimes but at the end of the day you don’t want to settle for someone who is not worthy of you. Stay blessed..❤

@maryl9432 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@elizabethnimwaka555 Жыл бұрын

Well said.

@tanyadaugherty3720 Жыл бұрын

Very well said

@seksiekay07 Жыл бұрын

Amazingly well said! I’m 35 and single, I can’t agree more.

@yougetaspear7799 Жыл бұрын

@@maryl9432 come on get laid boo, lifes too short thou

@tishasmith7213 Жыл бұрын

I am so happy I found your channel..I live in Atlanta unfortunately & I'm in my early 30's & STILL haven't found my person & I have my hopeless meltdowns often because like you said ppl give you that same old advice that you been doing, the self love & focusing on yourself meanwhile they all got partners & kids so it's like you have NO idea what I'm going through so I'm learning to just stop talking about it to ppl..I just journal or cry or both😢😂 but its refreshing to know I'm not alone & I'm not wrong for having my meltdowns about being alone

@Jo.Raquel Жыл бұрын

Love and live your life!

@shalbec3232 Жыл бұрын

What wrong with atlanta? But being alone is good because you have time for you but it also depressing because others have a partner and you are lonely just watching them be hapy and laugh😢

@yougetaspear7799 Жыл бұрын

What you looking for

@sibongokuhleklaas Жыл бұрын

Im actually so glad I camd across you too! Im in SA, 27 and feel exactly the same way.

@jericaleigh Жыл бұрын

Same

@michelleswanston5882 Жыл бұрын

can totally relate to singledom, 35 and have been single for pretty much the past ten years, dating definitely has not gotten easier. i've done all the loving myself and focusing on myself, mentally, physically, financially, professionally, and more, i've done the therapy, grown in my career, traveled to several countries, moved to a new city, paid off all my debt, recently purchased a home, i've done all the things. really thought i would be a wife and mother by now. idk what else to do at this point. but hey, statistically, i've avoided my first divorce, so yay i guess.

@tonigstar Жыл бұрын

Do you know how tired i get of hearing, something must be wrong with you, b/c im 35 with no kids..

@stephanielcowart6867 Жыл бұрын

@Toni G someone told me it was a red flag bc I don't have kids. I'm like ok so I'm supposed to make lots of babies and be a single mom. Got it. I never talked to him again.

@stephanielcowart6867 Жыл бұрын

We are the same but I just turned 37. I've done the work in all areas and I'm just waiting and dating. I bought my house 7 years ago though.

@michelleswanston5882 Жыл бұрын

@@stephanielcowart6867 men who want (more) kids think it's a red flag and that i probably can't have kids. men who don't want (more) kids think it's a red flag, because they feel that i would be pressuring them for kids since i don't have any. they honestly prefer to date single moms.

@stephanielcowart6867 Жыл бұрын

@Michelle Swanston that's honestly what it seems. Then they complain about all of the women being single mothers. I just smh at this point. I'm supposed to be a wife and mom so I'm out here being intentional while praying about it. I'm also like if you don't want kids, say that and if you do, say that too. There's more than enough women who want kids and others who don't. I'm on the want side of things myself.

@janelleedwards7513 Жыл бұрын

I thank you so much for your transparency. I am a single woman living alone and I get it. But being a single woman has brought me peace. I dont want to be serial dating and giving my energy to plp who most of the time dont deserve it or appreciate it.

@yougetaspear7799 Жыл бұрын

Come on get laid life 2 short boo

@skyebarlow8798 Жыл бұрын

I felt all of this. Whew the loneliness is real

@yougetaspear7799 Жыл бұрын

@@skyebarlow8798 👉🏿👗👖👈🏿

@mmowec8159 Жыл бұрын

I hear that

@myvids718 Жыл бұрын

Let me testify! 🖐️

@tashelrose4328 Жыл бұрын

Hi just came across your video and I’m married and wish I was single because my partner is not a “partner” so my advice is really take the time to get to know the other person. Being single can be lonely but being married and lonely is another level of loneliness. It’s better to be no one than to be with the wrong one! Go out, date, meet people and your person will come at the right time.

@youknowwasup386 Жыл бұрын

You picked him. Modern Women are never happy!

@Afri22girl Жыл бұрын

@@youknowwasup386 yes she picked him but people don’t always show their true colors and go back on their words…….

@BossdomChronicals Жыл бұрын

Facts …my married friends live through my single life. They even say they are married single moms…. But a few of them do enjoy having a partner to walk through life with. It’s a beautiful thing when you’re with the right one. I’m sure you got emotionally catfished like me😀 My Child’s father turned out to be a totally different person than who I fell in love with, thank God I didn’t marry him, he wanted to but the red flags were glaring so I took my child and started living my best life, as I wait for the right one. I hope your husband and you can find healing we are all beautifully complex, hopefully it’s worth him fighting for.

@bettycade9773 Жыл бұрын

Begin dating outside your race. Don't limit yourself. Black women outnumber single black men. Travel more to meet men of different cultures. Looking back. If you want to get married you have to begin to meet other men outside your race.

@tessy28 Жыл бұрын

@@bettycade9773 Exactly. I'm getting married to a white man next year. A lovely Polish man to be exact who loves me to bits. All my ex boyfriends were black but my HUSBAND is European. Black women should date out

@gabgrandy01 Жыл бұрын

The first 7 mins were so real as a single person lol..one minute you are doing things that need to be done (adulting) and the crazy desire to have someone to share can be overwhelming out of nowhere! Thank you for being transparent because its not always easy to explain..

@TaylorMartinez0660 Жыл бұрын

i’m so glad you’re honest about wanting a partner and how much of a struggle it can be as a single girl in your mid 20s. i’m only 21 and i sometimes feel that loneliness but when i’m in a good spot i think about how instantaneous falling in love can be and how when God blesses me with the right partner i’ll be ready for it, regardless of what my prior dating experience is. i think the dating around to find what you like and don’t like is more of a cultural thing we made up tbh 😭 i feel like bad dating experiences can add to your trauma and make dating your future partner harder. i’d honestly rather be single and happy than dating and miserable because no one is fulfilling me. i’m not sure if that helps but i’m wishing you the most happiness before and after you meet your dream man, i know it’s gonna happen for you 🥰

@BossdomChronicals Жыл бұрын

Young Lady beautifully said very wise words. I’m 51 and agree…

@Princessm1320 Жыл бұрын

I’m 23 have been in 3 different relationships and am just getting Into the world of dating and honestly sometimes I go back forth between wanting to be single and not dating and wanting to date and find my one.

@BossdomChronicals Жыл бұрын

Ok I’m 51 and have always been single. Real talk when you’re in the space that you desire a mate …being single is HARD !!! PERIODT …there are not enough new spaces, girl trips, new friends, material possessions, experiences etc that will take it away. Yes you love yourself but you need that unbelievable peace in knowing that regardless of the outcome regardless of how bad I want this….. I’m going to be ok…. I will cry til my heart aches when I have to, I will seclude myself when I don’t want to be bothered and I will say no when I’m sick of being the only one in the group with no partner…. It’s ok… for me my peace I know for a fact came from Jesus see God created us for community we are not built to be alone… navigating single life is hard. If it’s what you desire keep believing keep praying keep moving through it…. I also know that I wouldn’t be who I am now if I was marriedI sooner. It’s God’s timing Dear and there is nothing we can do about that… when it’s your time it will be your time….Hang in and hang on…

@tatattaylor Жыл бұрын

I'm going to be 35 this year and single. I find myself at times sitting in my mom's walk in closet crying because I feel like I'm not going to find my person. I'm trying to work through the emotions and accept that this might be my future. As much as I would like to be a wife and mom, I might not get the opportunity to. Dating is a lot harder and more stressful than when I was in my early 20s. I'm new to your channel and I know just by watching that you are going to find your person but until then, live life to the fullest and always keep smiling. You have such a bright future ♥

@charzzi Жыл бұрын

Be patient and take your time. The dating scene these days, are SUPER WEIRD!! So you have to be selective in choosing a partner. You’re still very young and have a ways to go! Don’t give up love, what you desire is right within your reach ❤

@Michelle_Michelle___ Жыл бұрын

I agree- and it can be dangerous too. There are too many Black women being murder by the hands of their significant other, which is typically a Black man. However, there are still many good Black men out here. Just wait for the right one to come along.

@britt_taylor Жыл бұрын

Wishing you all the best. I met my husband at 31 and was engaged 2 years later. It may get lonely at times but I found that dating was sooo much better in my 30s rather than my 20s. When I met my husband, I realized that those guys in my 20s were just playing in my face. Most guys in their 20s just aren’t built for serious relationships or marriage. Enjoy the single season, continue to date, and ready yourself for marriage if that’s what you desire. Best of luck ❤

@_thebombchelle Жыл бұрын

I literally packed an apt i had lived in for SEVEN YEARS the night before and day of movers coming. My anxiety just made me procrastinate. So happy for all newness in your life. Also-i feel you on the singleness…literally just said some days i’m grateful, many of the days im sad af. It’s too many people on this earth to be content being alone.

@AmaniRakeia Жыл бұрын

girrrl, moving jusst takes so much out of you and brings up so many feels all at once. i am NOT a fan of the process. on singleness, i agree with you 1,000%! most nights are sad and i definitely spend a lot of time resting or working to keep my mind "busy". and yes, way too many people on this earth for me to settle for just being alone for the rest of my life, or twenties even! thank you so much babes 💗

@youalmosthadme2151 Жыл бұрын

Girl I’m 40 and probably 6 months ago I found my person.. get out that house date around talk to ppl. It’s ok if it doesn’t work right then but don’t be like me. All I did was focused on work and started feeling like I needed to share my life with someone when I hit 35/36 don’t listen to that he will come to you crap and women don’t want to put in the work of finding love 😢 just don’t work to hard but most def accept applications 😂 your doing fine girly be blessed and breath

@Sara-zu4og Жыл бұрын

I think it’s important to appreciate what we have. Often in life we want what we don’t have. We want marriage and kids but that has it very difficult days, weeks too. Being single means complete freedom. Enjoy this stage as much as you can because you never know when you might miss it. As far as finding someone, just gotta get out there, try new things and places.

@N3V3rSettle Жыл бұрын

I'm 34 and I feel you. I often have these mini breakdowns. I won't say it gets any easier because it doesn't. I just wanted to let you know, you are seen and your feelings are valid. Praying for peace and blessings for the bost of us.

@blehblehblah07 Жыл бұрын

Same. Same. Same.

@CaramelCrown04 Жыл бұрын

I turn 26 tomorrow and relate to what you are saying about being single. Being told to focus on yourself is so dismissive even w good intent behind it. Done all the focusing on myself, read, cried, journaled and lived a little bit of life, worked on myself as a person, continuously working on myself as a person. What more focusing on self can I do? Lol. Just let me express that I desire companionship. I will subscribe!

@JustAGrl007 Жыл бұрын

As someone thats likely older than you (I’m in my 40’s) it gets better. I still haven’t found “my person” but I remember being in my 20’s and being so focused on doing that, that I dealt with a lot of BS all the way up until my last few years of my 30’s. I wish I would’ve dated more and not let guys waste my time in situationships just to have someone. Just came out of a decade relationship with no ring and I’m now realizing all of this. I feel so much freedom being single. I do hope you find what you’re looking for but also enjoy the meantime of it being about you ❤

@tessy28 Жыл бұрын

It's such a shame that black women allow themselves to be finessed out of their love time and energy for years and still end up with no ring. I was with my partner one year before he proposed and even gave me access to his phone and bank account but he is a well off white man who is serious about being a father and a husband. I think these black men don't really want marriage. Black women should expand their options.

@Lori_Jae Жыл бұрын

Getting older makes it a little harder to meet your person but it’s not impossible. I’m 43 and found my husband on a dating site 7 years ago, got married after 2 years and still happily married! Don’t give up hope it’s not impossible. One of my friends is about to turn 40 and she feels the same way you do.

@Gracie4012_ Жыл бұрын

I randomly came across your video. I'm in my mid 30's and believe me when I say your feelings are very valid about dating and finding someone even at 26. I was in your spot thinking "oh I'm still young and it'll happen when it happens" and while you shouldn't try to rush anything to the point it's not organic those years will start to pass...quickly. and before you know it you'll be feeling more doubtful as they go by. It's a depressing feeling. But the good news is you CAN do something about it. Something I heard in a movie once stuck with me, "Every woman has the exact love life she wants." I didn't realize but I had closed myself off from dating unknowingly. I was not actively dating and telling myself no one is coming up to me, no one is showing real interest. What I was feeling on the inside showed on the outside. So last year I joined several dating apps just to really get used to interacting and talking with the opposite sex. My last relationship was when I was 21....remind you again I'm in my mid 30's. It started off shakey at first lol but I am now deep into the dating games. And while I'm still not in an exclusive relationship I have made some significant connections and enjoying the company while on dates and getting to know people. The deafening silence is no longer there. I went from having no one in my life to meeting a few on dating apps to now meeting people in every day life because I think how I feel on the inside has changed and is now exuding from the inside out. I wish you all the best in the future in finding your person. It'll happen when you want it to.

@simply_maggie Жыл бұрын

“The silence in my apartment, it just feel so loud” I honestly felt that! I’m going through the exact same thing. I feel like I’m the problem, like dang I don’t even have a sneak link, a roster nothing 😢

@Shaniece22 Жыл бұрын

I’m 33living alone in nyc and i understand how you feel whole heartedly. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your feelings.🤍🤍

@yougetaspear7799 Жыл бұрын

Hey maybe can have a reason to be back😊

@Olivia............. Жыл бұрын

I second the person in the comments who said make dating a priority going out to places you enjoy, parties if that's your thing, dating apps, going out alone to places you'd want your future partner to frequent so they won't be too intimidated to approach (I heard somewhere men are more likely to approach when you're in a smaller group or solo). my partner ended up being my best friend's friend's friend so you never know how you'll meet someone. This is the first video of yours I've watched so I'm not sure, but it also helps leaning on family and friends at times when you don't have a partner and are feeling alone esp because you live alone. I hope it all works out for you girl💕

@CrescentDream Жыл бұрын

Sis, prioritize dating! Your feelings are valid, I wish you luck! I’m 35 and I just started thinking about a relationship 😂😂😂😂. Love the content as always gorgeous!

@BossdomChronicals Жыл бұрын

Too funny I didn’t start thinking about it until I was 34

@tessy28 Жыл бұрын

I honestly think bw need to be more serious about how we go about dating. Dating with intention. My parents have been married 40 years, my sister has been married 10 years and I'm about to be married next year after dating my partner for a year and i'm only 27. Get serious with what you want for your life and don't allow any man waste your time till you in your 40's. If he doesn't want what you want NEXT him with a quickness no sentiment about it. Approach your goals with focus and precision.

@stephanielcowart6867 Жыл бұрын

@@tessy28 my word for the year is intentional. If we don't align, we're wasting time.

@kaylahjackson732 Жыл бұрын

Definitely feel this ... I turn 29 this year and still have yet to be in a committed relationship, meanwhile, career, other personal stuff, etc. is all going great. All the self love advice is so tiresome, but sometimes we just need a good cry (or one, or two lol) to snap back. You're not alone

@dezerismith7529 Жыл бұрын

Honey I can relate to you I’m single and a lot older and it’s not always easy, at times I feel invisible 🫥 and unwanted, but then I come to the reality that Gods protection is better than anything, because maybe we are not ready yet or our person is not ready yet? Everything is in Gods Timing and it will come, the wait is hard but just know he doesn’t want to rush what he’s trying to perfect, he will not send you anyone until y’all are both right and ready for each other, so continue to seek him and in due time all those things will come in the right time and that’s his promise to you, I know about those crying nights baby😢 but joy comes , God bless 🙏🏽❤️✌🏽

@PrincessAsh220 Жыл бұрын

I definitely understand how you feel sis, you're not alone. I am moving soon and I already feel like dang I wish I had someone to share my space with or who I can come home too because you want that company, but it's important to know that you don't just want any company you want the right company and person for you. My advice is to continue to enjoy ur space and alone time to love yourself and learn yourself, keep growing your brand and career. I know we get told that alot and can get tired of hearing it from those who have there significant other, but just think you never know what they sacrifice to get that relationship, you don't really know if they are truly happy or just using someone to feel whole, therefore avoid comparing yourself because it may seem as if someone has it good but that may not be the case. Soon as you start to fully become comfortable with being alone is when god when send the right one when you stop worrying so much. Trust me god has not forgotten about you, he just wants to make sure he gives you what you deserve. If we rush what we want just to feel a void or a lack there of then we sometimes can sell ourselves short, patience is everything. You got this queen! Congrats!

@tessy28 Жыл бұрын

That's true but some couples are extremely happy. My life was already very good but my partner has enriched my life extremely so. I am sure it will be the same when your time comes too

@Eshbutler Жыл бұрын

Girllll I feel you on all levels. I’ve been single since 2018 and I’m 27 approaching 28 this year. I’m ready to find my person

@alyshafrancois2284 Жыл бұрын

You always hit the nail on the head especially when you talk about being single! It’s crazy cause people have the best intentions when they tell you to focus on yourself and all that but its just so dismissive at the same time! I’m on the same boat as you, we are the same age. I have heard don’t look to hard but maybe it’s in front of you. I’m like WHERE!? It’s frustrating, but we will definitely get through this! Love your content btw

@sydneyjohnson6956 Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy I found this page. We are in such similar places and the same age, and you are saying EVERYTHING I’m thinking. I’ve taken to letting your older videos play while I’m home because it’s like FaceTiming with a friend. Go off queen! Rooting for you. We got this 😊

@ashcash5035 Жыл бұрын

Sis you are so pretty! You remind me so much of myself! ❤ I’m 37 now and I have been single for a decade with no children. I used to be tormented about being single. But, I’m starting to realize that I love myself and my peace of mind. I pray that the right person comes and scoops you up.

@hrtalkswithlish Жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same. I’m 25, live alone and have been single for 4 years. Its really tough out here but we just have to get up everyday and keep going! 😭

@fashionstalks Жыл бұрын

If you really want to be in a relationship and find your person, I would suggest two things. The first thing is that you have to put yourself out there and date, and more importantly put yourself in spaces of men that you actually see yourself being with. The second thing is, you have to be very intentional from day one. Ask the important questions-are you looking for a relationship? When do you see yourself being in a relationship? XYZ. A man who doesn’t want to be in a relationship will give you run around answers like “one day” or “eventually.” People who are serious have very straight answers about what they want. If you’re asking the questions and it’s not matching up, then let it go and move on but don’t let a situation drag out for months. If you’ve been on 4/5 dates with the guy, you should know if you want to be with a person. The early you can decipher the BS, the better. & the last thing is, which is not really advice but…when it comes to relationships, it’s hard to get in one and it’s hard to STAY in one. The real work begins when you make that commitment. Good luck babe💕

@shokiemaboa9029 Жыл бұрын

Am 41yrs and feel you. Your feelings are valid. Most of my village is married/ have kids/have close family. When my Gran died 2017 my world has never been d same. I am alone & lonely😊😊

@fashionablyjen6422 Жыл бұрын

I can soooo relate to everything you just said about being single. All of it. I have my breakdowns every now and then cause it does suck being alone all the time and doing things or going places alone. It would be nice to share life’s experiences with someone special. Hang in there girlie. You’re not alone.❤

@rachelm.3173 Жыл бұрын

I just found your channel today. Thanks for your honesty! I'm 43 and single. It can suck at times having everything on your shoulders as a single black woman. If I meet the right man one day...great! If I don't...I don't. I focus on the fact that I cannot have my peace of mind interrupted, period. Been there in my younger years and ain't doing it again. I'm sure you'll meet the person whose right for you. Most things never happen on our wanted timeline. ❤

@laylabarns2326 Жыл бұрын

This is just a natural human need for a lot of us, especially women. We're just more expressive about it. It's hard to connect with someone who we think is right for us. The most important thing to remember is to keep yourself open to meeting someone and that it's going to take work and the willingness on both parts to make it a successful relationship.

@virginialorthe1487 Жыл бұрын

Sis I’m 28 and feel this exact stress ! And the picking is slim… I’ve been reading this book that’s suppose to connect you to your husband in 6months. Idk if your into the gospel tho it’s an amazing book I’m on chapter 5 and it’s more about fixing yourself then he’s sure to appear. I hope it brings you some type of comfort like it’s bringing me. It’s called “ Your Knight in shining armor” by P.B. Wilson ❤

@Kf2345 Жыл бұрын

You are only 26 years old!! Continue putting your energy into growing, becoming a better version of yourself and finding peace. The rest will fall into place .

@iamestar_ Жыл бұрын

Focus on yourself while loving yourself and all the traumas need to heal on the inside! There’s so much to love, it’s not easy as it sounds

@KiKiCarr Жыл бұрын

i’m a makeup artist and let me tell you I do brides of ALL ages.. you’re beautiful.. all these men stay playin in folks face anyway 😂 & once u in a relationship you gonna wanna be out for that very reason 😂 take your time love .. u have your WHOLE life ahead of you and your life is going to be full of surprises.. trust me .. a lot can happen in a day .. a month .. a SECOND! relax .. eb & flow ❤️

@NatashaWinston Жыл бұрын

First!! so glad you made the move to include YT!!! Lissen!! you are not alone!!! Whether 26, 36, 46 etc. it never gets easier and it's not until you make those large life transitions that you feel, hear, see the singleness amplified. Continue to build your career and LOVE on YOU because the more you know yourself the better and easier it will be to tell someone how to engage with you. YOUR person is coming and they are praying and going through like you!!

@anavalenzuela3223 Жыл бұрын

Just came across this channel. You are on the right track. This resonated with me....you are getting older, and as this happens and you continue to live in your alignment, the wrong people will fall back. It's normal to feel loneliness. It's normal to want to be in a relationship. I'm 30 about to turn 31. Was engaged at your age to the wrong person. While this was my experience, I aim to reassure you that being alone while loving yourself and blossoming in your career IS PERFECT. Hold on tightly, even in times of despair.

@lbacchus Жыл бұрын

It’s good to vent and get these things off your chest. Something that helped me through lonely times was to - believe that my partner is out there- I was so tired of being single and dating people who I should not have that I stopped feeling down about being single. You will find your partner.

@qmnelson Жыл бұрын

Why did I randomly stumble upon your channel and love it. I love your vulnerability and openness. I am. 39 and single and I share your thoughts and feelings. Definitely remain positive and hopeful while continuing to better yourself.

@coolcalmandcrawford Жыл бұрын

I’m 34, married with a 3 yo and 2 month old. Trust me - I love my kids and husband - but i often think if i could go back, I’d do it differently. There’s so much I’ve missed (grew up in a strict household and didn’t do much when i moved out); If I were in your position, I’d be living the dream! Take your time, it will come. Be sure to do ALL the things you desire to do. When you have a relationship and all that jazz, it often gets in the way.

@dw3675 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this tip. Similar upbringing, but I’ll try to maximize my singleness now before marriage.

@coolcalmandcrawford Жыл бұрын

@@dw3675 Yes, once you get a spouse and add kids on top of it, it slows you down until they become independent. Live, live live!!

@thewrightjeans Жыл бұрын

Hey Amani, this is my first time stumbling across your video. I had my child at 26 (unmarried) and had a few long term relationships that went nowhere. I'm a lot older but want to let you know I got married on the weekend of my 40th birthday. Coming out of a going nowhere relationship, went to a Karaoke bar my girlfriend invited me to and met my now 27 years later husband. I know it's hard to hear but your person is out there and will present himself maybe after some lessons learned or just when it's time. Hang in there and enjoy each day as it comes so you don't miss out on things that are supposed to happen in your life. Don't know if that helps but hope it does.

@Lifewithboujeebeauty Жыл бұрын

Omg the singleness i can definitely relate. I’m a single mom and outside of mother hood the single life don’t get easier after being to yourself for so long but I hope it gets better for you ❤

@everytingniasha Жыл бұрын

4:10 I know this feeling . God hears you & sees your tears . I just got out of a relationship. He wasn’t my person. I was also alone most of my life too . I still think it will happen for the ones that want it . Don’t give up hope !

@christinegarrett8928 Жыл бұрын

Just came across your channel. Appreciate your transparency. I’m 59. I remember having those same thoughts at your age. I would tell my younger self to truly indulge in self. Rather that maybe stacking the finances and building more wealth, traveling, growing my business or building that relationship with Christ. So when God allows the man (that’s being made JUST for you) to find his queen; you are well prepared for your king. Blessings and Favor 🥰🤗🥰

@shanayadawson2622 Жыл бұрын

Wait?? We are living a similar experience. I have also been single since my sophomore year (2016). I am also 26 and had a meltdown about my lack of romantic connections. It is so refreshing knowing that I’m not the only one going through this. I have so much hope for us! Thanks for being vulnerable. I think I meant to find this video! ❤

@talitachantel2 23 күн бұрын

I agree! I’m 29 and I do everything solo, travel, vacation, dinner dates all of that. I want someone to want me too but I refuse to settle. Thank you for being vulnerable to post this !

@BeyondBeauty20 Жыл бұрын

Please do not get down about not finding the right person. I met my boyfriend in 2021 a few months before I turned 30. I was single for 5 years before meeting him. I moved from my home town to a new city where I knew literally no one and it was lonely but in the end I know it all happened the way things were supposed to. Now I am with the love of my life and I’m happy for my season of waiting. Don’t think you have to put a time frame on finding the right person. When it is time it will happen. Don’t rush it!! Try to focus your energy on the things that make you happy and make u feel whole. New subbie here ❤

@dw3675 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this advice, I really needed to hear this.

@asutoss Жыл бұрын

Damn... I felt this vid big time. There are times that I wish I had someone to lean on if just for a second...

@Lovealwayswen Жыл бұрын

I live alone and single so I know what you’re saying. . Even though sometimes I feel good about being alone but other times having someone is needed.

@Cookin2dayWithJacqui Жыл бұрын

I never make comments but you spoke too my heart. I HEAR YOU & TOTALLY UNDERSTAND!!! It’s hard. Not that you shouldn’t focus on yourself, BUT I AINT TRYING TO HEAR THAT @the moment. And I want a man to focus on me NOW!! I’m watching you everyday sis. 😢😢

@eyesisjustice9678 Жыл бұрын

Amani!!! Thank you so much for your videos girl. You have truly saved my life. I’m 31 and I’m still figuring it all out. Wanting to pack up and move to Charlotte, NC, but scared because I’m so close to my family. Being single is full of so much emotions but because of you, I’ve truly started to take my healing journey seriously. I am going to grow a long side you. Don’t give up please!

@kimberleymataure5356 Жыл бұрын

Can we also talk about the deafening silence we feel when you’re actually in a relationship. Deafening silence between you and your partner… if you have ever experienced both, which one feels more painful???

@stephanielcowart6867 Жыл бұрын

The single silence to me feels worse. I'm also the type to communicate about how I'm feeling as well though.

@ericagrace7629 Жыл бұрын

Stumbled upon your channel and realized you're the same age as my daughter who moved to Atlanta last year so watching you makes me feel like I'm watching my daughter. Now, this single dating life that's out here today hunty, it's no joke. So many men want to be women so that's definitely making the dating world confusing. I'm 51 years old and still single, I've settled, lowered my standards and still ended up single because I knew those men weren't for me. I know it's hard at times being single but get you a passport and travel overseas if you can and explore other men and different cultures. You got this.

@tessy28 Жыл бұрын

Yes explore other men!! Who says bm have to be your final destination.

@taknittothestreetsb1545 Жыл бұрын

Living alone is EVERYTHING. Enjoy your life, and don't let any come to live with you. Don't let everyone enter your home. 😊

@AmmeliaMae Жыл бұрын

I love this vlog honestly the most wholesome moving vlog 🤍just want to share a reminder that you are so loveddd and sooo deserving keep shining gorgeous

@SophforReal Жыл бұрын

I definitely feel you girl. I have been focusing on things I should be working on and not trying to make my life not so stressful. My channel hasn’t really taken off and I feel like I’m over my job. Congratulations on the new apartment. You not the only one just letting you know

@maryl9432 Жыл бұрын

You won't be single for long your beautiful ✨️

@ashirwadbayne2356 Жыл бұрын

I'm 34, divorced with two kids. Barely have a social life...single and dating only one person but I do not see my future with that person as yet he is very forceful a bit... I do not see that as ideal nor healthy. I am just going with the flow but not that happy. I wish I can take my two kids and travel outside of my country and start again. I absolutely loving the time I spend just with my kids and being single and is in no rush with these guys coming at Me like that. Embrace it and all shall fall in place.

@truckinthaqway3896 Жыл бұрын

Glad I found some relatable content ! I’m 26 just moved into my new home.. and it’s hard . I’m lonely , I feel stuck , I feel crazy at some times because I’m tired of just listening to my own thoughts lol!! But I have been vloging and trying to get into creating content as well! Thanks for the inspo love ❤. New sub here 🤞🏾

@ariamarshall5161 Жыл бұрын

I am 33 & have never been in a relationship. && I am beyond grateful that I don’t experience these type of meltdowns bc of it. But I see from the comments a lot of ppl do & from reading things on SM as well it’s actually a very common thing…..Wow! Being financially stable, being in my own home, enjoying my soft life is truly a place of peace for me in this season. Truly hope every1 finds the peace & happiness they desire in their lives.

@alvaniquegaitor3709 Жыл бұрын

I met my guy at 27 tbh you have a lot of time hun it comes out of nowhere Continue to be encouraged. ❤❤❤

@clarissatheboqueen1958 Жыл бұрын

I understand how you feel, I feel the same way, so I can relate to your situation being single and living alone is no joke

@2swtdee Жыл бұрын

It’s so a annoying when ppl say love yourself, enjoy singleness blah blah. Duh but I want that while I do all the other things

@gabbydenommee Жыл бұрын

Omg bestie I promise being alone and having your peace is such a blessing ❤️🥺

@marbiejay6184 11 ай бұрын

This is the second time I have randomly been watching your vlogs and you touch on a topic that is something I’m struggling with. Im 32 and have alot of anxiety around meeting the right person and settling down. Sending us both all the patience and peace knowing that God has our people on the way🥹🤍🫶🏾

@mizzah.mp4 Жыл бұрын

I just found your channel. I love your candor and authenticity. A very real look at the life of a twenty-something. I related so much at 4:54 because the messaging around being single seems to be oriented around focusing on oneself to point that one no longer desires wanting a relationship...When, in my opinion, it really isn't mutually exclusive. One can be incredibly fulfilled while single and still desire romance -- we're built for companionship. It would be going against our nature to suppress that desire. Keep uploading 💜

@Alondajones8 Жыл бұрын

I really loved this video and I truly understand how you feel loneliness can really mess with your mental and emotions. But keep your head up you got this. God knows who will be best for you just be patient and wait you're to beautiful to settle for anything less.

@astoldbysher Жыл бұрын

theres a community for us & i did not knowwww!! where have i been!! i felt the meltdown rant on a spiritual level! you're not alone babe! but keep pushing we got this 💪🏾

@TiffanyNicole28 Жыл бұрын

Your video was in my new to you section, and I decided to watch. I truly enjoyed it. Your video really hit home for me. I'm a 39 soon to be 40 single mom who has been single for some years now. I truly understand how you feel. I was just sitting here yesterday thinking will I find my purpose and my person. I want that opportunity for my parents to walk me down the aisle before they leave this earth. I feel like I'm going to be an old bride or alone forever. I have been working on myself, loving myself and be patient has people tell you as advice but at the end of the day I still will love to share my love that I gained and grow loving myself to someone deserving sooner then later. Sigh...... You got a new subbie here now. Finger crossed true love and Mr. Man will find us.

@toyinakinwande9705 Жыл бұрын

Literally in this position as a 26 year old. I don’t like talking about it with my friends because they do not get itttt

@lakicia30 Жыл бұрын

I'm 40 and I used to have those same breakdowns in my mid-20's. It's such a stressful time in your life. Lots of pressure. I wanna say at about 29, I had the thought, "Is it possible that I won't "find" my true love and I'll be alone throughout life?" the answer was "yes". Then I asked myself, "Do I want to spend all that time longing, bitter, and miserable or happy?" I answered, "happy". From then on, I looked at the positive things I experienced as a single person that I wouldn't experience as a couple. It showed me how conditioned we are to be paired with someone that we don't appreciate the good things that being WITH ourselves, instead of BY ourselves, brings. Doesn't mean I didn't want to be in a relationship. I just stopped viewing my current life as a placeholder for what was to come. The Advice: You said 'dating must get harder as you get older'. You don't get what you want; you get what you expect. So if you're expecting it to get harder, it will. Expect it to be pleasant learning experiences, and it will be. The advice from others to live your life is part of mine as well. ...not in an attempt to block out what you want in a partner, but to attract it. If you're hiking alone one day, maybe you'll meet someone on the trail. same with traveling WITH yourself. whatever you like, do that. And do it with a sense of joy, and completion. And you'll attract that in another person. If you do it (or anything) from a place of lacking or yearning, you're going to attract that type of person, or no one at all cause they'll pick up on that energy. That annoying advice, that I got in my 20's as well, is true. Find what brings you joy, and do that. The universe will conspire to bring people who compliment it. 💫

@swelyleilane Жыл бұрын

you are beautiful, Amani. the right person will come in the right time. you are young and trynna figure out your life, so no rush. sometimes we fell like we need someone else, but it’s a WRAP, babyy. new subscriber. 💖

@TheNerreece Жыл бұрын

That’s the issue a lot of women are facing. Not just black women, women in general and especially black women are having it harder to find love.. I personally dislike when people say focus on you, work or learn to love your own company. BS - we’re human beings and we deserve to share our life with someone. Share our laughter, our love and joy with a soulmate. Just keep searching, don’t give up and be willing to search out side the box. 26 is young but before you know it you’ll be 30 so stick to doing what’s best for you.

@skottie222 Жыл бұрын

The Boondocks "goodnight" transition is sooo unique and cool af I loveee it everytime I see it 🤎🤎

@VictoriaStephens Жыл бұрын

In the same boat! Single since 2017. Still managed to experience heartbreak during that time 🙄 I’ve always loved how much time I have to myself, to grow in my relationship with God and serve in my local church. But once I turned 26 in July last year, something shifted. Now I really have the desire to share my life with someone. I want someone to have laugh with, make memories with, and just share the details of my day. I definitely feel where you’re coming from, and thank you for your transparency! ❤

@shanshan8113 Жыл бұрын

The moment you stop focusing on it, your lover will find you. Just let it happen, I've seen the garbage on these dating apps & I'm just going to keep living my life and it'll happen when it's time. It's ok to get out a good cry time to time it's good for the soul

@mamalove9757 Жыл бұрын

Loving your content! Just a reminder that working on relationships is just as important as working on you career, yourself and everything else. Relationships are important too, yes they shouldn’t take over your life and come before everything else. Sending you love, your person is out there! Just stay open ❤

@erincoleman1918 Жыл бұрын

loooovveee your channel. I am in my single/living alone era at 24. It such an interesting space to be in where you love your own space and loving your independence… but wanting someone to share moments with is something I want/think about often. Sending you positive energy. 💫🤍

@missdanaoliver Жыл бұрын

Loved your candid, raw moments. Also, your makeup is taking me back to “Love Jones” - love the warm, neutral tones. ❤

@delz20again Жыл бұрын

Hi, this is a time of reflection and getting to know self worth. Pray about your purpose. I am 58 yrs old, widower of 2 years. It's been hard being alone, I never been alone: I went from my Daddy's house to my Husband house! It's been a challenge, and yes I have meltdowns but being a strong, independent black woman I get back up and start a new day full of possibilities. I will never settle for anything less than what I deserve and you shouldn't either!!!!

@brittanyt.1603 Жыл бұрын

I came across your channel and wow. I’m feeling the same exact way you’re feeling. Let me tell you something. I been with my ex my whole entire twenties. I am 30 and I broke up with him last year. I wasted a whole 9 years of my life. I didn’t travel, meet new people, nor have the fun that I deserved. Now, I have no friends or siblings. I have not been on one date since I broke up with my ex. But, that’s okay. I started working on myself by working out and journaling. I got accepted into nursing school and I start soon. However, I still don’t like that fact that I am alone though. I took the time to heal properly and spend more time with myself. I understand exactly where you are coming from. Trust me, everything will be fine. Take the time to start doing things that makes YOU happy. God has a plan for you. Everything will work out for you. One day you will look back at this and be amazed on how far you came along. You’re very beautiful by the way. Stay blessed ❤

@Chaune7 Жыл бұрын

I'm 35 and can relate. Stay strong , I just came across your channel and I love it

@user-rn6pk4dz4f 2 ай бұрын

Roommates and living in other people's houses is not the good life for any single person....so this video is great! God bless the child who has their own !!!

@folashadealayande3279 Жыл бұрын

I just came across your channel. Your transparency is so refreshing. Thank you for that. I can relate so much. I'm three years older than you but literally that's how I've been feeling for years. I finally living on my own and the peace and silence is so refreshing but sometimes like you mentioned it can be so loud.

@EricaVain Жыл бұрын

i'm not even gonna hold you sis.... these feelings come up (singleness) when I have to do major things like you are in this video (moving) alone... It's like BRUHHHHHHHH... but I say feel the feelings, in the most intense moments ask yourself why and dive deeper and allow the moments to help you better learn you... I'm in my 30's and have been single (no serious dating... random talking here and there but no dates) in 10 years and I just have to believe the older I get, the more specific I get, the more intentional I get the more likely I am to actually find a person that is best aligned with me versus just dating whomever to date..... BUT if you wanna date to just date you can do that too.. it's your time and your life.. you are a gorgeous, smart and talented girl.. this world is your oyster mama! 💖

@sage.anderson Жыл бұрын

I'm about to be 25 and i can heavily relate to the wanting of companionship. It's kind of frustrating when everyone is telling you to focus on the things you are already focused on. And even if your focused on them, it doesn't change the fact that you feel how you feel. I GET IT! We'll be fine though. It will take some time and figuring out what works for you but I'm sure someone out there. Sending you good vibes Queen.

@gracemyriehernandez8250 Жыл бұрын

Girl I can relate to you silent apt n being alone for years n yes we do things we like to do tvl go dinner by ourselves movies, drive out cloths shopping, cook whn we feel to but having a guy company around to sit talk n laugh is missing but girl continue to pray about it n try n keep your self happy ❤

@valcokani4980 Жыл бұрын

i thought about that too and i came up the saying " self love has and will never be enough on its own", welp for me anyways. im wired to love and to be loved by others. and its okay to want that and wanting love doesnt mean you dont already love yourself.

@petiteTana Жыл бұрын

You just happen to come across my timeline… thank you so much for your transparency. I totally understand you 1000 %, I’m 50 yrs old, and I’ve been divorced for 17 yrs. I just knew I was going to find my “win” before 50. It truly sucks, and all of my friends are newly married, and I cry all the time to. I try to stay off of Instagram and Facebook. Those are triggers for me. Thank you so much for sharing 🤍

@tonika7543 Жыл бұрын

I know how you feel about being single, it can have its moments feeling that you feel unwanted, and lonely. It’s better to be single than being in a toxic relationship with the wrong person. You have to use this time to grow and learn more about yourself, don’t look for love, let it find you. Cause if you go looking for it you’ll be finding it in all the wrong places. You’re a beautiful woman, and I pray and hope that one day the right man will come your way. It’ll take time and patience, but in the end it’ll be worth it.

@alexistribble6279 Жыл бұрын

This vlog has been VERY HELPFUL for when it’s my time to move into something new!! ❤ plus the aesthetic of this vlog is chef kiss! 🥰💕

@JD-tr8vv Жыл бұрын

You’re almost at 10k!!!! It’s about to be your time to shine (if not already)!

@PinkLuv5521 Жыл бұрын

You’re loved and appreciated more than you know! Thank you for sharing yourself with us! ❤

@minik47maroon Жыл бұрын

❤😊

@jvacc939 Жыл бұрын

In regards to singleness, don’t worry babe, god has a plan for you and it will work out. I’m 30 and single imagine how that feels. Your still young xx

@AaKariaCamille Жыл бұрын

I love your videos so much 🥺 Keep pushing through it. You got this! ❤️‍🩹 your videos help keep me going girl. I’ve been feeling the same way sadly but we got this