This video is about two modes of approaching life - Freedom from or Freedom to; and Choice or Decision... A life lived in Freedom From and Decision will be a life that collects fear... Anxiety is unprocessed fear.
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@gamayun12243 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is SO timely, and you're articulating what I was already vaguely thinking. Thank you!
@charlesbenjamin24833 жыл бұрын
Hi y
@reinotoikka76553 жыл бұрын
Thank You Conor! There is a lot to think. What especially stopped me was the thought: anxiety is unprocessed fear.. i started to think how many unprocessed feelings and matters people have... matters they/we push down... matters in our lives we don't allow to be part of us... I have to think more
@marialuizaacerbi65793 жыл бұрын
54 yo .. 1 year more to make my final choice. Starting to empty my knapsack. Tears came from my eyes. Thanks professor.
@mihirshah23073 жыл бұрын
Highly needed in this world which is currently filled with fear &hate created by media and people with vested interests
@DanielBoa3 жыл бұрын
I particularly like the anecdote about the founder of Tata. The fear I have of making the wrong decisions often leads to procrastination. It rings true to me that if I was to go with my gut, the decision would likely be the "right" one - providing I put in the graft of course.
@markbradley13013 жыл бұрын
Thanks Conor. I think this speaks to the concept of extreme ownership. We will tilt the odds of success in our favor by relentlessly pursuing the choice we make. Or is it something more spiritual like following our gut instinct - something that we cannot articulate or justify through logic alone. I read somewhere that usually there is no right decision - instead life is all about putting our energy into making the best out of whatever situation arises after we have made our decision.
@franciscareyes5853 жыл бұрын
You are making a difference. You have the great gift of putting into words, in a very easy to understand way, what we think and sometime what we feel. I came across your videos few weeks ago and they are truly valuable and helpful. Thank you.
@srinivasams93233 жыл бұрын
As a teenager I have a lot of fears such as relationships, loss of job , loss of income , I couldn't choose which job I should choose , no matter what decision I take today I am always in fear . Fear is ruining my life. Any business idea I think of I fear technology is going to displace tommorow fear was ruining me during covid outbreak and now after listening to sir I am at ease.my heart and mind are calm
@alexanderlyon3 жыл бұрын
This is a great distinction and I often fall into this myself. I often try to remove pain rather than pursuing the best of what a good dream has to offer. Great stuff, Conor.
@Cullen.973 жыл бұрын
I just discovered Conor today, get this man on RTE!! (The Irish National TV station)
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
Hehe ;-) kind words!
@SAM10573682 жыл бұрын
On a windy bleak evening in London, I chose to enrich my reflection time listening to your gripping voice and enchanting discourse on ‘Freedom from & Freedom to’ and how human race evolved via ‘Fear’ and not ‘Unprocessed fear’ Thank you ever so much!!
@ConorNeill2 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the Rhetorical Journey!
@biswajitroy70122 жыл бұрын
Never heard such a clear and candid explanation in my life ever, it truly touched me and assures my thought process.
@goa75163 жыл бұрын
Lovely dearest ! Conor . You are doing a greatest contribution to the World 🌎 God bless You Abundantly 🙏 .
@TheDogMotherOfJen3 жыл бұрын
I was too lost to count my lucky stars until this video showed up. Thank you and keep sharing your valuable insights. They are a great deal of help to people, especially students like me. Sending my regards to you. Thank you
@mymusicmymoney2 жыл бұрын
Thank you..!!! From Houston, Texas USA
@jayani65843 жыл бұрын
So many take aways. 'freedom from vs freedom to', 'choice vs decision' and the definition of anxiety as an unprocessed fear as a result of not accepting things as they are. Thanks a lot @Conor Neill for sharing these thought provoking ideas. I have one question though. Can we make choices instead of decisions in the business world if you are not an owner of a company?
@sergeysevantsyan834919 күн бұрын
Love your speech, Conor! I visited your channel just to hear an english speech, ended up staying for longer to think about it too
@ConorNeill17 күн бұрын
Great to have you here 👍🏻
@kiran72x2 ай бұрын
Fabulous Conor! "distinct" narrative & "choice" of examples.
@noreenfarooq68853 жыл бұрын
Great insight! I was reminded of Jinnah's quote "I don't make the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.!.. The belief and confidence in yourself that you have the ability to overcome every obstacle... The amount of effort poured into making 'The choice' a right decision ultimately proves that it was the best choice that could have been made...
@mariamfk7883 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, please continue this wonderful work, you can't imagine the impact of these fews words on people's lifes !
@amirhanna10613 жыл бұрын
Thanks conor. Very helpful and interesting speech. Thanks a lot.
@stevekirkbride32113 жыл бұрын
Conor that talk was absolute genius cheers Conor
@devanggandhi72743 жыл бұрын
Brilliant ! I will learn to make choices and improve commitment
@canaldesativado57662 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! Your videos are really making a difference to me!!!!
@dovetales33 жыл бұрын
Definitely a message that is in alignment with the Bible. 🙏🏾
@emanstefanos7667 Жыл бұрын
Very concise excellent video Waiting for more Thanks
@medjad_canal2 ай бұрын
I am going to rewatch this many times. Thank you
@abhijeetmh3 жыл бұрын
Excellent explanation of choice and decision, I never thought about this aspect.
@maransanthalingam96563 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Conor. A very valuable piece of advice.
@Nicktuck3333 жыл бұрын
Great video. I have watched it two times in a row, lots of important and thought provoking content. Thank you.
@arthurmateusmourao673 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot, Conor!! You put into words feelings that people have which are hard to explain.
@richelleangana96622 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this Mr. Neill.
@ireneli76513 жыл бұрын
A great insight! I feel like stuck on where to put my time and effort to after losing the job. To look for another job, or starting my own business? I keep thinking of the poem by Robert Frost “ The Road Not Taken” I am so scared to pick up the wrong way and miss the good one.
@ashokpanda57063 жыл бұрын
Brilliant. Thanks Conor..
@nilanthad3 жыл бұрын
Thought provoking. Thank you Conor.
@shanegriffin29963 жыл бұрын
Another nugget. Thanks!
@balamuthukumaran53793 жыл бұрын
Great ! Particularly a tough subject to deal... to explain the differences between "choice "and "decision"... Thank you Muthukumaran, Chidambaram-Tamilnadu-India
@panglilla8683 жыл бұрын
Lucky me to have your sharing today! 🙏
@rbok783 жыл бұрын
Thank you Conor for a wonderful video. This is exactly what I am struggling with right now.
@saadhk3 жыл бұрын
Came across your videos accidentally and now there is no looking back. Thanks for putting up these videos and helping people like me learn and grow.
@DarrenMcGill4422 жыл бұрын
You sir, strike to the bone! Great talk! Thank you so much!
@arthurthomasware50043 жыл бұрын
Always enjoy your video's, Conor. It's the more subtle, rather than the obvious that makes your stuff so interesting to me. Well done, Conor.
@yantrakar2 жыл бұрын
This is incredible. Mr Conor really appreciate you making this available.
@noureddinelas94063 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video.
@rinku18733 жыл бұрын
Wow Connor, what a great way to explain so clearly & simplicity on decision making!!! Really appreciate it!
@sefaterifan6868 Жыл бұрын
Thank you sir.... SO SO grateful for this, I'm about to take some major decisions in my life.... I think I'll rather walk into them with boldness than shivering about what other people make of them, after all, fortune favours the brave
@adinarayananr5824 Жыл бұрын
Sure to listen it multiple times again! Choice vs decision is a very important learning.
@das96363 жыл бұрын
Conor, its wonderful to see you again. I missed your wonderful live sessions for almost a month.
@cartersinsweden3 жыл бұрын
Genuinely helpful Conor.
@NASyTrades Жыл бұрын
I just learned about you today! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with the world. Much apprecation to you from the States!
@ConorNeill Жыл бұрын
Welcome aboard!
@contactpai3 жыл бұрын
Very Helpful, I will keep this thought in mind for choice and decisions
@rabinrai52033 жыл бұрын
very powerful message! contemplation..
@halimajj97993 жыл бұрын
Wow
@tweenty4342 жыл бұрын
Incredible way to describe it. Amazing and encouraging ways to share your thoughts to all of us.
@jagannathshenoy99403 жыл бұрын
Good evening Professor. Nice to see you back since August 2020. Listening to your conversation on various topics has always been a great learning for me. I do admit that I did not make much decision on how to live qualitative life post superannuation from the organisation I had worked with and was completely aligned to the vision and goals of the Organisation that has helped me to perform very well. However, I seriously missed to take decisions on my productive engagement post retirement. Thank you so much for your wonderful advise and I am sure I will figure it out the right course of decision which will enable me to remain more productive than yesterday. Thank you so much sir. Look forward to hear from you every now and then. With warm Regards. Jagannath.
@sofiakaropoulos56103 жыл бұрын
Conor I stumbled on your videos in the early part of the pandemic when I was forced to work from home. They helped me get though the weeks and months - more than words can describe. They were the beacon of light in a dark sea. At times, I want to go back and re-watch some of them. I continue to work from my home here in Toronto, Canada, and was very happy to see today's video. God Bless you!
@sanjaydwivedi72083 жыл бұрын
great video.you beauty conor .after watching your many vedios ,i have realised that it is not the big thing s but the small ones that make a huge difference in human life.you are a becon light for us in this period of time when things are looking vague
@adnanmurtaza52643 жыл бұрын
Thank you Conor for sharing these wonderful videos. Since the past year , your videos has really helped me to transform my thinking n LIFE🙏 Blessings to you 🙏
@damianocasaide55413 жыл бұрын
Great video Conor, very good timing for me.....as I have an interview tomorrow and was feeling quite anxious about it. It’s really helped me switch my thinking about it!!
@michaelpalmer86293 жыл бұрын
I'd probably choose vanilla. Chocolate ice cream usually disappoints me
@sk8_ikiller743 жыл бұрын
Wow that was really amazing , I'm glad that we still have people like you ❤
@ChrisSmith-ey4xy3 жыл бұрын
Brilliant, Conor. Yes, i am facing some big coices at the moment.
@lubnanaeem69283 жыл бұрын
The amazing vedio once again🙂
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
Thanks 😋
@e4e5chessshop3 жыл бұрын
It makes a sense, very good video Conor as always. I haven´t thought about decision and choise like that, but is´t very clear. Iam happy, 4 years ago I made a choise in my life, 100% commitment and it was the best decision I´ve ever made :-)
@valuanalyst5 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@Nicky-ez3ln2 жыл бұрын
Amazing
@45shufei3 жыл бұрын
Excellent explanations between freedom from (fear) and freedom to (confidence). Thank you so much! I really enjoyed your videos.
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@johnchitaley67613 жыл бұрын
I loved this video. Lately I have been exploring stoic philosophy and some of your videos showed in my KZfaq feed. I watched several of your videos, but this was the one which made me subscribe to your channel. Regarding “Choosing” vs “Making a decision” the path one follows becomes material when the time horizon is long enough or the stakes for your inner self are big. For a shorter time horizon (6 to 8 months). I would make a measured decision. For anything longer than that I hope that I have the courage to “Choose”. Thank you for putting your thoughts out there, and creating this channel.
@suzettegolam76752 жыл бұрын
I really like you my teacher. You are a great teacher.
@ConorNeill2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@afsanamimi26363 жыл бұрын
This is such an INCREDIBLE video! Sir, your idea on Decision vs Choice absolutely make sense to me. Looking back to my past, I can clearly see the PATTERN -- Giving unquestionable importance on others opinions < Seeking constant validation VS this new life -- now I'm FOCUSED only Top Priority areas, consult with "profoundly knowledgeable" people and Finally Follow My Heart to make the right choice. And I've never been so Confident, Connected, Happy and Glorious!!🌼🎯 Thanks so much for sharing such valuable insights.🙏💛💜
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
It means a lot that these videos resonate with you. Thanks
@vladimirlisovskiy651811 ай бұрын
Not intentionally, but a lot of hidden patterns out of this video, it makes a person recognizable and vulnerable
@bobvansand63463 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother! From Belgium. bob 🇧🇪🍺
@ceciliasandoval17263 жыл бұрын
Thank you, very helpful.
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it!
@sundar1111113 жыл бұрын
This is a very detailed and structured thinking. My question why we procrastinate about a choice and how we can remove procrastination in our work and life.
@goa75163 жыл бұрын
Focus is the Solution .
@user-cn5du7bz5s Жыл бұрын
thanks Mr. conor
@ConorNeill Жыл бұрын
A pleasure
@UmarAliofficial852 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing
@SAA-zc4xp2 жыл бұрын
Superb. You are a gem. May God Bless you. It surely clarifies that some times the choice you make is not apparantly the best in terms of worldly gains or success per se and it may look like a failure to some but you know in your heart that it was the difficult but the right choice you made and only you and your Creator Knows about it so you go on satisfied with your life. Though it is a continous battle to keep your self reminding all this and here people like yourself who are larger than life play a key role of righteousness and right leadership without any personal interests Again may God Almighty Bless you more and Guide us all.
@ConorNeill2 жыл бұрын
Kind words, thank you 🙏
@magedkasem62663 жыл бұрын
Missing your live streams Conor. Welcome back :)
@vangiebernarte22302 жыл бұрын
this is great! ♡︎
@ConorNeill2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@himanisahai96273 жыл бұрын
You have such a cheerful personality. I was smiling all the time 😃😃
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
😜
@TOPLED20003 жыл бұрын
This is great and it's a good help to deal with important decisions and mitigate anxiety. Keep up the good work. :)
@nothingelsematters9313 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
You're most welcome Are you a Metallica fan? ;-)
@chinnaripasala53023 жыл бұрын
Wow 🖤
@jomy61703 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@ramanmehta64373 жыл бұрын
Wonderful thoughts and very well articulated. Thank you for guiding the world. Would be a great luck and privilege to connect with some one like you.🙏🙏 Respect
@JosephAkoc27 күн бұрын
It's a good speaking really, I appreciate it
@ConorNeill24 күн бұрын
;-)
@smritiid36972 жыл бұрын
What do I say more? You are incredible.
@garo99543 жыл бұрын
Hello Conor. Very interesting reflections on the distinction between decision und choice. Allow me to add something to this topic which I heard on a discussion from Vera Birkenbihl. When it comes to decisions there are also some cultural aspects that you might consider. You as an English speaking person take decisions like the French and Italian would do ( prendere una decisione). Whereas Turkish people give decisions ( karar vermek) and Germans hit decisions ( Entscheidungen treffen). Whether you take, give or hit a decision makes a significant psychological difference. For instance when I hit something I really want to make sure that I hit the mark whereas you want to make sure that you make the right choice before you take decision. How do you take decisions in Spanish? Kind regards from Germany
@garo99543 жыл бұрын
@@ConorNeill 🖖
@I_agree_with_you3 жыл бұрын
Fantastic
@TheESMAT073 жыл бұрын
Well.. I guess my lunch time tomorrow are gone be very informative!
@TheESMAT073 жыл бұрын
@@ConorNeill I am sure I will, great to see you again sir!
@hannaraoul7731 Жыл бұрын
yes .. hm, too good to be true, lol if not freedom to then freedom from. Best regards :)
@francischewe31963 жыл бұрын
Thanks professor. I will need to listen to this several times over to fully digest and internalise. I never thought choice and decision could be differentiated. You have differentiated it and I want to go over it again and again. I may ask questions for clarification later on.
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
Great that you are taking time to think about these ideas ;-)
@francischewe31963 жыл бұрын
@@ConorNeill From this presentation, I seem to understand that decisions come with justification while choices don't. So my first questions would be - Should choices be made without justification? Dont I need to have reasons for my choices? Shouldn't one have reasons for choosing one marriage partner instead of another?
@salsabilsobhy15853 жыл бұрын
Hi, I am from Egypt, and I love him. I thank you, but it is possible to have videos with Arabic subtitles
@anandshethi87423 жыл бұрын
🙌😍🙌
@vladimirsbushin Жыл бұрын
Conor, thank you for the wonderful lessons you generously give to people every single day! I really appreciate it. It may sound disappointing. I didn't get the example of "the mother's suggestion" what did she mean when saying "if you want to go back and make changes - here's your decision? "
@ConorNeill Жыл бұрын
thanks for the comment if you want to make changes to your decision... then your real decision is the opposite
@ivanrestrepo70218 ай бұрын
Thanks, you make me say someone ...please don't interrumpt because I watching a very interesting video
@ulfpe3 жыл бұрын
Not really an effect of deciding or choosing but we are rarely able to actually "decide" as many of the facts are actually just assumptions and the result of that, so that base of bullet points is rarely that solid. So that path may not be as clear as it seems. If you wholly commit emotionally it gives you a better chance.
@ConorNeill3 жыл бұрын
Totally... commit to the path rather than wait for a better time
@ParisianStreets3 жыл бұрын
anxiety is unprocessed fear. yes! well, step wise if i break it down, i still cant live with the feeling of failure if my plan doesnt work out. How to accept?
@sadeqalsadr99983 жыл бұрын
what if someone has no trust and beliefs in his self?
@amalashinde49833 жыл бұрын
Choice v/s Decision very well explained Professor. I love your videos. Thank you for taking the time to guide so many like me. I belong to a non-profit community self help group in NJ. I was wondering if you’d visit us via Google Meet and speak to us. We need to ignite the group to become active members rather than just hanging around. We really need to motivate more of our volunteers to participate in various initiatives we are working on. 🇱🇷🙏🏽🇮🇳
@nicoyou112 жыл бұрын
General Stonewall Jackson said, Do not take counsel from your fear. ca. 1864