Thank you for this. A friend of mine that recently got married insists that i live with my future husband whenever I meet him. Big no for me. She’s an exception still bc she found a man that was going to marry her whether they lived together or not. Men get comfortable and giving each other spouse duties without a commitment produces comfort and stagnant. That excuse of “oh you have to see how ppl live” just proves that you don’t truly love that person like you claim if you can’t deal with them being messier than you or not compromising on certain things. Marriage isn’t a roommate situation where everyone gets their way in order to co-habitat in peace. Many things that are reserved for marriage, nowadays are being given in relationships that could easily end at the snap of a finger. Why buy the membership when the free trial is for life??

Those people who say 'I do this but don't care what others think, God is my judge' and its 1001 variants is excusing their sin. Don't deny.

My boyfriend and I have talked about this topic, and we've even tested waters a bit by going on vacations and sleeping in the same bed (mind you, that is actually SLEEPING, not "sleeping together") We feel as if we have done it enough times now with neither of us feeling any temptations, so we have decided that when the time comes, we would like to live together before we say our vows. We both have come from extreme toxic relationships and we feel it would be healthy for our peace of minds to know how each other lives day to day rather than having to guess until we tie the knot. I understand some may not agree with our plan, but we trust in each other and trust in the Lord strongly enough to where we have faith that we can succeed in this plan.

I've seen in my society that most of the living in relations don't exist longer. It's so fragile. We can't do anything without any commitment. And marriage gives you a responsibility to maintain your conjugal life. God Knows the best so we should listen to God's will. And my conscience also don't accept to live with a partner before marriage. Excellent explanation from you

This was solid. Refreshing to see something like this explained both through wisdom and Scripture in a charitable tone. Thanks for putting this together.

Such a touchy issue. The sin of fornification made us parents before marriage. We are not ready for marriage but want our daughter to be in the home with us both. Send prayers as I’m not ready but don’t want to disappoint my God.

So lovely, standing right before God.

I agree with your video! Shacking up means both people don’t have any real “skin” in the game! In reality, it’s too easy to walk out on the other person when things get too routine, or when there is some other kind of difficulty. It’s “easy come, easy go!” Lasting love is: waiting for sex until marriage by promising on the day of the wedding ceremony before God and others, to “love, honor, and cherish, in good times and in bad, ‘til death parts us!”

Thank you, this was so helpful. 🌸💖

This really helps explain everything concisely and you do it in a gentle and kind and clear way, Thank you. This may help my mother see what is wrong with living with a man (She is a professing Christian but I think we have disagreed on this point). Prayers that God will have her listen to what this girl says and he'll change her heart on this.

Very good. Thank you very much for the helpful information.

It seems that this is so socially acceptable, nowadays! We as Christians truly need to stand firm in what the Bible says, and influence culture for Christ.

Amen, great video and awesome that you shared Bible verses too 🤍✞🕊🕯🙏🏼

My Dad and stepmom lived together 5 years before they got married. They remained married for 18 years before she passed away due to cancer. I have three sets of aunts and uncles that lived together before marriage. The longest of those marriages is over 40 years. The other marriages 25 years and lastly over 20 years. All still married. I lived together with my husband for 5 years and have been married now 2 years. My son was born when I was 18 his father and I were never married. His father converted when my son was 14 and then petitioned the court to establish paternity and visitation. All he received was visitation. I retained full custody because of the length of time it took for his father to petition the court. My son saw his paternal side of the family before this. Although my son’s father up to the point of the petition refused to see my son. My son’s father married and was raising three kids that were not his own before his conversion. My son got married last year. My son’s father refused to attend because my son and daughter in law lived together before marriage. The marriage was secular by the choice of those getting married. I did allow my son to attend church with his father, but ultimately I left the choice in my son’s hands. My son’s stepmom was not at my son’s high school or college graduation. My son’s paternal grandmother sat by my husband and myself. My son has known my husband most of his life. Although my husband and I did not get together until my son was a senior in high school. My Dad was always the father figure. My Dad passed a couple of years ago. My son was really upset my Dad wasn’t going to be there. I tried reasoning with my son’s father. Technically, my son is the only child either one of us will ever have. My son’s father wouldn’t budge from his position. My husband doesn’t have any kids and my son’s father in law were there for my son.

Thanks for creating this video! I hope it blesses many hearts out there. Amen! 🙏😘❤

I'm new to your channel but love your videos! I am married and we did not live together before marriage and still together after 15 years

Amen 🙏. I love your video!!

Real men marry the girl first

Hi Amy! I really enjoy the way you speak about God’s word while also including scriptures from the Bible and interpretations of them as well. They have really helped me when it comes to accepting the person I need to become when following Christ. Could you please consider making a video regarding the consumption of alcohol and how the Bible and God views these things. This is something I am struggling with as I have grown up in a family where drinking alcohol has become normalized but I have entered a relationship with a person where drinking alcohol was not normalized in his family and faith. Thank you so much for providing me with guidance.

Thank you for making this video 💜

Truly God-inspiring.

In my situation I had a different story. I was not able to move with my family, so I am living with my boyfriend of 3 years in the guest room of his family’s house (emphasis on separate rooms). There was nowhere else for me to go, and his family willingly opened their home to me. Honestly, I don’t care what other people think about my relationship, whether or not it “appears we are sinning,” because it’s no one else’s business. I know what’s true, and so does God.

Thanks for this Video Amy

Those who didn't like this video are the one's who are cohabiting

Thank you for this

Amen sister!💕

thank you for this!

what a Queen! whoa! thank you xx

Thank you💛

I just got out of a relationship with a knew christain lady but she wanted me to stay the night with her and wanted to get married fast but she was still married to a guy she involved in that was her third marriage but i knew it was all wrong. But i found out she had issues and i believe god separated us so thank you jesus.

Great stuff! This is def helping me explain this to my teenage kids. Ps plz do a vid on why not to smoke weed. Or maybe one on dangers of hip hop music. :)

Amén🙏 i agree

From the choice of Bible quotes this is mainly Paul's perspective, as opposed to a general Christian perspective. Paul himself was celibate and he saw this as the best way. Marriage was only his second preferred option for those who could not control their urges. I wonder if this man is the best advisor in these matters. What about the Christian ideal of having lots of children? Paul was not concerned with that very much given that he expected the world to end in his lifetime or the next generation.

This makes me have extreme guilt. The Coronavirus postponed my wedding but we proceeded to move in together as if it had happened on time like we planned. People are shaming me for my choice. We’ve been long distance for 3 years and my heart just couldn’t stay away another year.

I just discovered your channel, Amy. And I'm smitten by your beauty. How can someone be soooo gorgeous? I just had to say it. 🥰 I'm a heterosexual woman, so no worries 😅

Yes, it may feel pleasurable to do certain things before marriage but after that it's not going to feel great.

what are the references for those statistics ??

Amy u make English teaching videos your English is excellent

I have a friend who has been living with a man ( not married ) for over 20 years and they have 3 children together. My friend has recently become a Christian and has been baptized upon her confession of faith in the Lord Jesus and His finished work upon the cross. This is a very difficult situation for her, and she is troubled now that her conscience has been made alive unto God. The man she is living with is not a believer and apposes what she now now believes. What do you think she should do?.

Thank you, you clarify a lot of things for me personally. However how do you not fall in self gratification while waiting for mariage.

All these scriptures can apply to music, movies we watch as well 😓

Does the bible warn of sex before marriage or is it really that sex with someone makes you married such as with Adam and Eve?

What do you say to someone who has been married, still ended in divorce and now are afraid to marry and think living together is the better option for in case it doesn’t work out??? I need help to council my daughter...Her stance is people leave marriages all the time, they can be undone, etc...

I’ve been with my bf on and off for 2 years and he’s told me he believes in God but doesn’t want to do the “Christianity living” everyday. I love him so much and I’ve been confused on whether to leave or stay because aren’t we supposed to have faith that a situation will get better? Should I break up with him or just tell him that I want to stop having sex. This is a very hard situation because he’s heard me say all of this before then backslide..

I would think divorce would be lower since you get an idea what living with the person is like and if you still want to marry them.

What if there's no romantic interest and a person of the opposite sex has no place to stay? It just doesn't set right with me but some Christians see nothing wrong with it. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

Hi! How about if the couple already have a kid and living together, but not yet married?

I am not married but my partner is and we have a child together and live together how can I find out what to do now that I want to follow Christ

What does the Bible says about divorce? thanks for if you will answer my questions your new viewer from Philippines.

What do you think about having a roommate of the opposite sex and that person of the opposite sex is not boyfriend or girlfriend?

Isn't moving in together before marriage just another form of getting to know someone? I wouldn't call it test driving, because then anything could be construed as test driving a person. And if cohabiting is viewed as "keeping one foot out of the door", then by that logic marriage would be viewed as a "ball and chain", which isn't how we should view marriage, either.

hi amy , i was living in livin relationship at 1 year and sex with elder woman, now she said her parents will show the boy only she will marry ,,now we r seprated, she and me both r christians we r knowingly did sin ,,, now i want to comeoutside of the sin and her thoughts.... i want mingle with god. is he forgive me? and is he accept another woman marry? pls clear this

You can live together without javing sex for crying out loud these are different times. Had an ex who is a pastor. He made me live under his roof. He has a crazy and obsessive mom. He is full of pride. Good thing I lived under his roof. All I had for the past few months were nothing but mental issues worsened by him and his mom.

Sleep in different beds...problem solved. Living doesnt appear like you are having sex...its the sleeping part...sleeping with a lover..sleeping. Not living but sleeping. Living/cohabitation is different and this is very conflated. This whole "why buy the cow when you can get the milk" metaphor talks about sex...or the appearance of sex. If you dont sleep in the same bed or go as far as to address that then you dont appear to be doing anything sinful. If they sleep in different beds and you now still think that what you see is an appearance of evil then that is called bearing false witness...true you cannot be sinful for what you see but you definitely can for what you think. These so called "temptations" are just extreme and we could be more strict and take it a step further by going and doing what other religions do which is limit the time a couple can see eachother or not let them see eachother at all and have parents decide and then marry.

am i missing something or is god prejudiced against unmarried people? seems unfair since not everyone can be or wants to be married. since the behavior is the same, why is it ok for married and not for unmarried? sins cause harm and there is no harm in living together if not married. murder is wrong for everyone regardless of marital status, so why is sex, living together, etc... different?

hi amy me and my girlfrnd had all ready sex before our marriage now we are frusted and guilty what we did is this possible to get forgive from god?

A ring is something man made. We made that culture. You don't have to get a ring. Its possible in my opinion to live together without having sex. Take me for example. We are waiting and its been almost 2 years. I guess its just all about self control.

As someone that has struggled with sexual lust, I want to share something not condemning but calling Christians to Holiness. There are a LOT of people living with their significant other. It is NOT holiness regardless you situation. We do this, and we do that, so it's ok. NOPE!!! FLEE from sexual immorality. Living with them is not fleeing from but running to sexual immorality. You situation is not out of Gods control, that you have to live in sin.

The catholic church began conducting marriages in the 1600s. It was a family matter before that, agreement between 2 families. No signing, maybe a party although some bible verses dont include a party. Read leviticus 18 for sexually immoral acts and and Deut 28-29 for laws regarding betrothed and unbetrothed women. Find in Genesis what the union of man and woman was meant to be (companionship). Is the bible the word of God or not? Or is it church tradition which changes and shifts over time

Even the relationship between bf and gf is from pit of hell

I suggest that you may try to read 1 Thessalonians 4:3 to8 and share it to your viewers.I hope it can help.God bless, peace be with you.

I plan to never marry so if I live with a guy he should be related to me or I should be renting at his place. Marriage on earth seems so sad and pathetic to me, but it's still a Godly institution and should be respected. I think if it's a Christian marriage then Jesus Christ should be the head of that union and certain lines should not be crossed before marriage.

A couple that says they are living together but not sleeping together is lying.

Ok so pretty much this made me really sad because I didnt even know that it was a sin. I moved in with my girlfriend to another state but we dont live alone we live with her mother. We never had sex and we dont plan to. And we plan to get married because our connection I much different from others and we feel as god has brought us to each other because of the circumstances on which we met. Now me and her started a youtube channel last year and we are monetized and we are trying to make that a career. It's been bumpy road but so far we are still growing on youtube and we are helping her mom pay the Bill's because she is struggling. We plan to get married and move out once we are financially set. It is today that I first hear about couples living toghether before marriage as being a sin. Now I'm panicking as it if I am sinning or because I really felt like god has sent us toghether to pursue our career but now they are saying that but I never heard about that before. We dont feel tempted to have sex and are mainly focused on pursuing our career. I dont know what to think.

In your intro, you said these are your thoughts, opinions and "interpretations,"! You also claim that God "shared" these things with you. I don't see how that claim can be true, because Proverbs 3:5-6 says "lean not unto thine own understanding," ..and 2 Peter 1:20 says NO prophecy of the scripture is of ANY private INTERPRETATION. These verses are a very clear warning from God, NOT to give our own private interpretations. Concerning marriage, Adam and Eve did not have a formal wedding service, to become a married couple, but simply proclaimed their love before God, receiving His blessing on their union, and were joined "as one flesh" (the consummation). The verse 1Thessalonians 1:22 is not given as a tool especially to degrade and demoralize the act of sexual intimacy, as you're using it, but rather as a general indicator of more subtle sins that push the boundaries, for example, tattoos, cross-dressing, tight or low cut clothing, wearing make up or jewellery, drinking alcohol, lying, and of course immoral behaviour of any kind. This is marriage in God's eyes --> kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hKiVpqiJqt2rXaM.html

If you can't resist any of this then you're not that strong sorry it's truth.

You gotta test drive the car before you buy it. Lol.

Sex before marriage means she’s a virgin (Deuteronomy 22:13-29) if you lost your virginity and had other sexual partners before you got married you would be a concubine in Jesus and Pauls day. They had live in girlfriends back then called concubines that God sanctioned. The man would have a contract that gives him complete control over the woman (though her status was beneath a wife) and could release her whenever or ever HE desired, NOT HER. Modern Christian women try and leverage sex and marriage when their not virgins notice the Bible says “if a woman is a virgin” men don’t have to be virgins on our wedding night because sex isn’t going to affect our duty to family like it does women. They divorce because they want a new boyfriend, no Christian man is going to divorce his christian live-in girlfriend that they go to church on Sunday, do small groups, etc because “hes bored” men are stable wether their Christian or not.

BS you need to know how your partner lives to know if a marriage will work. If I can get a test drive I certainly will take it.