Dude where do you find a girl like Sadie with her mindset! There’s so few girls who understand relationships the way she does. Thanks for raising my standards Sadie, I’m praying God sends me the right one. Sadie shows me they exist haha. God bless y’all! And I hope Sadie is doing better now with the accident.

Don't pray for the right one. Pray to BE the right one

Going to church is a good thing and should be encouraged, however using the frequency of church attendance as a measure of someone's dedication to their faith is unfair and inaccurate. How about do they frequently study the bible? Pay attention to biblical content? Seek a biblical worldview? Do you see them applying biblical concepts in their every day life? Are they shedding sin? If it is a man, do you see them becoming a good potential biblical leader of a future household? I would say someone who goes to church multiple times a week, but doesn't carry Christ in their heart and doesn't seek to apply their faith in their life is the worst choice.

Initiating the conversation about faith with someone who isn’t interested in talking about it has to be the HARDEST thing ever 😭 NEVER again!!

"The mystery is not cute."😂😂😂 Amen! PREACH!!! Love you guys!

Keep it simple. Do not be unequally yoked. Even then, sin can destroy the best marriage.

My husband and I have been married almost 17 years, def not without ups and downs but we dated 6 years starting highschool through college and took breaks off and on due to being so young and long distance but came to know we were made for each other. I think each story is different. We both are passionately following after christ in our lives but have been lukewarm In the past. ❤

As someone who isn't Christian, my main takeaways from this are mostly: 1. Be aligned spiritually. 2. Make sure the guy is being direct and intentional with how they spend their time and value their date/partner in various social situations. (includes Social media usage/ability to stay present in the moment) 3. Align on visions for life (i.e plans for children etc.) 4. Mutual respect and effort towards making a relationship work and being on track towards commitment.

Both people sharing their intentions, goals, values, morals, and dreams when in the dating process seems to be majorly overlooked in our society. It honestly blows my mind. Granted you don't have to share the same hobbies, etc but the real deep stuff is important so you're on the same page to build a strong foundation in your relationship.

"Be a man with a plan" Excellent message all together. Thank you you two!

Wow I loved the 2nd red flag. In Christian language, 'go with the flow' sounds like 'we will see what happens'.

The "forever dater" one is because so many marriages end in divorce. You need to know the person really well before deciding to get married today.

Loved everything, except for the discouragement advice for single woman in our 40’s .some of us still have the faith to conceive children . And it doesn’t mean we put career first . Only God knows why too many people por age are still single but have healthy bodies to bring family. “Against the biological window “ bc Nothing is impossible to God!

One of the things I had with my last girlfriend was that she idolized me more than anything. Despite being a Christian, and a daughter of the pastor of her church, she put me in front of everything, even God, which I saw as a big no-no. I’ve been single for 5 months, and even though I’m 18 with plenty of time, I sometimes have doubts about having someone in my life. I’m glad I found your channel recently, it’s taught me to not lose hope for having someone, but at the same time, remember God is in control. I ask that you pray for my faith, that it stays strong and grows, as well as me finding the right person someday. Thank you.

Sadie's second point >>> I just recently got myself into such a situation. Thanks for the clarity, I'm running for the hills.

You two just opened up my eyes to red flags that I was actually seeing but didn’t want to see! Thank you

Thank y’all for making these kind of videos. We need more Christians not afraid to share their values.

Great video, thanks Sam & Sadie!! Yes I agree, don't try to change, fix, rescue, save, or heal you date. That's the work of the Holy Spirit, and we don't want to try to do his job for him. God's peace to you and your beautiful family!

So many great insights. Very informative, and delivered with so much wisdom. Thank you!

Thank you so much Sam and Sadie! I've just found your channel and I like it so much. I'm from Brazil. God bless your marriage and family!

I love this video! It is encouraging to know that there are men of God who so clearly are seeking the LORD, that it won't leave me wondering whether he can be my spiritual leader...it will be EVIDENT! And the "servant's mindset!" Wow, it is so simply put, but it is the foundation of a Christ centered relationship

Thank you Sam and Sadie! This was such an enlightment to me about dating and liking someone. I've watched every single one of your videos and learned a lot from them. Ps: I watched the bloopers over and over again 😆❤️

you two are so cute together! So glad God is continuing to bring people together for his glory!

This is very goood!!! I will watch more, you have such a good moral and going into important details!

Multiple people I know/seen have had their best friend and girlfriend/wife cheat together, so even being friends with your spouse’s friends may likely be dangerous, especially the fact that that friend can exploit your relationship problems, and become sympathetic ear.

Love this! You both hit the nail on the head every time. thank you for the good advice and keep making great content :)

I love that you even mentioned that you want to hopefully homeschool your kids! It seriously is so important!

I would love to hear how you manage the life as a couple living together, and having time and space for your individual needs? (Like space, rest, or any other activities that may not be ‘a coupe thing’, plus sharing tasks at home... ). Thank you, loving your content, and I am not Christian, but I resonate with the purity and genuine share that you are offering , thank you

I appreciated a lot of both of your points! Found myself going AAAA at some that just hit so hard lol🤣 only thing is with the last point, something important that comes to mind is proverbs 31- the woman is very enterprising! Cares for her family and loved ones but also has her hands open and ready to extend to the needy, she works hard out in the world too. She’s active and productive in and out of the home. I think femininity can vary and look different! Blessings to you two! 💞

Thank you for these videos both of you! I just came across them on KZfaq and am amazed at how good your arguments are. It really helps me as a young man to maintain my standards and refocus on the things that really matter ..which can be a very big challenge in a performance oriented society. Thank you guys and God bless you! Greetings from germany ;)

You two are adorable and this is the only video I’ve seen of you but I’m smiling away😂 God bless ya both

when it comes to "take a break" 1 Corinthians 7:5 is applicable. To take time apart to pray and, possibly fast, to see how it is, and it needs to have a deadline. Like, a week or a month or something. And then, come back and re-evaluate how it was, and what we should do from here. And if anyone is confused, then it should be a sign that you shouldn't get back together. Anyway, thanks for the reinforcement.

Amen! Exactly! 100% on point.

Thanku for this video, please do remember me in your prayers thanku once again god bless you ❤

woow just found your channel and I love you guys. Been waiting and sometimes it feels lonely. you guys have encouraged me to keep trusting God.

Lovely content May God continue empowering you. Keep them coming.

This is so true. Thank you

Wow I love this video. Everything you guys said was so spot on. I needed this 😊

Glad i saw this. It really helps on my spiritual journey.

Everyone experiences bumps in the road. I don’t think everything is a write off unless change happens long term. As someone who has struggled with a topic of this you just have to do your own personal work. No one is made perfect but we can do the work

Dating is not biblical 😂 be friends... Pray and fast .... If God said No. Let it be No. We all have just one soul mate.... You can start praying today for your future partner even when you haven't met them yet.

This is a great video. Thank you!!

Thank you for this video ❤

Keep it up! God bless you both ❤️🙏

When you said that dating for 3 to 5 years before marriage is an issue, high immediately thought that you guys were really young. People change overtime, I have changed so drastically from the person I was when I was younger through God. I don’t understand why it would be an issue to wait to see if that is the right person, to see what they truly are like, living with them day in and day out, while also Building your relationship in Christ.

Praise LORD JESUS !! I know HE COMING!! 7 years almost celebrant

thank you for this video !!

For me about kids Being in Med school It will be mentally draining to start having kids After Med school will be fine It’s not about careeer, it’s hard to do that for now

You guys are actually the cutest 🥲

This video was really well done!

This video literally described my ex…. No wonder I was stressing out during the whole relationship…

Hey Sam and Sadie...Love your channel, could you do videos on soul ties and how to break them...would really appreciate it....thanks.

This is so refreshing

Loved this video!

I would be so grateful for more videos on God's timing in singleness. 🙏

Love this!!😊

Thanksss🤗

These last couple days God has been leading me to videos like this and it has been like God is showing me my Fathers and Mothers and Sisters and Brothers in Christ. I'm extremely grateful for this video. And I now know that Jesus is the Wonderful Counselor because his children have given me great words of wisdom. God pays attention to us no matter our age - no one is too young and no one is too old to experience the Love of God. Thank you Jesus Christ.

The whole he only goes to church on Sundays is… like.. what else is he supposed to do? Like, do you mean that’s the only thing he does, doesn’t pray or read the Bible ever or anything. Or do you want him to go to church for most of the week?

This is good stuff because I had often thought that I was doing the red flags and that the reason the ladies that I were dating ended it. I now know they were commiting the red flags. It's so hard. I'm getting a permanent headache with it all. I never married before I was saved a son or a multi millionaire (no gold diggers) to sleeping and begging on the streets. Been saved now for 24 years and single in all this time to. Admittedly, I'm not too good at seeing the signs that a lady likes me (until she moves on), but Christians do say that I am the model Christian. I've been to bible college. I was on Christian radio and had my testimony written in a newspaper. And still single.

I agree with most of the points apart from the friends with the opposite sex. If there is no temptation, no affection nothing, I don't see the issue. If there are feelings, be open, recognise it and then address either move away or chang the situation.

For me, I'm still getting to know a girl. We been going on dates and stuff for a couple months now. Some things about her character are a little iffy so far, so really taking the time to find out if she'd be a right fit. Hopefully in the meantime she's not guessing what my intentions are and why I'm going "slow."

Maybe they should just break up if they dated for a few years and didn't want to get married. However, you would need more than several months to get to know someone before committing your life to them.

Excelent 👏🏼

I apologize. The video is helpful & spot on.

Great video

You know its a good video when you start taking notes on it😂

The passion in a relationship has to be equal both ways. If you have to work to keep the other person's attention then the relationship is lopsided and it will not change and it won't work.

Amazing amazing tips guys! Thanks a lot! But I wish Sadie would interrupt him less. He gives her a lot of room to speak but when it's his turn... Not cool.

I’ve known people who went to church 3x a week and still ended up walking away from the faith. Church attendance ≠ faith commitment. That’s very judgmental and ungodly to assume otherwise

There is so much i can say on this but wont...other than, there is something about 20 year olds who believe to be VERY Intelligent about relationships giving advise to 30 and 40 plus year old too. Obviously they are preaching to teenagers and other 20 year olds who havent experienced much

You both have such gorgeous eyes!

It's great you two have found each other on a loving Christian home! But you are far from old enough or experienced to be giving advice on this topic. Your feelings and emotions will lead you down dark paths, and these you will not share here and you have yet to hit hardships that break you. How much video watched nil, but once you have been broken and got back up then you are on the road.

...and, I would like to add. Make sure, you yourself get healthy in your soul. You are nat able to get the healthy one, if you are not healthy yourself.

You have a beautiful wife inside and out! You have been blessed beyond reason my friend. You need to always treat her like the jewel she is. May God bless you both.

On the topic of friend with the opposite sex, how about scenarios where you own a professional coaching business and do 1 on 1 coaching online/in-person (e.g. coaching for a role in the tech industry). In coaching/mentoring you tend to build strong connections. Also, mentoring colleagues of the opposite sex?

It's interesting because people think marriage alone will help them deal with sexual immorality. However, if you don't practice avoiding it before marriage, you are in huge trouble when you get married or date.

I saw my father walk away from us, and saw my mother’s struggle to raise four children on her own. I won’t have to suffer like that, because I have a career. I depend on my holy Father for my finances.

Wow ❤❤❤❤❤ love you guys

8:54 correct!!! One of the main reasons my last relationship ended because his “bf”, although she was married, kept getting in the way. She was so bad even my friends would ask what her problem was.

0:41mins. Going to church is not the sign of leadership. Wrong. Leader is a character a man must build with God one one on one, study word of God, prayer, fasting, showing purity, show taking intiative among his peers, have strong understanding word of God and live accordingly and have fruits in his life. But DEFINTELY Going to church is not a lership. A LIE!!! I beleieve fellowship with christian men/women in a group absolutely reqiured. 1:37mins: Dating longer without commitment. Well, Time is not the issue. The issue must be raised if she/he is developing a husband/wife mindset. Example, if she/he is spending night out with friends for coffee or whatever, it can cause issue therefore it may prolong the commitment. 2:58mins. He/she must Dating with intention is absolute along with setting boundaries. 4:41mins. HE/SHE is not Addicted to social medias, single friends, participating with plenty of church services causing financial burden and no time managment. A balance is a required. 5:45mins He/She must be stay consistency in the relationship including hanging out with friends, families, in gatherings. Have talk. 6:57 mins He/she must have a mindset of serving others but should not normalizing UNGOLDLY acts. IF he/she accepts / normalizing ungolding acts and trying to do in the relationship, HE/SHE is not ready therefore discuss your expetation. if He/She is not acknowledging and not correcting, He/She is not yours. RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN 8:00mins He/she must be developing a character of wife and husband while dating. Most time, The one who is not developing pushing to get married sooner. Let the person know what you expect. If nothing changes,,,,,RED FLAG. RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN 9:00mins No opposit gender friends. If He/She insists to keep it, DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME. NEVER give a day to think. right there, end the relationship with respect. But.... RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN. 10:00mins. No taking break. If He/she wants to take a break, END THERE. Not worthy to be with that person. 12:00mins. Have desire to have childrean. Addional Red flags @ NO saving from their income. If you can not save now, you can not save after marrying. @ Not seeking God's kingdom FIRST. If marriage is your priority , that will cause problem in the relationship. @ Friends with UNGODLY peoples. Accepting certain actions as normal( cuasual sex, living together, deception, manipulation) @ Love world( money, materials) and things of the world. De-associate your life from those things @ Listening to friends , families and pastors to make decisions as primary sources. He/She must listen and consulat to Holy Spirit FIRST. PRAYER AND FASTING requires. @ Unchecked / unhealed past issues @ Cries whenever disagreement . Bringing tears into conversation, emptionally charged conversation. Manipulative tactics @ Consistly lying @ Not taking accountabilities and responsibilities in their action @ Careless and being reckless @ Compromising God's word for the sake of cultures, friends, families @ Knowingly Using others @ obsessed with cosmotics accessories

Opposite gender friends doesn’t mean there’s sex involved. I’ve had male friends for 15 adult years who have never tried anything. They’ve seen me go through break ups and and emotionally vulnerable situations had their opportunity to pounce and have never crossed the line. It’s different for everyone but I’m not giving them up

I totally agree that Anything past 2 years is a is wasting their time. The only way I see it ok date longer is one of the people in the relationship are in college and are waiting to get married till they graduate.

Can we talk about converting red flags for dating into green flags for discipleship? And the headspace we should be in for this to be successful?

On the reverse, as a woman I felt really insulted when a man on a dating app asked what my intentions were after we just said Hi, How are you? We didn’t even have a conversation and you’re already bringing up your past insecurities? I’m not a party girl either, which is quite obvious on my profile, so there was nothing on my end that prompted his question. Whereas, if I had asked him what his intentions were (after having an actual conversation and if I needed to ask that of him), then that would have been appropriate.

A servant’s mindset ❤

Good video.

Solid advice imo.

What are your thoughts on single moms and how to pursue dating? (after developing proper boundaries, strengthening relationship with God, joining a church, etc) I know there has to be more mama's (or even single dads) that are at a loss on how to navigate living out their faith, being a present and providing parent, and pursuing dating when the time is right. I do believe there is a stereotype that single moms are "unwanted" or looked down upon. Having this mindset is almost painful when you feel it's no use against society's standards. I appreciate your content! It's been super helpful from what I've watched so far.

I've been in this situation several times: I start dating a woman, and after a week or two I tell her that I think she can do better than me and I can't see why any woman would want to be with a loser like me. I go without dating for a few years, then that cycle repeats. I'm now 51, virgin, never married. I'm obviously too old to get married now, so I plan on being single my entire life.

If two people are immature, but meant for each other and both have commited sin to each other, one of them will call out the break phase. It will continue on, until both recognize the sin they are doing. I went through that for 7 years and I currently dont know what god has in store for me, but I know he wanted that we resolve the sin, by working on ourselves and by talking with each other and forgiving each other, which we partially did, but there is still some way to go. She broke up with me years ago and I still kept the promise that I will stay friends with her, before we were a couple for a year. I had no clue why god denied me every other relationship, but I think I know now.

You two are so cute! ❤

Didn’t notice I was repeating the same mistakes with my ex and now I’m regrrttting not paying attention

What you consider red flags sounds more like preferences rather than absolute deal breakers. Some of your list are sound but others are a bit extreme.

Every girl I was interested them left me before I even had a chance to date them.

all im gonna say is you shouldnt be looking for it in the first place

Being on your phone is something that really bothers me especially while on a date

I'm a Christian male and have been saved for most of my life. I once dated this girl that was super hyper Christian. She basically witnessed to me on our first date and questioned me on scripture. I really expected her to do an altar call. I kept telling her I was saved and baptized all evening but she looked at me like I was lying to her. At the end of the date she told me she wanted to see where things went so I agreed. We gave each other a kiss and went our separate ways. About 1 AM my phone goes off and she had texted me. She wanted me to know she was praying for me. The next evening we got together and she started all over again and I had to stop her. I told her it was becoming kind of creepy. She didn't kind of stop talking about religion. I wanted to learn about her as a person but she wouldn't tell me anything other than she was divorced and had a kid. When I asked about her kid she didn't say anything. After almost a month if dating she called me crying and told me she had to tell me the truth. She told me she had deleted several baby's through the years before having her daughter. When I didn't respond how she thought I should then she accused me of being in league with the devil. My reaction was "Oh, that must have been traumatic for you." She proceeded to yell at me and quote scripture about how I was a sinner and I would find myself in Hell if I didn't repent. After she calmed down I asked her what sin did I commit while we have dated. She got quiet and said "You're a man so you unconsciously sin every second!" She told me I didn't have a right to judge her and she didn't want to see or talk to me again. I told her I felt bad for ber to be filled with so much guilt that she saw evil around every corner. I told her I agreed with her decision and hung up. She did call me a couple days later because she wanted to see me. I agreed but I kept it short. We texted each other a couple times after that but I was relieved to not talk to her anymore.

I’m so much older than you guy’s . You are So sweet! N funny. ♥️🙏

This one's a tough one. I've been single for 2 years and have been treading lightly on dating. I desire to be a husband, and yet I almost want nothing to do with dating, even in the church. My family has been trying so hard to get me to go back out there and find a wife, but I don't want to become there are still snakes in the church. When I brought up my reasons, my dad called me a, "misogynist," which kinda hurt. I'm glad women like Sadie exist. It's very refreshing knowing that there are still women of God who understand what their role is when it comes to marriage. Most women, (even in the church) don't, and that's why I've stayed away. In short, I've gone my own way and don't know what to do