I honestly have a very bad social anxiety that I don’t know what my real personality is.

I hate forced conversations. Small talk..it drives me nuts, makes me super anxious 😬

Does anyone else feel like everyone is just staring at you and no matter what you do they still stare at you at public places?

what i really hate is when you feel like people are staring at you and you suddenly forget how to walk

I hate that part when you go to a new class an teacher says every body come in front of others and introduce yourself I really really hate that moment

Whenever I walk around I feel like everyone is staring at me and I have to look at the floor or using my phone I can’t even make eye contact 😖

It sucks when you’re dealing with social anxiety and have to do a presentation in class 😫

I hate having social anxiety. I can’t even eat in front of people without overthinking about it and getting anxious

Im completely known for my anxiety “oh its quiet girl” “you talk like asmr” “wait you can talk” “why do you not talk” ive heard it all

My biggest fear in a group is being told why are you so quiet? In front of everyone. I have a huge trauma with that. It kills me.

I’m so comfortable around my family but when it comes to anyone else i feel so awkward and I can’t talk to anyone without getting anxious and without constantly thinking “am I being interesting enough” like ugh idk

My teachers and friends say “you really need to start talking” omg I would if I could

I feel alone, who else feels alone? I hope I’m not like this forever

I feel like I have waisted away my youth because of my anxiety. All the things that I have missed out on, the missed opportunities and people ...

i came in the comment section to find people to relate to...

Social phobia is literally ruining my life... I don’t know what to do

The worst is when someone you're not friends with asks why you're so quiet it gets on my nerves and makes me feel uncomfortable

When someone is mean and rude to you means that they don't know how to manage their emotions, the problem isn't you, don't take it personally and don't let their negativity affect you ♡

WHEN I'M WALKING I'M PRETENDING THAT I'M TEXTING WITH SOMEONE 😞

I feel like dying each time someone approaches me to begin a conversation. This anxiety is ruining my life. I don't engage in anything to minimize social interaction. I would've communicate in writing only, if I have the choice.

That’s why I don’t tell people stuff anymore because they use it against you . 🤦🏽‍♀️ Thank you for making this video.

i don’t understand how all my friends are so good at talking and i’m just there..

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been socially awkward. A loner. An outcast. The shy kid nobody wants to talk to. And even at 20 years old, I still have a hard time making eye contact and talking to people. But it really does make me feel better knowing that I’m not alone in this struggle. It makes me feel better knowing that other people are going through what I’m going through. It’s tough a lot of the time, but I keep pushing on. Thank you for this video.

whenever i go outside, and when i return home, i bust out crying. the social anxiety is killing me...

The word we all hate when the teacher says..... *Partner up with someone*

I feel like since I’m so scared to talk or make any friends I’m just wasting all my highschool years and I feel like I’m growing up too fast and I can’t catch up with everyone who’s so good at talking and making friends. Im just afraid I’ll always be stuck like this

I have social anxiety too and it really sucks. Everywhere I go I feel like everyone is staring at me and judging me :(

10 reasons why social anxiety causes depression. 10. Wanting to find a significant other, and never finding him/her Anxiety undermines our human relationships, and prevents them from being as successful as they could be. 9. Avoiding situations even when we want to hang out and be friendly "I can’t go because I’ll be too uncomfortable and I’ll feel inhibited and self-conscious. It’s easier for me to just stay at home.” 8. Not feeling like we are part of a group or family We all want to feel like we belong, especially with other people who share the same interests in life, but anxious feelings block this from happening. 7. Lack of meaningful friendships People with social anxiety want to have many friends and acquaintances they can spend time with and relax around, but the anxiety prevents this from happening. 6. Not being able to pursue our desired career “I’d like to take that promotion, but then I’d have to manage people and tell them what to do. I can’t do that!” 5. Inability to participate in professional or informal activities Those of us with social anxiety feel a great deal of fear when we must attend informal or professional events with other people. We feel as if we will do something wrong and make a fool of ourselves. 4. Not seeing light at the end of the tunnel “I’ll never get any better - I’ll be stuck with anxiety forever." 3. Beating ourselves up We get down on ourselves and focus on our perceived shortcomings. We often feel as if we're not as good or capable as other people. "Everyone else is enjoying life and having a good time. Why can't I?" 2. Comparing ourselves to others We feel other people are farther along in life than we are. “Everyone has fun and interesting friends they can hang out with - except me." 1. Feeling like we can’t do things The anxiety we feel makes us feel restricted from participating in everyday activities. “I can’t go to the party because I’ll feel too out of place and uncomfortable."

I’m so happy you made this video. I have EXTREME social anxiety, and it’s crippling.

Breathing techniques, stepping outside in fresh air, dog cuddles get me through my anxiety 💛

High School just makes social anxiety way worse.

this comment section is very reassuring that you're not the only one dealing with these issues.

It just sucks that people who are shy or quiet are called differnt and weird not everyone needs to be an extrovert. Some people choose the people that they want to surround themselves with and keep a small cirlcle you know. Dealing with anxiety since i was 8 and now im 29 and it comes and goes but thankfully its under control right now. You just never know when itll peak and living like that is awful . The thing that helps is spirituality and just working on self love.

I do hide my mental health because when you talk about them nobody wants to know I have social anxiety when I'm around certain people I'm not always comfortable

I lost all my good friends Bc of social anxiety now I walk through the halls staring at all the other kids laughing with their friends thinking how that use to be me and how I would do anything to get that real enjoyment back

Why does no one talk to me in school but when a new person comes they are their best friends

Are there any black women around 20 - 30 that has social anxiety . I feel so alone because in the black community so many aren’t scared to be social I never see anyone at my job that’s so closed off as me . That’s something that makes me a little more anxious .

Am I the only guy here ? Hello ladys :) Males suffering the same way :(

i blush with everyone it got so bad this year for me😔

It's so hard to live with this problem...

As a socially anxious person I couldn’t imagine doing a KZfaq channel. EDIT - My comment seems to have created some confusion so I wanted to clarify. By saying this I wasn't judging her or implying that she doesn't have "real" anxiety. My thought when I watched the video was simply "I couldn't imagine doing a KZfaq channel" so I typed that. I wish all of you the best. :-) Jason

sometimes when I force myself to be talkative, I get anxiety attacks because I look at others who is/are listening in the conversations and I start thinking how stupid I am for trying to talk and that they're making fun of my accent, the way i talk, my voice and all that. I go home feeling like an idiot and thinking about all the things that I shouldn't have said and then everytime my bf would look at me and smile and say that he is proud of me for talking and that I looked really cute when I try and I forget about the things Im worrying about. Sometimes we just need someone who would understand us and tell us that it's going to be okay.

Everytime i have a presentation in class even if its like 2 weeks away i will always think about it

I’m so shy I feel like I’ll never be in a relationship or that I won’t be entertaining enough to someone or pretty enough. So I have anxiety about never getting a boyfriend. Is this just me? Is it true? Like if u relate

I thought that I was the only one like this, I am always super nervous an awkward when talking to people and even sometimes my friends I am always scared to say some things and do things because I think that I will be judged and that is why I will never act like myself besides with my family.

everyone here is talking about their anxiety, and im just stitting here thinking she's so pretty

I’m sitting here reading these comments and I’m starting to break down into tears. It breaks my heart that we’ve all had to go through this. Social anxiety has literally ruined my life in this past year.

“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭41:10‬ ‭

I can't even raise my hands in school even if I am almost sure the answer is right. And I can't ask someone when I don't understand something because I am afraid of my teachers and afraid of being judged. That's why my marks have gotten really bad and I am afraid I won't get better and fail. I also can't talk to people and that's why they often think I am boring or don't want to do anything with them. I think it is a little bit because of my friends since they always picked on me which made me feel depressed and I often thought about what they said afterwards although I knew it was just fun... I always think a lot about what people think about me and I don't know what to do about it because I am afraid that I will get depression from that and that I will just be in my room the next few years cause I am afraid to go outside. Also when I am in public I don't even know how to stand so that I don't look weird and I don't know what to say when I am with my friends because I don't want to seem weird or boring but that is the case most of the time..

Today in my English class we had to stand at the front of the class and talk, and I promised myself that I’ll talk because it was worth a lot of points. And when i got at the front I couldn’t get anything out I couldn’t talk I couldn’t say what was wrong with me. I couldn’t look at my classmates eyes, I couldn’t tell the teacher to excuse me, I couldn’t walk away. I was just totally stuck and when they teacher asked what was wrong with me I couldn’t answer him. But I started sweating, and my heart beat went up. My thoughts: “they are laughing at you”, “they think you’re stupid”, “TALK”, Talk or fail”. I wanted to cry but i was scared and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. My teacher told me to write down what was wrong but I didn’t know what was wrong with me. :(

Strange to me that when you experience a new start you aren't as anxious. Meeting new people and starting in a new environment sends my anxiety through the roof and that makes sense according to what social anxiety is. It doesn't just suddenly leave you when you start a 'new life' it's always there.

i have symptoms but i'm too scared to talk to my parents about getting diagnosed because they'll just tell me social media is getting to my head :(

I find that my social anxiety is usually triggered by my own judgement. I've grown up in such a critical environment that I've pre-conceived boxes in my head and they seem immutable. When in reality, I'm the first to tell my friends and family that we can all be whoever and whatever we decide. Recently, I've moved in an area that is very important to me and reminds me a lot of my childhood. And as I was walking, there were so many sychronicities, it blew my mind. It got me so excited I overwhelmed myself and started feeling anxiety creeping in. The feeling is like this: it feels like my body is filling up with a thick boiling liquid, from my feet to my head. My vision gets blurry, tears come up and my legs start shaking. I know how to make it go away relatively quickly, but it usually takes me to walk away from the situation or get silent and numb. If I'm with people, I just nodd and smile when they look at me, if I'm in a crowd I step away. What's so frustrating is that usually this particular situation is exactly where I want to be. It's not the fear of not belonging, it's the fear of my own excitment. I'm afraid it might be too much, I might be too much, as I've always been told I was as a child. I feel I'm progressing. Yet sometimes I take five steps back. When I come back to reality, it's like I have to start all over again. It's exhausting and frustrating. BUT this life thing is so AWESOME, like leaves, skies, architecture, the fact that there are some brillant minds, the fact there's a universe... I mean, I wouldn't be anywhere else, in any other shape. I love being human and I love life.

My anxiety has been awful recently, having just gone back to college. Thank you for this, Renee, it's not something most people would feel comfortable talking about online or even in person, so I really admire you

my teacher: “Am I really that scary” Me: “oh yeh hold up Imma walk out the room come back in without social Anxiety it’s Gucci”

I used to think dealing with social anxiety at school was bad, now that I work full time I can tell you that it is 10x worse dealing with social anxiety when you have a job...

I just opened up this year about my Social Anxiety, Generalized Anxiety, and Agoraphobia. Such a relief to stop being in denial, hiding and being ashamed. After being diagnosed this year; I've started working towards my mental health. It definitely started as extreme shyness during my childhood, at least, I believe it was extreme shyness.

You’re so strong talking about this. I suffer from social anxiety too, I Guess It’s more common than we think . I love your channel. You’re an amazing person 💕 Kisses from Italy 🥰😘😘😘

My anxiety is so bad that I sweat terribly whenever Im around people.

*Am I the only one guy here who's having a social anxiety.? :(*

as a kid i was more extroverted and could EASILY go up to strangers and say hi and start a conversation but now i’m the opposite and i actually like myself this way then ‘the talkative stranger who goes up to everyone’ i don’t remember if i was soft-spoken as a child but definitely from grade 4 onwards i’m extremely soft-spoken and introverted and paranoid and i started getting social anxiety last year and it just washed over me this year to be honest, i don’t mind my personality but i want to be able to feel comfortable in social situations without being the ,ost awkward, anxious, paranoid person ever because i ALWAYS worry about what people think of me. the best thing i did this year was the biggest thing i’d ever done everrr, making friends. especially with the social anxiety, it was NOTTTTT EASY AT ALL. i had so much dont built up in my mind that i was struggling to see if they were actually my friends, but when i put all the puzzle pieces together i realised they were my friends, i asked myself questions like ‘do they talk to you’ ‘do they sit next to you in class’ so on. it’s also very hard to concentrate in class because i’m a maladaptive daydreamer, always stuck in my imagination. i also had a 5 month depressive episode this year and last year and this year were the crappiest, most horrible years of my life so far (making friends was 1 of the positives though 😁) hope this helps xx

I once told someone who had asked me why I don't talk a lot that I'm just bad at interacting with people. They asked if I had Social Anxiety, and I said yes. And, I was at a new school, so this made me even more nervous so I tried to push myself to interact with people that would talk to me so that I wouldn't be completely alone. So, I hung out with their friend group. I didn't talk at all, and if someone spoke to me I would just respond with a short answer not knowing what to say. But, every time I didn't talk very much this guy was like "You should talk to us. We are nice people." I said, "I know." When I wanted to say, "If it was that easy I would have been talking to you guys." I texted my friends from my old school everyday, I met them before I had social anxiety and they never judged me. So, when he asked me what I did over break I responded, "Text my old friends." He said, "If you can text your friends, why can't you talk to us?" I felt like he didn't understand what social anxiety is. I know he didn't have it, and it's hard to get why I act like this, but he just made these remarks that he had no idea how I felt about. If you don't have Social Anxiety, you'll never understand how we see things. Please, try to accept people with Social Anxiety, and maybe help them.

my college professor who has a PhD in psychology said that i was the “dark energy” in the room for having social anxiety. when he out of anyone should know how sensitive the human mind can be and how any little thing you say can hurt someone immensely. I have worked so hard to be the most positive, and high- spirited person that i can be, despite my depression & insecurities for someone to come and knock all of that down for no absolute reason.

I'm so embarrassed to talk about my social anxiety to others. I feel like they're gonna think I'm weak and not worth talking to. You inspired me to share this part of myself and seek professional help! This is not something worth hiding anymore.

My anxiety is bad that I have to wear sunglasses to hide from people making eye contact scares me it’s crazy when I’m in a busy place the anxiety gets crazy

I’m so glad you made a video about social anxiety!! ❤️🥰 It’s really hard for me to go out and talk to people, I get so drained when I have to talk to people all day at school and work

ummm... i told my mom i thought i had social anxiety and she said that i didn’t, that i was fine.. 💀

All these ppl in the comments i can relate to its crazy but i never see these sorts of ppl in real life, feels like im alone with it out here 😞

If I knew people like you in person... I'm sure i would get over my anxiety

I get anxiety attacks everytime before going out, I cannot do it at all

I feel anxious even around my family because I feel I’m not being the best brother/son I could be. I try to change my ways but feel like I’m trying so hard that it makes my awkwardness/anxiety worse.

thank you for being so open and vulnerable, these type of bullying experiences are so common yet not talked about because of fear. It's helpful to have something to relate to

Thank you for making this video. Since starting university my social anxiety has gotten really bad. Makes me feel less alone to hear others talk about it ❤️❤️❤️

When I tell you I related to EVERY SINGLE THING you said in regards to your social anxiety. Whew Chile the COURAGE.😭 I Stan QUEENN

Im shy at school every day :(

I find it really hard to leave the house, it’s just so scary. Everyone is looking at you, and you could see someone you know, or worse, have to talk to someone you don’t know. I also ALWAYS go to the self serve tills in shops, even if one isn’t available I’ll wait.

*if you reading this, I hope you had a great day... (read more💛)* *And a great week, and a great month, and a great 2019! And If you’re day wasnt going so good remember there are 364 other days so everything will turn out just fine* 💕💖💗*love from a small youtuber* 💓

This is an important video, and I’m glad you took the time to share your experience with us. I haven’t gotten the chance to fully watch the video yet, but I know it’ll be good. 💗

This was a very helpful video❤️ Thank you for sharing this😊

I'm like you I'm not shy in front of my fam but new people I get literally nauseous thinking about meeting new people

I suffer from social anxiety as well, extremely similar to you. I really recommend reading the book "First We Make The Beast Beautiful". It's crazy relatable.

THANK YOU for being open & honest about your experiences ❤️❤️✨! i've always struggled with anxiety in social situations ever since as a kid too. shedding light around mental health is so significant and needed to make you feel like you are not alone :)

What sometimes helps me with my anxiety is to just take a deep breath and try to realize that what you’re feeling is irrational. Everybody else is too focused on themselves to worry about you anyways

I just realized i have social anxiety i've always been a shy girl when i was young and i only talk to the person i know around me sometimes i hate when someone just stares at me but of someone talks to me first i would probably get along well

Thank you for sharing Renee sweetie, you are such a strong and beautiful soul and have done brilliantly❤️❤️❤️✨!

I'm the same way and it is crazy that I had the same thing happen to me. A friend that I thought was my friend, actually kept judging me and was mean. I feel like I'm not good enough or my personality is unlikable, so I'm quiet around new people.

Wow thank you so much for this video! The example with the circle of the activating event is really helpful!

You have no idea how much this helped me during my anxiety moment. Literally I was struggling so hard to use every coping skill and I felt at peace watching this video. Thank you so much honestly.

I have social anxiety. An on going battle.

Does anyone here have a heart attack when they have to do a presentation?

Hey person scrolling through the comment section...STAY SAFE ❤

I genuinely run from small talk😶 But my humor helps.

Such a great video, I suffer with fear and anxiety, thank you for sharing, so true xx

I love this I’m doing a video this Friday on how to love yourself thank you for this !

Thank you for sharing your story babe, it takes a lot to open up like this!!

Thank you for opening up about your struggle with social anxiety! Videos like this are bringing so much to the conversation about mental illness and making others more comfortable about sharing their struggles!

I have a great family life, I haven’t really been bullied, just pushed around and to everyone I seem to have the perfect life. No one believes that I actually have a problem and that my anxiety is getting way too out of hand for me to handle. No coping methods have worked and since I tried going to others for help and they ignored me, so I never tell anyone how I feel anymore. It’s awful feeling this way with no one believing you do since you are “perfect” to them.

This was so helpful.Thank you so much.You inspire me everyday :)

You really helped me today. Having a very long day with just sinking feelings of how I act in social encounters and just feeling too self aware.