Wow gave birth a year ago and did not know that this was a thing. I will look into this. Thank you for sharing.

That sounds like just an opportunity to talk and it go absolutely nowhere. Will people be held accountable for negligence? I doubt it. They'll always be excuses. Medical professionals stick together and protect each other etc. A talk and a poxy "we understand" isn't good enough where babies have died or mothers have suffered life changing injuries or trauma that could have been prevented. Seems like just another way to sweep things under the carpet making mothers think they've finally been heard. Ooo let them get it off their chest. Sorry even the term "Birth Reflection" sounds poxy AF. Might be good enough for super positive individuals with no long term trauma.

Maybe the main focus should be providing adequate care so as to avoid trauma. I understand that some things are unavoidable but a lot can be avoided. The midwives and doctors need to learn to listen to women and take their concerns seriously. How about taking a proactive approach and avoid these things, rather than this reactive approach your referring to.

It’s called a a ‘constant debrief ‘

Just wanna say both my labours I had a student midwife there and honestly they did a better job of being supportive than the actual midwife. If anything the students could teach some of the midwives a thing or two about how to show compassion, empathy or just common sense. I get they must go through a lot of women, but they could be a bit more nicer, it's a painful and scary experience. Student midwives have been amazing though in my experience ❤

Oh mg god!!!I am so sorry!! Absolutely disgusting how they treated you and how negligent they are.

I'm so sorry that happened. That's awful. I can't imagine how that must have felt

I’m so so sorry

I'm so so sorry. This was heartbreaking to read....

Sue them because who knows how many more babies are in danger because of that evil dr and nurse

You actually can, I did for my 5th and last child,due to getting PTSD and Tokophobia from my 4th. Obviously they arent keen on doing it as it cost more money for nhs but its better then years of needing therapy and going to the Gp for depression etc.

@@lauracooke280 Good on you for managing to get a c-section for your health. If it cost more to get therapy and antidepressants than to have an elective caesarean, the NHS should reevaluate their priorities.

Why would you want to be cut when you could choose gravity to do the work

I elected a c section for physiological reasons and I had no problem getting that done.

​@Jstar697 there are several reasons to elect to do a c section. I did it because I have a very very small foot size, indicating that I have a small pelvis and the likelihood of an assisted birth is high. Assisted births come with a lot of risks and I absolutely didn't want that. So I elected a c section.

Maybe having a doula would help?

@@adwoamk8918 we went to see one of them during the last week's of my first pregnancy, to talk and ask questions. Since I posted this comment we have arranged for my partners mum to look after Emily when I'm close to giving birth. I wouldn't want anyone else but my partner to be with me.

So sorry. Good luck with your surgery ❤.

@@oluSolomon thank you very nervous but nhs failed me from birth to now and it’s so upsetting even worse when you worked for nhs thankfully I worked with with the best people and had the best people to care for but then seeing how I’ve been treated I could write a book honestly it’s so bad

Newham general by any chance

Whipps Cross?

its simply because of systematic racism, black women are seen as being more troublesome, louder, more aggressive etc. and so are dismissed as being difficult when they try to tell the doctors about a potential problem or pain.

I think it’s a combination of things really but a huge factor to consider is that most medical diagnoses and medical treatment are conducted with white men and white women in mind. It’s really only in our very recent history that science is catching up and we are learning to factor in genetic differences in the races.

@@signalfire15I would agree with you in usual medical situations, especially when just going to your GP. However, medical professionals within pregnancy & childbirth are usually not ‘white males’ by the majority, so don’t think this is the reason for the statistics within child birth & pregnancy.

@@leabeauty837 I was speaking more in general in the medical field.

​@@sarahh2315It is a factor, not the whole reason and it is wrong and dangerous to say so. Medically, there are other factors that are incredibly important to realise and have knowledge. Obesity, prevalence of diabetes, hypertension, higher likelihood of heart problems, and higher proportions of women without a partner to share care with and likelihood of depression all figure in higher risk, language barriers, FGM. Every woman should know that these are risk factors and know what to be aware of, any symptoms, and factor that into how their healthcare is planned and monitored and how to cope as a vulnerable mum if you are on your own. If women do not know what their vulnerabilities and symptoms are and put everything down to racism then there will not be an improvement in women getting the help they need. Another issue is due to relatively low population of black and brown women, there has been a lack of experience in recognising where black and brown women are at higher risk than the models of care developed around the risk factors in white women, because the vast majority of the maternal population are white. It is a skew in the model that needs to be addressed and ensure training and refresher training is regularly rolled out to those who provide maternal care. This is 'racist' in that the model needs updating due to the change in demographics, it is not racist in the sense that it was not deliberately designed to discriminate. In terms of explicit racism to any particular patient as an individual, the medical staff involved need to have their licences revoked as they are not fit to practice in this country, no matter their race or ethnicity, or who their racism is directed at.

Who are you to say that, it’s a talk show for God sake.

@@musicms7723 can you read? If so, read the title of the video again. 😒

Oh don't be afraid you can do it ... I had a homewater birth with 2 midwifes who attended my birth from beginning to the end it was the best experience of my life unforgettable.... and yes it can be beautiful

Bless you. You can do it. Get all the advice you can and learn from these kinds of mistakes so you know what needs to be in place. Some things I wish I knew.

I don’t think that should matter personally? The midwife who helped me deliver my 2nd child had no children of her own but she was fantastic.

The ones who were great to us were young and presumably childless. The ones who were rude, condescending, arrogant and incompetent were older non UK born women who didn’t study or trained here. This is my experience with 2 pregnancies and 2 different hospitals.

What a horrific statement to make. I'm a student midwife, and I am unable to have my own kids. So does that mean I SHOULDN'T be a midwife, because I'm never able to empathise with the women ?! No, it doesn't. I can give just as good care as midwives who have their own children.

@@clairejoicey7648 I am not saying a good midwife but when my child they was alot young midwife they was all nice also in hospital. And very helpful

is it a requirement that you have to had children to be a good midwife? i know midwives who dont have children and are amazing midwives

Unfortunately yes childbirth is life threatening even today

She had some eye irritation from hay-fever or something similar and didn't want any dust or other irritants to get into the eye and make it worse.

Hope,Brenda's eye gets better soon.

Some women like changing their hairstyle a lot.

Don’t start!!!!

It's normal for us black women to constantly change our hairstyle lol.