There were at least two things you did right: 1. Leave the UK 2. Get out of that situation alive and live and learn from your experience. What a catalogue of errors, with all the signs on the wall that you couldn't see because of wanting, albeit not consciously, to live a fantasy. It all sounds like confessions of a fool with more money than sense, but by sharing this video you might prevent some other blind idiots from falling for the same scam. Divoced men with good financials are the prime target for any "love hook" scam, among other things. This can happen anywhere in the world, part particularly in large cities where many people are driven by money. In a poor country like Thailand, there will be even more people from poor backgrounds that try to find a way out of poverty. The mass tourism, which includes "sex tourism" (I know you didn't go there for that) will attract both types to "the party" - those vulnerable to (sometimes driven by) various desires and those willing to fulfill them for a PRICE and then back out of "the deal", but with all the benefits on their side! The bit about her having cancer and then you wait outside while she goes into the hospital, that is clear as day the sign that it was a lie. The Internet is plagued by websites to tempt men and women into situations that then go badly wrong. In this case, you managed to do it live and direct while trying to make a new start in life. Fortunately, you seem to have broad shoulders and are now able to reflect on it and put it all behind you. You sound like an overly trusting person, gullible even, so take your time and don't assume others will see things or do things as you would. If you've suffered depression, then you should be working on yourself first. Get to the bottom of your issues and transform yourself. Leave the temptations to massage your ego, it will always lead to pain, shame, etc. If you don't really know yourself, or at least be working towards it, then how can you really expect to find love and happiness with another, especially when you don't know anything about them and you're in another country and there are huge language and culture differences. Take your time to get to know a person in real life, not in bars and clubs. Don't fall for the emotional or other "good time" triggers without finding out what's real first. Look at yourself hard, but also give yourself a chance and be positive not needy.

I remember I went to Phuket with the wife in the early 90s on two weeks holiday, after a week it was changeover day and the lads from Manchester probably early 30s were saying goodbye to their Thai girlfriends there was hugs, kissed, crying, the girls were crying the lads were crying the girls were on their knees pulling at their hair distraught, the lads were promising to keep in touch, come back, send money, it was all very distressing, that was about 5pm, we went out for dinner about 9.30 pm and those girls were in the restaurant with the new arrivals that had come on the plain the Manc lads were going home on, not a care in the world, laughing, kissing, flirting, happy as and I just thought about the Manc lads, on the plain still, all miserable and making plans for their future with the Thai girls......

So many guys who come to live in Pattaya.....who were married, now divorced, with kids now grown up.....think they are gonna be that guy they were before being married.....but that guy is long dead and they revert back to what they know: marriage and kids. And the cycle begins again. Plus, the majority of guys CANNOT live alone. They confuse boredom with loneliness. Big mistake.

A fool and his money are easily parted. An old fool and his money are parted even faster.

There are very few 20 minute KZfaq videos that keep my attention. A human story from someone with nothing to prove, but a great deal of valuable experience - thanks for sharing.

I went through all that crap 20 years ago! She moved her family into the house I had bought. She 'disappeared' somewhere with 'her car' ! I took the 2 very young kids with me to a small rental house in town. As I was working I hired a maid. Engaged a lawyer, he was fantastic. I took her to court for divorce and custody of kids, and division of estate. All went well, Thai court were excellent! I paid her out a bit, kept the kids and got the house back after about 1 year! House was 'gutted' all furniture taken by family, but eventually it all came back together! She never contacted the kids for 7 years! Kids are now through University, well educated and working. The days of living on 'Elm Street' are lone gone! So don't worry--over time it all comes good! *I'll never ever get involved again! ** Pay for play and 'walk away'. Good honest report Trevor! Well done!

“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself.” 🐕 Thanks Trevor for sharing your experience. ❤👍

Fell for the first woman I met in Thailand!!!!-19 years later we're still together, she's ace & Burmese

Huge respect to you mate, you are the better person for accepting the situation and moving on, which is never easy, take care and stay happy and healthy.

Trev my heart goes out to you mate I’ve been battling cancer since I was 30 and now 38 . I’ve had my teeth and tongue removed at such a young age and I can’t believe how someone could lie about such a thing !!! Thai people just love money and it always happens to nice guys . Stay strong mate and can’t wait to visit Thailand 🙏

Good of you to be so honest, telling your story even though it shows you to be naive, but to warn other men. That takes balls. Kudos to you. Mind you, I'm not sure this story is exclusive to Thai women. The story could be in any country. 😉

Unfortunately as an Austrian guy I'm not able to follow you in every talk of you because of your quick and special "dialect", but this video was very emotional for me. Its a fact, coming to Thailand it is very easy to fall in love, belonging to me this happens within just 2 or 3 days... Until now I didn't loose some money, thanks God. On the other hand I met a lot of expat married for many years with a Thai lady and they are very happy.. It can be good or bad everywhere in the world. But many thanks for giving this deep inside in one part of your life and as you mentioned very often, it was also a nice phase of live too....

I love it the dog saying grab a pair and leave her. You traveled down the hard road to success. Congrats!

Most of people would not talk about their bad experience , i admire your courage .

When I first came, here a good older friend of mine who had been round the block said to me "They are born lying, don't trust or believe anything they say. Pay them to leave the next morning it's the only way." That advice has stood me in good stead for 7+ years now.

Give yourself a lot of credit Trevor!! You know what I'm mean. Hard lessons, it's about forgiveness and faith.Your good people and that's priceless

You've helped someone, somewhere, from making the same mistake you did. Thank You!

Big respect for telling us your story. This is great. Looks like in the end everything went very well for you.

Respect for telling your story Trevor....I just got away from an Ex Gogo (38 years old) a real expert! ..She was playing the long game, eyeing up all the assets, condo (although it was 100% Foreign Freehold, best move ever)..It's taken a lot of effort to walk away as she was incredibly sexy and fun but dangerous. I had to totally block all contact and never look back, saying nothing . It still hurts ,but I know I did the right thing and consider myself V lucky. I listened to my gut and instinct at the time. I would have lost a lot more if not the lot and then just been replaced eventually, I am 100% sure of that.

The best lessons come from the most painful experiences! And you've learned, grown and matured from those difficult endeavors.. Most importantly, you are resilient and able to bounce back and recover fairly quickly, with minimal damage and a good attitude. We, (you, me and everyone) really lose when we cant trust again or have bitterness, anger or resentment. Good job, great attitude and good luck, sir.

I experienced worst in the states my friend. Looks snd money makes no difference. Your personality is a blast of energy people are drawn towards truth and honesty. Fun is the name of the game keep having fun in the end we are all buried alone with no money.

No mate, you're spot on. It's not as easy as it may sound to just walk away from things like that. But on the bright side, you came out the other side happier and stronger. All the best to you, mate. People like her will get their comeuppance one day.

Thanks Trev Just been through it. 4 years then the silent treatment overnight. Lost so much because it’s not worth trying to fight for it. Killed my dream, but hopefully rebuild 🙏

Thanks for sharing your story, absolutely astonishing….proves the old saying what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Glad you finally found happiness. Best wishes for the future mate 👍

Hell of a story thanks for sharing we all taken a big loss over a woman myself included.

My Filipina wife has taken me down too after 14 years marriage. Nice to hear you're now happy.

Trev, you're one keep it real/ straight shooter! I appreciate you so much. I don't know if you actually realize how much you help us total newbies. It's a lot! This video has a lot of views and comments, so it was of interest and of value to many!

Loved this. Good honest story of majorly fucking up in life. You bounced back anyway mate.

What a very candid heartfelt story; which can really help other fellows avoid similar pitfalls. Respect! God bless.

Well done Trev for sharing a difficult story. Takes a lot of guts and she lost more in the long run

Wow, what a great story. Very honest and not expected from the usual content. You always seem to be afraid about going out of your comfort zone, but I think you should trust your instincts because that is where your content seems to be your best. Just my opinion. This personal story is much appreciated. Thank you for sharing.

Thai's plan far ahead. I know a Thai lady that came to Australia and married a local guy. She sent his money 'home' for years to build a house in her village. She was working in my restaurant and she was telling me that she was just about ready to return to Thailand, and her Thai husband, as the house was now finished. 😁

wow Trevor, really enjoyed this vid. its a part of life that lots of us experience but never talk about. never thought that i would sit for 20 mins listening to someone just talking. thank you

Waaaw....A real life experience presented in a way that most reasonable people would understand and appreciate that at the very least "the journey and experiences of life" sometimes take us to places and situations that we never ever imagined. Thanks for sharing. It's stories like this that help make the "road" a bit easier to travel for some of us no matter where we go or find ourselves. Live long, live happy, live healthy and keep doing what you do. Cheers.

Glad that you had the emotional and financial resilience to come through this.

Trevor thank you so much for sharing your story your honesty and frankness say a great deal about your kind and positive character .

Fair enough, and well spoken mate. As an Expat American living in Vietnam for the past 10 years, your experiences are ringing true and very similar to my own. You don’t expect to fall in love but when it happens and they break your heart in half it hurts. However, from that disappointment, I have achieved a meaningful, rewarding, loving relationship for the past eight years with a sweet, honest, funny Vietnamese woman that I truly love. Life is too short to be bitter, and sometimes out of the trash heap of one relationship real happiness can be found. Love you brother for sharing your story.☮️

Good on you for making such an excellent effort to explain your honest and heartfelt experiences, in order to help others. Very happy that things turned out so well in your life. All the best.

The problem is Im an obese bald headed 65 year old but in my minds eye I am still as handsome as I was in my youth. How on earth could that beautiful 25 year old Thai girl resist me. It is pure narcissism on my part...the most attractive part of me is my bank balance and the fact that should I marry a thai girl she wont have too long to wait to inherit my hard earned

Glad it worked out - i remember a girl from Buriram asking me why i liked bar girls so much and after my waffle she said " but they are not nice people " and boy was she right , the nice ones work short term to get money for a reason, over 6 months forget about it ....

You live and learn fella. So pleased to see you still standing!! Keep that chin up keep up the good work, keep the vids coming. And I’m deffo out there in October

Men, everywhere in general and especially where you are; nothing more than walking cash registers. I never take anything women tell me seriously.

You've been through a lot Trev. I really wish you well in the years ahead. You deserve it mate. Keep up please with the updates and video's.

Massive respect for sharing your story, appreciate hearing it

Getting involved with those girls is a fool’s errand, but it must be a fun journey! You’re not the first and you won’t be the last, my friend!

Love is a form of madness and once you are fully consumed in it with a Thai lady...it's bloody difficult to walk away. Thanks for the honest video.

Trev, your courage is apparent in your vulnerability. To take responsibility and ownership for your mistakes because you were unaware, uneducated in Thai ways and having a big heart and a generous soul is not a bad personality characteristic...it was a life lesson. I did much research on Thai culture and Thai women before relocating to Thailand. I came looking for love and a long-term relationship. I still made many mistakes, nothing catastrophic but certainly those that created a need for adjustments in my perspective and expectations. I came in search of the simple and natural Thai lady from the farming community in the North. We enjoy both worlds, rural and natural farming but also time in Pattaya golfing and Island hopping. After 18 months in Thailand and learning so much... sitting and enjoying a cold Leo on the beach in the early evening in Koh Samui with my Sweetheart I couldn't help but think and say..."This is the life, this is so nice, what a beautiful place, what a beautiful country....thank you Love." We all create our own destiny via our own choices...there are always mistakes. Don't worry about being right all the time, instead try to be wrong less and be grateful for all you have experienced in this wonderful life. My advice, go slow, a little at a time. It is all one big gift...give more than you take. Cheers!

Thank you for sharing your story. I've met many men in Thailand with the same story, it is more common than you think. I had a Thai girlfriend for over a year, and several other short term Thai relationships. I've definately learned a lot. There's a HUGE range of situations. I've had girls I pay a monthly stipend to (which goes to help support their family), to girls who never ask for money, pay for our dinners and taxis, just want my baby, etc. I've never lived with a Thai girl though... Culturally there's a big difference than the west. They deeply believe in "being lucky", and live day to day, but lack empathy. Everything is opposite from the west. In America, children get an allowance from their parents, money flows down. In Thailand, money flows from the children up, to the parents, brothers, grandparents, etc. Thai women are head of household, so Thai men ask their younger female family members for money. After my experiences, I would never, ever buy a house with a Thai women! That is considered a gift to her; you have no rights to it. Own your own condo, so if things go south, she must leave. I even dated a Thai girl who owns a house purchased by her ex foreign boyfriend! It's just wild, but extremely common. When you fall in love, it's easy to want to support them and at the time it doesn't seem like that much money, but you just have to be careful.

Thanks for sharing that , sounds like you're in a good place now . Love your positive attitude pal thats a great asset to have never lose it .

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's easy for people to sit back and judge or make fun, but it could easily happen to anyone.

Very brave to share your storey Trevor. We all can get drawn into the lies over here. For my part having had 4 failed relationships where I sponsored a girl whilst still working and going backwards and forwards, I was about to give up on Thai women. Thats until I met my wife who was 19 and a gogo dancer. 11 years later we are now fully together and married for 8 years. These relationships do work but you just need to find the right one. By the way I am 35 years older than her.

This is one of the better stories I have ever watched on youtube. thanks for sharing.

Good on you for being candid with us mate. It's always the sign of a fully rounded human being when U can share things that went wrong and have a chuckle about it. I reckon 'Private Dancer' should be mandatory in-flight reading for anyone heading to the LOS...

my thai landlady says 'you can take the lady out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the lady'.

An honest story .I can not point the finger as a similar thing happened to me.The house was not B3.7M but B1.4 M but with improvements and money spent on furniture it probably came to B 2M .We lived there 10 years up in Chiang mai .At least i got 10 years where i was rent free and when we sold she did give me B300k . Met her in Pattaya .She had a hair Salon off Soi Bukhao .The shop was flooded out at the time with 50 cm of water .She lived in the back room and her bed was swimming in water.We hit it off.I felt sorry for her and let her stay with me at my tiny Condo in Jomtien.The rest is history and it did work out and i was happy enough for 9 years at least ,until it went pear shaped mainly due to my lack of money .

Thank you for being honest and genuine, it helps guys looking at this from a distance.

Thanks for sharing man loved your honesty

Same thing happened to me dealing with a Thai woman. Bought a house and was planning to retire. Ended up having to walk away from a newly built house. Thai ppl in tourist areas learn very easy to take advantage of foreigners. I was giving this woman money every month and she still insisted on staying in the club. Maintaining her self image in front of other aided in her downfall. Sad part was learning her parents and family whom I helped quite a bit were in on the scam to hide her real intentions. the end, she lost everything b/c she was never taught money management nor how to run a businesses. Great life lesson learned. I regrouped and got back on my feet. In the end I learned foreigners are mostly looked at as check books to Thai women.

If it floats, flies or fucks you are always better off renting.

Thank you for sharing this story about a part of your past. Great things come from tragedy and you meeting your wife is a perfect example of that

Fair play to you sharing your story and you're so humble and honest about it too. Hopefully it can help someone else avoid being swindled. I'm impressed you're so cheerful and positive, and I wish you all the best for 2023

Good Honest Story Mate, You'll Never Get To The Bottom of Them, Strange Breed, The Sad Thing is You Take Them Out of Poverty, Give Them A Bloody Good Life Style, And This How You Get Repaid, They Don't Deserve Us, Sometimes it's Better to Leave Them Picking Rice, Although it's Against Our Better Nature, At Least The Dog, Bless it's Heart Stood by You, Your Best Friend 👌

Don't be silly. You pay for short term fun if you are into that scene..long term is a recipe for disaster for your savings. Remember fellas renting is cheaper then buying.

Wow what an incredibly honest and thought provoking video this was. Really interesting to hear about your experiences and sorry it didn’t work out but really glad there was a silver lining at the end of it all. You didn’t have to share all of those personal experiences with us but glad you did. Very honest and frank appraisal of what could go wrong.

Trev,, not boring in the slightest! I love how honest you are, your ex, depression etc. Respect

Not your girl, it's just your turn. Even if you really like her, just compliment her and let her go. That's all you can ask for. Just be a slag and get in and out. That's life.

Came to Thailand because I love spicy food🤣🤣🤥Give over mate

Thanks for your story, love the honesty, and keep them coming.

I simply love this video. So honest and raw. Cheers my friend. Love all your vids.

You lost the girl but got to keep your dogs, that's a good trade in my opinion. You'll get far more loyalty from a dog than you'll ever get from a woman!

I suffered the same fate, I don't know if you've seen Dave and Nat on Thailand Bound channel but it's a very must see for anyone coming to Thailand.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. That took a great deal of courage.

Hello .. i thought it was one of the most honest videos I've ever seen.. your guts...honesty..and bravado....hats off to you. Wishing you and mo the very best. God bless

That happen everywhere in the world with any woman…that said, full respect to you. I married a Thai bar girl 30 years ago. She gave me two lovely children and we all still are so happy in our lives….but that happen everywhere in the world with any woman..That said the guy who enter the tiger cage should know he courbe be eaten…

A high percentage of these girls are born into the hustle, know the game, and have no qualms about destroying people for fun and profit.

Thank you for your honesty in all of these presentations!

So honest love your honesty trevor and all your shows too. Good luck with mo

Sounds like every relationship/marriage I ve ever had , here in California. No Different. Pattaya, Los Angeles, all the same. But Great Video, and thanks for your expertise and hard work. hehehe

Hi Trevor, that cancer lie from your ex filled me up with rage. I lost both my sons aged 23 and 29 to cancer two decades back and I can completely relate how you must have felt. Though you’re laughing it off, losing it all isn’t a big joke. I’m so glad that you’re doing well with your present wife and life in Thailand. May it remain like that forever, best wishes.

What a great story, I can’t thank you enough. I lost my wife after a 42 year relationship, 8 years ago. I am very vulnerable, & this could happen to me. I have tried to get a lady to spend sometime with me. The chat is always questions about my finances, how much is my house worth, what pensions do I receive, what’s my Company worth? I never wanted to be on my own, man shouldn’t live on his own, two heads are better than one, aren’t they? Happy New Year to you.

Found your channel when your Wellthyme video popped up…. I love the way you present your vids and now hooked 😊. Will probably never make it to Thailand - too old now - but it all looks great fun, and I get the need to be respectful/walk away situations when visiting, having followed another of your vids. Well…I’m working through the channel, and just want to say, thanks and great to watch. Good wishes from UK 🙂

Happened to an older friend of mine, he gave her and her family 100 of thousands of dollars, married her so she can get the visa ofcoarse and come to LA. Lets just say she has a house now and he lives in san bernadino. All they care about is the money and money to they family, you cant buy a girl no matter how lonely you get, and we all get lonely at times even with a wife laying next to you

Brave story sounds like you a positive person . Thanks for the advice

Respect. Not many man will admit to their mistakes so honestly like you.

I like the way you turned your situation around. It's good to hear.

I have lived in Pattaya for many years.....no comment. It is a syndrome called "Cherry Boy Thailand". I have seen it scores of time. First time away from home. Divorced. You are prime bait.

‘I came to Thailand because I love spicy food’ 😂 yes he did actually say that

You are absolutely right. Really appreciate your straightforward talk.

mate! started watching and you made me late for work!!!! i had to follow you through your journey...glad you are out the other side top bloke!!!

Learning to be by yourself is a great benefit ,especially in Pattaya. I can go out and have my fun (outside my hotel). Come home to my hotel sanctuary with no issues.I would hear screaming matches at night,doors slamming and guys being given hell. I wouldn't start a business with a beautiful stranger. I buy no meals or drinks for strange women whose friends want to rort me. I never have an issue, I never get involved in dramas. Fly low and alone.

Silent treatment such a classic. My two experiences with this ... 1. British wife. She could freeze me out all day then her mobile would ring and the smile would come on and the lively tone of voice! Then back to glum the minute her call ended. Such an operator. 2. A Kenyan g/f, we had a fantastic couple of visits then on the 2nd one we were driving back to the airport and she went silent on me for 3 hours. We got to the airport and as we bid farewell she asked me to leave her with $100, well I gave her a $50 note and told her we will never meet again but that it had all been great until a few hours ago - adding that a woman who does silent treatment even before a ring goes on is simply a no-no. Imagine life 5 years down the line. I went into the airport to check in, had a few Tuskers and laughed all the way home about the dodged bullet.

Thanks for sharing your story, bro. You saved a couple of broken men from falling deeper.

I've never been to Thailand but I'm still really enjoying the stories.

Apart from the bedroom aerobics, what on earth is a middle aged bloke and a 20-something girl going to have in common?

Middle aged men are vulnerable to pretty and calculating women especially when bereaved or divorced. I do not sneer or laugh at you I'm very glad your life is on track,but there were a number of red flags in plain sight! I'm a man of 67 years of age and I don't look bad for my age. I also know a woman twenty five or thirty years of age would be interested in me for money not looks! If men go into this situation in Thailand,Philippines or Vietnam. Be careful. The attention of beautiful women is hard to resist,but be realistic. You are a lucky man to have found happiness. I lost my wife a year ago after twenty happy years she was kind generous and caring I miss her every day,but I will probably live my final day's as a widower. Your story is a very cautionary tale.

You love to set people up and see them succeed 💃 That's why good things keep and will keep coming your way and you'll keep being successful. Thanks for sharing ❤️🍾

I like your honesty, great story 💯👍

To be honest Trev, this isn’t necessarily just in Thailand! I had something very similar over here in the UK with my Italian ex. We all live and learn….

1: Never buy a house in Thailand because that will always be in someone else's name, instead buy a condo in your name. 2: You can own the car in your name.

Thanks for sharing your story!