Love Actually is Perfect, Actually | Guilty Pleasures Ep. 88

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Love Actually is Perfect, Actually | Guilty Pleasures Ep. 88

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GUILTY PLEASURES
Comedians Zach Kornfeld, Kelsey Darragh, and Garrick Bernard take turns sharing their favorite guilty pleasure movies and TV shows to feel good about feeling guilty.
PODCAST DEPT
Executive Producer | Keith Habersberger
Executive Producer | Eugene Lee Yang
Executive Producer | Zach Kornfeld
Podcast Producer | Miles Bonsignore
Podcast Editor | Rainie Toll
MUSIC: Licensed from AudioNetwork
SFX & VIDEO ASSETS: Licensed from Videoblocks

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@clairegopaul4977 Жыл бұрын

"it's brave of Zach to do this because 3/5 loves are an hr violation" I screamed

@lexcantshoot Жыл бұрын

It's technically 5 too, Harry and the hoe, Laura Linney and the gorge guy, Hugh Grant and Natalie, Colin Firth and his housemaid and then the two in the porno together. 😂

@mookayla2889 Жыл бұрын

the fact that the most innocent storyline in this movie is Martin Freeman filming porn

@hailey7368 Жыл бұрын

It's honestly the only storyline I enjoyed lol

@dhritiseth9487 Жыл бұрын

Zach calling Thomas Sangster 'that kid' when they're the exact same age will forever be my favourite thing

@missmollybruton Жыл бұрын

How did nobody mention the scene where Emma Thompson cries to Joni Mitchell and then pulls herself together before going out to the kids? That has to be one of the most amazing scenes because it says so much with absolutely no words

@kyris66 Жыл бұрын

As someone with kids who's been cheated on, that scene hits different now.

@alaytheaherr Жыл бұрын

this scene and emma thompson are the only reasons i watch this film. otherwise i can't stand it lmao

@kristenhaynes4343 Жыл бұрын

Zach is so adamant about how creepy Andrew Lincoln was that I can’t help but wanna go back to September 2022 and give him a big hug.

@annam1592 Жыл бұрын

The Andrew Lincoln creepiness is compounded by the fact that Keira Knightly was 17 when she shot this movie

@cheskaarana6097 Жыл бұрын

That reminds me, Scarlet Johnansson was 17 while shooting Lost In Translation!!!

@pamlegaspi Жыл бұрын

kelsey can we get an update about zach's missing croc?

@julians4094 Жыл бұрын

important

@christomas7948 Жыл бұрын

This episode was recorded the same day as that one.

@Thebeckyfiler Жыл бұрын

And Keith Eats McDonalds Live

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

5:15 Garrick and Miles recreating ‘The Walking Dead’ is a separate show waiting to happen.

@arielle.notthemermaid Жыл бұрын

Let them see this pleasee..

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

@@arielle.notthemermaid Thank You! CARULLLLLL CARLLLLLLL

@Thebeckyfiler Жыл бұрын

I’m crying laughing

@princessleia9735 Жыл бұрын

1000% would watch

@nothere8714 Жыл бұрын

I think you should really do a watching of easy A, I know Tucci month is over but it's such a good movie worth talking about, and even though it's quiet a small role, Stanly is such a goal dad!!

@anoudegozaruna Жыл бұрын

In the director’s commentary, they said they had a storyline where Mr. Bean’s character was supposed to be an angel of some sort. And that’s why he showed up randomly throughout the movie and intervened in the ways he did. But they did away with the supernatural aspect of it at the end.

@pamelah1220 Жыл бұрын

Im very curious about how the tone would have shifted.

@Jena_McLean Жыл бұрын

I was halfway through the episode on Spotify but had to come here as soon as this was posted to experience the parkour sequence with them

@NK-hv2vx Жыл бұрын

We r the same person

@boho_sol Жыл бұрын

Same lol

@kathrynzeh7907 Жыл бұрын

I also had to switch it to KZfaq for this reason. 😂

@delores415 Жыл бұрын

SAME

@kimwalsh905 Жыл бұрын

My only thing about them saying this film isn’t really about love; it’s mostly about non-romantic love. It’s about love for friends, your kids, your sibling, your music manager, your country (?) idk 😂 but that’s why I love this film.

@NathenRiver Жыл бұрын

So true! The family love of the drummer kid and his stepfather, bonding after the death of his mother. The lady who doesn't get her office romance because her brother needs her more, and the musician and his manager who, in the end is his best friend and longest lasting companion.

@aqu1no Жыл бұрын

Surprised Zach didn’t mention that Keira Knightley (Juliet) is only 5 years older than Thomas Brodie-Sangster (Sam) as a fun fact

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

As someone who loves ‘Pride and Prejudice’ (2005), I low-key fainted at “F**k Keira Knightley.”

@kyris66 Жыл бұрын

Especially once you realise how young she was in this. I think she was like... 17? 18?

@lizbeth3638 Жыл бұрын

Am I the only one who hasn’t seen some of these movies but i love this podcast anyways 🤣

@arielle.notthemermaid Жыл бұрын

As a fan from different side of the globe, I prolly havent watched half of thr movies fearured here 😂😂

@abbykenney8610 Жыл бұрын

I love this podcast but I've only seen 11 out of 88 movies that they've covered thus far.

@aaaaaikaaaaa Жыл бұрын

same here lol i know some of the movies but i also just like listening to them so 😅

@zerocraic3966 Жыл бұрын

I have seen maybe 20% of the films and enjoyed maybe 10-15%… some of my favorite episodes are for things I never have seen and have no interest in seeing - Highschool musical, greatest showmen, trolls, and minion movie are some of my favorite episodes and I will never watch any of them

@arielle.notthemermaid Жыл бұрын

@@zerocraic3966 the greatest showman, the jumper, 50 shades of gray and lucky number sleven 👌👌

@adrianpink8144 Жыл бұрын

I agree with Kelsey, this movie is a guilt. It did not make me happy. However, that gymnastics deleted scene with the adult body double was the funniest shit ever lmao

@RyanIsOnYoutube Жыл бұрын

Miles is the real one here calling out an amazing movie “About Time”. It’s not so much a debatable guilty pleasure, it’s just great, so I doubt they’d ever have it on here.

@kyris66 Жыл бұрын

About Time is so wonderful!

@angelacarrerarivera Жыл бұрын

It is beautiful

@effelmendoza1374 Жыл бұрын

About Time freaking slaps! ❤️

@emmapanvil Жыл бұрын

I cried watching it. So beautiful

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

If Kelsey can call a character in ‘Bridget Jones’ Diary’ by Moaning Myrtle then I think it’s ok to have Zach say Severus Snape 😂

@Rooney87 Жыл бұрын

I read Keira Knightley was 17 when she filmed that movie which makes those scenes even more creepy.

@kyris66 Жыл бұрын

People often forget how young she was in her movies. She was like 16 in Bend It Like Beckham and 17/18 in this.

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

My favourite facts about ‘Love Actually’: - The actors who played Sam and Joanna were in ‘Phineas and Ferb’ as Ferb and Vanessa. - Hugh Grant’s Dancing in 10 Downing Street was approved by the actor at the last minute.

@purplepuddlenut Жыл бұрын

Love Actually is SUCH a creepy movie and I am very excited for the takes I am about to watch

@kilianalexander2736 Жыл бұрын

OK but Miles sounded EXACTLY like Jon Bernthal when he said "COME ON RICK"

@EvitaGlez Жыл бұрын

All in for Zach’s sociopolitical analysis corner ❤

@1DawnMarie1 Жыл бұрын

The way I cackled at that gymnastics sequence!!

@emilycotrufello1926 Жыл бұрын

Emma Thompson’s performance is stellar. That scene in the bedroom where she breaks and pulls it all back together? InSANE!

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

An underrated joke in the movie is the Prime Minster and the Employee in a car heading to the school with the conversation ending with “That was literally around the corner.”

@ChronicLory Жыл бұрын

8 is a lot of legs, David!

@lisa-mariel4899 Жыл бұрын

I actually see the story about the family man cheating as being about the unravelling of the love story between the married couple, not the "love" between him and his secretary. I feel like you maybe interpret the love story theme in too positive a way (some love stories are tragic ones), at least as far into the ep as I am now. Fun ep as always tho :)

@jaquelinerose Жыл бұрын

I’ve never understood people that say this is their favorite Christmas film Did we watch the same thing? Its so chaotic and not in a good way

@DashValkyrie Жыл бұрын

The point about how they cheat with the music!!! you could basically have someone say "I killed your dad" and have that woodwind section strike up and you'd be like "SO ROMANTIC 😭😭"

@maplelump Жыл бұрын

It's interesting how when Garrick mentioned that actors don't kiss until cameras are rolling, it got me thinking... for the past year I fell into the world of Thai BL and Taiwanese BL dramas, and they do intimacy training/camps with the actors. And yes, they kiss before filming, which makes a huge difference. You can tell which actors hate each other, and which respect each other, and one pair full-on said "yeah we're dating now, what of it?" Then you look at other media, sometimes I think they would benefit from this training. As you can tell which actors are truly comfortable with the others.

@Serendipityisthis Жыл бұрын

Portuguese here 🖐 we DO NOT KISS on the mouth as a greeting, not even family members! That scene is so random. I don't know who wrote that scene, but it is not part of our culture🤬

@marissaemily8452 Жыл бұрын

Considering they went ahead with multiple workplace/cheating/inappropriate relationships, I’m sure cultural accuracy was not top priority lol I’m sorry it was a shit scene and not authentic, would have been a cool touch!

@vivibee3943 Жыл бұрын

Yes, agreed, it's such a weird scene. Besides, he flies to Marseille France to get to this Portuguese village??? Just have him fly to Portugal or don't show the airport 🫠

@LivingMyLife22 Жыл бұрын

‘White factory’ holy shit that got me 😂😂😂

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

I disagree with the title because I love bits of it. Dame Queen Emma Thompson and that Joni Mitchell track was just brutal. It’s more shocking than a death scene. P.S. ROWAN Atkinson is never not iconic and the Gift Packing Scene is legendary.

@anamerkury8881 Жыл бұрын

Bill Nighy stole every scene he was in

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

@@anamerkury8881You can say that about everyone in the movie.

@kathleenuclear Жыл бұрын

THAT SCENE! Where she is crying in her room, ugh my heart. She is incredible in everything she is in but this role holds a special place in my heart. That vulnerability, and anyone who's ever loved someone deeply and come to realize that person loves someone else or just doesn't love you as much as you love them can relate. She is perfect.

@ItsmeKristieB Жыл бұрын

@@kathleenuclear Yes! I watch this movie for that scene alone. Incredible acting. Guts me every time.

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

What we’re taking from this episode is ‘But f**king’. Happy to know Zach and Kelsey stood their ground lmao

@rmp1188 Жыл бұрын

35:39 I think someone with cheating habits will cheat wether they are in a monogamous or open relationship. Society will just be more likely to give the cheater a pass and not feel as bad (perhaps even blame) the non-cheating main partner for being in an open relationship.

@rmp1188 Жыл бұрын

@Summer Stanley 100% agree!

@thefinalfrontear Жыл бұрын

You’re absolutely right. Cheaters will find a way to betray your trust no matter how open your relationship is. One of the saddest things in the world is when someone opens up their heart and just gets absolutely trampled for it.

@faithmccready7116 Жыл бұрын

So did Zach ever get the other croc? I gotta know if he has a pair now or just had one sad shoe haha

@KCallia Жыл бұрын

1- the wedding videographer messed up the colour, that's why Keira's character asked to see the friend's tape 2- Rowan was suppose to have a more obvious role of the Christmas Ghost/Guardian, it got cut in the final edit 3- Kelsey's right: LA is a Cuffing Season movie 4- I'm looking up the word "posit" to see it's actually a word

@ibabylei Жыл бұрын

To add, the entire movie takes place in the 5wks before Xmas, and it ends on Xmas eve. Billy Mack is also trying to get a #1 song for Christmas.

@bigtimednp Жыл бұрын

My best friend loves this movie. Every year, she and one of her college friends get together to watch this movie and drink. I had to share this with her to see what she thought of your takes. So far she said “They’re just kinda complaining about how unrealistic all of the characters are.” 😆

@gryffindore007 Жыл бұрын

The way that I thought they said Bill Nye and I went THE SCIENCE GUY?!?!?!?!??!

@Hillary429 Жыл бұрын

Don’t they literally countdown the # weeks til Christmas throughout the movie.. not to mention it ends with a giant Christmas concert ❄️🎄🎅🏼

@kat_lynn_b3315 Жыл бұрын

Fun Fact: The actors who played Sam and Joanna went on to play love interests in Phineas and Ferb

@ninatabatchnick8963 Жыл бұрын

take a shot every time zach says the word 'posit'

@neivilde.1242 Жыл бұрын

24:27 i will never not be obsessed with the fact that EVERYONE, and i do mean everyone, seems to think that thomas sangster was peter pan at some point, and i don't know why! but i love it! he just give off peter pan energy???

@kathrynm5074 Жыл бұрын

I legitimately thought he was in finding Neverland , so maybe we all just confuse him with Freddie highmore a lot. Haha.

@DashValkyrie Жыл бұрын

Hear me out Kelsey! The movie begins and ends with Billy Mack trying to get his Christmas song to number 1 in the charts. There's drama about Christmas presents! There's a Christmas concert! It's def a Chrimbo movie

@ActuallyAnanya Жыл бұрын

I think one thing to keep in mind about the Prime Minister's speech scene was that Love Actually released in 2003, just months after British Parliament approved the UK's participation in the invasion of Iraq, against the wishes of the majority of the British public at the time. Most felt like the UK was America's lap dog in that era (and to this day) and so having this film where a British PM actually stands up to the US President was a lot more impactful with that context.

@vicentecastro7148 Жыл бұрын

This podcast is so amazing... My idol Zach, Kelsey is slamming as always & Garrick my hero... More power as always... 😎

@Imbatmn57 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying that this movie isn't about love, its just so gross how these people decide to get into toxic relationships.

@austin4211luckE Жыл бұрын

I feel like this movie is the epitome of what Men in Hollywood think women think is attractive or romantic or empowering.

@morgans3936 Жыл бұрын

i cannot believe the gymnast subplot... the AMOUNT of times i rewound this

@CleverChelle13 Жыл бұрын

I can't believe they got shots of Newt as a runner before he injured himself

@nicolehapgood6277 Жыл бұрын

As an English person, Keira Knightley was definitely still posh in this movie! I hate to think what you'd think of my accent!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@nicolehapgood6277 Жыл бұрын

Also, just for a bit of context about the Prime Minister Speech about Britain, at the time Bush was the President, and our prime minister at the time was being ripped to shreds by the country, because it seemed like he would roll over to all of Bush's demands. So this part of the movie was for the English lol

@roses4430 Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad I watch this podcast on youtube. That deleted scene was hilarious

@ktswing88 Жыл бұрын

We don’t call it TSA here, they are just airport security. 😏

@adinace Жыл бұрын

Disagree Kelsey, open relationships don't solve everything. People who cheat will cheat regardless, people who are stone cold monogamous won't change their minds that easily; if one person isn't on board it'll be a resentful half-ass attempt. And there's hella inclusivity issues surrounding the ENM community that I won't get into.

@Leentjhuuu Жыл бұрын

I wasn't aware of the inclusivity issues, please do get in to them! I very much want to educate myself about the subject.

@hsmoscout Жыл бұрын

yeah this movie is not fully of polyamorous people it's full of creepy cheaters and people who are being shitty to their partners lmao

@thefinalfrontear Жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree with you more. I don’t think anything blindsided me harder than getting cheated on in an open relationship. Like how was there all this leeway and freedom and he still broke the one rule we had? Turns out the correct answer was to just throw the whole partner away.

@samsherwood8332 Жыл бұрын

Using this episode as a soundtrack for decorating my Christmas tree

@uffda3937 Жыл бұрын

Ugh really? Almost every relationship in this movie is so toxic. I think people mostly only like it because of nostalgia, not because it's actually a good movie.

@kyris66 Жыл бұрын

I mean, hence it suits the premise of this podcast - bad movies that are guilty pleasures 😅

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

Alan Rickman and Emma Thompson represented one sided love heading to ambivalent love.

@tayloroo Жыл бұрын

I took my silly smoke break right before the parkour clip and I'm so glad I did 😆 incredible

@LivingMyLife22 Жыл бұрын

Time stamp please, I would like to do the same

@adrianpink8144 Жыл бұрын

Every time someone mentions white lotus on these podcasts I get scared they’re gonna spoil it 😂 I need to finish season 2

@lori1324martini 2 ай бұрын

I loved when the guys told Kelsey that dude sucked. "You're way too good for him". Big brother vibes ✨️I'm happy she includes them lol

@mookayla2889 Жыл бұрын

as someone whos asexual, this movie is fascinating

@Celestein Жыл бұрын

As someone who's sexual this movie is a cosmic horror experience

@artikagunathasan4040 Жыл бұрын

I swear most of us aren’t like the people in this film

@superbahamamama Жыл бұрын

Asexy same here

@abbehjeh Жыл бұрын

now you all need to do the valentines day movie with taylor swift in it. same "love actually" style, just worse imo lol

@chloeb7617 Жыл бұрын

THIS

@adrianpink8144 Жыл бұрын

I liked Valentine’s Day better lol

@arielle.notthemermaid Жыл бұрын

As a thomas brodie sangster fan, I stan the cut part of gymnastic stunt

@PrincessHeathaB Жыл бұрын

Tragic love stories are still love stories. Not all love ends well but it doesn’t mean it didn’t count. I had to edit to say that romantic love is also not the only type of love. There was definitely love in this film - family, friends, etc. Open relationships are great for some people but not everyone is built for that kind of relationship.

@ChickadeeTwee Жыл бұрын

I love all of the team doing fantastic Australian accent’s trying to be British

@renmo6061 Жыл бұрын

AMAZING.AMAZING review of “Love Actually!” I was completely in this episode and lost all touch with time!!

@adriennechrislady Жыл бұрын

I know the word limerance and we are GOING THERE! COME ON!

@jorjaconnolly419 Жыл бұрын

Also, Kenneth Branagh was married to Emma Thompson and he cheated on her...

@KathieHeartsYouu Жыл бұрын

I need the update on what happened with the missing croc!!!

@momedusa Жыл бұрын

Who else thought Zach said Bill Nye 😆

@adrianpink8144 Жыл бұрын

Same I had to look up the cast lol

@moolllyyyy Жыл бұрын

Are many of the love stories in this movie creepy? yes. would I also say it’s a straight up pleasure because I love it so much? also yes.

@linaljp Жыл бұрын

Let's be real, this movie is about love. Not true love, but IRL love. Love IRL is MESSY, and that is exactly what this movie is. I don't necessarily love this movie in itself, but I love some of the actors portrayal of their characters. Hugh and Emma really make this movie for me.

@llamachai Жыл бұрын

Bless you guys for this podcast! I need these episodes during my work week like I need oxygen LOL

@faith2980 Жыл бұрын

OMG AND KELSEY HAS A PAIR TOO 😂😭

@kait_pin Жыл бұрын

The one week where I actually watched the movie prior to the episode and I watched the TV version that didn't include the Martin Freeman plotline! I completely forgot about that storyline until they brought it up! I am so disappointed I missed out!

@heygabbymae Жыл бұрын

The movie Music and Lyrics is in the same vein as this movie and it's stupid and fun. They have a song called "Pop Goes My Heart" that is still a banger!!

@heygabbymae Жыл бұрын

ALSO Hugh Grant sings a 80s pop ballad.

@shahidfan4ever Жыл бұрын

I LOVE THAT MOVIE. It’s so underrated and Hugh Grant + Drew Barrymore were so cute together

@kyris66 Жыл бұрын

Music and Lyrics is HEAPS better than Love Actually. That opening 80s pop music video? Iconic.

@scottring6514 Жыл бұрын

THE GYMNASTICS!!!! I cried. The best.

@naxp42 Жыл бұрын

Kelsey saying “none of these would be an issue if they were consensually non monogamous” is basically me while watching any movie or tv show lol.

@daughterofdemeter Жыл бұрын

Rolling my eyes at straight guys telling Kelsey who she should be attracted to 🤣 Sorry men, but what you think we want we do not

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

Famous Last Words: “There’s nothing wrong with what we just said.”

@jorjaconnolly419 Жыл бұрын

Did you know that the little boy is only 5 years younger than Kiera Knightly, who was only 18 at the time of filming!

@LostNTranslations Жыл бұрын

Fight me! Hitchhiker's Guide was his breakout.

@Hillary429 Жыл бұрын

Just rewatched as part of a KZfaq membership watch party and it never fails to surprise me how fat phobic this movie is, gets worse everytime

@FlagCutie Жыл бұрын

I had never seen this until a few years ago, and I'm still wondering why it became such a classic when the romances are so creepy when you really think about it.

@kathleenuclear Жыл бұрын

I think it had a lot to do with the big names in the cast, because that's why I have a hard time admitting to myself how problematic more than half of it is. No matter what everyone else's story is, I will never get over the scene where Emma Thompson is crying alone in her room because she's realized her husband is a nasty cheat, it breaks my heart every time.

@adrianpink8144 Жыл бұрын

Yeah I didn’t like this movie. It was a downer and the romances were creepy/wrong.

@FlagCutie Жыл бұрын

@@kathleenuclear same. That scene always breaks me. And as much as I adore Alan Rickman, I'm still upset that he made Emma Thompson cry.

@gracechuka4098 Жыл бұрын

My favorite fun fact from this movie is that the reason Keira Knightly wears a hat in that one scene is because she had a pimple on her forehead. She was also only 18 while filming which feels insane to me🤯

@clodaghdonnelly235 Жыл бұрын

I love this podcast. But what I would like more than anything rn for the guilty pleasure podcast to do an episode on the 2022 ‘The Menu’. I think they would have so much fun with it.

@louellaworsham7745 Жыл бұрын

I didn't see this movie until I was in college, went in with high hopes and was disappointed--imo it's a weak film with a fantastic cast who did what they could with what they were given. But I can see why it's beloved by a lot of people. If I'd grown up with it or saw it when it came out I might've had a soft spot for it.

@MollyKillers Жыл бұрын

So I’ve never seen this film but it is my aunt’s and cousin’s FAVORITE Christmas movie and I can’t wait to pull out some of these hot takes over the Christmas dinner table 😂😂😂

@Lexapro101 Жыл бұрын

Fun fact, there was a 10th couple subplot. The couple were two lesbians in a relationship, but one was dying of cancer. Sooo, should we be upset they cut out lgbtq diversity or glad that they didn’t do the kill the gays trope? Debate.

@MaryAlice08 Жыл бұрын

The worst part about the "On Christmas you tell the truth" line is that he started the encounter by telling her to lie to her husband, his "best friend"

@Thebeckyfiler Жыл бұрын

This episode is UNHINGED and i love it

@JDD_MD Жыл бұрын

All I can focus on is their shoes and wondering what was the resolution to Zach’s missing match??

@Mileeblok Жыл бұрын

Kelsey is so right but that’s why I love this movie. People are stupid, it’s reality and it makes us angry then happy then sad, and we feel all the emotions. Great movie.

@PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

Laura Linney getting excited to have the hot guy over is who I want to be.

@Mango.Guacamole Жыл бұрын

Watch About A Boy next year for Christmas! It’s great and terrible, has themes of depression and mental health problems, themes of family and connectivity. Hugh grant’s character is more douchey and yet more likeable than his love actually character. And Toni collette is phenomenal. Please please please!

@ktswing88 Жыл бұрын

Alan Rickman is literally getting Emma Thompson/his secretary a Christmas present! How is it not a Christmas film?

@sighhAYSzG5AG Жыл бұрын

I love this movie, but I 100% agree with all the criticisms. I think the issue becomes when people use movies/cinema to dictate how they see the world. A movie can have problematic plot lines like this to make it entertaining, and just because it's entertaining, doesn't mean it should be done in real life. Most rom coms are not good examples of actual loving relationships. I think whenever people conflate the two, there's a recipe for disaster.