The husband thinks I’m justifying my behaviour by asking him to educate himself

​@@Noname-hs5lx That's a tough one. You have a battle ahead of you there. Tell him from me, it's a matter of life or death and he has the power to bring you life if he chooses.

Hi Sylvia! I'm sorry you're struggling so much. We understand how frustrating life with PMDD can be. You are not alone. We are here to talk. Please connect with our trained peer support providers at iapmd.org/peer-support or by emailing support@iapmd.org. You could also look at the provider directory map here, with doctors recommended by other #PMDDPeeps. If there is no one listed near you yet, don’t worry! It does not mean they don't exist, just that they have not been recommended yet. There is a guide on the page to finding a doctor near you: IAPMD.org/provider-directory. Sophie - IAPMD.

Get a full hysterectomy

Can you make an appointment with a psychiatrist? Are you doing ok? 🥺

Find a gynecologist that you don't have to explain it to.

I've had bipolar and adhd diagnosis for years. The past 3, add pmdd in. I can't get help with fmla or anything. About to lose my job because of absences. I physically can't get out of bed. It's the beginning of rage.

Hi there - You can find Aaron's video group here: iapmd.org/video-support-groups and the facebook group here: facebook.com/groups/143070706107978 We hope that helps! Laura - IAPMD

Is she searching for solutions? Is she working on supplements, diets, exercise, therapy etc?

@roblew1 sorry to hear that. I know my pmdd got a lot better once I understood what it was and looked into supplements and so on. But it sounds like breaking up was probably the best option for you Good luck moving forwards

It can be overcome and managed, but both parties need to know everything about psychology and how to apply it and be decided about what principles in every area of life down to where you place the tooth brush that you're going to agree upon to make the relatioship work. I have given both mine and my husbands testimony in two recent comments in this thread if you're interested in reading. I'm sorry and I'm also not sorry that you've had to go through this. You're possibly grieving loss, if nothing else a feeling of lost time if the relationship is over, But on the other hand, you will have learned a thing or two that you can carry into the future regardless of the direction you take. I have been blocked from making any more comments on this post.

Hello everyone! I short update here. We are still together. I have gotten used to this miserable situation of being told how ugly and useless I am once a month. The reason I put up with this is my daughter, who is five. I don't care about anything else than her well-being. I will separate from my partner as soon as she is old enough for me to raise her all on my own. Until then I just go numb and wait.

I would want my son to be happy, I would want that for him, but I wouldn't want him raising his children in a toxic environment. I raised my son on my own with PMDD and he at 18, is now a very self aware and emotionally strong individual who advises me on my emotional health because of how much he learned in our relationship. We have a great relationship and he tells me 'mum, I thank you for raising me the way you did.' I will say however, that I think my story is unique for many reasons. I had to 'micromanage' my life to ensure that what I understood about brain development and childhood development was applied to him. I also had to find courage in faith against fear and controlled myself against the extreme feelings that could have lead me to hurt, in order to be the parent he needed and to protect him from myself. I say all of this to bring you hope or perspective if that's what you're looking for, but everyone has different amounts of knowledge and a complexity of circumstances that weigh in on decision making. PMDD will test every ounce of strength both parties have and push to a greater understanding of truth. It is the most painful experience of my life. My husband says that I am the most difficult relationship he has had, but the most rewarding. The fact that you are here, shows me that you are searching for answers. That itself is enough to show that you are a good person and I wish you all the best. I have been blocked from making any more comments on this post.

Ha, yea. I think that's y it's subtitled. I thought the same thing 😅

It's not the most helpful in practical terms.