I'm claiming the mindset of " if you're not making my life any easier or if there's no positive uplifting from you being in it, then i see no reason for you to be around."

As a guy... if the guy likes you he'll do the work to chase. Mostly its personality, looks and if he enjoys your conversations. If you date the guys you friendzoned... trust me they'll do their best to make you happy even if you're not attracted to them they'll put in the effort and sometimes guys in your friendzone make the best partners. :)

I think the main message of this video is that, KEEP YOUR GODDAMN SELF-RESPECT TOGETHER GIRLIES! Do NOT give your all to a man who is not ready to make you his gf.

i feel so warm after watching this. you’re like the older sister at a sleepover that always gives the best advice. i came from the break up documented video and subscribed and seeing you blossom into this confident woman who knows what she wants. i wanna grow up to be like you😭 thank you for inspiring me

she starts at 4:45 with advice :)

I love how this isn't focusing on manipulating the man into a relationship or like tricking them into thinking your something your not. It's just healthy behaviour

you have absolutely no idea how much I needed to hear this. I am so so into this guy its embarrassing and was freaking out about what to do because he keeps letting me down emotionally and I know now that I need to just live my damn life and if he wants to be apart of that...boy better work but I'm not slowing down for him.

She genuinely sounds like such a sweet and polite person. I'd love her as a friend or my elder sister❤️

*Be confident and independent. Show him that you have a fulfilling life of your own and don't need him to complete you. This will make him see you as a challenge and want to chase you.*

she is perfect ! she is beautiful both inside and out and is polite and relatable !!

I was hurting myself and now I am so ashamed of it that I gave too much effort to the guy who didn't even cared about my emotions and feelings

You are so relatable I remember when I was dating my ex , we were texting and I suddenly disappeared for hours due to some work. When I finally texted him back , I said I'm sorry for disappearing while you were waiting the whole time, something urgent came up and from next time on I'll let you know how long will it take if I'm busy and he said no no that's not a problem you don't how much I love waiting for you especially when I don't even know when I'll hear from you again. And there has been many such instances with me, so I definitely believe men find it exciting to chase and that's their core nature. When we are too available we are actually trying to change his core nature and that's when things get messed up.

The key here is to be happy, have your life, enjoy… and then a man will come into your life and say: she looks so happy, let me go ruin her life

You’re such a comforting soul. I feel like I genuinely get to know you through your videos and they’ve definitely helped me through my breakup process, just want to say thank you for your vulnerability and honesty! Please don’t stop making videos like these 🤍

You’re dating advice is on point and I’m in my 40s. you’re wise beyond your years. Smart lady!!!! You’ve got it!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌

nah don't ever tell a guy what you want. It's giving them the blueprint to manipulate you!!

her energy and mindset >>> 💗

ahhh I love her she explains this in such a simple but feminine wayyy 🙂🤍

This is so much more wholesome than I expected, I actually feel beautiful hearing you say this stuff 🤧✨

i literally love your vibe girl, no matter what others say . your truly a gem out here💖. ILY❤

omg i loooove your energy. thank you for this queen🙏🏼🦋

I love her this video helped me so much already. I already feel better. im getting over a toxic relationship that lasted 2 years. we broke up two months ago. and I'm feeling a little better now. I dont want to put myself out there for awhile cause I wan to focus on sucess and myself but if someone comes around I know this advice will help. Especially since this helped me to understand that there will be someone who treats me right and I must wait and not put up with their crap because my worth. Thank you for this video I love you.

Omg yes girl lol put the advice out there. Sometimes we girls do the dumbest unnecessary things for a guy's attention lol. Your tips advice and support is very kind and very helpful.... thank you God bless u 🙏 ❤️

Omg gurl I love this so much, I’m so glad I watched this!! You’re energy is everything and keep being u girl! Thank you for this vid it’s so helpful & I like ur take on this topic ☺️💗✨

I swear when I am watching your videos it's like a listening my best friend.... girl thank you for being real and keeping up real!!!!!!!!

Thank you! I needed this video and I will rewatch over and over again so that I do NOT forget!

gosh you’re soooo stunning and glowy!!!! your makeup looks so pretty as well 💗💗

I have to agree with everything you said here. We must not be afraid of starting all over and we must never settle 💯 😉

Great advice and well taken! Love your energy and videos! 👍🏻💕💕💕💕

10:34 "You are not ROOM SERVICE...baby girl" 😂😂 very true tho.

Oh, am glad you are back

thank u for this video! youre so beautiful and everything u said was on spot! sending love xx🤍🥰

I didn’t know how much I needed this before I clicked.

Yes I learned about dating multiple men. You are more at peace. I have two guys right now, currently looking for number 3

Lumma is my lil therapist! Love you girl! 😍😍❤❤

Thank you for slapping reality into me ❤😂

I think "Why Men Love Bitches" is a good read related to this topic

I loved it..... Every time she says " babygirl" like aaaaahhhhhhhh!!!! Yes.

This is so what I needed to hear thanks for this ❤

You have become my best friend in my healing era. I just watched your 3 months breakup documented video and got so much motivation to feel I will be okay too.

I feel like I'm getting ready to go out to a party with my best friend watching this video. ❤️

Happy to see you back queen. You are so cute ❤

You’re literally so funny and have the best advice

honestly, do what you love to do but you are GOR-GEOUS without the makeup too!! wow!

Your channel saves me , not only in terms of life talks also seeing your vlogs makes me feel alive , I love you my saviour angel 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💞💞💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

That’s such good advice. I like how you said a girls gotta have standards and value herself. Thankx ❤~Subscribed

Idk what’s better, the makeup or the advice 😍💜

Lummaa please ur my fav! , cuz ur energy is amazinng

You will be in vogue I promise queen 💗💗💗💗

when i say this was the PERFECT timing

Girl yesss spread me that MOTIVATION!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much girl for this advice.

Some big sister advice Right there❤❤❤love it .

I needed this so much! Thank you

Girl you know what you are talking about. This is my new podcast right now ahaha. You have a beautiful voice and it’s nice to listen to your video’s❤❤

Wish I knew all of these gems before I got into a relationship 3+ years ago

How to make a guy chase you: You chase you.

i love you Lumma. i just genuinely love you !

omg, i love your advice sm. Wish i had knew it soon 🥺

Omg I’m a little late but I love your videos and especially this one🥹😩 I can totally see you pov🤭 thank you for blessing me wit your videos!!! Sending you kisses and wishes😌

Her voice when she sing

Love this and your positive mindset💖💖

you are such a queen ❤

I love that robe omg

4:40 is when she starts to give advice!

Giirl youree amazing!! Love youu❤️❤️

“This is not Build -A-Bear” 🤣 love it!

Love your video and your word of advice 😍❤️❤️thank you so much! By the way, you look so pretty😊

Thank you for this. I have been single 7 years & 50 next year. Hope one day the right man will come along. your stunning

I already have a man, but I’m here for the sister vibes and girl time! I love your energyyyy!

Too late I cleaned his studio apartment 😅😂 i know he’s not ready for relationship and I’m realizing that it’s him not me. This really help me want to move on more ❤thank you love 💕

💕 your video & channel. You gave the best advice!! 💛🧡

you literally look like a Disney Pixar animation, so pretty!

Yessss!!! Thank you for the reminder! I AM the prize 😜🤗😄

Two words.Big sisterrrrrr❤❤❤ u go girl

Needed to be reminded of these things 💅🏻😘 God bless

babe knew i needed this

allll facts and it works if use it in a healthy way

coming back here bcs 5 months after the breakup and 2 months after watching your break up videos, I'm healed and need knowledge to get back into dating

I used to be anxiously attached to boys only from being in the talking stage. Then this boy, SUPER handsome, smart and kind, with so much in common, came chasing me and made me his girlfriend AND he put a little weight on my finger. I was in the talking stage with a boy already who I was commited to. there was something missing there but I accepted it. luckily my now boyfriend put himself in my basket.

Thank you I have been looking for this video since the summer of 2022 lol I just subscribed

you are so talented. I love your singing voice. it sounds beautiful.

You’re on point, great video

First time watching you and I love you

Lumma keep up the good work!!

"this is not build a bear" AHHAHAHA

Ladies don’t be afraid to set your standards and boundaries, TRUST me you’ll benefit more thank you will loose. I know sometimes we can get scared to let our standards known when dating as young woman, but if he leaves when you show him your standards then he is not the one for you and that is OK.

I LOVEEEE YOUR MAKEUP!!!!!

5:40 omg I needed to hear this, thank you

One of the best vids I watched on here👏👏👏

I needed to hear this 🤌🏼

Been waiting for your pep talk ❤ good to seeeeeee you again

I needed this badly

I am one of the Asian girls. I really like watching your videos. Watching you, I increase self confident and self care. I am healing myself day by day. ❤ 🌎🌎🌎

Tell it gurl! Preach! Its so true! I read this book, Why Men love bitches. Dont be a nice a girl. Realize and take ownership of your womanly worth. But DO NOT ALLOW THESE FOOLS to take advantage of your worth which is DIAMONDS! Girl NO stop! Lumma is sharing wisdom. NEVER SETTLE. You are not room service. Dont become Mommie which is servant. I will say it is really sexy when a male is a gentleman, a males maturity is sexy as world.

You're the best friend every woman wants

Thank you for the reminders! I swear the ‘don’t treat him like your bf’ hit me so hard lol, much required!

So needed to hear this ..awesome dates ..live apart....he even puts me on the train!! Not just dropped outside the station...but when part ..keeps in touch ..but giving crumbs. All energy to get together...is from me. Yep .having that chat soon...

NOT MISS CLOWNY FROM THE CHANCE OF MEATBALLS IM CRYINGGGG😭 but Fr girl you right. I needa make the guy work for it lol!!!

I need to start watching this video everyday until I internalize it. I make myself way too available to guys I like.