Finding Your People: Building Queer Community & Lesbian Friendships (with Lexi Dussi)

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7 ай бұрын

Lexi Dussi joins Mal this week to talk about her journey to finding a queer community, starting from the dark days of lying to her straight friends about where she was, to becoming fully integrated in a queer friend group she couldn't have dreamt up. This episode answers some of our most frequently asked questions - how do I make queer friends? How do I navigate being in the same friendgroup as my ex? Where can I find community? Why do gay people only hang out with gay people? Tune in to find out!
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@FinolaMcGinley 4 ай бұрын

Funniest guest ever. 'I gaslit my housemate over buying a vacuum.' 'I went on a date with your girlfriend.' Lexi could have her own show too. Love your podcast Mal 😂😂 I wish I had this community y'all have in LA.

@someonesomehow379 5 ай бұрын

as a closeted lesbian in the middle east I needed this.. I’m comfortable with who I am and yk juggling spirituality/religion and being gay is a whole thing BUT I do think I’m gonna move somewhere at some point of my life.. so yes anyway loved this episode because community is so incredibly important like we all long to that no matter in what aspect of life.. thank you mal for this podcast I LOVE IT!

@elisku7065 Ай бұрын

I'm also there .. can i have your insta profile to context and maybe became friend ?

@jo_spot 6 ай бұрын

Lexi is hilarious

@mariaweisner6566 6 ай бұрын

I'm dying here 😅. She is hilarious. Bless your heart Lexi.

@caseysteidle7256 6 ай бұрын

Lexi is a national treasure!!

@malialmaooo 6 ай бұрын

i’m 17 and i just found this podcast. it’s now my new favorite thing to listen to. i’m in this weird part of my life where i feel like im never gonna get out and be able to find people like me, but listening to the stories of the people you have on here really makes me look forward to my future. thank you 🫶

@LamAnopro_ 6 ай бұрын

❣️

@megshogie6123 6 ай бұрын

You will find your tribe, they are out there! Try not to get discouraged. And keep listening to Mal! Her and her amazing guests give some very good advice, have some great stories and experiences, maybe give you some ideas how to go about FINDING your group.

@EmiliaSkade 5 ай бұрын

Same here!!

@mariac0511 6 ай бұрын

Hey! I am a constant podcast listener but this one blew my mind. I find myself waiting for a new one every time-it's become a highlight for me. I love the way you share your experiences; it makes me feel a genuine connection, even though our upbringings and countries may be very different. Greetings from Colombia!

@nikamarijanovic8213 6 ай бұрын

Same!! I'm from Croatia and it's crazy to think it's had a similar effect on me from so far away. I think the personal stories they tell and are hilarious imo are the reason why it's so fun to watch. I don't know how I came across this podcast but it's slowly becoming my go to thing to watch before bed. 🥰

@ineslove18 4 ай бұрын

Same from Switzerland

@yudie2 6 ай бұрын

Did anybody else screenshot the map? 😂

@adrianafajardo4036 6 ай бұрын

The people you invite keep getting better and better! So funny

@cocainekeiko 5 ай бұрын

Lexi Dussi's personality is amazing. Cheers to her coming out

@starchild2727 7 ай бұрын

I don't get why you wouldn't just tell Heather "I'm going out- see ya later!". But glad ya got out! ❤

@deboravolpini3341 6 ай бұрын

"I have a date, see ya later" .... It's not your mother, it's just heather... 😂

@Seebee123 6 ай бұрын

Lexi and you need to do this together. This has been my favorite episode, I’m really loving this podcast

@margaux1593 3 ай бұрын

I absolutly love your podcasts, they're so comforting, thank you for that and for making me laugh :)

@ainoh6403 6 ай бұрын

This has quickly become one of my fave podcasts👏🏻 I'm excited to see you grow!✨

@FlyMeToWonderland 6 ай бұрын

Lexi‘s humorous art of story-telling is top notch 😂 Thanks for making this podcast, Mal. It is much appreciated ❤

@HighwaytoHobbs 6 ай бұрын

Lexi, you’re the whole package! Please never change. This episode was 100% the funniest thus far. 😂

@Rushofthewind 6 ай бұрын

This episode with Lexi and Mal made me laugh so much. I find myself waiting for new episodes to come out and I absolutely love this new series. 💗✨

@debbiebeveridge3237 6 ай бұрын

Another great episode! Mathilde has the best parties with the best friends. And of course, Shannon does too!

@MadeItOutPodcast 6 ай бұрын

We love you Deb!! See you at pride 🌈

@timtam39tw 7 ай бұрын

Now that was a real expensive sneak away date My Damn😂😂🎉😂

@peterb1861 7 ай бұрын

People should move or travel, if they can. Its so Eye opening and mind expanding!

@hiportugal 6 ай бұрын

I want to marry Lexi!

@AnnaKS78 6 ай бұрын

The end is so hilarious😂Thank you to everyone who made this episode. You r incredible❤❤❤

@rosun00 7 ай бұрын

Waiting for the podcast every week❤

@BlownAwayYeahFY 6 ай бұрын

I absolutely love your podcast ! It has been such a delight to listen to you and all of your guests, I'm so glad when the notification pops up saying that a new one is out (no pun intended) ! I could listen to them all day long and never get bored, it brings a sense of community quite needed at the moment. I love that they have different life stories and experiences, yet at the end, love always prevails.

@Honanna90 6 ай бұрын

Love Lexi as a guest!! She is hilarious and it's great to show the celebration and pride of 🌈

@juliecarlson2778 6 ай бұрын

I love Tuesdays for this! Thanks for another great episode - Lexi is hilarious.

@megshogie6123 7 ай бұрын

Yay!!! Its that time! I was so excited to wake up and watch this today. And as per usual, did NOT disappoint. Thanks Mal, and Lexi 😊 Made my morning! Ok, I just HAD to add...New Jersey!!! Make us one of the stops when you gals go on your RV excursion! Pretty please. Hehe a gal can dream, cant she??😊🌠 That really would be so fun though.

@munaaa.o 7 ай бұрын

This was wholesome to watch❤🥂

@JulesLern 6 ай бұрын

Love these tips and tricks on how to seek out community and get out of your comfort zone!!

@mimicolapietro2086 6 ай бұрын

My favorite podcast so far!!!! She is hilarious and just so real! Loved it!!!

@valenngerez 6 ай бұрын

There is something about this podcast that makes it so easy to watch and enjoy. Well done 👏🏻❤

@adelle468 Ай бұрын

Interesting to see that it is sort of the same thing all over the world. Nice to see someone that obviously has some experience of the gay life and just life in general and who is obviously also a highly sensitive human that still resort to a fabolously quirky sense of humor to navigate through these topics without making it too serious while still bringing home the more serious messages, and seemingly universal messages in here. Greetings from South Africa. Thanks for a fantastic podcast !

@wendella6920 4 ай бұрын

So enjoy your podcast! Recently found it and have binged almost all!

@livham1816 6 ай бұрын

Lexi is hilarious and a fantastic story teller. Another great episode, Mal! So glad I discovered this pod.

@Blue-ke9fu 6 ай бұрын

I could binge this daily this is such a great podcast!

@indegrrees 6 ай бұрын

I enjoy your podcast and look forward to new episodes. I didn't know any of the guests apart from Shannon, and I find it refreshing and very interesting to learn about them and their experiences that are so relatable.

@fleuravril1952 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so so much for this podcast! 💓You can’t imagine how much listening to this means to me as a newly outed lesbian.

@aimmmssaw3339 6 ай бұрын

I’m absolutely loving this podcast!!! Every one of them has pulled me in. There’s something so relatable with Mal and each of the guests that she’s had on these podcasts!! I get so excited to see the shorts because I know that a new podcast is soon to follow and I’ll be able to get my “Made It Out” fix😁😆🌈❤️

@madisonmccoy4388 6 ай бұрын

What an amazing episode!! I love hearing the stories of all the guests!! This podcast is an amazing thing that makes every queer individual feel accepted!!! Keep it up ladies!!! ❤❤

@Roy_kerani 7 ай бұрын

Just subscribed yesterday and I'm now addicted ...❤❤

@stellafrazier73 6 ай бұрын

Great episode yet again!! I love when people share their coming out stories. And is it just me or does Mal look like a younger Jennifer Anniston? 😅

@alexnichter8528 6 ай бұрын

Have been looking for Queer friends for 10 years where I live and have never found them. But I’m taking their advice and hopefully I’ll find some

@spollock131 6 ай бұрын

same!!

@princessadora7777 7 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ Love the singing part at the end🔥

@karlymorgan6011 6 ай бұрын

Love this podcast! ❤️

@LeeLoKins 6 ай бұрын

This is fast becoming one of my podcasts to listen to

@Ytb_hovie 6 ай бұрын

Another great episode!

@ingridslashy 6 ай бұрын

i freaking love this podcast

@cmerry3996 6 ай бұрын

This pod SLAYSSSS

@healthyself7941 6 ай бұрын

Not sure what "exploring" one's sexuality is. Growing up, and now, I always found girls attractive. A small percentage of people find same sex attractive. It's not like visiting different countries, exploring, to see which you like best.

@hiruki8 2 ай бұрын

Not entirely certain we're actually that small of a percentage. It's stigmatized so a lot of people won't admit it or are in denial. Plenty of people don't even REALIZE the reason their love life sucks is because they're in a het relationship but they're actually same sex attracted. All these late bloomer lesbians who really didn't know exist. It's going to get easier as time goes on

@Dani-lh4yy 6 ай бұрын

i like this girl, make her famous

@laurenhills239 6 ай бұрын

The way I never miss an episode

@mrs.rodriguez-vidal1461 8 күн бұрын

Many years ago my wife and I joined a queer Latin women’s group. It was nice the first few outings but then some women in the group turned out to be catty and competitive. It was an unpleasant experience. All of our friends are straight and although we love them, we hope to make friendships with queer women, particularly other couples in committed relationships. I’m actually really considering starting a couples group but I’m not sure how to begin. Keeping hope alive in NJ!

@nikolettachaimeli3293 7 ай бұрын

Job application : GAYYY 😂😂😂

@jaleesatuttobene7432 6 ай бұрын

Funniest episode so far lol I love this Podcast and the uplifting feeling it gives. How can I come interview?? haha So I can.."network".

@chack4845 6 ай бұрын

Please do the show daily 🙏 😂.

@Miyaslife 6 ай бұрын

I’ve been contemplating moving for a while and this feels like confirmation 💜

@MadeItOutPodcast 6 ай бұрын

the sign ✨

@nowthisisliving 6 ай бұрын

lexi is a tired top

@ok223ful 6 ай бұрын

I love it!!!! I think could be good idea make a lesbian party and we can meet each other 🙌🏻💃🍾

@bertieborough 6 ай бұрын

You know the old adage, "it's a gay gay world". Well, that's why guys have 'Footy' and 'drinks with the boy's' and girls have 'girl's night's out' and so on, because (and I know I'll get burnt at the stake for saying this) but like it or not, there's a little bit of gay in all of us. And Lexi's comment about the interconnectedness of a group of lesbian's past and present dating relationships reminds me so much of Lesha Healy's L Word character's 'Sex Board'.

@user-zo4bp1hm9l 6 ай бұрын

I love your podcast.

@ceceu9 6 ай бұрын

I relate too much with Lexi and I love it 😂😂😂😂👌

@eloisejenninger9735 6 ай бұрын

“What was the question” “I say hmm maybe” 😂 made me laugh so much. I love this podcast !! PS: Come to London !

@kileybatchelor 6 ай бұрын

How did Heather take the breaking news tho?

@emi7916 6 ай бұрын

i love her deadpan humour

@imani877 6 ай бұрын

WTFFFF She’s so funny!!💀

@sarahbey1304 6 ай бұрын

Ok that was so fun, speaking about friends, how to become friends with Lexi ?

@neddyfernandez1875 2 ай бұрын

This is the funniest guest! 😂

@mihaelamars 2 ай бұрын

I hope I find a group of friends like yours. This is just #lifegoals! Or maybe I should just track you down and join your friend group 🤣

@kohyimei8732 6 ай бұрын

Reminds me... I had a "Joshua Tree" scenario. It was an experience, so to say. I can relate to the mess of a scenario it can be.

@whatnot6647 6 ай бұрын

This was hilarious!!

@someonesomehow379 5 ай бұрын

hey is lexi a comedian or like does she do stand up?? if NOT she should!!

@biologygeek31 6 ай бұрын

This is such a great podcast. I do wish you guys come out in your RV and have a live podcast in my city, San Francisco, where lesbian bars was a thing of the past. Pretty sad. But the community here has dried up.

@SL8NS 6 ай бұрын

She is hilarious!!!!

@NanceN_12 6 ай бұрын

Fun episode.

@helenlawson8426 6 ай бұрын

Lexi was so much fun to listen too. x If you'd asked me before this episode if I'm one of life's organisers I would have laughed hysterically at just the idea of me being able to get my shit together. Now after this episode and thinking back about before I was out, juggling two lives while most my friends were struggling with just one... yep I can organise all right. 😊 Bloody exhausting way to live though, glad I got to leave all those secrets & lies behind and the greatest of respect to those unable to make it out. x Oh and did I somehow miss how Heather took Lexi coming out?

@llaslinvidal7042 5 ай бұрын

Love ur show definitely im definitely new....for last two years I bin trying to come out as bi...ur podcast show has inspired me to be myself 💯and that I'm not alone ❤ ...💯#34

@dreamergurlOG 6 ай бұрын

The best advice I've ever seen about this is to not fuck inside the circle, which is basically what Lexi is saying lol. Because if you do, especially as a new person to the group, you're always going to piss someone off (an ex or someone else who is interested) or cause drama or, if the relationship ends and you were the newcomer, you're now out and you've lost the community you just got. So it's best to fuck as far outside the circle as possible- which can be tricky but is def worth it lol.

@Sassafrassa55 4 ай бұрын

Come to NZ!

@JakiśTakiś 7 ай бұрын

❤

@gwen3842 3 ай бұрын

I love you ! Make Puerto Vallarta your first stop …

@celinel9750 6 ай бұрын

Finding those friend, creating bound and friendship is giving yourself your chosen famely, it was like that since way befor internet ( I'm that old ;-) ) but tru sport, club and even fandome, it's easyer then you think, just get out of your confort zone a little bit and the feild of rainbow will open 🙂

@kristiemars7747 7 ай бұрын

💓

@HayleeKlinger 2 ай бұрын

Buffalo ny for the tour.

@smussum98406 6 ай бұрын

Why can’t we all just be friends?

@idab6864 4 ай бұрын

Im howling laughing oh my god

@virgilmcclendon5072 6 ай бұрын

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖

@HeidiFieldAlvarez 6 ай бұрын

Come ski and party at Snowshoe Resort, WV. They desperately need a lesbian invasion! It’s also currently home to the legendary gold star lesbian mountain biker Missy Giove 🎉