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I am so grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips would you use first to make peace with the inner critic?

@@DocSnipes Thank you for asking! Here are some suggestions. 1) We need to get into Self-In-Presence, and come out of that place in the core of us, some people call Self, or higher Self, that has the qualities of Compassion, Curiosity and Courage; and we need to come from this compassionate, curious, courageous Place...because our parts are people - including our Inner Critic - and if we approach a Part from another Part - especially if the Part does not like the Critic, wants to change the critic, or has some agenda and is incapable of meeting the Critic as it is in its rawness - the Critic - just as we do as people when someone approaches us who really doesn't truly like us from who we are - will probably harden and become enmeshed against the Part with an agenda - as the Critic will then enter into Polarity with another Part - and as the Critic and other Part stand off against each other...the Polarity can remain, and our system can stay enmeshed for years and decades. We need to learn to get into Self-in-Presence, and be with our Critical Part(s), and Parts that are Polarised with it, and work not only with the Critic but also work with the other Parts around it: So we need to work systematically. This is working with individual parts in their own right, and in their relationships with each other; which is more complex than working with only one part. Even if we are with someone we love, and someone enters the room who doesn't really like us - because they are in the same energy field, that will affect us. We may be with the person we love, and still harden our heart a little, because there is an unfriendly presence in the vacinity. So too, in our inner world, even if we may be in Self in presence in relationship with our inner critic - if there is another part in our system who out rightly doesn't like the critic and stands against it - that other part is still in the energy field...and will be a part who is still polarised against the inner critic - and the critic most likely will harden and be enmeshed against that part - in a polarity - which can remain for years and decades - as I say; so really the most compassionate and wise approach, is to work around the system, systematically, with all parts, from Self-in-Presence. 2) As part of the complex Journey of working with our inner critic...We need to learn as we get into Self-in-presence in relationship with our critic, we will need to learn from the Critical Part, how it has come into being. All our experiences are learned in an interpersonal situation. When our parts experience trauma, our vulnerable parts can be very wounded indeed; and protective parts come in, to protect our vulnerable parts. Our Inner Critics are very very very often Protective Parts. Their Focus is usually very limited. And their agenda is often that the trauma should "never happen again." They often over-protect in ways which can be quite ferocious. And they can "protect" vulnerable parts using strategies they have learned interpersonally from others - which are so hugely over-protective they use the same wounding strategies others have employed on our vulnerable parts. In a sense the critics are carrying the shock of those traumatic experiences too; they too have been impacted and have often sworn "never again" will those traumatic experiences happen. Their strategies can be so extreme, so wounding, so devestating, that to other parts, those strategies can seem demented. "How or why would you protect someone by shutting them down? Shaming them? Damning them? Unrelentingly cursing them?" The strategy can seem to other parts quite mad. And this is indicative of the massive over-protective strategy and limited Focus of the Part adopting a critical strategy, who has not the broad focus to see the goodness of the part it is intending to guard against the trauma experience - or possibility of the experience in the present or future - ever happening again. This is often its only available strategy. And it can be absolutely relentless - often activated by the good qualities of the original vulnerable part it is trying to "protect" in the severest of ways in its limited Focus. Because of the challenge of this work, the being with parts is really really best done with the help of a very compassionate experienced therapist, who will follow your parts' experiences just like the people they are, and with huge love and respect, and curiosity... and when and if you arrive at those places Parts learned and took on critical strategies...if in therapy you can be with them from Self-in-Presence, show them deep empathy, help the polarised parts around them relax - and work with them also systematically... then the possibility of good therapy, is that your system can come into a new way of being. As this is so individual for each person, it really is a case - in my experience, of someone very present, compassionate, and curious, "walking with you," and in a sense being led by you - and your parts - so that your parts, with You in Self-in-Presence, can in a way so that they can indeed "unlearn their way back to God," to their original good source of their own being and identity and energy...and from this place of who our parts truly are...relearn how to come into being.... This is true for our Vulnerable Parts. And once this is possible for our Vulnerable Parts, for the Critical Parts, who are ferociously and previously unmovably defending and protecting those Vulnerable Parts, often in the most unhelpful of ways. Being with our parts from Self in Presence is how wisdom and creative resources are born into our systems in connected ways with all of our parts - and we begin to take a new shape - as our system and parts realign with the sunshine of Self-in-Presence in the centre of our parts, so that our parts, as people, can in this good light, become who they were born to be, and self-actualise. Because this is complex and unique to every system, the answer often lies in following every individual system to their own solution and profoundly true way of being as it is for them.

especially if the Part does not like the Critic, wants to change the critic, or has some agenda and is incapable of meeting the Critic as it is in its rawness - the Critic - just as we do as people when someone approaches us who really doesn't truly like us from who we are - will probably harden and become enmeshed against the Part with an agenda - as the Critic will then enter into Polarity with another Part - and as the Critic and other Part stand off against each other...the Polarity can remain, and our system can stay enmeshed for years and decades. We need to learn to get into Self-in-Presence, and be with our Critical Part(s), and Parts that are Polarised with it, and work not only with the Critic but also work with the other Parts around it: So we need to work systematically. This is working with individual parts in their own right, and in their relationships with each other; which is more complex than working with only one part. Even if we are with someone we love, and someone enters the room who doesn't really like us - because they are in the same energy field, that will affect us. We may be with the person we love, and still harden our heart a little, because there is an unfriendly presence in the vacinity. So too, in our inner world, even if we may be in Self in presence in relationship with our inner critic - if there is another part in our system who out rightly doesn't like the critic and stands against it - that other part is still in the energy field...and will be a part who is still polarised against the inner critic - and the critic most likely will harden and be enmeshed against that part - in a polarity - which can remain for years and decades - as I say; so really the most compassionate and wise approach, is to work around the system, systematically, with all parts, from Self-in-Presence. 2) As part of the complex Journey of working with our inner critic...We need to learn as we get into Self-in-presence in relationship with our critic, we will need to learn from the Critical Part, how it has come into being. All our experiences are learned in an interpersonal situation. When our parts experience trauma, our vulnerable parts can be very wounded indeed; and protective parts come in, to protect our vulnerable parts. Our Inner Critics are very very very often Protective Parts. Their Focus is usually very limited. And their agenda is often that the trauma should "never happen again." They often over-protect in ways which can be quite ferocious. And they can "protect" vulnerable parts using strategies they have learned interpersonally from others - which are so hugely over-protective they use the same wounding strategies others have employed on our vulnerable parts. In a sense the critics are carrying the shock of those traumatic experiences too; they too have been impacted and have often sworn "never again" will those traumatic experiences happen. Their strategies can be so extreme, so wounding, so devestating, that to other parts, those strategies can seem demented. "How or why would you protect someone by shutting them down? Shaming them? Damning them? Unrelentingly cursing them?" The strategy can seem to other parts quite mad. And this is indicative of the massive over-protective strategy and limited Focus of the Part adopting a critical strategy, who has not the broad focus to see the goodness of the part it is intending to guard against the trauma experience - or possibility of the experience in the present or future - ever happening again. This is often its only available strategy. And it can be absolutely relentless - often activated by the good qualities of the original vulnerable part it is trying to "protect" in the severest of ways in its limited Focus. Because of the challenge of this work, the being with parts is really really best done with the help of a very compassionate experienced therapist, who will follow your parts' experiences just like the people they are, and with huge love and respect, and curiosity... and when and if you arrive at those places Parts learned and took on critical strategies...if in therapy you can be with them from Self-in-Presence, show them deep empathy, help the polarised parts around them relax - and work with them also systematically... then the possibility of good therapy, is that your system can come into a new way of being. As this is so individual for each person, it really is a case - in my experience, of someone very present, compassionate, and curious, "walking with you," and in a sense being led by you - and your parts - so that your parts, with You in Self-in-Presence, can in a way so that they can indeed "unlearn their way back to God," to their original good source of their own being and identity and energy...and from this place of who our parts truly are...relearn how to come into being.... This is true for our Vulnerable Parts. And once this is possible for our Vulnerable Parts, for the Critical Parts, who are ferociously and previously unmovably defending and protecting those Vulnerable Parts, often in the most unhelpful of ways. Being with our parts from Self in Presence is how wisdom and creative resources are born into our systems in connected ways with all of our parts - and we begin to take a new shape - as our system and parts realign with the sunshine of Self-in-Presence in the centre of our parts, so that our parts, as people, can in this good light, become who they were born to be, and self-actualise. Because this is complex and unique to every system, the answer often lies in following every individual system to their own solution and profoundly true way of being as it is for them.

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you, peace, health, and, happiness.🙂🙂🙂

Ty

You are so welcome! Thanks for watching.

Statler and Waldorf, lol!!!

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You’re so welcome. Thank you! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first to start making peace with the inner critic?

You are so welcome! Thank you for watching

Welcome

You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips would you use first to make peace with the inner critic?

Welcome

That’s a very hurtful thing to say to anyone, let alone a 14 year old child. I am sorry your step father said it to you and I am grateful for you being here and watching videos. What tips from the video will you use to silence your inner critic?

I appreciate you watching. How will you start making peace with the inner critic? Other videos on the inner critic that might help you can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=critic

Ty

Thank you so much for watching. If you would never tell a friend the things you tell yourself, would you consider not telling them to yourself as well?

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

Thanks for watching

Answered in today's Live Q&A that is running right now. Will be available on-demand in a bit.

Thanks. :)

It seems you don't understand metaphor

Thanks for the tip!