My daydreams are not about me, it is like making a story or movie about someone else that doesn't exist

It’s not always about coping with being overwhelmed, or having high levels of stress... it’s can be about escapism from loneliness or boredom. A lot of people in this world suffer with those two issues.

The worst thing about daydreaming is that it reduces determination and desire to accomplish something important, especially when I'm studying

One thing that triggers my meladaptive daydreaming is also feeling inferior to others,so when I start comparing myself to others and feel inferior then I start to daydream so I can feel better about myself.

My maladaptive daydreaming is almost like an addiction. It’s scary to think of letting it go. I’m ashamed to even bring it up to doctors or mental health professionals.

Daydreaming have helped me survive. I have done it since childhood. Soothing.

It’s hard to stop because I have already built relationships with the characters in my daydreams and there like genuine friends and people I love 😔

I always create my own character in my brain, every time I listen to music, or see certain actions, I will always involve the fictional character that I created in my head.

The making facial expressions in response to the daydream is me 😬 So embarrassing when someone sees

I can't go an hour without daydreaming. I frequently catch myself acting out daydreams, crying, laughing, rocking back and forth, pacing around the house, and talking to myself because I'm so involved in my daydreams. I've missed final exams. I've snapped out of it and realized weeks have gone by. I cannot go to bed without turning on music and daydreaming. It's really hard to balance real life and my daydreams.

I never realized that it can be triggered by trauma. I daydream about being different people all the time, and even act out everything, walking around, laughing, crying, talking to myself, pretty much do it all. One of the things I do though is pretending I am someone who has a perfect family life, when my parents that are kind, loving, and affectionate, someone I never really got from my parents going up. Crazy how can trigger it.

The absolute worst thing about this disorder is the lack of support from professionals. It sucks being addicted to your own mind and fantasizing your youth away. It’s even worst to not have any medical support for it.

i can have a full length conversations with a group of people in my head. This started as a coping mechanism but now its habitual

when i daydream, time literally flies by. especially at night. it feels like it’s been 30 mins but actually, 3 hours have passed. wtf.

I’ve had this since I was about 8 or so. I’m 28 now. It eats up at least 15 hours a day. I believe I got into it because of the complete absence of emotional warmth growing up, and from extreme boredom and loneliness of being a child left to raise itself. I was always alone and sensitive. Yet no one was there for me, or protected me, or shown any interest in me. I made fictional characters to love and be loved by. I think I have developed this condition to survive a cold, strange emotional wasteland.

Recently just turned 18 and I started to feel ashamed of me daydreaming too much. I look at the adults around me how they are literally working their asses off to survive for themselves and for their own family, I see 18 year olds like me who are now working, mature, etc. I always wondered if these people still daydreams like me. Maybe they do, but in what amount? And how ridiculous are their daydreaming? Turning 18 made me feel old af, my daydreams, which are usually me replacing the main protagonist in an anime I just recently watched, or me dating this celebrity crush, made me ashamed. *Only kids do this. If I still cling on to this, I might miss on a lot of things.* This is what I am always thinking right now. There are times when my parents thought I was sleeping, but was actually awake the whole night, just replaying and creating scenes in my head. So many awesome plans about my life in my head that felt so real, but won't be real, just stays in there forever. Lol I've been called a weakling a couple of times in my life, but you don't know that this, this weakling you've been talking about, is very accomplished, talented, and respected, in her own head. This person that you call pathetic actually collaborated with taylor swift in a music video, in her own head. It just stays here, in my head. No actions for it, I won't work for it coz hell I am a pussy, so I'll just dream my life is better. This made me feel even more pathetic lmao.l

When I first found out that this has a name, I broke down in tears. For the longest time I thought I was “crazy” and I never told anyone about this because I didn’t think anyone would understand. I’m so incredibly happy that the internet has let me find other people who do this too!

This disorder took away my prime years. I was so unproductive, constantly daydreaming. I swear I was smart enough to go to med school.

I've been doing this since I was like 8. I'm 32 now. It's sooo nice to learn that I'm not alone. It's something that has caused me so much embarrassment and shame. It's nice to find community here. ❤ ☁️

Loneliness can also cause Maladaptive Daydreaming

I didn't really have any traumatic experiences in my child hood but yet I daydream 24/7...it just became a way to escape my "boring" reality and make life seemingly more exciting. I don't want to loose my entire life to those daydreams at the same time I get sucked back in all the time.

That's why i'm scared of driving while listening to song Song is one of the major things that triggers me, I don't remember a time where i listened to song like a normal person :/

I remember Daydreaming as early as 3 years old. I've been doing it for 35 years but it's gotten so bad I can't even function at work. After talking to a counselor, I realized I do it as a coping mechanism, but even after realizing that, it's gotten to a point where I can't even function daily. I haven't left my home in a month and I stay isolated all day in my "alternate" world. It wasn't until talking to my sister today, she suggested I go to a psychiatrist for a diagnosis. Long story short, I started googling my symptoms and Maladaptive Daydreaming is ABSOLUTELY what I have. Although it's not recognized as a disorder, it's very much real. I also feel extreme anxiety and have OCD. I feel like a weight has been lifted to find a name to this. Now I want to consume everything I can to learn how to get better.

My daydreaming is taking over my life, I’ve been doing it for as long as I can remember. I’m doing it 24/7, there is never a time where i’m not daydreaming. I’m failing a class, procrastinating religiously, and I can only manage to study for a test the night before, but even then I start daydreaming. I believe it started when my parents starting “disciplining” me quite harshly. I must’ve started daydreaming so I could forget about what my parents have done. I can’t remember much from my childhood, mostly my daydreams from them (I can still remember). I’m stuck in this little world, several of them in fact. I really do need help, I need to get my life back on track, and start over.

I am so glad for wearing a mask in public because I often zone out in my dreams and start whispering, doing facial expressions etc. so I can kinda hide it

my personal problem with this is that i don’t really want to stop. i have tried to stop a couple times but then when reality hits i feel sad knowing that this is my life, not what i imagined it as, which is why i think i keep daydreaming.

The problem is,in most of the time I can partly control my daydreaming,but I enjoy it too much that I don't want to quit.Sometimes it's like taking drugs,escaping from reality and your life will be influenced.

It breaks my heart to even let go of those dreams. My reality isn't where I wanna be. It's scary. I would rather die. Everything about my mental health scares me. I just hate interacting with people. I'm in trouble 😭

Daydreaming has given me a false sense of productivity and success. The journey to relearning myself is so liberating!

I can't even remember my teen years, I was daydreaming all the time, everything real was like a fog

FINALLY an in-depth video about maladaptive daydreaming and how it’s more than simply “wandering off in your mind.” You create characters, story, setting, and sometimes talk aloud to those characters. Extremely helpful!

bro almost anything can send me into daydreaming. Excitement, sadness, confidence, no confidence- and the bad thing is I cant even imagine myself NOT daydreaming. Ive found that when I daydream I have to be moving kinda fast, so there's been many embarrassing moments where someone has walked in on my pacing or even jogging while I daydream. Since I cant see myself not daydreaming, I've taken up running and try to only allow myself to daydream when I run. i still don't have complete control, so I didn't exactly fix the issue, just made something out of it

I don't wanna overcome Maladaptive Daydreaming because it is the only thing that makes me happy.

As someone suffering from maladaptive daydreaming, I can’t even tell you how fast I clicked on this video

Social isolation really triggers my daydreams. It only really happens when I'm at home by myself. This is why covid has been so rough for people like us. However, if I have an interesting conversation with a good friend or go to school/work, it helps to pull me back into reality. But when I'm with people I'm not close to, I dissociate and temporarily lose my ability to socialize, so it has to be a quality interaction in order for me to feel better. I am so desperate for quality social interactions because since I was a kid, I was starved of social connection. I wasn't an only child, but definitely felt like one.

You know, after seeing the comments and learning that I was not alone, I felt relieved, thank you for sharing this. Also, I would love to share my experience with this. I’ve daydreamed since I was extremely young and it never really got away, my family even gave it a cute name, referring to the weird sounds and expressions I make while daydreaming lmao. I have created thousands of worlds, characters, plots and storylines, and even fanfics in my head. I can recall them and even go back at them when I want. I have some control, but it is usually stimulated when I listen to music or I am watching something on the TV. As I grew older, I learned when to keep it off, although I admit I’ve more than once dozed off in my school.

I will never find a partner like that one in my daydreams. It makes me sad.

I just thought I was lazy. I'm stunned that it's a real thing.

I can come out of my daydreams super easily. Like if I have to go do something important or have to be in a meeting or something, I can very easily drop the daydream and go do that. My issue is that I really enjoy the daydreams so I'll actively choose to do that over anything that I perceive to be something I don't have to do immediately. It's a form of procrastination. Like most people go watch Netflix but I spend a couple of hours pacing in a daydream. I'm on a PhD so it's a really nice break from stress and also I get bored really, really easily. It's to the point where I can't actually do just one thing at once. If I read a book, I also listen to music. If I'm trying to sleep, I also have some video on in the background (really trying to stop that one but going to sleep is just so boring lol). The daydreams are actually one of the only things that can keep me interested.

I started maladaptive daydreaming since when I was little and I'm now in my 20s. I need to get out of these daydreaming because it's intruding my life. I'm gonna apply this mindfulness and also see my triggers. This has been helpful. My maladaptive daydreaming manifested from loneliness and anxiety.

I had a "plot" for months when I was a kid. In my teenage years, I spent hours in front of the mirror just dreaming. I still have this but it takes me minutes or so. I have never told anyone, I dont think they will understand. As many others conditions, It's so isolating.

I clicked fast because I just learned my daydreams have a name

I find it very soothing. It’s like taking a break from life for me. It’s almost an every day thing. I always feel better and even energized afterwards.

I truly think my daydreaming saved me from loosing my mind or doing something really bad to myself when I was growing up. Reality was so rough it was my coping mechanism. At home there was abuse, not much food, insecure times, I was always waiting what bad happens next. If as long as 2 weeks went by without getting hit, being called names, humiliation of some sort I became anxious. I knew it will happen soon. My mother was a beast. Waiting was the hardest part, not the abuse itself. Then after that I could relax for a while and tell myself I survived. Daydreaming took me away from that horrible shit. I had no-one to talk to, no-one to trust. If I would have told someone, I knew I would pay for that later..

As a person who couldn't get enough love from her parents, I always found it therapeutic to daydream. Because in my dreams I am loved and respected and I know I sound pathetic and lame but it's been way for me to feel better and I don't want to stop doing it

I started doing this as a child to survive an abusive childhood. I used to feel like such a weirdo for doing it. Its comforting to know I wasn't alone.

When I found out this was a thing, I couldn’t believe it. I found inner peace knowing my daydreaming was an actual condition

My maladaptive daydreaming was so bad that I do it while watching this video.

eeek.....i just thought this was a part of my personality since i was a child. I always lived in my head or closed my eyes and "re-did" scenarios and perfect fantasy's. I have struggled with ED, OCD, Depression, and trauma...so this makes sense.....writing down for my next therapy session..

I've actually been writing down my daydreams into an actual novel plot. It's productive at least, because I can't let it go, I've lived in this world since I was a little kid.

I never realised this had a name! I generally thought I was the only one! I was so scared that I was some kind of freak who would spend all their time creating worlds for me or my characters. I had a very traumatic and turbulent childhood with no security, so these "daydreams" or stories I'd create generally saved my life. My world was so devastating that created many, many more and then I could finally find some escapism and some happiness. Thank you for this. I feel so much less alone now.

I can’t believe this has a name I’ve been doing things like this since I was 6 or 7 I can’t stop pacing around at random times of the day and talking to myself and creating a different reality with other “people” and making expressions it honestly has just become another part of my life

One thing I would say (as someone with maladaptive daydreaming disorder) is that is doesn’t just trigger because you can’t cope or because you get anxious. I often drift into it when I’m bored so I have something to do. If it’s quiet at work and there’s no one to talk to, to keep myself busy I’ll drift into it or if I’m on my way home in public transport or walking to keep my mind active. It has been a big indicator of how I am feeling mentally, if I feel depressed or anxious most of the time I don’t tune in to how bad I’m feeling until my daydreams get dark (like someone trying to save me or having nearly attempted suicide in my daydream) that’s when I start to realise when I’m slipping back into a state of depression. Other times it helps me to not feel lonely. The thought of taking away those happy daydreams where I have a great life and people around me is very scary and not something I would really think about. I’ve had it since I was a very young child so to not do it anymore doesn’t feel like an option. Would feel like a part of me is missing. Though I do notice when I’m around friends or my boyfriend or being very social it doesn’t pop up as much as when I’m feeling lonely. That being said it still feels like a good release

I maladaptive daydream so much that its ✨scary✨

At first I did not know that it will go that far, I just see it as imagining of my future life, but then I release that I have spent 4 to 6 hours just by living on that unreal world. I feel more anxiety in my life because of not controling my self. It may be hard to stop it but I promise you all this will end up if we work harder. My maladaptive daydreaming has not an ending. It will continues but with out an ending. I also live in many stories that created whenever I come across to something. If I watch a movie, I will again write story based on that movie in my brain by making an actors and actresses that doesn't even exist. I know like imagination will help as to be creative but this kind of imaginary will destroy us. I personally get the lowest score in every subject from being the top student even in the whole schools that found in the region I live. It took my happiness in life, my hope, my hardworking self, and bring anxiety, depression, guilty instead. Eventhough my brain tell me I will not recover from this and spend my while life in this state, I will not stop my journey to becime the priductive person as I was and more. I will recover from this disorder with the help of my God, my religious and my future self. I know it is even hard to tell peoples about this condition (my society doesnot believe in all mental disorders, I also doesnot believe until I came across to this ) we will get over it soon by not let be easy to enter the daydreaming as much as we can. I hope to everyone suffering from this to finally become his/her self without any kind of mental disorders.

i get bored with life so i imagine stories and scenarios and make it more magical and realize that i have to go back to reality and get depressed because my daydream is more exciting and vibrant

So you are telling me, all these hours sat on the end of my bed, not hearing when someone talks to me, getting lost in the woods in a trance for hours, sat on the sofa for hours not wanting to move or having the TV on, missing invites and staying in the garden for hours staring at the tree in my own world is an actual thing??!

Oh, the embrasement when the teacher asked me why I was smiling while daydreaming in class... 😬😬😬

I've been struggling with this for 20 years or more. Last year I started writing a book about the plot I was "obsessed" with - and suddenly everything in my life started clicking and coming together! Getting it out on paper and treating it rationally - as a real book plot that is supposed to be well thought-through - helped a lot. And, it gave me one more cool project to work on!

My daydreaming isn't just an escape, it's a pass time. It's genuinely fun and exciting like playing a video game. I don't want to stop.

I cant even imagine going through a day without maladaptive daydreaming

I started escaping into my head as a kid because of chronic stress and trauma. Then when I hit my 20s, I developed depression and anxiety and spent my life daydreaming. Couldn't get out of bed to live my real life and instead hid in my brain and the stories I created for myself. It is highly addictive. And I would get emotionally invested in the stories, people, and places I would create. I spent 12 years there. I've worked really hard the past 2 years to get better and I am finally living my life and am happy. But there are times that my brain will slip into a daydream. The habit ( neuro-pathways) are still there. At this point I try and learn from the stories I create. If anyone reads this that is struggling with Maladaptive Daydreaming, my advice to you is figure out how you can apply what you do in your stories to your real life. For instance, I often daydreamed about being a superhero or witch. So I learned how I could apply these to this world. Over the past year, I've become a certified Life Coach, Reiki Master and Tarot Reader. Now I have the superpowers and psychic powers to help people in the real world. ♥️

I swear i thought i was a weirdo for so long until i found out maladaptive daydreaming was real, i couldn't go an hour without daydreaming, it makes me so happy i'm not alone.

Daydreaming was a coping mechanism I used my entire life since I always felt alone and an empty hole in my chest. I used it everyday and even at school (it started when I was in 1st grade)

HOLY MOTHER OF GOD YEEES, A VIDEO ABOUT MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING :')) FELLAS WE'RE GETTING RECOGNIZED

I set a alarms to "bring me back" in case I drift away. That way I don't lose hours without realizing until it's too late. I am so happy this video is up, thank you Katie Morton!!

I suffer from depersonalization derealization disorder and it kinda blew my mind to know there is a correlation between daydreaming and dpdr. It's been one hell of a rough ride but things are better here lately. Stay strong guys 💪

I'm glad to know that i am not alone and experiencing this. As much as i'd like to quit maladaptive daydreaming..I feel as if I can't because it is like an escape for me. It's hard to live in the present most of the time so i guess this has become some sort of recluse for me ever since i was a child.

Finally someone made a video about my life. The characters I have created still accompany me and have truly shaped me as a person. I’m 23.

For me day dreaming is more like a coping mechanism. I realized this a while ago when I was going through a really tough breakup. I noticed I would purposely daydream to make myself feel better and I would consciously create those factors to help me daydream aka sad music, a quite place, walking around etc. I know I should be facing the problem instead of using my imagination to escape. But daydreaming has really help me to cope with a lot of problems in me life temporarily of course.

maladaptive daydreaming is my coping mechanism. I don’t want it to stop. It helps me, it makes me feel good. It hasn’t taken over the ‘serious’ parts of my real life and instead it’s a bonus to my day, to visit this world i’ve created in my mind a couple of times a day makes me so happy. Almost like i’m living two lives, my ‘real’ one and my ‘fake’ one in the world within my mind. It’s great

Thank you! 20 years of this and for the past decade its been very serious. I feel very relieved that I'm not the only one. Thank you for all the tips as well!! To everyone reading this, you can do this!!

I'm constantly looking forward to when I'm able to sink into my inner world. Sometimes I do it accidentally, and completely forget where I am.

ugh... imagine being one of those people who can’t see things in their head. Have no ability to visualize. My life would have been unbearable if I couldn’t daydream at will.

Thank you for this. I was in denial and thought it was normal since I've been doing this since I was young. I could spend hours in my daydreams even until now. Sometimes, they play out as long stories. Other times, they are just repeated short clips of made-up situations I particularly liked. I actually almost got "pulled in" while watching this video. It made me feel sad that this looks like a disorder and I wanted someone to look at me and say, "Dont worry, I'm here." I tried to catch that moment right before I daydreamed as mentioned in the video, but now, I dont know what to do about it. I will resume watching when I've calmed down.

I’m relieved that this is more common than I had thought, because I have a lot of shame over it. I do it frequently to cope with stress and primarily to deal with excruciating loneliness. When I was a child I did it so much at school that I didn’t learn anything and barely passed my subjects, which is a shame because I have a high IQ and had lots of potential. I was just punished for it rather than someone intervening and seeing that I had a highly traumatic home life.

I’ve slowly reduced my maladaptive daydreaming because I realized I was ready to experience the things in my daydream for real. I even “divorced” my husband so that I can make psychological and emotional room for a real relationship. I’m also in therapy and slowly detaching from the traumatic people that trigger my daydreams.

I have a friend who is a maladaptive daydreamer and I'm really excited to learn more about their struggles and be able to support them :)

I suffer from maladaptive daydreaming all my life. Thanks for this video. It's very informative.

As I watched this video I literally went into such an intense day dream I had to rewind it twice.

Maladaptive Daydreaming is the only reason I’m still alive. Since losing my job through a layoff, I have created an alternate life in my mind and I live in that world all day. Most times I never even get out of bed.

I literally slipped into a daydream while watching this video. I had no idea it was this bad.

Although this has helped me in my life I thought I was insane. I’m glad to see so many other stories. It makes me feel less alone

So glad to see this video. There’s not enough info and support about this topic. My experience is that over time, this kind of day dreaming becomes like an addiction and distraction is not enough to stop oneself from doing it. I think some people may benefit from approaches used to treat addiction.

All of this! I live in my daydream so much, it feels weird to be in the “ real” world. I’ve done this literally as long as I can remember. It feels like an addiction. It feels impossible to stop.

I definitely struggle with this as someone with ADHD. I'm in college and every semester passes and right around midterms I lose my resiliency and I just want to tap out but I can't. I escape through daydreams, videogames, youtube, and hobby projects I hyperfocus on. Then my grades slip and the work piles up, I become overwhelmed and I don't know how to stay in control of the stress, I fallback onto those escape mechanisms even more. The same thing's happened again and I've dropped 2/4 of the classes I was taking this semester. I don't know when I'm going to graduate anymore.

For me, it probably started out as a coping mechanism..probably still is but I've been using it to help me with storytelling, especially when I'm trying to think of how to write characters and the drama they'll be going through. It's scary to realize after years of consistent daydreaming that this is an issue. Thank you! Very informative!

oh my... I haven't thought that there are so many people with the same issue!!! it is exactly what happens with me! I thought I was never going to be able to name it, or escape from it, every time I think I managed to stop thinking those stories, I fall in them again and it may last many many days, and I will be thinking those stories from the time I wake up till the time I go to bed, it really goes on the way of the things I have to do and on my relationships... I will just stop thinking them when I am mentally exhausted... and then I will say "no, I'm done with it", but next month, week, i don't know, I am inside this "daydreaming" again.

I've turned my maladaptive daydreaming habit into an author career. I still have DPDR, C-PTSD, and BPD, but I am more stable on days when I write. Thank you for sharing your knowledge in these videos!

Wow. This is amazing. I started doing this when I went on long walks and listened to music. I would put these fantasies or daydreams to music, like a movie. Sometimes I would lay in bed and listen to music and the same thing would happen. My trigger was intense rejection and overwhelming loneliness. Hours could go by and I’d suddenly realize it was 3am and I hadn’t slept.

As someone who has used Maladaptive daydreaming most of my life as a coping mechanism I feel relieved I'm not alone

I tend to walk in circles while listening to music for at least 30-120 minutes everyday, revisiting old memories, creating almost delusional fantasies in my mind. Sometimes I am not even present in my fantasies and the things I fantasize about can be extremely fragmented and disjointed. I do this because it feels good, and seems preferable over taking responsibility and living in my own reality. I am not sure if what I am doing can be accurately defined by the term "maladaptive daydreaming", but I'm certain that it is a very unhealthy way to spend my time and energy.

As someone who is an immersive daydreamer who has fallen into maladaptive daydreaming at various times it was a huge relief to understand this condition. It has helped me to understand that immersive (fun) daydreaming for me is a relaxing time like social drinking, and when it becoming maladaptive is the same process as slipping into a substance dependancy. It's a thought addiction.

I'm so happy maladaptive daydreaming is finally being talked about more. makes me feel so much less alone :')

Realizing there was a word for what I spent so much of my life doing has really been an eye opener. Also so refreshing to see that I’m not alone in the struggle with this. I am working using as many healthy tools as I can to help me with changing this, but it has been tricky. Meditation definitely helps when I do it long enough and consistently.

I’m kind of realizing this is what I did in high school. It was a really crazy time in my life and I didn’t know there was a conversation around it until recently. It’s crazy to look back and kind of piece things together for a time in my life that felt so hazy and morose.

Seeing a professional person address this is so validating. I been in a fb group for this for a few years and all you ever hear is about professionals dismissing it or not knowing about it at all! I find mine gets better as my depression gets better. The less control I have over my anxiety and depression, the less control I have over my amount of daydreaming.

Maladaptive daydreaming is very addictive, can't escape.

I know she’s named every psychological reason behind it, but my personal issue was music and fantasizing since the age of 11. I stopped maladaptive daydreaming when I cut my earphone wires and I forced myself to live without them (and music). I would only listen to music in the car during that time, and my life genuinely drastically improved after some weeks had passed. I fell back into the habit of listening to music and pacing back and forth recently, but living without it was a much better experience: you will miss your fantasies at first, but that is only until you adapt and it will become normal very fast. I started appreciating music and life so much more when I did not have ear- or headphones; I even “healed” from my depression after months had passed, because I started living more being myself! I wasn’t living in my head and fantasies any longer, and I became so productive doing that, because pacing back and forth in my home and fantasizing didn’t take up half of my day anymore. I know cutting up the wires feels very extreme, but trust me when I say that only then you will notice how addicted you were: I literally had to go through withdrawals, but when I noticed how my depression had faded and that I suddenly had new hope for my life and its experiences, it changed me a lot. I also quit all social media and started playing music on my record player during that time, and I just enjoyed life and music so much more. So, even if you adore music and / or singing like I do, know that having an unhealthy relationship with music and fantasizing isn’t exactly what “loving music” or “being creative” translates to. Lastly, you are not harming yourself. However, you could be wasting your time and your potential if you become addicated: I realized that when I quit, and healing from this has pretty much caused me to become the person I always fantasized about being, charming and confident. Because, instead of dreaming about it all day long: I became that person through actually doing.

Lots of people in the comment section like me with Complex PTSD. There's a book I like called "Complex PTSD" by Pete Walker where he explains personality types and effects of childhood trauma. The Freeze Type (me) daydreams and often gives up on having relationships. They seem to be achievement-phobic and stuck in the "off" position. That book really helped me understand myself. I definitely recommend reading it.