My daydreams are not about me, it is like making a story or movie about someone else that doesn't exist
@lxcent99133 жыл бұрын
Exactly, me too
@user-ml3bg1fc9b3 жыл бұрын
Lol same here it makes me want it to happen in real life😂😣
@MargauxNeedler3 жыл бұрын
What are the daydreams consisting of?
@MargauxNeedler3 жыл бұрын
The only thing I daydreamed of was smooching on my celebrity crushes so I'm not sure I understand
@not-a-ghost22063 жыл бұрын
@@MargauxNeedler @Destiny 100 daydreaming is completely normal, like thinking about a book or a possible crush and actuakly helpful because you process things. When it becomes a coping mechanism is when its serious. Its spending hours in fictional worlds or ones you made up. Its also feeling that the persons and places are with you in your room even (or especially when) you're alone. For example i wasnt thinking of narnia or Phantásia, i was there. I could _feel_ the snow or a dragon. Its kind of like the brigde to terabithia, except you're never leaving. Hope that clears your question (:
@CandyLamb3 жыл бұрын
It’s not always about coping with being overwhelmed, or having high levels of stress... it’s can be about escapism from loneliness or boredom. A lot of people in this world suffer with those two issues.
@HoneyHoney-yf6nd3 жыл бұрын
Ikr!
@hium87163 жыл бұрын
A lot of the time I end up day dreaming when I'm not with people I know
@TheMusicalgirl63 жыл бұрын
so true, i've only gotten into the habit of maladaptive daydreaming post covid. Staying at home for days, without meeting anyone, or having much to do. I was lonely. I was bored and daydreaming became my perfect escape from that life. I will overcome this now and gain control of myself now.
@AngelDeed3 жыл бұрын
I agree, I had an average childhood, no trauma or mental illness as far as I know yet I've been daydreaming since I was a child.
@springlady83373 жыл бұрын
YES! I actually only experienced Maladaptive Daydreams during my periods of loneliness. When I’m not lonely, I don’t really feel the need to do them.
@ghht-jb6pp Жыл бұрын
The worst thing about daydreaming is that it reduces determination and desire to accomplish something important, especially when I'm studying
@tdmguy83047 ай бұрын
Yes that the biggest problem otherwise I would have not mind day dreaming
@bladerunner29777 ай бұрын
Yes yes you’re like me .There are people like me 😓😓
@turbogaming5721 Жыл бұрын
One thing that triggers my meladaptive daydreaming is also feeling inferior to others,so when I start comparing myself to others and feel inferior then I start to daydream so I can feel better about myself.
@reribagbi-uf1gh Жыл бұрын
That's me 💀
@Sosickof17 Жыл бұрын
SAME 😭
@lollol-zv2ge Жыл бұрын
Damn, you just described me😢
@raghu5404 Жыл бұрын
same here
@silambarasann9495 Жыл бұрын
Same
@WillowValdene3 жыл бұрын
My maladaptive daydreaming is almost like an addiction. It’s scary to think of letting it go. I’m ashamed to even bring it up to doctors or mental health professionals.
@user-ml3bg1fc9b3 жыл бұрын
It's already an addiction😣😭
@greerdavis47573 жыл бұрын
I honestly wouldn’t call it an addiction, and yeah I so get being ashamed to bring it up. I’ve had this since I was 8 or something like that, and it was never a problem. It was kind of concerning because I knew it wasn’t normal, but I never let it distract me from living life. That is until I got depressed and overwhelmed with emotions, so it sort of took over, but I try and use it for good. I will go on the stationary bike for over an hour just daydreaming or even write my stories down and share them. MaDD really is a double sided blade if you look at it that way, so don’t feel bad about it. Right now, I’m still struggling with it, but the more I work my problems out here, the better the MaDD gets, but simply giving up daydreaming is sort of unrealistic. Even in the best times of my life, I still daydreamed a lot, I just didn’t let it take over. Yeah, well, carry on and don’t feel alone or crazy because there are so many others out there struggling with this same issue! 💕
@WillowValdene3 жыл бұрын
@@user-ml3bg1fc9b Yeah, it is 😔
@weirdzfully3 жыл бұрын
What do you daydream about if it’s okay to ask
@WillowValdene3 жыл бұрын
@@weirdzfully If I think about it, most of my daydreams are either about getting support for something difficult that’s happened or just people being interested in me (being on a talk show or a panel) and what I have to say. In my life I’ve often lacked the amount of emotional support or having friends and I often feel like I’m not heard or like I’m not important to anyone. It shifts on any given day, but the constant is I’m usually with a celebrity or multiple celebrities, like a cast. They’re my friends in the daydreams or I’m with them on the talk shows/panels/etc.
@anitakingsberry26223 жыл бұрын
Daydreaming have helped me survive. I have done it since childhood. Soothing.
@firstname83483 жыл бұрын
Me too. It was my escape from childhood and I use it as coping mechanism as an adult
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
Totally understand.. a lot of people feel that way. It's safe and helpful. xox
@ladybaabaa32943 жыл бұрын
Me too.
@eleah22563 жыл бұрын
Me too. My father abused my mother and my mother was depressed. At home it was either quiet or violent. I was an only child too. So I just built "my own world" to play in.
@eleah22563 жыл бұрын
I also wanted to say that there are models about mental illness that state that ptsd (and similar disorders) is an adaptation to a dangerous environment, and that it's a mental illness because it's maladaptive when the environment changes. Maybe that can be applied to maladaptive daydreaming too: it's a coping strategy that's not adaptive anymore.
@hehehehehehe45602 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to stop because I have already built relationships with the characters in my daydreams and there like genuine friends and people I love 😔
@Cherrypoptarts Жыл бұрын
HELP THIS IS ME
@ainaliyana3776 Жыл бұрын
helpp , what should we do rn😭 i cant inlove because of them
@snowqueen24 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, but it can cost you your job and education by staying in your maladaptive daydreaming. I have been where you are at, and it was very distracting. I almost flunked out of college from going to maladaptive daydreaming every single day.
@jonnyprivat3504 Жыл бұрын
@@snowqueen24 what have you done to stop
@snowqueen24 Жыл бұрын
@@jonnyprivat3504 I just went cold turkey for 3 and a half months and started visualizing in how I want my future to be but only in my head.
@user-ou5xn7oj2l3 жыл бұрын
I always create my own character in my brain, every time I listen to music, or see certain actions, I will always involve the fictional character that I created in my head.
@nickmos1499 Жыл бұрын
Same 👍
@dianamccandless7094 Жыл бұрын
Music was always the biggest trigger for me. But also other triggers.....anything in my real life could always be used to make an episode in "StoryWorld" that was funnier, sadder, more amazing, exciting, adventurous, romantic.....
@nickmos1499 Жыл бұрын
@@dianamccandless7094 I also crying 😭 because I know it’s never gonna happen 👎.
@lacecocoa6272 Жыл бұрын
Me too
@lampshade_49708 ай бұрын
Same, but mine turned into a marvel fanfic with my ocs and I can't get out of it nor do I want to😭
@thehealingfairee3 жыл бұрын
The making facial expressions in response to the daydream is me 😬 So embarrassing when someone sees
@AlisonBryen3 жыл бұрын
When I know I'm alone I act my out daydreams, facial expressions, acting out scenes, talking to imaginary daydream characters...the works! Fortunately I've never been caught. 😳
@durgaambika43423 жыл бұрын
@@AlisonBryen me too... Why are we people like this 😞
@AlisonBryen3 жыл бұрын
@@durgaambika4342Firstly, I think a lot of us are very imaginative and creative people, I know part of me enjoys making up these characters/lives/stories. Secondly however, I think that a lot of us have difficulty facing real life problems and/or have mental health conditions and these daydreams serve as an escape from them. This obviously is not helpful in the long run.
@pluutoop3 жыл бұрын
Its ok. I have it tooo
@-criedjupiter-84643 жыл бұрын
Stop!! Something is wrong with us 😂
@DJiswatching3 жыл бұрын
I can't go an hour without daydreaming. I frequently catch myself acting out daydreams, crying, laughing, rocking back and forth, pacing around the house, and talking to myself because I'm so involved in my daydreams. I've missed final exams. I've snapped out of it and realized weeks have gone by. I cannot go to bed without turning on music and daydreaming. It's really hard to balance real life and my daydreams.
@silvia86433 жыл бұрын
same, I just don't know how to stop - it really is an addiction!
@-criedjupiter-84643 жыл бұрын
I don’t wanna throw my life away because of this addiction, its also one of the reason why im failing.God its almost the end u school year, and ive felt like ive learned nothing....stupid me i hate this 😣.
@sofiastar29333 жыл бұрын
same here oh my god, i thought i was the only one who laughs & cries. it feels so real & i have such a good life in my head it makes me feel better
@SpinDuality3 жыл бұрын
So true, I can't think straight when music plays. I daydream a lot, and I read a lot of stories to get inspiration from them. I've forgotten places, names, people, ages, birthdays, and school because of this. I'm still happy with it though, it's my way to cope.
@pemjoy55863 жыл бұрын
Lol same
@guidancetoself24422 жыл бұрын
I never realized that it can be triggered by trauma. I daydream about being different people all the time, and even act out everything, walking around, laughing, crying, talking to myself, pretty much do it all. One of the things I do though is pretending I am someone who has a perfect family life, when my parents that are kind, loving, and affectionate, someone I never really got from my parents going up. Crazy how can trigger it.
@lacecocoa6272 Жыл бұрын
Me too and I’ve been doing it since I was 5 or 6 this is the first time in my life at 24 that I have a name for this. I’m happy to have a name now I need to find a doctor so I can heal and stop doing this.
@zz77333 жыл бұрын
The absolute worst thing about this disorder is the lack of support from professionals. It sucks being addicted to your own mind and fantasizing your youth away. It’s even worst to not have any medical support for it.
@dianamccandless7094 Жыл бұрын
totally agree! I am 53 years old, and when I was struggling the most with MDD, the counselors always said "oh you should turn it into a Novel".
@lacecocoa6272 Жыл бұрын
I pray I can find support
@aryanjaiswal75993 жыл бұрын
i can have a full length conversations with a group of people in my head. This started as a coping mechanism but now its habitual
@laila795953 жыл бұрын
mee too and sometimes i find myself talking out loud with people that aren't even there.
@pluutoop3 жыл бұрын
Me too❤
@II-qp8lg3 жыл бұрын
Me too unfortunately...
@abbigeilll75293 жыл бұрын
I literally wanna hug everyone in these comments because I feel THE SAME WAY!
@natnat54803 жыл бұрын
Hey! I would really like to know if I have been maladaptive daydreaming or just normally daydreaming. Well for me, I really consider daydreaming as my hobby. I imagine a devised story of a show I watch where I become one of the characters. However I only do it when I'm bored or I don't have anything to do. I have read symptoms about maladaptive daydreaming like vivid daydreams and detailed stories and the like to daydream, which I have, but I can still do work and task. To be honest, I'm pretty productive. However it really bothers me that I have symptoms of having maladaptive daydreaming. I would like to know if I have it? What are your thoughts?
@prekshashah1413 жыл бұрын
when i daydream, time literally flies by. especially at night. it feels like it’s been 30 mins but actually, 3 hours have passed. wtf.
@sarwatjehan82753 жыл бұрын
Yes it's 6:37am in Pakistan and I am daydreaming 😑😭
@Maria-in6mt3 жыл бұрын
Its crazy.
@Getout6343 жыл бұрын
Especially during the day I roll over and close my eyes and once I look out the window it’s already 10pm
@Minerva88883 жыл бұрын
Cuz we enjoy it
@feigekatarina57453 жыл бұрын
Nah, it's how the subconscious works. Dreams work the same way. I've had dreams that spanned years, but it's still only a few hours of sleep.
@hushmychild67453 жыл бұрын
I’ve had this since I was about 8 or so. I’m 28 now. It eats up at least 15 hours a day. I believe I got into it because of the complete absence of emotional warmth growing up, and from extreme boredom and loneliness of being a child left to raise itself. I was always alone and sensitive. Yet no one was there for me, or protected me, or shown any interest in me. I made fictional characters to love and be loved by. I think I have developed this condition to survive a cold, strange emotional wasteland.
@THEDOORIZCLOSED2 жыл бұрын
You just described my life
@THEDOORIZCLOSED2 жыл бұрын
I’ll be 29 this year
@WhoDevar Жыл бұрын
@@THEDOORIZCLOSED they just described my life as well, this is wild! That is exactly why I started it. I remember as early as 8 years old and I just turned 29. 😭
@WhoDevar Жыл бұрын
You said it! Believe me when I tell u I know how you feel. Praying you find healthy coping skills to deal with life. We got this! 💯
@melancholy-kate9116 Жыл бұрын
i share you pain my friend. feels like my daydreams come on so quick and strong feels like nothing outside is real or is happening to me, almost like dissociating.......
@randomrandom53163 жыл бұрын
Recently just turned 18 and I started to feel ashamed of me daydreaming too much. I look at the adults around me how they are literally working their asses off to survive for themselves and for their own family, I see 18 year olds like me who are now working, mature, etc. I always wondered if these people still daydreams like me. Maybe they do, but in what amount? And how ridiculous are their daydreaming? Turning 18 made me feel old af, my daydreams, which are usually me replacing the main protagonist in an anime I just recently watched, or me dating this celebrity crush, made me ashamed. *Only kids do this. If I still cling on to this, I might miss on a lot of things.* This is what I am always thinking right now. There are times when my parents thought I was sleeping, but was actually awake the whole night, just replaying and creating scenes in my head. So many awesome plans about my life in my head that felt so real, but won't be real, just stays in there forever. Lol I've been called a weakling a couple of times in my life, but you don't know that this, this weakling you've been talking about, is very accomplished, talented, and respected, in her own head. This person that you call pathetic actually collaborated with taylor swift in a music video, in her own head. It just stays here, in my head. No actions for it, I won't work for it coz hell I am a pussy, so I'll just dream my life is better. This made me feel even more pathetic lmao.l
@daviddas51073 жыл бұрын
Lol the exact same things have happened to me, including being referred to as weak. I was Taylor shifts costume designer for her WILDEST DREAMS music video and I've also designed Kim Kardashians met gala dress lol
@marcoslightspeed55172 жыл бұрын
This is exactly me
@ishita20272 жыл бұрын
I understand you! I'll turn 18 too in a couple of months and all of this feels so pathetic yet so satisfying I sometimes take a show which I have finished recently and add my character in it and daydream..it's just so weird 😭 Oh my god
@ycleptprof.52492 жыл бұрын
I have read comments on other videos about maladaptive daydreaming, and I realize time and time again that I have found my people. I know this may sound weird, but I wish I could befriend people like you in real life! It gives me a unique kind of comfort knowing that there is an actual term for this behavior, even if it isn't diagnosable, and there are actually people who engage in it other than myself.
@shahjadatalukder27062 жыл бұрын
Lol this is me can we talk i need someone who can understand me
@annal90103 жыл бұрын
When I first found out that this has a name, I broke down in tears. For the longest time I thought I was “crazy” and I never told anyone about this because I didn’t think anyone would understand. I’m so incredibly happy that the internet has let me find other people who do this too!
@terrilreece80453 жыл бұрын
I felt the same way. I had no idea anyone else did this. I told myself it was sort of like a meditation. I feel a lot better afterwards. It’s very self soothing.
@forgetmaenott3 жыл бұрын
Me too, it honestly amazes me to find out just how many people do this because I thought I was alone!
@pinkera84593 жыл бұрын
me too. i’m in tears right now
@user-fy7tn1jw4s3 жыл бұрын
me too, but i didn't cry. i'm so glad that i finally know what this problem is, and that other people deal with it too. i always felt alone and a weirdo
@Iluv9993 жыл бұрын
I just found out today and never knew about it I knew I was “crazy” but I never knew the name of it
@aoutsky3 жыл бұрын
This disorder took away my prime years. I was so unproductive, constantly daydreaming. I swear I was smart enough to go to med school.
@jasminedarden233 жыл бұрын
Me too. Lost my 20's to it
@aoutsky3 жыл бұрын
@@jasminedarden23 I'm so sorry! I got a handle on it in the past couple of years. I catch myself when I start to drift. I don't listen to music that triggers daydreaming. Just small changes. Mindfulness is key. You just gotta accept that life is not always exciting. Mundane day to day tasks are important and completing them with focus will allow us to live our 'dream life' in real life. Sending you so much love!
@katteresa61743 жыл бұрын
@@aoutsky beautifully said and thank you for providing hope for people who struggle with this. I’m 20 and therefore just beginning my 20s and sometimes the maladaptive daydreaming can consume my days !
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry :( I hope you have been able to manage it now and know just how smart and capable you are :) xoxo
@erisi62043 жыл бұрын
That's how I feel, between day dreaming, anxiety and excessive sleep most of my adult life as just been a waste.
@SimplySchaun2 жыл бұрын
I've been doing this since I was like 8. I'm 32 now. It's sooo nice to learn that I'm not alone. It's something that has caused me so much embarrassment and shame. It's nice to find community here. ❤ ☁️
@lugoluxmedia4394 Жыл бұрын
Whenever you go into this you can say I have the mind of Christ.,. Father God heal me ... heal my wounds, restore and make me new... then thank Him for being there with you at that very moment.. you are so beloved. You are a blessing.
@Csjk7 Жыл бұрын
This is a really long time... Was your studies affected by this? Reply me please 🥺
@lacecocoa6272 Жыл бұрын
Me too I’m happy because now I know what I have isn’t schizophrenic
@natashaj91695 ай бұрын
@@Csjk7yes!!!!!! I failed everything apart from art and graphics and I believe it is because I could still day dream while being creative. . .
@rusarrow71263 жыл бұрын
Loneliness can also cause Maladaptive Daydreaming
@OwlKnight32 Жыл бұрын
But what if you have unbearable social anxiety
@saffwa. Жыл бұрын
@@OwlKnight32damn
@WouldntULikeToKnow.3 ай бұрын
@@OwlKnight32 you can be socially anxious and lonely at the same time.
@katharina33623 жыл бұрын
I didn't really have any traumatic experiences in my child hood but yet I daydream 24/7...it just became a way to escape my "boring" reality and make life seemingly more exciting. I don't want to loose my entire life to those daydreams at the same time I get sucked back in all the time.
@melisturk54523 жыл бұрын
same
@katlover73 жыл бұрын
You just described me perfectly also our names are really similar, ik it's not related to the subject but I just wanted to point it out:)
@fruity36933 жыл бұрын
*Me having most likely undiagnosed ADHD or Autism being understimulated all the time when I was a child* : yeah It’s definitely not trauma
@andrealogal65933 жыл бұрын
Yes. Me too. I cannot live in the present. Even when I am w friends or family i daydream.
@zz77333 жыл бұрын
Remember, neglect from parents is a form of abuse too. I used to have the same thought, but where tf were my parents when I was dding in my room all day? Why didn’t they bother to check on me? Or encourage me to play outside? Or make friends? Because they were neglectful. That’s why.
@merdas25563 жыл бұрын
That's why i'm scared of driving while listening to song Song is one of the major things that triggers me, I don't remember a time where i listened to song like a normal person :/
@skyedl22213 жыл бұрын
Same, songs are like soundtracks for my daydreams
@ed26053 жыл бұрын
Me too lmao I just stare into the wall while listening music and while there is a whole movie going on inside my head
@laibatahir46273 жыл бұрын
Same omg I can’t imagine listening to music without daydreaming
@Maria-in6mt3 жыл бұрын
@@skyedl2221 EXACTLY
@shahdyemen66203 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!!!
@teew39863 жыл бұрын
I remember Daydreaming as early as 3 years old. I've been doing it for 35 years but it's gotten so bad I can't even function at work. After talking to a counselor, I realized I do it as a coping mechanism, but even after realizing that, it's gotten to a point where I can't even function daily. I haven't left my home in a month and I stay isolated all day in my "alternate" world. It wasn't until talking to my sister today, she suggested I go to a psychiatrist for a diagnosis. Long story short, I started googling my symptoms and Maladaptive Daydreaming is ABSOLUTELY what I have. Although it's not recognized as a disorder, it's very much real. I also feel extreme anxiety and have OCD. I feel like a weight has been lifted to find a name to this. Now I want to consume everything I can to learn how to get better.
@lacecocoa6272 Жыл бұрын
Me too. Yesterday 06/01/2023 I learned a name for what I’ve been doing for 19 to 20 years. I’m 24 now.
@zii50792 жыл бұрын
My daydreaming is taking over my life, I’ve been doing it for as long as I can remember. I’m doing it 24/7, there is never a time where i’m not daydreaming. I’m failing a class, procrastinating religiously, and I can only manage to study for a test the night before, but even then I start daydreaming. I believe it started when my parents starting “disciplining” me quite harshly. I must’ve started daydreaming so I could forget about what my parents have done. I can’t remember much from my childhood, mostly my daydreams from them (I can still remember). I’m stuck in this little world, several of them in fact. I really do need help, I need to get my life back on track, and start over.
@rimjhil95442 жыл бұрын
Exactly same here ....even i want my life back but it's so hard to stop daydreaming My daydreaming starts when I listen to music this is my trigger point and I don no how but I have to overcome it anyhow...becoz I don't wanna ruin my academics 😖
@thedancerxx-uk9rw3 жыл бұрын
I am so glad for wearing a mask in public because I often zone out in my dreams and start whispering, doing facial expressions etc. so I can kinda hide it
@patricethomas53683 жыл бұрын
Me toooo!!!!
@Renatap233 жыл бұрын
HAHAHAHA me too
@HoneyHoney-yf6nd3 жыл бұрын
@@No_gts the speaking lines on accident is so me!
@s4zan9913 жыл бұрын
SAME OMGG
@ahmed25273 жыл бұрын
@@No_gts me too.
@soundofgacha69933 жыл бұрын
my personal problem with this is that i don’t really want to stop. i have tried to stop a couple times but then when reality hits i feel sad knowing that this is my life, not what i imagined it as, which is why i think i keep daydreaming.
@alekskush39143 жыл бұрын
I feel u. Same for me. Sometimes life doesn't measure up to what I need and want. I feel like I deserve my escape cause life is shit. But the there are those moments of happiness in real life ... I never feel so alive in my dreams.
@mckayhba3603 жыл бұрын
I feel you!
@Marsmadeit3 жыл бұрын
I feel SO understood here. Literally what it's been like for me.
@tingztingz32513 жыл бұрын
Completely with you
@HoneyHoney-yf6nd3 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@melodyxie58892 жыл бұрын
The problem is,in most of the time I can partly control my daydreaming,but I enjoy it too much that I don't want to quit.Sometimes it's like taking drugs,escaping from reality and your life will be influenced.
@elein32252 жыл бұрын
Same here
@MattMendians9 ай бұрын
It was for me as a kid and still to this day being 51 years old! Unfortunately for me it did turn into also alcohol addiction and I sit in my backyard drinking and dreaming everyday! For me it’s two addictions!
@queenaddy4478 ай бұрын
@@MattMendiansaww I hope you’re able to have them under control, God bless 🙏🏾
@SeonaleeSobermati2 жыл бұрын
It breaks my heart to even let go of those dreams. My reality isn't where I wanna be. It's scary. I would rather die. Everything about my mental health scares me. I just hate interacting with people. I'm in trouble 😭
@MeccaGenesis3 жыл бұрын
Daydreaming has given me a false sense of productivity and success. The journey to relearning myself is so liberating!
@strawberryxoxo68413 жыл бұрын
Yes learning & being aware about your biggest struggles & weakness are what’s going to make you grow & develop to be greater 🤍 Very liberating !!!
@wokk95432 жыл бұрын
gottdamnn why yo forehead so big
@prlids2 жыл бұрын
Omg I feel the samee.. I was daydreaming a lot in my hometown, spinning in a chair with music, and after those dreams I felt confident and stuff-- those dreams were usually about me. But I had to move from home, reality hit me af, I did not have a chance to do it anymore and kinda feel like I have to redevelop myslef again, to build a new personality
@TheMajorDash2 жыл бұрын
THIS!
@samirsuleymanov2099 Жыл бұрын
Don't forget, any sense is false. But if it helps to keep going, utilize these tools.
@trystparadox91863 жыл бұрын
I can't even remember my teen years, I was daydreaming all the time, everything real was like a fog
@palmer4913 жыл бұрын
SAME...I would come home from school, lock myself away in my room, get really bored, and then start daydreaming. But I stopped when I got older and became more productive and social.
@marq69293 жыл бұрын
Me too! In elementary school it was a nightly trip, and in middle and high school I was home schooled, so I could spend entire days in my own world. It was a great (and needed) escape, but that is likely part of the reason my memories between age 15-18 are so blurred and distant now.
@heyanastasia6982 жыл бұрын
I’m 14, I’m so scared that’s gonna happen to me! I do everyday all day!!
@trystparadox91862 жыл бұрын
@@heyanastasia698 Usually there's some unresolved conflict, situation or some people that put you in this mind prison. Read about "gaslighting", maybe it will help
@agnesdcafango28782 жыл бұрын
Wait is this why my memory is so bad 🥲
@AlexRTash3 жыл бұрын
FINALLY an in-depth video about maladaptive daydreaming and how it’s more than simply “wandering off in your mind.” You create characters, story, setting, and sometimes talk aloud to those characters. Extremely helpful!
@maryelizabeth5178 Жыл бұрын
bro almost anything can send me into daydreaming. Excitement, sadness, confidence, no confidence- and the bad thing is I cant even imagine myself NOT daydreaming. Ive found that when I daydream I have to be moving kinda fast, so there's been many embarrassing moments where someone has walked in on my pacing or even jogging while I daydream. Since I cant see myself not daydreaming, I've taken up running and try to only allow myself to daydream when I run. i still don't have complete control, so I didn't exactly fix the issue, just made something out of it
@Chickenbutt-jn2sp7 ай бұрын
RIGHT I’ve daydreamed EVERYDAY for oh most 10 YEARS what am I supposed to do when I don’t? I’m scared.
@bellahunter40253 жыл бұрын
I don't wanna overcome Maladaptive Daydreaming because it is the only thing that makes me happy.
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I totally understand.. it's not always comfortable to get out of them. But if it's affecting other parts of your life there are ways to overcome the urge. xoxo
@durgaambika43423 жыл бұрын
Same here
@GnosticMindTrain3 жыл бұрын
I don't consider it maladaptive in my case. I noticed a lot of my "mental issues" were just over blown by the doctors because a lot I "struggle" with is mostly seen as a positive thing to me. Honestly, I just think I have positive traits of disorders, such as daydreaming, because I've been daydreaming since forever and enjoyed it each time and REFUSE to get therapy for it. I only do it in my free time.
@durgaambika43423 жыл бұрын
@@GnosticMindTrain for me its definitely an unhealthy coping mechanisms ,ruining my life and mental health
@dylancollins74403 жыл бұрын
I like to think it’s a gift that we can learn to harness in a productive way (if it starts to interrupt our ability to function) rather than something to completely do away with/shame ourselves about 🙃 but that’s just me
@broadwaybrat19863 жыл бұрын
As someone suffering from maladaptive daydreaming, I can’t even tell you how fast I clicked on this video
@nicenamehere50523 жыл бұрын
Same XD
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I hope it was helpful :) Always open to feedback if I left anything out of missed something important :) xoxo
@kristynaplihalova3 жыл бұрын
Well I wouldn't say I suffer... I truly enjoy daydreaming, but I have to consciously regulate daydreaming, so that it's not getting more attractive than my real life... That happens so quickly. Excersise mindfulness is really good way to battle that... But ordinary daydreaming is really good to expand your creativity, I think. You cast can't let it overpower you, right?
@zallandkasi73663 жыл бұрын
same
@adpk44813 жыл бұрын
I thaught i was going insane
@jarjarwinks70343 жыл бұрын
Social isolation really triggers my daydreams. It only really happens when I'm at home by myself. This is why covid has been so rough for people like us. However, if I have an interesting conversation with a good friend or go to school/work, it helps to pull me back into reality. But when I'm with people I'm not close to, I dissociate and temporarily lose my ability to socialize, so it has to be a quality interaction in order for me to feel better. I am so desperate for quality social interactions because since I was a kid, I was starved of social connection. I wasn't an only child, but definitely felt like one.
@antoniovazquez27443 жыл бұрын
You know, after seeing the comments and learning that I was not alone, I felt relieved, thank you for sharing this. Also, I would love to share my experience with this. I’ve daydreamed since I was extremely young and it never really got away, my family even gave it a cute name, referring to the weird sounds and expressions I make while daydreaming lmao. I have created thousands of worlds, characters, plots and storylines, and even fanfics in my head. I can recall them and even go back at them when I want. I have some control, but it is usually stimulated when I listen to music or I am watching something on the TV. As I grew older, I learned when to keep it off, although I admit I’ve more than once dozed off in my school.
@authorizeking40272 жыл бұрын
You are literally me. I have done the same things as you
@lacecocoa6272 Жыл бұрын
Same here with me. I’m glad I’m not alone and this thing has a name. I’m trying to stop it for real this time. I’m scared because I want to stop and I don’t want this to take over my life
@flowerpower40243 жыл бұрын
I will never find a partner like that one in my daydreams. It makes me sad.
@cyjung64883 жыл бұрын
Same but then I remind myself that the reason I want the partner I fantasise about so badly is only because they are the imaginary solution towards my craving for validation(yearning for an affectionate partner because I can't love myself,yearning for a good looking partner because I hate how I look, yearning for a partner that appreciates me because I can't see my own worth, yearning for a partner who makes me happy because I hate the way I spend my days ). I remind myself it's not healthy to rely on another person for validation and happiness, because it makes us vulnerable to abuse and that it would mean that we never truly love that person(because we just want what they have to offer)
@graymantis41163 жыл бұрын
You have. Its you! I love that I can go inside myself to feel the love I can't find anywhere else.
@ahmed25273 жыл бұрын
@@cyjung6488 Very well said. I am trying to convince myself by telling these things you mentioned for past 2 months continuously. Hope it will work someday.
@SisterDottie3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@user-nc1dg9cr5w3 жыл бұрын
@@graymantis4116 same 🥺
@josieseeger83873 жыл бұрын
I just thought I was lazy. I'm stunned that it's a real thing.
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I am so glad I could help!! You are definitely not lazy.. just overwhelmed. xoxo
@natnat54803 жыл бұрын
Hey! I would really like to know if I have been maladaptive daydreaming or just normally daydreaming. Well for me, I really consider daydreaming as my hobby. I imagine a devised story of a show I watch where I become one of the characters. However I only do it when I'm bored or I don't have anything to do. I have read symptoms about maladaptive daydreaming like vivid daydreams and detailed stories and the like to daydream, which I have, but I can still do work and task. To be honest, I'm pretty productive. However it really bothers me that I have symptoms of having maladaptive daydreaming. I would like to know if I have it? What are your thoughts?
@Ellielulu_Ellielu3 жыл бұрын
@@natnat5480 As long as it does not affect your life badly (it doesn't seem like it is for you), it isn't maladaptive... You probably are an immersive daydreamer, though. It's basically maladaptive daydreaming, but without the negative effects. You still have the detailed, vividness from your dreams, but they don't get in the way of your life Of course, though, just keep an eye out to make sure it doesn't progress and start hindering you! ^^
@natnat54803 жыл бұрын
@@Ellielulu_Ellielu yes I also concluded that I am an immersive daydreamer! But I still always check so it doesn't turn into a maladaptive one. Thank you for responding! ♥️
@duck61003 жыл бұрын
I can come out of my daydreams super easily. Like if I have to go do something important or have to be in a meeting or something, I can very easily drop the daydream and go do that. My issue is that I really enjoy the daydreams so I'll actively choose to do that over anything that I perceive to be something I don't have to do immediately. It's a form of procrastination. Like most people go watch Netflix but I spend a couple of hours pacing in a daydream. I'm on a PhD so it's a really nice break from stress and also I get bored really, really easily. It's to the point where I can't actually do just one thing at once. If I read a book, I also listen to music. If I'm trying to sleep, I also have some video on in the background (really trying to stop that one but going to sleep is just so boring lol). The daydreams are actually one of the only things that can keep me interested.
@yvshiee._9429 Жыл бұрын
honestly sameeeee! this is exactly what I do as well. :)
@natashaj91695 ай бұрын
You just explained me!!!!! Thank you I feel so validated.
@flowerbloom57822 жыл бұрын
I started maladaptive daydreaming since when I was little and I'm now in my 20s. I need to get out of these daydreaming because it's intruding my life. I'm gonna apply this mindfulness and also see my triggers. This has been helpful. My maladaptive daydreaming manifested from loneliness and anxiety.
@crazycatgirl3 жыл бұрын
I had a "plot" for months when I was a kid. In my teenage years, I spent hours in front of the mirror just dreaming. I still have this but it takes me minutes or so. I have never told anyone, I dont think they will understand. As many others conditions, It's so isolating.
@karenelledge70343 жыл бұрын
I can relate.i really have been scared my whole life.im 65 now.relationships were always abusive my daydreams of happiness and love were just that dreams.fipping back and forth dreams to reality
@emilyesnyman3 жыл бұрын
There are people out there that will understand and can help you to improve. Maybe consider a therapist or medical professional that deals with these types of situations often💕
@OliPop_Official3 жыл бұрын
I have also kept it a secret for so long. I'm planning on sharing it with my therapist this week. I just always found it so embarrassing.
@-chiara-32473 жыл бұрын
I do understand, i tend to have plots that continue over time. You are not alone❤
@crazycatgirl3 жыл бұрын
@@-chiara-3247 Thanks Chiara, send you love
@ChaelaGreen3 жыл бұрын
I clicked fast because I just learned my daydreams have a name
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I hope it's helpful :) xoxo
@user-sd6qv5yn3u3 жыл бұрын
Mine was labeled ADD but i wonder if it might be this
@ChaelaGreen3 жыл бұрын
@@Katimorton THANK YOU ❤️
@shreyakantaria3 жыл бұрын
SAMEEEE
@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger3 жыл бұрын
Is there less daydreaming nowadays? It seems we are rather unsure whether there is more or less creativity in the moment. Although, there does seem to be a tremendous increase in very talented individuals!
@terrilreece80453 жыл бұрын
I find it very soothing. It’s like taking a break from life for me. It’s almost an every day thing. I always feel better and even energized afterwards.
@garycooper9207 Жыл бұрын
I truly think my daydreaming saved me from loosing my mind or doing something really bad to myself when I was growing up. Reality was so rough it was my coping mechanism. At home there was abuse, not much food, insecure times, I was always waiting what bad happens next. If as long as 2 weeks went by without getting hit, being called names, humiliation of some sort I became anxious. I knew it will happen soon. My mother was a beast. Waiting was the hardest part, not the abuse itself. Then after that I could relax for a while and tell myself I survived. Daydreaming took me away from that horrible shit. I had no-one to talk to, no-one to trust. If I would have told someone, I knew I would pay for that later..
@hyphydan Жыл бұрын
I feel you. I was an immigrant child with a mean Mother. I used to imagine getting childhood cancer and that my Mother would cry for me. 😢
@berry8743 жыл бұрын
As a person who couldn't get enough love from her parents, I always found it therapeutic to daydream. Because in my dreams I am loved and respected and I know I sound pathetic and lame but it's been way for me to feel better and I don't want to stop doing it
@septembergold80953 жыл бұрын
Yup, that's me.
@williamfallar87333 жыл бұрын
I do this too. I always dream about having one best friend that I go to school with, I hang out with, I protect and do other things with. I also dream about having influence and power so that someone would need me. It's an addiction and I can't have a day without daydreaming.
@berry8743 жыл бұрын
@@williamfallar8733 yeah. I can relate way too much
@lonewolf65613 жыл бұрын
Me too
@Claring233 жыл бұрын
When I I feel that my friends are not interested for something that I exited to share to them,I'm just imagining them listening,imagining them interested and I started to share it to them in my imagination.
@gpmiranda8733 жыл бұрын
I started doing this as a child to survive an abusive childhood. I used to feel like such a weirdo for doing it. Its comforting to know I wasn't alone.
@jessleighton37953 жыл бұрын
For me it's even kind of a healthy option. If I didn't have daydreams I wonder what I would have done... drugs or reckless sex?
@Mymimemei3 жыл бұрын
Same
@Mina-mb4bh3 жыл бұрын
You are not.I am happy too to see a lot of others people with same problem
@bambiblushofficial12753 жыл бұрын
Same
@gokulkrishm512 жыл бұрын
@@jessleighton3795 I think the same too. But now it tampers with my reality. Even though it's comforting at times, because it's a 100% more fun and exciting than my current life, I can't continue this anymore. I don't want to.
@tamzin00 Жыл бұрын
When I found out this was a thing, I couldn’t believe it. I found inner peace knowing my daydreaming was an actual condition
@zoeymanaog Жыл бұрын
My maladaptive daydreaming was so bad that I do it while watching this video.
@BokunoRico7 ай бұрын
I'M JUST LIKE YOUUU. My mind is currently creating a whole monologue I'd tell if I were recording such video in the future talking about my experience about this issue. 😀
@hollywhelan3 жыл бұрын
eeek.....i just thought this was a part of my personality since i was a child. I always lived in my head or closed my eyes and "re-did" scenarios and perfect fantasy's. I have struggled with ED, OCD, Depression, and trauma...so this makes sense.....writing down for my next therapy session..
@neuroticgurl02953 жыл бұрын
SAME. my gmum lowkey called me out, not addressing me but talking about me and my “virtual characters” to her friends in front of me a few years ago. not cool :(
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I hope it's helpful in your own therapy process :) Sometimes it's just nice to know what we are doing has a name and that it can be worked on :) xoxo
@hollywhelan3 жыл бұрын
@@Katimorton very very true! Im sure it got mixed in with ocd stuff (pure o) but it's definitely good to know and notice going forward. Thank you xoxo and for everything!
@SilverstreamPJ283 жыл бұрын
I've actually been writing down my daydreams into an actual novel plot. It's productive at least, because I can't let it go, I've lived in this world since I was a little kid.
@wlwskye3 жыл бұрын
same !
@akashsejwal31782 жыл бұрын
that's a great idea
@sowmyaanand21942 жыл бұрын
@probiotic drink do u think that helps?
@iamjoyt2 жыл бұрын
That’s pretty genius! Love that!!
@akashsejwal31782 жыл бұрын
@probiotic drink yup I am , i think my reasons for maladaptive daydreaming are loneliness , power I would recommend you to watch video on maladaptive daydreaming his youtube channel is oggamer something like that. Lot's of love yo you:).
@hollysw2633 жыл бұрын
I never realised this had a name! I generally thought I was the only one! I was so scared that I was some kind of freak who would spend all their time creating worlds for me or my characters. I had a very traumatic and turbulent childhood with no security, so these "daydreams" or stories I'd create generally saved my life. My world was so devastating that created many, many more and then I could finally find some escapism and some happiness. Thank you for this. I feel so much less alone now.
@nicoleezs3 жыл бұрын
I can’t believe this has a name I’ve been doing things like this since I was 6 or 7 I can’t stop pacing around at random times of the day and talking to myself and creating a different reality with other “people” and making expressions it honestly has just become another part of my life
@jasminefreya3 жыл бұрын
One thing I would say (as someone with maladaptive daydreaming disorder) is that is doesn’t just trigger because you can’t cope or because you get anxious. I often drift into it when I’m bored so I have something to do. If it’s quiet at work and there’s no one to talk to, to keep myself busy I’ll drift into it or if I’m on my way home in public transport or walking to keep my mind active. It has been a big indicator of how I am feeling mentally, if I feel depressed or anxious most of the time I don’t tune in to how bad I’m feeling until my daydreams get dark (like someone trying to save me or having nearly attempted suicide in my daydream) that’s when I start to realise when I’m slipping back into a state of depression. Other times it helps me to not feel lonely. The thought of taking away those happy daydreams where I have a great life and people around me is very scary and not something I would really think about. I’ve had it since I was a very young child so to not do it anymore doesn’t feel like an option. Would feel like a part of me is missing. Though I do notice when I’m around friends or my boyfriend or being very social it doesn’t pop up as much as when I’m feeling lonely. That being said it still feels like a good release
@christinemaure42163 жыл бұрын
@Gillian BELLONI OTAYZA maladaptive daydreaming is not natural thoo
@isapozzo83072 жыл бұрын
OK BUT THIS YES YES YES
@gabrielleisalanastan3 жыл бұрын
I maladaptive daydream so much that its ✨scary✨
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
That's very common, and I hope some of my tips and ideas are helpful!! xoxo
@Maria-in6mt3 жыл бұрын
Yea same
@Tyrenexg3 жыл бұрын
Same
@eden_7 Жыл бұрын
At first I did not know that it will go that far, I just see it as imagining of my future life, but then I release that I have spent 4 to 6 hours just by living on that unreal world. I feel more anxiety in my life because of not controling my self. It may be hard to stop it but I promise you all this will end up if we work harder. My maladaptive daydreaming has not an ending. It will continues but with out an ending. I also live in many stories that created whenever I come across to something. If I watch a movie, I will again write story based on that movie in my brain by making an actors and actresses that doesn't even exist. I know like imagination will help as to be creative but this kind of imaginary will destroy us. I personally get the lowest score in every subject from being the top student even in the whole schools that found in the region I live. It took my happiness in life, my hope, my hardworking self, and bring anxiety, depression, guilty instead. Eventhough my brain tell me I will not recover from this and spend my while life in this state, I will not stop my journey to becime the priductive person as I was and more. I will recover from this disorder with the help of my God, my religious and my future self. I know it is even hard to tell peoples about this condition (my society doesnot believe in all mental disorders, I also doesnot believe until I came across to this ) we will get over it soon by not let be easy to enter the daydreaming as much as we can. I hope to everyone suffering from this to finally become his/her self without any kind of mental disorders.
@dannyray180 Жыл бұрын
i get bored with life so i imagine stories and scenarios and make it more magical and realize that i have to go back to reality and get depressed because my daydream is more exciting and vibrant
@Startleftendright3 жыл бұрын
So you are telling me, all these hours sat on the end of my bed, not hearing when someone talks to me, getting lost in the woods in a trance for hours, sat on the sofa for hours not wanting to move or having the TV on, missing invites and staying in the garden for hours staring at the tree in my own world is an actual thing??!
@Silveryback3 жыл бұрын
Sure sounds familiar for me...
@Startleftendright3 жыл бұрын
@@Silveryback it's the best place to be 💜
@MsEKN3 жыл бұрын
Yep sounds like my life
@sakurachan6213 жыл бұрын
Same. Im a student and I usually do this at school while im in class so I dont really hear whats being said most of the time. On the outside im staring at a specific corner of my desk (I always stare to the right for some reason), but on the inside I am living in a fairytail with imaginary friends of which I dont have and a very well thought out plot/storyline. I dont really see this as a disorder I want to get rid of, that is...if it is one. Because its the only thing that I kind of like...doing? since im not too physically active..not exactly sure whether thats healthy or not, but sometimes I feel like I would much rather live in my dreams than what i am living in right now if you know what I mean...I learned about maladaptive daydreaming a few days ago, so im not even sure if this is what I am doing. But it seems pretty close.
@jupiter69423 жыл бұрын
Oh, the embrasement when the teacher asked me why I was smiling while daydreaming in class... 😬😬😬
@annayra64583 жыл бұрын
Ouch that happened to me in fifth grade, you brought that memory back
@nolanbuelow5623 жыл бұрын
That hurt my soul bro 💔
@nidasaiyed63323 жыл бұрын
It happened to me many times.. it’s just so embarrassing. Especially when you repeatedly tell them that ‘it’s nothing’ & they still won’t drop it & ask you again & again “just tell me the truth why were you smiling.”
@neon.pink.productions3 жыл бұрын
That’s happened to me with my mom 😂🤦♀️
@enicola66973 жыл бұрын
The embarrassment when you are the teacher and the students ask why you're laughing or smiling...
@neant20462 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling with this for 20 years or more. Last year I started writing a book about the plot I was "obsessed" with - and suddenly everything in my life started clicking and coming together! Getting it out on paper and treating it rationally - as a real book plot that is supposed to be well thought-through - helped a lot. And, it gave me one more cool project to work on!
@eclowe6594 Жыл бұрын
this! is mine maladaptive? I mean probably, it does sometimes get in the way of my life... but also I don't think I would be able to write so vividly if it weren't for the intensity of my daydreaming. I honestly don't want it to go away because it's part of what makes me creative. I mean as with anything I think there's a range. if your job is at risk because of it or if you're checking out driving because of it and that kinda thing yeah maybe it's time to look at other options... but I'm tired of people looking at things like this like all or none... what is the difference if I spend my day off in a day dream or if I spend my day off watching ten episodes of whatever show on whatever streaming platform? the shows are generally seen as socially acceptable so why not the day dreams?
@MazorKuziaki2 жыл бұрын
My daydreaming isn't just an escape, it's a pass time. It's genuinely fun and exciting like playing a video game. I don't want to stop.
@nourrrefaei34413 жыл бұрын
I cant even imagine going through a day without maladaptive daydreaming
@OwlKnight32 Жыл бұрын
Sometimes I get into these "flow states" which is super rare, but when I do, it's two distinctly different realities. Then I fall right back into the daydreaming.
@Hans85209 ай бұрын
@@OwlKnight32wdym? Like you feel Ur daydream or something?
@theworldofashley3 жыл бұрын
I started escaping into my head as a kid because of chronic stress and trauma. Then when I hit my 20s, I developed depression and anxiety and spent my life daydreaming. Couldn't get out of bed to live my real life and instead hid in my brain and the stories I created for myself. It is highly addictive. And I would get emotionally invested in the stories, people, and places I would create. I spent 12 years there. I've worked really hard the past 2 years to get better and I am finally living my life and am happy. But there are times that my brain will slip into a daydream. The habit ( neuro-pathways) are still there. At this point I try and learn from the stories I create. If anyone reads this that is struggling with Maladaptive Daydreaming, my advice to you is figure out how you can apply what you do in your stories to your real life. For instance, I often daydreamed about being a superhero or witch. So I learned how I could apply these to this world. Over the past year, I've become a certified Life Coach, Reiki Master and Tarot Reader. Now I have the superpowers and psychic powers to help people in the real world. ♥️
@danielaaguilar35953 жыл бұрын
Hi, I need help because I don't know how to stop this, I don't have a clue about what can I do with my Maladaptative daydreaming
@hilwataqiyya16823 жыл бұрын
Wow that's cool
@judgedread28883 жыл бұрын
I often daydream about making people suffer, bad. :(
@Kyatia3 жыл бұрын
What if you don't exactly daydream about yourself? I usually create other characters and/or use pre-existing characters that are appealing to me.
@theworldofashley3 жыл бұрын
@@Kyatia try and identify what things your character is doing and see if they can be applied to your life. I don't know what you daydream about exactly, but certain activities must be of interest to you in some way if you fantasize about it. I hope that helps😊🙏💛
@ryshglieresindanum34913 жыл бұрын
I swear i thought i was a weirdo for so long until i found out maladaptive daydreaming was real, i couldn't go an hour without daydreaming, it makes me so happy i'm not alone.
@anonymouschan99103 жыл бұрын
Daydreaming was a coping mechanism I used my entire life since I always felt alone and an empty hole in my chest. I used it everyday and even at school (it started when I was in 1st grade)
@nicenamehere50523 жыл бұрын
HOLY MOTHER OF GOD YEEES, A VIDEO ABOUT MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING :')) FELLAS WE'RE GETTING RECOGNIZED
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I hope it was helpful!!! xoxo
@shreyakantaria3 жыл бұрын
Yessssssss🥺🥺🥺🥺
@gelukkig13573 жыл бұрын
So manny proffesionals dont have a clue. So annoying.
@sarahs85663 жыл бұрын
I set a alarms to "bring me back" in case I drift away. That way I don't lose hours without realizing until it's too late. I am so happy this video is up, thank you Katie Morton!!
@Me_a_documentary3 жыл бұрын
me too, i used to time myself, sometimes it wouldnt work and i would just add the alarm being annoying to part of my daydreams
@StonedApe933 жыл бұрын
I suffer from depersonalization derealization disorder and it kinda blew my mind to know there is a correlation between daydreaming and dpdr. It's been one hell of a rough ride but things are better here lately. Stay strong guys 💪
@sunshinesunshine3833 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to know that i am not alone and experiencing this. As much as i'd like to quit maladaptive daydreaming..I feel as if I can't because it is like an escape for me. It's hard to live in the present most of the time so i guess this has become some sort of recluse for me ever since i was a child.
@luhen73723 жыл бұрын
Finally someone made a video about my life. The characters I have created still accompany me and have truly shaped me as a person. I’m 23.
@francescaelliss3 жыл бұрын
Felt that
@sarahelena56413 жыл бұрын
True! I have slowly shaped myself to be that version of me I like most in my daydreams. And it's actually making me a better person!
@summerha64383 жыл бұрын
For me day dreaming is more like a coping mechanism. I realized this a while ago when I was going through a really tough breakup. I noticed I would purposely daydream to make myself feel better and I would consciously create those factors to help me daydream aka sad music, a quite place, walking around etc. I know I should be facing the problem instead of using my imagination to escape. But daydreaming has really help me to cope with a lot of problems in me life temporarily of course.
@hyenaedits34603 жыл бұрын
Yeah. I don't think daydreaming is necessarily bad and can be very useful to help you keep your sanity but knowing how to come out of it when you need to is an important skill.
@samriddhilahkar64263 жыл бұрын
@@hyenaedits3460 thank you !!!
@KimJansenn Жыл бұрын
maladaptive daydreaming is my coping mechanism. I don’t want it to stop. It helps me, it makes me feel good. It hasn’t taken over the ‘serious’ parts of my real life and instead it’s a bonus to my day, to visit this world i’ve created in my mind a couple of times a day makes me so happy. Almost like i’m living two lives, my ‘real’ one and my ‘fake’ one in the world within my mind. It’s great
@eggchin22x78 Жыл бұрын
With mine I continue conversations with people with what I actually wanted to say over what I actually said. I have done this for years now have even gotten caught doing it but I just play it off lol. I even have storylines in music I hear for some of the songs I love, I love doing it.
@firasarafi1870 Жыл бұрын
Its not called maladaptive daydreaming if it doesn’t INTEFERE with your LIFE instead its called immersive daydreaming.
@eggchin22x78 Жыл бұрын
@@firasarafi1870 k.
@jacksoncitytravels6841 Жыл бұрын
It will get worse overtime. Trust me on this. It's a seed that has been planted and give it time to grow, you'll see it becomes a nightmare. Your fake life will eventually overshadow your real life. It will cause you much depression and problems in your relationship with others. Just a warning.
@eggchin22x78 Жыл бұрын
@@jacksoncitytravels6841 I've dealt with it for a couple decades at least.
@tyben97603 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 20 years of this and for the past decade its been very serious. I feel very relieved that I'm not the only one. Thank you for all the tips as well!! To everyone reading this, you can do this!!
@user-xm1nm3nn7u3 жыл бұрын
I'm constantly looking forward to when I'm able to sink into my inner world. Sometimes I do it accidentally, and completely forget where I am.
@pluutoop3 жыл бұрын
I will do it sometimes automatically in a car and it got dangerous sometimes. I feel I'm out of my body. So I need to snap back not to get into accident. Sometimes also I will be at the traffic light and start daydreaming and it would turn green but it takes 5 seconds for my brain to catch up to it.
@madnessintomagic3 жыл бұрын
ugh... imagine being one of those people who can’t see things in their head. Have no ability to visualize. My life would have been unbearable if I couldn’t daydream at will.
@somanlezi5253 жыл бұрын
True
@AngelDeed3 жыл бұрын
I can't see things in my head and I've been (maladaptive) daydreaming since I was a child. You don't need to see things to daydream, you can just think them. But I agree, it sucks that I can't actually see my stories in ny head.
@madnessintomagic3 жыл бұрын
@@AngelDeed but when you think them, is it just words? Or experience?
@somanlezi5253 жыл бұрын
@@madnessintomagic expérience
@kiera63263 жыл бұрын
Interestingly, I know one of those people, and she’d still one of the most imaginative people I know
@strokeside11782 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I was in denial and thought it was normal since I've been doing this since I was young. I could spend hours in my daydreams even until now. Sometimes, they play out as long stories. Other times, they are just repeated short clips of made-up situations I particularly liked. I actually almost got "pulled in" while watching this video. It made me feel sad that this looks like a disorder and I wanted someone to look at me and say, "Dont worry, I'm here." I tried to catch that moment right before I daydreamed as mentioned in the video, but now, I dont know what to do about it. I will resume watching when I've calmed down.
@caldep9692 Жыл бұрын
I go through the same thing, and I thought I was the only one that went through repeated short clips of made up situations!! I'm so glad other people go through this!
@raquell73 жыл бұрын
I’m relieved that this is more common than I had thought, because I have a lot of shame over it. I do it frequently to cope with stress and primarily to deal with excruciating loneliness. When I was a child I did it so much at school that I didn’t learn anything and barely passed my subjects, which is a shame because I have a high IQ and had lots of potential. I was just punished for it rather than someone intervening and seeing that I had a highly traumatic home life.
@kaminipersaud89973 ай бұрын
if your alone you can share your social media? we can connect
@kvp069333 жыл бұрын
I’ve slowly reduced my maladaptive daydreaming because I realized I was ready to experience the things in my daydream for real. I even “divorced” my husband so that I can make psychological and emotional room for a real relationship. I’m also in therapy and slowly detaching from the traumatic people that trigger my daydreams.
@05videos63 жыл бұрын
how did you reduce day dreaming
@kvp069333 жыл бұрын
@@05videos6 I'm in therapy. I realized that what I specifically seek out in my daydreams (romantic relationship, children, leadership) are something I want to actively pursue in my real life. I focus on small daily habits and changes that bring me closer to goals like dating. I'm extremely shy and HATE rejection. So, I'm working on this in therapy and daily life. I also realized what triggers my daydreams: anger about personal situation, reaction to others emotions. It was my safe-space when I was a child and couldn't remove myself from the situation. Now I have more control over my life. Ultimately, my daydreams are a hinderance now and not a positive part of my life, at least the mutlihour/day long epics. If you want to leave your daydreams behind, or at least reduce the time spent dreaming, focus on the underlying emotional comfort and situations you're craving. I hope this helps. Also, now I try to imagine a door that my "husband" sits by that opens up to my daydream world. When I want to daydream, "he" asks me why, and if it would be helpful. If I can justify my daydreaming, I time it. That way I don't turn a useful relaxation period into hours of wasted time.
@05videos63 жыл бұрын
@@kvp06933 u just described me but i am a man now i found out that only way to get out of my daydreams is by making them real currently i am working hard for it i hope you will also achieve what ever you want in your life and be happy
@thehealthywriter2 жыл бұрын
@@05videos6 If you'd like some tools and techniques you can check out this vid: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/q9Nhfrdl1LuVqGg.html&ab_channel=TheHealthyWriter
@THEDOORIZCLOSED2 жыл бұрын
Im ready to put up the door to these dreams too. Im actually living out the lyrics to Brick by Boring Brick by Paramore. Its time for me to bury the castle. Im crying right now bc its gonna be so hard to lose the “intimate relationships” i formed in my head and face my loneliness but the MDD has done me nothing but harm. I want to know if i can be happy without it and get my energy and youth back🥺🥺🥺🥺
@wooosh87123 жыл бұрын
I have a friend who is a maladaptive daydreamer and I'm really excited to learn more about their struggles and be able to support them :)
@emilyesnyman3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I love your attitude towards this :) As someone who wants to study psychology, I love when people want to learn more to support their friends, cause that's exactly where I get my drive to study this☺
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
I hope this video helped!!! xoxo
@wooosh87123 жыл бұрын
@@Katimorton Yeah, it was !
@pluutoop3 жыл бұрын
You are the nicesest
@em-vo4ml3 жыл бұрын
aww that’s very sweet of you; you sound like an amazing friend
@alienjourney Жыл бұрын
I suffer from maladaptive daydreaming all my life. Thanks for this video. It's very informative.
@juicyloveglitter26 Жыл бұрын
As I watched this video I literally went into such an intense day dream I had to rewind it twice.
@chs183113 жыл бұрын
Maladaptive Daydreaming is the only reason I’m still alive. Since losing my job through a layoff, I have created an alternate life in my mind and I live in that world all day. Most times I never even get out of bed.
@ABhattacharya2 жыл бұрын
But that's depression. Its not helping you.
@lexmcmahan76573 жыл бұрын
I literally slipped into a daydream while watching this video. I had no idea it was this bad.
@TheTallous3 жыл бұрын
Although this has helped me in my life I thought I was insane. I’m glad to see so many other stories. It makes me feel less alone
@lunalenka822 жыл бұрын
So glad to see this video. There’s not enough info and support about this topic. My experience is that over time, this kind of day dreaming becomes like an addiction and distraction is not enough to stop oneself from doing it. I think some people may benefit from approaches used to treat addiction.
@jennamartin59133 жыл бұрын
All of this! I live in my daydream so much, it feels weird to be in the “ real” world. I’ve done this literally as long as I can remember. It feels like an addiction. It feels impossible to stop.
@jasminedarden233 жыл бұрын
Same
@karenelledge70343 жыл бұрын
I thought i was going crazy.teachers would make fun of my daydreaming
@karenelledge70343 жыл бұрын
Oh and a teacher in 60s called me lazy dumb and stupid
@jennamartin59133 жыл бұрын
I remember once my mom came in my room and goes “ who ya waving at?” Oops
@coralvillain4903 жыл бұрын
Same it's so hard to stop I keep going back in
@juliaostlund93603 жыл бұрын
I definitely struggle with this as someone with ADHD. I'm in college and every semester passes and right around midterms I lose my resiliency and I just want to tap out but I can't. I escape through daydreams, videogames, youtube, and hobby projects I hyperfocus on. Then my grades slip and the work piles up, I become overwhelmed and I don't know how to stay in control of the stress, I fallback onto those escape mechanisms even more. The same thing's happened again and I've dropped 2/4 of the classes I was taking this semester. I don't know when I'm going to graduate anymore.
@_just_TK3 жыл бұрын
Talk to your advisor and your professors & they may make accommodations or allow you to make up the work after the semester ends
@emilyesnyman3 жыл бұрын
You just perfectly described my life rn🙈 Will use this wording to communicate with my therapist, thank you. Hope you're going okay❤
@annasophieb.7343 жыл бұрын
I’m in the exact same position, its so hard to get out of it and deal with it as someone struggling with adhd. it’s almost like the adhd is distracting me from getting out of the daydream even though the maladaptive daydreaming itself is a symptom of the adhd. such an annoying paradox. much love and strength to you 🤍
@christopherneufelt89713 жыл бұрын
Good Night Ms Ostlund. For ADHD you should rely on two things: 1. Medication 2. Training on Personal and Time-Management. 3. The focus of your studies. Please, please get your medication from a medical doctor and don't let anyone to know that you take it. And finally: have a sleep schedule. @ daydreaming> its impossible not to daydream, but is possible to use a pen I suppose. Write it down until it start to reveal to you the trauma pattern.
@juliaostlund93603 жыл бұрын
@@emilyesnyman Thank you
@karinagomez99803 жыл бұрын
For me, it probably started out as a coping mechanism..probably still is but I've been using it to help me with storytelling, especially when I'm trying to think of how to write characters and the drama they'll be going through. It's scary to realize after years of consistent daydreaming that this is an issue. Thank you! Very informative!
@laisduarte3607 Жыл бұрын
oh my... I haven't thought that there are so many people with the same issue!!! it is exactly what happens with me! I thought I was never going to be able to name it, or escape from it, every time I think I managed to stop thinking those stories, I fall in them again and it may last many many days, and I will be thinking those stories from the time I wake up till the time I go to bed, it really goes on the way of the things I have to do and on my relationships... I will just stop thinking them when I am mentally exhausted... and then I will say "no, I'm done with it", but next month, week, i don't know, I am inside this "daydreaming" again.
@roshanrahealer3 жыл бұрын
I've turned my maladaptive daydreaming habit into an author career. I still have DPDR, C-PTSD, and BPD, but I am more stable on days when I write. Thank you for sharing your knowledge in these videos!
@autumncortez62543 жыл бұрын
Wow. This is amazing. I started doing this when I went on long walks and listened to music. I would put these fantasies or daydreams to music, like a movie. Sometimes I would lay in bed and listen to music and the same thing would happen. My trigger was intense rejection and overwhelming loneliness. Hours could go by and I’d suddenly realize it was 3am and I hadn’t slept.
@kylaj.49753 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@Nathan-fq4yv Жыл бұрын
As someone who has used Maladaptive daydreaming most of my life as a coping mechanism I feel relieved I'm not alone
@sheryarahmed6331 Жыл бұрын
I tend to walk in circles while listening to music for at least 30-120 minutes everyday, revisiting old memories, creating almost delusional fantasies in my mind. Sometimes I am not even present in my fantasies and the things I fantasize about can be extremely fragmented and disjointed. I do this because it feels good, and seems preferable over taking responsibility and living in my own reality. I am not sure if what I am doing can be accurately defined by the term "maladaptive daydreaming", but I'm certain that it is a very unhealthy way to spend my time and energy.
@sutuudehshaariiaatii19108 ай бұрын
😭me too
@squidge1253 жыл бұрын
As someone who is an immersive daydreamer who has fallen into maladaptive daydreaming at various times it was a huge relief to understand this condition. It has helped me to understand that immersive (fun) daydreaming for me is a relaxing time like social drinking, and when it becoming maladaptive is the same process as slipping into a substance dependancy. It's a thought addiction.
@camilenauta58163 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy maladaptive daydreaming is finally being talked about more. makes me feel so much less alone :')
@ethaninwhite4 ай бұрын
Realizing there was a word for what I spent so much of my life doing has really been an eye opener. Also so refreshing to see that I’m not alone in the struggle with this. I am working using as many healthy tools as I can to help me with changing this, but it has been tricky. Meditation definitely helps when I do it long enough and consistently.
@thatwitch44552 жыл бұрын
I’m kind of realizing this is what I did in high school. It was a really crazy time in my life and I didn’t know there was a conversation around it until recently. It’s crazy to look back and kind of piece things together for a time in my life that felt so hazy and morose.
@gemmathesootsprite28053 жыл бұрын
Seeing a professional person address this is so validating. I been in a fb group for this for a few years and all you ever hear is about professionals dismissing it or not knowing about it at all! I find mine gets better as my depression gets better. The less control I have over my anxiety and depression, the less control I have over my amount of daydreaming.
@meaghan50653 жыл бұрын
I’m in grad school for counseling right now and this video is the first time I’ve heard of this
@melhaniegean9033 жыл бұрын
Maladaptive daydreaming is very addictive, can't escape.
@lgjc6 ай бұрын
I know she’s named every psychological reason behind it, but my personal issue was music and fantasizing since the age of 11. I stopped maladaptive daydreaming when I cut my earphone wires and I forced myself to live without them (and music). I would only listen to music in the car during that time, and my life genuinely drastically improved after some weeks had passed. I fell back into the habit of listening to music and pacing back and forth recently, but living without it was a much better experience: you will miss your fantasies at first, but that is only until you adapt and it will become normal very fast. I started appreciating music and life so much more when I did not have ear- or headphones; I even “healed” from my depression after months had passed, because I started living more being myself! I wasn’t living in my head and fantasies any longer, and I became so productive doing that, because pacing back and forth in my home and fantasizing didn’t take up half of my day anymore. I know cutting up the wires feels very extreme, but trust me when I say that only then you will notice how addicted you were: I literally had to go through withdrawals, but when I noticed how my depression had faded and that I suddenly had new hope for my life and its experiences, it changed me a lot. I also quit all social media and started playing music on my record player during that time, and I just enjoyed life and music so much more. So, even if you adore music and / or singing like I do, know that having an unhealthy relationship with music and fantasizing isn’t exactly what “loving music” or “being creative” translates to. Lastly, you are not harming yourself. However, you could be wasting your time and your potential if you become addicated: I realized that when I quit, and healing from this has pretty much caused me to become the person I always fantasized about being, charming and confident. Because, instead of dreaming about it all day long: I became that person through actually doing.
@ItsClaudx3 ай бұрын
This really gave me hope that I can still stop myself.. thank you so much!
@kodidane58242 жыл бұрын
Lots of people in the comment section like me with Complex PTSD. There's a book I like called "Complex PTSD" by Pete Walker where he explains personality types and effects of childhood trauma. The Freeze Type (me) daydreams and often gives up on having relationships. They seem to be achievement-phobic and stuck in the "off" position. That book really helped me understand myself. I definitely recommend reading it.