Anybody here went from being confident once and having personality to the opposite?

I relate to Peter so much.

Thank you you're doing this. It's really nice to see somebody is releasing his work and providing help to other people around the world for so they can use it for free :)

I’ve been struggling with social anxiety for the past seven years since I was 14. I never really spoke up about it to others and never really worked towards change, I just thought it was just a part of my identity now and tried to carry on with my life. Yet it constantly got in the way caused me to live in fear due to the stupidest ideas. For me SA gave me severe tightness in my head, jaw, and crybaby eyes. These physical feelings combined with low self esteem have caused to act like an empty shell of myself in public. I’m gonna fix this though by the end of this year!

:( blushing is a huge symptom for me, and it’s strictly because of the embarrassment of being perceived by others. In media blushing is often portrayed as a reaction to having a crush on someone or whatever, (which is never the case for me) so i feel like that assumption makes it even worse for me because then I assume that everyone else assumes that i “like” who ever i’m talking to, but in reality i’m just blushing out of embarrassment 😭😭 i wish i could stop this but it happens in almost every social interaction i have. it’s awful

Thankyou Magnus. Really useful in understanding myself much more and far more useful than any NHS CBT counselling I’ve ever had. - no slight on the NHS in general but they are stretched too thin and less effective as a result.

This felt so personal (self focus) that I started remembering all of my past presentations (rumination) which were destroyed by me pushing down my trembling voice until I just would burst into crying (cognitive and bodily symptoms, safety behaviors). By remembering all of this about myself (self focus) I started crying again (bodily symptoms). Needless to say since I finished with school I haven't volunteered for any presentations (safety behaviors). In summary.. ouch, that flow chart tore me apart.

Thank you so much for making this information not only empirically based but also free for all of us to use. I just printed out all the worksheets, and I can't wait to use them.

Why did my heart beat fast as I heard Peter’s situation😭

It really helped me. Thank you 🤗

This is golden! I can't believe I found such a professional video series on KZfaq. Subscribed!

Thanks for making these videos. I've been struggling with anxiety ever since I started high school back in 2018 and lately it's been ruining my life. I recently had to quit my job because of the sheer pressure I felt just by being around other people and the fear of how they would perceive me. I'm struggling with keeping in touch with my friends because of my anxiety as well. It really sucks to have to live with this issue constantly trying to ruin my life in every capacity so I'm taking the steps necessary to overcome it. I came across the link to these videos on reddit so I'm hoping that watching these modules and doing these worksheets will help in some way.

Really helpul stuff - keep up the good work!

I relate to the story and the name, literally 🤷

Didnt give u permission to use my situation as a case example. But I forgive you.

What a coincidence. This is the same theory I kept in mind while coping with anxiety a long time ago while going through a lot for 17 years the first time I went through a lot. Because I had already taken the course Physiology 101 as a university freshman too. It did help me a lot while learning how to not take things too personally as a young adult at the time. Wish I had done more later in my early middle age to help someone who showed up in the shoe store once to work for us before I was told by the manager of the store that she got hired. That was so long ago now I cannot remember if it was when I was still a manager of a department there before I broke my forearm which needed surgery right away and then requested lighter duties. She had shown up not adhering to our dress code expecting to work. She grew very red in the face, appeared to have a problem with maybe hot flashes and said, "Don't you want me to work for you anymore already on my first day here?" At the time we were all there being expected to carry, set up ladders up to 12 feet or so long alone or in pairs to climb up them to retrieve a box of shoes and then carry the box of shoes back down the ladder while the store was busy. I didn't know what to do at the time so I for awhile ignored her until she gave up and then left the store. After that during the season when parents are rushing to buy shoes for their children before school starts while my arm was in a partly a cast and while I was coping with other health problems too at the time related to menopause too I felt anxiety. The prescriptions offered to me only made me feel light headed and prone to fall. During a busy day the anxiety got so bad I felt short tempered. The supervisors I had there for only awhile were understanding enough while I was healing however after that they kept reducing my hours in an unpredictable schedule while changing the scheduling system at the time. Everyone there felt more anxiety than usual because the music playing on the loudspeaker sounded so mysogonistic and full of hate. In addition before my hours were getting cut back slowly but surely there was one day a woman who looked pregnant at the time who had walked into our store and then admitted that she was in labor unexpected too early and it was for the first time and so she didn't know what to do because a rush of maybe amniotic fluid had just fallen to the floor. Again I felt overwhelming anxiety and maybe didn't handle the situation right when calling for an ambulance, cleaning the floor of the customer bathroom and remaining with her there lying on the floor on coats until the ambulance came to get her. Without anyone there phoning for police when suspecting that some crime was being committed. Then after my hours got cut back to nothing a much younger than me woman who had been assigned to be what was called a supervisor fell off of the ladder when I wasn't around, got a concussion and broke an arm too. Quite some time after my arm which was already healed from an injury some years before that got broken too when I was headed to West Edmonton Mall nearby on my off work hours. I have learned something from all those experiences. How can I apply what I have learned now in different role than what I was at the time studying for too at the time? I try not to stress too much about that while having unreasonable too high of a standard to prove that at age 66 now I am employable too just like the young girl who healed before me.

thank you!

I'm 37 and I only discovered I had social anxiety a few years ago. I had never heard that term before. I just thought I was shy. But after hearing it, I don't know where and reading about it, I realized what I had was more than just shyness. I recently was getting some counselling and that person said something must have happened in my life to cause my social anxiety. But I remember being embarrassed and worried about what my own family thought of me on my 3rd birthday when I got Play-Doh as a present and tried to eat it. Once I tasted it I knew I wasn't supposed to eat it but I was so embarrassed and I remember looking around to see if anyone saw me do that. Thankfully they didn't. But it's frustrating when you are trying to get help and people don't seem to really understand it.

I hope it helps me anxiety it co troling my life 😪 thanks for taking the time to help

This video is very helpful. For some reason the comments are full of spam for some random shit though.

Clearly explained

100% accurate

I am 27 years old and I experience social anxiety with women, I really want to fix it and get love and affection. There was only one girlfriend and sex in my life, and that was 5 years ago, since then I have been avoiding it. Thank you for these videos, they helped me take the first small steps - do not look away and talk when possible, I also downloaded tinder and will soon start dating. It is very pleasant to listen to you, although you are a translator, your speech is sweet and kind, you seem to accept my deviations through the screen :). Sorry for grammatical errors

Blushing is my main issue. Made me antisocial and avoidant... which is worse because the things i love are extroverted activities..art and music ...wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy...

I am Peter.

Honestly I would not feel social anxiety If I had to show a presentation, because for me it is not really social thing Yes you have to show it to people but In its core, the point is that you know some topic very well, and you try to present it and explain it as well as possible. So the rules are known, you are good at some topic, you create a presentation in format of slides, you can put some humor in it so that i would not be boring Going to a party is completly different, because the only reason why thing like parties exist is to socially interact with others, There are "social" rules but these rules can only be taught by going to parties, and it so happens that for awkward poeple it is much more difficult to naturally understand these rules

I started hyperventilating and ran out of the class when I just had to introduce myself to others, so I wouldn't be able to even give a presentation. I think my issue is too severe for this program.

I am 37 and i just discovered that i have social anxiety.. I feel like i did injustice to myself all these years.

6:19 if you have a lot of social anxiety, this brooding can be very unfortunate because it takes a lot of time and energy and is associated with bad humor.

What about self love? Do people who love there self enough really care for what others think, do or say?

I think I havent grasp yet..what does he mean when we have to complete your own version of this model? I already did the CBT Diamond.

6:18 what does the post event rumination description say?

Hey so i blink too much while talking and (i lived in a boys hostel before corona) and people there used to make fun of me, about everything single thing that i did. I think some people did that to annoy me and get schadenfreude. Now i get so self conscious even when my lips get dry. Or i feel like i am doing something wrong. What i did at that moment was to ignore everything that anyone says about my looks and what i did. People say that i am too innocent and that i should reply to these types of people with harsh comebacks but i can't think of one. And i dont wanna spend my energy doing that. I swear to god people think i am weak and then only they pick on you. I got pick on by this piece of shit and i even reported him to the teacher but his awful behaviour didn't stop. I even shouted at him very loudly it still didn't stop. He fought with many people and lost and i am not physically strong. I wanted to do speeches and other stuff that i am comfortable with but his bullying inhibited me. I fell into a depression back then.

Is there a way to fill in the worksheets on mobile?? Pls help

Is it helpfull????

I am a student of psychology 2 semester and my presentation of epilepsy in am soo nervous and my teacher told me how you present your presentation 😢 so how I prepare my presentation and study give me some advice please 😢

Romeo Mairs

i used to be confident but then i developed social anxiety

I was invited for a integration party at my work, I will go there. it is starting in 4 hours, I had diarrhea in the morning, I cant eat anything, ive slept maybe 3 hours At this time I feel scared, my heart rate is elevated, I know my voice is very quiet bevause its always like that, and even when i will try to say something they wont be able to understand me I know i will be akward and I will say almost nothing, People will try to be nice to me, they just wont find me interesting or fun, they will never think about me as a person they would like to spend more time with. They will try to dance and sing songs, but i dont know how to behave in situations like that, i cant dance and I dont know any of the "party songs" They said they prepared things like karaoke and stuff I know i will refuse to participate in that, and they will not like that we will see how I will feel after the party is over, maybe it wont be that bad?

I saw many fancy describtions of social anxiety like this but they don't tell what to do with it

He looks like a skinny loyrher from umbrella academy

exposure therapy :o

I know Weedborn has solutions to most diseases.

Ight imma come back when someone tells me what to do in the comments without having to watch a 8 minute video just to find that out

this is messed up.

This dude is saying everything but the way to end this shit