well constructed video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

I genuinely wish I had resources like this channel much, much earlier in life.

The thing your mentor said, about " having someone who believes in you more than you believe in yourself" would fix a lot of problems for a lot of people.

I commit to avoiding all thirst traps and instead focusing entirely on leveling up myself and achieving my goals

I am in the process of doing what he's talking about, I don't use Facebook anymore, I don't have social media for the most part, only FB messenger to talk to family and friends who I can't talk to otherwise. It's not easy, but progress hurts sometimes.

Killing the lottery mindset really hit me, I'm going to focus on that. Thanks for the video!

This is some of the best advice I have seen any from any men's help experts on KZfaq. Every single item resonated as true and helpful, and some of them were profound -- the point about not comparing your pain to other men's was really helpful to me. I really admire your energy and your wisdom. Thank you for what you do!

ok a) can't believe you're 40 - you look fantastic. honestly thought you were my age (28). and b) your videos always give me faith in other men like you being out there in the world so thank you. your wife and son are very lucky to have you in their life.

Appreciating the present. Invaluable. I've just realized this recently. Forget about the past. Be cognizant, but don't worry about the future. Be thankful and enjoy what you have now, today.

I'm gonna go to the mirror every day now and say to my face "you WERE a victim, but not anymore"

This is probably the most powerful video I’ve ever watched and it came at such a perfect time. Having difficulty navigating one of the toughest stretches I’ve had to endure and what you said about not knowing how to handle it struck me. Wow, thank you. Just ordered the book

Darn it. I use my lottery mindset too often. As you said, it effects what I do in the current. Big one!

great timing. just getting out of a relationship and using this opportunity to doing what I need to do for myself.

I'm in a bad spot right now, I know it will get better but I'm just listening to this video before I sleep cause I'm a little scared about my future, thanks for making the video Connor, I don't know what else to say but thanks

You’re right in every point - for 5 years now I try to follow these but I still struggle… I already shared this with my brother.

Conner. This is my go-to channel now. And your book is fantastic. Specifically, Chapters 4-6, amazing! Thank you. You have a gift

I needed to hear this, thank you for sharing your truth! It’s a deeper truth that all of us men to the core are struggling with.🙏

I really respect you and your work, Connor. Thanks for what you do! You're a good example.

Really appreciated this mate. Brilliant advice for men in the modern world.

Another great video mate! Appreciate you.

Good one Connor. Thank you.

Really needed this one today thank you!

Thank you I really needed to hear this.

When the dream comes true, you must grasp it

So much truth here

thx man i appreciate you

First tip was overrated because everyone works out nowadays, but man the rest of the video was just straight insights. The one thing I would focus on is “make your pain your purpose”. That really would solve a lot of simultaneous problems at once in my life.

“Stop making excuses”. Roll credits 😂. No seriously, I couldn’t receive any other messages after that one. If I can stop making excuses, I could turn this ship.

I really appreciate you and your content. Thank you 🙏

You know, I realized, all the times I went to the hospital, no one in my family ever came to see me or friends(lol). I gotta say, once you know no one cares around you, it makes you wake up to how people 'can' be. I want to become an animal and seek revenge but I will not. Not even a call to check up on me, well complaining about bills. All good though, thanks for nothing. No love lost, when it was never found.

Thanks for this. They are all true. #7 is #1 for me. Well, it was anyway. Once I understood that this could be repaired, I became and I'm becoming the man that I wanted to be.

29:20 was very helpful for me to realize. it wasn't until i fully embraced this that i really could feel the full extent of my feelings regarding some aspects of my victimization. one of my primary defense mechanisms have been to deny my weakness or vulnerabilities

Very good! Liked and subscribed.

Could you make a video on why someone would have anxiety before a presentation?

I feel stopping the pursuit of short term gratification and learning impulse control will help me the most. This ties into a few of the other things you mentioned for me. Yes the others are important but this one is something I can start today. Do you have any tools for this? Should I try to track those moments as I overcome them? Or would that just feed back into it in some way?

Man, step 3 made me stop the video to think 🤔 great stuff!

The title caught my attention

the last advice hit me hard

Im feeling rough, I’m feeling raw, I’m in the prime of my life

One criticism I have here is about your first point, where you seem to argue that sleep hygiene is not as important as exercise. They are both incredibly important, and it could be detrimental to some people to believe that their sleep quality can be compromised in favour of exercising. The truth is that there is space for both, and that depending on one's life situation, one of them might need to be prioritized about the other. And if one's mental state is deeply affected by fatigue, proper sleep and rest will be just as important, if not more important, than a strict exercising regime. That being said, everybody has time for, at the very least, mild exercise (say, a walk) every day!

Can you talk about to get thru a break up ? And the no contact rule etc ?

@20:29, you can say reefer. 😂

How do I get your book?

Great video Conor. It might be very helpful to acknowledge that to stop believing you are broken (which is undoing shame) is not a simple decision. It takes time, dedication, and hard work. Its definitely doable. But to just say “stop doing it” implies it is simpler than it really is.

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... as a German Biochemist Ph D - it is Genetics the conditioning of the PAIN - Reward Pattern in the Auto Pilot to which we have NO access - no matter how hard we try to get there ever. It takes intense Inner Strength Training - a sort of „Navy Seals“ Training to de Condition from that pattern and establish a new Genetics of PAIN Reward - that restructures the Auto Pilot In a wider sense it is „De Domestication“ from the social cultural forces that program our Minds - to do things that are BAD for us - and ultimately destroy the Bio Sphere. The Auto Pilot is never addressable via rational and “verbal” means! Best Business for the Mind Opiate Drug Pushers$$$$$

Sorry to say that number 9 is missing ;-)

Book still not available for the UK. Do you hate the English? Joking but I’d enjoy adding it to the arsenal of tools. Loving the content but Everytime you plug it, something agitates me 😂

Good talk, but I'm still mesmerized that you are 40 years old 😲

I'm 25 and struggle with woman after a 3 year relationship. I'm confident that most pretty women want to be manipulated. Being genuine disgusts them. Gotta go a few tiers lower lol

Invite Craig Jones please

I understand not giving women the attention they crave through apps and social, but I'm someone who isn't on any of those. That isn't going to help you get into a relationship because most men need to do those things in order to meet the woman in the first place. And when you said not to go after women you don't have a shot with, that's especially hard because anymore, an average guy has trouble even getting a below average woman. A man who is a 6 is lucky to get a woman who is a 4 because she's holding out for a man who is an 8. And while I don't look at much porn, I'm guessing you're referring to masturbation as well. Most men, including me, aren't giving that up because that's the only sex we get. I'm with someone and haven't had sex in almost a year. We had sex once in '23 and once in '22. Before that we had sex maybe 2 or 3 times a year and the first few years we were together, maybe 5-6 times. So like most married men, taking care of it yourself is about the only sex you can get. And I'm not giving up video games. While she doesn't like me doing it, at least I'm on the couch with her. If I'm out doing the things I used to do like long bike rides or in the kayak and I'm away from her for the majority of the day, then she will make life unbearable. I think I'm like most guys my age when it comes to games. When we were young, we'd play video games and D&D because we couldn't get dates. We now play them because we've gotten dates and learned we prefer video games to being in a relationship.

If men did what you say here.. There would not be any MAGA, red or black pill society.. :D

LOL. How dare you?! Not being in shape is for women only.

This guy helped me to focus on my life and my goals 🫶