Mark Manson - The Self-Help Industry Is Lying

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Mark Manson is a man who does show the dark side of the self-help industry. He leaves a mark with his words and gives a rather balanced view on the industry and life in general. He is real, raw and honest and that's why I think you will love this video.
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Speaker: Mark Manson (The Author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck)
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@rohanbsharma 5 жыл бұрын

Hey, I know you might be getting some hate right now, but I personally think you’re on the right track. I’ve loved Mark Manson’s brutal honesty for years, and it’s easy for some people to feel it’s a little TOO brutal in the beginning. Props to you- you’re taking action on a problem you see. Keep it up. That courage alone is more motivating than any 15-minute video could be. :)

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

Glad you appreciate it!

@damnmayneunfiltered 5 жыл бұрын

MotivationGrid You're waking up. I recently woke up and did a mass filtering of "positive thinkers" and replaced them with "knuckle draggers".

@factsverse9957 5 жыл бұрын

Well this video is probably about the teaser for "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck" by Mark Manson.

@javierbonadeo4569 5 жыл бұрын

same here. First time I read his second book I hated it, cause it was the opposite of all I have read before. Then I realized he was right cause there are a lot of painful but helpful truths

@LukaDonesnitch 4 жыл бұрын

I think he's getting hate because some of the people see the message, you just have to learn to love the struggle and are like, okay? That's it. What if I can't love the struggle then what? It's like the advice is not really useful to these people. Might as well call it a motivation video. Those videos suck, and they go on and on to say nothing of substance, just get you hyped up or appeal to your hopes for a little longer, just so they can keep cranking out this useless content and make ad revenue.

@ChessMasteryOfficial 5 жыл бұрын

*Happiness is not the absence of problems; it's the ability to deal with them...*

@Ray-qt1oy 5 жыл бұрын

I Like this that you said,it's a Powerful statement 🙏👍

@brazenserpent7 5 жыл бұрын

You wrote this same comment on one of The School of Life's videos. Interesting!

@Jaidzeka36 5 жыл бұрын

I've been looking for a quote to go by for years...this just might be it.

@JaysonT1 5 жыл бұрын

@@Jaidzeka36 "expression, not impression". That's a good one too.

@Jaidzeka36 5 жыл бұрын

Personally, I disagree. I believe life is like the tango. But that's just me

@manavsingh7378 5 жыл бұрын

Self help industry is like a treadmill... It gives you a lot of exercise and illusion of moving forward; but doesn't really take you anywhere.

@mjennifer142 2 жыл бұрын

That’s true. So true.

@johnrobert2572 2 жыл бұрын

*but you get stronger on a treadmill

@TheLifeFormulaa 5 жыл бұрын

Totally agree that is an issue. Sometimes as a consumer, you get so caught up in learning the information that you dont even apply it

@ezekiel4481 5 жыл бұрын

This is so damn true yo

@theDavidChannel1 5 жыл бұрын

The last 4:20 says it all. We need to learn to embrace and fall in love with the struggle and the grind instead of focusing only on the prize and the glory.

@cntrygal2007 5 жыл бұрын

@David Duarte Psst! Know what? The videos that used to be on this channel said the exact same thing!!

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

@@cntrygal2007 It used to say that you should risk everything to follow your dream, and now the message is quite different.

@paesanellis5720 2 жыл бұрын

Even that message is as deceiving as the self help industry that he criticizes. Falling in love with the struggle? What does that even mean? Does it mean we just accept that we must struggle in life without demanding better pay and working conditions so that we don’t have to be struggling all the time?

@theDavidChannel1 2 жыл бұрын

@@paesanellis5720 sounds like you're describing a regular job. I'm talking about chasing a dream. All of us have dreams, but most of don't like the work it takes to achieve those dreams. One must accept the struggle it takes to get that dream if they truly want it. A regular job is a whole other conversation.

@glx4909 5 жыл бұрын

1 minor objection: this _is_ a self-improvement video. uh..

@ForwardEarth 5 жыл бұрын

The ignorance behind the claim that you can't change yourself would be laughable if the statement weren't so harmful. As another commenter pointed out, neuroplasticity enables us to make dramatic changes in our brains. A couple of years ago, I was suicidally depressed. I was afraid of everything, full of anger, and I believed myself to be helpless and incapable of improving my own life. But I did have a breakthrough, one that taught me that I have the power to control how I feel, who I am and how I handle challenges and hardships. Now I'm happy by default and nothing intimidates me. All it took was learning a handful of concepts and experiencing the truth behind them. I haven't been magically transformed into a huge success, but I have certainly become someone who is capable of becoming one by putting in the effort and never doubting my potential. I have absolutely changed myself. The filth you're peddling is designed to cater to those who have struggled to take control of their lives and want to feel better about failing, because they haven't found the answers, and giving up is so much easier than searching. And that's exactly whom you're attracting. You can tell by the vicious way that some of them are attacking those who disagree. People who are content don't lash out at others just for seeing things differently. Happiness demands to be shared. It takes misery to be cruel.

@ForwardEarth 5 жыл бұрын

Matthew Neill You have no idea what you’re parroting. I absolutely orchestrated my own breakthrough. There is no can’t, and philosophy is irrelevant to psychology. Yes, you have to get out of your own way, meaning to stop letting your subconscious have free reign over your emotions and intentions and take charge of those things consciously. That’s the breakthrough.

@opheosmedia7809 5 жыл бұрын

Well, those who made the pearl were probably incapable of self improvements, and they decided to take a revenge. Some of us can change their minds and lives, others can't. Genetics defines it all. The video actually encouraged me to watch a couple of self-help videos.

@hypnotechno 5 жыл бұрын

a lot of what you say makes sense, and you should be saluted. But this bit: "Now I'm happy by default and nothing intimidates me." you are not suggesting you are happy all the time are you?

@voornaamachternaam8755 5 жыл бұрын

I agree...what the fuck does this fucker know about someone else?and at the end he's saying the same as selfhelp books....and whats with the horrible music anyway....dramatic shit ...he is as bad as any selfhelp person he tries to put down...yes there are a lot of selfhelp liars and bullshit but there is also good self help material out there...even science speaks of neuro networks and how they can be altered by the way you think....he talks about problems and self help people talk about challenges....the only difference here is that problems are negative and challenges are positive...but they still.are the samw thing....fuck him he is just a negative twat

@theden1400 5 жыл бұрын

@@ForwardEarth how old are you ? Life can throw you curves anytime and you can have to restart you life again and again... When he said you cannot change, what I did understand is how those gurus are selling you easy breakthrough out of nothing, effortless, etc. It doesn't means it never happen to anyone to change, but it is not the free deal for everybody and especially not with a One Size Fit All system.

@polinaa5896 5 жыл бұрын

It's not the fault of self help authors or the industry itself, why do we always shfit blame? Everything you do is your choice. If you believe only watching videos all day and meditating can somehow make your dreams come true, well it is your decision. When you don't see results... Blame yourself. I didn't see any prolific author who didn't talk about the working part, the implementation part. So don't shfit blame, take full responsibility and deal with it.

@0rocker1 5 жыл бұрын

The way he presented the video is nothing short of a sales pitch, he just wanted to get that shock factor in and succedeed in my opinion

@pavelmartinez4617 5 жыл бұрын

Yup @@0rocker1

@pavelmartinez4617 5 жыл бұрын

If you focused in this, you 100% missed the real purpose of the video.

@NoName-dd5vq 5 жыл бұрын

It's pathetic how blind you are. You act as if everyone is blameless except who you are addressing to. It's predatory behavior and contributes to the excessive depression. Blaming yourself for everything helps no one, Narcissist.

@cautarepvp2079 4 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-dd5vq yes but you have to take advantage of it and improve its not about blaming, is about moving forward and try to be a better version of yourself. I mostly agree with the first comment here,

@damnmayneunfiltered 5 жыл бұрын

5:12 "Struggles that invigorate you". If you have never been there, you wont get it. Its purposely taking the longest and hardest path to something because you know it activates a certain flow about you. It causes improvement on a micro level. You stay up 28-30 hours straight working on a problem and fail to solve it. The next day, you realize, "Hey, I can go longer now without giving up." And if you do succeed, youre not enjoying it and basking in it. Youre back to the drawing board to find the next struggle.

@waynedonoghue4071 5 жыл бұрын

Firstly, thanks for the video I'm a fan of your channel. But personally, I found it hard to see what the purpose of this video was? The key message seems to be "Success does not come from dreaming, it comes from hard work". What i saw was a video just repeatedly contradict itself throughout. Every other "Motivational, self-help video" I'v seen says pretty much the exact same thing as this video. WORK......

@bboyfocus12 5 жыл бұрын

your inability to pull the lesson.out of this might be your iq or just your lack of ethic.. but the point is to focus on the work.. not just mindlessly do the hard part.. but to become fully integrated and enjoy it.. once you enjoy the struggle you won... but until you can enjoy the struggle the ladder grows longer.. japanese and koreans are masters at this.. wen u focus on detail u become super focused on.the moment nd do ur work.greatly nd efficiently

@dexdalador 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah man, the exact same thought I had... It is just click bait "you've been lied to by the self help industry, yadi yadi yada..." the thing he mentions what self help like is not even realistic, I haven't heard anybody talking about or writing books about you just dream and one day you won't have problems (apart from the abomination called 'the secret' but we don't talk about that)

@waynedonoghue4071 5 жыл бұрын

@@bboyfocus12 the start of your comment was completely uneccesary! What an expression of pure negativity towards a fellow human being. Assuming I have a lack of ethic when you have never met me or know who I am! Poor expression of character! And I'm sorry for whatever negativity is in your mind.. because one must possess negativity of some sort in order to express it!

@waynedonoghue4071 5 жыл бұрын

@@dexdalador exactly man. This video basically starts off with "don't listen to self help videos" and then goes on to say the exact same things as every other self help video 😂😂

@bboyfocus12 5 жыл бұрын

@@waynedonoghue4071 again you missed my message,, your feelings got in the way, you and success will be distant cousins it seems

@traceuser12 5 жыл бұрын

I’m all for being open to all perspectives so I gave this video a shot. But I disagree with your point of view. Self help and motivation is not garbage, they are tools that help one discover the courage and belief in themselves to step out there comfort zone and take action. Motivation is useless only if action is not taken. But if action is taken than motivation and self help is a tremendous strategy to use to help someone. Just my opinion at least whether you agree or not. But I do respect your courage to change your channel to the complete opposite than what you use to believe

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

I am not saying it's garbage, the way it's promoted is garbage.

@leox3783 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid Exactly!

@raymeester7883 5 жыл бұрын

This video was kind of rubbish. You gave it a shot. That's all you can do.

@polinaa5896 5 жыл бұрын

This video was recommended to me, I'm not a subscriber. But I don't believe in blaming Any indistry. "Self help is lying", and all that... If someone thinks they can watch videos all day and meditate and then wonder why nothing happens, well... They need to blame themselves. Not one motivational speaker didn't emphasise hard work and implementation. It's the person's fault and he or she needs to take responsibility and blame themselves if nothing happens.

@RunawayTV 5 жыл бұрын

This video is itself a self help vid

@rosej5029 5 жыл бұрын

What self help book says it will be easy and without struggle to achieve one's dreams? And who is encouraged by family and friends to go after their dreams? There are so many stories of innovators and goal achievers being discouraged, and made fun of by the people in their lives for chasing their dreams.

@georgiatechur 5 жыл бұрын

For years I've said that everyone is so hard chasing the BIG happy that they don't pay attention to all the little happys that make the BIG happy.

@cathartic1102 3 жыл бұрын

You put it so well🙌🏻🙌🏻

@abdallajbara6242 5 жыл бұрын

when a man uses his acid trip as a metaphor in his book and says 0 fucks given, that's when you know you can trust his insights on anything he wants to talk about, and that is for 2 reasons, 1 being the obvious; he speaks his mind straight up, and 2 the man is awake. So, yes I'm setting a reminder for this I'd like to hear what he has to say, even though I have an idea about the subject but for sure I'm down to make them clearer. Preach!!

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

Abdalla - I think that he is one of few people in the self-help industry that doesn't sell you bullshit. I actually respect him a lot, even though I have followed him for a while, I couldn't understand his message because after all I was one of the biggest self-help believers.

@seantan552 5 жыл бұрын

This video message makes no sense, either what he’s saying is stupid or this channel edited good advice poorly and made it stupid

@cntrygal2007 5 жыл бұрын

@Sean Tan @Sean Tan THANK YOU!! I thought I was the only one who feels this twit and video is ludicrous! What he's saying makes no sense, PERIOD! If you still have a functioning brain, you'd realize what this twit is saying is what the other videos on this same channel were saying!! Only *MUCH* more positive!! As I've stated above: Must be lots of $$$ involved for this channel to change gears like this and become so dark and negative. MotivationGrid. Yeah. Right. Not anymore. This channel says self-help is bullhockey. Yet they push someone who is listed as a self-help guru. Makes one scratch their head and say: "HUH?!?!"

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

@@cntrygal2007 I will just ask you one question? Why do you think negativity is a bad emotion?

@cntrygal2007 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid Hey. If you love wallowing in negativity and don't see anything wrong with it, you be you, boo. By the way, you say $$$ isn't involved or you would've continued the old videos. You do realize how asinine that sounds, right? Think about it.

@321Ramjet 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid best reply ever. Missed it he did. Great question. The troll failed to actually understand the question entirely and missed out. You got me to subscribe, thanks 😁

@raymeester7883 5 жыл бұрын

Sean Tan You are not wrong.

@meowbhai209 5 жыл бұрын

Of course, you can change yourself. You didn't sleep at 5 am and wake up at 12 pm when you were a child. You did that to yourself. Thing is becoming lazy is easy but getting back on track us hard.

@lindseye4300 5 жыл бұрын

I agree with this. As someone who’s spent the last year reading every self-help book under the sun, and watching motivational videos, and has barely moved an inch from where I was a year ago.. at the end of the day it’s about finding a love for the struggle and workload. Most of the self-help industry is geared towards motivating and inspiring which is fine, but if you continue to depend on outside motivation and inspiration instead of finding it within yourself, once that outside motivation wears off ... you’re at a standstill

@i-am-that-what-i-am 5 жыл бұрын

A whole one year? LOL

@thirtywam 5 жыл бұрын

On point

@smallstudiodesign 5 жыл бұрын

I getchya -.I liked how you said every self help book/video - at some point when do we stop all the inhalation & mind numbing overload of consumption + actually rise up and get out and do something of our own?

@walidab207 4 жыл бұрын

because you spent the whole time litening or watching or reading but at no moment you acted,,,,and that s why you still at one place ,,,what were you expecting???

@atlantabaruah 5 жыл бұрын

I was stuck in the pits of the Feedback Loop from Hell as described by Manson and I couldn't even identify it until I read his book. My point is, he gave me a reality slap when I most needed it and yeah, subscribed.

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think all motivational videos tell us to chase unrealistic dreams.they tell us to go after what we truly desire, and to not give up when confronted by failures. You have said the same thing. And the thing about not being able to change oneself is bull because we learn and grow as a person everyday.

@thehumanitudeperfectingthe1777 5 жыл бұрын

It's a great tragedy individually and collectively to die without an understanding that is clear and defined of what you just lived "!!

@meanwhileinespoo1265 3 жыл бұрын

I have been stuck on IT for 25 years.. only realised 2 days ago that I NEEDED to stop.... I feel relieved and free now... they really get you caught up in it and keep you dreaming... come down to earth, feel your feet on the ground again.... get out of your head and into your body.... be human, NOT spiritual..

@ImpactMotivation 5 жыл бұрын

Great Job MotivationGrid, love Mark Manson he's awesome and his books are great, Thanks!

@mikaelkristian 5 жыл бұрын

Great editing!

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks brother!

@Hasnain1F 5 жыл бұрын

I don't agree with everything. I read about 230 books and watched and read thousands of articles, videos and what not. It helped me in following ways. 1) Overcame my clinical depression, suicidal tendencies, social anxiety. 2) Despite being 20 and never have gone to college, I work as a web developer now. 3) Made me such a better and mature person. So again, don't blame all the industry. What they preach, works. Yes, some of them are just crooks and you have to be aware of them. The problem is the "self help junkie" himself, not the industry or any kind! BTW, The Subtle Art Not Giving A Fu*k one of the best I read! ❤

@PracticalInspiration 5 жыл бұрын

*Self help is like exercise. If you watch and fail to take action, you never lose the gut and will never improve yourself. Likewise, if you only pursue results and not enjoy the journey, it's hard to get pleasure in life. Embrace the struggle, and take pleasure in overcoming it*

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

I 100% believe that it's better to spend an hour working on whatever you want to get better, than it is to read a self-help book.

@CJ0101 5 жыл бұрын

Obviously you don't overcome it; otherwise you wouldn't have to embrace it.

@CJ0101 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid Even if you want to get better at reading self-help books?

@greglasiter 5 жыл бұрын

The best thing I ever heard from my therapist is "Don't waste your energy on things you can't control".

@Zippyconvon 5 жыл бұрын

Hm, I'm sitting on the fence about this one. On one hand, hearing the phrase you can't change yourself so don't even try reminds me a lot about what I said to myself when I suffered from clinical depression and anxiety. I firmly believe you can change, but in things like social skills etc. Nothing massive, but small things that help you through life a little bit. But I also believe that you shouldn't put all your eggs into one basket, don't dump your money into something risky. I think people should improve on what truly makes them happy. Writing a book is hard work but I enjoy that work. It makes me happy. But I'm not gonna put all my bets on being successful on my first book. I appreciate honesty. I appreciate staying humble about your potential and dreams. But I think the most important thing to remember is to not find too much enjoyment in the brutality. For me personally, self help videos give me a push to keep going, it didn't get me there, it probably won't get me there, but they stop me from beating myself further downwards. So yeah lol, I like the honesty, not too much a fan of the brutality but maybe that's because of bad experiences with it. I'll stay tuned though and see what develops.

@CARNA6E 5 жыл бұрын

Great! Now forward to the next motivations/success/self-development video

@makenithappen 5 жыл бұрын

The danger with being in love with the struggle is that you're always looking for pain and struggle. You have to have balance. Don't be afraid to struggle but don't be so attached that you create it.

@theteknologist9574 5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes the person speaking is selling products, others might be sharing wisdom. Some actually do both. I think the point is we all want good feelings, and to be motivated. We cannot let an addiction to needing to feel motivated substitute for the long, often times tedious drudgery that it takes to make real change.

@vision3691 5 жыл бұрын

I have read a book about confidence. I was not confident before I read it. It showed me how to be confident. I am 19 and when I'm around people, everyone ask me about my age. The reason they always ask becasue I look young but talk like a 30 years old guy. So I tell them to guess my age. The usual answer is 24. Eventually I tell them I'm 19 with a big surprise on their face. I ask them why are you surprised? They usually answer "you have all this confidence and very smart guy"... well, I'm proud to hear that. The thing is, I never saw that big surprise on their faces before I read that book and done the things it told me to do. Slef-help books are great. It helped me a lot of coming out from dark places like being lazy and not taking actions. So what's the point of this video again?

@deepfriedpunkaceratops6037 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the video my dude. Very interesting insights. My mind exploded on "self help ultimately being self-defeating." I've been chasing the dragon of the next stage in personal development for years and hardly let myself smell the roses along the way. Time to pump the brakes a little bit and let the good times roll. Peace.

@mjennifer142 2 жыл бұрын

It’s god who you really need. A lot of people lose there way when they get into the self help. They forget God so.. yeah that’s what happened to me.

@NeilMacedo 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I think that I needed to hear this 😊

@vmm5163 5 жыл бұрын

Uncertainties, struggle and chasing dreams only occur in youth, by middle age you suddenly understand someone out there has been dictating a false dichotomy merely as a means to fill *their* own coffers. In old age all the answers are clearly laid bare, but the young have no interest in older people or their experiences, so the meaning of life and the future struggles will go on and on with no resolve. Until they themselves reach middle age and then it's, "Ah. I see now. Why have I put myself through so much, and looking for the answers in the wrong places."

@ms2t07kentinyus9 3 жыл бұрын

when you realize you are watching this anti social media video in a social media

@rosej5029 5 жыл бұрын

Many self help books do say that it takes work and devote chapters to the different steps needed to achieve the goal. Jim Rohn, Respected Personal Development Speaker, and author of many self help books is quoted as saying (to paraphrase him) don't get caught up in the smoke mirrors of someone who says you can have the reward without putting in the work.

@Mai-on6dc 4 жыл бұрын

He was basically saying, "You can't change yourself if you try. So don't try. Stop trying. And instead of trying just BE." You know. So the "don't try" means, do it or don't do it. Stop hoping for yourself to change, stop thinking you can change yourself, just change yourself. I've read his books. They're offensive, but in a way that I think most of us need, contained with a lot of things we don't want to hear but we actually need.

@lush429 5 жыл бұрын

Yup... yer right... I work in mental health and addictions... Thank you...

@shivangi3030 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks I really needed to hear this

@GroundbreakGames 5 жыл бұрын

This is over generalized and stereotyped beyond belief. I've never listened to a single self help person who made people feel entitled or they deserve it without work. Then you go on to say that everyone who gets self help is a addict of self help.. according to who? According to what data? So 1. You make a huge generalization about what self help is, then base an assumption about the people who utilize self help, based on your generalization. This video was 100% worthless. I use self help speakers like Gary Vee to push me while I've been working 15 hours straight on my side hustle making my dreams come true. He promotes struggle, hard work, the things you claim we need, yet hes a self help speaker, so... are you wrong or just overgeneralizing to make it seem like you are smarter than anyone who uses self help...

@ZephyrusBlue 5 жыл бұрын

Groundbreak Games for real, for me it’s been a lot of CharsimaOnCommand and various Jordan Peterson videos and NEITHER of these make it seem like it’s going to be easy, not even for a second. Idk wtf is going on with this video because (luckily for me) the things I’ve watched/stumbled upon haven’t given me some bullshit fluff; they flat out make it apparent that you MUST PUT IN THE WORK to see any sort of results. You must take what you learn and put it into action in order to really see any change and start actually improving. The overgeneralizing here is definitely real.

@marksoberay2318 5 жыл бұрын

Agree this video is terrible

@LeydiMorales 5 жыл бұрын

I actually did get addicted to personal development (specifically Law of Attraction stuff) and I honestly believe it led to my depression. I used self help as a coping mechanism to avoid feeling shitty about my life, myself and my problems and I believed that this one person who was talking about THEIR OWN experience was going to lead me through my breakthough and I would finally be able to achieve my dreams. At the end of the day, I actually had all the answers and realized there is no one size fits all. What worked for them may or may not (a lot of times did not) work for me and that is fine. Once I started actually focusing on my skills and mastering them and trusting myself was when i actually started making progress. I also think a lot of what he is talking or referring to is the Law of Attraction niche which I can talk all day about how "thinking positive and visualzing that your million-dollar check is coming in your mailbox if you just feel and believe it is" is overrated and B.S...I do believe in the LOA, but not how the mainstream "teaches" it.

@mndbd 5 жыл бұрын

i thought this was a self help channel

@ajeetalbert91 5 жыл бұрын

This is the real help anyone can get... Face it!

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

Actually, it won't be anymore. From now on it will be a not self-help channel. I will still keep the old videos because I really used to believe in them, but I will try my best to create videos based on science and not mumbo jumbo from now on. It's time to change this rotting industry. The fact is that the majority of self-help information out there is either a placebo at best or complete bunk at worst. I know that most people won't enjoy this change, but I want to do work that I believe in and I don't believe in the self-help industry anymore. I've been in it for 5 years, and most of the people in it, just want to sell you their "life-changing" product. And that's complete bullocks. So no more bullshit like - the law of attraction, the secret, the power of positive thinking and things like that.

@Ian-hn8ty 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid what really? the point of self help books or videos helps me because i have a negative mindset. i dont have anyone around me to teach me that so these really helps me. Once you got the positive mindset more permanently, anything becomes possible. Its your problem if you feel people are doing incorrectly with their positive mindset? Obviously if you feel that, means you are not learning anything....mindset is everything man..thats why many have mental problem. Once you have the mindset, even you dont have success, you can live very peacefully in your mind. Its like benefiting from it already and then start complaining about it cause it doesnt work? Its better for people to FOMO than drift through their life man. Whats wrong with that?

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

@@Ian-hn8ty Actually you're completely wrong. It's completely fine to be negative, and mindset is not everything. That's what the self-help industry is telling you. Being negative is part of being human. The thing is self-help is not scientifically validated and "gurus" just want to sell you their life-changing product. It's not a beautiful industry. So, no, the mindset is not everything.

@cntrygal2007 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid Funny how you say: " most of the people in it, just want to sell you their "life-changing" product. And that's complete bullocks. " Yet here you are, pushing this twit's 'life changing' product (his book). If this channel is no longer what it was, then I will unsubscribe from your channel and tell others to do the same: unsubscribe or don't do it to begin with. This channel was *AMAZING* and truly helped me with my negative mindset. After reading over your comments and responses, this channel has changed....and not for the better. Must be lots of money involved to suddenly switch gears like this out of nowhere. Need to change the name of your channel then. Instead of MotivatioGrid it should be called PushingTheDarkSideInsteadOfMotivatingPeople. This guy you're pushing surely has the right last name!

@amandabrisbane8716 5 жыл бұрын

There is an element of narcissism in the craving for self_help. I hv been trying to alter my attitude for 40 yrs and I found myself BACK inside the same emotional hole I was in then. The one thing I hv found though is this - ENJOY every moment- cos that’s all there is. Struggles build us. Enjoy the struggles. Yes. I hv been thinking this a lot of late.

@christianlamb 5 жыл бұрын

Super inspired sir!! Lovely work!! I'm planning to put out some truth like this in the future. Keep inspiring!! Thx!!

@philosophicalmonkachu7711 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you,,I really appreciate it. Self help gives me hope to live. Life is too short do and then learn.knowledge can shorten that process of pain.

@charleshurstreinvention3959 2 жыл бұрын

The problem with the self help industry is that too many people believe that simple participation will fix their lives. IE "I read a Tony Robbins book and all will improve." Robbins gives excellent advice at times. And I'm sure that if one had thousands of dollars to throw away his seminars would be a positive experience. But the root of self help as I tell my own subscribers is this. Self. Most intuitively know that they have to have a positive mindset, have to have good strategy to advance and have to use massive effort. The self help gurus may be helpful in some aspects of turning your life around. Some strategical methods. But if you are spending all of your time reading book after book and chasing these gurus all the time on YT or around the country (including me) then you will never be focused on the actual advancement part. I'm only small time but this is my constant advice--take what works and discard what doesn't. You shouldn't be spending thousands of dollars when the real origin of change is in the mirror. Hope that helps someone out there--Charles.

@missynie83 5 жыл бұрын

Self help IS hard work and dealing with pain and struggles!! If not then you are still in the browsing fase. Which is also valid by the way.

@zacks1981 5 жыл бұрын

Hello, may I know What is the ending music title name?

@BearKlaw 4 жыл бұрын

I love that episode on Bull Shit with Penn and Teller where they debunk the self help industry.

@clydenolet736 5 жыл бұрын

Any self help/motivational guru worth their salt will point out - the ONLY help. Is SELF help. They can sell you the blue prints but there is no finished product without hard work.

@mefisth8678 5 жыл бұрын

I think what what he means by "You can't change yourself" is more like you can't change what your consciousness is, of couse you can learn new things, become stronger and etc, but your consciousness will always be the same. Beside that, the most important message is for you enjoy the process and the stuggle, like many people have the dream to finish college and when they finish they're not more happy, that's because we have two selfs, the experience Self that lives in the now and the remembering Self, who dream about future and have nostalgia about the past, but is never in the now.

@elliewill5097 5 жыл бұрын

Mefisth the way he said it was so depressing tho. He was literally bashing other people for trying to be a better version of themselves as if he knows “every single person who does self help” this video is so toxic. I could barley last 3 minutes.

@katherinekelly6432 5 жыл бұрын

It would depend on what you are trying to change Self help inspires through either the charisma of the speaker and or the infection of the group as to how an individual responds while in the presence of others. Both are powerful elixirs but there effect is temporary. Your money is spent but the returns on the money dissipate with time. A more effective form of motivation is through permanent immersionmuch like how you would learn a language. Place yourself into the environment that you want to become and this environment will create you into what it is. The environment is the potter acting on the individual as clay but the clay shapes itself into the vessel it wishes to become by choosing the potter.

@zeea6507 5 жыл бұрын

People getting touchy because it’s the truth get out of your feelings and let’s take some massive action this 2019.

@zamansizezgiler 3 жыл бұрын

If you just watch and do nothing, what do you expect to happen? Mental inertia is death.

@RunawayTV 5 жыл бұрын

A motivational video talking about why other motivational videos suck ! Im in a loophole 👌

@dorinioanaalexandra 5 жыл бұрын

Finally a video that had to be made. That’s refreshing.

@solijss9059 5 жыл бұрын

I just bought the book the subtle art of not giving a fuck and this came out in youtube recomendation

@user-rq7yo2oj8v 3 жыл бұрын

I was really struggling with my self-confidence. The way I changed this is through trying to convince myself that I can do everything and making small things on my personal progress. Every little change you achieve will boost your confidence. Kind of a virtuous circle! The one thing that really helped me to do so was Forwago and I am so thankful because I found about it.

@LD_Paradox 5 жыл бұрын

Not here to changed myself but grow as who I am

@sandrajovic9304 5 жыл бұрын

Yeeeeeeeess thank you ❣

@octane2344 5 жыл бұрын

Yes. Embrace the struggle. Celebrate the challenge. Yes, your core desire/need isn't going to change. Yes, there's an addictive element to self-help products. However, he didn't acknowledge the idea that your heart-inspired purpose or mission is connected to the community's needs and desires. Your mission is directly connected to inspire others when everything clicks together.

@raunakmudgal2108 3 жыл бұрын

I enjoy pain, struggle, practice than so called success & failures usually

@vacaspen5038 4 жыл бұрын

You will feel that you progress when you have for what what they are feeling is the anticipation of such a thing

@theAvaNJames 4 жыл бұрын

Ultimately we have overall responsibility for our success and growth!

@riyashigwan9892 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark. Really. I am going to be grateful.

@BrickFilmerPowerlolifk 4 жыл бұрын

Great video. Thing is, there are some gurus who embrace problems, facing your fears and your greatest struggles.

@abhishekaggarwal7215 5 жыл бұрын

Good work

@bbuildingmarch7060 5 жыл бұрын

I thought everything I was doing was helping me get closer to my goal. But it turns out, everything I was doing only brought me further away from reaching my goals. I was running away from my pains and fears.

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

That's what I've been doing my whole life, the thing is nothing happens overnight and it takes action and then it takes time.

@bbuildingmarch7060 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid Time..... I always thought action and thought NOW. But I never thought time...

@bbuildingmarch7060 5 жыл бұрын

@S M I was going to the gym 6 days a week; literally everytime something in my daily life gave me frustration, I would go to the gym but that only distracted me from my problems. I would read books when I got mad about something not working out in life. All that ever did was distract me from my problems. That's what I was doing. Getting temporary relief. I need to be honest with myself and actually face my problems to solve them.

@bbuildingmarch7060 5 жыл бұрын

@S M Well the thing about health boosting activities as escape mechanisms for me was simply the fact that when i was frustrated about not having things my qay in life, i assumed i wasnt good enough. so i did things like weight lifting and cardio in the gym to get a better body and reading books to become more knowledgeable so that i could "be good enough". Never worked though. Same old results

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

@@bbuildingmarch7060 That's the big issue with the self-help industry. I will just say this, 98 % of the self-help books/videos are just money making schemes. It's very easy to sell dreams to people. Stay tuned for my next video, it will explain a lot.

@heathcliffbeareroflight3161 3 жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head!

@adsertif123 5 жыл бұрын

The comment about changing yourself is actually very nuanced. It’s designed to tell you that you aren’t your habits or actions, so focusing on changing those, rather than your identity will be more productive.

@prowland8471 5 жыл бұрын

One statement of BS in this is the thought people enjoy the struggle....no we don't. That is ridiculous. Struggle is how we grow. Struggle defines us. Struggle is how you get better. Only thing that forces us to go through struggle is discipline and ability to forgo our fear.

@competenceinmotion6426 4 жыл бұрын

Finally, real people surrounding the comment section, not a bunch a kids

@ZamaniSahudi 5 жыл бұрын

Never thought of it this way. Probably i fantasize too much without action. But fantasy and imagination is part of life and should not be ignored. I think it is beyond what our current science understand. We are all connected. Our instinct are most likely correct. This video will led for people to believe that imagination is not part of it.. but i dont think it is true.. imagination play a big part of your success. Without imagination there is no further plan.. the rest is where your willpower to succeed at what you want. Just my 2 cent.. correct me if im wrong

@shadowflare7230 5 жыл бұрын

Weird that's basically the message I got from most self-help book and video I watched before.

@Heart2HeartBooks 5 жыл бұрын

I fucking knew it! I sit down and watch tv from morning to night and drink my spiced rum and coke and I have a great time. Fuck this self improvement shit! I am self actualized! I am enjoying my life just fine!

@pablogalvz 5 жыл бұрын

Great line, “it’s actually very hard for us to know exactly what we want.” I believe this is one of the key aspects of self improvement as we know that goals help motivate us to action so we dream up some utopian life/situation but how do we really know this is what we want if we’ve never had it? For example, I know a couple people who have a nice yacht... sounds great but they spend more time maintaining, staffing, and paying for it than enjoying it. The question is do we release the notion of the “end game plan” - that utopian dream life - and focus on smaller, measurable improvements while enjoying the daily “struggle” and continually improving as a human over time? Enjoy the journey rather than focusing on the destination so-to-speak? Or is it still important for us to have that “big-a__-hairy-goal” in life?

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

That's a nice question. I love it :)

@gregnixon1296 4 жыл бұрын

My self-help was helping myself to recognize that I didn't actually want more, better, faster, etc.

@mathieupoulin7041 4 жыл бұрын

Just WOW !! Thank you 🙏

@Ajay-ph1ei 5 жыл бұрын

I do not read self-help books but I read literature. I observe people, listen to their conversation. I changed myself by self-discipline.

@restinpizzas8760 5 жыл бұрын

If you want to learn more for this just buy the book. Its a great book and helped me a lot. The name of the book is (The subtle art of not giving a f*uck)

@KrzysztofStrozik 5 жыл бұрын

Great edit! What is the original source? Can you share the links?

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

The original source of the speech? It's from various Mark Manson interviews. The footage is licensed via Filmpac, and the audio via soundstripe and motionarray. Same goes for the sound effects.

@poetryjones7946 5 жыл бұрын

I like this guy. He’s like Tyler Durden with better clothes. 👍🏼

@ericcrak439 5 жыл бұрын

there was another video on youtube about this kind of motivation that was inspired by mark manson and i loved it so much. however i cant find it anywhere because the thumbnail, title, and actual video had nothing to do with each other and i cant find it in my watch history for some weird reason. if someone knows what im talking about please let me know if they can find it or if its probably deleted from YT. ive spend hours looking for it lol

@smallstudiodesign 5 жыл бұрын

I think it's time to seek balance between learning from others (which has its necessary place) vs just going off on one's own joourney of self discobery without outside influence ... figuring out our own paths

@the.integrativenurse 5 жыл бұрын

This is spot on. It takes a lot of courage to stay true to yourself...especially when you know you will get backlash for 'changing'. It's amusing to read the recreational outrage and uproar in the comment section. We are all allowed to have our view on life. I've BEEN a self-improvement junkie. I've come a LONG way over the past decade...but I used the process of hoarding self-improvement to justify a lot of inaction. Until we are able to truly take an honest look at ourselves...we will continue to get offended by ideologies that may contradict our own. Best of luck on your journey. At this point I've chosen to subscribe. I hope you don't let the anger in the comment section get to you... It's not about you. Neither is this praise ;)

@EricSmith-bx5lv 5 жыл бұрын

Play 3 notes on a piano and pump out jargon. KZfaq gold.

@PutchewInnaspin 5 жыл бұрын

Eric Smith shhhhhhh

@brazenserpent7 5 жыл бұрын

"You will wish you had watched..."

@laurisolups6563 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, fellow grammar national socialist!

@brazenserpent7 5 жыл бұрын

@@laurisolups6563 If you use the word "fellow" in that context, then you are also part of that group, my friend. Happy New Year 2019

@robertorossi5165 5 жыл бұрын

It is a cultural leap..without a certain number of people of a group that try to change thinks we would stil left in caves...and don't forget the Maslow pyramid...we enjoy the sacrifice and pain of people that tried to fulfill their dreams..without them..no Internet

@bmcb3664 5 жыл бұрын

Anybody out there wanna purchase some motivational reel-to-reels?

@KayFlowidity 5 жыл бұрын

Watch self help videos and actually work hard to apply it. See your own personal results and view this vid as a reminder to keep grinding...which is Self Help in itself. They're speaking of "Extreme cases" of those folks who don't walk the talk similar to religious folk who are lifelong church goers but aint shit spiritual about'em. They're just happy to be a part of something they view as bigger than them. Otherwise, they have no purpose. People NEED something to BELIEVE in. It's not about the start or the finishline. Its the person you've grown and improved to be during the journey rather than the destination. That's when your REAL success shows up anyway. We plan and God laughs. Control your effort and that determines your outcome which grows your competence and builds your confidence. By then you're in love with the "Process" or scrap it and do something else you "Enjoy". Again, Self Help! That doesn't make the industry "ALL" bad. That exposes you as a lazy fuck when you KNOW you're not doing shit with what you're learning. Most of us are taught this in grade school and sports during our childhood. I agree with alot in this vid only after Ive taken the meat and thrown away the bones of cynical contrarian talk which is to some in itself...Self Help. Think for yourself folks. Facts don't give a shit about opinions ✌✌✌

@Rongkim12 5 жыл бұрын

Always believe that good things will happen. Live Now

@CFredRN1 5 жыл бұрын

Ram Dass "Be Here Now"

@YoungNOfficial 5 жыл бұрын

This is an eye opener!

@Motivationgrid 5 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it. Better things are coming, no more bullshit.

@YoungNOfficial 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid haha great to hear

@JaysonT1 5 жыл бұрын

@@Motivationgrid I see you have read the subtle art...lol. 👍

@frankfood3337 5 жыл бұрын

Great!

@leggocrewtv2052 5 жыл бұрын

Slightly disagree: the experiences of the “improvement” also create character?

@maryclutterbuck7183 5 жыл бұрын

Bpd diagnosis was the biggest waste of my life. 8 pages of meds and then telling me I need to breathe more. I found the more I read about it the more I convinced myself I was this personality disorder, it became so ridiculous I just started clowning around about it. I wish psychiatry would listen to their patients instead of their ego sometimes, turns out I was actually bipolar and it was so evident. Straight out of the textbook evident lmao. Pretty sure they were just tryin to kill me.

@maryclutterbuck7183 5 жыл бұрын

Anyway that diagnosis made me more toxic than I was in the first place lmao!! Healthcare always lending a helpin hand. If you can fix yourself by yourself, you’re stronger for doing that. All I did was sit in group therapy listening to the boomers crying about road rage while they’re coked up on stimulants and my therapist never shutting the fuck up about how it’s hot in Arizona... like no shit.

@ChckYourHead 4 жыл бұрын

@@maryclutterbuck7183 Sad to hear that. I go to a therapy group as well and if there wasn't a connection to the group (even though it's not easy at all) that would feel pointless or even fearful to put myself out there. Hope you've switched to a different one..

@sunnyd4889 5 жыл бұрын

Wow! This is bleak and depressing. Using the imagination to dream is an essential part of bringing in future realities. You must be able to see a better tomorrow in order to get there. Not all dreams come true but the act of dreaming opens up possibilities of thoughts that create new neural pathways which improves overall mental health. This guy should maybe open up a book or see a self help guru on neuroplasticity and brain health.

@dannykeiss7955 5 жыл бұрын

As you can see in the comment section below, not everyone is ready to hear this specific advice, most may not even need it, ever, but for some it will help them see.

@TheAero 4 жыл бұрын

Self help always talks about hard work and taking action.What is this guy talking about.Even his book is a self help that contradicts itself and talks about self help only of positive thinking which is a very small percentage.

@jeremytaylorfrancisgleaves3854 5 жыл бұрын

Mark manson really started me on loving books. Glad to see him on this

@jacktrika 5 жыл бұрын

And you will see alot of what you said in older people.. notice how slow/patience they are.. walking is a struggle that caters to the art of patience/gratitude..

@jacktrika 5 жыл бұрын

What you speak is truth..glory to god for he is the eternal authority that casteth authority also through our lord jesus christ..