Religious OCD and Perfectionism
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3 жыл бұрынThe importance of addressing perfectionistic tendancies when working through religious OCD and scrupulosity.
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@garyleuba3036 Жыл бұрын
I was raised Southern Baptist. I was saved at 15 years old in 1981. In 1984, I changed to A/G where I received the Baptism of the Holy Spirit and was on Cloud 9 my first couple of years in the Spirit filled life. After I was saved, I started having intrusive thoughts, but didn’t know why. Now, looking back it had to be OCD developing. In 2017, the bottom fell out of my life with this subject. Everything that Mark is discussing I have experienced. I had suicidal thoughts because I was so miserable. But, I refuse to give up the fight! Thank you Mark for all that you do! Fear shall not have dominion over me! See Psalm 23 and 91!
@eduardoan777 3 жыл бұрын
Literally you have helped more in 2 days than all the things i tried the last 2 years. Thank you so much!!
@inlovewithjesus9909 2 жыл бұрын
I consider this OCD as a blessing actually. Before im not into worship, prayers and reading the bible. But because of this, i become holy and holier. The longer you have this the holier you will become, trust me! I think its a God’s gift. And we know anything from Christ, it must have suffering. So this is it! Its his way to save us to be more closer to him! If attacks happen, this verse is so effective just say it in your head “ The God of Peace will soon crush satan under your feet.” And it works! God bless you all. ❤️
@lalavargo 2 жыл бұрын
12mins in and I just want to cry. I feel like I'm not alone (or mad) and that what I've been experiencing for practically all my life is something that can be resolved. It helps to be understood. God bless you Mark
@Nightwalker25-m3u 7 ай бұрын
It's agonizing to be in disturbing thoughts. 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
@robinhelenehebert Жыл бұрын
Needed this so much. Years ago I had this psychotic break and I felt like I committed the unpardonable sin. It was torment. Now years later I still have insecurities regarding my relationship with Jesus. I have a hard time feeling love.
@andreav1706 Жыл бұрын
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@hayyyitstay 3 жыл бұрын
I have to say that I am SO GLAD I came across this because it has literally been my life to a T!! Thank you Mark for exposing perfectionism for what it truly is, especially from a Biblical viewpoint! God bless you 😁
@naphtaliministries 3 жыл бұрын
I learnt that I could hear the Voice of God at a major legalistic, Jezebellic prophetic church. I left after a year.. But that set the tone of my walk with God. 6 years along the line it lead to the point where I believed every voice I hear is God's... However I was wrong and I only recently realized that I was hearing demonic legalistic voices... It got me to a point where I was scared that I was not going to make it to heaven because I was not holy or pure enough for God. If I read the Bible I always feel convicted that I am not reaching the standard of Christian living that I am supposed to live. It got me to a point of being suicidal. I am struggling to read the Bible as I am never edified by it but rather feel not good enough and have to work harder and spend some more time with God. I believed at a certain point that in order not to be polluted by the world I have to spend more time with God than in the world, I. E if I spend 8 hours at work then I need to spend 8 hours reading Bible or worshipping or praying.
@rickiaherbin1614 Жыл бұрын
I struggle with this as well hearing different voices, thinking they are God but sometimes I don’t want ignore because it may be the Holy Spirit, but how are you now? Are you better??
@jailahbryel305 2 жыл бұрын
Jesus loves you and died so you can have eternal life. Repent and turn to Him because He is coming soon! He loves you!
@brandonm.254 3 жыл бұрын
WOW! This is so refreshing and true.
@Laskull 2 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this. Especially the part about music. There's definitely certain songs I used to listen to that glorified sin, however for a while I was letting religious people convince me that I was only supposed to listen to "Christian" music. I struggled with this because I wanted to take my faith seriously, but I couldn't see how listening to songs like Happy, or a whole new world for instance could be bad. One day I prayed to God to show me what music I should listen to. All of the sudden all these songs starting popping up that I would have never thought to listen to, most of which weren't strictly "Christian" but they all spoke to me as if God was speaking into my situation. It has continued since, and has been one of the greatest experiences in my walk with God because he can truly use anything to speak to His children.
@emmense02109 2 жыл бұрын
Ugh, this has happened to me to. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this. I thought I was weird or off because I felt that God truly spoke to me through songs that aren’t strictly Christian. Wow. This was confirmation for me. Thank you
@vaultofria 2 жыл бұрын
@@emmense02109 Yes!
@laylascott6096 Жыл бұрын
I went through this too being saved out of new age and being hyper vigilant for a time about everything. I listen to all music now as a music lover, but feel it’s a personal conviction for everyone
@MH_thesimsfreeplay667 Жыл бұрын
I see, I've been through this with my ultra religious family, one side is Catholic and the other Protestant and like, when I started attending my religion I left a lot of things I liked behind, like movies, drawings, music and even played several movies of Scooby-Doo and Harry Potter in the trash. As time went by, I realized that legalism and religious fundamentalism were doing me harm when I saw that some people in my church wanted to determine what I should be to please God. Because of this, I still have OCD to this day.
@charlabarnett6274 3 жыл бұрын
Hello! OCD Codependent Narcissistic mom and Dad with a side of legalism! Talk about learned behavior! So grateful I am unlearning with your help!
@marktdejesus 3 жыл бұрын
Great to know that!
@ms181 3 жыл бұрын
Aaauugghh...I feel PRESSURE when I listen hear you describe what we need to do! I have no confidence in my ability to do anything "right enough" to succeed.
@greatergrowth5623 Жыл бұрын
Here again, this will always be relevant in my book. I’ve learned so much from this man’s ministry/teaching. This is like maintenance therapy for me at this point lol God bless you Mark!
@storyaboutmosquitoes9441 7 ай бұрын
Everytime I come back to this channel I find more of these things I do. My father was a clinical narcissist, and my mother was a broken teenage girl married to a monster just trying to keep my siblings and I alive. There was little time for nurture. I do this. I was so afraid for years of being like my father I would check myself everyday to make sure I was not like him. I did it everyday. And everyday I would find a common trait and spiral. I know now that I’m not my father. But that habit is going to take a lot of time to break and I need to not beat myself up when I catch myself doing it.
@donnasantagata7663 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for having the passion to want to help people with OCD. I would like to get your books. Please keep doing these videos. Again Thank you so much.
@samanthamorris1776 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Mark. I'm struggling right now and this has come at the right time in my life.
@ChicanaCuriousMama 2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU SO MUCH MARK!!! I know the Lord led me to your channel. I have been so blessed, empowered and transformed by this particular video. The list you mentioned are all triggers I’ve had. I came from a very strict legalidad Pentecostal church. I was there for about 12 years and I always struggled with relationship with God, prayer, and a plethora of other things. This has been so liberating🙏🏼🙏🏼
@soblessedchelsea59 3 жыл бұрын
I only struggle with slight religious obsessions. However I am very perfectionist to the core. I have been obsessive about deliverance and while some of the prayers I did experience breakthrough. I was hoping I would just manifest demons and cast them out. No he wants precept upon precept. I think God led me to you as an answer to prayer. The truth shall make you free! Blessings to you and your family!
@vaultofria 2 жыл бұрын
How are you now?
@soblessedchelsea59 2 жыл бұрын
@@vaultofria I am actually doing Alot better I have made Alot of progress. The Lord helped me to stop smoking weed. I am trying to push myself to grow. God has taught me Alot since last year when I wrote this comment. I know that fear is a liar. It roars very loud but once you face it you realize how much that it's not real. Part of faith is stepping out and facing the fear. It definitely is precept upon precept. I hope that this helps you on your journey. God bless you and give you the peace you desire.
@vaultofria 2 жыл бұрын
@@soblessedchelsea59 Amen! Yes I’m struggling on knowing if something is coming from God to take a leap of faith or am I listening to the wrong voices. Thank you for this message, I’ve noticed improvement as well
@rickiaherbin1614 Жыл бұрын
@@vaultofria I struggle with this same thing, discerning if it’s my voice, God’s or the devils
@Nightwalker25-m3u 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, this was a really big blessing of a video. I appreciate it so much. ❤
@Sunnyanne283 6 ай бұрын
This has been your best for me. I love all of your works. So helpful.
@ZBooneBeats 3 жыл бұрын
Mark, you do such a great job with breaking down stuff!
@lizamena9124 3 жыл бұрын
Loving the intro music 🎶 👌 🥰😍
@marktdejesus 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! I hope to use more music.
@Tennislover-t5v 5 ай бұрын
Loved this video! Thank you for addressing this.
@annamc8228 Жыл бұрын
Man, so good! Thank you, Mark
@donnasantagata7663 3 жыл бұрын
OH MY GOSH! SO ON TARGET!
@spanish5568 2 жыл бұрын
Wow!! Thank you man! Speachless
@Jesusandmentalhealth 3 жыл бұрын
Mark, thank you so much for using your time and energy to connect and put this information out there. You are affecting so many people's lives!! I am a mental health therapist who has Scrupulosity and Relationship OCD and have been on a journey of healing for a while now. Found you a few weeks ago and have been listening a lot! Thank you.
@DemetriusRandolf 2 жыл бұрын
This was very very good teaching
@douglaspaulomuteerwa2711 7 ай бұрын
This is true Delivarence
@lizaperry3112 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this insightful video! I didn't even realize what I was doing but I have to say this is definitely a relief because I've been striving so much that I'm exhausted. It's freeing to know the truth.
@krysp7824 2 жыл бұрын
Oh! Mark, you make me laugh. I love your videos. So helpful.
@davidstair9657 2 жыл бұрын
My wife grew up in the “church”, I was radically saved during a drug deal. My walk has been worshipful, joyful, excited… my wife, though reasonably joyful when I first met and married her, but over the years I could not figure out where her doubt, fear, indecision, view of God, stepping out in faith, etc. THIS!!!! My poor wife grew up in the world of looking good on Sunday, never let anybody know your struggles, supper pastors and super youth leaders that heard God’s voice and spoke of a blessed life IF obedient like the superstars of her various churches! Even sickness, sadness, anxiety, doubt…all were signs of not being saved, one of those fakers, backsliding, dear Lord!! Poor girl! You would not believe the bondage. She sees it and understands it, but it is literally ingrained into her psyche. There is great danger raising your children as if they were miniature Christians. Your children should want and desire what you have within you as you demonstrate the fruits of the spirit in them… they don’t need tyrants forcing them to be at every meeting. The stories of endless meetings, sermons, starving to death and the misery of every single Sunday taken entirely up with religious duty!
@rlee6052 9 ай бұрын
Great story thanks for sharing! Im curious about more details of your salvation story that sounds so interesting!
@douglaspaulomuteerwa2711 7 ай бұрын
Wow i never new my feelings could lie to me.
@rckc.1719 3 жыл бұрын
thank you, Mr. Mark for years I did not know why my thought patterns were so off ....thank you so much for this info
@douglaspaulomuteerwa2711 7 ай бұрын
Wow. Mark thank you so much for letting God use you to share such awesome content, you just summarised my life. I love it when you said that our relationship with God was founded in fear, i guess that is the root of my suffering. I understand now deeply that i am in relationship with God founded in love i am learning to love myself. I know its a process but once I am free I will start to help people.
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
My dad and I discussed the passage of time in judo Christianity. Time is moving forward as you read!
@charmainwilliams-farrar2559 3 жыл бұрын
Dying to self still gets me confused. 🤔
@marktdejesus 3 жыл бұрын
Yep! That's another one that puts a yoke of heaviness on people.
@glorious6779 3 жыл бұрын
Me to. I wanted to study that just days ago. Feel like I'm not doing enough.
@lovewhoyouare7256 3 жыл бұрын
Religion uses repent and if we are lukewarm God will spit us out and so on! It is exhausting
@glorious6779 3 жыл бұрын
I had that one. There blood will be on your hands. I had so much worry, guilt and felt like a bad child. And I was joyless to for a lot of my christian life... Lol. The overhead slides. My best friend who was 18 and I was 13 at the time did the overhead. I'm still friends with her this day. I'm 37. My bible study leader used to give 20% in the offering for tithe and would kinda make you feel bad if you didn't. It was suttle. I was getting a tiny wage at the age of 18 and not living with my parents.
@rudolph1899 2 жыл бұрын
Whoa. This is me 100%
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 11 ай бұрын
On fifth precinct cop I will read material and energy balance today to review the most basic facts of my field.
@douglaspaulomuteerwa2711 7 ай бұрын
Wow learn to be loved
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
This morning I am praying for my mother to open her ear to the word of Jesus christ!
@annalouisecoonan7895 Жыл бұрын
I m really struggling. I really feel I am damned to hell.
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 11 ай бұрын
I am also a Christian because of engineering. It takes like ten cents to print a book and look at how widely read it is!
@devinl7702 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Mark, would you share with me the verse in Hebrews you mentioned at around 31:54 about taking that step of faith? Thanks!
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 11 ай бұрын
I'm trying to lose weight because of engineering. If you're sick in the morning either your pregnant or you've got some really toxic stuff dissolved in your blubber! Yo what up 17 year uc hospital cop? I been working on caffeine abstinence and hydration man.
@antonego7950 9 ай бұрын
Hey, can you do a video on predestination and I if we should have kids and if we do have kids should they have grandkids since we don’t know where they predestined for?
@parker1144 2 жыл бұрын
my thoughts are making me doubt if there is another God out of fear but i don’t believe in another God but im scared
@wandawhitfield1449 2 жыл бұрын
Mark I have been in legalism so long when I realized jesus righteous is all I need I feel uncomfortable is it that I just need to get through these feeling of fear and uncomfortable. How can overcome this uncomftablefeeling
@douglaspaulomuteerwa2711 7 ай бұрын
Wow, I am loved and a son of God weather I feel like it or not. I an not governed by my feelings. How do I get you book in Mozambique
@scraytonify1 3 жыл бұрын
It's okay to have a foundation for salvation based on fear: "Save others by fear, snatching them out of the fire." Some of us were too hard-headed to come to Christ another way.
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 11 ай бұрын
Marijuana helps me sit and focus through hunger without ocd eating and drinking.
@aliciam5529 10 ай бұрын
How do i become a nurturing mother now that my daughters are young adults, so that don’t struggle as I have with being OCD
@dja192 2 ай бұрын
I think that is an Old Testament Scripture about others blood being on your hands if they don’t turn from something that is sin or evil because you didn’t warn them. I think this is what is meant that we don’t live out of the OT theology. That’s the old Adam speaking. We live out of the new Adam (Jesus). I’m just coming to terms with some of this and trying to receive God’s love as often as possible and especially when I’m being tormented by thoughts that try to condemn or distorted thinking.
@aliciam5529 10 ай бұрын
Mark , my daughters are perfectionist like me 😢 (one is more than the other). How can I help or support them now that they are young adults. I barely learning to deal with it?
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
I am praying for the Caucasian seniors of Armstrong chapel to be open minded to Marijuana legalization.
@lunaet287 7 ай бұрын
1:17:59
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
Listening to this while reading the holy Bible is like sitting in a meeting with God! The new weed vape helps!
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
I'm praying for my mom to open her ear to the word of Jesus christ today.
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 11 ай бұрын
Moderate coffee drinking has benefits in America so I develop a system for it.
@KelilaMurdock 2 жыл бұрын
3:40
@senonimoustv2497 3 жыл бұрын
Scripture seems to indicate that Paul's thorn was an eye problem.
@marktdejesus 3 жыл бұрын
probably
@Trendolyn78 3 жыл бұрын
Funny I thought the thorn was his calling. I always thought it was his calling because he seems so frustrated with the body.
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
I am praying for people who work at tri state horizon to be more open to the perspectives of white people who grew up in the suburbs.
@sabrinasusen7463 6 ай бұрын
I think God hates me and I have no one to talk to about it cause they don't understand or make it worse. I can't see how it's possible for Him to love me bc of how bad I am. 😢
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 11 ай бұрын
My theory about why prozac causes suicidal thoughts is because it makes you sick. I got high instead of ate but it makes me feel like I have to take a giant shit when I take prozac.
@Loved2024 3 жыл бұрын
I thought l didn’t have this ☝️, l was wrong 😆
@katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын
Ha ha, so did lots of us who are now here. Including me. 😅
@JamesVestal-dz5qm Жыл бұрын
I believe Jesus talks to the ghetto through marijuana.
@storyaboutmosquitoes9441 6 ай бұрын
Are you ok? Your comments are almost all unhinged. Please get help.
@JamesVestal-dz5qm 6 ай бұрын
@@storyaboutmosquitoes9441 I've been having stress attack after stress attack. Been dealing with loss in the family. Tough to get help when you've got parents who don't understand how much help you need. I went to college for STEM, and most men in stem harass me into working for them because they believe their genetically superior brains can handle thought work that mine can't. STEM professionals usually reject health science and believe that a young strong man will physically survive no matter what happens to his body.
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