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What Makes Healing from Brokenness So Challenging?

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Mark DeJesus

Mark DeJesus

Күн бұрын

As I seek to help people through teaching and one on one work, there is often a statement followed by a question. "This is hard. Why is healing from brokenness so hard?"
Today I want to address this question by providing eight perspectives that are important to keep in mind.
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@jayowens2114
@jayowens2114 2 жыл бұрын
Man I needed this stuff 50 years ago.
@tenboom9043
@tenboom9043 2 жыл бұрын
Me, too.
@ellie698
@ellie698 2 жыл бұрын
👍🏼 Society has learned a lot in the last few decades and now we have the internet that brings it to us. So many people in late and middle age that needed love, guidance, help and support in their early lives but the support just wasn't there. It is now 🙏 And many others that understand.
@silas7633
@silas7633 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I hear you brother
@winniecash1654
@winniecash1654 2 жыл бұрын
Mark, if you went through hell I believe it, because so did I and many others. I can't thank you enough for your ministry. God bless you.
@debf.4745
@debf.4745 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing what so many don't understand unless they have grown up in an unloving and abusive environment. This is truly a needed ministry - this kind of brokenness seems to be growing exponentially in our nation. And yes you do feel alone.
@korcampbell6096
@korcampbell6096 Жыл бұрын
Here I am listening again to all your videos because it's helping me alot. You are a blessing to me and thank you
@tee1763
@tee1763 2 жыл бұрын
You and my therapist both teach so similarly, I love it. It's like God's constant reassurance to be compassionate to myself and love myself. Thanks so much, Mark 🙏❤️
@carolineokongo4480
@carolineokongo4480 2 жыл бұрын
Mark you are a blessing to all age groups. Thanks be to God for raising you.
@natalieann2000
@natalieann2000 2 жыл бұрын
I really did need this along time ago. Ty for always being so kind and not judgemental. I definitely have had a destination mindset.
@aureliere
@aureliere 2 жыл бұрын
Thank You so much for sharing Abba's heart. I needed to hear this bc I was getting caught up in my own self-condemnation spiral. God knows that He wanted me to know His heart towards me.
@rockerune
@rockerune 2 жыл бұрын
Really encouraging.
@lyndseyrawling3521
@lyndseyrawling3521 2 жыл бұрын
Your teaching our so powerful.🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏 Bless you for setting God people free.🔥🙏
@Sunnyanne283
@Sunnyanne283 5 ай бұрын
Thank you. So much. I’m not sure where I would be if I had not found you as a brother from another mother, you have no idea how do you have helped! I have a story to tell you one day what has from learning about God’s love.
@jesuslovesme2023
@jesuslovesme2023 8 ай бұрын
So thankful for you sharing your journey and what God taught you. I don't understand how 5K people can watch this and not like it 👍. You speak directly to my heart.. But I think you are helping people they just don't want to admit they are broken. Until one day you reach your limit. I'm glad I was so broken and God led me to you. I'm on my new journey it's hard it's long but IT'S GREAT! LIKE A NEW START ❤
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868 2 жыл бұрын
I ask myself, is this a spiritual battle? Is God preparing me for something?
@DavidSandyOfficial
@DavidSandyOfficial 2 жыл бұрын
It's a spiritual battle everyday and the resistance is always the greatest right before the breakthrough. God hears every prayer and wants us to wait on Him taking it one day at a time by faith in His deliverance.
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868 2 жыл бұрын
@Olia Krist amen God bless you and your family!!! ♥️👍😁🙏😃😘❤️
@PM-tk3se
@PM-tk3se 2 жыл бұрын
Woww, the wisdom, around 18:40 mind blowing, just what I needed and has proven to be true according to my truth so far. Thank you Mark 🙏🏻 the supportive loving spirit of God
@shawnboahene5231
@shawnboahene5231 2 жыл бұрын
If healing from brokenness was easy we wouldn’t need a savior. Unfortunately it’s part of our dna since the fall, the worldly culture glorify and make attempts to appease it and appeal to our brokenness which cheap fixes and addictions. But saddest of all, we constantly identify with it. We make it a part of us and our identity. I am an idiot, a failure, a loser, etc. all the while not realizing that we are abusing God’s name (I Am) by attaching it with all these negative words.
@propheticwarrior
@propheticwarrior 2 жыл бұрын
Romans 12:1,2 has been a portion of scripture that really came alive to me after I came out of alcoholism. It's wild how, especially in America, so many are unaware of the fact that we are being programmed by the world system - wants, desires, needs etc. If we don't have a certain house, car, job, marriage etc then something must be wrong with us. Seeing clearly for the first time Matthew 6:33 was mind blowing and like a huge slap in the face. Why was I striving to obtain something outside of what I already had in Christ? Now I never had a great job, fancy house or car and was single most of my life; but those things were still there in the back of my mind. Somehow I still held a lie/false belief that if I could obtain this list I could then feel confident that I had done right. This is what the prosperity gospel preaches. It aligns worldly obtainment with fruitfulness according to proper alignment with God. I mean don't get me wrong I am not saying there is anything wrong with having a house, car, spouse etc. What I am saying is that when there is an approaching towards these things from a warped mindset, instead of a renewed mind set on the Kingdom, these things manifest in our lives in a whole different context. Instead of God fearing fruitfulness, these things actually become our god and source. When the foundation isn't laid properly the house isn't built right. When God is our everything then the perspective we each carry changes drastically and those things which were once something to obtain lose their luster and there is a great exchange from a temporal mindset to an eternal mindset. Basically I had erected idols and somehow justified these idols through receiving the word of God improperly. I was listening to teachers of the word that were not rooted and grounded in the true Christ but another and who mishandled the word of God greatly. It's not hard to take the word of God and make it say something that it doesn't. What a blessing to have the Holy Spirit as our Teacher that leads into all truth.
@swirlingbutterflies
@swirlingbutterflies 2 жыл бұрын
@@propheticwarrior do u attend church? I have a hard time finding one that is not tied into prosperity gospel.
@propheticwarrior
@propheticwarrior 2 жыл бұрын
@@swirlingbutterflies Yes I do but I just started attending a new church. I attended a church prior to this one that didn't preach the prosperity gospel but didn't work out in the long run. I've only been to one service at this new one and I am not sure yet if it's where we will go but we are going again tomorrow...
@TheMinirunner3
@TheMinirunner3 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your books and teaching. It has been so helpful to me! Romans 8:28- thanks for using your journey to bring help and hope to others.
@marktdejesus
@marktdejesus 2 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that!
@davidk684
@davidk684 2 жыл бұрын
Appreciate you Mark … much love
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868 2 жыл бұрын
Ello, I have 12 years old, and since I repented from my sins, intrusive thoughts that I can't control, or they hurt me, or they make me feel guilty, like if I say something great to God, in my mind I say the opposite and that makes me feel guilty, and when I tried saying The Lord Jesus, It was hard because my mind was the opposite of that, I've been dealing with this 1 month ago, and every time I wake up, when I'm at home, it's normal, but when I'm at school, they come and idk what to do, it's like you had migraine, God protect us, one hour, you will feel cured, like nothing will happen, but when it comes, you can't even deal with it, these thoughts I have torture me every day, but at morning, afternoon and sometimes night, I see a message, even when I'm in yt, or a paper, especially at KZfaq, the message is 'Dont give up, God has a plan for you' idk what this means, like, idk if it is God trying to tell me something, but I have faith in Christ, and even though I turned in my life to Jesus, I still get these thoughts. Idk what to do, what could you recommend me?
@jamescapb3795
@jamescapb3795 2 жыл бұрын
I have intrusive thoughts also and I have a 1 year old son. You can probably imagine the kind of thoughts I have. The more I love someone or the more that I want to love them, the worse the thoughts are. They happen during prayer, at night when I’m trying to sleep, right when I wake up, and they happen especially when I’m tired. I tend to feel tired and stressed all day now for the most part and the thoughts feel non stop. Last night and today I’ve been having sexual thoughts about Jesus and it really makes it hard to feel like I love him or like they are not my thoughts or that he even loves me back. It blinds my perspective and I feel like a stressed out deer in the headlights. It’s very discouraging and confusing. Mark’s videos on Intrusive thoughts have helped me a lot, but some days it’s like all of my progress gets taken away. It’s like the darkness in my mind/ the stress/ the fear makes it difficult to keep a healthy and healing perspective. Even Mark said that sometimes when you get those moments of peace from the intrusive thoughts that the fear of when they will pop up again basically takes that peace away. These thoughts, if I’m right, are compulsions. The fear of the thoughts can trigger them, I imagine stress can trigger it aswell. I’m not in the best place at all right now. I feel rather depressed today but I just wanted to tell you that your not alone. I understand what your going through and how exhausting/ stressful/ tormenting/ confusing it can be. Fear is not our friend (as Mark says). Regardless of how we feel emotionally, let’s keep following Jesus and getting closer to God. I personally need to stay rooted in the word as I’ve been neglecting that. One more thing I want to say is, Mark has a lot of videos regarding intrusive thoughts. They are all worth watching. Whenever I feel like this, marks videos regarding intrusive thoughts can remind me that I’m not alone and that there’s hope, and it also helps me keep the right perspective on these thoughts. I will send you a video of Mark’s that has been helping me lately and I will finish this off by saying this, starving compulsions is awkward at first and the fear of these thoughts are feeding these thoughts. If you really want these thoughts to go away, stop feeding them with fear. Some days are easier than others but keep taking your baby steps and don’t give up. As mark says, it’s a journey and odds are it won’t happen overnight but you need to keep walking the path of healing even if it feels awkward at first. For example, when your really mad and you want to freak out, practicing patience can feel a bit awkward because your flesh is telling you to get angry and your anger is telling you to freak out, but even if it’s awkward at first, practicing that patience is worth it and it does get easier the more you practice it. In the same way, practice not fearing these thoughts or following their rabbit trails (it can be hard not to sometimes) and instead practice trusting God even if your flesh/ perspective is telling you to live in fear because of these thoughts (the thoughts that we don’t even want in the first place) it can be a bit awkward but our fear is not helping us get closer to God but instead paralyzing us and making us walk on eggshells. God bless you, I love you as a brother and I encourage you to keep following Jesus, even when it’s hard.
@jamescapb3795
@jamescapb3795 2 жыл бұрын
kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ndybq9x9ysrYkac.html This is that video I’ve been going back to. I plan on watching it today because my mind is exhausted
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868
@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I didn't know this, I hope you get cured as well. I want you to know that God is with you, I will not give up, even though Satan tries to manipulate me, I know who is who, I need Jesus, I will do anything for him, even though these thoughts come, I made a promise to God, I will not give up and I'm completing this promise
@lukebraganzajones1662
@lukebraganzajones1662 Ай бұрын
​@@jamescapb3795ive been having intrusive thoughts and guilt and fear about my past as an adolescent , my curiosity exploring and trying to find out about sexual things... This has all popped Up since i surrended to Jesús Christ a few months back, and getting Closer to God...i was raised a christian but walked away in to drugs, crime ,porn and all the devils plan...but i am saved now, i feel God is allowing me to step up to my fears and confront them. Marks videos have really helped me and i know its all fear based but God hasnt given US a spirit of fear but of love, strenght and sound mind ❤ we tend to forget this... I have a 8 month old baby girl, and 2 stepdaughters, since im a dad i have been having those thoughts and making me feel weird and i know that is not me, as im full of love, we have to fire the interpreter like Mark says, its a healing process and having a OCD mind its what makes it so intense at times ...but keep reminding ourselfs we are loved and love ourselfs too❤ self Nuture, i feel the Closer i have been trying to get. To God all this started, but when i feel distant or like he isnt there, thats when he is the most, he can be testing US so we dont give Up on him and keep trusting him ❤ im so glad i found this channel as Jesus has put many people in my path, i pray for the holy Spirit to renew my mind and each one of you❤ we are not alone, and this is a healing journey 🙏🏾🫂 God bless you all, love from SPAIN!
@lukebraganzajones1662
@lukebraganzajones1662 Ай бұрын
​@@gabrieljosuecastellanosliz8868amén brother ❤
@CharlieBass5
@CharlieBass5 4 ай бұрын
Yes I want a destination, I want fixed. Being fixed at this stage seems to be more preferable than love. This struggle is so tiresome and knowing it will only be less than now just doesn't seem right.
@giselaperez3739
@giselaperez3739 Жыл бұрын
Great great topic and encouragement! Thanks. Be blessed!
@Nightwalker25-m3u
@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын
"When can I just get free from all this, and just be in a better place?" Heaven is that you?
@CharlieBass5
@CharlieBass5 4 ай бұрын
I understand being the opposite of the way I am than love, I really don't have a love reference.
@CharlieBass5
@CharlieBass5 4 ай бұрын
Don't get me wrong, I don't hate I just don't understand the feeling of love. I do the best I can to use 1st Corinthians with everyone I come in contact with. I just don't have the understanding. Yes I know I need to get out of my head, easier said than done.
@ShelleyannHenry
@ShelleyannHenry 3 ай бұрын
Hi pastor Mark I am a broken woman I was sexual must my life and now IAM having trust issues with myself I don't know if life will make sense again.. please pray that God will help me to know that he is near..
@tiffanywilliams440
@tiffanywilliams440 2 жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS!! I have your books. You may have answered this before...what order would you suggest reading your books?
@ellie698
@ellie698 2 жыл бұрын
🙏
@Swagu33
@Swagu33 2 жыл бұрын
I'll be 17 in a few days. and I just wish this could be over, or at least see some legitimate progress. But, nothing changes. Peace seems impossible to find, OCD hits hard, guy with a serious lack of boldness, socially anxious, (and yet spending time with others is really the only time i feel good) Salvation doubter, confused, And i am interested in a girl but i micro analyze and compare my love (this is the same with anyone tbh) to the love for Jesus, but how do i feel this great Love if i never feel justified or connected? Is it something I'm supposed to even "feel" or just a thing I need to grasp? I know a lot of your videos adress these kinds of questions and your videos have been awesome Mark, but I am stuck.
@jacquelinekesterson7202
@jacquelinekesterson7202 2 жыл бұрын
You are in the right place! Ohhhh, to be 17 and to have this much clarity, insight and self-awareness to know something is (not you) off, you may not understand it but you're here. I'm a former Pastor's wife, worked in churches, counseled young people and I was so broken and had no idea what was wrong, no language to articulate my feelings, how do you ask for help when you have no idea what you're feeling. It's huge that you're here and at only 17. You are leaps and bounds ahead of me and I'm in my 50's. I'm just now where you are now. I'm encouraged by you. Give yourself grace, be patient with yourself and rest in the fact that you are in right place of your healing journey.
@jayowens2114
@jayowens2114 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Brother you are not alone. I'm a high ranking police officer who grew up in church. I struggle with salvation doubts too. I have to remind myself that my faith is not what I feel. Also unsaved people don't have salvation doubts going through their mind. It's a fight to the finish. stay strong my young friend.
@Swagu33
@Swagu33 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you guys 🙂
@timothaeuscam
@timothaeuscam 2 жыл бұрын
I know the struggle, but keep going. I am 24 and still fight these battles but it is way better than when I was 17.
@miaxoxo9967
@miaxoxo9967 2 жыл бұрын
Where can I msg you some questions??
@Jesusandmentalhealth
@Jesusandmentalhealth 25 күн бұрын
Needed this today. 🩵
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