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MARRIAGE DYNAMICS (Vol. 13)
Mystery about Marriage
Covenant Marriage is Complementing!
Covenant marriage is meant to complement and not to complete. Marriage is not to complete but to complement you. You don’t need a man or a woman to complete you. You must be a complete person before you marry. Complete in HIM.
Complementing means bringing different perspectives, talents, abilities, experiences, and other gifts to the relationship and forming a partner. Complementing is to compensate for the areas where your spouse is weak or defective; while completing is to use your spouse to balance your imbalance.
You cannot use marriage to complete any unfinished business in your life. Any marriage that is based on completing will lead to enmeshment and dependence. When one spouse is totally dependent on the other spouse for everything; this is not a covenant marriage. A total dependent on God is a covenant marriage.
In a covenant marriage, each spouse is to complement or be of help to the other. It is a marriage that is characterized by interdependence -depending on each other; rather than dependence (completing) and independence (competing)
Eve did not complete Adam. The two of them were made to complement and help each other, so that where one is weak, the other will be strong, and vice visa. This is what brings diversity and flavor to marriage. There is something you cannot do and which your spouse can do. There is something you are not good at and which your spouse is good at. You respect and value the strengths and weaknesses of each other. In a covenant marriage, your uniqueness is in your differences.