MARRIAGE DYNAMICS (Vol. 17)
Mystery about Marriage
Covenant Marriage is a Congruence!
Genesis 2:25a says, “Adam and his wife were both naked...” They were real and authentic with each other. They were honest and transparent with each other, They were conspicuous and not ambiguous. They were naked.
Genesis 2:25a says, “Adam and his wife were both naked...” This has nothing to do with physical nakedness alone, but transparency, honesty, and sincerity. Many married couples have seen and known the physical nakedness of one another while they don't know the bank information as well as passwords of email, Facebook, or cell phones of one another.
Genesis 2:25a says, “Adam and his wife were both naked...” Some spouses don’t know much about their spouses. That is not a covenant marriage. Covenant marriage is transparency. It is honesty. It is integrity. It is being real. It is being who you say you are. It is not double personality.
Genesis 2:25a says, “Adam and his wife were both naked...” Covenant marriage is not just about loving each other but knowing each other as well. Love is not blind. Love is knowing. Love is disclosure. Love is revealing. There is no secret in love. There is no covering in love. If he or she loves you, he or she will be transparent with you. It is not one person being transparent while the other is not. No! The Bible says that “Adam and his wife were both naked.” Therefore, don’t expect your spouse to be transparent while you are secretive.
The original or primary expectation of God in covenant marriage is that husband and wife would be naked or transparent in their relationship with each other. It is the golden rule principle: do to others what you would like others to do to you. Couples don’t need to hide anything from each other. However, when sin came, Adam and Eve were found hiding from God and covering up from each other. It is the sin nature in us that has made us wear masks, veils, and coverings in our relationships.
Sin has made many couples become secretive, withdrawn, and cagey. We are to become transparent Christians. And we are to become transparent in our marital relationship. Covenant marriage is congruence.