MARRIAGE DYNAMICS (Vol. 18)
Mystery about Marriage
Covenant Marriage is a Comfort!
The Bible says, “...and were not ashamed or embarrassed” ~Gen. 2:25b. Marriage is more than compatibility but comfortability. It is a pity that many people marry for compatibility but only to find out that they are not comfortable in the marriage.
Are you comfortable living with the person you have married? Will you be comfortable living with the person you want to marry? You cannot settle or marry for compatibility alone, there must be comfortability.
Adam and Eve did not try to impress each other. They did not ridicule, belittle, or look down on each other. They did not bully or mock at the appearance of each other. They did not try to change each other. Instead, they were proud of each other.
The Bible says, “...and were not ashamed or embarrassed” ~Gen. 2:25b. Adam & Eve were proud of the look and appearance of each other. They cherished each other. They did not focus on the deficiencies and nuances of each other. Instead, they valued and appreciated each other. Whatever you value, you will appreciate. Whatever you don’t value, you will tolerate.
Covenant marriage is about appreciation and not toleration. It is not living together out of toleration but appreciation. Adam and Eve were not disappointed or ashamed of being together even while they were naked. They did not see each other as an embarrassment but a blessings.
Your spouse is not an embarrassment in your life; he or she is a blessing. That is why you need to cherish, respect, and honor one another. Covenant marriage is the absence of fear but presence of freedom.
1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” This is what covenant marriage looks like. It is the absence of fear but presence of freedom.