Thanks for watching! What separation did you choose and why did you choose that separation?

Before I get into your end of the video questions, here's a bit of backstory: We were together for 11 years, married for 9. The end of 2021 really kicked our butts to say the least. A beloved family dog died, her parents separated, my sister passed away and we went through another miscarriage (our first miscarriage was a few months after we got together in 2011). Not to mention the added stress of moving into a new place. After these events and us finally calling a truce with my in-laws next door (my brother's family - a whole 'nother story), I asked her to please seek some professional help - she completely went off on me as if I cheated on her with a loved one; I never did by the way, cheat on her. throughout our relationship together. I even brought up her planning to take her own life because things were just so out of her control as a jumping off point to get her to go, but she saw this as an attack on all fronts (late November 2021). This was the day I knew she was done with me but it really hit me on Christmas when she went to my job and the disgusted look she gave me when she saw me dressed all in white. Even after this, we tried to continue on as normal (out to lunch, laying in bed together) but I just felt like I was with a stranger looking for me to finish helping them out so that they can get on with their lives. We did virtual couples therapy for a few sessions but once our therapist started to side with me (not my intention) and on how my behavior was making me feel some kind of way because of her actions (or lack there of), she completely checked out and decided that me coming over to her new place to kiss her good night was crossing boundaries she never mentioned to me, is when she decided that our marriage was over, or "us not together." We have been separated (living in separate homes) since early January, 2022. We split everything equally, from bills to car insurance, DVDs, video games, everything. Even our taxes was even. We had no children together although she had two from previous guys and I have two from my previous marriage (she passed away giving birth to our son but that's another story for another day); I was raising her girls as they were my own. Now from very minimal texts, emails, to me blocking her on Facebook, we are not on speaking terms. She even went to the magistrate's office to file charges on me for "cyberstalking" her for wishing her a happy mother's day through email. Yes, really. I could continue on but I'm not sure how long of post I can leave in the comments here. On to your questions. What separation did we choose? - We (I had no choice as she chose this for us) originally started as a 'Trial' separation but once I started to live without her, I settled in too fast, I think. I wasn't lovey-dovey anymore to her. I started saying "No" to her. "This is how you wanted it," I kept bring up. This lead to "stop messaging me, you're interfering with my relationship" and "I want a divorce." Why did you choose that separation? - This was a separation I did not want. I needed us to work things out but it takes two, not just one as the other is looking forward to moving on with a foot already out of the marital home.

Back story: me and my wife have been married 4 years. We got married at 24 and 25. In these years my mom passed, I got kicked out of navy due to injury, we through foster care and adopted a baby, and of course quarantine. We have been separated for the past month and I’ve been taking it really hard. My spouse just said she didn’t have anything left to give and left our household. She brings up the fact she just wants to divorce and when I ask why she rebuttals with why be with me if I’m not willing to try or give you a chance making it all seem it’s my fault. I want my marriage to work but I have to admit I was the pushy one that keeps asking why not give me a chance, let me fix it. Emotions all over the place, I want you to come, etc. I see it’s pushing her farther away but I also know she hasn’t filed for divorce yet. I’ve been taking this separation as just a time to reflect on the marriage and what things I need to change in myself to be the best version of me. We have a baby and she ask me all the time why am I sad or crying and she’s only 2. She thinks we grew apart but I don’t think in our 4 years of marriage we got a chance to actually grow together. So where we live there is no separation it’s called limited divorce and there are certain grounds she has to follow for that as well. I’m kind of in limbo because I want my marriage to work and the problems she’s saying are like her feelings are hurt but idk how long the separation is going to last.

No legal separation in Texas