This girl said if I have to deal with the betrayal, the mama etc etc then I should have a ring. Chile you should be running away not trying to get a ring 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

This is what low self-esteem and marriage obsession looks like. Take notes ladies. Please stop!

OMG, SHE WORTHY OF HAVING YOUR CHILDREN, BUT NOT WORTHY OF BEING YOUR WIFE, MAKE IT MAKE SENSE, DUDE 😡😡

he slept with your aunt and you want to marry him....what in the holy hell is going on here

Never let a man tell you more than once that he doesn't want to be with you. Period

This whole relationship is so raggedy. 🙄🙄🙄

This should be a Divorce Court special with Judge Star, Judge Lynn Toler and Judge Faith. Three opinions, one verdict. One hundred percent REAL!!!

First mistake is staying with a man with no ring for 12 years.. smh. The moment a man cheats on me the first time I run! What is wrong with these desperate girls.

This is so repulsive to me. People really still think being a wife is a prize. He demands her to meet his, “requirements,” while showing what piss poor husband material looks like. And she still kept replicating his dna and thirsting for marital slavery. I feel sick. This is sick!

The saddest part is, she's not leaving him 😔

He doesn't need to go get a WIFE .... he needs to go get his LIFE together!!!

12 years and 4 kids and NOW you want a ring?! 🤨. Somebody, please make it make sense.

Being a wife is not performance based!!! What does he bring to the table? He cheats, has a baby outside the relationship, and expects her as a wife to be performance based. He doesn't deserve her!!! Young women, please don't move in with these men, play house, and have their children until you have your ring and married. That's your leverage as a woman. Don't let these men have the cow and milk free!!! Value yourself!!! You are worth it!!!

Wow................low self esteem is real! She wants to marry this guy after all of eww. Just sad!

She still delusional at the end. SMH

Let me make sure that I have this right: he had a “break baby “ and was “seduced” by her aunt and he has the nerve to have requirements of her. Sis, he does NOT love you! He does NOT want you! Please don’t let him tell you again. A ring is NOT going to solve your problems, make him respect you or make you feel more secure in your relationship.

This young lady was not taught important things that she needed, like self-respect, self-worth, and protect your fertility. Too many women believe they are entitled to marriage because they had babies. That's not how it works. Exactly why we have to know who we are getting pregnant by. That sorry excuse he had about why he wouldn't marry her was so sorry, he had to laugh at it himself. Especially after disrespecting her with her AUNT and an ex! That was even worse. I just can't! This is sad! #respectyourself

I’m glad the Judge told her the truth

After 4 children...she's not living up to your standards... 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️👈🏾

It’s disturbing how these black mama never want to keep their son accountable.

I am so sorry that this girl's self-esteem and self-worth are so low that she thinks this guy is the best she can do.

Once I heard that they have been together for 12 years a lot of children and no marriage.... I was already DONE! This is a hot mess!

Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn't want you...Judge Toler

Well! After years of watching DC, we finally have a physical definition of low self esteem/respect. I was ready to pull my hair out the last time she said "that's what wives do". As for him, judge Star summed him up perfectly...FOUL!🙄

She ain't going nowhere definitely need an update soon smh lol

She has his FOUR children and she needs more under her belt to be his wife??!! He brags about having a job for 3 years, and 4 kids with a woman he hasn't married...🤦🏽‍♀️🤣

Neither him nor his Mother has an once of respect for her, and this is primarily do to the fact, she has no respect for herself, why do women began having babies, with men, who don't value them like this, and it's the children who suffer, more than anyone, in these type situations, how dare her disrespect them babies that way no matter, how she feels about their mom, she was dead wrong for that, maybe what she really needs, is her own man, so she can stay out of their business 😡😡

Her mannerisms are that of an older drunk lady about to get upset at a cookout 😭 She’s very beautiful, her look and voice put me in the mind of Teyanna Taylor. However, she needs an attitude adjustment and to care more about herself as a woman and mother instead of trying to force a relationship.

The mother is a HUGE issue!

Never let a man tell you more than once he don't want you

At some point as women we have to have higher esteem and standards for ourselves. Protect your fertility and stop playing wife

This isn't standing by your man. This is standing by everybody's man !!

She should be ashamed and so should he. 12 years with no resolution, no goals, no guidelines for how your going to have a proper family or give a proper family to your children. 😮

What happens when you think being ride and die means getting a piece of glitter for years of abuse and disrespect.

DeeDee please let asshole go , you are very strong and outspoken, collect your child support and go on. GOD love's you and take care of yourself and your children.

She's scared of being a single woman with children. She rather settle. It's unfortunate that she made herself comfortable by justifying his actions by blaming other people. She should practice self love and embrace that time and energy into herself. I hope she has more love for her children than for their father. We are in living amongst people in this world with different levels of trauma. The way she is trying to correct her world view is toxic

This guy has no respect for this young lady. She gotta do better before he puts a ring on her business. He needs a frigging slap. He is rude, what kind of a gettho man did the mother raise? This poor girl I feel for her but she has to go & be her own woman & don't be afraid to move on.

Lawdy dawdy and everybody always makes me laugh 🤣😂💀

How immature is the mother to be crank calling ppl how old are we

At some point women need to learn to put themselves and their children first. Why would you want a ring from him? He has no respect for you! Lord help her.

Not, "I took him back. That's what wives do!" Who told her that? Who showed her that? The lack of self-esteem, and role models, really has her messed up. Shame!

Even though that man and his mother are a complete mess, for a 28 year old mother of 4 she's very immature. She needs to grow up and find her own way.

He minimize his actions and maximize hers.. but yet and still, she's fighting for a ring when he's told you in more ways than one that he just not that into you... and sleeping with your aunt.... come on Sis.

I really feel for this girl. She's the only man she's known all her life so she find it difficult and scary to leave her. She can't imagine what her world would be without him. My advise for the girl is to leave the kids with him and move on with her life.

12 years and no ring. That dude dont wanna marry you.

He proud of that job ain’t it?!

Hold up, did she say that’s what wives Do, wow she’s trying to normalize cheating, this is utterly ridiculous!!!!

Her family have failed her. Was there really nobody around to speak life into this girl? The advice judge star gave, is probably the first time anyone has told her that

Some women will put up with anything just to say they got a ring.

This is a comedy! He's real funny, a REAL comedian 😮

No, no. They should stay together so that no one else has to deal with them.

What was this lady taught by her family? She doesn't value herself, self esteem is extremely low, continuing to say she's a wife because she puts up with his shenanigans, yet, there's no ring, and he said out loud he doesn't want to marry her?? What will it take for her to open her eyes and brain? He's a nasty, inept man that knows he can treat her any type of way, and she will stay. Another woman that's not going anywhere. Just living in a toxic hell hole.

Honestly, if she wanted to be a wife, she should have waited on having all of those babies. This man has no respect for her at all. She can stop trying to show him her worth and focus on believing in her worth. The woman in his life right now is his mother, and she needs to make nice with his mom. If she really wants that "ring" because that is it will be- " a ring." Hopefully, she can move on and just be a mother to her children and co-parent with him. So sad. 12 years! Judge Star nailed it on this one!

Let's start a goFundme and buy this girl a RING!!!!!

Did anyone notice when they walked out he put his hand around her waist ????? He’s manipulating that women !!!! I wouldn’t want him to touch me after telling me in so many words he don’t want me as a wife…

See dudes like that are so terrible. She’s been cooking, cleaning, and raising 4 babies for you, but he’s still talking about she needs to meet his requirements??? What else does he want? He’s just gaslighting her. He doesn’t want to marry her, but is too much of a coward to admit it. He wants her to be his sex maid and nothing more. And she needs to value herself. She needs to be counseled by wise women in her family. It seems like she doesn’t have any. So sad.

Why, why, why, WHY!! Someone, please help me understand why a lot of women think getting a ring and being married solidifies your relationship? Or makes you complete? A ring does not fundamentally change who a person is before or after marriage. Why aren't they chasing having a compatible partner with the same values and goals in life, instead of literally being with someone who cause you nothing but heartache, but they think it's worth it in the end if they can get a ring and say "I'm his wife" I just don't get that logic.

What she said at the end gave me chills. She was with him for soo long and the attachment b real and she just wanted the title even tho she deserves more

This hurt my soul and I cried for her because baby girl lost herself a long time ago and the sad part is that she feels like she hasn't hit rock bottom yet, after all of that he put her through.

Ms. Eye Rolling, Neck Rolling Russell is WAY too immature! 4 Children and she acts like one! She needs therapy for whatever is hurting her and not allowing her to grow up! She wants love but as JS said, he is not the one that's going to give it to her. She needs to pick herself up and stop being a doormat! Spend sometime healing and loving herself and her children and she will eventually get the love she deserves. Mr. Man, is pretty low (extra baby, and her AUNT) - he can go build a family with one of them! It's in him to be a good man but it's going to someone else to bring it out of him! He feels that she is beneath him!

Sister, don't let a man keep making you his least priority, Step On And Step Proud, You Are A Beautiful Strong Women..Peace and Blessing ❤❤❤❤

He is a momma boy...let him go be with her lol

Run gurl,he don't want you 😢

I have one question: WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO MARRY THIS DUDE??? HE'S NASTY!!!! I find it interesting that she's gotta meet his requirements, but he has none for himself. We have to get out of the mentality of "keeping our family together" with men who don't want that.

She's a good person and she's beautiful. I hope she gets some therapy and can be with someone who deserves her 🥰🥰

She has a real smart mouth,she don't let nobody finish, neither one respects each another

This man is sounding a foghorn about how bad he is. If after sleeping with her aunt, she still wants to marry him, she needs to look at herself & get help.

ANOTHER CLASSIC CASE OF: WHY BUY THE COW, WHEN THE MILK IS FREE??? STOP MAKING SOMEBODY A PRIORITY - WHEN YOU'RE JUST A OPTION TO THEM!!!

She ain't going nowhere............sadly.

How dumb is this? 12 years, 4 kids, and no commitment. He still doesn’t know if she’s the one. Now here she is begging him to marry her. Stop creating families before the commitment. All out of order.

One of the best episodes I’ve seen in a while 👏🏾

Judge Star you know darn well the Bible says to let go of the mothers apron strings. That mother needs to mind her business!

I don't feel one bit sorry for her SMH

All this girl want is a ring. Smh!

A few things: 1. She thinks mistreatment is a badge of honor and deserves a ring. I can’t stand people who put up with BS think they are good people or suitable partners especially considering they only choose toxic relationships to reinforce the self hate they have. 2. She chased HIM. Women should never chase men. It is in a man’s nature to take as much as he can- could be sex, ego stroking, financial support, your energy- it could be anything… even if he doesn’t like you. Men take whats convenient. This man went as far as putting 4 babies in her. In this case, he used and took her reproductive system to benefit himself- which is spread his seed. She was nothing but an incubator to him. Most men see women as tools and that is a fact. It’s in their nature. That’s why women should not chase them. 3. About his mom. I am so sick of women- especially black women- coddling their boys. It’s destroying them. That mother is competing with his sons baby momma. She helped him cheat. It’s emotional incest. I bet she’s a single momma. 4. The plaintiff is talking about “respect is earned, not given” yet she’s been chasing and respecting a man who mistreats her for TWELVE YEARS. 5. Black women are just ridiculous. Yeah he’s trash. But Black women have standards lower than h3ll. This is on black women. 6. She’s not going anywhere.

Where is her mom she wasn’t taught to have self worth I see

So, she’s mad that she ONLY a baby mama, but she’s allowing him to make her just a baby mama🙄 all three of them are wrong…all three of them are childish as hell. So, why does she want to marry him? He sleeps with EVERYONE! someone needs to talk to the girl and ask her why she is holding on to him? Smh as the best judge would say, “you keep giving him more of what he already doesn’t appreciate” smh what a clown!

Thinking that getting a ring as some kind of reward for having to deal with heartbreak and pain is such a broken mindset. Like oh I’ve suffered beyond belief so I deserve to be legally and spiritually bound to the person who caused it for life. WHAT?!!

I cringed everytime she said that a wife is supposed to accept cheating and side babies. That's why she's not a wife. No one ever taught her what a wife is supposed to be or a husband or a marriage for that matter

Awww hurt my heart when she said WE CAN TRYYY😢 AWW poor baby she love him but he dont love her 💔

Having a baby with someone else, during our relationship, is a deal breaker! He is really with the other BM.

If this is a real case, he's a graduate of the Premiere Clown Academy, and she needs MUCH psychoanalysis. They should have provided it to her.

Marry into that family for what?..sis was knee deep in this foolishness 3 kids ago and if her and moms ain't somewhere near the same page after all these years it ain't never gonna be right.. ya stuck

self-esteem is in the toilet, sad thing is they got together so young and she doesn't know how much better she could do. she's so beautiful I hope she works on her self-esteem, for herself and her children.

what has relationships come to... does no one the definition of loyalty and honesty anymore

She needs to cut her losses

He’s one of those dudes who think they’re the smartest person in the room, but is far from it.

This Young Woman Needs To Focus On Her Educating Herself, Maturing, And Self-Esteem THATS IT THATS ALL

I'm not worth love, respect, kindness, protection, honor - that is what she secretly feels every time she screams about being a wife. Who destroyed your love for self. Who put in you that you ain't worthy of an ounce of respect and why the hell do you let anyone dishonor your soul? That dude is as the young folks say, for the streets.

The minute you let him go is the minute your life will increase!! Your skin will glow & get brighter. Be kind to YOURSELF ❤

You don't need a ring let him go after 12 years he isn't going to marry you

She is slow. He is disgusting. Sorry. I’m praying for y’all

Reading the comments, so far no one mentioned how toxic his mother is for him. Also, girlfriend believes that it's okay to disrespect his family and it's ok. Her attitude is so stank regardless!! Wait until HER CHILDREN start dating and bringing someone around WHO ACTS LIKE HER!! She'll realize that she's reaped what she's sown with his mother.

28 and been waiting on a ring for 12 years. WOW SMH

I feel so bad for her. She can’t see that he doesn’t value her or respect her. She wants a ring… you need to want respect and love. So sad.

She need to stay on over there with him and them kids leave other folks alone

So she's good enough to keep putting babies up in her, but she's not good enough for a ring. Omg... I'm already pissed off!

This is wild. How many different times does she need to be told he don’t want her. She needs to wake the hell up !

Him and this damn job for 3 years with his 5 kids 🙄 congratulations sir 👏🏽 you are employed

Tell it like it is Judge Star 🌟