An Interview with my Alcoholic Uncle | PART 2 | 10 Years Later...
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6 ай бұрынFilmed ten years after the original, this is part two of my interview with my estranged uncle John, a man who has been hopelessly in the throes of alcohol addiction for much of his adult life. What has changed for him over the decade since we last met?
If you've already watched the first film, you'll likely notice some differences in the way John looks and sounds. He is much more softly spoken, and has a tendency to slur his words at times. If you have trouble understanding him, just turn on captions.
My hopes are that other drug and alcohol addicts, people in recovery, and the loved ones of addicts will find something of use here, whether that be understanding, hope or fortitude.
If you haven't seen the original interview, watch it here: • An Interview with my A...
A film by Arthur Cauty
Produced by Simon Cauty
Cinematography & Editing - Arthur Cauty
B-Cam & Still Photography - Katie Simmons
Music - Moby
Super 8 Film Footage - Tony White
Archive Video - Arthur Cauty, Jake Cauty, Tzur Livne, Kino Pravda
Archive Photos - John Cauty, Susan Acford, Roy Acford, Jill Golby, David Golby, Cleveland Museum of Art
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@redmille1000 3 ай бұрын
His wife is the one that deserves the most praise, living with an alcoholic is a horrible way to live.
@jamie.777 3 күн бұрын
I know, and I am sorry 😞
@georgehill-baker3299 4 ай бұрын
This guy has lived in my head since seeing the first film. I can’t believe he’s alive. I’m glad he’s okay
@111Benzie 3 ай бұрын
Sounds like you need to get a life.
@user-hr4oy9xu2w 28 күн бұрын
I don't give two fucks whether he's alive or dead. look at the STATE of him. He has WERNICKES KORSAKOFF. That's why he can't remember anything. He has NO self awareness whatsoever.
@hinzenstein 4 ай бұрын
Hard to believe that this is the same guy. He looks younger, even if he's older. And his eyes are so full of life. Wish him and his Family nothing but the best. Keep sober, man 👍🏻
@RockNRoller66 2 ай бұрын
And he's not suffering 3 major alcohol-induced injuries every month like before.
@johngayfer6873 6 ай бұрын
Good lord, I'm surprised he's still alive. Well done on getting sober!
@matthewwhittaker478 Ай бұрын
Are they sober now?
@cnccigars748 3 ай бұрын
Holy fuck this guys a legend. He looks so much better. Good for him.
@gregorymoats4007 2 ай бұрын
He’s absolutely correct. It can be done. Had my last drink October 31, 1987. I am now 62 years old…praise be to God
@SapereAude1789 4 ай бұрын
It’s strange, I randomly thought about your documentary and John in particular today, and now I see this. I am so happy to see he’s quit the alcohol and is still alive. He looks so much better
@rudycarv2197 Ай бұрын
So inspiring this, I've watched the 1st video of 7 years ago, I'm glad he quit alcohol, really interesting the way he approached his problem with alcohol, " the door is shut/ meaningless/ no value and move on! I'm nearly 40 days sober. I shut the door and opened a new as well 🙏
@sonnyboy5566 6 ай бұрын
He looks much better. What a turnaround
@markdoolittle7183 5 ай бұрын
Damn! I’m showing this to my brother . He’s in same condition as your uncle was. If this guy can do it then maybe he can too, your uncles going to save a lot of lives, Just by saving 😊himself. Thank you for this video.
@acauty 4 ай бұрын
Best of luck to your bro 🙏
@anjke 2 ай бұрын
When ' IT ' finally clicks there is no difference between 1 day sober or 50 years sober. Heard so many ex-addicts talk about ' IT ' and ' IT ' cannot be explained.
@archangel_josh Ай бұрын
He's alive! Wow, I can't believe it. I think about him alot since I saw the first film. He actually looks so much younger, even though he's grey and wizard-like you can see his wrinkles aren't as deep, his eyes are brighter, he's animated when he moves. It's proof that it's NEVER too late to quit. Makes me so happy that he's ok. I'm currently 1 year and 8 months sober and thriving.
@rileybethards 2 ай бұрын
“just another chapter” i love that
@shahnawazvlog6266 5 ай бұрын
How beautiful his last comments "It can be done, and I am still standing. Over and out" Super vlog will have a great impact on many peoples, and we all can learn from this video. Thanks, you for sharing with us. Never too late to change.
@ananda_miaoyin 3 ай бұрын
Earth is hard. You said it yourself, "Heaven and Hell." Some people don't know why they came here and they just get lost.
@deluge71 2 ай бұрын
Saw the first part, and I feared for the worst. Hearing that John got sober truly brightens my day. He always seemed like a remarkable human being. I would love to know more about who he was, before alcohol became a problem.
@tonimarx6405 3 ай бұрын
Oh my god! I cannot believe what i'm seeing! This is incredible! His first video years ago stuck with me for such a long time. I was sure he only had a couple of months to live. Now he seems to be thriving, even if he is smoking like a chimney 😂
@boogiemcsploogie 4 ай бұрын
This is great. I just rewatched the first one after a few years, then this pops up. 8 years sober myself, good for you sir!
@marthalouise701 2 ай бұрын
My God look at this man! And his art work is incredible! Sobriety is possible!
@Toonces666 2 ай бұрын
I really like your uncle. I find him fascinating. Thank you for the film. Great work!
@ProfoundFamiliarity Ай бұрын
Remarkable, thank you, I'm so glad to see this
@jat2319 3 ай бұрын
Only just watched part 1 yesterday and this pops up today! Incredible. Very happily surprised hes alive.
@garethparker6493 6 ай бұрын
surprising he's still alive to be honest! Great film
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
Thanks Gareth!
@TheMetalhead678 4 ай бұрын
Oh my god.. I'm so glad he's still alive. He's doing much better for himself. Good for him. Bless this man's soul.
@alison__16 4 ай бұрын
Just watched part one, I'm amazed he's still alive
@lodersracing 6 ай бұрын
Absolutely brilliant to see his recovery, what a turn around. I have been waiting to see an update. Thank You!
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
thanks for watching!
@frasermackie19 2 ай бұрын
this man is an inspiration. no matter what he says, he helped me
@stephschofield 6 ай бұрын
I watched your original interview so many times. So great to see your Uncle John living a better life. Art is critical in our society, so happy to see him expressing emotions in a healthy way.
@etiletsatsi5130 Ай бұрын
Instantaneously you can see the difference in his eyes from the last vid - now there's a twinkle there. Like a star.
@NickC341 Ай бұрын
gosh … he’s sounds drunk still … blessing to him.
@Velaxity 3 ай бұрын
Four days sober after drinking heavily for six or seven years.. Finding it so hard not to pick up a drink, but watching this is giving me the mental strength I need right now. Congratulations on getting clean.
@ginge5253 3 ай бұрын
Hey wondered how your getting after the first 4 days? I always seem to drop the ball at about day 3/4 myself and I've been a heavy drinker 7/8 years myself so yeah just hoping you've stuck to it
@Slash687 2 ай бұрын
Are you still sober?
@neil_down_south 2 ай бұрын
How's it going?
@ginge5253 2 ай бұрын
@neil_down_south well truthfully I'm not sober but I've cut down massively which is at least a step in the right direction
@jamie.777 3 күн бұрын
AA meetings help first 90 days,not saying to commit to Aa, but it's good to kill time in the beginning
@dg9015 2 ай бұрын
Im 2 weeks sober today and still struggling
@ermanbinabdulkadir8255 20 күн бұрын
I know what it feels man
@popcornboxing369 18 күн бұрын
How are you now?
@dg9015 18 күн бұрын
@@popcornboxing369 hiya, 65 days now and it's been really tough
@popcornboxing369 18 күн бұрын
@@dg9015 two months wow 🤩! You’re doing amazing. This guy in the video can do it anyone can!
@dg9015 18 күн бұрын
@@popcornboxing369 I've just got in and checked on the calendar and it's 64 days today, still struggling but not as drastic as the first 3 weeks
@christopherwood8660 6 ай бұрын
Amazing to see after the first documentary that he’s still alive and way more cogent than before. I’d love to see a follow up to a Royal Hangover - especially in the light of COVID and the effect it had on people’s drinking. Hope he stays well!
@brookenoske927 6 ай бұрын
Well done. I watched the first doco about 5 or so years ago just after I'd left my alcoholic ex (who looked almost identical, if not worse at the time), and I never forgot it. I'm so glad for his recovery, but I think I really love his attitude to his journey. Some people walk around wearing their recovery/sobriety as some kind of sanctimonious medal to promote, rather than taking it for the personal lesson and struggle that it is. Kudos 🙏
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
Thank you. I find his attitude to it pretty interesting. I get that some people may find counting the days helpful, but to him the idea of it just doesn't make sense. I guess what works for one person, may not necessarily work for another. But hopefully there's a positive message here for all.
@missredumbrella 2 ай бұрын
After finding my best friend dead due to his alcohol addiction ...I ironically became a alcoholic . We were freinds for many years after both beating a long addiction to heroin...I have been clean 18 years....but finding him dead screwed me up so much I started drinking( I did not drink before) I still have the odd drink but want to quit completely, Its the king demon of all drugs ...I know this as I was addicted to heroin and other drugs for 12 long years .. Bravo to this lovely dude. The thing with booze is you drink to be happier but it takes your happiness away .
@carmenl163 Күн бұрын
I hope you are doing well. Grief is such an overwhelming feeling, so I can see why you are self medicating. I hope you can honor your friend by eventually stop drinking, as I am sure that's what he would like for you. I wish you all the best.
@missredumbrella 22 сағат бұрын
@@carmenl163 very good point ...thank you
@ronnieoats9571 6 ай бұрын
this is great to see!
@Finnish_guy 3 ай бұрын
He is a very interesting and philosophical kind of a person. Glad he is ok and keeps doing what he loves.
@jvjgvluftobtdd 6 ай бұрын
I saw the original documentary not two days ago. Imagine my surprise about this update coming out right now. When I clicked on it I definitely wasn't expecting what I ended up seeing: I assumed that there is no way back for someone in the state of your uncle, and I am glad have be proven wrong!
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching. Yes, I think he's surprised us all.
@johnnystall9683 2 ай бұрын
This is very well done, thank you for sharing his life.
@user-ox6yq4pc2g 4 ай бұрын
Omggg I’m so happy for you, you go gurlll, slay queen 🎉
@DRh830 4 ай бұрын
Thanks for posting. I'm happy to see your uncle. He is an inspiration to me.
@tommybutler2454 4 ай бұрын
Beautiful artwork and plants ! He is gifted.
@bluegrassboy2448 4 ай бұрын
Please tell your Uncle he is inspirational. Thank him for making this choice because it inspires me to battle my own struggles with a few forms of addiction.
@paulmiller570 3 ай бұрын
Well done my man! I've just past 7 years sober and I get the I'm not in recovery quote as I feel the same. To me that was another life, its strange how people see things differently. Again well done man!
@Joeypeeps69 Ай бұрын
Absolutely agree. Why put a label on yourself to keep you stuck in it? it's a formula for relapse. If you quit smoking. You don't go around saying I'm a smoker in recovery.
@AndyHeckFilms 4 ай бұрын
I appreciate your uncle sharing his story and his trust in you to tell it through your film. My father has gone on a similar journey and I recently released a documentary of his story. It is very similar and I can relate to your journey making these films.
@johnnyberg3979 3 ай бұрын
I watched the first video years ago, and just came across this one now. Fascinating and talented chap. Good to see him doing well
@KennyD-rc6yp 4 ай бұрын
It's great to see your uncle sober!!! Fantastic! 👍 He's an inspiration to others including myself, I'm struggling so bad, i may not beat the bottle, the clock is running out of time snd I'm not young anymore.
@Joeypeeps69 Ай бұрын
Fantastic short Arthur. John to you sir, Thank you for this. I agree leave the door shut.
@sharonkeery6398 3 ай бұрын
Just watched the first documentary there, I came on to see if John was ok, im SO glad he's still alive and looking brilliant. God bless 🙌 ❤
@DAce-de3hh Ай бұрын
Omg i never expected that. Congrats!
@haggler 6 ай бұрын
I am a much younger man, but also struggling with alcohol for about a decade now. I saw the original short interview with him probably 5 years ago, and it stuck with me deeply. I started trying to stop then, to varying amounts of fleeting success. I’m struggling badly again and I just watched it after searching specifically for it once more, wondered if you’d posted any updates. It feels like a sign that this was literally just posted 3 days ago. Well done to your uncle.
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear this. I hope you find the strength to stop and get to a healthier / happier place 🙏
@jimbob9907 2 ай бұрын
Wow he looks so much better ❤
@biffmalibu9488 2 ай бұрын
Interesting to see the younger photos of him. So vibrant and full of life. It's amazing how things in a person's life change and therefore how they choose to live going forward...
@superturkle 2 ай бұрын
i remember watching the first one, i repeated it a bunch of times. this one is amazing too, im glad to see he's still kicking and doing artwork. dont wait 10 years to do the next one. like, try again in a year.
@ginadillon2072 3 ай бұрын
He is amazing! Highly evolved and I love his art!
@milkywayan2232 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for filming this, and to your uncle for his candor. Interesting that he posited trauma as a possible cause of why he drank. It was likely the main cause of my drinking. A characteristic developed, that looked like selfishness, to navigate this ongoing trauma. Which in retrospect, after many years divorced from drinking, I realize was self-preservation. Alcohol is a nasty drug. Nicotine was harder to quit. The Benefits of not drinking were easier to see. I really like uncle's paintings. I also like your video and how It was assembled. Thank you
@milkywayan2232 4 ай бұрын
That selfishness/self preservation preceded my drinking to excess . 99.7% Of the time to excess. The drinking was done to Make my selfishness disappear. It didn't work. I felt like I needed to clear up my previous comment. Thank you again for doing this Mr. Cauty and Mr. Cauty.
@HarkePloegstra 4 ай бұрын
Good to see he's still alive!
@thursfield3107 3 ай бұрын
I've seen many docs of this type, frustrated too at the lack of follow-ups this is superb - what happened to the folks filmed in the "Drinking for England" episode from the late 90s?
@OtterSkull Ай бұрын
Happy he's still here!!!
@tedingram516 3 ай бұрын
The real life Aqualung, sad story powerful message. Thanks for the post.
@expatexpat6531 6 ай бұрын
Alcohol is probably easier to give up than smoking. Both are addictive substances and both are terrible afflictions. Your uncle looks much better, despite the stroke. BTW: Spotted Everton Water Tower.
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
Good spot. You sure know your water towers.
@cosmicwoman 4 ай бұрын
Beautiful film
@lydiamills2045 2 ай бұрын
Wow that's incredible he looks so well.. I'm still struggling with alcoholism 😢
@oglelaura 2 ай бұрын
❤️
@dg9015 2 ай бұрын
Me too I'm 14 days sober and it's extremely tough
@oglelaura 2 ай бұрын
@@dg9015 👏👏👏❤️!
@dd61125 2 ай бұрын
it is too late for you my dear 😞
@dg9015 2 ай бұрын
18 days now.
@kathrynbinns693 5 ай бұрын
Wonderful his journey is wonderful
@DigitalCasm 5 ай бұрын
My main takeaway from this video is that - it's so obvious that it isn't in America. If this man lived in America, he'd have ended up in the streets due to a totally indifferent and inadequate healthcare system.
@runningwithscissors6028 Ай бұрын
It says in the video that Librium was prescribed, and that one day, he decided to take it, i.e., he took personal responsibility. Don't blame the healthcare system for his predicament. The only thing inadequate and indifferent is the government running a healthcare system.
@DigitalCasm Ай бұрын
@@runningwithscissors6028 Tell me you didn't read my comment without telling me you didn't read my comment.
@Toonces666 29 күн бұрын
@@DigitalCasmI totally agree with you. TOTALLY.
@TheVermifuge 5 ай бұрын
That was powerful.
@norskrom2161 3 ай бұрын
Seeing him walk made me feel happy
@joansheekey476 Ай бұрын
Very smart man relly is I can see he’s been rared right and he just got lost along the way god bless him. Keep going. My dear man ❤️
@Dana-ee9pb 3 ай бұрын
Wow he looks so much better! Remarkable.
@myzigc3036 4 ай бұрын
Wow he survived! He must have a sting mind and character to beat the booze,inspiring story!
@aquacat8 4 ай бұрын
I'm very proud of your uncle!
@BernadetteMcGovern57 2 ай бұрын
Great man
@johncin7098 3 ай бұрын
I am glad this man has stopped drinking BUT JFC the selfishness and narcissism. What does this man give back to society? What damage has he inflicted on his loved ones and especially his child? In all the comments down below I see no mention of his wife nor does he mention her and her obvious grace, love and patience. The woman is a saint and he gives her no credit at all, he would not exist or have a home without her devotion. He seems to take her for granted.
@bradford_shaun_murray Ай бұрын
I thought about what you wrote later when I saw where he was talking about the painting from 4:58 to 5min11.
@kieranskler8837 Ай бұрын
You've not been his position.
@calumiainmacdonald17 3 ай бұрын
Love.
@JohnJohnson-wy6fk 2 ай бұрын
Damn, hes still alive? The human body is amazing.
@Idunnoaboutyou 2 ай бұрын
Great story teller he is
@DarlinBH 3 ай бұрын
Bless him! I could tell there was something unique and wonderful about him underneath the drunken exterior.
@geryblade4790 6 ай бұрын
watced the origanal a number of times and would get the odd update, whata wonder full video to see him again and doing so well, all the best to you all
@acauty 6 ай бұрын
thank you 🙏
@lousessssmith9869 5 ай бұрын
Wonderful to see up DATE, what a cool guy , I thought he was to die soon. Well done congratulations
@johnkerr7286 3 ай бұрын
You are doing some good interesting art. The librium was a good idea, if only doctors were more willing to prescrbe librium. I came off alcohol with librium but relapsed and finished up in a wheelchair - then came off with reduction (supervised rehab). Been ok for 6yrs, but like you, I can't be bothered with the outside world much, alcohol is an expensive way, in many ways, of escaping the crap. Good to see you are well.
@Toonces666 29 күн бұрын
Yes, I totally concur about the outside world.
@karenhumphreys6316 3 ай бұрын
Well done John ❤God bless you 🙏🏼‼️♥️👍🏼💌
@j.p.productions5541 6 ай бұрын
Very nice
@sputnikwar 2 ай бұрын
Well done for getting sober, that’s really great work. Needs to face up to the next step. 😉 🚬
@thrivedru 5 ай бұрын
Mate, great filmmaking. Truly appreciated. What is the name of the painting of the man passed out, high on opium? I know that painting.... I just forget who created it.
@acauty 5 ай бұрын
A Eunuch's Dream by Jean Lecomte du Nouÿ
@thrivedru 5 ай бұрын
@@acauty THankyou!!
@b.abrackus6403 17 күн бұрын
It's good to know why we do or done the things we did... and learn from our mistakes, not sure he did though
@SWS1493 2 ай бұрын
Can’t believe how much younger he looks than 10 years ago!
@carmenl163 Күн бұрын
It almost is a spiritual thing, the way he looks at his addiction. Very interesting. I hope his family is doing well.
@randygingrich2161 6 күн бұрын
Keep updating if possible
@DanKirchner5150 3 ай бұрын
Im elated for the recovery . but for a man aged 42 years its sure taken its toll on him
@jeffbanks9955 5 ай бұрын
you can tell he looks better in his face. great stuff well done that man. takes real strength
@k.mad.8062 6 ай бұрын
Best wishes. You do you.
@elizasquance9162 6 ай бұрын
Best of luck to him in his sobriety 👍
@dinasaidso Ай бұрын
That’s the power of getting sober
@jamie.777 3 күн бұрын
Dude looks so much better
@risajean7777 5 ай бұрын
I wish my dad could have been more like Uncle John! I also wish a friend could have too! Two stories like so one passed on my birthday when I was a day away via plane and the other I don't know where John is but when I told him if he let a 26 year old with a trust fund die via alcohol while John spent that money on alcohol etc... John would be dead to me! The young man died in John's apartment at 26 and John did nothing! I was out of town and begged for him to get help for him and he promised me he would but didn't 😥 John is dead to me and most likely is gone. Some things I couldn't forgive and never have forgotten. As far as my sperm donor, I did cry a little at the Pillbox on the North Shore a day before I flew home to the Gulf Of Mexico, my home, my Paradise, amongst the hell!🔥 Happy for you John and agree if you give it a date you give it meaning, it doesn't deserve meaning! Thank You for sharing!!! I'll share with ones close to my ❤ and hope they are more like Uncle John!✌️📸
@johncarter8019 6 ай бұрын
interesting story
@Fe26man 3 ай бұрын
I wish I could love this! But I’ll settle and like it 😉
@TimothyAsbridge_TENOR 2 ай бұрын
Would individual pieces of John's Artwork be avaliable for a Private Collector?
@thrivedru 5 ай бұрын
Second comment: With all due respect, he says he doesn't see it as an achievement, he says it was another chapter that he's read and understood.... meanwhile, he says he doesn't know why he started drinking in the first place, and doesn't want to know. As an alcoholic myself, I feel it's best that one does know where their problems stem from. Part of reprogramming oneself. SAYING THAT, he seems to have it together for the most part at this point. Just a thought, here. Love from B.C.
@acauty 5 ай бұрын
That could well be! I guess it comes down to whatever works for the individual. I'm sure each person is going to be different 🙏
@thrivedru 5 ай бұрын
@@acauty Yeah, exactly. Everyone's expression and journey's different.
@Hamish_888 2 ай бұрын
Is there anyway we can contact uncle john?
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