How to Touch Him in a Way that Lowers His Walls and Inspires His Love
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Күн бұрынLearn how to touch a guy in a way that opens his heart and makes him melt ❤️
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TIMELINE
1:08 - Why Touch is So Important
2:20 - (1 - For Encouragement and an Expression of Attraction
4:16 - (2 - As a Tool to Create Safety and Trust
7:21 - When and How to Use Touch to Create Safety
8:57 - (3 - Touch as Healing
11:24 - Two Step Process to learn how men like to be touched
13:13 - The Biggest Touch Mistake Women Make (with a story!)
15:03 - Recap of Touch Tips
How do I touch a guy? How do men like to be touched? Can I make him fall in love with me using touch? I get asked questions like these ALL THE TIME by clients, students and women in my life... so I created a video explaining the three top ways to touch a man that will make him emotionally open to you so you can build the relationship you're worthy of!
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@MariElle3 3 жыл бұрын
A heads up about hugs. Hugs release the binding hormone oxytocin... for women it releases after 8 seconds of hugging, but for men it takes 20 seconds to release... so hug him... hug him for at least 20 seconds. You'll both get the oxytocin release which will cause bonding.
@shantavanee 2 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@breezy75 2 жыл бұрын
Nice! I did not know that. Thanks for the advice 🖤
@tanhue1265 2 жыл бұрын
according to what?
@martiwest2594 Жыл бұрын
According to her experience and knolwlrge which by her answer she has a good sound mind unlike some of the others here today, myself included mind and is young to help and guide us, so if u think u can do better, genus, I’m sure we’ll happy and surprised to hear your wise words😊 Be Out guest
@mysoulsayings7273 Жыл бұрын
@@tanhue1265 Science. There's actual scientific studies on this. And of course, real daily life results.
@starlight2371 3 жыл бұрын
1. TOUCH HIM!! OOOOH baby!!! 2. Hold his hands. 3.Loooonnngg Hug!! Tight long booobie hug!!! 4. Caress back of his head. 5. Cuddle up! 6.Let him hold you. 7. Touch is a form of communication and bonding. 8. Ask him where he likes to be touch. Ask permission first before you touch that "No No Square!" 9.Use touch as healing. 10. Treat a gentle man like a real gentleman!! Don't cross that line until he cuts that red line FIRST! Star Light I took notes!!! Thank you !!!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Great point!
@loiseubank7749 3 жыл бұрын
My guy and I are constantly touching each other, not sexually, but very gently. We're both divorced and have lived mirror lives, from teens to bad marriages. We got together after not seeing each other for 40 years!! It's like our bodies crave touch and touching each other after everything we have lived through, it's extremely comforting ❤💕💖
@gailhawkins2210 3 жыл бұрын
Ditto for me. Isn't it awesome!
@loiseubank7749 3 жыл бұрын
@@gailhawkins2210 yes it is!!❤❤❤
@junegarner141 3 жыл бұрын
I have reconnected with a high school flame we have both been through a lot the life and we can’t keep our hands off each other. Makes me fell so special.
@fenixnew1790 3 жыл бұрын
this is so beautiful...
@TG-nh6ni 2 жыл бұрын
Same...I've never been married but he has...🙂
@FASHIONVOID 2 жыл бұрын
I actually love it when a guy feels free to lay his head in my lap... and allows me to stroke his hair and his temples. Whatever the status of our relationship is, I feel like this is so intimate and not something I do with every guy I'd date... it also makes me feel very motherly lol
@TG-nh6ni 2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree...😂
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Absolutely! 😉
@angelajohnson3990 Жыл бұрын
He loves to lay his head in my lap and I scratch his head. He falls asleep in my lap everytime. I hold him while he sleeps and rub his head while we watch a movie or even football. We alternate holding each other……it’s so sensual and healing ❤️
@TheAttractionTriggers 5 ай бұрын
*Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.*
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing!
@theveganmedium7663 3 жыл бұрын
I have learned that my man (and previous men I've dated) melt like butter when you are cuddling in bed (or on the couch) and I get a bit higher than him and lay his head kind of on my chest. Stroking his hair and the sides of his face, and gently kissing his forehead and cheeks where I can reach. Absolutely melts any man to be touched like this! I think ot brings out the mother's nurturing touch that they need from a woman... they will start leaning into yiu often to receive this loving touch. Its really intimate in a pure loving way.
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Hello to whom it may concern I can recomend you to someone that helped me get my ex back and I believe he can also help you to attract back your lover and solve your relationship problems 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Whtsspp him 🙏🙏🙏🙏💯💯
@monicasuyo1330 Жыл бұрын
I agree, definitely being kissed on the forehead, anyone know why this is a motherly thing to do?, I heard because it’s a way to check for a fever
@Mat_Shaffer 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@gypsymumma9015 2 жыл бұрын
So basically treat him like a king but hold him like a baby 😂
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
LOL!
@sondrabaz9509 Жыл бұрын
Before me my husband thought that any time he was touched it meant sex because no other woman had taken the time to just touch him. I had to literally tell him "no, just relax and let me touch you. You're not touching me right now." It took some time but now he's very much into being "petted". Lol
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
@kelligray1848 9 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. This answers a question for me❤
@sondrabaz9509 9 ай бұрын
@kelligray1848 cool, not sure which part helped, but always glad to be of help to other ladies put there. 😊
@kimobrien5523 3 жыл бұрын
I’m in a long distance relationship with a soldier; I agree with the hug as an expression of trust and safety as you described. I asked him to tell me how he was going to greet me when he came home, and he said with a long hug. There you go! Safety and trust!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing! ❤
@libellenflugpoetry6800 Жыл бұрын
Your advices come from a very positive place. You teach people Love, not manipulation. Thank you!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@ScorpioKay1027 10 ай бұрын
Ha! You put imto words what I couldn't quite put my finger on! I just knew I loved these advice and guidance videos more than any others 💜💜💜🙏🏾 Thank you so much!!
@maryloudelossantos1624 Жыл бұрын
I am a touchy kind of a person. This is what I look for in a man. Being affectionate matters to me.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Marylou ❤️
@maryhoreski3840 Жыл бұрын
My man has ED how can I help m? He is very ❤ lovable I did fall in love with him knowing this
@starrhall8160 2 жыл бұрын
FYI: if a man doesn't want touch other than sex, forget him...same if he won't touch, hold hands, in public
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@margotmmm8062 2 жыл бұрын
I just love your real, open, honest wisdom. I’m in my mid sixties and wish I could of known these things forty years ago. Never too late though and with years of marriage and experience, divorced now, I am in a relationship with a man six years younger. Mat, your guidance is really helping me, especially at this stage of life and love. Thank you!
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy for you my dear!
@MaryanaGolovchenko Жыл бұрын
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@MaryanaGolovchenko Жыл бұрын
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@psychosocial474 Жыл бұрын
1. Use touch as an encouraging and invitation thing to him, in early stages of dating, take his hand for a second, sustainand contact f.e. with legs, touch his waist, when you walk by him 2. A tool to create safety and trust, long full body tender hug, when he comes; holding and touch his back of the head; or allow him to hold you - it will activate his strong power feeling 3. Touch for healing purpose:
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@YoNeener 3 жыл бұрын
Mat I appreciate the vulnerability it takes to share your gifts and talents with the world. I feel gratitude for your insight and I'm better because of it. 🙏❤
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@bettywinn8296 Жыл бұрын
Tremendous info. Wish to God I knew this years ago. My family never hugged each other. We never saw our parents hug or touch or kiss each other. I feel like I have missed out on so much & It has affected my male partners through the years Thank you so much.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@victoriaminter1936 10 ай бұрын
I can really relate to this.
@MirandaVlogs0 9 ай бұрын
Gotta go back to hugging, specially my dad isn’t that affectionate and whenever I hugged him cause I thought he needed it after his mothers passing and I think he was uncomfortable said let go of me so I stopped hugging people So I don’t make them uncomfortable. 🤷🏻♀️I guess sometimes I find it difficult for the reaction I can get back. Gotta work on that again so I can succeed on a relationship
@ahavadaniel4883 3 жыл бұрын
Matt thanks for giving us the meaning of touch , it’s a form of encouragement and attraction, a nonverbal physical connection to assure him he can be himself and drop his walls ,his defenses and most of all I lie to hear touch is for healing. As an occupational therapist I have warm healing hands .and why yes I can melt his heart by the subtle touching to heal his stress insecurities fears. And you don’t expect sex as the end product. Pure simple expression of LOVe. Thanks for restoring the pure meaning of touch.thats great thanks
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
@killeenryan7284 3 жыл бұрын
We were walking around while we had for our table at the restaurant. I put my hand in his arm. Not long after that he held my hand.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!
@Starry-zy8bb Жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness I hugged my boyfriend after a theater rehearsal where we got to hang out a bunch and he was literally dancing as he walked away. It wasn't even a long hug, it was a quick, 3 second, full hug. He had the biggest grin on his face as he walked away. It was adorable and I now realize why this had an effect on him. I'll definitely try to incorporate more touch into our relationship. Knees touching while sitting near each other, hand holding, stuff like that. 😁
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Wonderful! I’m so glad this helped you!
@teresaedwards2879 Жыл бұрын
I am a hugger…my favorite thing to do is after a hug is to slowly move my arms from his neck and allow my hand to rest on one his cheeks to a moment with a look in his eyes and a smile! I usually get pulled back in for another embrace 💕
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Amazing! ❤️
@marilynkilrain9511 Жыл бұрын
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@pjjanke3683 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you this helped my best friend has had a lot of physical trauma in his life. Plus he is a widower so there is a lot of walls put up. Over time I’ve been able to get some of the barriers down but it is baby steps. I do get an occasionally hug from him.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that! ❤️
@kobezurimom Жыл бұрын
Omg I’m so glad to have come across your videos. I’m a woman who loves physical touch. I naturally touch others and have had to learn that sometimes it can communicate something I’m not trying to to communicate. But that said when I’m getting to know a guy I like, it’s easy for me to touch him. What you said about being his peace, comfort and sanctuary resonates with me. I was with a new guy and he asked me to hold him. I held him for what felt like forever rubbing the back of his head and neck. I absolutely loved it! I’m sure he did too. I have also messed up by assuming all guys like a certain type of touch and definitely will take your advice to ask first. I’ve found this so helpful thinking of touch as it’s own language. My husband of 18 years passed so I want to be the best partner I can be for my next. Thank you.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
@rockydluffy2537 2 жыл бұрын
Im dating this guy and he had a rough week coz one of his pets died, and he was lying in bed on his stomach next to me, and i started touching the back of his head while we were talking, after a few mins he told me "I feel so relaxed, im falling asleep". I also caress the back of his head from time to time when he's driving. Touch is really a powerful thing, Knowing where to touch your man to make him feel re-assured and secured would be really helpful in the long run
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Great point!
@LisaWilder20320 3 жыл бұрын
Mat. I have previously watched your video on RASE in which you spoke to touch as a love language and the lameness of some physical interactions like the side hug. Well, when it came time to give the all important goodbye hug during a life transition moment a few weeks ago I went all in and gave my guy interest a super full body tight lasting hug - we made it through the location move and are continuing our relationship with an adjusted path forward. So I give you credit for helping me to achieve a deeper emotional connection through touch with my dear friend and perhaps someday something more man. Now I am all in learning to express my feelings and emotions through touch. Thank you. You are a Rock Star!
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
WOW amazing share hon, so so happy for your breakthrough!!!
@jeanjoseph7905 3 жыл бұрын
Touching is the language of LOVE
@tressielassabe5779 3 жыл бұрын
I sure wish that i could find another love real soon. Before i die. And it would be a pleasure to find a good man like you. God Bless you
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
@lisawentworth6831 3 жыл бұрын
...they are so rare, and they seem to be hiding beneath the veil of the bad, loud men that always seem to rise to the surface and are everywhere!
@tressielassabe5779 3 жыл бұрын
@@lisawentworth6831 I think that you are right.
@lisawentworth6831 3 жыл бұрын
@@tressielassabe5779 Thanks! People are usually telling me how wrong I am...I was just thinking about it...picture a busy city street. A woman, not dressed up or trying to attract attention, on her way to work or running errands. Men will catcall, invade her space, gawk, glare, even if it is a no make-up and glasses day. Where are the good men then? They are very discerning, and only meet you by Divine Intervention or some fluke accident. The loud men, the wrong guys are EVERYWHERE...men don't understand this; there is not a moments peace from them! Even in this pandemic, they find their way through the woodwork by scams on social media and invade your home when you are minding your own business! Now, these relationship gurus like Matt, it's all well and good to say that you will meet one, or they can say [I always love this line], that you were not prepared and your intention was not right to receive them, along with any other kind of luck n the Universe. Look, I'm 57...I've basically been primed to receive this love since birth...where is he? I hate dated hundreds of the bad guys, married a few...because THEY ARE THE ONLY THING ON THE MENU!! And loading one mistake after the other doesn't solve the problem for a good man and love. Then I get blamed...why are you attracting this, you were not ready to receive this. Look, if I am minding my own business, living in whatever country, whatever environment, the loud, bad men will always be rising on the top, because they don't fear rejection their mantra is manipulation, because if they don't get what they want from you, they will go to the next. I met my great love..he has pulled away, and I am heartbroken...but for that, all these gurus say 'oh, he wasn't the right one, move on, it is so easy, next'. Well, you know what? It isn't. Tears well in my eyes right now, because they don't get what we go through, because they are discerning, and losing someone who may be flawed but you love them, hurts...life is not a conveyor belt! But it feels like it sometime...
@9885sweetpeajen85 3 жыл бұрын
@@lisawentworth6831 i completely understand and agree with you. I'm currently separated and he still lives in the house, he moved into the spare room 😪. I feel the same way, he may have flaws but I deeply love him and I'm sure looking from the outside everyone would wonder why I'm so upset to lose him. According to what he tells me he wants to be able to explore and there's not much that I can do to get him back/keep our marriage. 14 years and I feel like I'm losing my best friend 😭💔.
@DiraMcClintock 2 жыл бұрын
Wish I’d have known this 35 y ago. My late hubby grew up in non demonstrative household. Not breastfed. Not hugged. Never heard I love you. I had to teach him to hug. We did snuggle etc but sex was not what it could have been and I didn’t have the skills to teach him. But we were best friends and our marriage was the envy of others. Sigh.
@millag93 Жыл бұрын
If it's not too personal - what went wrong?
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@toni2017 Жыл бұрын
" Touch is a beautiful form of connection! " Beautiful definition! And it's TRUE!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@susaneuliano7692 8 ай бұрын
Yes,Mat, "touch" is key to letting your partner know how you feel about him. Give him the softening tool for becoming comfortable with you. Let him just surrender to your actions. Let him know that touch is so important in communicating with you.
@Mat_Shaffer 8 ай бұрын
I’m happy this resonated with you ❤
@secretshaman189 3 жыл бұрын
What a wonderful video, thank-you so much for sharing and your honesty! Thank you also for emphasizing the fact that touch is a man's primary love language, not words. Also that men work in a very competitive environment with their shields up as you described. Most women do not recognize this, and it is so important to understand! Lovely advice!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@patmassad6497 3 жыл бұрын
Greeaatttttt advice Mat! You consistently give messages born in knowledge & wisdom. THANK YOU. I believe you made the BEST career choice change, WE NEED YOU 💜💜💜
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@NazirAhmed-cs1ub Жыл бұрын
I have met someone who says he ❤ me, misses me,wants to be with me, I find it difficult to except after 38years of being with only one man in my life and the abuse I encountered by him for a very long time. I am healing and feel free of him, but I struggle with trusting this new man and it's overwhelming as I have never heard the beautiful words he says to me before and I don't believe him. Love your videos ❤❤
@lilacgirl9332 Жыл бұрын
I rarely listen to these types of videos but the things you say are 100% the way I've always felt. It's so great to hear a man saying exactly what I've always thought.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@lilacgirl9332 Жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer I did very much. You do a terrific job! I subscribed and will be watching more of your wonderful videos. I like your positivity and easy manner and of course the fact that you offer such good information.
@jagpawm5252 Жыл бұрын
Just finding your material. Former attorney myself. You offer realistic, practical advice that's much more tangible for a woman dealing with a man. Masculine and feminine energy has become so clouded but the distinction is key how to treat each other, shaping the relationship. Perhaps you can suggest what to do in situations where there's mutual attraction, you know for certain he likes you but afraid to approach out of shyness and uncertainty. How is it you feel a strong vonnection to someone you haven't even talked too? Definition of that.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@HollyUmpstead 10 ай бұрын
I really love this video. You do such a great job at articulating your words, points and engaging your viewer with solid eye contact. It is such a blessing to know as a woman, there are men out there that have those same values and have the potential to be willing to receive physical intimacy and touch as coming from a sacred place. It can be a woman's primary love language too, a gift that comes from God. You are such a beautiful soul Mat! Keep encouraging healthy love with the world! ❤️
@Mat_Shaffer 10 ай бұрын
Glad you like it Thanks 🤗
@mimij4341 Жыл бұрын
I found it hard and still do sometimes to comfort someone that just poured out their hearts, or venting and needs that comfort. It's so awkward and uncomfortable for me I just sit there like what now. Looking back now I was never hugged as a child. I grew up with corporal punishment but was never showed affection. it's so complex being a human 🤦🏾♀️
@Ducatigrl85 Жыл бұрын
Omg I'm the same I freak out or sometimes I pat em then realised omg I'm patting like a dog geez
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@adeleneguzzo7468 Жыл бұрын
Wow 😲 what a charismatic,vivacious and educated speaker you are!! Humor with knowledge and human behavior added in ...plus your presentations are very educational and amazing...thank you for all.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
That's very sweet, Adelene Guzzo!🙏❤ Thanks much🙌
@elizabethpedano9564 Жыл бұрын
My twin flame keeps coming back to me ...for over 40 yrs ..we never lost touch even through our lives not married to each other ...but we recently got together again and never missed a beat
@thecatisoutofthebag83 Жыл бұрын
You are God’s gift to women, Mat! Our secret envoy to better understand, cherish and value our awesome men!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I so appreciate you saying that!
@nicolemartin-pz1wl 8 ай бұрын
Listening to Mat got me pregnant 😂😂😂😂😂 yall it really works! Thanks Mat 😁❤👍🏾 keep posting 😅
@Mat_Shaffer 8 ай бұрын
You're welcome!! ❤
@emeralddragon1712 3 жыл бұрын
This video is pure gold! ❤️🥰 Thank you, Mat!
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it!
@pugninja7037 2 жыл бұрын
I was sexually abused as a child, my ex partner and I didn't touch,and I just didn't know how to connect emotionally, we split after 18..I just felt we out grew each other. He actually did want too be touched, I have slowly understood to more emotional and what guys need.. then being a ice queen.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@rosellasantilli7938 3 жыл бұрын
My favorite way to touch a man was with eye contacting and gently holding his hands
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
@jessicaduffield1899 Жыл бұрын
NOV 2022. This popped up for me and it was something I have been needing to hear! Been married for 10 years and I forget how much our husband need touch just as much as sex. Thank you
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Happy to help ❤
@thetravelcrunch 10 ай бұрын
Your videos always blow my mind. I learn so much, you are like a professor!! This really should be a college course on emotional and relational communication!!!
@Mat_Shaffer 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@brandysmith258 Күн бұрын
Long hugs from behind! One of my favorite ways to hug him
@sissel5369 Жыл бұрын
I date men that are about 15 years younger then me, I’m 36, and one thing they enjoy is when they get to cuddle up in my arms, rest their head on my chest and I caress their hair and neck. It creates such a safe feeling and I feel that many of the boys really miss that, and often time miss out because they are supposed to be the big spoon and the protector. I love that I can give them a feeling of being protected and just receive my tender care.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
@angelinasamson6996 Жыл бұрын
He will allow me to touch him for a while , when he pulls away I allow him space . It definitely triggers him because he curls up into a ball It’s taken me years to be able to allow a man to hold and cuddle me , hes been so beat down with life i find it heartbreaking. He’s helped me shift my anxious attachment ❤
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Happy for you my dear! 💗
@myrapimm3216 Жыл бұрын
Powerful comment!
@shadiap Жыл бұрын
I can so relate to this… I respect you…
@angelinasamson6996 Жыл бұрын
@@shadiap Thank you 🙏❤️
@joyburton8113 3 жыл бұрын
Your videos have helped me in many situations. I must say, I'm diggin' the hair!!
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Thank you!
@nnnnnnnnnataliem Ай бұрын
This is all so fun and true! On my first date with my fiance, we were at a baseball game and I remember our shoulders touching most of the game and neither of us pulled away and that was really special for me. And when you said that you guarantee he's thinking of it, that made me smile 🥰
@Mat_Shaffer Ай бұрын
You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖
@jennifermartinez-uw2wh 3 жыл бұрын
I have given parts of me no one else in my life has ever gotten it still wasn’t enough.
@coppersulphate002 3 жыл бұрын
maybe he was not worth it?
@jennifermartinez-uw2wh 3 жыл бұрын
@@coppersulphate002 He was he just didn’t understand that I knew my worth even more
@coppersulphate002 3 жыл бұрын
@@jennifermartinez-uw2wh Yeah he seeing your worth the way you see your worth needs to match up. We must not settle for less. Or we shouldnt give away too unless ensure men understand our worth
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
he doesnt SEE you fully therefore he isnt worthy of you
@jennifermartinez-uw2wh 3 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you!
@kelligray1848 9 ай бұрын
This is great advice. My bf always says he loves how direct I am and it makes him know that I’m not a game player. He loves that I ask what he wants and tell him directly what I want. He finds the confidence hot.
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@larzg9873 3 жыл бұрын
Aw. Thank u for this Matt. Your content and videos are really amazing. I alwys watch you and Myles Munroe. You guyz are my relationship mentors. I just got married and learning how to cope with my partner in life. Thank for this! Really enjoyed watching your topics.
@HappyMonkey11 3 ай бұрын
I watched your videos daily when i was single, and oh boi, did they come in handy recently! I have the best, most nurturing relationship ever. You are the best! ❤
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
I’m so glad this helped you!
@sarahllamamama9 2 жыл бұрын
My primary is touch and secondary is quality time I love these tips 🥰
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@mara11333 2 жыл бұрын
My 3rd time here Matt. You’re very educational and helpful to me. And you’re a great lol.
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Thank you!
@egemenguzel205 2 жыл бұрын
you have a shining energy and open heart I appreciate that
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
@carolebaez7971 3 жыл бұрын
Healing is touching
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@conniesybert2704 2 жыл бұрын
I like how you recap the content at the end of your videos, thank you
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome. I hope it helps.
@clairexxx0405 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely touch is an Amazing way to grow in a relationship. There are so many different ways to touch, exploring is a wonderful way to get to know someone emotionally 🤗
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Well said, you got it right!
@DiraMcClintock 2 жыл бұрын
We take turn massaging each other’s aches and pains. We’re in our mid 60’s 🥸so lots to work with. Nothing like a good neck rub or leg rub to get the juices flowing. So happy to find a man that likes to give as much as he receives. Blissful
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing!
@peggybestgotos5933 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Mat! You are my favorite Love Bomber! You always have the best advice! I will be meeting my online soul mate for the first time and can't wait to touch and hug him into my life!
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you! so so happy for you my dear! So glad my content supports you :)
@ewm4266 3 жыл бұрын
My love language as a woman is primarily touch and my husband words of affirmation
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Hello to whom it may concern I can recomend you to someone that helped me get my ex back and I believe he can also help you to attract back your lover and solve your relationship problems 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Text him on WhatsApp
@ewm4266 3 жыл бұрын
@@mistressevamzonia7087 number?
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
@@ewm4266 +1(,9,7,1,),2,6,4,2,9,1,0
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that!
@sandram6068 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your well done , professional advice. Very good! I really like your videos. You are so handsome too. Blessings!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@joanfischer9371 3 жыл бұрын
I Love to touch a man; I love. I’m a warm, fun-loving Leo. 🦁 It fuels my soul emotionally, to touch a man in a “gentle way.”🧡
@joanfischer9371 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Matt for your shared expert advice; I love listening to you. God bless 😇
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you. 💕
@kellyclifford8547 3 жыл бұрын
I ove your story. It takes the pressure off on a first date ♥️.
@kellyclifford8547 3 жыл бұрын
Have always been hesitant to touch or show my feelings. Your video has been fabulous. Than you.
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you 🙂
@lumity238 9 ай бұрын
I met a man after 6 months after my husband passed away, I wasn't looking for anyone,it just happened. Well he is so cuddly, I love it. My late husband wasn't as a touchy feely guy ,so I'll take all the hugs I can get. 😁😜❤️
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@breezy75 2 жыл бұрын
I love this. So much great advice.. I've been seeing one guy for a few weeks and talking for a little over a month. We have seen each other 3 times but he hasn't tried to kiss me. He texts me every morning and night and sends me coffee to my job often. He went all out for Valentines day and has been a perfect gentleman. I was starting to wonder if he is unsure if he likes me or not lol just because he hasn't tried going for a kiss. After watching this video it makes me think maybe he is really just trying to take his time with me..
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful! I’m so glad this helped you!
@BelindaNeal66 Жыл бұрын
As soon as I read this, it was like a reflection looking back at me. I am now wondering the same thing.
@briar35981 Жыл бұрын
Breezy, we men tend to take longer to introspectively look at ourselves in relationships. If we have been in bad relationships in the past. We are always second guessing our feelings. Men aren't used to being complemented or being touched. In these days with #metoo and #believeallwomen. Men have become apprehensive on becoming physical or approaching women. This initial kiss may have to come from you. I would suggest maybe a kiss in a public place where he might feel more at ease with this type of physical contact. I know I am terrified of life altering false accusations. He maybe also. Give him time or you might ask him why he hasn't kissed you. Believe me he has thought about it, but maybe hasn't gotten the signs that you would like to be kissed. Nothing worse than going in for the kiss and you get the quick head turn. Awkward !! Good Luck
@lilymaganda2262 Жыл бұрын
My first time to watch your video and it gives me so much joy and learning how much important Touching is.. Thank you so much... From now on I will look for you always. ☺️🥰
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
So nice of you
@kimberlygreen6448 Жыл бұрын
OMG! I appreciate this video I am 57 and didn't know but I will from now on 🙂
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! ❤️❤️
@leeryan4716 Жыл бұрын
Matt your videos are so helpful I wish you had sets available for sale so I could rewatch them they are just the best of the whole lot. ❤️ I am older and in a wonderful relationship with a younger man. You are such a help keep it going you are helping soooooo many people find the real love they deserve. You are a wonderful tutor. Thank you so much ❤️ 💖 💓 ♥️ 💗 💛 ❤️ 💖
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
That's very sweet Lee❤️ Thanks for sharing🙏
@glendagiron3529 Жыл бұрын
I'm learning with every video I watch I just need a man to practice all this tips ☺️
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You got this!
@kaoutar6921 Ай бұрын
Hhhh he will find you ❤
@OnlikeDonkeyKong422 3 жыл бұрын
I play with his fingers and dreadlocks when we are cuddling lol
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
That's great!
@christeldevrindt3863 3 жыл бұрын
Wow Matt this is nice topic thanks for sharing very important and exercise in a playful wayy👍😍
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it
@danielanosenzo1356 9 ай бұрын
For the first time in my life this guy has managed to freeze me. I cannot touch him, i cannot lay down next to him without being afraid to touch him. Even riding on a scooter with him I could not hold on to him. I do not know what it is but does not promise well. I will let this go. It is really sad. There is something frigid about him, closes my heart down.
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@marcelasanchez957 Жыл бұрын
Thank you May! You just clarify my doubts. I needed to know this
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome. Glad it was helpful🙂
@lynnvirgilio-caron8265 10 ай бұрын
I cannot tell you how awesome your advice is! It TOTALLY WORKS
@Mat_Shaffer 10 ай бұрын
Great to hear! 🥰
@tanhue1265 2 жыл бұрын
great video, we forget how simple touch and hugs are so powerful. Thanks! looking forward to more
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it! :) Many more to come!
@claudiaavigor1316 9 ай бұрын
My marriage ended after 18 yrs no connection no touching and now with my new guy this has been the golden rule since day 1. I wished I knew this before
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@stacybennett4982 Жыл бұрын
Thank u for sharing this...two of the things my guy(now ex) loved was long heartfelt full body hugs ...and rubbing the back of his neck and hair..it drove him crazy everytime.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're very welcome. I promise there are good guys out there my dear! Keep going.
@kimberlyhardy3782 Жыл бұрын
Loved this. Very helpful. Thank you for sharing.
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@user-fr2mp2kt8d 6 ай бұрын
Mat your coaching advices helps a lot in a relationship im so inspired i can't resist your videos im so in love with them ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
@16Sirens Жыл бұрын
I've kissed 💋someone as both of us were in a yoga assana when we were in my living room. That expression of it and practicing breathwork, is intense. With the underlying boundaries that it stays as a practice- that creates heat!!🧘♀️✨️🧘♂️
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Love that!
@_thathoodwitch 3 ай бұрын
Your tips are so helpful. I’m finally dating again after my previous partner passing away so I’ve been binging quite a few videos. Everything feels so new again and tho I’m enjoying this new chapter and relationship and I never want to feel like I’m just doing the things my previous partner liked. It’s different being with someone after your partner passes away.. it’s the feeling of a new you that second guesses your actions or makes you feel like you can’t share certain parts of yourself or your life if that makes sense? So getting into this new relationship that I’m very happy in, it’s been a beautiful journey taking things slow, however it’s like I forgot how to be emotionally physically in a relationship. Like I know what to do but I find myself questioning if I should or if that’s the right thing to do? I was super nurturing before and I still am lol I just I get nervous that maybe he won’t like it or maybe I’m just doing that cause my late partner did.. I want to make sure I’m doing the right things I guess.. as silly as it sounds… your videos have given my a lot of courage and strength to open my heart and allow love in.
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
@elskar1 3 жыл бұрын
I like your tips! “ safe container” ...mmm what’s a better word for this? safe person to go to to relax and be himself and feel totally loved and embraced? Or other? 😀🤓
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Many thanks! ❤️
@oluwadamilolaoriade5426 Жыл бұрын
You are very right mett. I'm going through this right now from him. because I just allowed him to started touching me, and he can't get over it he messages me time to time saying he has been thinking about me every time 😄❣
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Awww! Thank you so much. I'm so happy for you, beautiful! ☺️
@vivhiggins5656 Жыл бұрын
I did that whith my son has a baby not knowing it can take stress a way i tell my family i love them and hug them i read year's a go good fore the brain,
@Angrymobs62 Жыл бұрын
I like your energy 😊
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@dominiqueandrews6136 2 жыл бұрын
Wow this make sense I never knew this but my boyfriend be all over me to the point it felt right to touch him the same. I notice when I do touch him he ball up like a baby under me. It’s soo cute but he’s the only guy I ever did this with. ❤️😘🥰😍
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Amazing my dear so so happy for you!
@ritafranklin6392 3 жыл бұрын
My husband and I been married 38 years now the kids are all gone and it’s like we are strangers we don’t even know each other it’s hard
@kathyb7425 Жыл бұрын
Time to get reacquainted
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
@user-gr1gb8mz7d 9 ай бұрын
Please update did you get better???❤❤❤
@Girlru11 3 жыл бұрын
This was very beneficial to help me understand how me react differently and to not take it personal just ask open a line of communication
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I hope it helps, Girlru.❤️
@ladonnagalloway9305 8 ай бұрын
Okay Matt...typical guy my husband was with bipolar one and anger management issues who refused to take medication for it. 30yrs together(died 4yrs ago.)I did what you said and touched him ever so slightly as if my hand was a feather upper body evertwhere front and back to relax him and he loved it and would fall🥱😴asleep. 💤 Thank you for your confirmation because he never knew it before.😌😌😌
@Mat_Shaffer 8 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!:)
@welmadejager9844 Жыл бұрын
You are def in the right thing..Your beautiful positive ,happy nature is so addictive!!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Yes! Thank you!
@kristenmoonrise 3 жыл бұрын
Lol what a funny video, Mat. I really had no idea until recently how many men crave touch, and not in a creepy way. Thanks for the info!!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it
@isolinazampella2097 Жыл бұрын
IT'S about communicating affectionately that's really nicely put
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Correct!
@brianongaga8576 3 жыл бұрын
Wow! I never knew touch is a language, I never knew this😀
@ewm4266 3 жыл бұрын
Sasa umejua leo
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Yes it is!
@donnahine6418 3 жыл бұрын
Excellent. Love this!
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you like it!
@PyrdeKoo Жыл бұрын
It's nice to know that I have automatically done the right things without knowing 🥰
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that my dear
@jessicahopkins7105 2 жыл бұрын
I am loving these videos. Thank you. I am learning so much 🌈🙏
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@crystalthow5533 Жыл бұрын
Awwwwww i must watch this Mat! Where have you been all this time in my life! I wanna spice things up bcox my guy is pretty a shy one,but he will do everything i " ask " for ;) i want to pamper him
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I'm here all the time!
@lizzyloo412 2 жыл бұрын
Cries in long distance 😭
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Don’t give up on love sister!
@hawaiigirl8089 Жыл бұрын
Omg yes 👍🏻 my Ex used to hop into the lazy hot chair like a walrus on his favorite rock! I’m quit small & used to try to climb in the chair to snuggle him but, he would complain
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
haha thats why hes your ex!
@HuongLe-do3dt 3 жыл бұрын
I totally love this video thanks a lot
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
So glad!
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