These are such a accurate words 🙏😭thank you for them 💜

So true. Tysm

I’m also at college and just started to be and feel more like who I really am… But it’s sometimes still a struggle. What is your major?

Love this!!! And yesss for our secret weapons!!

You have such good insight I’m much older in my 30,s and really struggled being”odd” and thinking differently to most others when I was younger. Strange thing was I didn’t actually want to fit in either and preferred to spend a lot of time in my imagination. I often thought other people just thought in a common way logical/ practical that I didn’t get I’m more creative/abstract and I find living in the real world,real life tv boring or just too much emotionally, I can’t watch the news. As I’ve got older I try and see my infp brain as a superpower.Yes I’m crap at spacial awareness and although I’m a very good people reader I don’t have the gift of the gab. I’ve learnt to adapt at work in a boring meeting I can be riding a dragon but at the same time be able to answer questions on health and safety and have trained myself to move my head around and not just stare into space when I’m daydreaming.

I do that but I learned to not to do it loud if there's possibility someone will catch me, but yes I talk with myself.

@@Rossellinique Sometimes I slip and end up doing just that lol

Sounds like it’s time for a less judgemental partner. They shouldn’t be giving shade for you being who you are… as if “normal’ is some sort of goal/ideal. Hopefully, that’s just an anecdote which doesn’t represent how they really regard you.

Normal people are boring anyway.

​@@ruthbennett7563It's probably just a joke... my parents mock me a lot about the fact that I talk to myself, but we all laugh about it. Personally, I'm not normal and I'm proud of it.

I can relate!

I envy that.. I'm almost 50 and I still worry about being understood or how I'm perceived by others, maybe not as much as I once did but still, its there. Even tho I know logically no one ever sees us as we see ourselves, I still get hung up on my imperfections and not being "good enough".

@@dorrianstone7264do you mind if you share life story after school pls, im in that part of life and kinda need guideline on what feeling will comes to me.

I’m well into my 50s and am right there with you. I’d like to not care what others think, although I don’t know how that works.

Me too!!

I'm only 21, but I realized that I cared less when I found someone that did understand me or at least made a seemingly real attempt to. I'm convinced that it literally just takes one to make a difference. I can't say that I could be okay having no one because I'm still human and require some sort of meaningful social interaction, but having a singular person has helped.

"we have to fight against who we are to be seen as professional, competent, confident, assertive etc" - very well said!

The adult responsibility part 😮😮😮 I’m terrible at the mundane adulting.

This is so me😢 i just want to own a bookstore or study languages but i am forced to work in companies i hate, and I genuinely know that I will never be good enough there (nor that i want to be good enough for them)

I feel seen right now knowing that I'm not the only one who feels like this.

you summed it up so well, we really have to wear a whole mask to “fit in” or earn any kind of respect

nope babe yiu are not the only one

Definitely not the only one!

It's okay, crying is a normal thing to do, and emotion are sometimes uncontrollable and that's okay! We're supposed to feel and express that, i cry a lot too crying makes it less heavy and it makes me feel better after.

i would like to cry a bit more tbh. i didnt learn that for myself and instead i suppressing my feelings inside... there is a lot going on in our inner world of feelings and hyper sensitivity makes is even harder, but if you learn to differentiate from other persons a bit, its the most stengthful talent you can imagine.

Probably you are an INFP and HSP , I'm also .....I got stressed and panicked in many challenging situations. When I m the centre of talk either in work or when someone is asking questions which I have to think and answer I get too frustrated and overhelmed and then cry a lot , I cry a lot on stupid things also , I'm so much sensitive also . it's oky to be like this , we are not alone or weird, It's just us ...We are like this....❤️

I cuss myself everyday, thinking why was I born this way..

I feel the same, it's really hard to find my place in the world

@@ashirbad3299 please don't feel that way about yourself, I used to feel that way about myself but now I have grown to accept myself the way I am, because there's a special reason why INFP's are the way they are, every person is in this world or every personality type is important in this world ❤️

@@kagontleserutle5775 I dunno, I'm 27 as well, but it has been very difficult for me throughout my life to create strong bonds and friendships that'd last forever, I see at people and I think to myself why dont I have that quality to sync with people effortlessly, am I holding myself back, would I be able to change if I tried hard enough, life has been a struggle where every time you do something, you're worried about how your actions would affect others rather than how it'd affect yourself..

I am also 26yo m infp and I am going back to college. I am writing down many reasons why I should stick through it. I'm just scared I'll give up and fail again..

too real😭

True😆

Top much freedom is paradoxical, so beware. Look up playground theory and paradox of choice. People think they want freedom but a good amount of troubles come with it.

Money is freedom in this world

Yes, and when I see literally every one around talking about money all the time, I can't bear them sometimes

Exactly, I'm infj,totally agree

I too find myself using my all energy to try to be “extroverted” and fit in. But really it’s only because I don’t want to stand out. 😩 idc about fitting in but I hate being noticed or having any attention on me so I try to blend in

So real. The first thing I do when meeting new people is try to be super friendly, and then eventually I just burn out as a result. Long sigh

So true.. But in the end i was only around wrong people

thats so true, and then they are texting and calling like that dude was so extrovert and nice i wanna meet him again, well that was not me so i wil ignore their text haha@@aiiiia9971

I didn't know all these emotions are felt by my fellow infps too😭 all this time I've felt so alone

Emphasis on the people pleasing thing.

I feel that pleasing people thing so hard. I always helped people with their mental struggles and even relationships yet they never gave anything back when i was in dark places and literally ghosted me... I learned from that and as much as i love helping people it does the opposite for you often times since many people dont value it.

@@ybsheep I understand and feel that.

@@ybsheep Who cares? Don't over think it! Doing good to others is a way of life, we shouldn't be expecting anything in return anyway. It's a nice gesture when it does happen. That's not to say to keep letting the same people take advantage of you repeatedly. But to help those who appreciate it when it counts. As someone once said, "happiness is achieved when we forget ourselves in the service of others, and go to work!"

When you meditate, i've learned, is to become a pushover .... Ne users are pushovers, right?

noo/?@@lunarious87

Hmm I never felt like a pushover, because I know my limits and the point at which I will not conform. If somebody oversteps their welcome I am very quick to withdraw from them and cut them off. Maybe it's just a problem for shy infps? Idk I could never let people walk over me because it just feels inauthentic to me

yeah, feel that too

BrodyHarlan1331- Hang in there! You’ve come this far and that’s a great achievement. I pray you keep increasing your light and shine your gifts on this planet and the world.💫

It's quite painful to read this, I can understand you. I hope you're okay

exactly feel like this for years.. always wondering what’s wrong with me but deep down I know I‘m not crazy I‘m just different.. tried to understand my own mind so much that I always questioned which of my thoughts were ever real … I think INFP live more in their head than in the reality

I'm in a similar boat buddy, hang in there and keep trying. It's harder than anyone knows but you're worth it. Hugs!

Same here , I really have a hard time accomplishing my goals in life and what to do in present and future situations I also thought I was the only one struggling in this world with these problems but after I watched this video I knew that there are ppl out there struggling with the same problem. It’s just a very common thing of our personality .

Agreed it is spot on

Same here

49F, new decent city job, struggling to not quit because it’s “not quite right “. Like, what is going to be “right” at this point Lol 😅

I'm 38F and working for an idiot right now. I'm about to quit my job and live in a van until I figure things out. Good luck everyone

My si has had to develop due to my life and having to deal with things alone, so for me life is a constant battle of what I want to do vs what I should do. It's hell Working in 2 similar jobs one where my values align (in education) and the other where it doesn't exactly go against them but don't align as much (more of a profit focused organisation) so I love and hate working at same time

48F have a pretty cool creative job but I have to constantly work with the public. My work buddy is also extremely fast and creative so I feel like I can’t keep up and I’m exhausted all the time 😩

Same. I'm pushing 50 and it's been a life long struggle. Right now, for first time (1 ½ years), I have a career that pays very well but it is unfulfilling and kinda kills my soul. It has a ton of good things about it. Actually, it only has 2 bad things but 1 of them is massively bad and is probably an INFP'S worst nightmare.

Ux/ui designer!

@@YuukineaI’m literally pursuing that!

Publish it

I think you should publish it. What are you waiting on? As an infp myself, I have been trying to write a book for years, but my indecisiveness has caused me to bounce between so many different projects at once that I never finished a single one. So you have any idea, what a huge accomplishment you have made? FOUR BOOKS! You can't let this opporunity pass you by

Please publish them...I would love to read your work❤

@@aiiiia9971 I would like to publish at least the first novel. I just get so much anxiety and I worry that no one will like it honestly and the best novels I've ever Written.

@@martinam7956 I think a lot of it has to do with anxiety. Then I fear it won't be any good. The book is about 5 characters who struggle in life, then die and return to earth to learn how to face fear. I should probably take a lesson from them because there are several fears they face, and I'm too afraid to publish a book, lol

Keep going, you're on the right path. :) Commit to finding something which you are truly fascinated by. Of course it's easier said than done when you have bills on the way.

@@DjokovicIsOurLordAndSaviourthanks for your support 😊😍

You are not alone, I'm in that struggle too,

@@kagontleserutle5775 For me it's been digital product design. It's a field where you have a high variety of tasks, and endless things to learn and you can genuinely have a positive impact on the people using whatever software. Plus, tech companies generally have great compensation etc. I think that the key is to find something which you could see yourself enjoying for a long period of time. If you have some kind of natural affinity for it too, great. But, I've found that practice and perseverance trump talent nearly all of the time.

same 😊

Powinieneś zostać ux/ui designerem w takim razie :D

Thanks, I really needed to hear that.

@@KeenanMorgan-us1xk You're very welcome. You'll probably end up with one of us at the next party you get dragged along to anyway, as we both look for a port in the storm. 🙂

Thanks but it’s hard to find nice and open minded souls like u :(

@@NatsuDragneel-pi7cs And yet you always find as at the party, when the humans become too overwhelming. We're the dark technical person you follow around. We like you, it's mutual.

I'm in a very similar situation right now. Being a teacher is as an INFP is extremly draining in my case the socializing I must do outside the classroom is what exhaust me the most, dealing with bosses, planing, grades, schedules becomes really overwheling. Teaching is fun sometimes but I just don't feel this is what have the most afinity to. I'm always dreaming for the momento in which I can persue something realated to story telling whether writing, comics or film. But the financial situation is a real obstacle although right now I refuse to lose hope. I think it is possible some way or another. I hope you get to feel the same and find your way into what you really want!

My husband and I (both INFPs) had the exact same experience. We both had a teacher-parent and ended up with a teaching degree. We both stopped teaching as it utterly drained us. Also, we both felt like we could explain things so much better on paper than in words, even when it concerned subjects and matters that we were familiar with...

Yes. Fair means Pale / White in British English. There's a beauty product which is called Fair and Lovely. I think Pornstars are Fair and Lovely. ... *Fast Forward* Everyone should be Slaves or Servants to Allah and/or the higher good. Injustice is called Darkness in Arabic and Qur'an. And Believers are marked by Light (read: Whiteness) emitting from their Face and Hands. However I don't know wheither to Adopt white Masters and Mistresses, or adopt Allah as God and Master. I think genuinely Allah is a better Master than white Supremacy.

In the world of sensors and thinkers the intuitive are like sheep walking among wolves. Why a pack of wolfs would allow a sheep to thrive and prosper? Just to eat it in the end. Our world doesn’t deserve INFPs!

@@constantin1483 I don't see INFP as a sheep. It's more of a force of nature and nature always prevails. Wolfs are just a part of something bigger and I believe that 'idealistic' part is also responsible for seeing the big picture and being the change.

@@chosensomeonelse Okay in other words then; in a world of competitors those who seek cooperation are like…deers among lions…prey among hunters…you name it…what I try to say is that the traits that define them the most like idealistic dreamer, strong moral conduit, highly empathic and altruistic; all of that are pretty much weaknesses in our world ( and yes, I know you don’t agree with me, but it is true, I mean…you know I am right…you just have a different point of view, more optimistic one, which I will gladly crush!!!). A force of nature usually is something with high and wide impact over the world…ehemmm…INFPs hardly care about this world, they are more concerned about their inner worlds. As a contradiction of their entire being, they poses the vision and the ability to observe what is wrong within this world and even envision ways of change in better, but they are motivated enough to do nothing about it. Why to act when you can dream about acting? Nature indeed always prevails but INFPs are more of a freak of nature. Those hardly prevails. Wolfs are…sensors and thinkers…I think…I don’t want to go this way tho…to divide the world in two specific groups…I may end up creating a new form of racism…but for clarification they are the majority in this world while the intuitive feelers are unfortunately a minority ( I hope no one would call me on that, you can check any statistics you like or even simply go outside). And here is the trick, INFPs don’t need wolves above them nor to be a minority to have the ability to perceive the world as ugly as it is, they are doing it naturally, and in their imagination they are making it worse, usually exaggerating the negative parts of it. And…I am not completely sure about this one…even if one of them may end up changing/improving the world, they will still be unsatisfied and dream even of a better one. At the end you are a bit confusing for me but I have to call you on your last words “being the change”?! Well if you manage an INFP to share his idealistic views with someone and then that someone to push them into action, MAYBE, but is a huge maybe!! That “someone” must be a monster! From my point INFPs are not big on change, actually they are quite the opposite. Stubborn in their ways and morals to the point where fallowing them hurts them and they still do. What do you think a sheep’s among wolves would dream about?

@@constantin1483 so what the fuck of mbti you came from... 😏😏

Realizing that religion was just manipulation was possibly the best thing to ever happen to me.

@@StudlyStudmuffin Religion works through manipulation but it's not just about that. Religion can offer hope - that's why it is so irresistible. But it can also be toxic. It makes you ignorant of the reality and can promote a toxic perfectionism that drains you. When I was a Christian I always felt.. immature. Since I left Christianity I no longer feel that way.

I’m an INFP. I’m still a Christian but I have had a lot of Christian people leave me and essentially betray me. I often felt misunderstood in my Christian friend group. I always felt drained when going out with them and was told by the closest one to me that I was too quiet and so much more. I really tried, but I just couldn’t fit in. The thing is, I could be angry at them or at Christianity as a whole and could make the argument that they were hypocrites and that the religion is hypocritical, but you know what? Whatever. I’m not a Christian because of the people. If my walk as a Christian depended on other people and the bad stuff such as manipulation, toxicity, and backstabbing that I’ve seen and personally experienced, I would have left. But you know what? My walk isn’t dependent on any of those things. My walk is depended on my personal relationship with God. And when those people left me? And when I felt so bad about myself and how I am as a person and how I can’t fit in, God personally told me that He would never leave my side and He made me this way for a special purpose. Although they may have thought I was boring, He told me that I am not. Although they misunderstand me, God told me that He understands me. When I felt unseen, He told me that He sees me. Religion is a dead end. A personal relationship with God is the way. You cannot be the best version of yourself without the One who created you. You were created to be close to Him and enjoy His presence while He enjoys yours. Jesus loves you 💖 Religious people put Jesus on the cross. God wants a personal relationship with you.

@@victoriaaj758 Is beautiful to see your religion as a relationship with God. I can empathize with you more than you can imagine. I was there. I wasn't a Christian because of people. I also realized that no matter how hypocrites people are, that doesn't change the truth. I wanted to be genuinely good and loving and.. right. I also enjoyed spending time in prayer and meditation. And I used to think about God and see the world considering him every day and, when I was closer to him, every hour I was awake. But the things we believe as truth can shape our mindset and, considering my background, my mindset eventually made me feel pretty miserable. I had my doubts, my frustrations, my disappointings, my falls, depression, anxiety and misery in the past - but I always covered them up. I wasn't paying enough attention to them. But I arrived at a point when I felt is not worth it - so I left God though it was not an easy choice. Later I learned that some things I thought were true are probably not. I started to see the world in another light and I realized more and more how much I blinded myself. So I became an agnostic. It was the truth I discovered and the choice I made that made me leave Christianity, not the people. What's more - I realized that every time I thought God is supporting and encouraging me, every time I wanted to grow and be good - it was actually me all along. God was a reflection of the mature figure I wanted to have in me. I wanted to have a person - a God, who can offer me love and support and a purpose and who can give suffer a meaning. When I no longer had a God who can offer these things to me, I offered them to myself. I was growing since then and the feeling of immaturity vanished. And I think that's because I become the adult I was seeking in God. I don't want to invalidate your feelings. I could be wrong. Maybe there is a God who has a plan for my life and He saw I had a bad mindset and knew that the best thing He could do for me is letting me down so I can leave the faith and fix my mindset and become a better person. After all, I did pray for maturity and peace.

​@@victoriaaj758 Amen

I’m sorry to hear That must be so tough But so are you Even if you don’t feel it Deep down Your heart Soul Special ting there Anyway Patience and prayer

AYOOWW!! You are so MEEE with that 1 year unemployment and customer support as previous job

I do the same, I rather expect failure and then be nicely surprised instead of being dissapointed.

Being a realist should be seen as the "right" option - why see things the way they are not?

You are not alone. Best of luck friend

Dawn this hits home all the way.I feel pretty much the same way too.the constant feeling bad, the j constant i wishes.damn you are like a soul friend or smth Pls know that you are not alone! Would definitely love to connect and know more about you!

Same, I wait for people to come to me and see if they adopt into their group. 😅

I was just thinking of that - specially the indecisiveness and not knowing which path to pursue

I’m back and I got layed off from my job I disliked- I am now trying to become an actor, I passed the first round of auditions. I hope this will open up some more doors for me in the arts. It’s funny I was feeling so down the nigh before crying bcs I felt lost and then I basically got fired so If this isn’t the universe telling me something I don’t know what is

Keep going!

Don’t let go of the things you are interested in. take advice from people, I’m sure they mean well, but don’t let their words keep taking you back to square one. Do your best to protect your dreams and be grateful for what you already have. You make the library. You can make it happen. ( 😊 I’m telling myself the same things, and I know it’s hard. Before this I was watching productivity videos and asking myself what went wrong in life)

Anyone who says libraries are a dying industry has probably not stepped foot in a library in over 2 decades, if at all. Libraries will always be relevant and they’re constantly evolving into the current climate. It’s not all just about books. Also remember that there are more than just public libraries that exist like in universities, hospitals, government offices, prisons, museums. So yeah don’t listen to anyone who says not to become a librarian because they clearly know nothing about libraries

Same boat here!

same 😅

Thank you for sharing your insight as a former graphic designer and as an infp 🙇🏻‍♀️ I used to like the idea of being a graphic designer, but given the lack of attractiveness and/or harmony in my graphic designing attempts, and the fact that the industry often expects graphic designers to churn out their ideas like a factory, I simply gave up Best wishes for your future endeavours! ✨️

Me roo

Yes me too😅