Whether you're facing challenges in love, wanting to re-connect with your partner, or curious about the nuances of human connection, this conversation offers invaluable tools to better your connections and understanding. Thank you Esther for this incredible conversation 💛 Can I ask you all a favour? If you enjoy this episode, could you please hit the like button 👍🏾 it helps us massively. Appreciate you all! 🙏🏽

"It's not as much you want to leave the person you are with as much as you want to leave the person that you have yourself become. It's not as much you want to meet another person as much as you want to meet other parts of yourself that have disappeared in your life." oh my days this hit me sooooo hard.

"The death of a relationship is when people start taking each other for granted"! Wow, I couldn't have said that better.

“You go for people who express the part of you you don’t want to deal with.” Bam! Esther Perel is a phenomenal gift to couples and relationships! 🙌

You just gave away a free 2 hr therapy session with one of the most brilliant minds. Thank you.

One of the best conversations on this channel. A concern: Porn was mentioned about just once or twice in this 2 hour conversation and somehow found its way to the title of it. I know it’s to drive views but I think it’s inappropriate. Views shouldn’t be all that matters. It’s not even the main focus of this conversation. On one flip side, consider the problem this can even impact on driving views: some partners may want to share with the other partner but may reason they might think they’re watching porn and will not share it just to avoid certain negative confrontations. Well, it’s their own relationship issue but porn wasn’t the focus of this insightful discussion. Something to think about. Take care! Edit: Title has been changed to an appropriate one that fits the discussion. Thanks for listening.

37 minutes in and I stopped what I was doing (shamelessly consuming copious amounts of satsumas) and wrote my partner a message of gratitude and my understanding of how I love her. I'm pretty good with self practises but this was a great and necessary emotional nudge. Thankyou.

"If you want to change the other, change yourself" gold

“Relationship issues are not problems that you solve but paradoxes that you manage”🤯🤯 I had to literally pause to process this. Thank you.

I squealed with JOY when I saw that Esther is the guest! ❤ Thank you Steve, you’re changing peoples lives !

Esther: “She’s absolutely right” Steven: *whispers* “Fuck” 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 34:20

"Esther why are you shouting at me?"😂😂 This is just precious. I love this. Thank you for this podcast. Very eye opening.

What I see Esther saying is that we don’t simply connect and stay connected indefinitely. We have to keep reconnecting. Each partner acknowledging the other is a reconnection point. Of course there must be balance, grace, and considerations but it’s simple to see that the more you lean into the small connections, the better the chance of the relationship enduring. People always say ‘it’s the little things’ and then turn away from the little things that reinforce true connection with their partners.🙃

Esther is the quintessential cutting edge relationship miracle worker that our generation is gifted with. She is to "my relationship with others" as Gabor is to "my relationship with myself". Both of these humans are angelic in my opinion, and are helping us all get thru this insanely chaotic time, sanely.

This episode has made me appreciate my partner so much more. He is my biggest supporter and someone I can always reliably depend on. Everytime I come home from work he's there to greet me with a big warm hug and a triplet of kisses. He pays attention to me when we speak, we have fiery debates but he's somehow always on my side. I have to remember not to take him for granted, as I have a self saboteur hidden in me that presents itself at the happiest times in my life. Thanks for this one

The diary of a CEO is the best podcast out there. I have seen at least 20 episodes and they are all 🔥. Each time I think that its my favorite one too. The quality of guests are unmatched. I love how it's intellectually based and not argumentative. If you want to get your knowledge up and get empowered to understand yourself and the world better, make sure you tune in often.

This is terrific advice for reasonably healthy minded people with high emotional intelligence who simply need educating. Many people however, lack the EQ and empathy to recall and apply these strategies regularly. Bottom line- choose your mate wisely.

I’m 59 next week. Have followed this woman for the last 4 years. Fabulous knowledge gained

I truly appreciate Steven's openness to discuss his own challenges. We all have them and it's helpful to hear Steven be open about them. The benefit from these videos is immense.

Thank God I woke up to taking a great partner for granted and began to thank and put time into the connection he was constantly offering. Putting us first has upgraded everything in my life for the better!

My partner and I plan to watch this episode together. For 40 years, I have been so naïve about the level of work required in a relationship. My partner has taught me this in several ways including encouragement to look at certain situations in a different way. I love her so much for opening my eyes and showing me how to be a better person.

Esther Perel has changed my life simply by me watching her videos and reading her writings. What a brilliant mind that is a gift to our world! Can’t wait to listen to this entire episode!

She was an obvious guest to this podcast. I knew it was just a matter of time. She really is magic. She observes and sees details in things with such ease and incredible clarity. As a psychiatrist, I'm amazed by her therapy skills. I know she studied, worked hard but it always seems to me like she was just born this way, with knowledge and experience. I haven't watched this episode but I'm certain I'll love it. And that my comment won't change.

A simple testimony to the impact of connection: My husband and I have been married for 23 years. 3 kids. Started a small business. Death of my adored father who had Alzheimer's and I helped with his care, his beloved grandma died, my beloved grandma died. Our oldest son was diagnosed with autism and ultimately died in his sleep at 19. Money struggles. Friendship ups and downs. He has had a health struggle culminating in needing a pacemaker. So. Much. Struggle. So much pain and heartbreak but also so much joy. We adore each other totally and passionately. How did all of the problems not tear us apart? We turn to each other. We talk. Multiple times a day we simply say we love each other or we kiss or we check in or we call or we send a text and EVERY NIGHT we cuddle and talk about what is on our heart, what happened that day, whatever and usually end up having sex or at least making out. Physically connected and emotionally connected. Our connection has kept us alive and okay. How else do we survive losing our son? Our family? The challenges of autism? If you love you talk and you touch throughout every day. It's basic.

34:21 I love this part. You can subtly hear Steven’s realisation of something needing to change in his own life. After listening to a lot of these I think this is one of the best, because what Esther is saying is being applied to a real world scenario with real world introspection. Love it.

Esther is so good....she asks the right questions and breaks it all down in several minutes and you feel like damn.... That makes total sense how you explained it.

I love hearing him under his breath swear, "F***". Because its the moment when you realize you've accepted accountability and how you have created that issue.

Hands down the best guest on this show to date this lady KNOWS what she’s talking about

I feel like I've watched a semi-psychotherapy session and semi-interview. Thank you Steven for being so frank about your own relationship. ❤️🙏🏽. I learnt so much about myself in this hybrid format.

Here is a summary of the episode from Snipcast! *About the Episode 🎙️* Esther Perel, a renowned love and sex expert, discusses the complexities of modern relationships, the impact of societal changes on intimacy, and the reasons why men may prefer pornography over their partners. The video delves into the dynamics of desire, communication, and the effort required to maintain a fulfilling relationship. *Key Takeaways 💡* - Love requires continuous effort and is not a constant state of enthusiasm; it involves actions like giving, receiving, sharing, and exploring. - Childhood experiences influence adult relationships, but individuals can rewrite their stories and change their impact. - Patterns in relationships are co-created by both partners, often forming a figure eight loop of triggering each other's survival strategies. - Acknowledging and appreciating each other's efforts can strengthen the connection between partners. - Divorce laws have shifted the focus to the health and happiness of the couple for maintaining the family unit. - Conflict in relationships is essential for equity and justice, but it requires productive management. - Society's expectations for one relationship to fulfill all needs is unrealistic; relationships are paradoxes to be managed. - Men do have emotional depth and can express feelings when given the opportunity and support. - Both men and women have similar needs for connection and intimacy, despite societal socialization suggesting otherwise. - Fear of rejection is a common vulnerability for men, and pornography provides a sense of security by eliminating rejection. - Sexlessness in relationships should be defined by the quality of sexual experiences and connection, not just frequency. - Open and honest communication about sexual desires, fantasies, and boundaries is crucial for a fulfilling sexual relationship. - Cheating in relationships can be a way to feel alive and reconnect with lost parts of oneself, not just about sex. - Novelty and seeing one's partner through the eyes of others can enhance attraction and desire within a relationship. - Sexual privacy and creating an erotic space are important for maintaining a passionate relationship. - Understanding and accepting each other's individual erotic desires is key to a satisfying sexual relationship. - Active engagement and vulnerability in relationships are necessary for growth and avoiding complacency. - Valuing and cherishing the relationship involves actively seeking novelty and maintaining effort.

I love Esther, she help me to survive a betrayal on my than 17 years marriage. The relationship didn’t survive, but her wisdom will never leave me, thank you!!!!!

She shares so many gold nuggets that are not often not shared in conventional relationship advice. 🔥

It took me all morning to listen to this 2 hour conversation bc I kept pausing to process so many points being made. My Saturday morning was this podcast & coffee. This type of quality conversation is necessary in a world of empty clamoring & ego.

I did't want this episode this end. She is phenomenal. Everytime I listen to her I learn sth. Thanks for this one A LOT

cannot believe how profound this woman's words are. insanely wise and insightful. lightbulbs going on with practically every sentence she speaks. thanks esther 👊🏽

00:28 🌟 Love & Sex: Women's lack of desire for sex might not be a lack of desire overall but specifically for the type of sex they're having. 00:40 🔄 Relationship Dynamics: Laziness and complacency in relationships can create a loop of disconnection, leading to emotional testing and degradation. 01:22 💡 Quality of Life: The quality of life is intertwined with the quality of relationships; neglecting relationships can have profound effects. 03:29 🌍 Mission on Relationships: Esther Perel's mission is to guide people through understanding and navigating the complexities of modern relationships in a changing world. 06:55 🔍 Childhood Impact: Childhood experiences influence but don't strictly determine adult behaviors and resources; there's a dynamic dialogue with one's past. 10:10 🔄 Relationship Patterns: Couples often form loops where one's behavior triggers the other's response, creating a cycle of vulnerabilities and survival strategies. 11:20 🔄 Identifying Loops: Understanding the loop in a relationship is crucial, focusing on the loop's form rather than specific topics discussed. 14:08 🔄 Relationship Dynamics: Each partner's actions contribute to creating the other's behavior in a perpetual figure-eight pattern. 18:40 🧩 Relationship Balance: Couples often seek in each other what they struggle to reconcile within themselves, seeking balance and fulfillment in the dynamic. 20:56 🤔 Acknowledgment and Gratitude: Expressing gratitude and acknowledgment for the role each partner plays in balancing the relationship fosters connection and significance. 23:06 🙌 Significance in Relationships: Acknowledging dependence and interdependence rather than solely focusing on independence builds stronger connections. 24:21 🤝 Relationships thrive on acknowledgment and interdependence. Recognizing and thanking a partner for their efforts fosters a strong connection, emphasizing the importance of creative attention in relationships. 25:30 📵 Being constantly busy and neglecting effort in a relationship leads to its degradation. Lack of attention gradually leads to a sense of loneliness, emphasizing the significance of being present and attentive. 28:09 📱 Continuous distraction by phones creates "ambiguous loss," akin to emotional absence. Being physically present but mentally detached mirrors the feeling of loneliness, highlighting the need for genuine connection and presence. 30:20 👣 Small, creative interventions like taking a walk can dynamically change a relationship. Side-by-side activities encourage conversations and shared experiences, fostering connection and change in relationship dynamics. 34:45 💔 Over time, relationships suffer when acknowledgment and appreciation diminish. The death of a relationship often stems from taking each other for granted, emphasizing the need for ongoing acts of love and appreciation. 36:06 💑 The survival of a family hinges on the happiness and quality of the couple's relationship. Economic independence and societal pressure no longer bind couples, making relationship quality the linchpin of family stability. 40:37 🤝 Conflict arises due to a rupture in connection. Understanding the motivations behind conflicts (trust, recognition, control) and addressing these core needs rather than surface issues helps in productive conflict resolution. 46:40 🌐 Lack of unstructured play affects social skills development. Freely interacting with others on the street facilitated learning social skills like handling friction, disagreement, and collaboration, impacting conflict resolution abilities. 50:11 🔄 Uncertainty fuels innovation, pushing us to take risks and chances, fostering growth. 51:05 🎭 Romantic love promises to fulfill security and freedom in one relationship, an unprecedented shift. 52:57 🔄 Sexuality transformed from duty to desire; its meaning and depth are often overlooked in discussions. 54:43 💬 Relationship issues are paradoxes to manage, not problems with fixed solutions. 55:57 🛠 Balancing passions and relationships requires resource distribution, not just equilibrium. 57:20 🤹‍♂ Relationships need a blend of stability and change, mirroring the balance found in any system. 59:19 💬 Realists and romantics in relationships see things from different perspectives, engaging with imagination and practicality. 01:03:48 🎭 Gender roles impact how desires are expressed; each gender's vocabulary for needs differs. 01:06:17 💏 Feminism and gender equality reshaped views on sex, separating it from traditional roles and broadening its scope. 01:09:19 🧠 Science biasedly studies women's desire issues, assuming men have no challenges in this area. 01:11:45 🚫 'Sexlessness' in relationships isn't merely a lack of sex; it can often mean unfulfilling, dissatisfactory encounters. 01:14:05 🔄 Understanding different 'languages' of sex and exploring new approaches can transform struggling relationships. 01:16:24 🛌 Porn addresses three major emotional vulnerabilities for many men: fear of rejection, performance anxiety, and doubt about partner's enjoyment. 01:17:31 🤖 Porn doesn't just fulfill sexual desires; it tackles emotional vulnerabilities around sex, which could pose challenges with artificial intelligence and virtual reality advancements. 01:19:22 🛏 Sexlessness isn't just about frequency; it encompasses a lack of physical affection, connection, and intimacy. 01:20:43 🧠 Conversations around sex should focus on quality, connection, touch, imagination, and communication rather than performance and frequency. 01:23:21 🗣 Many people haven't had conversations about sexual desires, fantasies, or preferences, which can hinder sexual connection in relationships. 01:26:14 🃏 Using playful methods like card games opens avenues for discussing sexual fantasies and desires without confrontations or discomfort. 01:31:47 😔 Shame and anxiety around sex are prevalent due to traumatic experiences or societal silence, hindering healthy communication about sexual desires and needs. 01:37:31 🌟 Reasons for infidelity are complex: loneliness, sexual frustration, resentment, need for affirmation, and seeking other parts of oneself. 01:38:41 🤝 Affairs aren't always about leaving a partner but about finding lost parts of oneself or escaping the person one has become. 01:38:53 🌟 Affairs often signify a desire to feel alive and reconnect with an essence, not just about sex but about feeling alive and connected. 01:39:50 ♂ History has offered justifications for men's infidelity, citing nomadic tendencies, boredom, and a need for novelty, while attributing women's cheating to loneliness and intimacy needs, shaped by dire historical consequences. 01:41:27 💡 Infusing creative imagination into relationships akin to how people engage in affairs could dramatically enhance primary relationships, emphasizing attention, planning, and emotional investment. 01:42:50 🌅 Couples must actively seek novelty to sustain desire in long-termrelationships, engaging in new experiences together to regenerate aliveness and unpredictability. 01:45:52 👁 Partners find each other most drawn when seeing their significant other in their element, passionate, competent, and separate from their usual role. 01:52:29 🔄 Relationships require active engagement, vulnerability, and accountability, shifting focus from changing the partner to changing oneself for the relationship's sake. 01:53:39 🎨 Relationships should be approached with an artistic, imaginative mindset, actively seeking novelty and creativity within the partnership. 01:56:38 🔧 Conflict into Connection online course aims to help couples navigate arguments, understand unmet needs, and rediscover fondness within the relationship, promoting dialogue and avoiding avoidance in conflict. 02:00:14 👀 Focus ondecency in individuals over money, fame, or education, emphasizing the importance of kindness and caring human interactions in shaping perspectives.

Man, this conversation was pure gold, and so unspeakably sad to me. She's described my first marriage that shouldn't have ended, but it did. I wish this information would be included in every high school curriculum. We are all so unaware of how impactful our childhoods are to what we bring into our early love relationships. If we knew better, many of us would do better.

No one is like Ester! She is so unique and knows so much about dynamics in relationships. Love her.

Esther Perel is simply the G.O.AT. Of the evolution of healthy relationships and human sexuality!! Great job being vulnerable and willing to learn another perspective, with the intention of applying the learnings. The segment on connecting was spot on! Cheers 🥂 to seeing an increase in healthy people having healthy relationships! Love is after all a choice we make despite how we’re feeling. ✨✅ Put your tech down and get outside! 😅

This lady is something else!!! Wow!!! She’s a philosopher - a great thinker, she is. First time drinking from her well. This is great… no gimmicks 🎉

I'm curious of what question Esther left for the next guest. What a gifted human being she is. So much wisdom, kindness and comfort has she offered. I listen and re-listen to her interviews at least once a month, and every time I learned new things about relationships or about me. I'm just so grateful for her

What a brilliant woman! I love the way she breaks things down and explains relationship problems. The hard part is executing the solution. People are lazy and often would rather quit and try again later with someone else.

whoever edits the openings for your videos does a great job - they get me every time!

Your Playlist organization is seriously light-years above the rest SO APPRECIATED

This will be the converstion I will be back to every so often to help align my perception of my relashionships. This was therapy. It spoke to me from begining to end. Fantastic work for both 🙏🏻

Absolutely brilliant conversation! I feel so enriched to have listened to this. Thank you Steve and Esther 🙏🏾

Before this episode, I knew nothing of Esther Perel but now I love her and will be reading her book. I’ve learned so much within these 2 hours !! ❤

"I've been waiting for Esther to speak on this topic." Heartfelt. Steve, you are changing lives one person at a time.

Wow! This was my favorite conversation so far! Esther has sooo much to share. What a beautiful and generous soul ❤

This interview is absolutely enlightening, I will have to rewatch it several times to soak it all up as there is so much here - Thank you!

Esther perel is a such a source of expertise, wisdom and experience when it comes to relationships. Thankyou for having her a guest🥰

I’m so happy you finally interviewed her! I’ve been waiting for this!

What I like the most about this podcast, beside these quality guests and the information they share, is the lack of interruption from Steven's part, the fact that he is truly hearing and listening to them, along with his openness by bringing personal examples too, rare qualities nowadays.

I’m just at the part about interdependence. “They (partner) have a presence and a meaning to your life. That’s the secret to a connection I couldn’t do it without you. I couldn’t do this if you didn’t do that. That’s the interdependence” What a marvellous conversation between two brilliant human beings. I look forward to telling my partner how much they mean to me and balance my life ❤

This individual is remarkably astute! I've unravelled his approach: he invites a guest and scrutinises their content for spikes, identifying the topics that generate significant engagement. Then, he cleverly tailors the conversation to focus exclusively on these high-impact topics. For example, a guest might experience a spike in viewer interest when discussing certain subjects in their videos. He compiles these spikes from numerous videos, shaping his questions and discussion topics around them when interacting with the guest. This method ensures the conversation is always centred on the most resonant and engaging subjects. Genius!!

This channel is SIMPLY THE BEST! Since I saw the first episode, I’m literally hooked on it. From each and every interview I learn so much and especially this one - just after listening first 35 minutes, I got a courage and spoke up with my partner about a topic that was bothering me for a year already. We didn’t fight, we didn’t raise voices, we just explained the points of view of each one. It was a great constructive dialogue after which both of us got to the middle point. Both happy. And all that thanks to this podcast that reached the deepest corners of myself. I told to my partner “being in a relationship makes you discover the things about yourself which otherwise you’d never face.” He couldn’t agree more. Thanks Steven and Esther 🙏 ❤

This was one of the best personal accountability relationship focused podcasts I have seen a long time. Extremely simplistic but difficult for many people to absorb.

Utterly Phenomenal Guest! She’s probably the most impactful speaker I’ve found online till date. Thanks for getting her on to share the much-needed message. Keep up the Great Work.

So excited to see two of my favorites talk! In such admiration of these two. Thank you so much for doing this!!!

25 mins in and I'm already in tears. Esther has hit the nail on the head. ❤

I was so pleased to see Esther as a guest I have been wishing and hoping that Steven will invite her. I love love her I have followed her for years and I must she is a witch as Steven says she is so good and warm. She changed my life. Thank you for bringing Esther

This is one of my favourite interviews I've watched. Esther Perel is a wonderful & very intelligent soul. Everything here is a gift to life of anyone that is serious about the true depths of love. Not just in a relationship, but in all forms of being. It was very clear how Steve wasn't able to accept certain elements and how much he prioritises his own needs without being present or able to acknowledge the answers to the questions he presented to her. I hope that he will be able to in his life, especially with his partner who clearly see's his greatness. I also didn't feel that Esther was shouting at him, but easy to see how he interprets it when the truth is being answered passionately. I imagine his partner will be very relieved to see this interview. I pray that this interview gets millions of hit world wide as it's what the world needs because it is full of truly nutritious information for our heart, mind and souls. Thank you to those who made this happen and huge thanks to Esther for everything that she has given to so many for so many decades. We need more people like her in the position of teaching, learning and protecting our lives.

I've listened to a lot of interviews with Esther, and this is by far the best. Brilliant work, I learned so much thank you!

Steven, an archetypal avoidant in relationships, believes his worth stems from the businesses he operates. His preoccupation with being "busy," a guise for feeling important, keeps him from giving attention and love. He links his value directly to his business success, leading him to feel deep down that he's inherently "worthless." This belief also hinders his ability to value his partner, who sees worth in him. Subconsciously, he thinks, "If this person values me, whom I deem worthless, then she must be worthless too." Unfortunately, no expert advice can help him overcome this mindset, only a significant loss, like the end of a relationship or business, can. Stripped of these elements and forced to confront himself, he will initially develop an anxious attachment style, overcompensating for past neglect. However, when this approach becomes too painful, he will eventually come to recognize his inherent value as a human being, learning to love himself despite his flaws, failures, and insecurities. This self-acceptance will lead him to become his true self, adopting a secure attachment style. (Mark these words by an ex avoidant founder/ceo)

She is amazing! I am humbled by how grounded she is. Thank you for this episode,you were both brilliant!

This podcast is life changing and so needed in our modern world. Thank you Steven for your dedication 🙏

I am actually slightly proud that a large part of this I figured out on my own:). In my relationship, I stopped looking at her being EVERYTHING. I just looked at how much she gave/gives me, and that that was a LOT. I realized that some things in my life I would not be able to have with her (some hobbies and interests), but that I could still do those things on my own or with other friends. And once I realized that, I became extremely happy and am in a very happy relationship:).

This was by far the best episode I have watched. Extremely profound. I need to rewatch to internalize these gems of perspective.

I literally teared up when I saw an episode with Esther Perel, especially with you as a host! Thank you for the amazing work, knowledge, food for thought and effort, Steven and team! ❤

So glad you’ve interviewed her. I’m a “fan” of hers for over 10 years now. There’s always something new to take away from her interviews.

What an amazing, smart, intelligent , articulate lady. How much knowledge she has! I am 62, and I found myself agreed with every word she said. I am sooo happy I found your podcast Steven. Your interviews are the most interesting I have ever seen. Thank you ❤

I have been watching Esther Perel for years and I never tire of her wisdom. Everytime I see her / listen to her speak, I feel like I’m learning something new. She never seizes to amaze me.

I love Esther !!! Was so happy when I saw her as your guest. She is a real treasure ❤

Esther probably saved my life six years ago. Delighted to have the opportunity to listen to her wisdom here.

Oh my god, what an episode, so captivating and so relatable, I havent heard a so compelling podcast in long long time. You have a feeling that she understands you and is just saying all the right things. I havent finished the episode and I already want to listen to it again, I'm sure I missed some valuable information

I’ve only watched some of this so far but what a brilliant episode. 👍🏻 keep up the great work. Fantastic guest and amazing answers and questions and just conversation in general.

Wow, I wasn't going to watch this but figured why not I have a little extra time to actually watch it. And boy, am I glad I did. This woman is very well spoken and knows how to express the things that plenty of people want to but don't know how. (Esther, I am thankful to you for sharing your hard work and information) THANK YOU!!!! HAVE A GREAT DAY

My favourite relationship specialist and my favourite podcaster. Thx Steven! You are fulfilling your promise… making the show better and better and better… kudos.

Such an amazing episode! I wanted to never end. Great job! Please bring her back again on the show!

Such a great episode! Love Esther, her videos have saved me in the past when I struggled with a huge breakup... everything she talks about makes sense

She really knows her stuff. Excellent explanation on the dynamics of a relationship.

I wish I could subscribe over and over agian to this podcast, everytime I watch the new episode. It's the only podcast I watch/listen to and it has all I need in all my life aspects. Thank you!

Esther is truly a master of human dynamics - beautifully playful and deep concepts never better said - thank you for explaining and thank you to DOAC for making this accessible

The more... the More!! This is me. Right this moment. The more Gold that pours out of her mouth, the More clips of this video I make! Seriously!! I truly feel BLESSED to have heard of Esther. And at the same time I'm listen, I find she's coming to MY area in a short time! WOOT! ❤

I have been waiting for this conversation with the brilliant Esther and WOW it didn’t disappoint! Steven you did an incredible job at facilitating such a rich conversation with asking intelligent & diverse questions, sharing your own insights and as always, bringing yourself & your experiences to the table about sex & relationships. I will definitely be sharing & recommending this conversation to those I hold dear in my circle. My only negative feedback is the title of this podcast which only touches on the subject of porn and which I don’t think is reflective of this conversation as a whole.

I am watching this a second time. Second time, taking notes. Been following her a while and read her books. The conversation between you two is so relevant and refreshing. Sorry to say but you really got yelled at, Steven 😂 love this playful takedown. At the same time it’s very serious for anyone who wants to make their relationships better. No trendy quick tips here, but thoughtful reflections and insights that will stay with me. Thanks all for making this conversation happen!

Wow... this podcast is probably one of your best ones, hands down! Esther is a poet. My partner and i watched it together and stopped several times to hug one another and say how much we appreciate each other. Thank you for this ❤

Ester Perel is masterful at discussing relationships and Steven Bartlett is equally masterful at interviewing - what a great show, thank you!

You have gone up a notch with your guests. I stumbled on her podcasts - where do I begin and I have been a convert of her work ever since. No disrespect to your other guests but Esther is a legend in the field of understanding human relationships . ❤

😅 you seemed super tense during this interview. Really snapped a few times. Never got this vibe from you before. Apart from that, great stuff! And i will subscribe now that i finished watching pretty much every episode. Love!

Your podcast has quickly become my #1. Congrats for all the amazing work 😊

Esther is absolutely phenomenal! Pure preciousness! I am out of words to describe how much I appreciate her and her work. Thank you, Steven, for doing an amazing work with this podcast and your guest selection. I always enjoy the episodes so very much.

This has been the most thought-provoking conversation I have had. learnt so much. As a side note, when she speaks about cheating, I often wonder how people who are subject matter experts on such issues react when it happens to them.

Steven!!!!! You did it again!!! Thank you ❣ Esther, you are medicine and need to be broadcast on every loud speaker available, and during every date night ❣❣❣

There really is something special about Esther. Thank you for having her! Great interview and great questions as usual!!

Esther is AMAZING!!! I have been listening to her talks and podcasts for years. Great choice bringing her in your podcast, Steven.

I love how Esther keeps calling Steven out just out of pure therapeutic talk 😅. I hope he takes her advice. He'll be better off. ❤

This brilliant woman is the number one person on earth that I admire. Hers brilliance often gives me goosebumps. The truth is just palpable.

Fastest click I've ever done! Esther is ELITE at what she does (different league) Thank You!!!

I didn’t realize but this podcast was everything i needed to hear. I felt like she was talking to me and I needed this so much! Thank you!