MBTI: how to care for INFJs

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How to relate to INFJs to healthily strengthen your bond with them, and help their growth and yours.
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@derrencewashington2668 3 жыл бұрын

5 years later and this is not only the cutest INFJ video EVER, but one of the most complete and insightful videos on the matter.

@SheFallsUpStairs 9 жыл бұрын

As an INFJ, this is pretty accurate! I like your cute drawings.

@celestiaplatinum3599 5 жыл бұрын

Me too. I loved it.

@c.s.70 3 жыл бұрын

As an INFJ, I found this too adorably cute and funny X'D. INFPs like yourself are just the cutest haha. This is so endearing and lovably quirky, and adorably presented (cuteness overload XD).

@infjcupcake 9 жыл бұрын

I love this! ?? you made me smile and seriously what INFJ doesn't love pictures and grafts ??

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

INFJcupcake Awesome! Now I know how to appeal to INFJs!

@Qtchicky12345678 8 жыл бұрын

+Type Tips INFJ here. Yes! :) I loved all of the pictures! Not only did they make it easier to understand what you were explaining but it made it fun and engaging. I wish more people did this because I want to hear their ideas in videos but most of the time just sitting and watching a person talk about stuff is pretty boring even if their ideas are fascinating. I cannot engage with them through the video and I find it boring. But I really like all of your videos :) especially this one! The first 10 seconds alone were magical! Amazing sound effects ;) But seriously :) I got sucked in literally within the first 10 seconds cause I could tell you really cared about the subject and had put a lot of time and effort into it. Thank you, this was wonderful on so many levels :)

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 8 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the hearty and reflective compliment! I haven't received a compliment quite like yours before. Made my day!

@tbagwellpianist 9 жыл бұрын

You are exactly right. If I had somebody doing all these things to me, I would be purring like a cat every day. And I'd get more done. Thank you!

@urbanrat84 7 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly, lol

@victoriousjoy9338 5 жыл бұрын

Wow! Thanks for saying this! Profound!!

@zain4019 4 жыл бұрын

The Viking Speaks Aw:)

@user-fg6kl3qe6u 9 жыл бұрын

i am INFJ, thanks for your efforts. but, i really don't think people should prepare them selves too much before dealing with us. relax!! just be authentic, & be who you are. if you really care for us & love us we will know. once you start talking we know what your concerned about. we really love authentic people. peace all

@RosesOfSaturn 8 жыл бұрын

As an INFJ this video only nicks the surface of how we tick..This is like the tutorial to a much bigger game..It just gives you an idea of how to proceed..It doesn't tell all of what to expect.

@haleykendall8124 8 жыл бұрын

To be fair, if he'd gone over everything to expect, the video would have never ended. I thought this was a very good and accurate overview.

@urbanrat84 7 жыл бұрын

I agree @BUGHAITH A. that is the simplest way to deal with us, and let the chips fall where they may. However if someone made the effort to do all these things for me it would be amazing. I can go a very long way on the smallest amount of encouragement. People tend to look at me and think I have it together, when I really don't. They think I'm calm, when inside my head I'm constantly coaching myself through anxiety. So I'm fairly starved for the right kind of attention.

@jiwonkim5315 6 жыл бұрын

BUGHAITH A. This is true haha. Just be honest and open minded.

@maria12501 6 жыл бұрын

I'm an INFP and my boyfriend an INFJ, I find him fascinating at how his mind works and develops concepts, he's wonderful and very creative.

@seanprater1795 6 жыл бұрын

wow.... you hit the nail on the head with how we are portrayed as counselors - that's exactly what I have Been called , numerous times over my earthly existence and even now, I have a " friend" who refers to me exactly the way you describe us infjs - he calls me his counselor- which I feel honored to be called ( I still have an ego 😁 ) but I degress.... Where have you been ? I've noticed that you haven't been making videos, recently. Where are you...... ?

@winandcallebaut4541 8 жыл бұрын

VERY true !! all of this - I like you creative ways of presenting, the funny drawings :)

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 8 жыл бұрын

+Winand Callebaut thanks!

@NatureChannel11366 5 жыл бұрын

Just be genuine with me. I hear hidden agendas and what’s unspoken. Also words don’t matter that much until they become an action ❤️

@infjwitness 7 жыл бұрын

I LOVED this. It seemed spot on to me. I wish everyone would relate to us in that way!! Thank you for taking all this time to figure us out and make this video. I will definitely show it to my infp husband...

@ashleydwille 5 жыл бұрын

Adorable, accurate and authentic presentation! Thank you!

@janesilver2746 4 жыл бұрын

I love this so so much. Thank you Leon for getting us 😊😊😊😊

@craigabraham6786 8 жыл бұрын

Interestingly, in my experience as an INFJ, the point about a certificate or a degree meaning nothing to an INFJ is absolutely true - when the certificate or degree is held by someone else. For myself, however, I've always struggled with issues of being misunderstood. Or, at least, having undeserving (Incompetent or unfitting in reality, despite that they may be certified somehow) authority figures invalidate my input in the eyes of others when I actually DO know what I'm talking about, and I DO know what I'm talking about when it comes to most things and even make it clear when I don't know enough about something to offer anything meaningful. I'm a jazz musician, and I'm working toward a master's degree in jazz performance, because I want to destroy the issue completely. I'm not trying to be manipulative, but I'm willing to use "superficial" means to make sure the truth is known.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 8 жыл бұрын

+Craig Abraham that's understandable. I seen true talents and bad talents carrying a sheet of paper that said they completed something.

@klausb.7505 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for that Video! I resonate with this!, and somehow I had to pause it a couple of times, to transform this good feeling into my heart! I am astonished how information can be made sooo beautifully simple! No struggles with tech 👏! Well Done !!!

@Zero-qm4tb 4 жыл бұрын

As an INFJ I find it funny how you say about the vision changing the world. Not the world but society. I'm one with knowing the actual problems and how to fix them. In order to change society and make it better and improve everybody's lives, 2 things have to happen. The first is getting rid of the manipulators, their system, and the enabling going on there. The second is to remove gold, or what people call currency or money. I'm not going to go into any further with the public just yet. However, if you think on it, and apply cause and effect, positive and negative, with the understanding of manipulators, you'll eventually arive at the solution.

@geoc5251 5 жыл бұрын

I have been trying to get back on good terms with my INFJ (not sure what is going on) but damn. This video helps. I am an INFP and it’s so hard for me to not try to “fix” things. She’s the best thing that’s happened to me. And I really don’t want to lose her.

@KevinRichardson444 Жыл бұрын

Exact same ⛵.. good luck 🤞🏼

@calmingbabysleep1256 2 жыл бұрын

Your knowledge and energy are both sooo brilliant!- infj Thank you

@JavaPengu 9 жыл бұрын

Nice explenations. This is what I also think about INFJs. Is native for me as an ENTP to be abolutly absorbed by thier personality.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Here are NTP and and NFJ interaction videos: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gt-kd8ac1MycpmQ.html and kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fLieg8ymqcuqlZ8.html

@YesEthan 6 жыл бұрын

This is me. You're very perceptive.

@Komatik_ 9 жыл бұрын

>Be authentic >Don't be critical Instructions contradictory, closing the program.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

NT short circuiting lol

@Seafox0011 9 жыл бұрын

Being critical does not mean not being authentic - an INFJ will respect the criticism if they know it is true and delivered from an authentic view... However if it is just a projection of the other person's creation or idea of what they perceive then it will be seen as such and either argued against or just outright rejected. INFJ's are said to loath conflict so will not put up a fight unless they wish to correct an injustice. However i suggest INFJs are more about harmonising a situation with farness. For an INFJ arguments are mutable as we understand all sides and will make a judgement based on 'the bigger picture' - this can really frustrate some who see this as indecision or procrastination; but of course the contrary is true.

@gemeinschaftsgeful 5 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@borderedge6465 Жыл бұрын

As I’m thinking of one particular INFJ colleague, all your points are so, so spot on

@blackpearl1t 8 жыл бұрын

great video man thank you really well made about infj

@juliamaddox4408 8 жыл бұрын

Love it! Great work!

@leelaartwork 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video! I get INFP/INTP (marginal difference, the result seems to depend on the day/website!) and this really helped me understand the INFJs in my life a whole lot better. One of my favourite types, some of the most compassionate people I've ever met. Keep up the great work, I love your channel!

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

***** Thanks!

@haturah3676 3 жыл бұрын

This was frickin hilarious!! I loved your video ( I am an INFJ)...I see from other videos you are an INFP... the art sets us apart and I see this visually...we draw with ideas and break them down logically in contextual format using grids, lines (maybe some drawings but not our strong suit or at least mine)... not to say some INFJ's arent and cant be brilliant artists...I have just noticed that my INFP friends, seem to be able to transmute the inner picture to the outer world better in pictures...most of the INFJ's I know myself included I use graphs and grids and take far to reach ideas that most won't touch, or have dismissed as 'conspiracy' and track it logically...but I have noticed my INFP friends and even ENFP friends, the NF seems to give us an ability to see the same picture inside...but our outer expression, preference, and strengths separate us...though internally in many ways we are united. Nice work on educating poor unsuspecting souls who get into relationships with INFJ's un-prepared :)!

@miahleissa9599 6 жыл бұрын

I am laughing at your presentation. I just began your video, and you refer to the importance of "authenticity". lol I JUST commented on another person's INFJ video that the most important thing to me is "integrity". lol same dif... YEP! That's it. Be real, and I have all the time and energy in the world to love you, but if you are not, well.... I just don't have time. sorry. lol

6 жыл бұрын

Love it , you put a massive smile on my face ;)

@al_for_short_ Жыл бұрын

I appreciate the time you took to make this video. Thank you -2023

@KodakKid 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much Leon! This video was accurate and I intend to show it to my INFP friends in the future! :-)

@kimberliebyington5245 5 жыл бұрын

I hate debating I get so sidetracked & flustered I'm INFJ

@oscarl.3563 6 жыл бұрын

That's hilarious. =) That "inner circle" drawing did me in. Reminds me of Gaylord Focker. How very nice of you, drawing and making the video.

@annekraehn9214 Жыл бұрын

thank you that was a very nice approach to deal with infj, as I am one myself !

@Therese100109 9 жыл бұрын

This was lovely! Thank you.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the compliment!

@LizSays 7 жыл бұрын

I love your dedication to representing your thoughts and ideas by drawing 😌 thank you! (INFJ)

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 7 жыл бұрын

you're welcome!

@emc658 6 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate this as an INFJ, and loved your illustrations! (Enneagram 4) "Here is my ear (in my hand)." HaHaHa! :D

@OkamiKasai 8 жыл бұрын

Wonderful video! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your knowledge and advice with us in such a fun and factual way! ^_^

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 8 жыл бұрын

+OkamiKasai Thank you too for the compliment!

@TheBananaDeanna 6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely be you love you for it! Great video awesome energy excellent work! Thank you for hard work appreciate 😊👍

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@MikuHatsune12 5 жыл бұрын

Hey would you like to join a rather small mbti (but not limited to) discussion group in telegram?

@elizabethwilliamson8250 6 жыл бұрын

Love the drawing/diagrams. "Crackpottedness" LOL!!!

@stuffofmexx6077 9 жыл бұрын

You did a brilliant job. I love this video and your drawings. Please keep them coming. I have subscribed.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@SakuraCerulean92 8 жыл бұрын

I love this video so much I would pay to watch this video.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 8 жыл бұрын

+Mariah Dawn yea haha I'd make a lot more money if these weren't free. but i enjoy doing this regardless.

@highway8378 7 жыл бұрын

Wow you're insightful bro!

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@7D7N7A7 8 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha I think infjs should make many copies of "how to understand me" catalog, they should give a copy to every new person inter their life Thaaaank you!!!!! What you've said is 100% true... I wish people understand .. Hahahaha I am thinking of showing the video for the people who don't understand me...

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 8 жыл бұрын

+7D7N7A7 Thanks!

@RosesOfSaturn 8 жыл бұрын

Lmao, I just shared this video to my Facebook as a "How to" guide to understanding who I am..Because it is super frustrating to be misunderstood the amount that I am =(

@TheMandlanduna 9 жыл бұрын

You're a great teacher.

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks I appreciate it!

@alexanderduvall2567 8 жыл бұрын

I'm at 5:48. With the not debating thing... Because of my desire for authenticity, I do want some pushback. I want you to really be able to believe in this vision too. And if you can't, then don't. Be honest, let me know if you can't agree, and I can still fit you into my framework and find some thing we can agree on, some perspectives that we have in common, and develop that with you, reaching consensus and a shared enlightenment, hope, and aspiration for the good of the world. If you're not a Christian, you're still a human, and so maybe we can talk about a cosmopolitan ideal that we can live in our own lives. Even though we're all different in our worldview, we can seek to understand one another's perspectives to make this world a better, kinder place (so I don't have to get hurt so much by it, lol [but my intuition tells me that this is not a selfish thing, because what is wrong in the world that is hurting me-these broken way of doing things-are also hurting lots of people

@alexanderduvall2567 8 жыл бұрын

besides myself, and so this vision isn't just about me, in fact I'm willing to suffer for this ideal to make the world a better place for others, even if it only magnifies my own personal present persecution (think MLK, who might not have been treated as terribly as he was if he had just shut up and lived a quiet life. But the INFJ cannot and will-not stand idly by others are hurt and treated unfairly. Where there is injustice, there we must be-in the heart of darkness, to burn away the dark, not killing the dragon, but changing it, redeeming it into a magnificent creature of light. And this light will be a light for the whole world. And wherever there once was darkness, now there shall be light. And what once was the reach of the darkness, now is the dominion of light and life and peace. Hope will rise with the wings of the dawn, and the night will give way to the break of day!)]).

@alexanderduvall2567 8 жыл бұрын

Rise, O children of the light! Rise, brother. Rise, sister. Rise mother and father. Rise, my child, and see that darkness is but the lack of light. Shine the light and darkness flees. Darkness wages war only with darkness, not with the light, and illumination brings an end to conflict, though it might seem to amplify it at first. But that is only because of lack of light. The light must make its way into the inner person of all, and then, with the eyes of our hearts enlighten, we ourselves will become a new source of light, or rather a sieve for the One True Light-He who was, and is, and is to come-and He brings healing to the world the working of His sacrifice, the sufferings of which we share whenever we put ourselves out there for another person. As C.S. Lewis said,

@alexanderduvall2567 8 жыл бұрын

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” For “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” Love is so worth it. Dare to love. Because love will change the world.

@alexanderduvall2567 8 жыл бұрын

How do I know? Because you are in it, and you are already beginning to feel it's tug at your heart. It is already beginning to change you. And in this is the light of God already beginning to shine into the world. Do not turn away from this light which is pouring into your heart, nor seek to substitute it for your own inner light-for your own light is insufficient, and only exists in as much as it is fed by His Light. Let this His Light flow within your veins, life. Embrace Him-let Him flow through your veins, and light will come to light and you will live. What once was a consuming fire, will become refined into pure and immaculate light-a holy flame. This stream of light, this pure river of light which flows from its Source will lead you to its Source, what you will find to truly be Home, in the arms of the Maker and Father, and into the loving arms of the Bridegroom, His Son Jesus Christ. He will put His Spirit within you and bring you back to life if you will receive it.

@alexanderduvall2567 8 жыл бұрын

Upon receiving it, you will discover however that you have never truly lived at all, but that now you live. For His presence is better than life.

@EllaDuncan_ 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making me smile 😊

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 😊

@craigmdietrich6916 2 жыл бұрын

I love the "Powerpoint" slides.

@k.reneehomeschool4498 4 жыл бұрын

You’re so funny and light hearted.. you make me laugh :) lol interconnectedness of stuffs haha

@cleverclogs2244 6 жыл бұрын

Sweet guy! 😊

@xtalking2501 5 жыл бұрын

super cute and creative :D

@patronus4460 5 жыл бұрын

The drawings are fantastic

@julietterappaport8315 6 жыл бұрын

YES!!

@captainjack6758 9 жыл бұрын

Nice pictures.

@cecelia948 6 жыл бұрын

I like your drawings.😁

@jdamicoofficial 9 жыл бұрын

good video!!

@pixyrosejes7133 6 жыл бұрын

excellent colorful examples... I like your artistic expression. This is a kind way of treatment for any if not all MBTI types, no? I don't know anything about anything, really. Being human is challenging. Isn't it?

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 6 жыл бұрын

Yes it can be :)

@evasterritory8489 2 жыл бұрын

Adorable

@happyharpy5461 9 жыл бұрын

You are a brilliant human being hahaha

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Happy Harpy thanks and I like your screenname.

@EH_888 4 жыл бұрын

You know me so well.

@JonnyRocketfingers7 9 жыл бұрын

lol, that's hilarious. I remember having this long drawn out argument with my INFJ brother over this Utopian future he wanted to create. (I'm an INTP) I was such a dick about it. He just wanted to share his conceptual dream with me and I was just like that's ridiculous. You think your the first to think that. I've learned though, the hard way. Also, great videos :)

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

John Murray Thanks. There are ways to influence others' thinking without debating or calling things into question.

@MachineGunBambi 7 жыл бұрын

John Murray this was the same situation with INFJ me and my INTP ex

@sunnieA 3 жыл бұрын

yup yup haha thank you!!

@PlumGustave 2 жыл бұрын

Soooo gorgeous and perfect 😍🥰😄

@melancholikak6844 6 жыл бұрын

Ok, this is really weird, maybe you can help me with this? As I listened, I related to both sides, deeply. I operate a lot like this, yet I am an isfp. It seems I want the same things an INFJ does, at least 85% of this video. And, I never needed to be told to "be" this way for an infj; I naturally have been able to do it. I've had 2 infj female friends and 1 male, and they all felt super supported by me, almost like I was their "go to" person. Can you explain how this Is? Regarding authenticity, and not being listened to (but primarily the listener), feeling complicated and misunderstood, and being a skeptic of others true motives and allowing them into my inner circle- so many of these traits seem even more isfp than infj to me? Also, I'd love a video on isfp....youve made a few where we are included, but yet I think we are still kind of glossed over amongst the other types in the video (trying not to sound critical, because I enjoyed all the videos immensely). As you know, in the mbti community we are underrepresented to a fault, and out of all the types I truly believe we are the most misunderstood as a group.

@angelmoldez3512 4 жыл бұрын

"not to be confused with iron" 😂😂 great video tho!!!

@antoninacarolinofrivaldo4224 3 жыл бұрын

🙏💖

@kisslena 9 жыл бұрын

Good job!

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your compliments!

@Silvery115 9 жыл бұрын

This is such a great video! I might send it to some people who are trying to get closer to me :)

@TypeTipsLeonTsao 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing my work!

@thewoundedhealer4950 5 жыл бұрын

💜❤️💚

@prabhatkiranchaulagain7377 5 жыл бұрын

I Got Rejected By Her Pride, After One Year Of Flirting By Her And Concern About Me In Her Eyes She Just Said Sorry In 2019 February Fourteen Fucckkkk How Do We Get To The Point Where They'll Talk?