Such a common story! Some married men love to get single women to stroke their ego while they have their wife at home. It's gross!

So while she went was going through morning sickness, having swollen feet, back aches and labour ! He's tryna hook up ... woooooow, the audacity of some people.

I would have let the wife/fiancée/whatever know. She deserves to know before having any more kids with this jerk.

Unfortunately, many military men are like this. It's a sucky situation but I've seen it happen to people on the other end where they live in the US and the boyfriend is deployed too.

I swear we have had so many similar stories!!! However, I wasn't in Korea, I was in Taiwan. I've learned to stay away from military men overseas... side note: the part of the story about men getting the wrong idea, and expecting more from you when you just want to get to know one another, hits home! I've been celibate for over a year and so happy that I am. I feel like I should just wear a shirt that states that fact, so men know up front that they ain't getting none.

What a disgraceful man😕, disgusting, lame and a complete embarrassment to his wife and newborn child.

Yeah I'm glad you didn't say anything to the fiancé. She's taking care of a new born baby by herself. She's probably already stressed enough. Besides you're not the first or last girl he will try to get so, she'll find out eventually.

I wish to interject on my behalf as a male and as a person that once was in the military! First i apologize for the experience you had, sadly i watched that happen. Also showed my disdain for that type of actions when i saw it. Now what hurts me more is now there's a bad association for service men who genuinely have good intentions. Really bad people are bad people and good people are good people. No matter what affiliation they claim. I know you were telling your story, others have been in the same boat, and comments will say what they will. I dont want my name to be disparaged because of me wanting to serve my country. Love your channel and keep up the good work. You are doing GREAT!

GIIIIIRL!!! This story is crazy!!!

I've heard so many bad things about military men. smh

This entire story is so true. My mom is a veteran and when I tell you there are stories on top of stories of military guys who would set up a new family every where they got stationed??????? I always try to warn my friends who are talking to soldiers that they've met for the first time with a "buyer beware" tip.

All that effort to lie. Is it really that serious 🙄 I can never understand a cheater mind frame

LOLZ man this video made me ROFL, esp your message back to him! I'm glad you're safe and your spidey senses were so spot on! More story times will definitely be appreciated :)

I will never understand why some people would go through such an extent to out right lie just so they can just hookup! smh A woman's intuition is a powerful thing.

Do not date ANY military guy that is outside of their country and are just stationed there! The double lives are sooooo true!

my sister had a situation with a army guy in the states. They were dating for a month and sleeping together, they were getting serious. She brought him to meet our mom and she got some vibes right away from the guy something was off. She did a name search on the internet and found out the guy was married. When my sister confronted the guy he said it was a female in the military and it was for convenience/benefits only so married on paper. She was able to contact her online and nope according to her they had a legit marriage but it was an open one, meaning when they weren't together they were allowed to sleep with other people but they loved each other. He decided to lie to my sister and i'm assuming any other girl he started a relationship with....complete jerk.

My now ex is in the army and currently stationed in south korea. He was cheating on me the entire time. This story just... ugh. Hit home.

Sorry to hear you experience you're intuition was right, so you where lucky!! God bless you blessings from London!! I subbed

Bless your heart. Can't get away from shady!!!! God was watching out for you.

Man this sucks...unfortunately I'm going to be stationed in Korea for my next base and all I hear about is how people forget that they're married or have a significant other and that it's wild there...like why bother being in a relationship if you aren't going to respect it you know? I'm excited to be going to Korea but the latter half not so much...

This story is CRAAAAZY. Also you're excellent at telling stories. Hilarious.

Why do the dudes put in so much effort to lie...like why? So lame. That's crazy bruh.

*sips tea* well damn

Hate to say that this happens here too! Not just with people overseas :(

When my now ex husband was in Korea it was the same thing. He came back to the states and his "Korea girlfriend" gave me all the tea. Anyway new subbie here! Love your channel and your content! I found your channel by a random IG search.

I am not shocked. I am preparing to go to South Korea this summer and I've come across many KZfaq videos (i.e. story time, 5 types of..., why Korean like/don't like...) and with stories like your own many times. I will definitely be on my guard #YIKES

oh my God you're so beautiful and your skin is flawless. 😍😍

Smh... it seems every girl in Korea is preaching that Military guys are dogs lol Are you only interested in foreigners for dating? Or have you had any expiriences with Korean guys? Either way, I'd love more storytimes!!

My sister met a guy like that recently... I don't know the whole story but like he had a girlfriend and baby. Why would someone do something like that ??? I don't get why people cheat on their partner. If you don't want to be with that person exclusively, why don't you break up with them ?

Great story time. But I just wanted to say, that I live in the states and have been using Kakaotalk for years. Reason being is that I have many Korean friends. So it wouldn't be that odd to see a foreigner who is not going to stay for an extended period of time in Korea with a Katalk account.

I want to be stationed in South Korea so bad but certain jobs only have certain bases. Also generally those stationed on bases outside the U.S. are generally there at least 2 to 6 years, plenty of time disrupt English teachers and other non native or even native Koreans. Good thing you never let him come over. Military guys are definitely not immune to stds ...quite common with them actually.

Flip side* I had the most amazing Korean experience because of the US army. Not American myself, but made friends with a US ROTC group (5 men) and they became family. Might be because some were Kyopos or some genuinely into K culture, but I think it's always best to make individual judgmennts of people. Be weary but don't discriminate because of someone ele's experience. *Not to belittle Mel's ugly experience just thought I'd offer a varying antidote.

I see what happened,he wanted to fool around but then he actually liked you as a person and felt super guilty and spilled the truth.This story time was fun thanks for sharing ! will be careful xx

with that first, middle, last name, DOB and where they grew up-- you can uncover more than ig would ever show

Girl! It's the truth! My dad was one of those military men. He was in Korea for a year while we were in the States back in the 90s. Years later, after my parents divorced, I found out he gave my mom a STD when he came back.

Butttttttttt thank you for you service Bwahhhhhhahahahahaaa!!!!!! That was the best part.

The wonderful thing about telling the truth is that you have nothing to remember.

I can't get over how adorbs you are! Love your videos! Fun and entertaining =^-^=

I know this video is from long ago, but I have a similar story too Melody. I met a Korean guy online, he was cute and funny so we started talking on Kakao as friends. He lives in the US and I live in South America so was basically a virtual thing. As the time passed he started to tell me that he was falling for me, that he wants me to be his girlfriend and blah blah and to be honest I liked him too, so we started talking on video calls too, my spider senses started tingling over and over about stuff, so I started to notice that suddenly he had to go offline during the calls or stuff. For the same reason that you asked this guy his Instagram I asked his Facebook, he resisted but at the end he added me, and wow he had like hundreds of girls added as friends. I found out he had a Vietnamese girlfriend, so I asked him and he said oh no is not a big deal, "I will delete her as friend", and he actually did. Days passed but something was still off. He was like I wanna travel there and have a life with you blah blah so I got more cautious, one day while I was here on KZfaq I found his KZfaq channel and OH MY GOD I found HIS WEDDING VIDEO, yes, wedding... he was married, off course that was the end of it, he told me he was sorry and that he didn't wanna to loose me...what homie???! Just a play boy. Girls be aware of online guys, seriously I learned my lesson.

"You Alllllready Know" I am feeling this intro! Lol Eventful video! =P Bless.xXx.!!!

WOW. Great story! I actually just had something very similar happen to me. SMH. Thank you for sharing!!!

As soon as I saw your snap about this video I quickly rushed over to KZfaq. Lol! I remember you telling us about him and the entire time I'm watching the video I relieved that moment and kept shaking me head. Lol Shame on these boys!

Wow! That sucks! If not you, it will be someone else. Men are very clever at leading double lives. Good for you for not messing up the poor fiance's life!

You did the right thing, your so wise. You really know your stuff. I learnt some things from this video. Thank you so much for sharing it this story.

oh my gosh~!!!!! thats tooooo bad!!!! but you are so brave, clever and coooool... ive been enjoying your whole videos,your story is super duper gooood and fun . i hope you will keep making it~~♥ Thank you for sharing your story..~♥♥

I'd tell the fiancé. Trust me, you're not breaking anyone's home, but rather, saving a fake home filled with empty promises from building. I'd appreciate it if someone told me if another loved one is going behind my back. We need to help others cut toxic people outta their lives! Us girls & guys gotta have each other's back!

Wow!!!! I hate that you went through that.Whew!!!

Idky but I laughed when she said "his REAL instagram account" 😂😂

I have a kakao and so do some of my friends who are interested in Korea. I probably wouldn't have it unless I was really interested in Korea and the Korean language though. But when you layer it all, it just adds a layer of fishiness to his story. I enjoyed the story!

I really love your voice and the way you talk :) Thank you for uploading these great videos!

When you said "swerve", that put the whole thing in a nutshell. That's was the necessary vibe.

As a military wife, that is pretty typical military behavior for a lot of the guys-usually in security forces (sorry to you honest guys in security forces) it's just been my experience. They call them 'Dirt Bags' it's their official military term. When my husband took us to our first military hosted 'Family picnic' in WA, I overheard this conversation between two guys, where one guy was complaining saying "My girlfriend won't stop asking if I'm cheating on her." and his friend responded saying "But dude, you are." and he got all upset and to him. "Ya, but she doesn't know that!" There was even this process I learned about through my husband, who learned about it through the guys he worked with. That were certain things girls would do when when their husbands were away and they wanted to cheat on them. It's seriously a disturbing culture to live in when you want to be in an honest relationship with your spouse. My husband was here in Korea for one day before he called us and told us we had to fly out here to be with him cuz he missed us too much. So far there has actually been a lot less of that behavior here than in America, from what I've seen. But I've only been here 1 month. I'm just glad we're not living on base, so I don't have to be around that stuff anymore.

You look more beautiful without those lenses that you use, you are gorgeous

Sadly very true. Not all military men though, women are just as bad. But then again there are a few genuine good ones out there.

I just came from a one year military tour in Korea. Korea is one of the best places on Earth and I can't wait to go back! We're not all bad but what happend to you is very common.

you're really fun to watch! I love your video's!!

Thank you Ms. Mel for this charming story.

I applaud you for not saying anything to his fiancé and leaving him just like that. I'm sure he will get caught when he does hook up with someone else.

I'm so glad you have been given better. There is nothing like a con artist. He probably scoped your KZfaq page and saw the videos where you mention metamorphic things and used it for ammunition. I'm just glad this was then. We as women have to listen hard with our discerning antennas.

Mel... I was in the military for 10yrs.. that guy was probably "TDY" meaning on "temporary duty" from his main base and TDY in the military means/ stands for "temporarily divorced y'all".... I don't agree with that behavior but it does happen!

This is so true about military guys, I am an army veteran and I never felt like I wanted anything serious with any military guys because bottom line is they lie like my ex did about his age and just want sex!! But not all military guys are like that.

I'm in the military here in Korea also. Yep that is the norm for "most" military guys!

the first thing I thought was "omg she should tell the fiancee"... But thank God u thought it better!! u were right to just get out of that situation! congrats 👏👏 I just hope he's learned the lesson b4 he ruins his family u_u'''

Wow 😳, I really applaud the way you handled yourself and that situation. That's shocking that he could do that to his poor girls.. I know cheating isn't uncommon but somehow this was still so cringe worthy to hear. On a lighter note I just found you channel today! Subbed you seem really cool!

The first lie should have been his last! The only reason for admitting the lie was to detect just how much he could get away with. When people start explaining why they lied your standing in quick sand.

Lol I know this happens A lot like I was on a joint base and practically most of the guys were very untruthful though the ones who brought their families were very loyal. And then we would have a ship full of navy guys and girls who just want to hook up. It's not just Korea

Girl! I just got to Korea, teaching here, and I feel you on this one!! Out here living reckless, they just don't care!

yes, instagram is the inner working of us men!

Girl you have some nice teeth!! Wow lol

Dang that's a shame

wow i never watch a video that tells about a story of something.. i really like how you make this video.. really fun and theres a learning.. btw you are so beautiful :) im your new subscriber !!! annyeong~~~

Awesome video! I like it

11:10-11:25 THE TRUTH, GIRL!!

As a military wife, I'd want you to tell me or his comanding officers.

wooh for june babies!!! :)

Gurllllllll, I'm in the military and I would never date a military man. Most of these men a slimy and are only looking to hook up. The like to curse you out when you tell them hell no and please get out of my face. If your man is in the military, watch out.

Listening to your intuition...if only women did this more! Glad you didn't have to deal with any serious drama!!

loving your videos. u have good sense

There are women hunters everywhere! My goodness! Something like this happened to another KZfaqr in Korea but he wasn't in the military. Also, 7:56 A nice side view of your puff 👍👍👍

This seems like a very common story I hear from women in South Korea who talk to military men damn

Yap. If it smells like shit, chances are if you lift up the rugs, move some furniture around a bit, you'll find some shit...dog shit. We should always go with our gut, or at least don't ever ignore it and silence it by a shot to the head like it's some sick dog. It's a guard dogs duty to sound the alarm after all , and it's up to us to choose how we respond. But hey, it's not just military guys who are like that. You'll find guys like that everywhere and around every corner. Picture it! That's some creepy shit, right? ;) haha.

wow its such a bad guy, my ex told me tht kind of lie too when we still together, until he said that he is married and have one doughter, it really piss me off, he is afghani guy who live in belgium, its kind of lonely guy i guess, u deserve better..

Sorry that happened to you! FYI that’s 99% all military men, married and all, especially Navy! I just completed my service and that’s how I know. Smh

Was his name Aroy. Same thing happened to me but in America lol. So over military men.

Mel.... I went to UCF also for a while and have lived in the Orlando area for the last 20yrs, so I was just wondering if you still call Orlando home?

You were super nice about that, I would've just blocked him right after looking through his real instagram without even replying to his message -_-.

Lol ur so silly! "Fiancé! And new born" "i didn't wanna take it there"

Jesus was working!

SWERVEEEE

TRUST YOUR INSTINCT!!!

Was his name James T Herring? Oh the stories I could tell. And he was in the Army, in Korea. We had dated previous when he was stationed in Va. 2 years later he was on leave from Korea and came to visit me, and he wanted to propose, found out he had a secret fiancé and newborn daughter in Virginia Beach. Kicked his butt to the curb real fast, called her to let her know what was going on because this fool played me for 2 years prior. And at the time she was pregnant with their daughter.

Hey! Love ur videos💕. Wondering what camera you use? Thank you and keep being awesome.

hey Mel I'm new to your page I'm loving it lol so when in June your birthday my birthday is in June too

Wow! Sorry for the good single guys out there... Its guys like this that mess it up for yall...

Our spidey senses always know. Smh.....glad he finally came clean before anything serious ever transpired though. Good thing you were cautious about him. Idk why people gotta lie and creep around, so annoying lol.

That guy must be related to Tristan Thompson for trying to cheat on his baby mamma while she was in the labour room 😡

Girl I love your videos. I live in Ocala but I'm originally from NYC. I had a question about the salary there, is it weekly or monthly. I saw your video about living there and my oldest son had that question because he's interest in teaching abroad. Thanks for your time.

it seems like maybe he wanted to get rid of you and he knew you would leave on your own once you knew the truth and he wouldn't have to do it. it was for the best, you don't need that drama.

You're so right

He may have been lying about being a military man too. Did you see a military id? He may have been married to a Korean girl or ESOL teacher ( and had a girlfriend in the States) and used the "military curfew " so he would not have to explain why he had to go home to his family. Don't give him a second thought.