You’re not alone. I’m going through the same thing. Once I noticed he was being mean, I left. I do love him though

How are you doing now? I totally understand you as the same thing just happened to me this pas t week

I am praying for you & for me. Going through heartache and it’s so hard. Especially the feeling of emptiness, depression, no desire for anything.

@@kingdombeauty8575 me too, l still love him but I would never take him back ..I will never forget how worthless he made me feel

@@efrenjf7685 just when I started to get better he texted me.. asking for a second chance.. i said no but ; now im going through it all over again it hurts the same as a month ago

I feel the same way. I like the way you phrased this

@@gmul1401 Thank you. I'm much happier each day

Nicely put. I will keep telling myself that.

❤❤❤ omg this should be a quote x beautiful it’s just how I feel x

I am so sorry for this. I heard someone say, anyone who says time heals all wounds never had a tooth ache. I thot I’d bounce back right away but It’s seemed like forever. I Finally had to get professional help for myself and it’s the best decision I ever made. I have been able to connect the dot between that relationship and the dysfunctional relationships with my parents. It’s been super empowering to recognize that I can create a support system for myself outside of my family! And that my true super power is the love I have for myself and to encourage, support and celebrate myself is a big piece of the puzzle I was missing before he ever came into the picture. I also had to find ways to create joy in my life. I started doing hobbies I ignored in my childhood and that’s been a huge game changer. You will get through this! Keep going and loving and creating, cheers !

My breakup is the very same way yours went. We did not talk things through. We also ended in total chaos and deep anger from my side. I said things I now regret but the damage was done. I cannot sleep or eat. And yet I know I cannot go back. His last voice message to me was "You will always be on my mind and I love you to Bits and pieces but I need to take a step back." The pain is as if he died and I cannot reach out to him. I hope you are doing well.

Literally me now! How are you holding now?

I'm in exactly the same situation 😢should have heeded those red flags in the beginning. Now I'm just a former shell of myself. Break up was very traumatic yesterday 😢

@@beaker7353 I am sorry to hear this and let me tell you it's going to get worse till finally the sky clears and you will feel so much better. Best of luck and try and watch as many videos on how to get over heart ache.

We are with you

you are not alone

It feels like shit

I'm with you, you are not alone🫂

Same here, I felt like he was giving me breadcrumbs. Avoidant too, and I'm anxious attachment, so it was a rollercoaster of emotions for me. How are you feeling now?

@@furahayamoyo9193 still missing the fake him but i went on. Dated an ex last few months who was also a diagnosed avoidant. He was changed he claimed after four years. Turned out he was not. 😂😂😂 They lie so much and i blocked him directly when he started to deactivate and starting the blabla bs. Not falling for this trap no more. So i have learned a great lesson from the one i really missed. I dated also another man. My instincts were right. Dont ever take them back. They are the same. .No worse!

We deserve better, wish you much love and happiness

Same here. It was making me crazy. I feel so much more sane now that i broke up with him. Hopefully one day i meet someone who take healing their traumas as serious as i do. It’s not fair for one person to put in all the work

@@furahayamoyo9193 I am ok! Secure again. ☺️ Started dating again and you never guess what happened. An ex came back after four years, diagnosed avoidant and we were dating. He said he was changed. He wasnt.. He left after dating for two months. Having a wonderfull time. Out of the blue he ran. But i didn t care anymore. To old and solid for these sad stupid games. Never going to let someone trow me out of balance anymore. And i will never ever trust an avoidant again. They don t change. They only become weirder as they age. Never going to suffer anymore and think what went wrong? I will never understand them and that is a good thing. I have learned a lot. ☺️

Me too. And I think that is more the norm. In a week I was still in shock.

That caught me too...more like 3-6 months :(

Really, I thought a week? If u get over someone in a week u didn't love that person.

Yeah a week was very exaggerated of saying a shorter amount of time. Sometimes, you’ll even miss someone your whole life. I had the same experience with deep depression. Still dealing with the breakup. Sending love ♥️♥️♥️

@@sarahskicks I'm sorry to hear that... I resonate with your experience.

I want to appreciate Dr Yusuf for the restoration of my marriage after 1years of separation with my husband, with the help of , my husband return home and now we are happily together for good, once again thanks Dr Yusuf

@@rebeccastacy9540 scammer

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How you’re doing now?

Same here .. Exactly the same

@@kaoutaeaea649 I am proud of you! I know it was not easy.

You are not alone. I am experiencing the same thing and feel the same way you do. I hope that you're feeling better since you posted it 5 days ago. You are strong. You got this.

@@Jasonm1771 thank you 🙏 That’s very very kind. I do feel better. I also have being doing some guided meditations on YT on letting go, heartbreak meditations etc and it’s very helpful. It’s still hard, but I guess it’s part of the process of healing. Hope you are feeling better too :) Btw he came back but it’s still all the same and somehow I am slowly loosing my respect for him. So the feelings are easing up. I hope 🤞 I will keep doing my meditations. I have no intentions of seeing him and even don’t have the need to talk to him like I had before. Still that feeling of nostalgia is there and it’s hard to let go of good memories. But it’s happening slowly :) You know the funny thing is, when he started realising things and trying to mend things between us, I have started to let him go and not want it all anymore. I feel after repeated intense pain and heartbreak , at some point indifference sets in. And I am grateful for that. I want to be totally indifferent.

@@trinityp8575 I am so happy to hear that for you. Ive been taking the same route and came across Mel Robbins. She speaks my language and has been really helpful in allowing me to reflect on the reality of the situation. Thank you for the kind words. You should feel incredibly proud that you’re choosing the path that’s best for you! If you’re ever feeling that way again, shoot a reply. It’s always nice to know you’re not going it alone.

Sorry to hear, tough to do anything alone, please try to find someone to talk to, here’s a hug, hang in there😊

@@trinityp8575 Hey! Wanted to check in and see how you are doing.

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Stay strong!!! I am Sorry but do Not give up On yourself when everyone else does

Stay strong bro I'm same I was only married one year and a few months it's the shock that causes us pain and also the detoxification of someone being there , get plenty of fresh air and accept the situation the more you , accept it the less painful it will become , we become addicted to the whole process of being with someone and when they've gone we go through detox I know I'm going through it now it is difficult , if you feel you can't work it out then you have to let go of the relationship , truth hurts and you will constantly think of it everyday all day , keep yourself occupied it complicated when offspring are involved , through marriage, you'll feel upset 😢 try to be amicable avoid confrontation

Hi friend, I am going through the same. 14 years and 1 child. I'm 9 months alone now. It's very hard. I wish you the best.

I'm going through it too, trying to keep going but failing 💔

Wish you much happiness

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm working on myself but I'm still on that grieving stage so it still hurts. But at least I'm making the attempt to make sense and make peace with my break up, and to move on.

Hey, I totally understand you... I was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years, I considered her the woman of my life. I also felt from her side that she loves me, you just feel it, but for the last 2 months of the relationship, she was quite thoughtful and withdrawn somehow... 3.11.23 she left me and blocked me everywhere... Fighting with myself every day and the pain is unbearable... I hope the pain will leave one day, fingers crossed..

Same thing happened to me. I dated a guy about 8 months. We broke up 2 months ago. I still feel so much pain and hurt and loneliness...

Same thing happened to me. I dated a guy about 8 months. We broke up 2 months ago. I still feel so much pain and hurt and loneliness...

Going through the same right now

Did you at least have a talk with him first? Maybe resolve things? Or did you just go ahead and make the decision

I'm suffering too. I'm so sorry i really am i hope the both of us feel well soon 🫂

Yes, I totally agree. One week is ridiculous. The first week I could barely eat or sleep. I was having anxiety attacks. I was only with him for 5 months. He broke up with me one month ago and I’m still crying every day. I really loved him and this pain is so intense. It is like grief, except that he’s still alive, he just doesn’t want me anymore.

This woman is massively in her masculine so naturally a lot of her advice isn't suited coming from a woman

Truth. My father taught me what to accept from a partner. That was very little.

I feel you. I have been doing EMDR therapy and it's helped me so much to move through my 10 year relationship betrayal breakup. Sending light and love

@@lizettev emdr?

How are you doing now? Does it get better? I am going through a 25 yr marriage breakup. He left me 3 months ago, no warning. I’m devastated.

@latonyaupchurch

@@latonyaupchurch it is a type of therapy used to help people get over trauma. Effective in treating veterans with post trumatic stress syndome. Requires therapist to have special training. I did it, was painful, but it worked. EMDR stand for "Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing".

6 years 😢…I’m not going to make it!!!

@@vshort02 What do you mean? :o How long has it been for you?

@@evagabrysova8871​​⁠Well it’s Day 5 after 26 years off/on

@@evagabrysova8871 2 weeks but it’s been a 25+ year relationship

You’re not alone. Super proud you did what’s best for you! ❤ I hope you are doing well

@@laeh_ Thank you very much. I’m feeling a bit better a month on, I still have not so good days, a lot of ruminating but I also have more good days. Thank you for your kind words❤️

Put that energy back into you, find that love your searching for within 💕

Related too much to this exactly my thought

It sounds like you grew from this and are a changed person. I think you are growing into the person she was looking for, maybe. I pray she realizes this or you find peace, happiness and love again.

I have been with my girlfriend for 7.5 years and she dumped me via text message a week ago. This is not my first heartbreak but it’s excruciating nonetheless. Now, I’m seeing a therapist and trying to speak to friends as much as possible without being overbearing. I wake up in the night, crying, but I made a promise to myself and my family that I will do my best…

How long were u together. I’m so sorry you feel soo sad

I’m on the same boat. We’ve been together for two years and just broke up over a month ago.. I still cry everyday. I feel like something inside me is brokenhearted..

I think you need to stop crying and start living and seeing what the relationship was really about and not what you wanted the relationship to be..

Wow, word for word I could have written. Ended it a few days ago and just trying to manage basic day to day tasks. Best of luck to both of us!

Don't be mad at yourself, I still cry about my first love. It is what it is.

Find someone else by becoming whole and complete yourself

You ended the relationship and now you are sad ? You created your own pain, lay in the bed you made.

@@danbaker7640 thanks, Dan. Helpful!

@@danbaker7640This comment is ignorant and insensitive. Sometimes you have to break it off with someone you still care about. Maybe they hurt and betrayed you. Or maybe you’re growing apart.

And I hate when ppl discredit it and say oh that's not that long but it's still painful especially when you had hopes of longevity

But why exactly did you break up? Were your paths in life and plans for the future so different?

Same problem here she broke up with me because she wanted to focus more on herself and career she didn't have time for me.

Yes! Thank you for this comment 🙏

I know how you're feeling. Take your time to grief but make sure you don't reach out to her. Some says you'll feel all the rage and anger, you'll have a lot of questions but know that everything is a process. You'll feel better eventually.

@@Aluma-6290 couldn’t reach out to her even if i wanted to. She has me blocked and last thing she told me was to leave her alone. I know i wasn’t the best boyfriend but i tried my best. I have come to realize that even with all my flaws i still didn’t deserve to be thrown away like i was.

Omfg I have a mini version regarding that!! I am so sorry my dear🙏🙏

Sorry for that, here’s a hug for all of y’all 😊

She will 100% cheat on this other person as well. This is clearly a pattern of behavior for this narcissist.

I want to appreciate Dr Yusuf for the restoration of my marriage after 1years of separation with my husband, with the help of , my husband return home and now we are happily together for good, once again thanks Dr Yusuf

I feel exactly how u feel. I thought everything was perfect (well we had arguments but we always talked them out). Last weekend we had the best time we could it was like a scene out of a movie and i thought we were in a good place. Until he invited me to sleepover this weekend. I was so happy that im gonna see him and have fun and all this bs and then he dumped me and I literally crashed down while he was just cold like i was talking to the wall. I even BEGGED him to not leave... I knew it was pathetic but i also knew id regret not trying everything i could (even if its begging..) I felt the same with him as u and it was mutual for a long time but then he fell out of love, at least thats what he said. So now im really grieving this man that i was in love with, still am in love with. The person that left me doesnt even feel like the same guy.

I feel same as you. I was happy and felt loved, even with all troubles we had. After 13 years I left because of infidelity on his side. It hurts like hell, there is nobody around who would understand the pain, I had to take some leave from work bt now I have to go back and have no idea how to cope, my brain is not functioning, I cant smile. I feel for you and others here.

Me too, sorry to hear that. Here’s a hug😊

Same. I am hurting and depressed. Have no desire for anything… it’s been more than a month or more … I wish in 1 month time I will feel lighter and my spark is back. Because this is emotional hell.

@@trinityp8575 I wish you well. I haven't healed since.

"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."

@@Ladybirdtaj so true! Thank you so much 💓

How are you 1 month later?

@@kimberly9207 Hi, thank you for asking. He actually came to my city to resolve things and we had a good first day. But at night I found out he cheated on me. And I ended the relationship for good this time. I thank God everyday that he made us meet. ❤️

@@Ladybirdtaj another door indeed opened for me 😁😂❤️

Sending you good vibes ❤️‍🩹 how u doing rn ?