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I pray I will never be the reason someone needs to cling to such videos for dear life for the sake of their mental health

I envy people who have never had to experience heartbreak. It literally feels like I can’t breathe, can’t stop crying. Can’t sleep. I feel numb

“Grief is just love with no place to go “ Jamie Anderson.

My wife and are separating after 14 years of a beautiful relationship. Even in the end everything was peaceful. She's been devoured by her fear of getting old, her insecurities and traumas and influenced by new people she just met. She did not communicate. She cheated. She chose to live a new life instead of working through it with me. I failed as a husband. This was extremely painful but I refused to numb the pain. No partying, no going out every night, no alcohol and such. I allowed myself to feel all the pain. Now I still feel sad but I'm at peace. I now I did my best, I worked on myself to become a better man.

My heart goes out to everyone here watching this video and helping yourself ❤️ I don’t know you or your story but I am so sorry for your loss.

A hug to everyone commenting. As you can see, you are not alone. Be kind to one another, always. ❤

My best friend of 10 years and I were in a serious relationship for 3 years until last year when she just dumped me over a text and got engaged to someone else within a week. It took all of last year to steady myself. To anyone out there struggling with heartbreak and grief, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. Sending lots of love❤️

I can never get used to heartbreak. I'm certain now that i am afraid to even just imagine falling in love again.

"Grief is a change you didn't want." - David Kessler Brilliant 🔥

I dont wish this pain on anyone not even my worst enemy

“Anger is a bodyguard for pain” *instant tears down my face*

I am in a position where I am 7 months removed from my break up, and despite being kind to myself, working out, meditating going out with friends and trying to learn a new language, I still find myself thinking about her every hour of the day. I remind myself all the time how lucky I am to have experienced that love, and I have taken ownership of my mistakes and have grown so much since the day I lost a part of my soul. I am young (33), fit and healthy and I don't really struggle to meet women or go on dates etc, I live in a country without war and I have a supportive and loving group of friends and family that have shown me how loved I am since this happened. I'm so proud of myself and the man I have become. the past year I have completely flipped the way I think, and have learned how to guide my negative self pitty thoughts into positive and kind ones, but despite all this, I still think about her every hour of every day. I am often able to catch myself and just say to myself that "I hope she is happy and healthy, and lives a long and full life and that I am thanksful for all the lessons I learnt through her and am now a better man because of my experience", but still 7 months later I will just randomly break into tears from something unrelated to her or a break up and just feel so sad for a good 5-10 minutes. I work out, I meditate and I love myself, but I feel like there will always be part of my sould missing. I don't know if I have gotten to the point where I have let go, as I still think about her all the time, but I never am mad or angry at her. Maybe letting go doesn't mean not thinking about them, maybe it means being able to be okay with the feelings you have and moving forward despite those feelings.

To you whom is Reading this, breath❤️🤲

I can't bear the pain, I'm grieving a lost relationship with someone who's been very dear to me. I never knew it would hurt so much. It literally feels as if my heart has been wrenched out of my chest with no anesthesia. And so many things remind of this person. And there are no hard feelings, we still care for each other but the grief I feel is almost too much to bear. I don't know how to go on.

6 months of grieving the man who came along midlife, who gave me all the validation and cherishing I had craved but thought impossible. He lost feelings. I cry most days.

never betray anyone.

Last few days have been the worst days of my life and I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. With alot of pain in heart and no one to talk to, Seeing these comments made me realize am not a alone . thanks

I divorced out of a toxic, damaging marriage of 21 years over a year ago. A recent breakup from who I thought was the last love I would ever need has hurt more than my divorce ever could. Pain of losing what you have always truly wanted is devastating 💔

The one who revived our heart just to leave it broken into a million pieces... It hurts...

Losing my parents, feels like I'm an orphan. Violently assaulted by an ex, all relationships are affected and highly triggered. Therapy did not help.

The man I've been in love with betrayed me last week. We were never together, but he knew how I felt about him and he hurt me anyway. But I don't think he realizes that he hurt me. I have never felt so heartbroken in my life.

I felt emotions for 3 days. But the emotion towards it aint as heavy as before. Whats tiring is the no appetite, no energy, no sleep. Just emptyness in my mind. Its been nearly 2 weeks since the breakup. 10 years we was together. I just want to be able to sleep and eat.

I recently experienced my first ever heartbreak at 33 years old and I am in such grief and hurt right now. Pain is personal and what I am in now is not easy. Never have I ever felt these real emotions that I am experiencing. Praying and hoping I will be fully healed one day.

I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

Grief is love that has nowhere to go.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

Anger is a bodyguard for pain. Too True.

I went into the relationship and marriage clear that I didnt want children, and biologically cant have them. My wife agreed to that future. 2 weeks ago, on my birthday, she told me we're getting a divorce because she wants a family. I'm crushed. Thank you for this video.

After my break up I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years. With so much anxiety 😢I can’t let the pain go

My son died a month and half after my husband died. A double grief. It was in 2016. I would like to have had help emotionally and other people also could have help with these emotions. 😢 😅 Thank you

You have to approach every relationship knowing it will end. It’s the natural order of everything.

As soon as I watched the video, I started crying. Then, as the video progressed, I started feeling calm and hopeful. Thank you so much for giving out the message, Matt.

It's been 8 months since my relationship ended. I do still get their thoughts once in a while but it's so much easier now, I don't wake up and sleep with his thoughts on my mind like I used to before. My mind plays tricks and brings in happy memories of us as well, I appreciate those days for a moment and let it go. I always pray to God everytime I feel sad and time and time again I forgive my ex for hurting me. It helps me to move forward.

My boyfriend of over 5 years just broke up with me. I loved him more than anything and he was the most stable thing in my life. I lived with him and have no one else. I am only 20 so i grew up with him in a way, but it feels like this pain will never pass.

I've been dealing with having my heart broken for 6 months now. I had to quit my job due to breaking down all throughout the day but in the end I feel as if I needed to feel this pain to heal from everything thats been inside me for such long time. Every time I feel my emotions coming I just let them go unrestricted and I feel as if I am healing from years of holding my emotions inside.

I think im still grieving for the me i didnt get to be

Loosing a child is the most devastating heartbreak i felt,been a year now and feels like yesterday,still painful until now,and maybe forever,but i still trying to accept til now

Its am emotion. It is a storm. You cant predict life. You can only live every storm

I came here after 1 year getting out from 7 years of relationship whom he cheated on me (found he was taping a sex video with multiple womens. and he was invited them to his house). I forgive him twice. This resulted can’t breathe, sleep while crying, wake up because of cry, unending blaming, zombie everyday, cry in the office, cry again after home, loss 15kg during the mourning, no going out, feel torture and pain because when I wake up every morning, I still alive. After one year, it would get better. I promise you as I wished last year I rather die than feel these torturing pain was constantly hitting every time you breath. The pain is real. The heart broken is real. I also could understand after experienced this real pain the heart literally shattered into pieces until you feel the physical pain around heart location. However, I promise you, just to hang in there. You would get better one day and seeing to live is a actually blessing. ❤

8 years on, and I still feel the pain... the world is just not as colourful as it used to be

I feel lIke I'm going to struggle with this for the rest of my life.

The grief I am experiencing is the loss of my stepchildren. As a man who never had children himself I found myself loving them more than I expected. The grief of knowing that their mother is damaging and damaged. That I can't be with her anymore and in knowing that and leaving that meant leaving them. I've been facing this storm for awhile now and I'm waiting for it to pass. However I accept that it might take awhile and also accept that the damages will be severe when it ends.

Broken people do broken things, a broken heart creates broken people

I had my mini Australian shepherd put to sleep she was 16.5 years old and I've had her since she was 6 weeks old.

I am 28 with my first true heartbreak of almost 6 years. It is unbelievable how much I hurt. I have lost what felt like home wherever life went. I’m sure like most I can’t wait to be happy again.

My babymama went to rehab and left me for a heroine addict because they could relate to their addictions. I wrote her an empowering message every day to tell her our daughter and l were proud of her for going to rehab, that way she could see all the support when she got her phone back. We even originally had plans for me to pick her up when she was done to celebrate. Didn't matter though, rehab daddy had her locked on some mistakes l've made in the relationship and that the grass is greener with a new person. Sometimes you can do everything you feel is right, and to the other person it may be too late or not enough. I don't know who needs to read this but I want everyone to remember that you won't be enough for everyone and that's okay. Be enough for yourself. Even if you can't see it, your effort will pay off eventually, even if it's with someone else.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

I believe I came to you for a reason, I asked God to show me what video I needed to click on to speak to my heart. I can feel my heartbeat, I got to the part of the video where he started mentioning unattended grief. Instantly I started sobbing and I didn’t even know I had anymore tears left. This is a hard part of my life but I believe it was for a better purpose to shape me into character I’m meant to be. Thank you for making this video, it has helped me. 🙏🏽

My husband cheated on me and divorced me and then my mum died for sudden cardiac arrest while I was w her w my kids. And after 7 years my heart is still is broken

I’ve been through so much and couldn’t afford to have my heart shattered impossibly further. For my own sanity, I’m not trying anymore. No one will get a chance to date me let alone ghost me, again. I’ll pretend romance and relationships don’t exist.

I just wanted to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart that is now healed because of you. It was exactly one year ago when I broke up with my girlfriend, I was so heartbroken that I tried absolutely everything to change my life from the roots. I was so depressed, I didn't want to get out of bed. But I never gave up on myself, I started watching your videos and every day I worked on my mental health. Now I feel better than ever and I know this is just the beginning I just wanted to say thank you and I know how much comments like this can help others, believe me, I know this from experience. Keep your head up, take care of yourself, never give up, put your life in God's hands and everything will be alright in time.

Watching this video stirred up old emotions, leaving me longing for my ex and struggling to move forward.

My anger is why dint I protect myself better....I had a toxic childhood,it wasn't my fault, I have to forgive myself ,it wasn't my fault, love myself,have compassion for myself and move on and never give permission to let anyone hurt me again if I recognize toxicity.❤

I was dating this girl for 6 months. Never felt any love like this. It was magic, she broke up with me. 16 days ago, came around but after a huge argument she said stop texting me. I never experience a pain like this. Everything reminds me of her.

One of the best videos on internet and believe me I am working as a psychologist/ psychotherapist, I have seen tons of videos.

How many times we hear "Move on", "Get over it" after a heartbreak. Nobody knows that is truly a pain, not just emotionally, but often physically. Noone will tell you after you loose somebody, who died, that it is time to move on... So strong and deep ideas. Thank you!

I broke down the moment he started talking. I’ve been going through the grief of losing my dad and the grief of losing a person I love! So painful!

"You know how staying the same feels like" -David. Thank you

Grief from loved one dying and from a loved one leaving/rejecting you is a scream inside you that only you can hear

I’ve been crying every day for the last 3 months… and I’ve known the majority of the time only some of the tears are for that relationship that ended then. I feel like I need to cry for a year at least. It’s daunting.

I have been married for 49 yrs to a man i thought I knew. He betrayed me by having an affair for 31 years. We moved away from this person some 1200 miles. Her husband dies and she moves to our state 7 miles from our home. My husband has always denied anything between them. Now he has dementia. I suppressed those feelings all those years. Never did I suspect anything. Perhaps I didn’t want to believe that. I am truly experiencing the grief, anger and heartbreak. I purchased this book because I expect I am going to really need to read all of it.

Pain is difficult to address especially if the wound is still there n has not fully healed there’s things only u and God can face unspoken pain …. Be kind to urself heal again your worthy of Love ur worth it Heal

I started crying a few minutes in, and kept crying. This video was very cathartic for me, thank you.

That analogy of the buffalo walking INTO the storm sums me up completely. Whatever bad stuff happens I fall to pieces worrying BUT I head straight toward whatever it is and hang on for dear life ‘til it’s sorted. Sadly my ex was an ostrich - buried his head in the sand thinking the storm wouldn’t find him. It did.

My partner and i getting married, in 2 moths and 3 days ago he got cold feet and hasnt spoken to me for 3 days. Saying he want to find himself. I give him space and just wait for the final blow to me happen. It is like being on the sinking titanic waiting for certain pain before the numbness and quiet. I can't express what this feeling is. Although i cling of the hope that my partner see something after evaluating his decision to still be with us and fight it through. He claims himself for me not being the reason behind it but he feels that the change is scary with all the responsibility. Im not here to shame him or make me seem like the person with more pain then him but i really want this nightmare to end. Thanks for this video it helped me to confront this feeling and it feels already a little better.

Having lost my grandma a few weeks ago, this resonates with me so much. She's the first person I've ever lost in my life and I am still so shocked by how hard it is to let her go. She called me every single day and just knowing someone cared that much to do that made me smile everyday. I've come to realize that the hardest part of life is when the person who gave you so many amazing memories becomes a memory.

Only you can decide when you are ready to heal and move on. It doesn’t take time, it takes you and you being ready! Your heart deserves all the attention you are giving it. Usually an initial heartache opens the chambers to past heartaches so it becomes an entire life healing process. Dig deep! You are worth it! Don’t let anyone rush you or pressure you to go back to “normal” or how things were before you got hurt, either. There is no such thing as normal anyway; trust that the new “healed” you will thrive!! Trust yourself and who you are❤ You are the greatest miracle in the world and someone’s most precious blessing. 🙏🏽

Having to lose a longtime friend or relative that died is a challenge in itself. That being someone you cherished

I am going through heart break since last month after dating someone for 2yrs but he betrayed me. The emotions are raw and are on and off. One minute you are feeling OK, the next you are in a v sad place, v tearful and lost. I am v hopeful I will overcome

I am old enough where I can see things from the end. I have seen these things before and I know what to expect under various situations.. I avoid getting invested until I feel safe. If it falls apart it falls apart. No love lost if it really wasn't there to begin with. I try to discern these things before it goes to far. As a result, people have become very transparent over the years, so I no longer get disappointed.

It's been a couple of days and I finally understand the quote "Nothing takes more patience than trying to heal yourself". I have dated an affluent and very powerful man. We broke up and it just feels like life has no meaning anymore. The worst part is that I know no man is going to compare to him and I can't talk to anyone about it because I have signed an NDA. Maybe no one will see my comment, but I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.

You can see in Matthew's eyes that this is touching for him too. We can actually feel he relates to our pain, that's hardcore empathy and it's really helpfull. Thanks!

A woman was once that voice for me. I hope she stays happy forever and nothing touches her.

I cried. This video is a whole blessing. Yes, David’s analogy, his voice, everything. Thank you ❤

I had just recently confessed to a girl my age that I had strong feelings for her and she had told me she was already committed to a relationship with someone and I felt so numb until I decided to pray to God and I was never a religious person but when I prayed just tingles and shivers ram through me and I just burst into tears and before I had even prayed I wasn’t feeling much I just felt so disconnected

I’ve had more grief/loss/heartbreak than hot dinners, and in many different forms. I thought the suicide of my brother had to be the worst of all and that nothing could touch me after that. Wrong! I also thought that I’d be used to it and therefore each experience would be easier. Wrong again! Would I change anything? No, it’s made me who I am, but of course I didn’t want any of it. Thank you 🙏

Estranged from my adult son is heartbreaking

I cried. Actually, I have been crying from time to time, especially when I think of him. There are so many memories, and everything I see triggers me intensely. I don't know if time can heal me in the end. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends.

I'm not heart broken anymore but I never want to give my heart to any man ever again. I still love people and believe in humanity but I know that there are bad people out there and I'm not taking thst chance again. I now am still learning to love myself and I want my freedom, my dreams, my safety and my self respect. I will never let anyone take that away again

I've been with her for the past 18 years but she decided to be with a younger coworker and never informed me about anything....did everything behind my back... She rejected me.. ignored me... stopped calling me... stopped texting me... stopped seeing me.. she literally removed me from her life...but i forgave her and let her go..i wish her well

Love the buffalo story! I’ve learning that the only way to get through the grief and heartbreak is to let myself go through it with love and care!

I saw myself as a little girl on a mountainside.. I saw my parents walk past and abandon me and within a flash all my abusers use me, hurt me and leave me. God is the only one that hasn’t used me, abused me or left me. I pray my heart will heal from all the grief 🙏🏼

Brothers and sisters, the most difficult thing you face during heart break is that you will not emotionally heal but it's untrue.feelings always change .one of my method when this annoying thought come to my mind I was just rephrasing a single statement to myself which help me out of this emotional hell , and that phrase was"Don't be fooled by the stupidity of your mind."

I have been dealing with a heart break I was feeling anxious I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't concentrate in work it took over me. Everybody in work noticed a change in me but I was too ashamed to tell them it was over an x boyfriend. We think we should be strong enough to deal with a heartbreak but it's too painful. Thank you so much for this video very powerful it really made me think of myself and how I accepted someone who wasn't worthy of having me in their life. I feel empowered now thank you❤

I gave up my whole life for a play boy.. it’s been 12 years I’ve tried counseling break up journals still can’t move on What a big waste of of life I’m mad at myself

I cried for how true this video is… I just had my heartbreak; my boyfriend betrayed me. I’ve been angry for quite some time for what he did. But right when you said “anger is a bodyguard for pain”, I cried instantly. I realized that I avoided the sadness of losing our future together…

2:29 Going into your heart instead of your mind....makes you feel scared and stupid. It hurts beyond words❤💔💔💔💔❤️

Wow, Matthew. I love your amazing storytelling ability as you explain how we feel and why, all the deeper levels we must connect to. I know for me, as a 25 yr old woman, I rarely feel anger. I never was allowed to be angry growing up, so I've always felt very disconnected to it as an emotion. Even when I feel annoyed, I worry more about what a burden that will place on others who perceive me that way. I wonder in what ways I can explore anger in a healthy way, that allows me to understand myself better. Thank you for this realisation ❤

Divine timing❤

I have been going through a heartbreak for a very long time now. I´ve been trying different things to get through it but I always come back to the pain it feels mainly because I´ve been alone for a very long time. My ex girlfriend moved on very fast from our relationship and is now soon to have a baby. Eventhough I am very happy for her, she really deserves a lot of happoiness, I don´t feel I am able to overcome my heartbreak. I once felt it was a something i could control but i still find myself having the same issue, which affects my self confidance and my own self love... for which i have none. It is very tough. But i thank you for your words Matthew. You are very kind.

Heartbreak 💔 if we narrow it down to one simple term, its about not seeing eye to eye or on eye level with a partner. people want to see themselves in others or want to get something they dont have, trying to change them or idealize them, but they have to learn to see the other for who they are and what they bring to your life should be more positive, more good, to enhance your life, not to complete you, not to validate you. You owe it to yourself to feel complete. The other person is to help you be the best version of yourself and vice versa. No person is perfect but the person should be able to perfectly fit in your life organically.

I experienced my 2nd heartbreak at 32 and I hope the pain goes away soon. I just cry and my emotions are up and down and I'm trying to heal and move on and try to be happy and be myself again

Just last night I finally mustered up the courage to break free from a toxic and abusive 2-year relationship with a partner who’s been lying to me since forever. Really difficult what I’m going through right now but it is what it is. Thank goodness I bumped into this video as I start w/ my healing process. It’s gonna be a long bloody one, I know, but I’m confident I will emerge triumphant. So help me God.

I heard about you on social media. Unfortunately I don't speak English🙁 but I'm studying it. However, I listen to you and I hope one day I can understand you completely.

One of the unattended heartbreaks I have... Is having never had someone really value me enough to build or stick around with me for more than a year. It's the grief of being alone 29 years of my life 30 year old life. It's a grief of what I didn't get to feel or trust. Not what I lost ironically.

it's been hard, I was going out with a girl, but she ghosted me, I thought we got along so well, she was a perfect match for me. I haven't been well lately, I trying to keep my mind busy and don't think about it but sometimes in the middle of the day I catch myself thinking about her and what I might did wrong. I hope with time I can heal myself

Thanks to God, I consider myself as a person who really healed moved on. it is just an incredible feeling, it is like you are not caring anymore. 🙏🏽❤️

My husband is leaving after 36 years of marriage. I have never felt this much pain.

Heartbreak and grief i feel is the contribution to the start of that concrete jungle inside of us, you never know what you are going to face next. Matt thankyou