Men Are In For A Rude Awakening?

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@PoiosAftos
@PoiosAftos 7 ай бұрын
Anyone who makes major life decisions based on the Barbie movie, deserves what's coming to them...
@breadbasket37
@breadbasket37 7 ай бұрын
That’s a very astute point. It’s not good to make life decisions based on a silly movie. Nuance is called for here.
@crazyguywatchnu
@crazyguywatchnu 7 ай бұрын
Bingo
@lifesedgeart9303
@lifesedgeart9303 7 ай бұрын
Can you believe that there are people that obtuse who make decisions based around that? It's wild and sad.
@nathanknight6042
@nathanknight6042 7 ай бұрын
Wahmen demand "The BIG Life"... well the average wahman weighs 175 pounds so I think they already are ....
@kennethsmith6367
@kennethsmith6367 7 ай бұрын
These women divorcing men over the Barbie movie are ruining their husbands life. For cash and prizes
@michaelsantangelo7997
@michaelsantangelo7997 7 ай бұрын
I treated my ex-wife with the utmost kindness, understanding, and respect. She cheated on me. Then she wanted to stay married to me and see the other guy too. I divorced her as quickly as I could.
@bogdankovalenko5096
@bogdankovalenko5096 7 ай бұрын
omg what a sick creature
@hwalter5432
@hwalter5432 7 ай бұрын
Not that different from my first- hid the fact she had been screwing around while I was deployed, played me like a damned fool til a former friend told me a couple years later! @@bogdankovalenko5096
@themick6586
@themick6586 7 ай бұрын
My first wife told me she wanted an open marriage, I don't know that she ever cheated, but that alone was enough for me to tell her she needed a divorce. She's now divorced for the third time, having cheated on her next 2 husband's. I remarried 44 years ago to a sane woman and life is good.
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 7 ай бұрын
Women don't like the nice guy
@hwalter5432
@hwalter5432 7 ай бұрын
Very true-UNTIL they have wasted years and have a couple or more kids they need a nice guy to support for them! Suddenly those nice guys they wanted nothing to do with are just what they think they deserve!@@sloanmagnum5009
@MANDAPRORUBENS
@MANDAPRORUBENS 7 ай бұрын
After 23 years of marriage, I got fed up with disrespect and many life changing decisions about our daughter that I was simply not involved in. My daughter sit us together to ask if we both were willing to seek counseling help. Both of us agreed, my wife was tasked with finding a therapist and came back with a lawyer and divorce papers. I was kind, respectful, loving, helped a lot around the house and this is what I got.
@Janthony1977
@Janthony1977 7 ай бұрын
Freedom ain’t free but it’s worth it in the long term.
@DaveMustang74
@DaveMustang74 7 ай бұрын
​@@Janthony1977amen, brother.
@neimadize
@neimadize 6 ай бұрын
Sounds like you married a real winner.
@Joyfullagony
@Joyfullagony 6 ай бұрын
How did your daughter react considering she was under the impression that your wife was on board? Genuinely curious, no pressure.
@akur3578
@akur3578 6 ай бұрын
@@Joyfullagony That would be important to me. Mother tend to be fkn toxic with no reason at all and inherit this to their brat daughters, so yea, I wanne know if she made your daughter a snake too, like so many mothers do it.
@DaveMustang74
@DaveMustang74 7 ай бұрын
I've been married twice. I won't do it a third time. While being with someone you truly love is something so wonderful it's hard to express with words, finding out that you've been played for a fool is equally devastating. I'm so glad I'm not a young man in today's world for so many different reasons.
@oaklandsoldier8520
@oaklandsoldier8520 6 ай бұрын
It's over for us young men. We need to find a new American dream.
@rogueranger7989
@rogueranger7989 6 ай бұрын
Glad to see a Man Learning from their mistakes and moving forward.
@scarletlady3727
@scarletlady3727 6 ай бұрын
It’s not today’s world….the rest of the world is happily married…it’s America …go to eastern countries and see for Yourself
@taras3702
@taras3702 6 ай бұрын
Been married once, and won't be doing that again.
@RUHappyATM
@RUHappyATM 6 ай бұрын
Once is enough, LOL.
@i.am.hodgie
@i.am.hodgie 7 ай бұрын
Women - Get ready for a rude awakening Men - Don’t threaten us with a good time
@stephenfiore9960
@stephenfiore9960 7 ай бұрын
You: You understand the subject
@josephschultz
@josephschultz 7 ай бұрын
oh no don't threaten me with peace quiet time and extra money in my wallet whatever will I do???
@madhatter9001
@madhatter9001 7 ай бұрын
The best thing that could ever happen to Men in America. Divorce is freedom for Men.
@snowmountaingames
@snowmountaingames 7 ай бұрын
10% bmi + 35 years. Believe in me, whit this two you won’t need a lot of money
@Mr.Canuck
@Mr.Canuck 7 ай бұрын
You know youre with the wrong person when...
@BrianWaller-qe7gr
@BrianWaller-qe7gr 7 ай бұрын
That lady is completely clueless. The rude awakening has already happened. Most men are walking away from getting married.
@brent4073
@brent4073 7 ай бұрын
After my divorce, all of my interactions with guys who had already gone through a divorce made so much more sense and seeing how much of a hardass they were was always a question of like 'were they a hardass before the divorce or because of it???" Most likely because of it...
@blackjackjester
@blackjackjester 7 ай бұрын
A woman like this....when she is "finally free to live her biggest life", suddenly gets hit with all of the slings and arrows the guy was quietly taking for years, then realizes that a bottle of wine on a beach is actually not that great....the goes and gets married again to fill the void in her soul. Maybe I'm being a little dramatic
@kubalakhan2
@kubalakhan2 7 ай бұрын
@@blackjackjesterActually it is well spoken with literary prose. The void, the emptiness dug out from her jaws of hunger never to be satiated. What a pathetic existence. You are right, blindness is deceiving
@mrsherwood2599
@mrsherwood2599 7 ай бұрын
I wish you were wrong. I try every day to fight your perspective. Self assessment. Honest reflection. Therapy. Questioning my choices. Holding myself accountable. You're completely right.
@tetedur377
@tetedur377 7 ай бұрын
@@blackjackjester Not by much.
@danieltenebrion9413
@danieltenebrion9413 7 ай бұрын
"They believe it is a feeling." This is exactly how my 5 year long relationship ended. Those that follow their feelings and do not know how to use logic to understand their feelings and why they feel them, they will always betray you. I just wish there was someone out there that wanted to work together and support eachother, instead of selfishly wanting the relationship to be about them..
@bluejaykilla6197
@bluejaykilla6197 7 ай бұрын
Exactly, emotions are more self centered while logic is interpreting reality, ever wonder why for the most part as men we've lead the world while women want to be lead by leaders, who interpreted everything.
@hainleysimpson1507
@hainleysimpson1507 Ай бұрын
Bluejaykilla Women are lazy in general.
@joesanchez1953
@joesanchez1953 6 ай бұрын
When you said people are not ready for marriage and aren’t educated in conflict resolution that hit the nail on the head for me. I hit a brick wall in my first marriage and didn’t know how to communicate to my wife that I needed help and she didn’t know how to communicate her own feelings and we went from a happy married couple to a miserable married couple that divorced after 4 years. I wish I knew then what I know today.
@koolandblue
@koolandblue 7 ай бұрын
Good rule of thumb- if a woman is highly active on TikTok, then that's a huge red flag. Nothing good comes from TikTok.
@alaskayoung3413
@alaskayoung3413 7 ай бұрын
Tik tok brain rot is sooo real.
@ItIsMeJamesE
@ItIsMeJamesE 7 ай бұрын
Any form of tiktok activity is
@PCGamer77
@PCGamer77 7 ай бұрын
Also: Instagram, Snapchat, Tinder, Bumble.
@espada9
@espada9 7 ай бұрын
Any social media.
@LordHolley
@LordHolley 7 ай бұрын
nailed it!!!
@qb4428
@qb4428 7 ай бұрын
Courtney, it is not "bitter" to point out the objective reality that men have been incentivized to not marry. We saw what the system did to our dads, uncles, brothers, coworkers, etc. Having basic self-preservation instincts isn't "bitter."
@elrobbio1
@elrobbio1 7 ай бұрын
I resemble that remark. With my ex wife for 17 years. It ended badly as it usually does. After family tragedy she wanted to escape and move to California. That wasn’t a plan. Also, we aren’t American so it would require immigration. I told her use emigrating and me finding work and making a life for us isn’t a plan, it’s reckless. So she went on a work retreat there and what a shock, found a wealthy American getting divorced. She left me for him 2 weeks before our 17th anniversary and they are now married. Big shock. And of course all the divorce BS ensued. She claimed that I was abusive and controlling, those allegations disappeared when there was no evidence and her own story conflicted itself. I was never abusive. She also emptied the bank account, took loans and lines of credit in our joint names and racked up credit card bills so she could afford the move. I got saddled with a ton of it as I was the primary earner and the govt considered all debt joint. She defaulted and her side of the debt was written off after she left the county as she claimed she was disabled and not working. Not true. But when you’re across an international border and not planning to return they can’t get you. I am still financially struggling but far happier with my new partner. Wish my ex hadn’t turned out the way she did.
@qb4428
@qb4428 7 ай бұрын
@@elrobbio1 But, of course, Courtney will just call you bitter for pointing out these systemic flaws.
@jus4000kicks
@jus4000kicks 7 ай бұрын
As demonstrated by Courtney herself though, its not impossible. Its just hard to find a good person. The culture is against us at the moment but things are changing and people are starting to wake up. Giving up on yourself and women is not going to make things better in the long run. For the moment it may but not so much forever. If you have no one to live for but yourself that becomes a very lonely and purposeless existence.
@jared3235
@jared3235 7 ай бұрын
I agree with you. Men need to step it up. But an individual can only control him or herself. If I was a woman, looking for a lifetime partner, I would consider the differences between being a mother for a man and being a wife. It’s not a woman’s responsibility to get a man to grow up. I think men need more than ever today is better mentors.
@jus4000kicks
@jus4000kicks 7 ай бұрын
@@jared3235 Agreed. But while it isn't their responsibility there are things women can do to encourage a man's growth. Whining and complaining like a baby doesn't encourage men to man up. It just makes the woman look like a spoiled child. A women can encourage men and call attention to their better nature. And if they learn how to be a dignified balanced women of character - that also encourages men to be better. That is what makes a woman truly beautiful. If a man sees no beauty in women, he's not going to be attracted and encouraged to man up.
@unc1221
@unc1221 7 ай бұрын
Two words: “Passport Bros.” I wish the men who choose to stay the best of luck.
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp 5 ай бұрын
they are fools, the ones who stay.
@Ghostrider-ul7xn
@Ghostrider-ul7xn 2 ай бұрын
This is the way, but I'm afraid soon this market is going to get corrupted too
@smathet7766
@smathet7766 7 ай бұрын
I completely agree that you need to be happy with yourself and being alone, before you get into a relationship. I’ve personally have noticed Narcissism is on the rise, especially in women!
@RUHappyATM
@RUHappyATM 6 ай бұрын
I don't think women can stand being alone. That's why most have cats.
@daishan1234
@daishan1234 5 ай бұрын
women can't be alone. they aren't designed for it. a man should know how to be alone. a woman should stay in her fathers household until she's ready to marry. to say that a woman should know how to be alone is essentially the same thing as saying that a woman should know how to be a man.
@kelleychilton2524
@kelleychilton2524 2 ай бұрын
@@RUHappyATM They also can't handle rejection ... or the word "no"
@hainleysimpson1507
@hainleysimpson1507 Ай бұрын
Single motherhood did this.
@drip369
@drip369 7 ай бұрын
Demanding more while giving basically nothing 👌 L
@ThZuao
@ThZuao 7 ай бұрын
Basically the Brazillian Tragedy. Everyone wants to earn more and work less for it and that's why everything's shit.
@knockout4291
@knockout4291 7 ай бұрын
Pretty much
@knockout4291
@knockout4291 7 ай бұрын
Requesting more while also inquiring to do less
@rico_red6788
@rico_red6788 7 ай бұрын
Well said 👏🏽
@clarkkent2005
@clarkkent2005 7 ай бұрын
What’s the whole thing with the Barbie movie? I never saw it
@Niek1001
@Niek1001 7 ай бұрын
I think we already had our "rude awakening" and we are adjusting to it this very moment.
@SwedishEmpire1700
@SwedishEmpire1700 7 ай бұрын
MeToo saw to that
@stevengiles346
@stevengiles346 7 ай бұрын
Ditto. The more interaction I have with women I find they are more and more un-likable. I don’t hate women. I just steer clear of them.
@CorporationSKY
@CorporationSKY 7 ай бұрын
They still think men are idiots like we havent been dealing with this "rude" awakening since the "We can do it" lesbian chick posters in WW2 era They tricked women into not being good people and trusting the common protective man and 80yrs later were stil ldealing with dumb ass brainwashed little girls
@hhkk6155
@hhkk6155 7 ай бұрын
💯
@seriouscat2231
@seriouscat2231 7 ай бұрын
Smart people are in for a rude awakening. Dumb people are not. I think this summarizes the original video and the commentary pretty well.
@mikemuha7537
@mikemuha7537 7 ай бұрын
My ex looked me straight in the eye and said,"I want you to understand that you are the one responsible for the demise of the marriage. That I was 💯 at fault." I do claim 51% responsible, but boy, she is in for a rude awakening!
@fleetinghopes6448
@fleetinghopes6448 7 ай бұрын
some of them do a lot of projection
@dr.redphdleasurestudies.5399
@dr.redphdleasurestudies.5399 6 ай бұрын
Yup.
@johnx140
@johnx140 9 күн бұрын
She will never be happy.
@naykidape9774
@naykidape9774 7 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂 I love this, ive seen older women getting pissed when they realise they cant get the ken they thought they deserved… so delusional
@bigal_5585
@bigal_5585 7 ай бұрын
"Blaming someone else for your unhappiness is delusional" Those are some strong but really true words.
@YouilAushana
@YouilAushana 6 ай бұрын
Some of us went through severe unspeakable issues.
@curtiscruz8071
@curtiscruz8071 6 ай бұрын
That's life for some. Are you going to allow yourself to live as a victim in your mind for the rest of your life? No, don't sully your mind to such thoughts. Rise, and prevail to become great.
@virn333
@virn333 6 ай бұрын
Say that to a r*pe victim
@Wolffur
@Wolffur 6 ай бұрын
Life is unfair. Some are born with a silver spoon in their mouths, others into beggary. Some win the genetic lottery, others are born deformed. Some have the means to improve their lives, others do not.
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp 5 ай бұрын
it's what women do. they are CHIDLISH. most women do not mature past age 16 until they reach age 50.
@meisdetermined
@meisdetermined 7 ай бұрын
I was at a wedding and the man who was officiating said “most people think marriage is a treasure chest that they are able to get whatever they need out of. While that is true, it is important to understand that the treasure chest is empty and it is the husband and the wife’s mission to constantly be adding to the chest, always putting more in than they take out. If both people commit to doing so then it will never be empty”
@cardsfan5100
@cardsfan5100 7 ай бұрын
That’s wonderful. I like it.
@obtuseobserver
@obtuseobserver 7 ай бұрын
This is pretty good. I am going to copy this down and keep it in mind. Cheers!
@MLI0369
@MLI0369 7 ай бұрын
That’s beautiful man.
@DeltaVe
@DeltaVe 7 ай бұрын
That's really great stuff. Because if both people treat it like the Jamestown community storehouse, taking more than they put in, then eventually both partners will be left with nothing and both blaming the other for the lack.
@tetedur377
@tetedur377 7 ай бұрын
Today's women are committed to their man filling the chest, while they take from it.
@warwizard217
@warwizard217 6 ай бұрын
"The Great Divorce" Would mean thousands of men finally get peace lol.
@modestmouse2889
@modestmouse2889 3 ай бұрын
YOU'RE A GD PROPHET, BRO
@fredcarpenter1027
@fredcarpenter1027 7 ай бұрын
My mother has been married and divorced 4 times and blames all the men. Trust me, it was her not keeping her legs closed.
@FlyiDCG
@FlyiDCG 6 ай бұрын
We cant pick our mothers, bro that has to be very annoying.
@victoriaporsiempre
@victoriaporsiempre 2 ай бұрын
i wonder what kind of concept of women do you have 🤔since you talk about your mother like that
@justaskin8523
@justaskin8523 Ай бұрын
@@victoriaporsiempre - It's either what you said or he was just saying facts and you can't handle the truth.
@hainleysimpson1507
@hainleysimpson1507 Ай бұрын
@victoriaporsiempre So you're saying he should lie about how bad his mother was? Why should he protect someone who makes stupid choices?
@RB-bx7dv
@RB-bx7dv 7 ай бұрын
I tried my best for years to save my marriage, but my wife divorced me anyway. Everything is going great for me. I am retired and have time to do all the things I had given up during 22 years of marriage. I'm dating a girl who is 15 years younger and loves having sex all the time. Meanwhile, my ex is miserable and completely lost in life. She now knows I was not to blame for all of her unhappiness. I still believe staying married is best for everyone, and wish we could have sorted things out, but it takes 2 to make it work. Women can demand and blame and divorce all they want, but be careful what you wish for.
@patrioticaussiesams8581
@patrioticaussiesams8581 7 ай бұрын
WHATEVER YOU DO DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES WHATSOEVER GET MARRIED EVER AGAIN
@SRC692
@SRC692 7 ай бұрын
Glad to hear you have a great comeback story! Cheers! 🍻
@MarieNeco
@MarieNeco 7 ай бұрын
How old is she
@crummyoldbreadman
@crummyoldbreadman 7 ай бұрын
Your story my friend is one I hear a great deal oft repeated a great many many times.
@Drunkmonk2122
@Drunkmonk2122 7 ай бұрын
Your a king and your son or daughter should be proud of the man you are your ex wife is lost without your broski
@benaud5790
@benaud5790 7 ай бұрын
I cannot help but feel many people are delusional. But those who blame one sex - those very individuals are responsible for their own misery.
@thepragmatist
@thepragmatist 7 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@buckjones4901
@buckjones4901 7 ай бұрын
I think that woman was sleeping with to many "chads".
@cleanslate2247
@cleanslate2247 7 ай бұрын
That's the whole thing on the imbalance of contributions made to the relationship. One person can be contributing more, but the other one STILL is mad because in their deluded mind, they are getting the short end of the stick, or wants and desires unmet.... And want the more giving person to give MORE..... And you can't break their delusion.
@bigneiltoo
@bigneiltoo 7 ай бұрын
In a zero sum game one side is to blame. Only 2% of women are interested in the average man. Womwn find 80% of men ugly Women all think they are 10s. Body positivity? High body count ok?
@bigneiltoo
@bigneiltoo 7 ай бұрын
If 80% of taxpayers are called ugly and notice, they are not to blame.
@InfiniteBumblebee337
@InfiniteBumblebee337 7 ай бұрын
I was kind, loving and supportive throughout our relationship. She came to blame me for everything wrong in her life going back to her childhood. She left convinced all would be right in her world if she were on her own. It's not, but it sure has improved my life. Women need marriage far more than men. Men, protect yourselves.
@MickeyDC-om3pv
@MickeyDC-om3pv 6 ай бұрын
Divorce is a rude awakening due to the laws. Do not get married. Avoid any rude awakening.
@Jagshemasher
@Jagshemasher 7 ай бұрын
Anyone who's idea of being mistreated is not "living the big life" has a sense of entitlement that is off the charts. If you want "the big life" go out to work for it yourself and see how much it takes to provide that level of income.
@squiggs1002
@squiggs1002 7 ай бұрын
pretty much this. I know a woman who divorced an engineer because she was not leading the big lifestyle that she thought she was going to get. She got a rude awakening that a 30 + year old single mom with 2 kids has a very low dating value. Fast forward 20 years. her adult kids hate her because she was never around when they were growing up , she lives in a small apartment working a close to minimum wage level job. Meanwhile her ex started his own company and is a multimillionaire. He married a woman 15 years younger. So she left him and her big life that she thought she was going to lead was a nightmare since she could not finance it and then men who could had zero interest in her..
@rhadiem
@rhadiem 7 ай бұрын
Realizing that you might not get the "big life" you dreamed about is called becoming an ADULT. For this woman to realize this in her 30s means she's had a very privileged and protected life.
@Jagshemasher
@Jagshemasher 7 ай бұрын
@@rhadiemAbsolutely - clearly someone who has never actually had to work to provide the lifestyle she enjoys . . . . . years of 12-16 hour days that it actually takes to get to that point.
@johnkammer4754
@johnkammer4754 7 ай бұрын
Bingo!!!
@Trizzer89
@Trizzer89 7 ай бұрын
Our whole lives have been a rude awakening. There is literally nothing else you can do to us. These women are the only ones being surprised
@whenpigsfly3271
@whenpigsfly3271 6 ай бұрын
That's right. Women treat us like 💩 for 70+ years and are just now surprised that we don't come out to play? Fk them.
@fearthemerciful
@fearthemerciful 6 ай бұрын
This. If the goal was to get men to change, it was a complete failure. I have become more conservative, not less.
@taras3702
@taras3702 6 ай бұрын
When enough men join the far right, and seize power, it will be worse than a rude awakening for women. Try being Wile E Coyote when the train hits him.
@dycedargselderbrother5353
@dycedargselderbrother5353 6 ай бұрын
​@@fearthemerciful In the past 5-10 years "repeal the 19th" went from being an ironic meme comment meant to intentionally draw ire to something that garners some level of unironic agreement, even with some women. I'm not saying I personally agree or disagree with the sentiment, but the overton window has clearly shifted on the proposition, and not in the direction demanding women featured in this video wanted it to go.
@dr.redphdleasurestudies.5399
@dr.redphdleasurestudies.5399 6 ай бұрын
Passport bros exist for a reasons and misandry is top of the list.
@jessewilliams8038
@jessewilliams8038 6 ай бұрын
"But the barbie movie said so" Me after watching spiderman: 🏢🤸
@user-og5qp4rn8o
@user-og5qp4rn8o 7 ай бұрын
Not only is marriage over with, relationships themselves are on the ropes. People like simplicity and as this stuff just keeps getting more and more complex most people just won’t bother. Incubators are the future. Maybe it’s for the best.
@boston312
@boston312 6 ай бұрын
you hit the nail on the head. After chasing career and relationships during my 20s (all which failed by the way). i was headed towards a heart attack. I told myself never again, for now on i will live in peace. Now that im in my 40s i have no regrets living a stress free life as i watch all my peers keep chasing the dream (careers, marriages, debt, etc)
@Chet_24
@Chet_24 7 ай бұрын
Men are literally moving to different continents to avoid women with this mentality. Not all are like this, and it's unfortunate that some women are ruining things for the decent ones here.
@thatguy9088
@thatguy9088 7 ай бұрын
It's not going to change until the good women hold the bad ones accountable, and that's a long shot. So I don't expect this to change anytime soon, and I find it utterly hilarious.
@CorporationSKY
@CorporationSKY 7 ай бұрын
​@@thatguy9088it's like the pavement is scorching outside, but they refuse to put on shoes...and I can't figure out why? It's freezing in the house but they won't adjust the the thermostats.. They are driving on E but refuse to put gas in the car... 3 percent but refuse to charge her phone Tired as all get out before bed, but chugging coffee... I just don't get it. And some how so many woVen keep getting the same wrong answer
@SRC692
@SRC692 7 ай бұрын
Exactly, I plan on joining that crew in 2024. Got a few loose ends to fix here in America and then I'll be golden to start my journey. Not to mention with more traditional women the cost of living is cheaper and the culture is much healthier overall
@joanofarcxxi
@joanofarcxxi 7 ай бұрын
Women in different continents have their own agenda. They have several eggs in their basket and will go for the highest bidder. Statistics show that those mail order bride marriages have higher divorce rates. Men are chasing a fantasy. You will never find the right one until you become the right one. There are plenty of amazing women on your street but you don't even notice them.
@ArmyWolves
@ArmyWolves 7 ай бұрын
I really do feel bad for the decent women as the bad apples make it difficult to find them and also many chameleons move and look like decent women until they show their true colors and ruin that man's life and have made men generally skeptical about modern, western women and would opt to go overseas where the culture,laws etc incentivize marriage and family But that said, many men have been ruined to the point of unsubscribing from life because they faced risk of imprisonment if they fell back on alimony/child support or were homeless after divorce or the pain of the betrayal and alienation from their children was too much to bear... So many won't even roll the dice in the west even with a prenup or other assurances.
@drip369
@drip369 7 ай бұрын
Isn't it hilarious that women think they are in control of things that they have absolutely no control over? Give it 10 years, she will be the one having the crude wakening
@timothybogle1461
@timothybogle1461 7 ай бұрын
Exactly! How can the great divorce happen if men refuse to get married.
@ThZuao
@ThZuao 7 ай бұрын
10 is quite optimistic. 5. Being generous.
@SL-lb6lz
@SL-lb6lz 7 ай бұрын
Maybe even 0.. Can't see why anyone would want her even now with those looks and poor attitude.@@ThZuao
@drip369
@drip369 7 ай бұрын
@@ThZuao no she looks old enough that it would only take two years for her to hit the wall but the girls in her audience need at least 10 years to realize they've been lied to and they are far less desirable now 10 years later
@byronrush9802
@byronrush9802 7 ай бұрын
​@@ThZuaono 3 she's about to hit the wall
@Whatreally123
@Whatreally123 7 ай бұрын
My most serious relationship where i dated a woman who had a really toxic abusive relationship. I was the stupid Knight in Shining Armour who believed i could take care of her. But as time went on and i did take care of her and her confidence built-up, ahe cheated on me. She literally was the abused who turned into the abuser. Broke me. I have dated since but the world has gotten crazy and i just dont want to olay the game anymore.
@johnatspray
@johnatspray 6 ай бұрын
This is sooooo balanced and nuanced… I’m blown away. I wish more content about relationships should be like this 👌
@TheWinterfox10
@TheWinterfox10 7 ай бұрын
The reason relationship skills aren't being taught is because pointing out the ways someone is screwing up makes them extremely uncomfortable. That woman (talking about the rude awakening men are going to get) is the kind of person who goes through life believing that she's going to get what she wants, when she wants it. Telling someone "no" isn't the same as controlling them.
@rodjohnson989
@rodjohnson989 7 ай бұрын
When we were still together, my ex-wife had a laundry list of what she thought were a husband's responsibilities. After a few years of doing my best to meet those expectations but always falling short somehow, I asked her what a wife's responsibilities were in a marriage. She couldn't even lie and make something up. Like it was physically impossible for her to verbally commit to anything I might expect from her later. After trying to fix things for years for our kids, and her breaking up and getting back together with me repeatedly, I finally ended things for good. I was hurting the kids more by allowing her to yoyo back and forth, than by ending things. Historically it was always women that wanted marriage. IF the Great Divorce really is a thing, they're going to be the ones to regret it the most.
@WhiteGirlHeaven
@WhiteGirlHeaven 7 ай бұрын
The statement that "historically it was always women who wanted marriage" is not specifically factual. Marriage has been a social institution with varying expectations and motivations for both men and women throughout history and across different cultures. The idea that only women have historically wanted marriage is an oversimplification.
@WhiteGirlHeaven
@WhiteGirlHeaven 7 ай бұрын
Gender Roles: Traditional gender roles have been a part of many societies, and these roles have evolved over time. Historically, gender roles within marriage often dictated that men were responsible for providing for the family financially, while women were responsible for homemaking and child-rearing. However, these roles have changed significantly in many parts of the world over the past century, with increasing gender equality and shared responsibilities.
@bogdankovalenko5096
@bogdankovalenko5096 7 ай бұрын
@@WhiteGirlHeaven do you mean men started giving birth to kids? 🤣🤣
@WhiteGirlHeaven
@WhiteGirlHeaven 7 ай бұрын
@@bogdankovalenko5096That's incorrect.
@baddolphin1423
@baddolphin1423 7 ай бұрын
I will correct you my friend: the bride's father/male guardian wanted marriage the most :)). For obvious reasons. Women just want protection and support as far as I observed. In modern times, in modern places, that's provided by the govt. It is the subpar alternative, but it provides a choice where there was none 100 years before. The main reasons for men to get married was: the threat from the father/legal guardian, and the concocted system or religion (and the threat of some form of Hell). Boils down to threats :). Why a man in the last 50 years felt the need to get married, is beyond me. Probably inertia. That guilt tripping with religion. You can help your offspring even if you don't have some govt paper/sky daddy blessing with the mother. No marriage needed. And probably some delude fellows believed it means free sex. With the advent of better information we have learned that's exactly the opposite.
@JCILEndTimesMinistry
@JCILEndTimesMinistry 7 ай бұрын
Everything is the man’s fault (sarcasm). A woman can cheat and she’d get upset that her husband looked through her phone vs taking responsibility for her actions. This will never change. I do agree with you. I was raised in Church, very traditional. My mom and dad were married for 30 years until my mom passed away with colon cancer so I have a sense of what it should look like.
@Dissacharide
@Dissacharide 7 ай бұрын
I will not accept people into my life who don't treat me how they would like to be treated, and that has elminated most people. No one-sided relationships, never.
@fleetinghopes6448
@fleetinghopes6448 7 ай бұрын
💯💯💯
@mentalstatement
@mentalstatement 7 ай бұрын
As someone once said, if a society sells more adult diapers than baby diapers, they are in trouble
@azmike3572
@azmike3572 7 ай бұрын
The point is valid, but of course the need for adult diapers is due to medical conditions.
@treehouse8501
@treehouse8501 7 ай бұрын
Confucius say
@Godfailedyoustophumpinghisleg
@Godfailedyoustophumpinghisleg 7 ай бұрын
But hey maybe if society sold more adult diapers (for whatever gdamn reason) in committed monogamous relationships the result is the same. The problem is perceived sexual deviance but the lack of ability to develop commitment or loyalty. If the church couples and the BDSM couples divorce at the same rates then maybe we shouldn't be laying morality at the feet of one thing or the other, but understand the underpinning of communities which starts at the family which starts between a commitment of two people to join together, sick or well, diapers or latex, death do part Yada Yada Yada.
@_x_m_m_6976
@_x_m_m_6976 7 ай бұрын
@@azmike3572 Of course of course, but, if you expand on the point further, there is an even more interesting implication: Since the adult diapers are needed for medical conditions usually related to aging, the saying might as well be interpreted as 'If society has more pensioners than babies, they are in trouble'. Which is a problem in many ways directly related to the issues discussed in the video. My point being: we are all fucked either way lol
@CosmosChill7649
@CosmosChill7649 7 ай бұрын
This should work: "50% are going to get divorced in affluent societies nowadays and and lose half their wealth through alimony"
@Danny_Deleto
@Danny_Deleto 7 ай бұрын
A lot of men don't want to get married after watching a massive amount of men get destroyed in divorce. If the "Great Divorce" happens, I believe the majority of men will lose interest in marriage, maybe even relationships, altogether.
@johncoviello8570
@johncoviello8570 7 ай бұрын
It’s already happening. The younger generations of men are wising up that many marriages lead to a spouse that cheats, checks out of the marriage, and ultimately takes half their money in the divorce proceedings. I’m not saying all marriages are doomed, as I’ve been married for 20 years, but there’s certainly a lot of people that don’t take it seriously. Many don’t understand what it takes to be committed to a long-term relationship. From what I hear. many are just checking out of the whole idea of getting married and are staying single.
@TexasLonghornRanch
@TexasLonghornRanch 7 ай бұрын
If the “great divorce” takes place. Young men will quit getting married. The problem of single mothers will get worse.
@briancarton1804
@briancarton1804 7 ай бұрын
Call girls are cheaper. Marriage is just tooooo risky for men today.
@Patriot1792
@Patriot1792 7 ай бұрын
The great divorce has already happened 😂 we learned from our fathers mistakes and now it’s our turn to get the last laugh
@HerrenGamingNews
@HerrenGamingNews 7 ай бұрын
​@johncoviello8570 I'm fortunate that I make enough money to hire a professional. I'm not proud of hiring one, but it fills my needs with no strings attached. No ghosting, no feelings, no drama, I get hot young women and I'm treated like a king.
@mustangmikep51
@mustangmikep51 5 ай бұрын
the "living the BIG life" quote is exactly why women have initiated 80% of all divorces...too much social media B.S. too many un-realistic expectations from too many self-centered "Barbie" "Princesses" out there for my liking....but you DO make some good points in this video I admit
@Wolffur
@Wolffur 6 ай бұрын
When they start getting a bit too long in the tooth for dating, and men stop sliding into their dm's they will also receive a rude awakening of their own. "What mother nature gives, father time takes. With interest."
@rogerdaly6326
@rogerdaly6326 7 ай бұрын
Someone once told me that marriage in a nutshell is women get married hoping to change a man , and men get married hoping the woman will never change.
@sluggo562
@sluggo562 6 ай бұрын
Sure, but the most insidious part of that isn't her changing him. It's how when they do successfully change the man they're so often no longer attracted to the soft guy they turned him into. There's no outcome which makes them truly happy with him.
@swedensy
@swedensy 6 ай бұрын
He is Tom Leykis.
@OdinsCloud
@OdinsCloud 4 ай бұрын
Wise person.
@user-dy2zy8rd2t
@user-dy2zy8rd2t 4 ай бұрын
BOTH delusional
@lokidarkbeard2647
@lokidarkbeard2647 7 ай бұрын
I've had this happen to me personally. I was willing to work with my ex on her traumas and issues, but as soon as one of mine came up she dropped me. Women are just not willing to put in as much as men. They've been told to expect everything and tolerate nothing by the media, influencers, and their environment. The great divorce is coming, but it's not coming from the women. It's coming from the men who are not willing to date the women like this.
@WolfStory
@WolfStory 7 ай бұрын
Amen!
@drayke6936
@drayke6936 7 ай бұрын
Exactly
@josiahkuhn5239
@josiahkuhn5239 7 ай бұрын
Completely agree. I’m divorcing my wife because she contributes nothing to the relationship. And after she cut off sex, she contributed less than nothing to the relationship. I will never get married again
@jamesg3808
@jamesg3808 7 ай бұрын
This sounds terrible, but I almost don't want to date any woman who says she has "trauma" because those women almost always use that as an excuse for bad behavior. Personally, I have certainly dealt with my own "trauma," but I am mature enough to not allow it to enslave me or spill over into a relationship.
@keithcourneya4900
@keithcourneya4900 7 ай бұрын
Its hilarious how they talk about therapy but they never do the real work therapy requires (i did a few years of therapy due to my experiences in the afghan war). Much easier to call everyone else a narcissist cause you scroll through toxic therapy articles written by people who arent even qualified than to take a hard and uncomfortable look at yourself.
@user-cs9lq5eg8p
@user-cs9lq5eg8p 6 ай бұрын
You can't get divorced if you don't get married in the first place.
@ColMustangsGlove
@ColMustangsGlove 7 ай бұрын
I believe your main point of we as a people are unprepared in what it means to be married and the level of commitment requires for it is spot on. Your commentary on being accountable to yourself and your choices is very spot on. There are some cases where it is very one sided for both men and women but a lot of times it’s both people in the relationship failing to bring their 100% to the relationship (people mistakenly think it’s a 50/50 when it’s supposed to be 100/100).
@steveo4749
@steveo4749 6 ай бұрын
My parents said that in marriage, each partner needs to give 110% and expect 50%. You will rarely be disappointed with that attitude. Marriage is a lot of work and expectations need to be realistic. You can't expect circus thrills every day.
@scratch57
@scratch57 7 ай бұрын
she's describing a mass-exodus from marriage. men are way ahead of that curve.
@hotpockets69
@hotpockets69 7 ай бұрын
If y'all don't want to be married, you can't complain if a woman who's looking for a serious relationship passes on you.
@scratch57
@scratch57 7 ай бұрын
@@hotpockets69 this seems unrelated
@psychoticmortacarn
@psychoticmortacarn 7 ай бұрын
@@hotpockets69Mathematically impossible
@DeadCat-42
@DeadCat-42 7 ай бұрын
clueless response. Only It's d the guys who WANT RELATIONSHIPS giving up. The Players and felons are happy with the situation. @@hotpockets69
@swedishpagan2150
@swedishpagan2150 7 ай бұрын
@@hotpockets69 who asked for this comment, and who was complaining :D
@josiah5776
@josiah5776 7 ай бұрын
Way ahead of you, ladies. I gave up on women a long, long time ago. Enjoy yourselves. It's all in your hands now. Make it all happen ... on your own.
@tommytomhan
@tommytomhan 7 ай бұрын
I gave up almost 20 years ago after being married 3 times.
@RobertFalconer1967
@RobertFalconer1967 7 ай бұрын
Bingo. Remember, men: no marriage, no cohabitation...no exceptions. This video just underlines why.
@StarWindEnergin
@StarWindEnergin 7 ай бұрын
Yeah I was thinking during the opening rants "men are in for a rude awakening? You're right! Awaking to the fact that modern relationships suck and marriage is signing yourself up for use and abuse on a daily basis"
@tommytomhan
@tommytomhan 7 ай бұрын
@@StarWindEnergin Yep, there is just no upside for men to marry. Statistically we just lose big if we end up divorced. Unless she is a crackhead prostitute that is homeless and mentally ill she will win in court. You can lose your home, half of your pension and a lot of your current salary. I was lucky with my marriages, only one was long term and at that time I was not financially stable and my house had little equity. If I was young now I would not marry and if in a state that recognized "common law" marriage I would not live with a woman.
@SlenderEnderBros
@SlenderEnderBros 7 ай бұрын
@@tommytomhanmy god and I sit here to myself thinking I can’t even get a single girlfriend. Is it worth going through that pain?
@michaelrodriguez3329
@michaelrodriguez3329 7 ай бұрын
I met this guy about a yr ago. He told me he was married 4x . And he had 11 children thru his 4 wives. After hearing that. I count my blessings every day that I never got married. Even though I am fifty four years old.
@GenericMedusa99
@GenericMedusa99 6 ай бұрын
men were in this rude awakening even before the marriage..... its just now with social media most men are better aware so we know its not worth to marry
@MrBdiddypop
@MrBdiddypop 7 ай бұрын
I totally agree with this. Blaming men is embracing a stereotype.
@toasttoast789
@toasttoast789 7 ай бұрын
Once you can find a woman that appreciates all your hard work then we can talk. Was with my ex for 14 years and two kids. I paid for everything. Kept her car running , roof over her head, and food in the fridge. Cheated on me with a guy who still lives in his moms house. Good luck don’t pick a girl who demands the world because they can’t give it back that’s for sure
@cunjoz
@cunjoz 7 ай бұрын
it really doesn't matter does it? it seems it can happen to anyone with anyone. like, many times you'll hear that women will go for a man that's better looking and has more financial resources, but there's plenty of examples of it happening in the way it happened to you. then you ask yourself what's even the point of becoming a high value man when either you'll get cheated on as a HVM, or you can participate in cheating as not a HVM.
@stormchaser419
@stormchaser419 7 ай бұрын
Exactly and it's why I checked out on women many years ago.@@cunjoz
@Nick2quickOfficial
@Nick2quickOfficial 6 ай бұрын
@@cunjoz the game is rigged #leavethewest
@shin-ishikiri-no
@shin-ishikiri-no 6 ай бұрын
​@@cunjozEveryone should be cheating, unless you want to become bitter volcel.
@BinodiniMahapatra-pz7vv
@BinodiniMahapatra-pz7vv 6 ай бұрын
​@@shin-ishikiri-nopathetic
@justaskin8523
@justaskin8523 Ай бұрын
One of my very best friends, a lady, once told me that she couldn't imagine being with the same person for her whole life. A few months after that, her relationship with her fiance completely broke down and failed, and he left shortly afterward. Once she made the decision to have her engagement/wedding ring reconfigured into a regular lady's ring with beautiful stones in it, she broke down and cried. You're absolutely right, Courtney; most people don't really understand the whole " 'till death do us part" aspect of marriage.
@moleahy6880
@moleahy6880 7 ай бұрын
From an older guy to the younger guys - Whenever women makes comments or big pronouncements such as a rude awakening, you should take those with a very healthy dose of skepticism. Women speak far far more figuratively than we do and much less literally. Here's a good example of that - When a woman claims a guy is a jerk or he treated her like "crap", what she often really means is that he didn't treat her like a princess, didn't fawn all over her, didn't put her up on a pedestal, and didn't really spend any money on her. He also likely refused to marry her or give her any real commitment. I don't call that treating her like "crap". I say that he is a real man who establishes boundaries, isn't someone who is easily bullied and shamed, and prioritizes his own needs and wants. Be that kind of man.
@anthonyhuber-permanentlyre7808
@anthonyhuber-permanentlyre7808 7 ай бұрын
*When a woman says she is being "controlled by money" what she really means is he is not giving her his money that she feels entitled too.* Gender equality means no freebies for any women, regardless of how attractive she is.
@WolfStory
@WolfStory 7 ай бұрын
Quote of the day right here.
@benaud5790
@benaud5790 7 ай бұрын
I have always found the idea of financial abuse as curious.
@Keiron-pw6sl
@Keiron-pw6sl 7 ай бұрын
💯
@anthonyhuber-permanentlyre7808
@anthonyhuber-permanentlyre7808 7 ай бұрын
@@benaud5790 *It's just shamming language to extract resources from the man.*
@thrilla72
@thrilla72 7 ай бұрын
​@@benaud5790it does happen but as usual, those who cry wolf ruin it for the legitimate people.
@nme2nv194
@nme2nv194 7 ай бұрын
The most important thing I learned from consuming social media, is that the more extreme a belief is the more likely there’s an agenda, and it’s usually a divisive one. Critical thinking is extremely important.
@ge3346
@ge3346 6 ай бұрын
W3men "men are in for a rude awakening, women are done." Men: "you're late as usual, we're way ahead of you😂"
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp 5 ай бұрын
😁😁😁
@maurothiagobarbosa
@maurothiagobarbosa 7 ай бұрын
So true Courtney. I really appreciate you talking some sense about this issue. 👏🏼
@infinitedurr
@infinitedurr 7 ай бұрын
Courtney absolutely nailing it as usual, bringing a balanced, nuanced, and honest assessment of the situation. We are in a culture filled with emotionally immature and unhealthy people with massively distorted expectations. It’s society wide, both sexes, and not taking accountability for that is causing massive social decay. Everybody wants to point the finger, nobody wants to take ownership
@hallowrant8091
@hallowrant8091 7 ай бұрын
I want you to specifically name what the majority of men are doing wrong. Be very specific
@pace1195
@pace1195 7 ай бұрын
@@hallowrant8091 Sadly, @infinitedurr is correct. Victim blaming is the name of the game today. If anyone takes any accountability, they are shunned and cancelled into oblivion as the scapegoat for all of society's problems. Better to double down, triple down, etc. until the heat is off you and on to someone else. Men, especially last century, held the most prominent positions of government, corporations, religious, and charitable institutions. We know what is best for society and families, but the patriarchy threw that away for appeasement, votes, cheaper labor, more validation, and more income. Women are more likely to spend money, attend religious services, volunteer for charitable organizations, not ask for raises at work, and vote for their own interests. The patriarchy said "Yes" to women's FOMO in society and caused many of the laws, rules, norms, and precedents which have led to the massive social decay stated above. And, it will not get better until the great divorce stated in the video.
@poligon333
@poligon333 7 ай бұрын
Never go full simp
@CatGamer-wc2ij
@CatGamer-wc2ij 7 ай бұрын
Please explain how it's okay to victim-blame most men, or explain how they fk up?
@JB-mg5lw
@JB-mg5lw 7 ай бұрын
The videos by men are about how they are moving on and had enough of the games, the videos the women make are about how perfect they are and how all men are failing. Courtney did a bit of victim blaming here, more than she should of. Both sides are not equally wrong and playing it off that way only continues to provide the side who has been demonstratively more unreasonable cover. If you have a problem with men, tell us plainly, the majority will fix themselves. Never tell typical women these days they have a problem, they will seek to destroy you with a vengeance and never consider that they are anything less than perfect.
@Joepacker
@Joepacker 7 ай бұрын
I've been married for 34 years. I got lucky and found a women who understood what "till death us do part" really means. We have agreed on most of the big issues in our lives that really matter and respect our differences on the small ones that, in the end, really don't matter which most people seam to focus on. When we went to the courthouse to get our marriage license we were in the waiting area and the person who issues the licenses was asking questions of the older couple just before us how many marriages they both had for the application form and the women said 5 and the man said 3. My wife and I both looked at each other and were silently thinking WTF! we both laughed about it after we left the courthouse.
@CosmosChill7649
@CosmosChill7649 7 ай бұрын
This should work: "50% are going to get divorced in affluent societies nowadays and and lose half their wealth through alimony"
@Hawtload
@Hawtload 6 ай бұрын
"we need to choose better partners" meanwhile I can't choose anyone because no one allows me the opportunity
@hewo_bootifuluwu1597
@hewo_bootifuluwu1597 7 ай бұрын
I’ve been seeing many young people getting married and many haven’t even been together for not even a year, and yeah time doesn’t matter but for me personally, I could be wrong. To get married, you have to know the person at least 3yrs maybe less, but months or weeks isn’t enough. I may not be married or be in a relationship, but I’ve been seeing a lot of this to understand the importance of commitment when it comes to marriage, and someone even told me that many are getting married because others are getting married. It breaks my heart😢
@jtvice1862
@jtvice1862 7 ай бұрын
The men that "need" a rude a rude awakening have an unlimited line of foolish women lining up for them. All that woman said was she doesn't know how to pick a mate. No surprise there. Also, your happiness is not your spouses responsibility. Period.
@brandon-toddhutchinson3798
@brandon-toddhutchinson3798 7 ай бұрын
I can't help but see the inner child of the woman giving the warning, as she's essentially saying "Think you're going to mgtow us? No! We wgtow you!"
@madhatter9001
@madhatter9001 7 ай бұрын
She lost but does not know it yet/
@davidjackson3592
@davidjackson3592 7 ай бұрын
Problem with that is feminism is the mgtow for women so who cares.
@thebreezebreezy9608
@thebreezebreezy9608 7 ай бұрын
Lol this was my first thought so predictable same old emotional no acceptance of responsibility thinking. @@madhatter9001
@1twistedcpl6575
@1twistedcpl6575 7 ай бұрын
What is mgtow and wgtow?
@travistirey8579
@travistirey8579 7 ай бұрын
@@1twistedcpl6575mgtow = Men Go Their Own Way. Wgtow = Women Go Their Own Way.
@williamanderson8387
@williamanderson8387 5 ай бұрын
You are so well grounded Courtney, and have so much wisdom for your age (for any age, really!). I love your videos! Thank you for the effort that you put into them! What I most liked about this one is your focus on intentionality and not just falling into a relationship.
@bretedwards2899
@bretedwards2899 7 ай бұрын
Your comments are accurate as being accountable for your own actions and understanding that you are responsible for your happiness, not another person, is the key to having a decent relationship with any person in any setting. In my utopian world this skill set would be taught both by parents and a responsible educational system, but I'm not sure humans have evolved to this understanding yet. Personal skills might be the most important skill you ever use as we are surrounded by humans throughout our lives. The other skill that is essential is honesty, as most people have no problem lying to achieve a goal and this bad habit ends up with you consistently lying to yourself with dire consequences for all of us. This is probably the best video you have ever done as these issues are the foundation of being aware of how to interact with people in a healthy and honest manner, thanks again for your willingness to tackle the truth.
@duanewong1527
@duanewong1527 7 ай бұрын
"why are we choosing so poorly?" There are a variety of factors I know, and this applies to both genders; - Instant gratification - Overinflated expectations - Unresolved traumas - Unwillingness to compromise - Insufficient inner work
@_Meriwether
@_Meriwether 7 ай бұрын
WGTOW? I’m all for it. Have your expectations as sky-high as you want! What could possibly go wrong? 😂
@runeingebretsen8378
@runeingebretsen8378 7 ай бұрын
women are you sure you want to go to war with men,you will loose.
@user-yk4gd1fl4z
@user-yk4gd1fl4z 7 ай бұрын
Yep tell ya story walking ladies. You got your masculinity you wanted , now reap it.
@mosampson8862
@mosampson8862 7 ай бұрын
They can't go their own way. Every single one of them needs to live with a man, who else is going to check what the scary sound was in the middle of the night? They all need a man for security and they bloody well know it.
@joeskeptical4762
@joeskeptical4762 7 ай бұрын
*Women are, as a group, NEVER satisfied.*
@kevinzk71
@kevinzk71 7 ай бұрын
@@mosampson8862 well if it wasnt for all the fucking simps giving them everything free
@EnterHacker
@EnterHacker 6 ай бұрын
Here’s what no one EVER mentions about kids. It’s usually the woman who pushes for 2-3 kids not the man. So the man generally agrees IF she’ll take care of them and do most of the work for the ones after the ones he mutually wants.
@TheGreatestHandle
@TheGreatestHandle 6 ай бұрын
As a divorced man married for 20yrs , it's a much better life. Still have my kids and only have to worry about myself. Would never marry again.
@doclouis4236
@doclouis4236 7 ай бұрын
I'm so glad one gender is solely to blame for all this happening. Thanks Barbie for awakening the masses to our bad behavior😃👍
@GoldenMushroom64
@GoldenMushroom64 7 ай бұрын
All jokes aside. I loved that movie lol
@doclouis4236
@doclouis4236 7 ай бұрын
@@GoldenMushroom64 Considering how it's an effective piece of propaganda, I feel nothing but loathing for it's implicit themes and overt messages.
@dale116dot7
@dale116dot7 7 ай бұрын
A keeper is a woman that wanted to see the other movie that came out that weekend. Then after the movie, asked why we didn’t listen to General Curtis LeMay and do it when we had two hundred and they only had one or two.
@tommygunn6901
@tommygunn6901 7 ай бұрын
Men are in for a rude awakening? Ohhhh noooooo what ever shall we do???😂😂😂
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 7 ай бұрын
😂
@tommygunn6901
@tommygunn6901 7 ай бұрын
​@@CourtneyRyanseriously, I'm over it with women blaming men for everything. Its both men and women who suck at conflict resolution, who are just aimlessly wondering the dating world thinking its all about sex and intimacy. Ugh!!
@didamnesia3575
@didamnesia3575 7 ай бұрын
I read that in Triumph the Insult comic dog's voice
@Keiron-pw6sl
@Keiron-pw6sl 7 ай бұрын
What's the point actually been in a relationship in my experience nothing lasts
@Ed-xv4sy
@Ed-xv4sy 7 ай бұрын
@@tommygunn6901 WHY do you even care? get your passport and go overseas. It is that simple.
@r.b.ratieta6111
@r.b.ratieta6111 7 ай бұрын
I agree with your line of reasoning. I think the problem with our generation (Millennials) and younger is we've been taught one of two things. One is we've been taught that relationships are like Disney-level fairy tales, with little to no adversity and happiness, butterflies and glowing sunshine. Two is a lot of us have divorced parents (myself included) which either means we've only seen the crappy, potentially abusive side of marriage, or if things get tough, it's better to just split and call it good. So you have a dichotomy of two extremes. Either marriage is a wonderful, sing-songy epic romance with happy forest creatures and orchestrated music, or it's a miserable, sad, drawn out process with lots of tears and heartache in a house devoid of happiness. In reality, it seems the ideal marriages manage to stay in the middle, like a well-maintained nuclear reactor. They're not bombastic dopamine rushes like the Disney movie, but they aren't sad, lonesome, miserable experiences where two people are just glorified roommates. Seems to me a good marriage seems pretty plain at times, but a place of safety and reliability, where spouses make consistent efforts to surprise and uplift each other.
@maugre316
@maugre316 4 ай бұрын
When you see the videos of women who regret divorcing good husbands, I think some of these women are in for a rude awaking themselves. Remember, most men don't need women in order to enjoy their free time; it's just nice to have someone around to share it with.
@quasidoc7726
@quasidoc7726 7 ай бұрын
14 years single and couldn't be happier. Aside from intimacy, there is no role a female completes that I cannot do on my own. No one has the right to expect more from another. You didn't fall in-love based on expectations or accolades and if you did, you never experienced love. Women want to be loved, appreciated, heard, respected ect ect and those are the ONLY things that should ever be expected in a relationship. We men are not your girlfriend, we are not your mother, aunt, or sister - We are not built to fill all the roles you wish males would fill nor should we be expected too; Learn to love the differences even in conflict because without those differences you're just loving what you create and not who you found - Time will smooth out the rough edges. Most importantly ladies, please learn how to choose a man, not just a male.
@Remember-Death
@Remember-Death 7 ай бұрын
Semen Retention.
@james50227
@james50227 7 ай бұрын
I am 15 years single I am 35 years old, and I agree with you man. I say intimacy is a bit of a problem because we are not meant to be alone.
@DavidBelflower-hr9wr
@DavidBelflower-hr9wr 7 ай бұрын
Good job,Man.. I noticed that you've been forced to learn to control your biology, as most MEN have.. And it's EXTRA pathetic on women's part, considering HOW LITTLE Men need in a relationship..
@ccreature7086
@ccreature7086 7 ай бұрын
14 or 15 years alone and "happy"? I call BS - might be what you tell yourself and everyone around you but you're lying. And because you're lying is likely a large reason why you're alone.
@benjaminchartier6458
@benjaminchartier6458 7 ай бұрын
​@@ccreature7086why do you assume that??? Women are at best a giant pain in the a$$. They always complain about sex not being fulfilling,about not getting enough money,or not helping around the house when he works 13 hours a day. Alone is the happiest you will be. People are not happy because they don't pay attention to what is in front of them. Yoda said it.I believe it
@bikwah90
@bikwah90 7 ай бұрын
I feel like being *so* excited for a big divorce says a lot about a person.
@veryberry-
@veryberry- 3 ай бұрын
TikTok chick is a prime example of why No Fault Divorce needs to end. Her perceived lack of "living the big life" is not ground to take 50% of the stuff. She can walk away from the marriage, but gets nothing.
@brian9438
@brian9438 6 ай бұрын
My net worth isn't much, but it's mine. If I was married, at the end of every day I'd have to think to myself, "I'm glad another day has passed that my wife has allowed me to keep my nest egg." I'm not going to live like that.
@thepocketshot9116
@thepocketshot9116 7 ай бұрын
"I don't believe people are equipped with the required skills for marriage or just a healthy relationship." -Courtney Ryan.
@FallingStar1080
@FallingStar1080 7 ай бұрын
Yeah but it's mostly a woman problem 🤷‍♂️
@richardw3347
@richardw3347 7 ай бұрын
often times it can be an ego problem. people these days can`t take constructive criticism and can be very soft and whiny. it's also important how you say things and sometimes choosing your battles wisely not nit picking at everything either. Listening well helps too. often times people don't look too or want to improve and then blame.
@josephtolu
@josephtolu 7 ай бұрын
Marriage is device for women. An artificial notion
@mechadie5915
@mechadie5915 7 ай бұрын
This video actually really hit me. I’m losing my family because I was on auto pilot, stressed out from work, and generally not appreciating the amazing gift that I have in my house. Now they are gone and I see my kids two days a week, and I realize now what is truly important. I just wish I realize this a couple of years ago before it was too late. I think you’re doing a really good thing making content like this.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 7 ай бұрын
I’m sorry to hear this. Hugs to you and hoping things get better from here 🤍
@mechadie5915
@mechadie5915 7 ай бұрын
@user-ls4df8yq5o I know I feel pretty dammed if I do dammed if I don’t if I’m being honest. I just miss my kids. Hopefully voice acting will take off and I can work from home. I don’t know what else to do.
@mechadie5915
@mechadie5915 7 ай бұрын
@@CourtneyRyan thanks - keep going, hopefully you can help change the conversation to solution based actions, instead of whatever the hell this current state of things is.
@thephotoandthestory
@thephotoandthestory 3 ай бұрын
Putting ego aside, I can definitely improve. Im still working on my shortfalls as a husband. My wife is not perfect, but she is wonderful.
@danutmh
@danutmh 6 ай бұрын
I would go further than saying people don't understand the commitment of marriage. Marriage , like pretty much everything else in life , has been commodified . People treat it like a sort of fashion statement (women especially): -The ring -The party -The ceremony -The drama It's all a fad these days , and once they get bored , just move on and start over.
@Sidewalkman1
@Sidewalkman1 7 ай бұрын
This has been the realist video topic on marriage and divorce. Marriage is a partnership that takes work, and never taking your partner for granted. ❤
@petergreg888
@petergreg888 7 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, the only ones that don't seem to cheat are the ones who have a public image. I had friends who had great marriages, until they hired p.i's to track them. They were horrified.
@user-gy4zp9jy1r
@user-gy4zp9jy1r 7 ай бұрын
Yes. Women need to stop cheating!
@whenpigsfly3271
@whenpigsfly3271 6 ай бұрын
If, for men, marriage takes work, what is the point of marriage? What is the payoff?
@mogge3434
@mogge3434 7 ай бұрын
Coming from a failed marriage of 22 years looking back, I know my faults in it. But with that said, what I've run into now dating is that 8 out of 10 women have unrealistic expectations of being financially supported from day one. I also think nobody wants to put in the work that it takes to make it work. It's all about instant gratification from both sides.
@stormchaser419
@stormchaser419 7 ай бұрын
You are nothing but a pack mule to women. The faster you realize that, the better. Live for yourself and never marry again. It's a fool's game. Dogs and hobbies will always be better than women.
@onethree123d
@onethree123d 6 ай бұрын
It's a cope from women side they see it as a strategy to weed out the guys that will waste their time
@RUHappyATM
@RUHappyATM 6 ай бұрын
Yeah, I agree. Especially from single mums or pre-30's women.
@daishan1234
@daishan1234 5 ай бұрын
>It's all about instant gratification from both sides. no, it's mostly women. Stop doing the "both sides" BS
@zartan-1975
@zartan-1975 5 ай бұрын
Our marriage councillor told us that a marriage is like an empty bucket between the two of us. If we both fill the bucket it will overflow and when we need we can take from it safely. If one of us is filling it and the other is just taking, it will never be full and one person will ultimately have nothing. If neither puts anything in into our bucket it will remain empty. When my ex wife was told she needs to fill it as well she decided the marriage was over. I started on my journey of being alone. I read a quote from Tom Hardy “Being alone is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is you don’t want to deal with people anymore” it is a very true statement!
@josiahmick1175
@josiahmick1175 7 ай бұрын
competent men of dating age have been called toxic their entire lives so enjoy your liberation
@doatg1967
@doatg1967 7 ай бұрын
I couldn't agree more, to have classes teaching how to have healthy relationships. Thinking about everything you mentioned today Courtney, it hits home for many people. The family used to be everything, but broken families are a big contributing factor in today's world.
@swedishpagan2150
@swedishpagan2150 7 ай бұрын
I'd cringe to be a man part of such a class.
@themick6586
@themick6586 7 ай бұрын
There's no reason to get married to have a relationship.
@michaelsix9684
@michaelsix9684 7 ай бұрын
so true, people live what they learn, role modeling to be a good parent, spouse is taught in the home
@jesterjay420
@jesterjay420 7 ай бұрын
@@swedishpagan2150speak for yourself. I’ve been an introvert with low confidence since middle school. I’m 33 now and looking for advice on youtube, of all things.
@fedguy9182
@fedguy9182 7 ай бұрын
I’ve been married 37 years. We remain happy and fulfilled but that isn’t to say we haven’t had our problems with communication and disappointments. We constantly work at improving our relationship by acknowledging our faults and allowing forgiveness and room to grow with changes in our outlooks on life as we get older. I guess if I had to boil it down to a couple main attributes it would be adaptability and commitment to each other.
@epsteinsnecktie8690
@epsteinsnecktie8690 7 ай бұрын
You come from an era where men don't have a million hoes lined up in his dms the second she messes up. Modern social media has made relationship a constant competition.
@petergreg888
@petergreg888 7 ай бұрын
Congrats, good for you. I like to hear of the rare couple.
@bobbobbington3615
@bobbobbington3615 7 ай бұрын
Most marriages already end in divorce... initiated by women... now there's a movement of men going overseas. Her brilliance backfired.
@HighPlainsDrifter53
@HighPlainsDrifter53 7 ай бұрын
The worst thing a man can do for a woman is give her what she wants.
@charlesward8196
@charlesward8196 7 ай бұрын
The wedding is not the finish line, it is the starting line, and all of the hard work is ahead of you:
@fleetinghopes6448
@fleetinghopes6448 7 ай бұрын
and it takes *both* people working shoulder to shoulder. Marriages don't work if there's a dead weight just thinking about her own "Big life"...
@kierkegardashian
@kierkegardashian 7 ай бұрын
I agree. I'm a child of divorce, and all my adults growing up had chaotic marriages or dating lives. I noticed they behaved as if after signing, the job is done. It was a disaster. I learned from their nonsense and chose my spouse carefully. We are happy, we can go days just together in our apartment and we are never tired of each other. We share values, goals, and support each other even when we disagree with certain choices. We are happy.
@brent4073
@brent4073 7 ай бұрын
Have kids and see how that relationship of yours works. Kids add a new dimension to the problem and dual income households and kids dont mix like driving and alcohol.
@ronaldfitzsimmons9902
@ronaldfitzsimmons9902 2 ай бұрын
Yep it's terrible not having a modern day western woman in my life. Own two bedroom Apartment Own salary Own military pension Own investments ( stocks and shares) Own car Own free time Own Holiday day Choice No debt No Nagging No dramas When I get up in the morning the only person I need to impress is me myself and I. Yep looks like that rude awakening is looking bad for me. Mrs Courtney Ryan says Men are the problem while 70 to 80 percent of Women file for Divorce and it cash and prizes for the woman while she sits with that size engagement ring ( and would Mrs Courtney Ryan not use them same divorce laws on her Man if she wanted too ? )
@willmitchell6521
@willmitchell6521 6 ай бұрын
How can there be divorce when men are tapping out of marriage?
@gregc247
@gregc247 7 ай бұрын
Ive had a front row seat to three of my co workers divorces, 2 of them are men, one is a woman, all three of them the woman filed, all three were precipitated by the women going cold, and being shitty to the man while the men tried desperately to fix it, all three of the men lost $100k+, I fully believe that that situation is what happens 90% of these, all of my break ups were the same way, I had 6 or 7 serious and semi serious relationships, all ended with me trying to save it it and them being cold shitty and distant, its their nature
@deadringer333
@deadringer333 7 ай бұрын
I have 2 friends currently going through divorce. For both of them the men filed and aren’t willing to try and fix things. Yet I don’t believe ALL men are shitty and cold cause it’s, “in their nature” If you believe that’s how all women are then those women are who you’ll attract.
@gregc247
@gregc247 7 ай бұрын
@@deadringer333 id like to hear the full story there, were their wives cold and distant for years before they filed? Did they stop taking care of themselves health wise? Maybe they had had enough of that, idk
@thrilla72
@thrilla72 7 ай бұрын
The listen we've learnt is never try to save it guys
@hotpockets69
@hotpockets69 7 ай бұрын
If you've been in half a dozen serious relationships and all of them failed, it's you. You just don't have the self-awareness to admit it. Y'all are doing something, or not doing something, for them to become cold.
@thrilla72
@thrilla72 7 ай бұрын
@@hotpockets69 I would agree with you if I hadn't seen it happen so often. Although, I suspect what the women maybe becoming distant because he doesn't find her so physically attractive anymore. But nobody can talk about it so we hear all this nonsense.
@soadman777
@soadman777 7 ай бұрын
The biggest problem that I see with most people is that they get into a relationship or marriage without knowing what they need/want out of their partner and thinking they can change their partner to fit those needs/wants. I am someone who did this. I never dated because I was waiting for the right woman to come along. I thought I had found her, but I knew that we weren't fully compatible. I saw red flags, but hoped that I could change her. I ended up marrying her and those red flags never changed long term. I got tired of paying all the bills, doing the cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, house work, etc. I decided to get a divorce because I wasn't getting what I wanted from my wife. The difference between me and most people is that I looked back on our entire time together and analyzed everything that went wrong. I identified everything I did wrong and worked out the ways that I can be a better husband in the future. I am also at fault for my marriage not working out. People are always so quick to put the entire blame on their partner. Now, I know what I want out of a relationship and won't enter into one I know won't work. If people took a step back and looked in the mirror then relationships would in fact get better as you gain experience and work on becoming a better person.
@randallthomas5207
@randallthomas5207 7 ай бұрын
My daughters mother, is Catholic. Three guys after me she decided she wanted to marry him. The priest called and talked to me, and a few of her ex boy freinds. And the marriage was annulled by the Bishop. But, it came with a condition that she had to get both personal and premarital counseling, before the Church would let her have another marriage. The Preist and Boshop had both known her for years, and determined that she lacked the emotional maturity, and selflessness required to make a marriage work.
@livsstilen
@livsstilen 6 ай бұрын
Meanwhile, men who are currently dating has dropped 50% since 2019. They just quitted looking😂 out. AS FOR ME, I only date when I am far far away from the western world😊 IF I get a invitation from a woman in my own country, I decline😊
@Bombadil-ez9ns
@Bombadil-ez9ns 7 ай бұрын
It's important to remember that people like this 'rude awakening' woman do exist. But sometimes they get too much of the oxygen in the room. Don't forget that women like Courtney still exist.
@swedishpagan2150
@swedishpagan2150 7 ай бұрын
We won't treat her like feminists treat men, don't worry :)
@maxespinosa5052
@maxespinosa5052 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, but you have to be Indiana Jones to find them.
@tetedur377
@tetedur377 7 ай бұрын
Women like Courtney are few and far between. Besides, she's still young and hot. Give her a few more years of marriage, and especially add children to the mix. You'll probably see the she devil in her, too.
@GldVWisRR
@GldVWisRR 7 ай бұрын
@@tetedur377 damn right. Things can change in a heartbeat.
@bobbyscalchi4013
@bobbyscalchi4013 7 ай бұрын
If too much oxygen is the norm? Somebody light a match! 😂
@popurm
@popurm 7 ай бұрын
I had just ended a 7 year relationship last year. I met my ex in a very organic social setting in drop in sports. I did not keep up witht the dating scene for a long time. I get back out into the market, and I'm just utterly flabbergasted at how there's so much animosity between men and women! If you want to find a partner what will all this villanization of the other partner do to you? Whats with all the vitriol for your significant other? Thats how you keep yourself a lonely person.
@onethree123d
@onethree123d 6 ай бұрын
Yeah lots of hurt people on each side and they spread their hurt and keep themselves in a cycle
@aminemohamed4899
@aminemohamed4899 5 ай бұрын
Hi, May the Lord Bless your little family, I subscribed even if this channel is for women, you said one word that changed my mind on women, and made my hope be born again, you said :"I think!" you didn't gave up to "lust" and "pride" I hope many many women will listen to you for their own ideal life course, I really believe if women wake up they will save the coming generation! This is how important what you are doing May The Lord Help and Guide you! God Bless you!
@gowine504
@gowine504 6 ай бұрын
Both men and women know how to be married. We put effort in our careers, but not in our relationships. Thats because there is no incentive for marriage. People are neither in need of or curious about marriage.
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