"There's a classy way to be sexy" couldn't be more on the money. I love how that gets said right as Courtney's picture pops up 😂 couldn't be better timing.

The things I look for in a good woman: maturity, humor, and class.

They don't want to hear it because it's truthful and it's forces accountability!

Speaking of Hypocrites there was a street interview done where this girl was asked if her boyfriend liking pictures of girls in bikinis was considered cheating and she said yes but then the guy asks her if she posts pictures of herself in a bikini and she became speechless and then proceeded to deflect blame saying that that's not the same thing yet women like that say all men are trash even though they let men in and out of them all day everyday but I can't call them a dumpster which is logically sensible in this context

I fell in love with someone when I was a teen, but not because she was pretty or flashing skin. Her looks were just a bonus. It was her sense of humor and personality that got me. After interacting with her on a regular basis, my brain was just like, "I want to be in the same room with her as much as possible." It wasn't a sexual thing, it was a I want to be around her thing. People need to try finding someone they actually like, not just someone they are sexually attracted to. Desire fades, life turns into routine, you better like the person you are spending decades with.

"You can't cherry-pick what works in your favor, and ignore what doesn't." Please tell this wisdom to all of American society. People will grow old, with no meaningful connections, and realize how repulsive their mental state was. God I love this channel.

It's not a surprise that the words classy and beautiful are immediately followed by a picture of Courtney.

“There is more to sex appeal than measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree, sitting in a chair or standing in the rain.” ― Audrey Hepburn

I was born in Seattle in 1973, where I grew up. Japanese-American. Male. Yes, in the late 80s, I used to go to the Japanese bookstores, and buy Japanese magazines, because I loved the models. But, there were women like Shinobu Nakayama, Chisato Moritaka, and Hikaru Nishida, who never dressed scantilly, and my Japanese-American male friend said that "he liked that about them, because it left some MYSTERY to them." When it comes to young attractive women, picture one who has natural C cups. Imagine her with a tight T-shirt, a tight sweater, or a tight turtleneck, and it nicely accents her natural C cups, while she's still fully covered up: That's sexy!

Courtney is the standard and continues to show her class. Class will win everytime. Men need to be held accountable and stop following\liking these types of Instagram photos.

As your relationship grows, so should you. You and your partner/spouse should mature together. You should accept people where they are at when you first get together only if the discussion has been had that you both have plans that align for the future. The potential for growth helps spur the relationship forward because you share a vision for your future together. Both men and women should want to improve themselves to serve their relationship to the highest possible level. Don’t simply accept someone for who they are, meet them where they’re at and agree to build a life together that fosters growth of both individuals. Your bond will become stronger and your life more fulfilling.

I've been personally been dealing with women who want to "win" the relationship instead of grow it. It seems to me that fear has gripped society as of late. Fear of being hurt, loss, and/or personal discomfort. This fear then makes us go to these stupid extremes. Not every women wants to take all the money you dont have and not every man is going to make you his robot. Those things have happened yes, but its not the norm. The extremes are RARE! Relax! If you slow down relationships and actually get to know each other the extremes can be avoided. You have personal agencie.

That guy said that he could have multiple families, and still be a good father… which to me is wild. Part of being a father isn’t just making good money and putting food on the table, it’s about being an active participant in your children’s lives… which is a lot harder to do when you’re splitting it between two different families, work, and free time.

Advice about women from a female is priceless. I am so thankful that the content is free and thankful that KZfaq compensates you for the content you provide.

A woman who is wife material to me is woman who is easy going and doesn’t have many hang ups when it comes to dating. Being controlling and obsessed with following norms is a turn off for me.

Great message Courtney, as usual. I don't understand the confusion between "being controlling" and "setting boundaries" - they are two entirely different things. Being controlling is trying to reshape someone into what I want and expect them to be. Setting boundaries simply means understanding the qualities I know I would find attractive in a person and that would make her compatible with me. Everyone sets boundaries - some people's are good and reasonable, others' are superficial and ridiculous. Stating one's expectations isn't being "controlling" but expecting someone to be something they aren't definitely is. What's being controlling is labelling someone as "being controlling" simply because I don't agree with their boundaries. Put simply, setting boundaries establishes the standards for who I choose to let into my life. Being controlling is letting someone in and then demanding that they conform to my standards.

The guy in the video is named Justin Waller, and yes, he was the guy on the Whatever Podcast that said he didn't want to be loyal to one woman. Now, to each their own I'm not going to bash him for that, but I honestly don't think that's the right move, at least for me. I also don't necessarily agree with everything he says, so I take his advice with a grain of salt but I do think he hit the nail on the head by saying there's a classy way to be sexy and that's what I want to attract.

I believe that it was Sophia Loren who said “Don’t show it, keep them guessing.”

Courtney is so classy answering questions and the way she wears as well... cheers from Brazil 🇧🇷

I commented on Courtney's video 'Why do attractive women date losers?' by saying, I think by making this video Courtney just graduated KZfaq school. (Topic, different perspectives, depth, nuances, showing compassion, pertaining to men AND women, her presentation was ace). I think by making this video Courtney has started her own school. This video just screams MATURITY through and through. I like it a lot! Cheers!✌

Very well said Courtney. You are perfect wife material. Unfortunately, you’re already married and he’s a lucky man.. but I wish there was more classy women like you out there in this world, and a lot of us wouldn’t be single or end up with women who take advantage of what we have in our lives as far as money and material things. take advantage of us and I’m not saying men don’t take advantage of women, but I’ve been into relationships in 42 years and I have yet to find someone to date

Three things a Man never shares. 1.His Woman 2. His Wealth 3. His most valuable Possessions

A thought about clothing preferences; My ex made a comment one time about my chest hair. You see, up until this point I'd walk around with not a care in the world. I had NO idea this was a thing. In fact I thought most women didn't like hairy guys. She didn't want other women seeing a bunch of my chest hair hanging out. It's not easy to hide it so I told her I'd be happy to wear an undershirt if it was lightweight and breathable. Had I gotten married it's my view that I'm no longer my own person. I have committed to someone else. Her opinion matters and out of respect for her I would oblige. I fundamentally believe many women are out there not realizing they are revealing part of themselves which catch men's eyes and create some unwanted attention. If I bring this up to my spouse I expect her to view it the same way I did, not controlling but a sign of care for the other person and desire for exclusivity. Men will definitely go after women who have a level of self awareness not to show themselves off to the world. If I meet someone and I perceive she's a fine person but dresses a bit too provocatively I will bring it up, not because I want to fundamentally change her, but because I want to see if she respects me enough to take heed. If she's rebellious and stubborn she'll balk and scoff. If she's a good woman she'll respect me by changing that and dressing like the only man she wants attention from is me.

Love your authentic content & happy to see you are over 600k. Thank you!

What makes an atractive woman for me? Well on the physical side that is: - Natural beuty! A woman that looks good without makeup! Makeup can look good, however it is something not to be overused. And if heavy use is made, it shuld be limited to special ocasions. - A healthy bodytype. A woman that is just skull and bones is not atractive to me. Same goes for overweight. I also never understood why some woman artificially extend there curves. - While I have some preferences on what kind of woman I like (like blone hair with blue eyes or red hair with green eyes), at the end of the day what matters most is that I get a fitting compleat packedge. As long as a woman meets the bacline requirements of "looking good overall", my prference does not realy matter. After all personalety rules! On the personalety side of things I want: - Someone who is loyal - Someone I can cuddel whenever I want - Someone that shows that they like to have me around - Someone that is comfortable with my personalety - Someone I find a good direct way of communication with - Someone that knows what they want and that is not whishy washy, wanting one thing today the the compleat opposit the next day - Someone that is capebel of selfreflection and knows how to admit and deal with mistakes. Making mistakes is human after all and I will make some too. - Someone that is there for me but also gives me the space I need - Someone that is not on the phone 24/7 - Someone that does not brag with there achivements all day long, like an insecure child that wants there parents endoresment/attention - Someone that is not a drama queen - Someone that respects my hobbys and does not judge them - Someone that shares my interests - Someone that shares my morals - Someone that respects my privacy. A lot of things will be shared over time but not everything - Someone that shares my lifegoals in regards of owing property and having children - Someone that is caring and looking out for me on the health side. I am a couchportato so someone that motivates me to do a healthy amount of sports with them is something I'd apriciate a lot. Also having an eye on a heathy diet is something I might need a little help with. If you wanna grow old together health is important. I am not a native english speaker so please apologise for any typos or other mistakes.

I love when women dress classy. It shows respect for themselves as well as for me. Classy and elegant are sexy.

Heck, just being slender is getting to be a rarity anymore. Something over 60% of people are overweight. Overweight is carrying way over 15 lbs on one's body. So those who are "at weight" and fit is now somewhat uncommon to see in public anymore. Want to increase your success in life? And I don't just mean with the opposite sex, but I mean at the workplace and everywhere else. Just be slender, fit, and have a good demeanor about you. You are now in the top 25% of attractiveness in society. And that gets you results. (For me it one time it got me an job in engineering.)

I have a "hypocracy parallel," even though I'm naming fictional cartoon characters: From the Archie Comics: Vernoica throws a conniption fit when Archie even comes close to looking at another girl. Yet, Vernoica looks at and drools over other guys, and she thinks nothing of it. (It's ok when SHE does it, but when Archie does it, she loses her stack) Actually, Archie Comics is great at showing me why I'd never want a woman with Veronica's personality.

Thank you for talkin about the difference between controlling and setting boundaries. Thank you for mentioning the importance for setting boundaries. I believe that's where so many people get messed up is because they either don't set boundaries or they don't know how to set boundaries. Some may be so timid that they are afraid to set boundaries but you have to set boundaries for your own mental health and to preserve your personality. Plus it's a major factor to gain self-respect and respect from others.

Holy smokes! That dude was on that Whatever podcast by the way. To all who watch this, want an elegant girl thats wifey material, this channel is for you. Ive been subbed to you for 2 years and this was way better than content I used to watch. Keep rockin Courtney!

I Heard A Conversation Last Night At Work Between A Couple That May Not Stay Together Long The Woman Was Telling Her Boy friend That He Dose not Communicate On His Phone With Her Well He Could Not Respond Real Well And When She Told Him To Tell Her That He Loved Her He Let Out A Deep Sigh Like He Was Being Forced To Say Then Some Anger Come Up I Got To Thinking Guys Women Want To Hear Emotions In Your Voice When You Tell Them You Loved Them Not Forced That is Why Relation ships never Last so when you date or if i Date So The Love The Compassion Women deserve When You Take them out treat them with Royalty Your Looking At Your Future Guys So Wake Up I Always treat Women with royalty

I only found your channel a couple of weeks ago, and with total honesty, I must say the content you create is extremely valuable! I can tell you put a lot of time and energy in to these videos, many of which have completely changed my perspective on several different topics in regards to dating and relationships. Thank you so much for doing what you do, and please keep doing it! Wish I found your channel sooner.

Wow, this must feel like vindication. You go, girl!

Keeping demure but sexy creates a little mystery, something to allow the relationship to evolve and give a man something to discover. Most men will not respect an easy conquest, and certainly not marry her.

I think we all can agree that Courtney is special. She's intelligent, interesting, reasonable, she has wisdom beyond her years. And, yes, she is a beautiful and sexy woman with class. Most interesting about her is that her inner qualities actually outshine her outer qualities, which is simply an amazing thing in todays world. Another great video😊

“If you want a quality woman, stop following IG models. Get in shape. Get a lot of money. Dress stylishly. Get a dog. Go to therapy. Take the initiative, ask women out and plan and pay for dates.” So if you do all that, you get a quality woman? No, you put in the effort, jump through the hoops and they dismiss you after one date for “lack of chemistry.”

It's not just about how someone dresses on social media, there's an entire "influencer personality" that is vapid and unappealing, and aligns very much with the worst parts about being terminally online.

This is why I want Courtney to be my matchmaker ;) honest, good values, articulate, and knowledgeable. Appreciate your content and what you do. Positive thoughts for you and those close to you.

1 chance for 1st impression. Perception is everything. There are more than a 1000 ways for a woman to be sexy without being trampy. When I leave the man cave, I am always put together, not dressed to the 9's, just clean, combed, ready to bump into "her", no mater what my plans are, I don't want to be apologizing for my attire/look when she appears around a corner. Of the dating coaches I watch, Courtney is always the best prepped and frankly elegantly pretty. It is evident that Courtney takes this seriously and practices what she preaches. And for me anyway, nothing is more sexy than...smart. She has that covered in spades. Makes me think maybe we could use some advise from Teddy too. "How'd he do it?"

Personally, I think class is less about what you wear as much as the vibe you send out and the way you carry yourself in the world. A classy woman posting a bikini pic is light-years removed from an ethot doing it. It gives off a completely different energy. I have seen art models who go fully nude in their content (implied, of course, it being Insta) who are FAR more classy, elegant, and respectable than the party girls in heels and dresses. And you can sort of tell the difference between the insta model who is just like "Hi, I'm a model and here's my work," versus the egirl who is like "I am an insatiable attention monger and I need likes and views to validate my existence." And these girls we always have a go at are not classless because of the way they dress, they are classless because of who they are and how they carry themselves in the world: loudmouthed, entitled, selfish, promiscuous, just overall trashy people; their apparel is just an outward manifestation of that trashy inner self. Putting a classless person in classy clothing is like putting a gold ring in a pig's snout: it doesn't suddenly make you classy. First you have to BE classy, and just by being classy, you add class to whatever you do and whatever you wear.

"The way you present yourself matters" you're so right.

Courtney's advice is the best I have seen online. Everything she has said rings true with me, and she expresses herself exceptionally well. The one thing I feel is not sufficiently emphasized by any dating advice coach online, is that all men and women are different. People who say "all men or women are this way or that", are wrong. We all have different tastes, likes and dislikes and differing preferences. A woman who is unattractive to one man may seem highly desirable to another. Women are the same in this regard. The whole object of the "dating game" is to find someone who you like to be with, who is also attracted to you. At least that is the way I see it.

I watched your video on men's facial hair and I have extremely curly black hair, curly to the point where the sideburns curl and stick out it looks like I could poke someone's eye out obviously I trim it so it’s flat on the side ( it's not trimmed at this moment). I'm trying to figure out if I should just continue and grow it out thicker. In terms of hair I've been compared to lou ferrigno In hercules except the beard is more patchy and the hair has more actual curl. I've also had people suggest sorta thick <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="300">5:00</a> shadow. If you need any actual picture let me know. Thanks for all the videos they've been incredibly helpful ( also the watches look great on you)

Dressing sexy without looking slutty shows a woman’s class and elegance.I’m glad that man pointed that out.

I got married in 1987 and had a 26 year marriage until my wife died in 2014. I was mildly contemplating dating but I have watched some videos of dating in 2024 and I will happily never date again. I am 66 and my dating pool is small but OMG, all that I have heard an seen about dating rules today makes me so content and at peace when I wake up alone, go to sleep alone and am otherwise home alone. The silence is like heavenly music. Also as a faithful Roman Catholic, I would want a faithful Roman Catholic woman and finding one is an exercise in futility.

Happy Friday, Courtney and All! Hope everyone has a great start to their weekend!

Showing curves without showing skin...hell yes! I don't know why but a woman who can show shes sexy WITHOUT having flaunt a bunch of skin is VERY attractive. Its a bad anolgy but in a horror movie just showing glimpses on the monster can be so much scarierer then showing it. Its why 80s and 90s horror are such classics. And I find in a way its the same for women. That stuff I don't see my subconscious brain fills in the idea of something much more atrractive then what is probably the reality. A woman who dresses well and doesn't show skin can be much more attractive then a girl walking around with an exposed midrift, a low cut shirt and skin tight yoga pants. Less can defiantly be more.

Being sexy is actually more about how you present, behave and carry yourself and not about how much you show or not show. ;)

Dead right about appearances. I purposely dress like a construction worker. It's comfortable and I don't want female attention because I've got a great lady but also so I'm relatable to everyone despite being the VP of a small business. I have definitely noticed a huge difference when I dress up in how women react to me. I've also noticed a different class of women interact with me in each situation. So they say dress for the job you want, well boys maybe dress for the kind of woman you want! And be a gentleman. Insecure women want bad boys. Stable women want a gentleman who has the capacity to protect them and others. There's a line between sexy and slutty for women just as there's a line between violent men and men with great capacity for violence but keeps it under control by choice. Lastly if you need to change your partner you're with the wrong person. By all means we can help each other grow, but never try to force change.

There's something important not covered in: "choose someone who aligns with your preferences and values in the first place so you don't control their behavior." When the stated values and other qualities align during vetting, but something in their behavior shows up later after already being in an established relationship that isn't acceptable (like, for instance a specific social media post that's too revealing, or a drunken girls trip to Vegas invite from her bestie she doesn't want to disappoint). These things still need to be addressed somehow, and if it becomes a point of contention, of course the man needs to set "the boundary" of what he will choose if she makes an unacceptable choice; not communicating that would be dishonest. It can certainly be worded like "this is unacceptable to me, and is a deal-breaker in the relationship(boundary)" vs "you can't do this (controlling)", but it has to be understood that there will be things that a man (or woman) must communicate to their partner that may come down to "your behavior needs to be xyz or I'll choose abc (to leave, or whatever personal self-respecting boundary is)." I get that telling woman to not post things on Instagram that she was already posting on instagram before getting in a relationship is "duh. She already told you what her values were...", but other situations do exist where clarity and importance of certain preferences need to be communicated, and that needs to be okay and not twisted into a story of a man being controlling because he communicated a preference and a boundary.

Fit, feminine, friendly, and low body count is the key to a good women that is marriage material

Honestly I like that the world has changed to be so openly sexual and free to act how people feel or want in the moment even though most content I see is imitation, I think people should find themselves and act how they feel in the moment to either expand on it or get it out of their system. I can tell you it is nice to see people acting so honestly and putting themselves out because it is less altered, less of an act or help to see the real you and I am either attracted to you or not. Personally I like a person who is honest and knows themselves, has lived and loved, lost and grown, experience for me is more important and openness to experiment and explore in a fun but modest way where her sexual outlet is me and if she wants to send me images for me I would be happy to see them but that is for me, she dresses to impress me and I need to be the man in her life or move on. Friends are good and I believe you can tell alot about friends, if she surrounds herself with single men who are struggling but shower her with attention and gifts I can see her interests in friends, if she is the corner of the gossip mill I can understand is important to her and what she likes to communicate about. Someone who has nothing to talk about than other peoples lives or make judgements on others all day, feed on drama and need it can find it on their own. My moral always is surround yourself with like minded people and help yourself to develop a personality that you love and invite someone to love your personality.

Accountability is kryptonite to the modern woman.

Happy Friday Courtney. 💖 Hopefully everyone has a good weekend. 💝 The table setup is interesting😮 Girls truly do fall for words. 😅 i tagged Courtney before and she didn’t do a reaction video. That is a surprise, Courtney in a tiktok video :)

it is interesting because i don't think there is a set ideal standard that everyone has to follow, but it's important to understand how you present yourself because how you present yourself will be attracting different types of people who typically have similar interests because clothes and appearance and behaviour is a way how we communicate our interests, sometimes we do it very appearant what we like and dislike or how we are and sometimes it's a bit ambiguous, but just because someone look a certain way does not mean they only are interested in that specific thing and only appreciate that one thing so you shouldn't be that unsure of yourself just because someone you didn't think would like you does like you, people have strange tastes at times and i mean strange because it does not line up with how they present themselves. but typically rule of thumb, girls that dress classy likes guys that dress classy aswell, a death metal enthusiast typically look like a death metal enthusiast and would probably be more interested in a girl that looks like she is too and vice versa, however that don't mean they can't like other things aswell but typically it's a bit outside of their comfort zone. because we all know that some girls or some guys can go for something wildly different to themselves it's just less likely they will get mutual interest back so that's why there's like a bit of a barrier between the two, but sometimes you never know it might just be one of those things that does happen. we all know the stereotype of the pent up librarian whos actually super wild but don't look like it, don't mean every librarian is but there's probably some. so have a hard look at yourself and think about what it is you want and understand your chances, and if you don't like those odds maybe change it up, it's good to try new things after all, variety is the spice of life.

Agreed, Courtney. In any company, one should be what they desire, by mean of character and virtue. AKA: "We are judged by the company we keep." EDIT: By the way... I am enjoying that you've also given a nice glimpse and insight as to your standards. This is a very warm and candored take that you've given here. I'm used to your measured takes, but in the latter part of this video? You're very candid on your standards. Much respect for that. ALSO: There's great reason why we keep coming to your channel. Not just men, even. I know quite a few women who also frequent your channel. Keep up the great work and content. 🙂

That's a problem I have A LOT. The distinction between setting boundaries and being controlling is so blurry that I really can't tell where one ends and the other begins. Or, it feels more like a question of semantics. Like, if you're doing it, you're setting healthy boundaries. But if I'm doing the same thing in the same way, I'm being controlling and manipulative.

Many men who are single follow models and influencers on IG. Most can agree that we would not want our own woman to be one of those models. It's all about respect to your partner. Men who have a partner, please do not follow or like those IG models.

So, I've been thinking about this... Girls don't want a guy who says, "You shouldn't be posting these thirst trap pics"... But the same girls will get angry at their guy if he likes Thirst Trap pics! *_Choose a Lane - Stay in it_* ... Either you're both right, or you're both wrong. You can't tell your partner not to do *_the thing_* , then you do *_the thing_* !!!

Episode Idea: I loved when you had a panel of women answering questions about their preferences. How about one where you ask men about women's qualities and even have them choose between pictures of women dressed classy-sexy and provocative-sexy. You're obviously helping a lot of men, but I'm beginning to think that your voice and work have the potential to really continue to reshape how both sexes can grow to learn each other better. Bring back more panels! Courtney, You're the best. Thanks!

I think a big reason that women don't like hearing what men want is because of being given certain pictures of it by things like pop culture, or their women relatives, and FULLY believe those things. A part of it nowadays, I'm sure, is also "it's cool and trendy to go against what men want, because men are trash". As a guy who likes when someone has an easygoing personality and good sense of humor, it annoys me how some ladies treat things like they're still in middle or high school when that time in their life was ages ago.

I think the dating couch Matthew Hussey hit the nail on the head when he said "we use the weapon we are most familiar with" (it is a metaphor before people ask). I think a lot of women use their looks, figure and sexuality to attract men because that is the "weapon" they are most familiar with and know it will work. But the problem with this is that because that is the aspect of her personality she is showing, then guys will react to that and she will think that men are only interested in a woman for her body. You could have the best personality in the world but if you never show it to anyone how are they supposed to know about it? I think Courtney is spot on with saying you have to be mindful of how you come across to other people as they will respond to how you present yourself

I really love the way you think, and you're right, if you want to change someone, he/she is probably not compatible. My mother was extremely classy, my wife was...not! No make-up, dirty nails, easy clothes, and absolutely not prudish. She was a sculptor with an IQ of 140 and quite mannish, she would take care of plumbing and/or electricity... I have a formation as dancer, and I was taking care of the laundry, dishes, children...I am quite womanly. Strangely, other people seemed to have more problems than us to accept the situation. Well, the situation went on for 36 year, so... I mostly have questions with all the conditions you have before you start a relation; first meet to know if there is a second, or not, and you build up...My mother would have liked you.

People date and not every relationship is the same. It depends on them on what they want their relationship based on how they want it to be. Whether accepting or allowing it or they are both just like that. Edit: You covered it all and did an amazing job. If you don't like someone for something. Don't get with them. If she does porn and you are not ok with that. Then that girl is not for you. You can't change people either. They have to do it their own. It would not be a compatible relationship and should not have happened in the first place.

100% agree.. A classy Courtney appearance and personality is the most attractive for me. Your husband is a luck man !! Also says how wonderful your parents are too.

That’s good it got so many views, I find a lot of women unattractive these days because of how out there they are - Onlyfans, IG models, posting selfies everyday for attention, etc. A man doesn’t want to have to share his woman. Self-Confidence without requiring validation from others all the time is really attractive too. As you said, it is about self-respect too and if you think long-term as a man, you want someone who will represent you well. In a marriage, you represent each other. When someone sees you, they think of your partner, vice versa. “Reputation”

They used a great example with a pick of Courtney.

Justin Waller does say some good things but he is a top 1% guy and does believe is one sided monogamy. He is free to sleep around but she isn't. With his status he might get this if he does get married. Lila Rose called him out on Whatever and he was very dismissive of her. To the guys. Don't hate the player, hate the game. Envy of this man does you no good. He is 100% spot on this TikTok.

this type of awareness and accountability is much needed and actually a turn on for me.

Courtney, it isn't surprising to me at all that people would look at you as an example of a beautiful woman that dresses classy. Your look is always on point. As for how someone dresses, there's times and places. Folks don't normally wear a RATM shirt and ripped jorts to a business meeting. Right? My wife advises me on how I dress at an interview, colors to wear, et cetera. She wants me to be my best. My father liked hanging out in biker bars. He's a sociopath, and hung out with a few true blue psychopaths. His idea of watching me was to take me drinking with him, then drive home drunk with me in the truck. But I grew up around these guys. And as they have gotten older, there's been benefits, wakes, et cetera. My wife has no experience in this world, and I did forbid certain outfits. Why? Because I didn't want to get into three fistfights at a funeral. These guys are in a different world with different rules. Is it controlling? I dunno, but I was worried about her safety. Some of these folks aren't nice to outsiders. Some aren't nice at all. But there is a connection. My absence would be taken amiss. So it's situational is my point. Generally, I give advice, but she wears what she likes, and so do I. But in certain situations.....maybe listening to your SO is a good idea.

to get something worth it you need ; 1 - be realistic, see things as they are 2 - good management 3 - know where to draw the line to get someone who shares your values. good show sis

I agree find someone you match well with values, lifestyle, and life goals whom you can accept because even healthy boundaries can feel like oppression/control if the two people are not on the same page and are incompatible. good people become toxic when they are with the wrong people, so we gotta pick carefully and wisely.

I think that of the problem when it comes to unhealthy relationships is mutual desire and effort to force the relationship despite a massive incompatibility. Like stop trying to keep that hoopdy on the road the repair costs is a bad idea because the car is totaled "but what if getting another car because availability would cost even more and all car buying is a hassle regardless of price range" you might be supposing. No doubt it is going to be extremely unpleasant to move on the long term outcome you stand to achieve mostly but not always is worth the risk of going through the trials and finding the right vehicle isn't guaranteed. The probability of getting a great deal and not have to worry about upkeep is likely enough not rolling the dice is a dumb choice. The beater doubled over is going to keep Nickel and diming over time + the crappier it is the frequency and amount of nickel and diming will increase Eventually despite how much money and TLC you try to further extend its usefulness will be for nothing because it is completely inoperable.

You're absolutely right about modern woman being wife material when they get married

Great video, I think trying to change someone is ok if they also see value in it too. It's more like helping them change as opposed to forcing.

When you put pictures of yourself on the internet your pictures are on the internet…..

BRAVO to Courtney for defining difference between Setting Boundaries (Healthy!) and "being Controlling" (UN-healthy)--and that the lines can blurr between the two. This is an important topic!--and yes, BOTH women & men can be "Controlling" . (From a woman)

An inconvenient truth about humans in general is that we are shallow by nature. That's why the way one presents themselves is so important. Your character may be the most important aspect about yourself, but people perceive the surface-you first EVERY time, and it guides their perception of you from the get-go

Courtney many women nowadays have incorrect assumptions about men's responses to women's behavior. They delude themselves into believing that if he doesn't like how she presents herself that must make him controlling, when in reality the man is simply holding her accountable for her choices in how she presents herself. He isn't telling her that she ~can't~ do it... he's just expressing his opinion and communicating what he wants. She can feel free to take what he says to heart, or not. He's not trying to change her or control her, he's just communicating what he wants and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that. Women do the EXACT same thing to men (judging appearance) without apology and they don't bat an eye--and they are even harsher in their judgement than men are--but somehow it's okay for women to do that but not okay for men to do the same. But then they scream they want equality?? How is a double standard EQUAL? That's part of the hypocrisy that men are tired of dealing with in dating women. I heard a joke a long time ago, and it came back to my mind only recently. The joke goes that the guy comes back from a date with a woman, and his guy friend asks him how the date went; and he says "I thought it was going fine at first, but then found out she's from Egypt--" The friend looks surprised and shocked by this seemingly bigoted statement, but then he finishes the sentence: "cuz she's living in the land of DA NILE [denial]."

It's quite refreshing to hear this view point. I knew a woman that publicly shows how she just doesn't understand this as I feel many people don't. Sadly her misunderstanding of presentation shows up in her daughters also being ill adjusted to the world. Modern women this they should be able to dress like a tramp and still have the respect of a woman who dresses "classy" I agree with you that you should present yourself for the respect that you would like to receive. Society benefits from having a little class and a little pride in how we present ourselves.

I'm not one to shy away from my opinion. That being said, I think you have always presented yourself tastefully well. I grew up watching Lynda Carter ( wonder woman) I think she's the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I would say your right up there with her. I think I speak for most men in that we are lucky we are able to see you. So, I wouldn't put much emphasis on anyone being condescending.

It was always been my belief that boundaries are helpful in relating to the world and it is always best to get permission to use people's images beforehand.

I was looking for an intelligent woman who had enough self respect to not have slept around, had no tattoos and wasn't on TickTock or Tinder. Be patient. They are out there.

I just had a conversation with a woman where she was speaking in "woman's speak" and every subject had at least one phrase where the meaning was the opposite of the actual words , it took a lot of effort to understand what she was saying and there are several areas where I have a lot of doubt that I actually know what she was saying. Often a woman will say something that sounds encouraging but could actually mean "get lost" . The problem is definitely getting worse , soon it will be impossible to talk with woman with any level of confidence.

They say "He's insecure" for wanting her to dress properly. Here's the thing, men desire commitment, exclusivity and security from women too. It just looks a little different. If you are being accused of being insecure for something so basic then she is not demonstrating the commitment, exclusivity and security she is suppose to give you. If she can't do that, what was the point in dating her? Its not insecure. A man having standards and being accused of insecurity by the person who is suppose to provide him with the basic security that should come with the relationship is engaging in vitriolic sexism.

Having preferences & being controlling are 2 very different things. I myself I00% agree with Courtney on this. I prefer woman who have brunette hair. She doesn't have to have brunette hair, she could be blonde or ginger if i like her enough. It's a preference that i like, but is not compulsory at all. They only things that i ask from a woman, (But not demanding at all) and is fair and reasonable is that she treats me with common curtesy, love & respect, and doesn't use me for my money and also doesn't cheat on me either. That's all i am asking from her. But NOT demanding from her. If she can do that to me as a romantic partner & doesn't have a problem with that, then i would be a very happy man. If she can do that, then i will very happily give the same in return. And hopefully she will be very happy with it as well. I think that is very fair & reasonable. I'm not asking for much.

First off seeing photos of Courtney in a video that's something and I bet someone would use my photos hopefully not in a malicious intent more like a meme and second, I do got preferences in a woman, but it's more like I need more time to think a bit more on the subject so it doesn't make me sound controlling, manipulative, and etc. Still this is some good information no doubt about it.

Not sure if O-+ just really don't know that a lot of men will never have smooth clean hands. A lot of us are mechanics and tradesmen. The wear and tear and chemicals soak in to our hands and the get get cut and broken often. The most important thing we do is get the task done, worrying about our cuticles is the last thing on our mind. In order to feed our families, we have to get our work done, period. Failure is not an option. I wouldn't expect a O-+ to understand this. We require dexterity and gloves are often not an option. You can only scrub so much skin off before you get down to nothing. Obviously, we wash our hands, but they may still appear dirty. We'll keep the machines running, because that is what we do, despite the disrespect.

very true it goes both ways, want a classy girl, be a classy guy.

I think of provocative photos like a marketplace... if the demand for them is causing problems with monogamy, then isn't the supply as well? seems like if we each fixed ourselves we could tackle this problem from both ends instead of one side compelling the other to change while remaining unwilling to reciprocate

Really like this video because women think insecure wanting women dress classy but sexy have nothing wrong with wanting to be sexy for her man just like she what's me to classsy fit healthy and well groomed just standards and boundaries which is healthy long term best advice ever heard choose people that chooses you thank you Courtney❤

Yeah. Justin Waller was on the Whatever podcast where Lila Rose had a debate with him about loyalty, non-monogamy, & sexual morals. He was also on Jubilee as an Alpha vs. Beta Males.

What I saw was a pretty woman dressed appropriately for the fall, which the background showed it was. If that same woman was dressed in the same conservative clothes, while everyone else in the picture was sweating in T-shirts, because it was August, I'd wonder about her. For me the point is about appropriateness, not 'leaving something for the imagination'.

Of all the videos you've posted, this is by far your best one. It has motivated me to stop being the victim and improve myself. Thanks, you're a life saver. -Mike

Courtney, you are the standard and a great example of what a classy woman is. A woman that is wife material in my opinion is someone who is a good communicator and can have a healthy discussion on issues that might come up. Respects boundaries and is willing to listen to my side of things. Of course I will do the same for her. Someone who is willing to compromise.

I totally second what you said Courtney, and most, if not all of that comes down to common sence... but that was long ago it seems. Hook-up culture, social media and delutional "empowering" feminism seems to have dumbed down so large percentage of young women, and many guys too. Common sence is nothing common at all, not any more. 😒🤦🏻‍♂️ I think that... if a sociopath dude that feels like 💀💀💀 many girls... could just appear online saying in a very autorithative tone "women must breathe! " ... obviously many will get triggered and scream "misoginy"!... and... well, you can guess it.

Wifey Material for me, a single, 39-year-old man, is a kind, beautiful woman. Someone who shows that they strive for balance in varied aspect of their lives. It's the drama, arguing, drinking, pickiness, excessive weight gain, lack of working out, and general close-mindedness that led me to ending a 7-year long relationship with an otherwise lovely 30-year-old woman. I'm Husband Material, but not particularly wealthy. Good-looking, well kept, blue-collar, two jobs, just forced into my van because of cost-of-living and low-wages. It's pretty unbelievable what's happening to this country. I will be moving cities next week, and looking for my own place, but mark my word, I will not waste my time with a woman that doesn't check my "Wifey Material" boxes. I would rather be single forever. Truth Bomb!

First, I must address Courtney. Why are you surprised to see yourself in anyone's video when they are complementing the way you carry yourself? You are (what I believe) apart of the minority of women who believe and carry themselves with beauty and not with the necessary need to be sexy. That says a lot. You have a blessed husband. God is good🙏🏽 As far as this video goes. I completely agree with what this man is saying. "Less is more". The most attractive thing a woman can do for or to a GENTLEMAN is to leave something to the imagination. Business suite, summer dress, APPROPRIATE jeans and T-shirt. These are all that attracts the right man. Also, yes Courtney. No one should be a hypocrite. Agreed 👍🏼💯🇨🇦

Excellent and interesting topic. Wifey material and dating material consists of women who have a minimum of 3 basic qualities. They must be classy, stylish, and elegant. If a woman does not have these 3 qualities, I will not approach her. I don’t think this is too much to ask and I would never dictate precisely what a woman should wear. By the way, I have the same expectation of myself.

It cracks me up that so few people seem to have any historical or cultural perspective. What counts as "classy" or "trashy" varies with time and location, by a lot. There are cultures where a woman showing her hair is considered obscene - or even her face. And there are other cultures, or subcultures within larger cultures, where people don't freak out over nudity. And while I understand the evolutionary psychology of women's discomfort with men looking at p**n, good luck with trying to exert that preference. Virtually all men with Internet access look at it. That includes almost all the men you think don't - probably your dad, your teacher, your pastor, you name it. There are basically only two kinds of men now: those who admit they look at p**n, and those who do not admit it. Analysis of Internet traffic traced views from p**n sites back to IP addresses at the Vatican. Psychologists who try to study the effects find they can't locate enough men who don't view it to constitute a control group. So whether the activity is beneficial or not, it's a given. At least it's not destroying Earth's habitability like burning fossil fuels. Of course buying an OF account is a further step, because that involves spending money, which makes little sense given all stuff that comes up for free with a Web search. I'd question an OF subscriber's financial sense. But OF's market window is about to slam shut, given the rise of AI-generated fake women. AI will soon provide a better, cheaper, more socially engaging, and more customizable version of what OF content creators sell. But the simple evolutionary fact is that most of what a woman provides to a man is her ability to look good. That's where most of a man's enjoyment of a woman comes from. That's easily commoditized so of course the market insures it will be. Most of the so-called harm is socially constructed by religion anyway, the same folks who groom children to believe in Noah's Ark, and who also work hard to stigmatize people with minority sexual preferences.