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Just to clarify, marriage ISN'T going to make you miserable, but your wife sure as hell IS.

I was married for 28 years. The last 10 years or so was miserable. When i tried to talk things over, she said if im not happy, sell the house.. ie she is entitled to half of the assets. What really made my mind up to leave her, was when we were in a restaurant, my daughter was asking me for advice on what courses she wanted to study in Uni..( college ) Madam put her hand over my mouth, and started jabbering away in her language, cantonese. My daughter got angry with her, and said she was trying to talk to me. I just had enough at that stage. Got the separation papers through a lawyer. My daughter supported me, and i am so proud of her. I never looked back after. It cost half the assets, but it was worth it. No stress, no anxiety... never let a woman treat you like crap.

I have seen my mother hound and belittle my dad every day and as I got older it irritated me more and more. My father would come home from work and instantly be bombarded by negativity, moaning, complaining and belittling from my mum; “oh so now you’re going to have a lay down instead of helping around the house” when he’s just got home from a 5 day working week! To this day my mum still does it and it makes me feel so anxious. I will never marry.

My wife of 40+ years takes a 'happy king, happy kingdom' approach, and funny enough, that makes her happy.

The elephant in the room is the law, more often then not it encourages women to divorce their husbands because the get all the benefits, and for men it's opposite, they often stand with a wife who treats them like garbage just because they realize, if he leaves- he loses too much, and he may loose access to the kids. It's kinda differentiates between different countries, but more often then not it is the case, and today's trend is only to increase this problem.

I've always, even as a kid, been disgusted by the "happy wife, happy life" attitude. I was super argumentative, and men would tell me, "Your wife wouldn't let you get away with that." or "You can't say things like that if you want to get married." I always replied that I'd rather not get married if that's what it meant. I'm in my 30's now and I still feel that way.

For me, the tipping point that caused me to re-evaluate my future relationship plans was the realisation that many (if not most) men who got divorced and lost everything, did very little, if anything, wrong. Most didn't cheat or abuse their spouse, they pulled their weight, went out to thankless jobs everyday, clean the house like a modern man should..... And their woman simply got bored and left. The Divorce rate for women with 6+ bodycount (which is most women) is WELL over 80%. I'm a fairly good looking, athletic, professional person, and I made the decision 5+ years ago to NEVER get married, or co-habitate. I will not have my life ruined and be another statistic like the poor bastard in this video.

No wife, happy life.

Men would probably initiate divorce more often if there wasn't such a high price to pay for it, emotionally and financially. By the time they realize their spouse is a depressing pain in the ass, it's too late, they're trapped, so, they weigh the amount of pain they will suffer staying in the marriage verses getting a divorce. Consequently, they choose to stay until she inevitably initiates it because he shuts down. For him, often times, as the old saying goes, "It's cheaper to keep her". Most women, on the other hand, don't pay a price for divorce. In fact, they shed their responsibilities and gain cash and prizes. They are completely incentivized to take advantage of the benefits they obtain in a divorce at the expense of the man involved.

Women say they reject their men in marriage because the men don’t do their love language. They usually say that this is doing more of the emotional and domestic labour. Ask the men who get told this and do everything they can to correct it? Nothing changes. It’s just a stalling tactic so she doesn’t have to constantly reject him. The fact is, she doesn’t want to be intimate with him. She is no longer attracted to him. Intimacy has left the relationship, permanently. This is proven when they have affairs within marriage. The guy they hook up with has done none of that love language nonsense. She simply wants to ride his dipstick because she is attracted to him.

This is so true. It happened to me, but I had no idea she wasn't happy because she never once in 20 years expressed she wasn't happy. In fact, she had everyone fooled by acting happy. Then she blamed me, saying I was a bad communicator. Ironic.

Have seen that with my parents, my mum is totally nice to us kids but a complete insufferable pain in the rear end to my dad. It started slowly but reached a level where I just have to leave before I throw up. Showed me pretty nicely that women aren't worth investing into, or much effort in general. As I rather be alone then coming home to a prison where a harpy of doom is my warden. So yeah casual stuff works, a bit flirting is fun but anything remotely serious and I am out. Anything that would/could effect my life is not wanted, i just don't have the nerve to come home from work to then fight with a bitter harpy about me not existing in a way she likes.

"Why not get a divorce?" Ahhh because it's better to put up with a sexless marriage than getting financially obliterated in divorce court.

It kills me with everything we know and see, how men would even consider marriage. Social programming is insane...

Alexander's content is getting more and more black-pilled, and I'm totally here for it.

Good grief! The work required to maintain relationships with modern women is just too exhausting to deal with. Such great effort required for so little in return, with harsh consequences accompanying the high statistical likelihood of failing.

I was 7 years old when I realised I’ll never allow a woman to treat me like those women do in their marriage. My mental health comes first, she either will apologise or I’m gone.

That happened in my first marriage. Her friend whispered into her ear, and she divorced me. Married another guy he died, wonk wonk.

My mother once told me: "The best thing you can do for your children, is to love your spouse." This was an excellent presentation. Thank you, Alex.

The fact is, most men are selfless, while most women are profoundly narcissistic. A man will sacrifice his entire life out of a sense of duty and obligation to his wife and kids, sometimes not even realizing he is doing so because in his mind and the collective consciousness of society, it is considered the norm. A woman, on the other hand, is always evaluating how much she is getting out of the situation, whether or not her male partner is increasing or diminishing her social status, and whether she has better options. I think it's a myth that men cheat on their wives; most men don't, or if they do, do so only because they are involved with a woman who berates and neglects them.

Marriage is a terrible deal for a man. I know... i am twice dieworsed. BTW: i am stupid too😂

Weddings are funerals with cake.

These are facts. I'm twice married, and once divorced. Contrary to what some people, especially some women think, men are not scared of marriage or commitment. While it may be true for small portion of men, that is the exception to the rule and not the majority. Most men would love for nothing more than to be with one woman who they genuinely love and feel that that woman loves them back. That would be a dream for the vast majority of men. Why? Because unlike women, men love idealistically while women love opportunistically. It means that when a man loves a woman, he loves her for real and for the long haul. He doesn't love her based on his feelings from moment to moment or based on what she can provide for him. The opposite is true for women. Women love men based on what that man can provide for them. The problem with this line of thinking, is that it's very selfish and it means that women are loyal to their feelings as evidence by the 80% divorce rate initiated by women. Women believe that the marriage is all about their happiness, while us men know that marriage is a sacred thing and is a long-term, and permanent thing where our happiness is not paramount. Most men are loyal to duty, and we understand that if we get married we are not always going to be happy and based on the overwhelming evidence and experience from millions of men around us, we don't expect to be happy in a marriage because we know that everything that most likely made the relationship great and exciting for us will end once we give that woman a ring, based on previous experience. Early on in my first marriage I was pretty miserable. Our sex life was anywhere from basic to nearly non-existent. It got to the point where I slept on the sofa by choice, and no longer felt a romantic bond with my ex-wife. She was very selfish and narcissistic, but she was also painfully out of touch with reality in lacked self-awareness so she denied that she had any problems and instead blame the world. She would comment all the time that I was no longer physically or emotionally romantic with her, while forgetting to realize that she has been distant and cold with me for years. The main thing is that, even though I was miserable and was not feeling any sort of romantic love towards or from my ex-wife, the thought of divorce never crossed my mind because I knew what I was signing up for when I agreed to marry her. I knew that the marriage was not about my happiness, and it was about our covenant with God and maintaining the family. We had a young daughter, and I made the commitment to see her all the way through to adulthood. By the seven Year Mark, my ex-wife eventually acted way out of character and had an affair with her married boss. Needless to say, it nuked the marriage, and the divorce was drawn out and ugly all because she wanted to do everything in her power to cover the sky with her hands and make sure that her infidelity would never be made available to anyone. To make sure that she got to change the language in the divorce, she weaponized my daughter against me, with the assistance of the gynocentric court system. So, no men are not scared of marriage. All Men have a reason to be scared of marriage, because it's an extremely one-sided contract that only benefits the woman irrespective of who destroys the marriage for any reason. Men need to understand that this is probably one of the most significant contracts that they can ever sign in their life, and if they choose to sign this contract with the wrong person they can irreparably ruin their life for good. So while I am still married, and love my current wife very much, I am not brain dead. If we end up divorcing I will never get married again... No matter what. And even though I'm married and believe in the sanctity of marriage, with current divorce lawyers favoring only women, I usually suggest to men to think it out before tying the knot since they can lose everything if they choose poorly.

Lesbian marriage has a 78% divorce rate, heterosexual marriages is 54%, gay male marriage 18%. Since divorce rate is high with women the problem in relationships are women and not men since gay marriage has the lowest divorce rate.

i think that is the point - for women marriage is "the fairy tale ENDING". meaning they don't think they have to try anymore.

17:30 _This it's probably the most important thing you've said in this entire video. a lot of men have heard variations of the phrase if you treat a woman like a queen, she'll treat you like a subject._ _It's referencing the way women approach things with their own logic. In these circumstances you are teaching a woman what your role is and how she should treat you. If you demonstrate that you are somehow beneath her, then she will treat you as if you are, because you have effectively told her to do that._ *_This applies to your marriage as well. If you behave as if your happiness does not matter, then she will take that cue and treat you as if it does not matter if you are happy. She will do things that make you unhappy, and she will do so with the approval of her own conscious, because YOU TAUGHT HER TO._* You cannot expect dignity and honor from women as a baseline behavior. *_No one is teaching it to them._*

Domestic violence against men by entitled women has been so prevalent in society over such a long period of time, that most of society now views and accepts "Wife is always right" as comedic. It's plain and simple, Domestic Violence by women against men whether it be psychological, financial is not only acceptable in modern society, but it is joked about and rewarded.

I have news for you, Alex, women don't want solutions. They want to rant to you and share into their misery. I have experienced it many times already, when my wife comes to me and cries her eyes out about something that's simply dumb. But when I try to actually solved said problem, she simply says, no, I have to listen to her. It's stupid. But yea, thats how women are.

My parents recently celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary. They have never had the toxic dynamic where she was always right. They have a respectful division of labor, each appreciating each other for their particular strengths. I feel incredibly fortunate to have them as role models. Unfortunately, my ex wife didn't have the same values. Four years into our marriage she began seeking validation from other men (I wasn't giving her the "exciting" life she wanted). She ended up cheating on me with 4 different men (and several women).

The sad thing is that while these guys are struggling over how to keep the marriage alive, there’s a guy (or guys) who likely had her in her prime who don’t have to deal with any of this 😂

First comes the Wedding-Ring then comes the Suffer-Ring.

Getting a woman to sign a contract to ensure she loves and stays loyal to you is like getting a scorpion to sign a contract to not sting you.

I talked to a guy a month ago who said he hasn't had sex with his wife in 8 years. This guy is an athlete and high earner. Last time he touched her shoulder in bed to initiate she recoiled. He sleeps on the couch now. For two or three years. He said there's no point in sharing a bed. I asked him why he doesn't leave. He said because he would stop being in his kids lives. I asked why she doesn't leave him . He said because she would have to work. He stays to participate in his kids lives. She stays for money... so she doesn't have to work.

I’m actually the opposite. Every time I got into a relationship that wasn’t making me happy I left. The women couldn’t believe it.

Met a beautiful girl not too long ago and we are both enjoying each others company. Just now am I starting to realise how toxic my past relationship was. She literally asks me why I'm being so careful with my every move. I told her I need some time to fully grasp how a healthy relationship is supposed to feel.

People only make changes when the pain of the current situation is greater than the perceived pain of making the change. In societies where men are seen as failures when ending a marriage, and women are celebrated for being strong and independent when ending a marriage, it's easy to see who will reach that tipping point first. Hence, men fight harder to fix the marriage while women have little reason to do so.

So many women are narcissist now. My late wife wasn't on social media and had a good relationship with her father and we had a good marriage until cancer took her. My second wife was an absolute narcissist control freak. I kicked her out after a year and a half. ADVICE: Men, find a woman who 1. Is not on social media 2. Has a good relationship with her dad. You can usually still find these women in religious circles where people today still have a moral compass.

If KZfaq had Oscars, this channel should get it. It's timeless, extremely relevant and entertaining. Thanks so much, Alex!

Married or not, men need to keep on thriving themselves. Hit the gym, workout, maintain a good physique, work hard to improve the business or climb the corporate ladder to make good money, have good attitudes, practice assertiveness, learn to say No often, have strong boundaries, be a social creature.......all & all show your woman (women) that with or without you, my life will go on and it will thrive. If you don't want to be part of it, then thank you very much, it's so nice knowing you, there is the exit.

My sister literally confessed to me that she can't stand it when her husband is in the house. She wants him at work 24/7 while she's at home on her phone all day.

This is why I no longer feel that I am behind in life anymore because my complete focus is on my ambition, purpose and vision not women. Getting married and having children isn’t a priority of mine, but a bonus if it happens naturally and unexpectedly.

The more I research the topic of marriage, the clearer it becomes it's an outdated legal institution, no longer serving a legitimate function. Originally, the marriage served as symbol of financial responsibility. Typically, It signaled the transfer of responsibility for a girl, now woman, from her father to her husband. This arrangement, this institution, existed in a time when women didn't have the right to private ownership, they could not earn a living by any reasonable means. Later on, woman gained emancipation, which in large part meant they gained the right to private ownership, they could work for a living much like a man could. This should've meant a complete rework of how the institution worked, but it didn't happen. Men continued to have the same responsibilities as before. Later still, in the english speaking world at least, the family laws become corrupted to the point that marriage basically became an indentured servitude contract for men. This is why we have the memes of grooms being dragged back into the marriage by the bride. It no longer contains any benefits for men, only for woman. Indeed, family law isn't even something that exists to protect children anymore, nothing is more devastating for a child's psyche than seeing their parents go to war with each other. The US family law system is heinous, it designed in such a way as to generate as much strife as possible. Good for lawyers wallets, very bad for people, especially their children. I can't point to the exact moment marriage become completely outdated as an institution, there is no fixed point, but it is clear today, it serves no function anymore. What is clear, is something already being observed here in Norway(probably western europe as a whole, but not sure): People simply don't bother with getting married. The reason is that getting married doesn't mean much legally anymore, it's little more than an excuse to throw a party. What marriage previously governed, have been replaced by legal frameworks engineered to solve particular problems, without creating an avenue for abuse. For instance, in case of a divorce, we do not have an equivalent to the notion of alimony, it isn't a thing. In case of children(this is a big one), the default assumption is 50/50 custody now, which in turn means child support is rarely an issue, as the question child support is only applicable if the children is not with each parent equally. And when it's applied, we are talking relatively small fixed amounts of money anyway, these amounts being defined in law. This in turn means the massive legal dramas of the US simply don't occur, the legal system doesn't allow for it. So in short, marriage is unimportant here, so people don't bother with it. Some might see this as sad thing, but it is the logical endpoint once female emancipation became a thing. The alternative is the toxic institution it has become in the english speaking world, the US being the prime example.

I blame men for choosing to be with a woman that made him her last choice

About 6 months before my ex (13 year relationship) and I split, I flat out asked her “do I disgust you?” She answered “yes!” Background: she’d been having an affair.

Charlie Kirk nailed it recently: The groom wears black,bc it's the funeral of his ego and the irresponsible boy that he's been. The bride wears white,cause she wants to point out the princess she thinks to deserve to be treated as. Forever.

Women have an entirely different approach to things like "duty" and "honour" - they feel no shame in ditching an inconvenient responsibility, and can find a way to "justify" any lie or any broken promise.

I wasn't surprised when I got divorced by my ex-wife who wasn't happy. She blamed God and said that He wanted her to be happy and because she wasn't happy it was okay to divorce. Talk about a cultural distortion of Christian values. 😂 I married someone knowing it was going to be tough because of her behaviors and her family. I slogged through the hard times and learned I needed to get better at setting boundaries to protect my own happiness and sanity. Ultimately, setting these boundaries made our marriage phenomenally healthier and we started getting along great. Ultimately, our marriage didn't get healthier in the way she had determined it had to with her in control and able to manipulate my feelings however she wanted. If she wanted me sad I needed to be sad. If she wanted me angry I needed to be angry. By instituting healthy boundaries she no longer had control of my moods and the ability to turn herself into a victim by me saying something rash and semi-hurtful after listening to her tear me down for 30 minutes. Once she lost that power she couldn't re-orient to this new respectful type of relationship. Her history with men all the way back to her childhood was based in this emotional manipulation tactic. Despite every part of our relationship being tangibly healthier she couldn't accept it and therefore wasn't "happy." When the divorce papers came, I wasn't surprised, just saddened. I had trusted her commitment to Christian values despite knowing the marriage would have its challenges. Unfortunately, her commitment was flawed. I should have realized that knowing about her past relationships. The worst part wasn't even the marriage and divorce but custody court afterward for the next 3 years. By far the biggest character test I've ever gone through in my life. Even my lawyer told me I had the "patience of a Saint." I am not an extremely patient man or vice versa but I do understand being in control through difficult situations. Anyway, I already had a disappointed outlook on how marriagable women were these days and now that's been exacerbated. I did almost all the things he mentioned here but he's right, she was a bottomless pit. The end was inevitable.

"Wife is always right" is extra hilarious because 99% of wives don't use logic EVER, thereby drastically lowering the odds of being right. Glad I never married.

Communicate what you want clearly and if they refuse to put in the work, to respect and support you, leave them. You only have 1 life. The moment my ex's tried to disrespect me, or to use emotional blackmail, I left them. All of them begged to come back. Refuse. Have standards, as Alexander said. Learn to say No.

Hardly any wife loves her husband. Thats the truth.

You're right Alex, marriage is a duty for us. I see the 'Emotional abuse' discrepancy at the end, and I'm thinking this _should_ be higher for men but we do not perceive it as abuse because: a) Women's natural skills of gaslighting and b) The duty we feel for the woman/family. Sexless marriages, cold shoulders, disrespect, the constant uphill battles for defusing this week's drama, the number of hoops men must jump and endure, are endless. However we don't divorce them for this reason, *but* it's still happening. We, men, gave women too much power, and now they're acting as uncontrollable spoiled brats.

Talk to her to resolve the issue: Him: "What's wrong honey?" Her: "Nothing." Him: "You seem upset. Can I help?" Her: "I'm fine." Him: "Well ok, when you want to talk, I am here." Her: "If you don't know what is wrong, I am not telling you. If you loved me you would just know." Or: Her: "We need to talk." Him: "Ok, that's usually a bad sign." Her: **nags for 2 hours** Him: **zones out after being called an insecure man baby a million times.** 🤷‍♂

The lack of accountability is also the reason for why so many female characters are terribly written. Characters who refuse to take accountability for their mistakes cannot learn from them, and therefore cannot have character arcs. It doesn’t matter if she’s a Mary Sue, or a Damsel in Distress: Both are static and refuse to change.

I think it was good that my parents limited my TV when I was young lol. I wanted to take care of my spouse like my Mom did my dad. He did nothing in the home since he worked 12 hours days. She never really worried about money and he never worried about the house.

Lesson learned! If you do not want to be miserable for the rest of your life and loose 50% of everything you own... Stay single, why risk it? Leave the misery to the people that are not watching / subscribed to this channel. 😉 Human kind will survive and "we" will have a peaceful life filed with the things that we like.

It's not just toward women. It's towards employers, businesses etc. A local restaurant behaved like they did us a favor each time we went. Haven't been back there in years. Left a job where the boss treated me like he did me a favor by hiring me for one that paid less but treated me with respect like I'm part of the team. I don't need favor and if you think or feel like you're doing me a favor I didn't ask for the do me a favor, don't.

Great video! I've heard this BS from women about their relationships: I'm not happy so I have to end it. Me me me... I was silent hearing that. The best thing when those women came to me crying later they want their ex back and my response was: You f... up so deal with it and if you have a bit of decency don't try to screw that mens life again. Maybe that is why I have so few female friends 😂 Don't regret it. My experience - one girl told me she was unhappy and wanted to split. The reason of her lack of happiness was her mother hating me and her friends being scared of me. I said to her: Go but don't ever contact me again. 3 months later I was bombarded by her. I've blocked her phone, her on social media but still before Christmas, my Birthday etc. I get text messages from unknown phone numbers but the style of messages are hers. I keep ignoring her but the messeges keep on coming.

I think it was in the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" where it was said that guys break up 5 times in their heads before they actually break up. It's so disheartening to see so many women just being bored or just wanting the divorce. (No fault divorce) Meanwhile, they gaslight every men saying that divorces happen because of abuse and assault.

thats why you must never go into a loveless relationship

Excellent video. It's all about compromise and respect on both sides. Happiness is usually a state of mind on how you deal with reality. There are plenty of people miserable visiting Disney and plenty of folks making a good time out of their flight being delayed 4 hours.

"So get divorced," is what people always say. In the USA, he will lose the house HE bought and paid for, lose access to his kids, and will have to give up HALF his income to an ex until she dies or remarries

The real issue you don't cover is that you CANNOT make a woman happy. You can keep trying but you cannot actually to do it as she will always find another reason to be unhappy. And, as the paradox of modern relationships have shown, the MORE you try to make her happy, the WEAKER you appear in her eyes.

I didn't go into marriage expecting it to be a bad run. It turned into that a few years after. I never thought it would be a bad thing. If I had, I wouldn't have gotten married.

Men are conditioned to be tough, stoic and responsible or in short to man up. Things aren't expected to be easy and so we seek to overcome and solve whatever problem. Looking back one of the things that disgust me most is the fact that whenever I finished something and decided to sit she would erupt like it's criminal to not be always serving her. And yes, she left. And has already said several times it was a poor decision and asked to get back. I disagree, it was the best decision ever.

That’s excellent advice and distinction “her happiness is not your responsibility but it is your problem” 💯

I've always told people that love is sacrificial at its root. Recently I shared this opinion with my sister and she fundamentally disagreed with me. Guess I should've known it's only sacrificial for the man 😅

This “ball and chain” gave me 4 wonderful children ! But then again, I am divorced, and as a 50-year-old I’m living the best solo life.

And this is why I'll never consider marrying again.

there are only 2 outcomes to marriage. divorce, or remain married, and be miserable.

I've really never understood how all these "manly" men just become slaves for their wives today, it's so pathetic that it's no wonder the wife ends up cheating on them half the time. Are people so afraid of being alone that they really accept being completely miserable for decades instead?

When you give someone everything they want they lose the positive stress of challenge. She will get bored and seek stimulation elsewhere. Make people work to have the things they want and they will likely show a greater deal of appreciation.

The last graph is very interesting. Particularly that "emotional abuse" skews the most as a reason for women getting a divorce and "spouse's sexual infidelity" being (slightly) more commonly cited by men. I'm also fairly curious about the 1% of men who divorced their wives because of _her_ porn addiction, but that's a bit beside the point

It's about the expectations going in. Marriage has those false perceptions that women are the prize, and men are there to serve her. I don't have one of those marriages. I am with a woman that let's me lead without a hard time. The biggest problem is men aren't making themselves the prize. You have to stand up for yourself and put your foot down. You can't break. If a woman doesn't treat you like the prize, leave her because eventually she'll leave you.

The Mentality of modern women? if he did nothing wrong and the relationship is fine, leave him anyway because you can do better. I feel so bad for men growing up in these modern times getting married and being dumped for no reason. Well she got bored and she seen someone on social media that is more attractive and makes more money. This is the mindset of modern women.

Divorce laws are huge part of what keeps a lot of men in a crap relationship.

I understand the communication Alexander. If a man has been married for any real length of time, I assure you. He has suffered beyond imagination. He understands the threat of loss. People say women are more mentally tough. It’s a very real lie. Threat of loss destroys a man’s life. Threat of loss evens out a woman’s mind and puts her life in the right context. She works to gain security. A man is already stable because he knows he creates his own security. It’s a dynamic. What you are saying is somewhat correct. Listening yes. Hearing, yes. Helping her fix an emotional state…no. You just can’t make it worse using your emotional state of frustration or anger or some other state. The threat of loss must always rest in her. She actually can thrive that way and actually feel closer to you. It’s an interesting phenomena and dynamic. You must always be representative of her survival. And be that key to her survival. There is one fact that took me a long time to truly get, understand and believe in. It’s very powerful but seems brutal to us as men because we are linear thinkers. “A woman left to her own devices…will destroy herself.”

So… the key to a good marriage is a woman that can hold herself accountable. And what percentage of women hold themselves accountable?

My dudes, when you stop being the person who has everything to lose in the marriage, the response "shes always right" will cease to exist.

Women treat their husbands badly for one and only one reason, they want to justify their cheating. When I was working as an engineer for a large corporation, for some reason the women would come to me with all their problems. I think it was because they viewed me as safe, that is, because I would keep their conversations confidential. Anyway, at the bottom of all their complaints about how terrible their husbands were to them was a simple fact, they were having an affair. I think in their mind they justified their cheating by telling another person why they were doing it, as if I was a priest taking a confession. And if was the same for every case.

One of your best vids, Alexander. Very succinct and poignant. Perfect for any man thinking about marriage or even in one. I relate to most of it. The crusher is: you can only be rejected for so long...

The first measure to fix marriage in the western world is to bring back at fault divorce. This will make people more careful of who you marry but also make divorce the end result of a failing marriage and working about fixing marital issues first.

Im just an old retired guy, but on thing I know for sure, you have to be willing to walk away. If you’re not, you’re just a slave to her manipulation. If you are, and you should always have a plan for this, you will recover your power.

Let me tell you a quick story about how a carefree guy like me moved to a different state in the US, and life was good for a while. However, after my first kid, things took a turn. My wife, in competition with her sister, wanted a second child. I insisted we weren't ready, but she wouldn't listen. Gradually, she started rejecting my advances, and after a few years, I no longer have feelings for her. I'm now exploring a career path that allows me to go anywhere in the world. While I'll continue to be a father and support my first child, my mind is already set, and I've mentally checked out of the relationship. The next step will be a physical departure once my finances are ready.

When you let people do what they WANT to do, it shows you what they'd RATHER do. Men give women that space and of course, they reveal what they really wanted the whole time. You were just the MARK in the CON. She saw your assets, she saw your weaknesses, she saw your value and she decided how to PLAY you. She used tears, iniquity, charms, tricks and favors to trick you into a legal contract and once that line was crossed, she morphed back into her original form.

I think the fundamental error is our views on what marriage is about. Marriage is about creating a family to raise kids.

I love Alexander Grace's videos! I learn so much from this guy. I wish I had had his videos when I was a younger man years ago.

this is gold. should be mandatory viewing for everyone

Wow! Awesome video. Extremely clarifying. Loved it. Thanks, so much!

I took the leadership role, got her to go to a therapy group for women. Turns out they were fourth wave feminist. Time together does not equate meaning, it was just the feeling that she had so other people got her to think about other feelings that are crazy ones

I never tolerated BS, or being in a relationship that was a drag, constant drama, no support, etc. Men should wake up indeed. But I was indeed surprised and reasoned as in 11:17 when the mother of my (our) kids so easily threw it all "to be happy".

In my experience a woman’s happiness is often even more important than the wellbeing of her children.

I don't put up with the Dadvocate! I cheer her on. She's got a whole lot of common sense.

Everything about this video are the reasons why at the age of 52, I never married and never wanted to. I watched with my own eyes many men get wrecked in marriage and I can see most men are not happy in their marriages. One reason men are not divorcing women is at 13:05 of this video. The courts wreck men in divorce. For all the younger guys reading this, don't get married guys. As MHD says, "protect yourself at all times".

Fellas always put yourself first!

I follow a lot of this type of content and I would have to say this video is in my top 5. Thank you.

"Men expect to be tolerably miserable in marriage." -- now I understand why I stayed in my miserable marriage for so long before she left me. I expected tolerable misery. When it became intolerable, I just upped my tolerance threshold and kept on doing that, until she reached her unhappiness threshold.

Men are willing to sacrifice their life for the family. That is our purpose really, and it makes us feel fulfilled. In the past, women didn’t have unlimited options, they had a handful of choices or less. They handled the household, men handled the work. Was everyone happy, no, but they had a cooperative relationship that made life better for everyone. Now everyone is selfish, and no one is happy.

One of the most important and - above all - insightful messages on man/woman relationships I have ever heard. Thanks for that!

itts crazy how always new things i dont think about pop up in your videos