It is so good to see a happy comment here! Congrats on you and your husband!

Same!! After I met my husband my skin started glowing and I rarely break out! I gained healthy weight and even people say I looked happy and healthy 😊

A grand marriage indeed. Wish you guys all the best. Manifesting this for myself and all the recovering spoiled girlies in due course ❤

You got yourself a unicorn! ❤❤

This is how it should be. Wishing you both a long marital bliss. Enjoy girl ❤

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I agreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee💯. Just got out of situationship where I was only given hot and cold treatment. 3weeks of no contact. It is hard sometimes but I remind myself how I was treated.

@@therealmanifestelle This video just got you a new subscriber queeennn!!! Just found your channel🩵.

Facts smh

Me too right now, it's hard for sure. We can do this.❤🥺

Men say otherwise because it is the opposite for them. They glow up with a woman and glow down when single lol

Wish my Nigerian mom understood this

@cherryivana1129 but at least you wouldn't make the same mistake. my father took my mom's youth and reputation. She could never get that back, hence why we had to move across the country. My father ( jamaican) was a smooth talker when he wanted to worm his way back into her life but would provide nothing. Honestly, if my sister and I never shared our disappointments with her, she would have stayed. He isolated her.she had no friends and instigated fights between family. She didn't talk to my grandma for years. I love my dad, but he was vicious, controlling, and manipulative. My mom became a better parent when she left him because she became more present and had more energy to do things with us.She wasn't crying all the time, and her voice became clearer because she wasn't yelling. She lost the weight, I think, because she was sleeping better and wasn't stressed, worried, or scared etc.She was able to go places and do things with us like take us to Disney world. Eventually, buying her own home, we would have never had those childhood experiences if she stayed with him. Women from a certain generation are scared of the stigma that comes with being a single parent, especially if they are hard-working black women. The thing that hurts me most is that she thought we would suffer if she left him because we did/do love our dad, but our emotional states were and still are dysfunctional. I'm happy they are far away from each other. My mom puts us first now and can do more things she wants now.

@@amethystjones9677 mannn I wish my Nigerian mom was like your mom cause my mom put me though so much when I was 14-22 about communicating with my dad and shit. Plus I have seen violence between my parents and I sometimes be feeling some anxiety and ptsd from both of my parents being in the same car together. I don’t have any sympathy for both of them especially my dad cause why would he choose my mom out of all ppl???? That’s why I’m tryna move out of my mom’s house cause I cannot heal and grow up still being in my hometown. I would’ve wanted to be get closer with my mom if she had just divorced my dad. That also why I don’t respect the Nigerian culture and I’m completely distancing myself from it.

My mom looked older when I was a kid and we were getting abused by her husband, this is legit

I watch her KZfaq videos!

@@cloclo5290 who is she

Her name is BurbnBougie here on KZfaq. She's also a gem dropper on men and prioritizing yourself as a woman

@@harrytimmy5070 thank youu

I’m not kidding but I lost 10kg in a month after my ex left. He made me fat and crazy. The constant gaslighting was horrible.

That’s true. Notice also that the bitter incel XYs like to make snide comments about the glow-up, where they say, “you watch, she’ll get fat and ugly again when she finds her new guy.” If that new guy treats her like a queen, she’ll only get better looking.

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It didn’t make sense as to how people managed to have glow ups after breaking up with their ex, but I did the same and immediately had a glow up too.. my mental health is still in the works, but I’m so much more better and feel less trapped with him ngl

Very true but it could be due to the hard water where you’re located too.

Unhealthy Male energy is a drain.

exactly! Very good point! Don't be afraid to be single if you have to. Men don't define us. And some men, just like some women, are called to singleness. God will show the way and help you, if He wills that way for you.

and another thought your comment sparks in me - how these same unhappy unhealthy women, suffering in their relationships, then raise their sons to repeat the cycle by mistreating women, by not being atuned to them.... and indifferent and often absent (mentally) dads doesn't help the case! because think, all these toxic men been raised by women!! what women and how to get that kind of result?! It's really into our hands to raise sons (men )to be great husbands for next generation women! (Obviously, this goes for women who get to the point of that, I for example, am childless, but if I had a child, specially a son, it would be my mission to raise him to grow up a decent man, not an asshole that I myself would not want to meet if I wasn't his mom!)

Also be aware of fitness who take form you, but don’t give anything back. Those friends steal your beauty.

How

It can honestly be far more inconspicuous. Last year I was extremely stressed all the time and my anxiety was through the roof, I basically had all the symptoms of thyroid issues but not in blood work. Super high blood pressure. I've had issues with stress and anxiety for a while now but, not like this. Only once my housemate moved out (on my insistence btw) did I start to stabilise and be able to think clearly. His behaviour on paper didn't seem as bad. But I realised having someone that constantly puts off, minimizes issues and either jumps into panic mode or completely dismissed your concerns as "you're just letting your anxiety get the best of you" its far worse than being on your own. On paper someone "being chill" and saying oh don't worry about it, it's not a big deal, I'll deal with it later" sounds like something completely reasonable to say. However when "later" becomes days and weeks, you're just piling on things you have problems with and what needs to be solved. And if you say you'll do it yourself then they tell you you're overreacting and to chill and they will take care of it, going through another cycle of stressing you out and questioning your own sanity. Solving things on my own is stressful, it's just life, but it's far easier and far less stressful when you don't have someone convincing you they will solve it later, or that it's irrelevant.

I'm sorry to hear this.I hope you have received support and therapy for what happened to you.

I wish you happiness in the future. Just remember that you never deserved what happened to you. No women deserves that.

And I am sure you were the one bringing in all the money. These dusty men that abuse women never seem to be able to provide either.

❤ true. Be safe.

​@@GemGem12same ❤😢

It's nice to hear a positive experience through all these comments.

Giirrrll❤❤I love that for you

Amazing

love this for you! manifesting this NGL 🫶

They probably have. Don’t deny your truth.

!!!!!! I want this comment on my wall!!!!!!!!!! So beautiful, your children are blessed to have a mother like you! 💖

Screenshot 🙂

"Never give yourself away for free." Amen!

i just got out of a 2 year long toxic/abusive relationship and was diagnosed with MS.. kind of crazy how that works. even before seeing this video, I 100% believed that me developing an autoimmune disease was because of the stress and trauma I experienced.

I don’t think you know how useful this video, I now have clarity on what want.

Might be on to something LMAO 🤣🤣🤣. Seriously last time I laughed wholeheartedly was when I was single

Or the beginning of the relationship. That's how you know they're 🗑️🗑️🗑️

How is that a motivational speaker?

Depends on the type of guy you're dating. I'm talking to a guy and I feel good, even better. But I don't wanna rush things.

@@Bananaaabread They’re saying that people who are truly happy laugh whole heartedly. The girls who are in relationships with boys who don’t make them happy are the ones who don’t laugh while heartedly because they’re not truly happy despite thinking they need a boyfriend to be happy. It’s a lie girls are told, despite single women being statistically shown to be much happier because they’d rent stressed out by a man. That’s why it’s important to learn to live yourself first, and vet a man because if he makes you unhappy what’s the point of being with him?

yes this🤎🤎

that's crazy!! thank you for sharing! I've never realised this! you're so intelligent!

Thats how boy moms become pickme zombies

Hey excuse me wtf? Testosterone makes you aggressive and angry lol patriarchy makes you a pickme zombie

bro what😀😀 how do you advise to stop having "male babys" altogether then?? I'm sorry but this comment ain't it girlypop

If the marriage wasn't bad though why divorcing?

@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Who aspires to an existence that "isn't bad" as a life goal? Who says when asked how they are "not bad" and is really fulfilled in life? I am living beneath my privilege. You don't know anyone's individual situation or the goals of said people. I want to be in a loving relationship where my intellect is also respected, my husband does not look like a homeless man on a daily basis or have the emotional maturity of a fish. I am not an indentured servant. I am on a trajectory of accomplishment and prosperity because we all deserve these things and will no longer tolerate such vampirism. There are other things too numerous to comment on but why should anyone settle? Never settle. Never settle for anyone's bare minimum. Despite this, I found myself in this marriage, I became better, stronger! I have no regrets. Life is about learning. It is an adventure for those who are unafraid to try! Excellence my dear in ALL things! May you be well!

Happy for you 🌻

When I look at pictures of myself at the end of my relationship with my ex husband I am shocked. It was so obvious I was totally drained and unhappy... My skin looked half dead, my hair was dull, my eyes with no light in them. It's insane what a bad situation can do to your health

Did you have kids with him? Did he make your divorce difficult? Does he leave you alone now? Did he threaten to kill himself every time you tried to leave?

What😮? Are you serious? Did you workout together or something? How did this happen?

@@FoundSheep-AN It’s called loss through transference. Her energy transferred on to him and his transferred on to hers. Certainly been there. That’s why I know the term too well. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

this happened to me too 😭😭😭

thank you for sharing 🤎

Dusty men make you fat. Well done for walking away and getting back to your original weight ❤

I LITERALLY screamed YAY @ the end!!!!!! ❤

This happen to my sis but she didn’t learn she’s talking to him again 😂

​@vikki8699 in my case they also make you emaciated. When I was depressed in my last relationship I had a very bad lack of appetite, I barely ate and took care of myself.

thank you for sharing🤎 stress is so overlooked in women's health conversations

Woah stress really affects your body this much?

@@therealmanifestelle thank you for talking about this topic

@@jinhub2175Yes, especially chronic stress. For instance, there is a very high correlation between stress and the development of autoimmune disorders.

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I would get the worst allergy hay-fever-type fits!!! This is serious. Put yourselves first, ladies!

Oh yeah because you "can't go to bed mad" so it HAS to be worked out right NOW even if it IS 1am and you have to be at work at 530am....

​@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 Yep Well my guy would tell me mean stuff and then go to bed without letting me reply to him. Or he would wait until very late to tell me "by the way I did this nasty thing". Or he would start questioning my life choices and torture me with them. Truly awful. I regret these three months, such a waste. It took me 4+ months to recover from it and I'm not out of the woods yet.

Same I used to cry every night, it was real bad. I’m so glad I’m out of it now

Exactly never allow any dusty destroy ny peace . Especially if they are acholoic

So happy you are glowing and blooming again ❤

@@LG-zg8mw thank you, hun 💓

Well I congratulate you sister, I have the same story! I often remember how lucky I am right now. I feel at peace. ☺️

@@improvingmyself604 thanks, luv. Glad you are in a better place, too. Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. 💓

I relate to this one. I noticed that I’m way less stressed when away from my parents. I’m glad to be able to move out and have my own place. I don’t break out at all either other than from pms symptoms.

YES!!

isn't it the reverse, because you're vulnerable you're more likely to fall for a narcissist?

@@tdelioncourt1268 If you’re mentally vulnerable, yes, but if you happened to end up with a narcissist and didn’t realize it till after marriage, but still choose to stay, then what op wrote is more true. Either way, it’s a lesson that once you realize something is off it’s best to leave because of how the stress of these situations effect our body. That’s why all women should have secret accounts, and don’t let a man have financial control of you.

Yup, I grew up with one, was diagnosed with psoriasis when I was 15.

Are men really supposed to make you feel good though? I feel like it’s impossible 😔

@@Bellaa4578 Yes, babe! He is not supposed to make you feel stressed! Why do you think it's impossible?

Same!!! I felt like thrash, was smoking pot all the time, no will to do anything….all changed when I ghosted him!

Indeed, I’ve got 3 consecutive times UTI from the same guy due to a lack of feeling secure in the relationship as being in a situationship with him while I wanted a real commitment .

This ive been looking the comment. I got infection after 1st time w him (no condom).

Yeah, I got IBS and just a lot of GI issues.

Wow real

This was me for almost 3 years. Before i met this guy, the only time i went to the gyno was for annual checkups. But after sleeping with him i was there constantly and even spent more than 2k (which i pay with my own money) to figure out why i was getting v infections over and over all of a sudden. Finally broke up with him and even been with another guy and this has never happen again. I was so embarrassed thinking there was something wrong with me all those years.

😮😖this traumatizing

It happened to me. Got an infection down there, around 1-2 months after sleeping with him

happened to me too. then they complain about how "girls smell" but it's literally THEM causing it.

Yes! 100%. My boyfriend makes me smile so hard my face hurts. I have smile wrinkles starting to form at the corners of my eyes from how much I smile. Id rather age looking happy than looking sad

That sucks tho that women now go through that “draining process”. Husband basically got some left overs

@@jasoncamacho4855 I guess it depends. I was speaking of being drained energetically, not sleeping with people.

​@@kendraaraiza7039 The bums drained you dry 🤒🥶🤧🥵🤮🤬 Your hubs tended the garden. 🥰🥳💖🌻🌹🌷🌿🍀🌺

hi can you give advice on how to find a good husband?

@@jasoncamacho4855 if men stopped treating women badly women wouldn’t have to go through “draining processes” at all. Treating women badly also affects men too because the women might date a man but a lot of dudes dislike women enough to the point that they don’t even care that they could be traumatizing a women that could be the wife of a great man 🤷‍♀️

What was his ethnicity nationality and religion?

The brain thing is real. I go through it to.

Thank God you are out of that situation! He was a criminal! No wonder he wanted to subjugate you. A criminal who’s asking for the purest of pure …. Lol gimme a break!

Similar here too, I often was treated like I was lesser - stupid and slow, before we started dating I could speak well, few years passed and god damn I sometimes fumbled over simple sentences...

Did you ever wonder if your ex who thought men are the "better" sex is ashamed of himself & his urges? It seems like you were the scapegoat for his frustrations. He can't be you (female). Maybe that's why he felt the need to constantly put you down? It's just a thought. Either way, he has serious issues and I'm glad you are out of that situation. No woman will ever be pure or good enough for him, because once he touches her, that quality diminished.

Women are better single unless they are getting married (marriage!) to a man that helps them and gives them a stable comfortable life and supporting them and loves them

If you find a man who lifts you up and makes your life better, it’s better than being single imo. But that’s hard to find. I’d take single over miserable any day.

Better off alone than with the wrong person but better off with the right person than alone :/

yes girl get a toy - get the airvibe, ditch men 4evaa

​@@kingisabelthat's the worst advice...wtf. 🤦

Aww 😢

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I KNOW my kids will be writing this sentence in 20 years. My soul is just dying.

@squreshi8413 Nah, your kids won’t be writing this in 20 years because you’ve realized the problem and you’re going to get rid of the problem. Your kids will be writing about how you started thriving after dumping the guy that was stressing you out. (This comment is a month old so hopefully you’ve already dumped him!)

I hope she pulled herself together after this

Congratulations, girlypop!!!! Wishing you all the best. You deserve the WORLD and not this dusty guy in his own feminine receiving princess era. So proud of you for knowing your worth! Sending you virtual flowers 💐 💗💐💗

If you can afford it, get trauma therapy. Or look up videos on childhood neglect and how to recover. I attracted people with this sort of user narcissism energy and it was because of how I was raised and knowing that makes me less confused and ashamed. I hope you attract the kind of love you deserve ❤️

Crying yourself to sleep with him next to you not giving a crap definitely does something to you.

babes im sorry to hear that u had to go through that, you are so strong to get yourself out of that situation and i am so happy for you. please take care of yourself and sending you the best 💋 *hugs*

Wow girlie you are awesome

This is wonderful, I'm so happy for you. We have truly found the fountain of youth.

how are tattoos a bad thing 🤨

​@@lukauka7829ikr wtf

@@lukauka7829 When you go overboard with them, like getting full sleeves on your extremities, or you get the “biker chick”/“prison girl”/“trailer trash” tattoos. A small, subtle tattoo can still look elegant.

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living First off, I'm really sorry your friend was in the kind of relationship that brought her down. But for real, can we stop this disrespect for women who make style choices that do not match our own sensibilities? Just because it's not an infinity symbol behind on the ankle does not make it trashy.

They're the worst ones. When you boost the ego of a man who can't boost it himself he gets delusional. Focus on yourself and your baby getting pretty then shit on him and remind him of his place.

Girl same, I wish you and all of us in similar situations THE BEST, and a successful, quick exit from him! 💜

Yes, dating ugly men is the WORST advice I ever heard. Many of them DON’T appreciate a woman’s beauty. On the contrary, many of these ugly guys get an inflated sense of self-worth once they get a pretty girl to date them, and they act HORRIBLY toward her and other women. Big Ed from “90 Day Fiancé” is a perfect illustration of this.

thank you for sharing 🫶🏽🫶🏽

Be safe and cautious when leaving. Move in silence. The most DANGEROUS time for a woman is leaving. 💗

I lost weight after leaving an abusive relationship

@@thiccredgyal3404some people loose an unhealthy amount of weight during toxic relationships whilst others gain an unhealthy amount, the important thing is that both groups go back to their healthiest, best selves after they leave.

@@moonshade3730 💯

I mean, that first point is about how his appearance can mess you up, too. Too many girls will consciously give men they consider an ugly guy a chance.

@@no.6377 yes this is soooo true. I was dating a nerd, and I found out that he was fooling around with a girl from his gym! Even the dorks have the ability to screw you over it’s true, but more importantly is what’s inside hopefully we can all find some kind of happy medium🙏🏽❤️

yes! 💯💓

What to do when your man does all that but you’re still not convinced he’s the one for you? When You see so many women claiming they want a man to treat them just like your man treats you, but you can’t seem to dive in? I think my biggest stress factor recognizing I am still not fully sold on my man when he provides by paying all the bills and spoils me and gives me massages and the whole princess treatment. He took me to Hawaii for free and we are about to go on another trip in a couple weeks to Italy. The thing is, I always thought that’s exactly what I wanted, someone that is able to provide and make me feel protected as a biological instinct we women have due to years of evolutionary mutations in our DNA. and I do love how it feels to be treated this way specially because I never in my life thought I deserved this kind of treatment but yet he gives it to me and makes me feel super safe and loved and supported. He’s actually made me a better person because I was so cold, hard, a wall and now I can communicate and I am so honest about how I feel, but he has made me kinder and softer in the way I say things. No need to be blunt, things can be articulated in ways that don’t pass my self loathing to others. He’s done so much good for me. Yet, I still self sabotage and wonder wtf is wrong with me? He’s not the most attractive guy but he’s not ugly exactly, Just softer than I’m used to? But he has his manly moments. Gosh as I write this I wanna puke at myself. He’s my preferred height, 6’2. As I write this I see how superficial I might be making this relationship. It’s almost like I’m going after what I’m “supposed to go for” instead of “what I want.” I also feel it’s partly because I took my time with sex and lost it as a much older age than normal, and now I’m here about to be 29 with just 2 bodies and I almost feel like I missed out? Like I spent so much time being the ‘good girl’ to get someone like him and now here I am, complete case of human nature at its core, dissatisfied. Wanting to risk it. Wanting to see what being bad is like. Wanting to rebel. I’m more the risk taker than he is but I bring it out of him. He’s the good guy i gave a chance to and now feel sort of stuck because of the way he makes me feel. I am selfish as fuck because I love how he loves me. And I have been so honest with him and told him that to his face, that I have lost some of the attraction and I love how he loves me more than I love him, I have never been able to be so vulnerable and open about my feelings for someone and he takes it with such grace, no matter how hurtful my feelings sound like. I never last out I always say “hey babe I feel like I need to say something so that it doesn’t grow in the dark and become a big deal and yet, he just says that it’s okay. That he’s willing to put the work and if that’s not enough for me that he’s happy to stay for as long as I let him. He has put the ball entirely on my court. I feel such conflicting emotions, he’s 80% the type of man I want to have but the lack of attraction has given me increased cortisol and gained weight as mentioned. I try to tell myself that looks will fade and eventually how he treats me will outweighs that because at the end of the day, we spent a majority of time being “older” than we do younger and short term decisions sound illogical. granted there’s a million girls prettier than I am, so I know it’s not exactly an ego thing. I just dont know what to do. I have always done better and looked better when I am single. After my first toxic abusive relationship I lost 40lbs. I have gained it all back while with him and that’s not his fault at all, I know it’s mine. So sorry to vent but I feel like I have no one to say this to irl, because I know everyone would think I am crazy to be saying such fucked up things about a man like him, and I would instantly be the mean and bad one for these fucking feelings that’s something as superficial as attraction can create

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That's a great mutual match

Healthy relationship

So true like I feel like I’m not meant for it because I lose myself time and time again . Also with my career , and also with friends I’ve noticed, well the ones that don’t pour into me as much as I do with them ! And I have said and did awful things to my ex friends that wanted better for me but I didn’t know what that look like until now . Also my mental health is awful now . but yes anything that stresses me out now , It gots to go I’m over all the bullshit . Toxic Family , toxic friends and toxic relationships , and toxic work environments!

@@naenecoSame here girl. Same. Just wishing you strength and better days ahead! 🙂

That’s the truth. Rose didn’t put up with his garbage, and when she kicked him to the curb, she glowed up to the point where she got modeling gigs in her native Philippines AND she got herself a rich Australian boyfriend. Poor Liz’s looks got impacted as she stays with that troll Ed.

I was just going to post this!!!

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Tbf, the modeling gigs were probably because she did 90 day fiancé which put her foot in the door as a tv personality, but I still agree that she leveled up after dropping the stress ball known as Ed. She looked awful when she did the show.

Which Liz? She is from some movie or serie?

🤎🤎🤎this

Single is the way! 💜 They can be “generous” and take advantage with each other! ✌️

Their generosity is to oblige. Not really genuine.

Some guys will get you pregnant to sabotage your fitness goals.

Happened to me. Was a runner and worked out and he did everything to keep me from training and insisted I was 'naturally' like that. I stopped all that and gained weight, became depressed. He was also a narcissistic misogynist. Always was gaslighting me. These days I prefer to be single.

@@wyleecoyotee4252 how old were you?

I didn't have coffee yet ☕ so I realize I worded that so oddly and repetitively but eh I'm too tired to edit I'd rather write this 😂

Mine is married. Wonder wat she wud look in a few years. Oh god i hate him

PH disruption- YESSSSSS

If you can't leave right now, do whatever you can to carve out self care, baby steps if you need to-hugs.

I have literally done this, I wrote a letter to the universe stating I want back everything that was stolen from me through a toxic relationship, dental issues, hair loss MY BEAUTY etc. Found solutions getting dental work, red light therapy. This is all very real stuff, whether it's stress induced or what, it is real.

Girl same! I just ended a three year relationship with my ex who was also my first love 😭 I'm only broken up for a month but my health improved so much in that one month after breaking up

@@maryam9769 worst was i spent 2 months post breakup waiting that below bare minimum low erfrort man to change his ways so we could be together again, losing so much weight 😭 i’m so happy for us girl, you gonna find someone who makes you glow. but it’s the first loves that are hard to get over fr

NO please don’t tell me this is a sign. I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my bf and we see each other twice a year. I’ve been gaining stomach fat, but losing weight. My skin was always smooth but I’ve been noticing a lot more acne. I used to have super fast metabolism but now I can drink two bowls of soup and call it a day. Problem is, he actually treats me so well. He’s so attentive to my needs. He notices when I’m upset before I do, feeds me good food, and buys me clothes when he notices that I am growing out of my own. I don’t buy a lot of things for myself, but he always goes out of his way to treat me out and make me feel better when I’m down. But at the same time, I feel like my speech patterns are getting slower and I easily trip up over what I say. My reaction time to everything has gotten a lot slower and I feel so weak physically.

@@jessiezheng2533 that has probably nothing to do with your boyfriend, you should go see a doctor

I also eliminated male friends from my life during the latest couple of years. How are you doing without male friends? What were the reasonings you had etc?

I think 🤔 you guys are on to something!!!! ❤❤❤❤ I’m about to purge and see what’s the value, they can go thanks for sharing

@@FoundSheep-AN honestly I'm doing just great, I don't see any difference so they weren't made to be in my life in the first place. I used to have them just because I get along with them but I've learned that I can get along with them without being friends with them

I’ve noticed something similar when I go out with guys. People tend to approach them more, wanting to talk and help them out. At first, I found it strange-why were people suddenly so social? Even the guys looked surprised by the attention, like they weren’t used to it. It wasn’t until I watched this video and read the comments that it dawned on me: maybe being around me gave them a certain value in others’ eyes. Suddenly, strangers wanted to engage with them more when they were with me, and I didn’t understand why. So yeah, I definitely think being seen with a woman can make a difference.

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💛 keep on shinning strong, sis! Thanks for sharing.

Wishing you happiness and a beautiful, soft life

They have nerve complaining about the friend zone when they fake being our friends to begin with. They just wanted sex. Ewww.

I agree. I think if it’s just gets excessive or if you keep getting ILL then…. That’s abnormal. There is something to be said there. But gaining weight in a relationship makes a lot of sense especially for women and especially if they have a loving partner who reassures them of their attractiveness. Everyone, just keep an eye on your health.

Idk but I feel like this is the comment I have been looking for 😅

Some women may get more relaxed, more comfortable may even put on a couple of pounds but there will still be an inner glow and overall youthfulness and joyfulness that is beautiful if they are in a good relationship. But sadness, depression, toxicity, unhealthy lifestyle and abuse will literally drain the life from you and age you and make you gain cortisol which makes you gain weight in other kind of ways than the happy kind of weight gain.

This is true lol, from what I have seen and know, they look like 2 different kinda "ugly". The comfortable "ugly" is cute and admirable and they can snatch up, it's like a choice to lose the weight, do their hair, it's like a simple bounce back"like omg girl u look so relaxed and happy" vs the stressed ugly "omg girl, you okay?, you need some therapy" this one take a longggggg time to get out of. I have experienced both and the latter was the worst

I gained weight a bit after starting new relationship, but it was due to being treated by bf, he's a great cook and I can't say no to his delicious food. He gained weight a bit while being with me, but we're both glowing and looking young. I'd tell that's "comfy gain weight", but we're both trying to eat healthier and move more 😊

Yeah based on this comment I can tell you that you definitely aren't getting smarter you are just getting used for money

Low value person right here, don't pull their level downward

precisely!

And VICE VERSA IS ALSO TRUE😂 YOU KAREN

Thank you! I’ve had friends who couldn’t be single and jump from guy to guy. Things wouldn’t work out and they would blame it on the men but would reject the notion that maybe they should take a step back and nurture themselves first and foremost.

yes, 💯 Kiki you are spot on! I could even go as far and suggest you to read Paul's letters in regards to relationship statuss ... stay beautiful, sis 💛

@@AmericanDreamer I’ve been reflecting lately, and I’ve noticed something about myself-I tend to feel happier after my relationships end. It’s got me wondering if I’m one of those people who thrives more on their own. It’s not that I didn’t value the relationships, but there’s this sense of relief and freedom afterward that I can’t deny. Maybe it’s just the right time for me to focus on myself and figure things out. Has anyone else experienced this?

What??? How?

😮😮 that would explain so much about how traumatic miscarriages are

This isnt true. DNA exchange happens if you’ve shared a fetus. But when it comes to sperm cells, that dna has no access or use in your body and gets disposed of as waste. Be very careful about having a baby with a man, but know that there’s a big agenda on controlling womens sexual force and these rumors are spread to make you feel fear, guilt, and promote the “whore” narrative

What!!! 😮😢

Wouldn’t surprise me if it was true. Ever heard of microchimerism?