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@user-re4hv7ns4g10 ай бұрын
WHAT ABOUT GETTING INVOLVED WITH A MAN WHO IDS IN PRISON...THEY NEVER MET IN PERSON...SHE SENT HIM A PHOTS OF HERSELF FROM TEN YRS AGO...NOW THE MAN SEEMS DISTNCE EMOTINALLY AND VAUGE IN HIS CONVERSATIONS AND HIS BROTHERUP IN KEBTUCKY HAS NEVER BOTHERED TO CALL HER TO SET A MEET UP OR AND TO GET TO KNOW HER ...HE THE PRISIONER ROUND ABOUT ASKES HER FOR MONEY ...HE DOES IT IN A SLY TYPE OF WAY HE DOES NOT STRAIGHT OUT ASK FRO MONEY I AM VERY WORRIED FOE HER,,,PLEASE HELP IN ANY WAY IF YOU CAN MR JOHNATHAN GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS PS SHE PLANS TO MOVE BEFORE HE GETS OUT OF PRISON WHICH WILL BE JULY 2030 HE WILL BE 50 YRS OLD BY THEN HE WAS INVOLVED IN THE TEEN VAMPIRE MURDERS 1996 FLROIDA THEY WERE A BUNCH OF TEENS FROM MURRARY KENUCKY...THE DOCUMETARY IS ON YOU TUBE ABOUT THIS CASE thank you
@laureldell73779 ай бұрын
I understand where you are coming from but some men are momma's boys. They just whine. I married one. He talked about his ex a lot but stopped over time. Once we got busy.
@user-re4hv7ns4g9 ай бұрын
@@laureldell7377 well I'm sorry if I would have said something and tell it the way it is to people and be direct and opinionated it's very important to say tell people the way it is and confront them when they're doing something wrong and it kind of way I'm not sure what you mean by got busy I don't understand what you're talking about I'm a Christian lady God bless you and your family I don't do this dating garbage and worry about all this mess secular what does mortal life than trying to find a woman there's more to life than trying to wise words of wisdom my parents used to say well God bless you and yours this holiday season
@reneehaynes828910 ай бұрын
1. Doesn't complain about their ex. 2. Doesn't say he's "broken". Has done the inner work. Able to regulate enotions. 3. They have their act together. Life isn't a mess. 4. They value physical & emotional health. 5. Not addicted to his phone or professional life. 6. Not a complainer. 7. He's not closed off about his emotions. Use words of appreciation and expresses gratitude. Accepts you for who you are.
@KiKi-te9yd10 ай бұрын
Perfect thank you!
@karenlewkowitz585810 ай бұрын
Playing the victim card from the get go. Akin to "You're not like other women." Augh que stomach turning
@lindawade120310 ай бұрын
I Totally Agree 👍
@suzanne268010 ай бұрын
I just went on a first and second date with a guy who never looked at or even reached for his phone in all the time we were together (except for his mom at the end for Monday night football, which was of course totally fine). The presence was astonishing and so different from what I am used to.
@aena599510 ай бұрын
@@KiKi-te9yd😮he checks every one of em which sucks cuz he doesn't text back at all lol
@tinanicholson955710 ай бұрын
I’m in love with a 66 year old man. Not only is he emotionally unavailable but he’s at least 50 pounds overweight. He ghosted me about two months ago and didn’t have the courage to answer my calls or messages . I’m done initiating contact. I’m grieving now but I continue to improve my health and appearance. Lesson learned, finally.
@eleanormartin692310 ай бұрын
Tina- he was not for you - yes it hurts because you gave your all and he did not. Heal, move forward, you are better for the experience. You sound accepting and loving- don’t waste on the unworthy.
@khemaloving40315 ай бұрын
What exactly is it that you’re in love with?
@LV-wl7ch3 ай бұрын
Hugs. That's sad. Somehow you are learning not to let your emotions operate outside your boundaries. Men are like shoes that need polishing. Actual relationship spiffs them up as you stand up for what you want and need. Men have to be trained. Eventually, I hope for you a true match. I think Jonathan helps get a focus on being intentional.
@karengauthier74332 ай бұрын
good for you. congrats working on yourself and appearance. you will feel better.
@foreveryactionthereisacons168310 ай бұрын
Never second guess your intuition/gut. There's a reason it's there. To protect you.
@sherylW31511 ай бұрын
He complained about his ex on the first date -I sent him a message the next day telling him I didn’t think see a future for us . Ironically he was a psychologist
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
He's human ... 🥴
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
Good for you! Yes, he’s human-but I think your instinct was and still is correct.
@lindajohnson217711 ай бұрын
Yes I was married to an emotionally stunted man. He didn’t know what his own feelings were. For me it was torture
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
I understand
@kathleenward59611 ай бұрын
I fell in love with a friend. I kept him at a distance for a long time while we saw each other at Meetup group activities. Then, the functions were not fun without him. Later, I was attracted to his wonderful heart and sense of fun. We chatted daily. I only opened up to dating him when I started finding his presence irresistible. We are so happy now. We talk about every part of our emotional life. We are building our compatibility, but the chemistry is magnetic. Amazing!
@Tarasyoutube10 ай бұрын
This is how I want mine to go. I hope it works. It's not easy for me to not engage in physical intimacy and hold things at bay.
@improvisedsurvival596710 ай бұрын
Who leads the relationship you or him. If it you he’s weak. I see so many guys let their wives and girlfriends tell them what to do. I can’t understand why a woman would be attracted to a male they they walk all over.
@audreynicoletti73294 ай бұрын
@@Tarasyoutubesex after marriage
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
Inspiring! My hope for you both is continued success, it’s enjoyable to be around couples who care about one another!
@remembermealways111111 ай бұрын
The red flags you choose to ignore going into a relationship will be the ones that ends it.
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Indeed
@The_Master_Key9 ай бұрын
So true
@redonionsyummy2 ай бұрын
Yes..this is so true.. looking back, my gut told me that it was a red flag(he lied..first one was about his age online..trust is why I left)..but I just wanted to "listen to my heart and give the guy some slack"...@@JonathonAslay
@juniperlea569310 ай бұрын
He talked about her constantly! I said, please don't talk about her. They were divorced longer than married. It was 30 years since the divorce. I started greeting her when he brought herup... trying to joke it away. That pissed him off. Too many people in that relationship. I couldn't do it.
@tdatda41010 ай бұрын
That's just ugh!!
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
So right!
@hollywood570310 ай бұрын
So many guys on dating sites look like something that crawled out from a rock. And they think they’re ready to meet who? 😂
@ssimp2113 ай бұрын
😅😅😅😅
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
I have read that the top 20% of a men’s profiles get 80%of views from women-strange but might be true and we women need to be aware of this-if true!! (and yes I also read that it’s purposefully set up this way) I’m sorry I have no references at this moment.
@user-sl3rj8bh3n2 ай бұрын
Or they us profile pictures from 20 years ago!😂😂😂
@jenniferl190811 ай бұрын
When People Show You Who They Are The First Time, You Must Believe Them - Maya Angelou. This quote is ingrained in my thinking and I NOW think long and hard if I want to participate in a relationship with a man based on what he tells me about himself. If a man says, I am broken, unkind, selfish, emotionally unavailable, married to his job, his kids come first before a relationship, has sexual issues, has strong political views, eats only a certain diet, and is generally close minded person, I believe him. People DO NOT CHANGE especially in mid life! I still think as women we are "programmed" to be a subservient to a man. I honestly think this won't change EVER! This is why women put up with more crap with men. I've also NEVER had a LDR relationship as this isn't for me. I need to have my partner in my city/state and I state this on my dating profile - it is a dealbreaker for me at this point in life. I think everyone should not only pray for the right partner, but for one who lives near you in your state/city.
@kimking390911 ай бұрын
I want that too
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
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@rosemiangulo923311 ай бұрын
I agree with this 💯
@michigan10859 ай бұрын
That’s become my favorite quote too, because I’ve ignored too many red flags even when they clearly showed me who they were. You stated some excellent points. The no LDR is huge for me too. Will never do it again. I’m torn on the “his kids come first before a relationship,” because partly I believe they should, but I see your point in how if it’s overboard then it would be a problem. I edited to add that omg… the strong political views. I stayed far too long with a guy who ranted and raved about “the idiots” who were on the opposite political side. I wish I realized back then that it’s a huge sign of a closed-minded man! Thx for the reminder that leaving him really was for the best!
@Chosen30211 ай бұрын
I love when Jonathan starts yelling at us lmao 🤣
@Cantunknowwhatyouknow11 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣 cant beat a bit of straight talking in this day and age...
@Kann84111 ай бұрын
Yes I crack up every time.
@lc-fu6xy11 ай бұрын
Me too! ❤😂
@christinaeager441811 ай бұрын
Me too! Lol!
@w.j.t.k.197011 ай бұрын
😂
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
Womens intuiton is so powerful. If women trust their intuition and stand by their standards, it prevents a lot of heartache and being used. Trust your gut! Does he make you feel safe, respected and loved??
@jenniferl190811 ай бұрын
Well Said!!
@sherriflemming321811 ай бұрын
💯
@lee48lee6811 ай бұрын
I’d like to add watch how he treats others because when he’s comfortable and lets his guard down with you, that’s how he’ll treat you. This goes for good and bad treatment.
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
I appreciate these comments! Helps me so much-
@JadeG30011 ай бұрын
This is fantastic And yes, I've met a a man who told me he was a broken man, that there was no hope for him, and that he was doomed. When I agreed, he was surprised that I I didn't try to convince him otherwise and didnt attempt to "save" him. He was angry and bitter about his ex-wife and refused therapy saying "I need love, not therapy"
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
Love that!😅
@RachelSDay198210 ай бұрын
#5, yes. My ex-husband was not only an alcoholic, functional, obviously...but a workaholic too. He was rarely home. We never talked. Never had any sort of in-depth conversations. It was pathetically sad. It's why I left before our first anniversary.
@meforme8336 ай бұрын
Good on you. 😊
@user-eo6ib3wr9f10 ай бұрын
I dated a James Bond and it's nuts. He had so many past experiences to focus on and was not living in the present. Always wanting to be in control of the situation. No compromise.
@JulianaBenner9 ай бұрын
My latest “relationship” ended quickly, thank God, because he definitely didn’t value his physical health. He definitely is addicted to alcohol and even said something to the effect that he doesn’t do personal growth stuff! Phew! I dodged a bullet!
@mariamina444511 ай бұрын
thank you for your firm words to inspire women to stop making excuses for dating mediocre men !
@denisemartinez190311 ай бұрын
I’ve been alone for 2 years now. After 62 years of living with someone (siblings, husband, boyfriend or kids) I can honestly say I’m really liking it. My husband of almost 30 years was an alcoholic and I’m not much of a drinker, so that would be an immediate deal breaker for me.
@thehorsebackheroine595011 ай бұрын
Bless you. I'm on yr heels....not 62 years but 47 years of my life given to someone who denigrated me to our children. This covid bs brought it all to a head though and his spiteful comments over the years have now just left me numb. 8 yrs of therapy and now I know I'm OK 👍 ❤❤❤
@denisemartinez190311 ай бұрын
@@thehorsebackheroine5950 Covid did that for a lot of people. They locked us up with people we couldn’t stand lol 😂
@thehorsebackheroine595011 ай бұрын
@@denisemartinez1903 but I never did a lockdown because it was all bs and my entire family were plotting how they could get me arrested. Unfortunately for them, I overheard them and now, with the truth out there from our 'at the time, health minister' the gov are admitting it to be a hoax. Get ready because there is another lockdown on the way
@donnaloveless426611 ай бұрын
Wish I had seen your channel back in 2015
@robynwilson140710 ай бұрын
#1, #2, #3, #6, #7. I'm so glad I found your channel, I'm all ears...wish I would have heard this content a year ago. Walked away from this dumpster fire 3 weeks ago with my self respect. Can't wait to digest more of your content here.
@JonathonAslay10 ай бұрын
Welcome aboard!
@katemoffitt16417 ай бұрын
This is profound Jonathon. He complained about his ex. Said he was a broken man. Well guess what… he went back to that ex who harmed him immeasurably. I’m still in shock. Still heartbroken. 💔 So glad u have that insight. I wish I knew abt this b4… but at least I do now. I listen to every word out of their mouth now. Have an abundance of caution. I dig deep when they say something that doesn’t sound right. I’m not about to fall in love either. The man I’m dating now… we are smitten but even though we’ve been dating almost a year… he is not getting into my bed until I’m sure of who he is.
@khinkhinwin547810 ай бұрын
Yes, 200% correct. Actually he is playing with many women online by letting them know he is suffering depression due to horrible Ex and many are falling into his trapped. Surprisingly at his age in 63.
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
Thank you for that comment-it’s insightful, and I agree can be attention seeking etc! To long in the tooth for that behavior😅
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
Wow #1 is so true. We need to listen and face the truth of what they say. This is why its important to sit back and observe the man. They will tell and show their intentions if we pay attention objectively.
@kathiajames969 ай бұрын
I dated a guy that complained about his ex often and was very emotional unavailable. I lined him but I ended up leaving him because the poor communication skills and lack of emotional connection
@ShmirchikArt11 ай бұрын
I've dated a guy who complained about his Ex . The date was just him complaining about his exes and how he's so hurt and how he thinks I'm so kind for listening. Than he let his sexual energy out on me, never the less i didn't date him again, he kept contacting me but i blocked him. The worst thing a guy can do is to talk about his exes, and many men are cry babies about it. In my experience, even 50 60 year olds, complaining about their ex, selfish . Grow up . 😅😅😅
@sherriflemming321811 ай бұрын
So true.
@danielle647010 ай бұрын
That was Not a date- at all! Sounds like he needs a Therapist and is mistaking "Dating" as a replacement for 🙄
@stayitive434310 ай бұрын
Man revealing himself without judgement to a woman is healing to the man (one way/ control, me therapist)
@mountainjasmine60073 ай бұрын
Healing, that may be true-my thought then is am I his therapist-no I’m not- recommend he see a therapist-then watch what happens! It may not be a good outcome so tread carefully.
@sherriflemming321811 ай бұрын
I've experienced all 7 of these. Mixed breed men. If you can leave so easily, they were never really meant for you. Relationships require investments and alignment. All in at 💯 Ive left men for these reasons. I send positive energy to them in the universive. Heal yourself first and be prepared. On the same page. Only you can change yourself. 🙏
@jennifergaudern114711 ай бұрын
No one is more surprised than me, that these very valid and accurate 7 items I have NOT experienced in my relationships. Excellent content and thank you for the truth! Thank you!
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Great to hear!
@user-sy1xm2eu5m9 ай бұрын
Yes I agree with you. Know yourself first and 😂 Esperanto your mind. Face reality. Be like a river and keep flowing. It’s a process Life is about learning. Think about solutions. Life equals solutions. Life is fluid, like a river. Keep flowing and moving. Look ahead!!!
@bonnerust514811 ай бұрын
Men hide there drinking habits as long as they can.
@dr.jenniferma391411 ай бұрын
Hiding all bad habits for as long as they can with sprinkles of disclosures along the way.
@sherriflemming321811 ай бұрын
They can compartementalize all kinds of things.
@jaunitaalicea190410 ай бұрын
7 out of 7, I no longer accept unavailable men or people in general and enjoy my break from dating ...although I'm not shut off but I'm creating as I love to be creative, also retired yet still working my trade, traveling and allowing myself good times with my own self and great friends. Thank you
@prince6a5 ай бұрын
I was broken. I told you from the beginning!! Therefore I am not responsible!!!!! Exactly.
@rebel514011 ай бұрын
I just did some investigative reading on the dismissive avoidant personality. I do believe this personality type can reject a person and deny their feelings with the vibes showing the complete opposite. They are people who have terrible rejection and guilt experiences and who are in a constant state of fear of going through it again. You used the term jumpers in one of your pods....something that I recently experienced of a guy I couldn't figure out. At first I was confused...then angry of the yo yo effect of here...than not here. lol. After reading about this type of personality I felt sorry for him...but had a definite realization of run, do not walk to the nearest exit door.😄
@Kann84111 ай бұрын
Had a man in my life like this too. We were engaged too long He wouldn’t set a date. We’d buy a house then he’d back out of deal. One day he wanted to live in Arizona and the next week he changed his mind. He changed his mind a lot. We literally went all over the country trying to find the perfect retirement location and he could never make a decision. Really about anything!! You ought to see him try to park a car! He was sexually assaulted as a young boy and had an abusive mother and never had counseling. He was an alcoholic. Sad sad deal We we’re free friends for many years. We sort of trauma bonded. But I had a great deal of counseling and had wonderful parents and family strength!! He had dysfunction !! So many broken people.
@sherriflemming321811 ай бұрын
Indeed. RUN!
@marisaflores-march711211 ай бұрын
#2, the man in question wore a t-shirt that actually said he was a broken man! 2 years into our relationship I became sober and I started my recovery journey. I broke up with him, that was 24 years ago...
@annehoesly-em9tw10 ай бұрын
I love, love, love your insight and how totally real you are. You’ve really helped me see how I have been responsible for being caught up in a dysfunctional relationship, why my man is the way he is and now I need to continue on this journey of setting boundaries and moving towards either ending it and moving on or accepting it and loving him regardless of how and who he is. Whew!
@colormecrazywithkim583711 ай бұрын
Yes, currently seeing (casually) a man who can't stand his ex because she kept him from his son for years. Lots of legal costs. I don't blame him.
@kristinej.418211 ай бұрын
You are absolutely right, Jonathon. I always thought chemistry was black and white- either you have it or you don’t. However that’s not true. With my current boyfriend I thought I wasn’t really attracted to him at first but something changed on our fifth date and developed the most intense chemistry and connection. We have been together for over a year now happily. On the other hand, with my ex, I had intense chemistry right away but that didn’t last. So yes I totally agree with you. Chemistry is not black and white. It can be made or intensified by getting to know each other better. Really enjoyed this video. Thank you for all you do.
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Exactly 🙏
@janm96104 ай бұрын
I had an interesting bout with a narcissist, I was careful not to label him but I had to go to therapy and my therapist said he's textbook. After a 30-year marriage, he came on to me so strong pretended to be healed and I should have known better. There was no way after 8 months he could be healed after a 30-year marriage. We got married after 2 years and divorced and 7 months after his abuse and infidelity surface. It was a crazy ride
@sweetzmamakitchen781511 ай бұрын
1. Yes I have and he cheated on me with the ex. 5. Yes I experienced a man who was addicted to his work. Things never progressed because he never made time for me and always canceled plans with me.
@MartineFabien11 ай бұрын
Let me guess, you dated a Scorpio ?
@MartineFabien11 ай бұрын
He did choose his ex, leave it alone. He Will never pick you, he is only trying to get over her but he will always go back to her.
@tanitshkatanjusha11 ай бұрын
@@MartineFabienshe is not asking your advice
@RoseMoke9 ай бұрын
After meeting up in online he has proposed to me to Mary him so so I was engaged in online but I havent met the man in face to face it was blind love but we both stuck on our promises so we continue to share and build our relationship to make it happen for us and we both really struggles together .making ways for meetings do many many things . because in have to follow this procedure.. because man came from a very highly profile .but he put him self down to my level ..to fight hard . to make our journey realty...we are still fighting for our marriage .still trying ..and thing our love has so many reasons and so many meaning so many stories that never forget the struggled we both went through . We are still struggle
@LV-wl7ch3 ай бұрын
I agree with you, Jonathan. I think they waited so long, they froze up. Nervous. If all else was right, they might to have given it time. That is an entirely separate dynamic that they could view as taking time to get to know each other.
@shadeofpink111 ай бұрын
1,4,5,workaholic,stoner,did not eat well, hobbies gaming and drinking at weekend,not ever calling,only texting,wants drama free,no committment.God glad it's over.Only expressed horniness.
@elyssian60157 ай бұрын
No 3: During the course of the conversation shared they were screwed up. Demonstrated it and left for good. There is not any reason on my part to communicate anything.😮
@reej202310 ай бұрын
Yes, experience all of them over the years. Thanks for helping us gals and guys out on all this.
@kristindeitrick93711 ай бұрын
Experienced #7 Was in confusing relationship/situation with a dismissive avoidant
@estaragold9 ай бұрын
I love your insight thanks so much. Just out of a situation with alllll 7 red flags
@MariahFan0911 ай бұрын
I hope you keep speaking the truth, Jonathan. Thank you
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
I'll do my best...
@stayitive434310 ай бұрын
Broken men saying they damaged is them being 'honest' in not ready for a relationship. Unfortunately, women take as challenge to fix them, and diminish own value in doing so/going into therapist role playing/not seen as complete person. Man revealing himself without judgement to a woman is healing to the man (one way/ control, me therapist)
@stayitive434310 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, #1 THRU #7, NPD type/self centered Toxic masculinity (fortunately more cowardly in avoiding than attacking/violent), They not interested knowing me, talk about self. Long distance and not good when I not feel well, done in 3 months with person, I left/went no contact.
@user-cw7yw6er8q11 ай бұрын
Yes I've had number 7 in my life and won't accept that anymore! Took about 9 months for it to show. The key is to believe it when it shows up!
@rosestewart160610 ай бұрын
I'm on the precipice of breaking off a 7 month relationship that has had a rough patch for 2 months....for the reason that I can't see a future anymore. It's like he can't take the leap. I was second guessing myself until you hit 6 and 7 and then Bam! you nailed it. My instinct was right. I can't continue waiting for the other shoe to drop because he's clearly not ready so he isn't able to make this relationship work
@maggiedoja10 ай бұрын
Yes addicted to work running away from intimacy- but he is a passive aggressive narcissist and never could deal with feelings....number 6 and 7- could never do anything but repeat same high school lines
@lenoraalexander98309 ай бұрын
Copied your wonderful prayer. Thank you Jonathan.
@HappyGirl70711 ай бұрын
I fell into that trap too. I've learned that a broken man cannot do
@pest5311 ай бұрын
J: You're a terrific (genuine!) seemingly-WELL adjusted AND well-INTENTIONED male, and I sure appreciate you AND what you say. God love you. (from southwest New Mexico.)
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@zenlife32111 ай бұрын
Yes, they won’t lead with their exit strategy…love it.
@melindabritt899 ай бұрын
Yes I will not except it anymore
@bonnygoldberg58529 ай бұрын
I Love Your Prayer Jonathon! So much valuable information. You are so much fun to listen to and learn from. Thank you for being you
@JonathonAslay9 ай бұрын
I appreciate that!
@alljojoknows81176 ай бұрын
You are right! Intentionality is missing in relationships.
@lf355411 ай бұрын
I believe in books ive learned soo much from books espexially in the last year my library is now very extensive!
@annaspear22111 ай бұрын
That's how I am too!! I love talking about things that matter! In our life!!
@noreenespinoza8248 ай бұрын
Alexandria T. Thank you for being open and candid about your relationship. How is it going at your work knowing you see your former guy there?
@user-xf1fz6bt8j6 ай бұрын
Bear hugs for you Jonathon ❤❤❤🌹
@susanhoover546811 ай бұрын
His past was a disaster! I am all for forgiveness when there is honesty. But, he wasn't completely honest about ANYTHNG!! I have learned from this experience with this "charmer" background checks are a MUST!😱 He said one of the many exes had cheated. I believe in reality he was always the cheater!
@dr.jenniferma391411 ай бұрын
Same. Had I not gone searching through social media I wouldn't have known this man was MARRIED! The audacity of some people.
@dr.jenniferma391411 ай бұрын
But when I confronted him he made up a long story about how it was a fake marriage to grant her citizenship. What con artists!
@sherriflemming321811 ай бұрын
If you cannot trust a man and need to play Columbo constantly, the relationship is over.
@JulianaBenner9 ай бұрын
LOVE THE PRAYER 🙏🏼
@mahmudanaznin303111 ай бұрын
6 out of 7 🚩 I experienced with him but I couldn’t leave him. I kept begging for more time and emotional intimacy but got nothing. However, the reason I ended last week after 9 months was because I found his text before and after our first date he said multiple friends that my sister was the most beautiful woman he ever met in person and went on describing how he thinks she’s more attractive and gorgeous. I asked him why would you peruse me then? He told me because despite that he was into me, my kindness. Question: was this man ever really loved me? I am confused and deeply hurt and hard to believe anything that came from him, although he said he did almost everyday for the last 6 months.
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
I'm sure he cared about you, but he wasn't capable of loving you...
@mahmudanaznin303111 ай бұрын
@@JonathonAslay Thank you so much for getting back. I am desperate to know why he wasted my time, after chasing me for 6 months to convince me to date him. But then he met my sister and did those talks. But he continued pursuing me. His wife divorced him after 12 years of being together, and 9 years of marriage. His divorce was finalized in August and he got into a relationship with me in January. Since February he has been hot and cold with me. I found out his conversations about my sister last week and ended it. Should I trust him again if he asks for a chance or this should be a done deal?
@peacelove743711 ай бұрын
Don't beg a man for love. You said he said he loved you everyday for 6 month. I don't understand how adults will believe words over actions. Im not sure why. Is it denial ?
@juliaskagfjord620710 ай бұрын
@@mahmudanaznin3031 if you can leave him please do. He disrespected you. I dont think its worth it at all.
@The_Master_Key9 ай бұрын
I met 47 years old man who was so open with me the first 2 weeks of our communication, about his vulnerability too (a terrible divorce, and his last 7 years relationship) I noticed he most likely won’t get married ever again 🚩 and he has fears that women need his money only 🚩🚩) I didn’t go far with this man because he showed some signs that he doesn’t want to develop the relationship but very interested in a romantic experience with me mostly. I knew him for about a month and I understand it’s too early to judge (or not too early 🤭), especially we didn’t get physically close. Can’t say his intentions were bad, or he didn’t put enough efforts, but I don’t want to put my life on proving to him I’m the right and trustworthy person for him. Somehow I felt I have to do that to gain his trust 😅and actually I don’t like this place for myself.
@karasloan18211 ай бұрын
* Won't lead with exit strategy. He's a lonely broken man. Dont be a fool think you'll wait around to change him. 1. Don't complain about ex. 2. Broken. Childhood wounds. Adult traumas. It's his exit strategy. 3. Life is a mess. 4. Don't value physical health. Value Emotional well being. Drink in excess. Doing things in excess. 5. Not addicted to phone. Not addicted to work. Addicted to social media. Avoidance mechanism to avoid intimacy doesn't have balance in their life. 6. Complainer. Communication is negative. 7. Not closed off with emotions. Horny doesn't count. Love bombing. Good: Is he appreciative & grateful. I've experienced all these. In 1 man, twice.
@chicagoresident97311 ай бұрын
We were "hot under the collar" too with that lady few days ago. You handled it very professionally, better than I could've -im working on that 😂
@gadjoemi072214 күн бұрын
Such good insights. I recently ended dating with a wonderful man. I could say there were a few minor red flags. I say minor because his green flags were way more present than red and he was looking for a relationship. Everything went great and I noticed he was slowing down. After 2 months he told me he really liked me but not romantically. We did have sex and I was emotionally about to invest but I knew quite early on there was something that just couldn't be there. I think we both were physically attracted to each other and "chemistry" was there but at the end of the day, sometimes it is our gut feeling that will tell us whether we want to spend more time with each other exploring and discovering. I learned to differentiate between emotional investment and genuine feelings of curiosity and passion towards one another. Sometimes all the talks can't create magic. Hugs are not the same as connectedness. Kisses can't surpass the deep belonging to one another. I'm divorced and am in a good relationship with my ex. I just think now, that the fact I did fall deep in love with my ex, got married,and have children together and grew together as a couple is such a miracle and I'm grateful for that.
@LCrum9438 ай бұрын
#6 & 7- I’m in a new relationship w/a widower, who is very closed in his feelings. Trying to figure him out and encourage him to express himself.
@mktny602811 ай бұрын
My ex boy friend complained about his ex. His ex wife, Donna, slept with his bosses brother. The crazy part??? His boss, Mark, was his brother in law by marriage. Yes!!! They both married sisters. The crazy part, he continued to work there. Thats insane!!!! I don't think he ever got over his wife cheating on him & leaving him. As I look back, I thought I could save him, make him happy. Love wasn't enough. And yes, he was #7 as well. Unfortunately he was with me when my mother passed at the age of 90. I say unfortunately, as a alittle over a year after my mom passed, he broke up with me over the phone, the day before Easter. I never, ever saw it coming. The week before he was discussing what he wanted us to do over Memorial Day weekend. Since the break up in 2018, I have been alone & focusing on my self & my home.
@shellbellplayz17119 ай бұрын
This is so good !! Wonderful message
@nancystephens401711 ай бұрын
Yes. Most of the men I have dated have been emotionally unavailable. Exit strategy: Too busy with work.
@dorota853111 ай бұрын
I was with a man who’s life was mess. This is how he is exited our relationship with the excuses he needs to sort this mess first.
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Exactly
@dr.jenniferma391411 ай бұрын
let me guess, in the beginning he disguised this mess or downplayed its significance..that is until it was getting serious.
@christinaashcroft871610 ай бұрын
I’m seeing a guy who tells me his mistress is his work he has difficulty in personal relationships. He can’t have a physical relationship, he is not expressive in his emotions. He says he loves me and I feel he does he is attentive with me but has difficulties in being intimate
@asuncionbassas214810 ай бұрын
Spot on in everything you say
@charmee404511 ай бұрын
All he did was trash his ex's for the first 3 months, now he's trashing me.......I get it.
@lilasteeves369310 ай бұрын
I have experienced all SEVEN with one man . I am glad I walked away finally. He was all SEVEN. I thank you truly. I thought I was the reason.❤
@JonathonAslay10 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!
@desiemehrabian11339 ай бұрын
5- man addicted to his work- avoided his family
@LisaMarie-uz6zf9 ай бұрын
Just need you to know you are a f legend, thanks for what you are giving to so many women worldwide. I have been through alot of this and happily single focusing on my life and just made my bedroom in a palace, I am a queen and I know it, I cut ppl out as soon as I see an of the signs you have mentioned, love to watch to keep it as a reminder! You are the best!
@JonathonAslay9 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you
@RachelSDay198210 ай бұрын
#1, yes, I have. Too many have done that. Complain about their ex-wife. Ugh!!! Like I'm a therapist!!! 😳😯
@dominiquestevens794211 ай бұрын
Oh, you're good, Jonathan! Right on target..!
@eleanormartin692310 ай бұрын
I agree with Alexandra!!!!!!!
@bessyyaqueline7749 ай бұрын
I believe I’m feeling that’s my situation
@cynthiaabada396111 ай бұрын
Woohoo 🎉 ❤”I see you”. That is ❤
@deec4113 ай бұрын
spent almost 12 yrs with #6 and 7. Definitely David downer and totally closed off emotionally. He even said the last time we got back together, he didn't know if he was the "relationship type" 😮🤮 😣🙄 When they tell you who they are, BELIEVE THEM!! don't waste your precious time. God Bless 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@classy4ever639 ай бұрын
This explains why my husband does not want to discuss his ex. I didn't understand it all as i have been burned really bad from mine if he doesn't want me to talk about my exes or his at all
@dayanagzz734011 ай бұрын
I had met a guy with pretty much the 7 signs and I can’t understand why I was in love with him.
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
Did you kiss? Love is a drug. Love hormones and chemicals can make you addicted.
@karasloan18211 ай бұрын
Possible he also love bombed you.
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Attachment???
@jenniferl190811 ай бұрын
Perhaps you were in love with the idea of him? Or seeking a parent figure?
@dayanagzz734011 ай бұрын
@@JonathonAslay @basicinfo2022 Yes (we used to work at the same place) and we spent a lot of time together but he never made an effort to date me officially, also he was hot and cold attitude, I was in a point of my life where literally I was hoping to have more of him and thinking one day he would change for me. I was so wrong! He just didn't want me, he had his traumas and of course he likes toxic womans.
@kimking390911 ай бұрын
Q: Jonathon, my ex, if he had to chase and beg, cry, to me, he’d be open emotionally. But if I needed to be open with him, he would just sit there with no real reaction, asleep at the wheel. Why? So frus
@JaneMcCourt11 ай бұрын
It's a small world, as I was reading Rabbi Manis Friedman's latest book, I realized that I am friends with his son and daughter in law :) Another great podcast, Jonathon, thank you!
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@karenc841212 ай бұрын
OMG I’ve had some amazing guys never any of the red flags. Probably because I would not date guys with those issues. I think I’m the one with issues. Thank you for helping me see this
@lynnfincham683911 ай бұрын
4. I have experienced this in past relationship.
@user-xf1fz6bt8j6 ай бұрын
That is why I live alone ❤
@ginnywalker18411 ай бұрын
Good presentation tonight. I agree that you handled the argumentative person well and feel she was totally out of line and added nothing of significance to the conversation. Sorry that happened. Thank you for all you share with us. I've learned a lot over the moths I've followed you. Thank you again!
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@gabriellej59311 ай бұрын
!!! Love all these !!! I’ve experienced many of them. Grateful to this insight so that now I can pay attention and not waste time
@JonathonAslay11 ай бұрын
You're so welcome!
@juliefrecker38117 ай бұрын
You’re right Jonathon
@michellehoge469811 ай бұрын
Yes #5 too much work and no time for me.
@user-ee4xu9lh4k10 ай бұрын
Great content! Your video topics are really getting better and better.
@user-ee4xu9lh4k10 ай бұрын
And the red shirt and orchids looks great!
@JonathonAslay10 ай бұрын
Glad you think so!
@avidlearner-tb8em11 ай бұрын
Supposedly my guy is “committed”. Says he misses me but will make excuses to come see me. He is perfectly happy to wait u til I show up at his doorstep. He texts and calls every day.
@annarose482811 ай бұрын
Jonathon, l ❤️your prayer! Much gratitude for another great podcast! Thank you for your healing help! ❤️❤️❤️❤️your 🧚♂️!