Right?!?! It really gets me

That part brought me to tears damn near. That whole part hits home

exactly!! she is such a genius!

it's so good

thank you! it was so fun

oooooooo that makes sense! thank you for letting me know!!

it is a healing song for sure!! thank you for the love

exactly!!

Oh Mary, that's really awful. So glad he had you!

@@mendwithmere yup. Im pretty small so I can’t “protect” him but I can make him smile and laugh and try and distract him, I think moms and dads in the heat of an argument forget the effect the words they say to each other can affect kids.

thank you!!!

i can't wait for the tour!!! thank you for watching!

welcome!!! thank you!

that lyric rips my heart out

thank you James! :)

Thank you!!!!

thank you! yes, I think many of us can relate to that feeling.

Thank you!

welcome ;)

Yes! It brings back warm memories of summertime on my grandpas farm. It’s everythjng

awww thank you!!!!!

yes! I'm still trying to figure it out myself haha

thank you!!

thank you bella!!!

thank you!! I love the cardigan so much

thank you!!

it really is!!! thank you for watching!!

thank you!!

thank you!!! I'll check it out!

thank you!

thank you!!

OOO yes!!! thank you so much for the love during this tough time, it means so much!!

OOOOOOOOooo i can totally see this now. thank you, I'm going to use that for when I do it haha

you are welcome!

I hear you so much on this. It's a struggle, but I often wonder what comes first, the chicken or the egg? meaning, were you emotionally abused first and your reaction to it, which has been labeled as emotional abuse (by you or your abuser first?), was in order to cope with it? Sometimes, typically in narcissistic abuse, the abuser will blame your reaction to their bad behavior and put focus their attention on it to put the focus or blame on you. They will see your reaction as more of an offense than the initial problem. Just keep this in mind when you blame yourself. Did you have to react this way in order to cope with the abuse daily? I admire your awareness and desire to change. You are already ahead of the game!

@@mendwithmere that’s exactly the reaction I got for yrs, it made me think I was the problem eventually I learned what gaslighting was, I could never word it myself ( I have some health problems that can effect my thinking and communication sometimes and i would always end up apologizing for something that wasn’t my fault, often times out of exhaustion and I would get confused by their words so I’d be like “fine I’m at fault, I’m sorry” or something along those lines, and I actually believed it a lot of the time. I’m 32 next month and it only recently dawned on me that what was happening and happened in the past was emotional abuse because it wasn’t the typical belittling orinsults, it was twisting of words, manipulation and gaslighting. Thankfully we are at a better place but for a long time I thought “oh if they just admit they were wrong I can move on” I realized thats not really true. You can move on without them admitting and you can still have trouble moving on even if they do admit their wrong doing. I’m still learning to let go, they are better but still struggle so I’m like always wondering what kind of mood they will be in( thankfully we don’t live together) so part of me still holds onto the past. It’s weird. letting go of the past but still protecting yourself in the future from getting hurt, guarding your heart essentially. Okay I could go on. Psychology is fascinating and boy do I have a bunch of stuff I could sit and unpack especially at night I become much more reflective 🤷🏻‍♀️ and have a tendency to unload my drama on ppl, then I wake up and am like “what did I do?” Lol 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yes! Lemme see if I can find them and I'll add :)

❤ same. It is brutal in so many ways

gracias!!!!!

aww, sorry I'm not accepting clients :(

aw thank you!

It’s probably just dust 😂

thank you! It is an old home and the lights do flicker quite often. When I'm feeling upset or talk out loud asking a question, I swear the lights will flicker back to me. I'm not afraid, if its orbs, I welcome them. Thank you for watching and the love!

Oh, Kurt! They are so easy to take off and I'm sending you love with you MS. That is a really painful disease. I hope you have lots of supports in your life around this because you deserve it!

@@mendwithmere thank you so much 💜

Hi! Thank you for watching! I'm not sure; it would depend on if he was genuinely remorseful, but from what is implied from the song August, the cheating occurred many times. It was not a one-time deal. I think she has issues with self-esteem so it could have impacted her decision to take James back. Let me think on this more and I'll go over it in the next videos! What do you think?

@@mendwithmere Thanks for your reply! :) I agree with you. I don't think James didn't know what he did (Betty even says "when you're young they assume you know nothing - but I knew ...", so if she applies this to herself, I think it's fair to assume that some part of her also feels this way about James). if it happened multiple times, if James was a serial cheater, there's no way Betty wouldn't have suffered again after taking him back, right? It's also based on her song... Feeling like an old cardigan and so on, I do believe you're right assuming it's based on low self-esteem. So while it would've been healthier for her to stay away from him (which is what I wish for), I believe she took him back in the end. It's just sad, like watching a friend doing the same mistake over and over again, you know? I'm looking forward to your next videos! :D

Hi! I haven't done that video yet. I only said Augustine because Taylor called her that during an interview. Thank you for watching!

I totally agree! He is young but he should have known who he had!

Yes! RUFIO!!!

ah! thank you for letting me know! That makes sense...it's embarassing what my mind immediately goes to...

@@mendwithmere no worries it’s your job, especially if you are trained in that area, I think your brain will naturally search those things out- I think.( psychology is fascinating, I over analyze everything, annoys the heck out of my poor mom, lol)

It’s coming, I promise! My friends put up a “champagne problems” banner during vacation and I have it to hang when I do that video :)

Yes!! I need for Betty!

@@mendwithmere oh, well, there’s SO MUCH to unpack there!

@@mendwithmere Ok that’s gonna be a little ling but it’s all worth it, all the details are very important to understand taylor’s music ever since 2013.😅 Well, first of all: Betty - Karlie Kloss’s second name is Elizabeth, shortened betty. James - Taylor Swift is named after JAMES Taylor!!! Also - James, Inez and Betty are the 3 daughters of Blake Lively who Taylor is very close with. It’s been confirmed that these folklore characters are named after these 3 girls… meaning James is LITERALLY a girl.💀😂 she was so funny for that, bc james is typically a boys name and she counted on that for hetwashing and hetsplanation (as well as the “love triangle” & “james is a 17 year-old boy” hetwashing) because she couldn’t just release all of a sudden out of the blue an explicit sapphic song without hetwashing it a bit. Instead, she made sure the narrator’s name would have many “coincidences”, let’s say. There are many speculations what Betty’s party actually is. One of them is maybe it’s one of the two public weddings Karlie Kloss (her -maybe ex- girlfriend) had with her “husband” Josh Kushner (there are many speculations about him being a beard… as well as joe alwyn for taylor). Taylor, despite being Karlie’s very public “beat best friend” for over 5 years at this point, didn’t show up to neither of the weddings, which was SO “weird” considering how close they were and Karlie went to Taylor’s reputation tour just a couple months before the wedding and they took pictures together.. Maybe Taylor is like - if i showed up, will you kiss me on the porch in front of all your stupid - maybe homophobic - friends that came here to celebrate this “wedding”? Of course not..😞 (don’t forget the Kushner family being there…🤢) ALSO - in my opinion, the kissing part refers, among other layers and possible interpretations to KISSGATE. In 2014, Karlie and Taylor went with their friends (Josh, Karlie’s “boyfriend” at the time, was there too only at the beginning) to a concert of the 1975, and they were at the VIP section on the balcony where Taylor and Karlie maybe didn’t think people would actually see them, and they were SO touchy all evening, and then they made out and kissed, and people took videos and pictures of them that night and the ENTIRE internet was exploding and talking about them. taylor was (probably) drunk that night, she went home and liked like i think hundreds of explicit kaylor posts that night. then a couple days after that, she wrote on twitter: “As my 25th birthday present from the media, I'd like for you to stop accusing all my friends of dating me.” (then she wrote dress lmfao😂😂) anyway, that sounds like forced damage control. so heartbreaking.💔 also, when taylor and karlie and all their friends were leaving the concert, you could see taylor literally SHINING, smiling so WIDE looking sooo happy, and karlie there too and they’re lipsticks were smudged, and their friends’ faces were SO serious and lowkey angry, like traumatized and frowning. maybe they realized what taylor didn’t… what she did.. kissing karlie and being SO explicitly touchy and romantic with her in front of the entire place… in such a “CROWDED ROOM🙃😌”.. there’s of course SOOO MUCH to cover, if you want i could tell you everything you need to know.🙃🙃

i hope you got this comment and understood.😅 tell me if you didn’t understand some of the many things i wrote..😅

@@exclusivevideos9423 yes!! Thank you for all this!! I don’t think I’m going to talk about the Karlie kloss etc in the video bc I just want it to be taken from a queer lens and I don’t want to make the song about outing anyone but I’m not sure. What do you think?

hahahah thank you!

first :)

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