if a kid makes a mistake, their first thought should be “i have to tell my parents, they’ll know how to help me”, not “holy shit my parents are going to kill me”
@ezrastardust31244 жыл бұрын
Emma Crahze I couldn’t agree more I flat out told my mother that she makes me feel like this even as an adult, expecting her to realise what she’d done, but she only further pushed me away by denying everything I still feel like I’m gonna be in deep shit even now
@emmylee64874 жыл бұрын
Ezra Stardust it’s just such a flawed and short-term-focused way of parenting that just ends up causing your child to feel suffocated and isolated
@ezrastardust31244 жыл бұрын
Emma Crahze it breaks my heart not only because of how it’s affected me but because she’s clearly mimicking how her own mother treated her I don’t want to be a father because I think I’ll end up doing the same thing
@duxghost39854 жыл бұрын
My mum says that she'd like me to tell the truth rather than lie but she she'll hit me either way
@gickylia68534 жыл бұрын
When I was young I was dumb enough to tell my mom that i did sometjing she wouldnt like, and after that she pinched my laps until they turn purple. I was 7 by that time XD
@noel0909095 жыл бұрын
“Even newborns experience pain and this must be exploited.” ...that might be the scariest sentence ever written.
@imnogood50164 жыл бұрын
noel090909 *_newborn, pain, exploited are three words that shouldn’t be used in the same sentence and if you use them you deserve to have someone calling the police on you_*
@motherofdogs79804 жыл бұрын
I'm no good "People who cause pain to a newborn must be exploited for the rest of their lives" may be a good sentence
@laurenlizzbeth4 жыл бұрын
I'm no good “People who exploit their newborns vulnerability for crappy ideas of discipline deserve endless pain.”
@honeystly_disgusting63934 жыл бұрын
Mother Of dogs you and the comment under you are going to the fucking hell
@minutehourdayweek4 жыл бұрын
Sounds like something from post apocalypse game or movie where everyone live under control and abused
@Fluffkitscripts4 жыл бұрын
People like this are all about “personal responsibility” until their book starts being linked to child deaths, then nothing is their fault.
@biancathepansy4 жыл бұрын
I know. It's very fucked up. People claim to be responsible and honest, but then when they do something wrong, they either play the good ol' victim card or try to justify their actions, even when sometimes there is no justifying what has been done.
@withlove2963 Жыл бұрын
Did that really happen?😮
@withlove2963 Жыл бұрын
I looked it up... that's HORRIBLE! 🥺
@theregularterrarian39334 жыл бұрын
Parent: 'Beats their child from a young age' Child: 'Grows up with many suicidal thoughts' Parents: Videogames
@diggygorgonzola34674 жыл бұрын
Parent: hitting a child won’t kill him Child: suffers great psychological pain and develops ptsd and depression that will potentially drive him to suicide Parent: phone
@jmiddleton75184 жыл бұрын
Parent: *Yells at their child and calls them names, emotionally neglects them* wELl iT’S nOt lIKE iM hITTING thEM Child *Grows up with PTSD, trust issues, extreme paranoia and anxiety* Parents: smh, Damn technology 😤😤😤😤
@drunkkillerwhalesdriving3 жыл бұрын
!!TW!! Honestly my parents are wonderful and did an amazing job raising me, but they were spanked by their parents and never knew that it was bad. Now, I'm not sure if spanking directly connects to me trash mental health because it wasn't done that often and it didn't hurt(if it did the pain didn't last), but it certainly could be a factor.
@kha30s222 жыл бұрын
@@drunkkillerwhalesdriving Sometimes spanking can be good but in the long term for every single thing the child does turns into abuse. So, it's a grey area to hit a child.
@Tirgo692 жыл бұрын
Parents: It was THE LLLEFT!!
@neckbackcripplinganxietyattack4 жыл бұрын
“Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child”
@neckbackcripplinganxietyattack4 жыл бұрын
Freddie Mercury you’re welcome
@anhphuong31394 жыл бұрын
WHY DO GOOD GIRT LILE BED BOI
@neckbackcripplinganxietyattack4 жыл бұрын
An Dumb Comment IVE HAD THIS QUESTION FOR A REALLY LONG TIME
@karasprouse5954 жыл бұрын
You are so correct that is why i took my girls away from mandy aka the womb Not to mention both her first daughters called me mommy the first one right in front of her face. She was finally charged with 34 counts of child neglect and one count of felony assault upon a child under the age of 12.
@couragekarnga87354 жыл бұрын
Amen to that!
@novaroseoooooo5 жыл бұрын
Fun fact: dogs learn better from positive reinforcement than from physical pain, so even comparing a child to a dog falls flat for the sake of this terrible book
@gracesquared15 жыл бұрын
So right! All physical punishment does for dogs is increase their aggression and may cause them to lash out as they feel threatened.
@TSammut02195 жыл бұрын
So your kid is a dog who learns tricks?
@pucamisc5 жыл бұрын
Not to mention I have a service dog, and she gets plenty of time to be a puppy. Seeing eye dogs, medical alert, allergen alert, etc, we HAVE to give them breaks or they’ll burn out.
@natashac62525 жыл бұрын
@Density Damon I discipline my dog by holding his snout and making him walk in a circle. It doesn't hurt him at all, but he doesn't like the feeling so it works quite well. I don't know enough about your dog to say too much, but maybe you could try that instead?
@justvibing94615 жыл бұрын
@@pucamisc please tell me about service dogs! I really want to learn about them.
@roosterssaloon4 жыл бұрын
The idea you can't criticize a person's parenting because "you're not a parent" is stupid. We were all children, children are humans, it's not hard to determine what's good or bad.
@xPrincessxPeachxLove4 жыл бұрын
Plus, critics wouldn't be here if the ''You're not a ''__'' so you can't criticize'' statement made sense
@j.c.22403 жыл бұрын
I don't need to be a chef to recognize a bad meal
@lindsywarren6443 жыл бұрын
Well, I also think it’s more of a person simply criticizing the abuse of a human being, child or not. Its completely within her rights to speak up on abuse, because what they are doing isn’t parenting.
@kimjongunsucksbooty7503 жыл бұрын
I dont need to be an author to say a book is written badly I'm no expert but I'm allowed to have opinions
@---nobody---3 жыл бұрын
Louder for the people on the back! I've always hated this saying.
@rosieamoret77482 жыл бұрын
"even newborns can experience pain and this must be exploited" ah, reminds me when I was a kid and my parents hit me a lot, and when I asked my mum why, she explained "you don't understand words, but you understand pain" In my mind, they're not mum/dad, they're just parents. Biological parents, nothing more, everything less.
@Garden0flowr2 жыл бұрын
A good term i like to use for birthgivers and other genetic halves like that is bloodsharer Parents are full of love to me, bloodsharer says all theyve given you is existence
@ShendonV Жыл бұрын
More like birthers and breeders, parents is just a gender neutral term for mom and dad.
@ButWhyMe... Жыл бұрын
@@ShendonV Not even that. Just abusers without a badge.
@CainXVII Жыл бұрын
If you ask why, you clearly understand words
@OriginalContent898 ай бұрын
Kind of ironic to have a conversation with a child about how they don't understand words...
@padmjasopori6 жыл бұрын
"defeat him totally" YOU'RE RAISING A CHILD, THIS ISN'T A BOSS BATTLE
@angrytheclown8016 жыл бұрын
Padmja Sopori Now I'm thinking child rearing might be more fun with the proper mood music.
@Its_just_me_man6 жыл бұрын
I think they watched boss baby and made some assumptions.
@dontreadthisplease24166 жыл бұрын
David Roberson lmfao
@KossolaxtheForesworn6 жыл бұрын
*Omae Wa Mou Shindeiru*
@SatoruwaFeng6 жыл бұрын
MrAnimepredator NANNI!?
@ninjaked12654 жыл бұрын
In all my 12 years of Catholic schooling they always said, “DON’T take every phrase of the Bible literally” and it’s easy to see why
@kayla45514 жыл бұрын
Yes. To this message
@beekidsart11764 жыл бұрын
NinjaKED12 definetly. Thats great they teach you that, some people take things wayy too literally and there are cults because of that. Im really happy you and the other people going to that school :D
@MelonManCrybaby4 жыл бұрын
NinjaKED12 I can relate man
@chcknpie044 жыл бұрын
That might be a red flag. Also, people will absolutely take the Bible literally if it serves their point
@destiny89674 жыл бұрын
So true
@Yourhyperfixationandmine4 жыл бұрын
How I learn not to touch/mess with outlets: I was about to put my finger in the socket and my grandma yelled “Stop! No! Danger!” I knew what danger meant so I stoped and ran away from it. I thought that by “danger” she meant that a monster would come out of it. I never touched a outlet until I was old enough to plug things in.
@nathanwise16084 жыл бұрын
In all honesty, that sounds like solid usage of legitimate parenting ability.
@nbdjz10582 жыл бұрын
that is GENIUS hahaha
@1Thunderfire Жыл бұрын
My brother says to my nephew "Ouch! Hot! Hot!" to discourage him from touching the fireplace or a hot radiator and my nephew repeats it so it definitely works.
@uglyferalcat1493 жыл бұрын
Baby: * tries to get the nutrients it needs to survive by getting milk from its mother * Mrs. Pearl: And I took that personally
@bbsvchic Жыл бұрын
LOL for real!!!!!
@SyniStar6164 жыл бұрын
"Defeat him completely, accept no terms of surrender" are we talking about "how to raise a child" or "how to conquer a nation" here? God damn
@Kaanfight4 жыл бұрын
Micheal Pearl’s “The Art of War”
@Peristerygr4 жыл бұрын
@@Kaanfight "...part 2: How to suppress the rebelion of the heir apparent" ;)
@Peristerygr4 жыл бұрын
@@Kaanfight Or in this case "...how to make sure the Prince will rebel".
@Quandry14 жыл бұрын
@@Kaanfight It's not even the Art of War. it's far more tyrannical than that.
@Raztiana4 жыл бұрын
It's clearly both the first and the last sentence in a torture guide.
@Advancedgod4 жыл бұрын
If you claim abuse is okay because you were abused and you turned out fine, you did not, in fact, turn out fine.
@xPrincessxPeachxLove4 жыл бұрын
PREACH
@urischic16684 жыл бұрын
This exactly. It’s you’ve been abused to the point where you normalize it, what does that say about you?
@streamlily59713 жыл бұрын
Say it louder for the people in the back
@safala3 жыл бұрын
YES! If you think abusing kids is fine, you’ve got serious re-evaluation to do in life.
@skeebeedeebapimrightbehind21633 жыл бұрын
I already saw a tweet that said the exact same thing, but yeah, it's true
@KorliWolf4 жыл бұрын
Micheal: has heart attack His kids: dont dial 911 because their afraid their going to be hit for touching the phone
@asdfgidji8794 жыл бұрын
well they were never allowed communication with the outside world to even know that they were being abused, as far as they knew it was normal on okay
@asdfgidji8794 жыл бұрын
well they were never allowed communication with the outside world to even know that they were being abused, as far as they knew it was normal on okay
@KorliWolf4 жыл бұрын
@@asdfgidji879 man... what an asshole Also did you mean to post this twice?
@nosiphodywili354 жыл бұрын
Well that's okay ... He's getting his punishment
@Clarabella-cl6gb4 жыл бұрын
Kind of like the death of Stalin
@Cheetahgirl_Studios4 жыл бұрын
“Our children just immediately obeyed us without question.” THAT’S BECAUSE THEY WERE TERRIFIED!
@kiaratheexplorer4 Жыл бұрын
Exactly! Like the reason WHY they obey, matters!!! (Sorry I’m 3 years late but I just couldn’t help myself😭)
@Cheetahgirl_Studios Жыл бұрын
@@kiaratheexplorer4 It’s cool lol. I actually forgot this comment existed. But I agree.
@alexlovesmilfs88304 жыл бұрын
my dad used to hit me every time i messed up when learning to tie my shoes. i never successfully tied my shoes with him as i was crying every time. my mom and i were out, eating lunch one day when she grabbed two straw wrappers and tied them together at one end. she calmly explained to me what to do. i didn’t cry. she taught me how to tie my shoes right then and there.
@parkchimmin79134 жыл бұрын
I learned how to tie my shoes in second grade because a first grader (she was the younger sister of another kid in my class) taught me how to do it during school.
@nichakarnt.24334 жыл бұрын
alex is lonely That reminded me of when I was little, my mom would try to have me recite one to one hundred, first in english, then in thai, I’d try, fail, she’d tell me to try again, I’d fail, she’d get frustrated and angry at me, more failing, and she’d hit me. ..I did end up learning though, but it was definitely not the right way to teach it.
@goregoyle4984 жыл бұрын
I learned cause I wanted to do it earlier than my older brother lmfao. Sooo....spite?
@erinkerridge23944 жыл бұрын
So you may think this is weird, but my mum had specific ways to put on clothing. For example, she had a specific way to put on tights and if you got it wrong one of the following would ensue; Yelling in your face (moaning about it would be a slipper to the back of the knees) ; ( she’d sit at your knees and watch you do this, by the way) slap your face and if it wasn’t red by the second time you failed another slap to the face or scratch your thigh to leave a ‘reminder scratch’. I never learnt her way, but it’s satisfying now, older and taller ( I’m a F 5’9 ), being able to say ‘NO’.
@archivedchannel1754 жыл бұрын
@@erinkerridge2394 just go up to her and say "a kiss goodbye from a friend of mine" ( referring to your fist) and punch her in the face
@9252634 жыл бұрын
"Hitting your child won't kill them." Neither will amputating all your limbs, but I don't see you offering.
@TrinityTronos4 жыл бұрын
Wtf I'm confused...
@rezandrarizkyirianto-19334 жыл бұрын
Well, amputating all of your limbs has a high chance of dying, so...
@axinitewolf4 жыл бұрын
I’m offering, anyone want some nubs?
@thatoneguy95824 жыл бұрын
Spearmint Snakes aw fuck yeah
@privateger4 жыл бұрын
@@rezandrarizkyirianto-1933 No? It's just a normal operation.
@amandaperez45744 жыл бұрын
as a young teen who’s never been abused, hit or trAined by my parents, yet been told no / explained why “no”, i have an amazing relationship with my parents and would do anything for them not out of fear but respect.
@vladimirazubcekova772711 ай бұрын
This is how normal decent parenting look like
@ravenscarlettanis136 ай бұрын
I’ve had the same experience. Sure, I get stuff bought for me by my parents, but they often set a budget for how much they spend on me, and once I’ve spent that budget, anything else I’d like, I buy myself.
@malaizze4 жыл бұрын
"Come submissively to his beating." Isn't a way to raise a child it's my search history.
@ashley68224 жыл бұрын
LMFAO
@biancathepansy4 жыл бұрын
OMG! 😂😂😂 I know this is a serious issue, but that joke was still hilarious! What an underrated comment!
@oonaverse4 жыл бұрын
OMG
@buffmusicman4 жыл бұрын
HAH
@gancanagh35704 жыл бұрын
LMAO
@souvlaki._4 жыл бұрын
“Hitting your child won’t kill them” And neither will treating them decently...
@DanielleWhite4 жыл бұрын
I wonder how many children ended up hospitalized or dead because that was the end result of escalating beating severity under that belief.
@skag_gully4 жыл бұрын
If hitting them doesn't kill them, they'd probably do it to themselves eventually. Sadly these horrible people exist.
@wyattwalker7624 жыл бұрын
@@DanielleWhite Apparently 3 kids died because of this... www.babble.com/mom/to-train-up-a-child-teaches-punishment-that-kills-kids/
@eleanorbanana82194 жыл бұрын
bread god sub to my KZfaq channel pls I’m desperate and gay
@Mouseforatu4 жыл бұрын
@@eleanorbanana8219 make some content and I might
@CasperSpencer4 жыл бұрын
Them: "I was abused as a child and I turned out fine!" Also them: * Makes a guide on how to mentally and physically scar a child *
@parkchimmin79134 жыл бұрын
People should learn the difference between a light smack or a small pinch on the arm and straight up whacking a child with a stick. One serves as a little warning, while the other is straight up abuse. Seriously though, it seems like the author (and many others like him) is looking for an excuse to beat up children.
@namanurahasya98864 жыл бұрын
@Park ChimMin neither are ok!!!!
@parkchimmin79134 жыл бұрын
Amythyst Hughes Look, I’m against using physical violence to punish children, but a small pinch is literally just a small pinch. It’s not like you’re beating the hell out the kid.
@skyt52644 жыл бұрын
@viibes :3 In my personal opinion it teaches children that they can put their hands on someone to teach them a lesson as discipline. No one should fear physical pain from loved ones.
@danielleanneanare57604 жыл бұрын
I'm 15 and I turned out fine😂😂 I think some people need some physical discipline when they get out of hand/ when you've talked and did you best and showed them what they're doing wrong, but it has to have some limitations, my mom didn't know her limitation when she was disciplining me, and she has changed. I saw and understood what she was doing wrong so I probably won't do much to my child, is probably just talk to them and show them what they're doing,
@sloop_35224 жыл бұрын
It’s actually terrifying that parents like this exist
@RealMTBAddict2 жыл бұрын
My father and mother were complete opposite people. My father liked violence and throwing things. My mother used love and kindness. Guess which one worked better? Guess which parent I respected more and still respect? They got divorced when I was 18 months old, and that was the best thing my mother did.
@cumdemon98955 жыл бұрын
I think biting is a natural action in newborns controlled by instinct, but ok, let’s just beat newborns for their instincts.
@Justice2375 жыл бұрын
This is something I’ve never understood - how do newborns bite without teeth?
@cioramirez33765 жыл бұрын
My baby sister uses biting as a defense mechanism when my other siblings wont leave her alone.
@vermilion69664 жыл бұрын
@@Justice237 some have teeth. Even Without teeth, neeple is sensitivecenough for it to hurt
@sierrareneewallace68224 жыл бұрын
When I was a baby I bit my dad and he bit me back (not hard, more playful)
@melmel10714 жыл бұрын
Biting is due to teething. It sucks that people don’t know this lol. Teething is extremely painful. Ur just causing the child more pain if u beat em. Smh
@aaronbrown83774 жыл бұрын
This seems like a guide to make a submissive, fearful child that hates you rather than one that will visit you in the retirement home.
@Illitha4 жыл бұрын
that is me tbh. my mother raised me an my sister before this, and 17 years into my life, I despise her very existence.
@Mels01032 жыл бұрын
100%. This book is for people whose only goal in parenting is to have their child obey them.
@thedesensitizedsympathizer53072 жыл бұрын
Why
@thedesensitizedsympathizer53072 жыл бұрын
Well. That's fior me
@kylebear81014 жыл бұрын
“How to Give a Child Multiple Disorders Including DID, Anxiety Disorder, Depression, etc!!” I fixed the title.
@paulsmart46724 жыл бұрын
I've heard so many people tell me that their parents hit them when they were young children and it taught them proper respect. All of those people have absolutely wild stories about crazy, legitimately dangerous shit they got up to as teenagers. Because, as you said at the start of this video, being hit by someone bigger and stronger than you teaches you to be afraid of people who are bigger and stronger than you, but it doesn't teach you anything about respect, or responsibility, or the concept of right and wrong.
@nopizzawithoutpineapple4 жыл бұрын
Micheal Pearl: DESTROY THE CHILD Also him: I'm a good person because I'm religious.
@arandomuser94594 жыл бұрын
ProAnal 6988 Pretty much sums up this book.
@punchyboi69154 жыл бұрын
Jesus: I died for this shit!?
@user-qp4ru6el2s4 жыл бұрын
Destroy the child, corrupt them all
@alyssaskits41554 жыл бұрын
I thought it was Michelle Pearl..I must be blind
@AF-hs3xo4 жыл бұрын
Everyone I know living in Utah.
@HolyKoolaid6 жыл бұрын
Monsters don't always hide in closets. Sometimes they write books.
@stewiegriffin17236 жыл бұрын
Holy Koolaid hi thomas
@harmonicamanrandy6 жыл бұрын
Hey! I resemble that remark. I'm a cookie monster though.
@slashbash13476 жыл бұрын
Hell, I'm willing to bet the monsters in the closet were hiding from Michael.
@MICKEYISLOWD6 жыл бұрын
Just wondering if this book has been published through a publishing house? And If so how the heck can that be??
@Silverwind876 жыл бұрын
Monsters don't always write in closets. Sometimes they hide books.
@deefjohnholler2 жыл бұрын
'i was beaten as a child... and it never did me any harm'. the motto of the society for internalized childhood abuse.
@ButWhyMe... Жыл бұрын
Capitalism is pedophilia - it needs to abuse youths to survive. We need to fight against this. Educate yr local youths - support yr local teachers.
@gokuxsephiroth45054 жыл бұрын
My mum hit me when I was really bad when I was little. Usually a wooden spoon, or a ruler. Now I'm an adult, I have a BDSM fetish. I don't think this was the intended result.
@blueasthelifeshefled3202 жыл бұрын
Oh, thank god. I'm not alone in this world.. lol
@indighost__2 жыл бұрын
my dad choked my once and i have an asphyxiation kink now (safely) lol
@ShadeATV2 жыл бұрын
😂
@bxstar52762 жыл бұрын
You can control it now 🙂
@raincandy16532 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@cait51585 жыл бұрын
“hitting your child won’t kill them” the bar isn’t just low for these people, it’s on the floor. by that logic, literally anything is acceptable as long as the other party doesn’t die. you could justify slavery, segregation, abuse, etc.
@ziggilypiggily5 жыл бұрын
In their mind it wouldn't be slavery or abuse. if someone died as a result of their punishment, God must have willed it. But someone commit suicide as a result of the abuse they experienced, they'd be condemming them to hell. There's so much abuse in this world....Have to shake my head..... A video of a pastor who raped his wife multiple times a day and justified it because women should submit to their husbands. He was teaching his congregation this was ok. Another cult. www.bing.com/search?q=pastor+rapes+his+wife+australia+cult+youtube&qs=n&form=QBRE&sp=-1&pq=pastor+rapes+his+wife+australia+cult&sc=0-36&sk=&cvid=9D98CBBB834B443A850E3F52FFDC84BF
@industrialbro4 жыл бұрын
“Oh, you atempted to murder someone? Well... they didn’t die, so go! Be free!”
@thistle_flowers50184 жыл бұрын
Nah, the bar is in the core of the earth
@kaylie24964 жыл бұрын
cait the bar is so low, it’s burning in hell lmao
@myafield40394 жыл бұрын
@@ziggilypiggily these christians are cherry pickers! God says love your wife as Jesus loved the church and Jesus would NEVER abuse the church.
@sneedmcsneed27624 жыл бұрын
Alternative title "How to die alone in the shittiest nursing home
@johnegbert85364 жыл бұрын
Semen Maslak alternative title “How to ensure you’ll get beaten when you shit your adult diaper and your adult child has to change it.”
@ladessakeltner83844 жыл бұрын
Love this
@jameswhite1534 жыл бұрын
no joke, this is why we never helped my mothers parents and why I never mourned them.
@alexradice81634 жыл бұрын
Amen
@isaackarjala79164 жыл бұрын
Yeah let's see them try paying for even the shittiest nursing home on just SS...
@willahladun3344 жыл бұрын
To everyone in the comments saying that they're glad they got hit or slapped or spanked as a kid- I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I assure you you weren't as bratty as you think you were.
@huyked Жыл бұрын
Actually, I wish I was spanked or punished somehow. I wouldn't stand for what I did, or didn't do (what I was supposed to), as a parent now (if I had kids). My parents were too lenient on me.
@SanneFromBibleStudy1987-gq6vg Жыл бұрын
When I was a kid, I was also part of the my parents hit me and I turned out fine crowd. Now as an adult, I know that I am not fine and nor are my sisters. In fact, my sisters were more negatively affected than I was. But God forbid we critique the picture perfect way to bring up children as was taught in the Bible. At least I know what book I won't go to for parenting advice.
@ButWhyMe... Жыл бұрын
@@huyked Okay pal, just don't reflect your kink on youths k?
@huyked Жыл бұрын
@@ButWhyMe... Good straw man, stupid. It's not a kink. It's a life observation.
@felicityhoneycutt8570 Жыл бұрын
@@huykedyou can be disciplined without being hit yo
@evangelisthahn34784 жыл бұрын
My father taught me there are four types of parents the all loving, no discipline parent, the all discipline, no love parents, the balenced parents, and the parents who aren’t even there.Guess which one is the worst?The all discipline parent
@ShadeATV3 жыл бұрын
My parents are balanced
@rachelburke55053 жыл бұрын
My parents aren’t even there. My mom went to an instituite, and my dad is a drug addict
@TWsBooksorcation2 жыл бұрын
@@rachelburke5505 my best to you
@sarawawa89846 жыл бұрын
Also I want to point out that even when training DOGS the preferred technique is reinforcement, not punishment. So even dog trainers are nicer and more respectful towards dogs than this man is to his own freaking children
@yourownpersonalexistential24706 жыл бұрын
Sara Wawa this is how you know the world we live in is horrible, dogs are raised better than many children
@CreeketsCreek6 жыл бұрын
Sara Wawa I know right? The methods he uses are among my list of torture methods I've read about that traumatized me as a little kid. *_Read_* about. Imagine actually being subjected to them.
@lukasnovella90016 жыл бұрын
Disgusting
@sgtruru6 жыл бұрын
Sara Wawa most intelligent dogs don't stop doing what their doing when you hit them, they'll either, be scared of you and not trust you(meaning they'll not listen to you in fear they'll get hurt for no reason) or they'll become aggressive towards you thinking you are an enemy not a companion.
@trashbutbetter3096 жыл бұрын
Sara Wawa the most “violence” I’ve ever used is very lightly taping his nose for trying to steal food (even after being told no so meany times) not
@_letstartariot5 жыл бұрын
Btw, as a social worker (child welfare practitioner) who does home visits, if I see this book in a persons house, I think it gives me an idea of how they maybe raising their kids. So thanks for reviewing this for us. There is absolutely no justification for hitting a human being. In particular a child who cannot defend themselves, or understand why their own parent, their protector, is hurting them and causing pain. For very young children, their parents are their entire world. Parents are supposed to be there to guide their child’s physical, emotional/mental and social development. Inflicting pain is not a form of guidance, or an action of showing affection and love that a child needs. A newborn baby doesn’t even know what fingers are. Or that they have eyes. That they have the hair that their horrible mother was tugging at. What pain is, why it’s happening and only that it hurts. Their body is controlling them via innate responses. They are not capable of learning complex things like right or wrong. How on earth can they understand physical punishment? This also sounds like a guide on how to hide physical child abuse.
@sloane37854 жыл бұрын
Thank you, it's absolutely disgusting to hurt your child or sibling in that fact, that's younger than you. Even if they were older, it's still wrong. Just no, they are incapable of love. If the abusers were abused when they were younger, that still doesn't justify their actions. Abuse is abuse, and it should be stopped
@litaraduodox57994 жыл бұрын
i don't have kids, but i do have a younger sister and pet cats, both weaker and more hopeless than me, of course i could never, ever, see a creature weaker and more hopeless than me and not think of protecting or caring for them. if you're throwing hands on kids or animals, what kind of a human are you? ugh.
@KTK-mp7iw4 жыл бұрын
Is this book not enough evidence to take the authors children away?
@michaw.21684 жыл бұрын
I would like to say that children WILL remember what happened to them no matter the age. I remember when I was 2 years old being punched in the face by my mum for speaking/being loud on the table with my grandparents. I still see the table the blood and the fear. I stopped making noise for year's I'm 32 know and only for the around 8 years I can speak in groups of strangers. I left home for Ireland and speaking English saved my life...
@heavennunya8094 жыл бұрын
Just don't judge them solely for having the book, you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover so a parent may read the book, think it's hodgepodge, and put it on the shelf. A lot of times CPS oversteps their bounds and takes away kids they shouldn't. Don't be that person.
@sarahchurnetski1280 Жыл бұрын
Just gonna say that my parents used this book to raise me and 4 of my siblings. I have a little brother eight years younger than me, and my mother has never used any of its teachings with him. The difference between him and my brothers at his age is astounding. He doesn’t try to solve his problems with violence like we were taught to, he’s great at communicating his wants and needs, he can understand why what he does is right or wrong. I am so glad he doesn’t have to grow up in the purity culture hellhole we did, and I wish my mom could’ve broken away from my dad’s ideals sooner. Also she got that book (as well as the help meet one) recommended to her by a husband and wife with a nine year age gap plus the husband totally groomed his first wife when he was 18 and she was 13 with the express approval of the church elders so make of that what you will. I hate Baptist churches
@kiaratheexplorer4 Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry. I hope you’re all doing well ❤
@brentleyturner29074 жыл бұрын
It’s like nobody can understand that the Bible just might have a few metaphors that are not supposed to be taken completely literally...
@lochiness.3 жыл бұрын
And the bible is just no practical life advice besides morals maybe
@dionysusfilms1653 жыл бұрын
@@lochiness. and not even that
@austinreed7343 Жыл бұрын
See also the debate on Ruth being a Moabite or not
@wickedamoeba87196 жыл бұрын
Raising a child through fear and pain doesn't make a good child. It makes them sneaky. They become good at pretending to feel how you want them to feel. All the while, all that resentment and anger is stewing inside them.
@silkynothingness28746 жыл бұрын
And that can easily lead to a really messed up kid
@bimboisms6 жыл бұрын
Yeah. That’s how I was raised.
@IONE_the_Enby6 жыл бұрын
Wicked Amoeba FACT. I was told that it was my fault by my father for getting raped. MY OWN FAULT! Guess whose not coming to my wedding? Guess whose funeral I’m not attending? Getting a job, marrying and moving states has never been better for my soul
@closer716 жыл бұрын
So well put. Thank you.
@CrayonConoisseur6 жыл бұрын
And that is how I was raised. I became a good liar and knew how to earn brownie points from my parents to trust me.
@MegaDeathRay104 жыл бұрын
“A triple spin kick to the head followed up by a burning uppercut should be an adequate punishment for breathing too loudly.”
@qwertyiuwg4uwtwthn4 жыл бұрын
"Tatsumaki"
@badoem53534 жыл бұрын
"Don't forget to tie them to the wall, whiplash is a danger for newborns"
@icewolf60624 жыл бұрын
This book is horrible but that sentence was hilarious.
@levitopy4 жыл бұрын
I was angry at the video so I began reading the comments and this made me laugh so thank u
@DrDeathpwnsu4 жыл бұрын
One sharp kick directly to the face, delivered in a calm and controlled manner, is usually sufficient. You must follow up by looking the child directly in the eyes with a cold foreboding stare until their spirit is broken into despondent submission. After that generally you'll want to have some kind of gesture, either by twirling your moustache or just throwing your head back and cackling like a madman, things of that nature.
@poisontippedsword34574 жыл бұрын
My parents never hit me, never screamed at me, and always made me feel heard. As a result, my parents would be the first I’d call if I made any mistake, or got into a fight, or got arrested, anything. I trust my parents fully. I’m not scared of my parents. And I think that’s what this book was trying to get to. But that’s the exact opposite child you’ll raise with that “parenting” method. Your kids are going to get as far away from you as soon as they can, and never speak to you gain.
@tressamccoy4 жыл бұрын
My baby sister is 1, and the idea of hitting her makes me feel physically sick. These people are monsters.
@ThatPrimalSnail4 жыл бұрын
To the man that wrote this book: Your child would be safer, and happier in an orphanage, than in your “care”.
@saturnisgay693 жыл бұрын
they’d probably be safer taking care of them f*cking selves than with his “care” and “love”
@holly.alexandria5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, a baby crying because they need something from you and can’t communicate through words yet is totally selfish. You’re not at all being selfish by hitting the child so you get some quiet time. Totally makes sense. I wouldn’t ever even treat my dogs this way, who the hell would do it to a child? Beating them with sticks? It’s barbaric.
@QJ894 жыл бұрын
I see my baby nephew scream to the point that his face turns red, I don't see any selfishness. I just see basic emotional changes that can evolve over time. As much as I think about silencing him, I know it's best to let him go all out. I'm not even a parent myself and I know this. But Mike and Debi ARE...!
@Sawdustinthemakeup4 жыл бұрын
Well I mean they do follow a book written 2000 years ago that advocates for stoning your child if they misbehave soooooooooooo
@fueqmeus25024 жыл бұрын
@@Sawdustinthemakeup actually it doesn't?.. those were some wild times and they did hit them and etc but when those principles are applied to modern life they are executed differently. Like you obviously shouldn't rip your eye or arm out when looking at someone w/ desire
@duxghost39854 жыл бұрын
My brother who is 12 years old has autism and my mum thought it was a good idea to start hitting him while he was having a breakdown, I had to reassure him I wasn't going to hurt him when I went to calm him down
@duxghost39854 жыл бұрын
My little brother bit me a few times, climbs on my head, hits me, I'm letting him for now until he gets a bit bigger but the little asshole does it on purpose 😂
@rafabuda04 жыл бұрын
child: exists book: so they have chosen... death.
@autumncrocus92554 жыл бұрын
Jesus: above all, my greatest commandment is to love everyone The Pearls: he said BEAT THEM ALL WITH LOVE
@habes14864 жыл бұрын
Child: *breathes* Authors: This is an avengers level threat.
@shiaseedsalad27264 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@Dougiewoof4 жыл бұрын
"if your child breathes exesacly or even at all, use a rope, towel or if you have nothing around your hand to choke the child. While beating your with your hand is ineffective. It works very well in this case. This will teach them not to steel your air. Which in turn will instill in them the moral value that theft is worng. After choking the child talk to them about the value of air and why using without permition is imoral. This can be used on children from newborn to 35. Continuing this practice throughout their life will show the child that you control them. If your child doesn't respond it's because they hate you for trying to teach them things. Hate is a power chemeical the stop the brain from functioning. But don't worry, it will pass.."
@xeecstasy31834 жыл бұрын
Dougie26200 2 Interesting joke 😂😅
@Dougiewoof4 жыл бұрын
@@xeecstasy3183 thanks.
@thesilentmarauder37584 жыл бұрын
A cheerful atmosphere in the home" Do you mean: *Your child is pretending to be happy whilst they plot to snuff you out with a pillow in three days?*
@asdfgidji8794 жыл бұрын
to be fair theres probably genuine joy if they have that plan. Knowing how close they are to freedom
@gothshu79544 жыл бұрын
@@asdfgidji879 unsettling
@shotaaizawa13204 жыл бұрын
Way to call me out like that but I'm planning to just put chemicals in their tea
@gremlinwithstickyhands37044 жыл бұрын
I say often to my partner that I would’ve killed their dad if he was my dad. At least would’ve stabbed him or something. People are conditioned in abuse to think their abusers are all powerful, but I was abused and that never worked with me. When someone hit me I hit them back, every time.
@Sanskare4 жыл бұрын
As somebody who was often beaten with a rod as a child you have no idea how close to truth you are. Being a physically weak but fairly smart kid (around 8y old) I had several plans of how I was going to get my father seriously injured or killed in a way that won't be traceable to me. Really glad I got rescued by my kind grandparents who saw what was coming.
@notusingthisaccounttoomuch84864 жыл бұрын
Newborn: Oh! My mom is calling me to this thing I like- Mom: *no.* **proceeds to slap child on bare skin with a stick larger than the child**
@AnahataMaryjane4 жыл бұрын
i was raised like this. i spent most of my childhood being absolutely terrified of being hit and constantly obsessed with trying not to do anything to warrant it. thing is through all experiences, i never knew what exactly was going to be a new reason to be hit.
@ksol1460tv2 жыл бұрын
You are not alone.
@Beanssss_2 жыл бұрын
I hope you never visit your parents or send them to a bad nursing home
@TiredBirb4905 жыл бұрын
Their logic: abusing kid = great social life Actual logic: abusing kid = fear, anxiety, trust issues, etc.
@ashlymarie99605 жыл бұрын
Yup! *raises hand to confirm that statement*
@clemenmurillo78065 жыл бұрын
Also it can equal psychopaths and you know. Literally my dad says that's how some abused kids grow up.
@ashlymarie99605 жыл бұрын
@@clemenmurillo7806 true, but rare...they will most likely grow up with bad habits and violent tendencies.
@8ozz2205 жыл бұрын
@@clemenmurillo7806 Psychopaths are born, they cannot be made. however, Sociopaths can be made through abuse and certain social conditioning, and are similar to psychopaths.
@bogwife79425 жыл бұрын
Not to mention self-destructive tendencies
@robin37464 жыл бұрын
It's sad that a random girl on KZfaq knows more about child psychology then people making books on that subject
@tayler28564 жыл бұрын
Mel 4 maybe the person that wrote the book does understand psychology and is using it for bad
@SlapstickGenius234 жыл бұрын
Tayler maybe the authors altered and distorted the facts to suit their writing method.
@petitesayo45424 жыл бұрын
@@tayler2856 No. He doesn't. Just the fact he thinks punishment is the best way to learn is a proof of that.
@sophiiking59754 жыл бұрын
Petite Sayo i think what Tayler meant, correct me if i’m wrong, is that the author probably knows that this abuse IS traumatising and finds pleasure in encouraging other parents to abuse, and end up traumatising, their children too. it sounds crazy but not as crazy as what the author is saying. hope that made sense, i’m not the best at explaining things but that is how i interpreted the comment! :)
@sophiiking59754 жыл бұрын
and the fact that they (the author and his wife) receive messages from other parents telling them and seeking approval about how they abuse their children; what works and what doesn’t, the children’s’ reactions, etc. is probably the exact sort of response an ill-minded person, such as the authors, would want from all of this.
@lottevanderpaelt16844 жыл бұрын
At one point I seriously got reminded of Dolores Umbridge in the Harry Potter series. I think the line "by nature the child innately knows he deserves punishment for his moral failure" just did it for me
@stankybee2 жыл бұрын
When I was a child, my father used to beat the living daylights out of my brother and I and when called out would refer to it as "discipline". He also forced me to go to church and stand up for multiple songs and prayers when I was critically ill and due to one of these instances I now almost 20 years later struggle with very severe germaphobia related OCD and PTSD. Reminds me an awful lot of these people.
@Lu44554 жыл бұрын
my dad got beaten as a kid and now his entire body goes “no” when he hears screaming. he borrows my noise-cancelling headphones quite a bit
@shiaseedsalad27264 жыл бұрын
:'(
@jana73594 жыл бұрын
My father got beaten so he abused my mother, siblings, and me. I much prefer your father's method of dealing with it
@smudged40904 жыл бұрын
@@jana7359 I'm sorry that happened to your family. I hope your okay now
@jana73594 жыл бұрын
@@smudged4090 Yeah I'm fine. My Ma, brother, and I moved out about a year and a half ago
@smudged40904 жыл бұрын
Jana Great to hear!
@336xangelx6 жыл бұрын
If a child is too young to understand you when you're trying to tell them what they did wrong, they are too young to understand why you hit them
@Eclipsethealpha5 жыл бұрын
Madison Bodfield but when is a child too young to understand right and wrong? People really underestimate how intelligent kids really are, most know right from wrong from before they can crawl- even in situations where all they see is wrong, wrong, wrong. If you dont enforce what is right (an sometimes a spanking or pop on the ass is needed for that, especially if say your kids pulling a dogs tail, or trying to play with something potentially dangerous)
@TheKaiSenpai5 жыл бұрын
@@Eclipsethealpha i cant quite recall from my psychology class but i believe children dont develop an understanding of abstract concepts such as right and wrong until either 9 or 11 years old. i could be wrong, but i do know they dont get a real understanding of such things on their own until later elementary school age. anything younger is is most likely the child parroting what theyve been taught by adults. i could be wrong but thats what i can recall off the top of my head.
@Eclipsethealpha5 жыл бұрын
kix kix abstract thought is generally believe to be developed anywhere from 9-16 years of age, but children have been proven to exhibit a sense of morality from a very young age, morality has been proven in recent years to be instinctual, but persuaded by ones environment. A child from as young as 1-3 years of age understands that certain things are right and certain things are wrong. The best time to “train” a child in terms of morality and what is and isn’t socially acceptable is from from about 2-9 years old. I had to sit through three years of human and health sciences, its like a coverall for psychology, behavior, development, and culture as it pertains to children and teens, as well as some extra stuff that doesn’t pertain to the convo (drug and alcohol abuse, death, marriage, pregnancy and statistical data about literally everything) something that was also taught was the abuse cycle, abuse, and how to help/spot/stop and abuser/victim. The book that shes talking about does most definitely have extremely toxic and abusive notes in it, but physically punishing a child for something they did wrong is not abuse, it’s discipline. It becomes abuse when the parent physically punishes the child for small matters and overdoes the punishment (pulling an infants hair for biting, beating the shit outta ur kid for leaving the toilet seat up, sitting on a child 6 times smaller than you) A child receiving a pop on the hand when they reach for something they dont need to be messing with is okay, setting the child up to be hit is not, spanking your child for being disobedient at a restraunt or for giving lip is okay- in moderation- spanking your child for not coming to their name being called is not. Switching a child for stealing or sneaking out is okay- in moderation- switching your child for idk, coloring on the walls, is not okay. It all is within moderation and for the right reason. The problem is parents aren’t taught the right and wrong reason and either overdo it or under-do it. I personally would never switch my kid more than once and even that once they would have had to done something absolutely terrible.
@nakedlauging5 жыл бұрын
@@Eclipsethealpha first of all, no child knows the difference between right and wrong at crawling stage. It's mostly just what to do or not do because of reinforcement. I was never spanked and i grew up without problems. Spanking a child for exploring the world is not a good thing to do, period. Your child then internalizes the spanking but not why you did it. I was always told why not to do something, and i was put on timeout without my books (these were of paramount importance). I learned my lesson, got a punishment, and no one got hit. I'm a social worker now.
@Eclipsethealpha5 жыл бұрын
nakedlaughing well i did get spanked and havent internalized shit dude. It all depends on the kid, as ive said already, and how they react to the punishment. Some kids react to soankings, some kids dont, some kids react to time outs, some kids dont. I reacted to spankings and not really time out as much, my older brother reacted to spanking, my younger brother reacted to time outs, my youngest sister reacted to words. Its all dependent on how the kid reacts. If you are a social worker and u put people down as abusive for spanking their child then i have a serious problem with that. And i dont mean spanking your kid til they have welts and bruises either, i mean just 1-5 moderate hits. There is nothing wrong with it, its not abuse. Im not a social worker myself, its not what i want to do in life, but i could very well be one right now if i chose to and i would have nothing wrong with a parent who spanks their child unless the punishment was way overboard and/or for no good reason.
@heterophobia.mp43 жыл бұрын
Pulling the hair of a baby can cause lifelong skull damage, I hope their kids got help for that kind of childhood trauma 🙁
@mobiusstripper72792 жыл бұрын
How to teach your child to fear you, walk upon eggshells around you, and to develop the art of concealing their true feelings and actions from you. Bravo.
@elliotludwig74875 жыл бұрын
My mom would hit me when I didn’t listen to her, even when I wasn’t aware she was speaking to me. If I was on my phone or the laptop while she was around, she would sometimes just take it from me to snoop through my stuff and see what I was doing, looking for a reason to punish me. I still remember a time I had paused while cleaning my room, for not even a second, while she was talking. She was furious and I had just stopped to hear what she was saying. She pushed me against the wall and slapped me across the face three times, shouted at me for not cleaning, and left me to cry in my closet. That didn’t teach me to obey, to clean faster, to hand over my stuff when she wants it. It taught me to fear her presence, to fear a messy room, to fear her voice. It’s only when I got older and got to the age where I’d be able to reach out to other, she stopped.
@sylvie_on4 жыл бұрын
Hope you moved beyond your past :( no child should deal with that...
@lioness77194 жыл бұрын
Never contact her again. No matter how much she begs, never contact her!
@kaocat95474 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you reached out man. I hope your doing better, and your mother has worked/working in these blatant issues.
@noyes88824 жыл бұрын
Kaocat:3 thanks for supporting people in the comments.
@kaocat95474 жыл бұрын
@@noyes8882 no problem dude.
@Mehk6 жыл бұрын
He says that hitting and switching children is just “training” them the same way you train dogs”. Tell me, who beats their dog to train it? I’ve never met a professional dog trainer that uses such methods to make the dogs obey them.
@04JessicaS6 жыл бұрын
Lunafae the only times i’ve seen are light taps to regain the dogs attention if they can’t get it from other methods. i agree with you !
@Sonlirain6 жыл бұрын
Well beating them works. It's called aversive training. Basically it assumes that a dog will learn that doing something bad will earn it a slap and will start avoiding situations that earn it slaps. Of course it doesn't mean you are supposed to beat the shit out of your dog to the point it's a curled up psychotic mess. Or treat your children like dogs for that matter...
@eatplastic91336 жыл бұрын
Sonlirain is right also dogs have very thic skin and don't feel a light slap while babies are fragile
@sage59486 жыл бұрын
Right? Like I've given my dog and cat a little pop on the nose the same way you might give a light pap on the hand. It's not meant to be painful, it's mean to give an obvious signal that what you just did was a no-no. You're not supposed to hurt the dog, you can give a light pop that wouldn't ever hurt them, but you're not supposed to purposefully inflict actual pain on them!
@tracymartel6 жыл бұрын
And also when you hit a dog , can’t it get taken away from you because it’s uhhhhhhhya know abuse
@margauxdebie25253 жыл бұрын
my father abused my sister as a toddler, i have no recollection of him beating me or abusing me but he used to be so angry and flip out any time we did anything wrong. I am now sixteen, I no longer see my father with this abuse being the biggest reason. Raising your kids based on fear is one of the worst things you can do and will poison your relationship long after the factd.
@Bushwhacker-so4yk4 жыл бұрын
The whole angle of pain relieving children of guilt reminds me of myself trying to justify my self-harm.
@Wandervenn6 жыл бұрын
"Self centered" No. They are babies. If you look away for too long they can easily die. That's why they are designed to focus on themselves. They dont have the mental capacity to care for their own needs and their parents.
@thatonedog8196 жыл бұрын
TempleAmarok it's technically not wrong, a child can't think of the world from any other perspective than their own until a certain stage.... I want to say some time in elementary school.... Not saying that their methods should be used because they are horrible methods of course. I doubt they even knew that little fact or they would have changed their tune because it's backed by science.
@aliceaandrea6 жыл бұрын
Egocentrism is a normal stage of a child's development. Well said.
@Veryspecificassortmentofwords6 жыл бұрын
TempleAmarok lol babies are self centered by evolutionary necessity. To look negatively on this is being in denial about human nature
@Liusila6 жыл бұрын
TempleAmarok That’s so toxic. My mother used to tell my brother and I we are selfish parasites and that we’re horrible for never thinking about her. And you’re, like, ten years old thinking... wait, what?
@gregmcgregginton5746 жыл бұрын
It's perfectly normal for a small child to be self centered. It's not a bad thing you have to train out of them or something; they'll grow out of it if they're properly raised.
@dernamenlosefan4 жыл бұрын
"defeat him totally" Okay so raising a child is a gladiator fight now?
@rezandrarizkyirianto-19334 жыл бұрын
Ikr? Even Spartans are not this cruel
@alligatorboy20004 жыл бұрын
Worse than gladiators. The Editor or your opponent could raise a finger to end the fight in gladiatorial combat, but this book teaches not to accept any surrender
@samiscisking12654 жыл бұрын
Adriano Arne-Ritz Actually no, Spartans were worse, they beat children each year before either they passed out or died
@wickedlove18904 жыл бұрын
Even the title alone is wrong, you don't train a child, you train a dog.. A child is raised
@The_Skrongler3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate these videos. It's good to raise awareness about and deconstruct this kind of abusive propaganda. TW: the rest of this comment contains graphic descriptions of child abuse. My parents were briefly convinced to adopt the tenets of this book when I was little and my dad started threatening me and my siblings with plastic tubing. My mum knew it was wrong but all her church friends told her that she had to obey her husband. So the kind of rhetoric that Michael and Debbie Pearl spread both created and reinforced the abusive situation. My mum eventually snapped out of it and confronted my dad on his bullshit which resulted in them abandoning the "discipline" program. It was a really dark time in my life, but it's good to have resources like these videos that show why it happened and directly confront the ideology behind that abuse.
@PhoenixJohnson294 жыл бұрын
This book should be called “How to traumatize your child”
@jlbeeen4 жыл бұрын
How to cause CPTSD. Because this has happened for people I know. I think they were raised before this book, and not nearly as strictly, but the same idea applies.
@callmeanon3074 жыл бұрын
*how to give your child PTSD and maybe make them insane*
@bendover26844 жыл бұрын
Cant wait to have children and fuck them bitchasses up
@eleanorbanana82194 жыл бұрын
Phoenix J. Haha yes
@user-td3yi1mq7p4 жыл бұрын
@@bendover2684 perfect text for a 5 Star review of this book
@AlashiaTuol6 жыл бұрын
How have they not been arrested? I mean, they literally published their confession of committing child abuse.
@charlzyfae5 жыл бұрын
Guess the police is too busy shooting unarmed black people
@crystalvitagliano63815 жыл бұрын
AlashiaTuol because probably it isn’t exact evidence and if they were to investigate they would say ‘training’ so its not like they would actually even confess but if they got some statements and asked the kids and the right question they would probably have enough evidence
@peanutbutterpikachu5 жыл бұрын
AlashiaTuol at least they're admitting to it I guess. This is the day69 of books.
@megalodon67895 жыл бұрын
I don't understand how he's still walking free. Three children (all from separate families) have died because their parents were followers of his. I'm shocked he wasn't charged along with the parents.
@jonsnor43135 жыл бұрын
The question is how isnt that book banned already. Or taken out of the market. Even the most radical believer should see this book is outright crazy.
@hannahsearcy18453 жыл бұрын
I was raised this way.. my parents spanked me with the XL paint stirring stick, about 3 feet large. Of course I’m in therapy now lmao
@_.useless._.human._6254 жыл бұрын
Bruh, these are the kinds of things that cause debilitating personality disorders.
@Crabernacker4 жыл бұрын
My son used to spill water all over the floor for our water dispenser. 15 minutes in timeout without cartoons a few times and he doesn't do it anymore. It's possible to teach children what and what not to do without inflicting pain. It's not easy raising a child but if you can't control your emotions you shouldn't be a parent. There's no reason a child should suffer just because you cant handle yourself.
@sueemeralda12904 жыл бұрын
Now this is parenting ^ not whatever nasty bullshit was that book.
@curedreamfandubz41164 жыл бұрын
Thanks you Also funny cuz you have 123 likes
@chariot51544 жыл бұрын
Amen
@lenaofthevalley4 жыл бұрын
my dad says "moms say that you can't hit your kid because it's abuse but that's the only way they'll learn!" he's a Trump supporter. and homophobic, transphobic, racist, and sexist. I'm not exaggerating...he's a terrible father
@celestegarcia9234 жыл бұрын
cindy the cringey lmao these white moms love “timeout”
@toriandtilly6 жыл бұрын
The worst thing about the biting/hair pulling thing is that he said "nursing mothers" which would mean that if the baby bit her nipple while trying to feed thats when she would pull the hair. Literally teaching the baby NOT TO EAT.
@smileymctrashbag6 жыл бұрын
hahayourfunny94 I can't imagine doing that when my little girl is here to her. For anything, much less nursing.
@VicereineKillbride6 жыл бұрын
Wouldn't surprise me if the infant develops disordered eating as a child. Heartbreaking....
@wolfrayne83556 жыл бұрын
hahayourfunny94 its disgusting. Every breastfeeding mother has dealt with bites. Apparently this sick woman is just too weak or impatient to deal with the natural hurdles of being a mother
@kayleigh19916 жыл бұрын
True. There's a good chance that they'll develop an eating disorder :(
@toriandtilly6 жыл бұрын
Kayleigh or never properly learn how to latch on to a nipple messing up their nutrition during breast feeding and bottle feeding.
@chandlersampson2 жыл бұрын
Parents that expect blind obedience are, more often than not, abusive. Edit: You've aged like fine wine ❤
@kreideprintz4 жыл бұрын
As a person that grew up in a similar environment with "training" like this, I can say that it definitely scars you for life and guess what! Creates a lot of mental problems!
@chaosbeam46544 жыл бұрын
Parents: *hit their child* Also parents: WhY iSN’t my cHiLD TalKING to ME?!?!?!!???!?!??
@arandomuser94594 жыл бұрын
Chaos Beam It’s such a mystery.
@noneya59544 жыл бұрын
Honestly true my sister beat my niece growing up and she moved out at 17 and now my sister sits on her bed crying wondering why her daughter doesn't want to come visit her :)
@chaosbeam46544 жыл бұрын
none ya That’s honestly horrible. I hope your niece is doing ok
@TrinityTronos4 жыл бұрын
@@noneya5954 Man, fuck the parents...
@frenchfry554 жыл бұрын
My parents do that and they wonder why I don't speak to them "Oh, father , spanking, speaking down to me, calling me names and shaming me for being bullied, and saying i'm not allowed to have mental ad psylogical issues is totally NOT the reason I don't come to family reunions or hug you or tell you i love you" Like I get it, you want your child to listen. But how my parents and so many others, if you beat and hurt your kid without telling them why they shouldn't do it or why doing it upsets you won't make them love you or care for you growing up. As a kid I got hit for doing things that normal kids do and mess up because that's the part of life, I remember being 4-7 and at that time I had a weak bladder and couldn't make it to the bathroom and guess who got beat and left in their room as punishment? When I got older I just got more and more angry for getting hit for small things so I started to rebel and steal, but also got hurt for it and I told myself that I would never love my parents or trust them. When I got to my teenage years (still a teenager now just almost 18) I became fearful and just very scared of doing something wrong or saying something wrong so at 14-16 I stopped speaking and only would talk if I was asked a question and would try my best not to even be in their pressence but later my dad was sad and told all my siblings that I don't love him and I never do because if you child isn't speaking to you then they're disrespectful and ungrateful and don't care about you at all because you totalllly ddn't do anything wrong Sorry for this vent.. i'll see myself out now
@margaretjohnson62596 жыл бұрын
if hitting another adult can land a person in prison, children shouldn't be hit either.
@TheProxy0665 жыл бұрын
IKR?
@lilith40925 жыл бұрын
Idk if you got this from another source or whatever, though shit this is a bit too true
@Spamhard5 жыл бұрын
@Freakazoid 27 Lmao, dude that doesn't make it acceptable. That's like saying "I got punched by a stranger and I turned out fine". Sure, maybe the punch didn't have a huge impact on your personal life, but punching a total stranger is still not acceptable behaviour and can land that person in prison or with fines to pay. It also doesn't take into account that every human is different. While a few beatings may not had done harm to you, someone with a different personality may have internalised those beatings differently.
@erwanasuzumiya63475 жыл бұрын
I think the person was being sarcastic, becauseeveyr person who got slapped in the face say "my parents hit me as a child and i turned out fine", i believe this is sarcasm because the leather belt bit sounds more violent to those people in general so you definitely can't see it as "normal" even if hitting a child at all is terrible
@Spamhard5 жыл бұрын
@@erwanasuzumiya6347 A leather belt is a pretty normal child beating tool. A lot of kids who were/are hit are hit with either belts or switches (thin branches). I don't really see the sarcasm in stating "my parents used to beat me and I turned out fine", it's just repeating a comment that some abusers make.
@koichihirose10214 жыл бұрын
I like how I dont even "train" my dog. I *raise* my dog thank you very much.
@abbynormal36953 жыл бұрын
As a mother of a 3 year old, I would never. Breaks my heart to even put her in a time out or have to take a toy away
@MaffyTaffyHaffy Жыл бұрын
Wait till they are older and piss you off
@SpecialBlanket Жыл бұрын
Why are you doing those things, then? That's also just conditioning. You probably instinctively know that making someone experience smtg unpleasant by inducing false consequences is wrong.
@AD-wz6nd5 жыл бұрын
I am not trying to be dramatic, but this video drove me to tears as a survivor of abuse. I cannot fathom having a child-an innocent human being who relies on you simply to live, who trusts you implicitly-and purposefully abusing them. This goes beyond hitting, which is evil enough; this is the methodical, unrelenting destruction of a human being’s spirit. You are not only causing them pain and potentially inflicting SIGNIFICANT injury, you are treating them as subhuman and conflating love with violence and cruelty. You are teaching them that they can trust no one, that making mistakes is NEVER excusable, and that they deserve to suffer. The people who wrote this book do not know what love is and my heart breaks for every child harmed by their evil.
@cioramirez33765 жыл бұрын
I'm also a victim of abuse. It's so hard to move on from that environment, and these monsters encouraging you to abuse your children makes me sick
@QJ894 жыл бұрын
You say "evil," but they think it's justified. They're delusional masochists with a superiority complex.
@sutomuarashi4 жыл бұрын
QJ89 they aren’t even humans they are evil creeps who need to d I e
@oddreym25694 жыл бұрын
Saying that you are abusing someone because you love them is absolutely disgusting it only will it cause them pain now, but all throughout their life. They will believe if someone hits them it’s out of love or they will abuse people thinking it’s out of love.
@sutomuarashi4 жыл бұрын
Oddrey M ^^^^
@lilly46084 жыл бұрын
LMAO, A CHILD GETTING A FLASHBACK OF PAIN EACH TIME THEY WANT TOO TOUCH SUM, THATSS PTSDDDD
@Bella-zf6nl4 жыл бұрын
IKR how do they not realize that?
@lizgawin8994 жыл бұрын
@@Bella-zf6nl Due to a medical mistake i was diagnosed with Autism and my most recent worker told me to go outside and get a buggy. I had a bit of a flash-back to an incident in my day care where i was told to go outside and color. i got a bit confused and actually went outside and got a whuppin' for it. What the day care worker meant by outside was to the play area but 5-6 year old me thought she meant the actual outdoor porch cause i was told outdoors. In the buggy thing she wanted me to get a small buggy of which there were none and i wondered 'uh outside like this or do i actually go outside the store? This is just like that daycare incident' the worker i was with showed me that she meant for me to get a buggy from outside the store and told me off for not listening and i was thinking 'well you should've been more specific' but i said nothing aloud as i had loooooong since learned that trying to explain the situation only led to me being yelled at like i was a 5 year old.
@@lizgawin899 It is amazing how traditionally raised adults sincerely believe that their own emotional outbursts are the correct way to teach a child, while the child is learning only that the adult _might_ have their head on backwards sometimes... so since the adult can't be trusted to protect children, the only safe course of action for the child is to avoid danger from the adult's unstable mental state. And apparently that's satisfactory......
@lizgawin8994 жыл бұрын
@@davidk7529 my grandmother does have outbursts i, and the others she's raised, watch out for but she only has them when, for example, if she sees someone go up behind me and shove their hands down my pants. Now that's just being a good grandparent, not an abusive one. She prefers trying to talk things out in a reasonable and civilized manner first and having an outburst as a last resort. She has a firm hand but is quite fair, tryin' to keep it as real and as honest as she can with me and i respect and love her for it.
@cinnamoncleric4 жыл бұрын
You know, at least my mom lashed out mindlessly due to mental illness and hormone imbalance. It wasn't malicious or evil or deliberate, like this.
@cereall64584 жыл бұрын
The worst part about parents who do this is that they’re surprised when their child is scared to be in the same room as them or doesn’t feel comfortable talking to them
@trashmann99714 жыл бұрын
"Never ridicule, mock, or laugh at your child's ideas, creations, or ambitions." Instead, beat your child for them. I'm not well versed in the law, can this book be used as evidence against the couple who wrote it? They shouldn't be allowed to be near children, much less raise them. Foster homes are shitty, but they exist because there are things even worse.
@quincyanimates4 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking about. How are they still running free??? And their poor children.
@_tking4 жыл бұрын
I dont know about the UK but I live in the US and here, likely not. Now CPS could theoretically look into it if they have dependents. But otherwise, this would probably fall under freedom of speech
@WannabeWriter1006 жыл бұрын
Hitting your baby for reaching for something YOU put in front of them won't teach them to obey you. It'll teach them not to trust you.
@peachfritz60626 жыл бұрын
Rainy Day Exactly! The child will have trust issues!
@miaomiaochan Жыл бұрын
Kind of like how the Christian God put a tree with forbidden fruit right in front of Adam and Eve and punished their descendants with death and eternal damnation for daring to take the fruit.
@elise86534 жыл бұрын
As an after school daycare teacher with my own group of children I work with, I recognize there needs to be a balance of positive reinforcement, curiosity for the child’s life outside of the daycare, and punishment. I love my children and I will never guilt them for the things they do because they’re little, there needs to be a trade off of respect starting with you as the adult. You need to respect the children and pose as a safe person who is compassionate yet sets expectations for the children to follow. There needs to be an atmosphere of trust and order and it’s up to you as the adult to establish it
@Colin-kh6kp3 жыл бұрын
"Why wouldn't you want a child that can think for themselves?" I mean, he's a christian minister. Nothing is more horrifying to them than the prospect of critical thinking ability.
@raelonewolf5 жыл бұрын
This book should be renamed "How to Raise a Serial Killer".
@tsukikosuzuki66455 жыл бұрын
raelonewolf “how to raise a sociopath”
@lukaimak5 жыл бұрын
How to make your children kill you when they grow up
@barbararab63905 жыл бұрын
How to raise a school shooter
@yehlichi57275 жыл бұрын
How to raise more abusive parents with several mental problems
@theimplications6355 жыл бұрын
How to raise your own early death
@jesterex_87505 жыл бұрын
Here's a better guide: You just fracking don't
@samanthadegroot77495 жыл бұрын
A Bicycle you know, you could sell that guide and make more money than they did for their bullshit
@ChaoticBattleCamel5 жыл бұрын
It’s in the fracking ship!!!!
@laurelkerossow99245 жыл бұрын
You said Frakking. BSG Love.
@Itsatragedeigh2 жыл бұрын
God: its totally cool to hit your kids My dad: spanks me at any misstep Me: grows up to be an atheist My dad: surprised pikachu face
@justinkianaalfredo6843Ай бұрын
Well my case is different lol I went atheist cuz i prayed and tried for years but still failed Also my condolence Every abusive parents DO NOT deserve to go near ANY child at a 15 km radius
@sickeningnoandrealfierceto4 жыл бұрын
Hurting a child to "train" them doesn't even get to the root of the problem. The child doesn't cease their naughty behaviour because they were taught how to be a good person, they are simply trying to avoid punishment. It's like a potential murderer who choses not to do the crime, not because he thinks killing is bad but simply because he is worried about going to prison. maybe i have a point, maybe not
@michellecallahan94965 жыл бұрын
My grandmother purchased a copy of this book for me after the birth of my youngest child. I felt no guilt whatsoever burning it after reading up to chapter 2. Yes, she read it. Yes, she agreed with it. Yes, I was a disappointment, she was kind enough to let me know for sure while on her deathbed. Miraculously enough, my kids turned out quite well without training. One is a Master's student, one is in the US Army, and the youngest is an amazing young woman who graduates high school this coming spring. They all have opinions and their own voice, it's marvelous.
@mandyschmidt71645 жыл бұрын
Sounds to me like SHE failed at raising her daughter to properly raise you if she considers you a disappointment.
@kiliesmom5 жыл бұрын
I'd like to know what your mom was like. My grandmother was a hitter and my mom had a lot of internal struggle with it raising us.
@annesophiemottie5 жыл бұрын
Pignated oink whut?!
@Emma-ry9wm5 жыл бұрын
Pignated oink Boi I hope that was sarcasm
@carmensavu51225 жыл бұрын
No offense, but your grandma sounds like a bitch. People like her come to mind whenever someone gives me the "respect the elderly because they are old" speech. No, fuck off, I'll respect people who deserve respect, age is irrelevant.
@House20176 жыл бұрын
"train up a child". Translation: How to alienate a child and wonder why they have nothing to do with you.
@sinsofsteele7466 жыл бұрын
House2017 How to abuse a child and then proceed to deny the child proper help and teaching later in life, overall resulting in the creation of a domestic abuser
@taylordavison68496 жыл бұрын
Travian Roberson ...or a criminal, such as a serial killer.
@sinsofsteele7466 жыл бұрын
Taylor Davison or an individual so emotionally damaged they fear all of their actions and are nearly incapable of functioning as a person entirely
@copycat92856 жыл бұрын
House2017 shit that was the most accurate statement ever. My dad raised my sister and myself according to this way and she hasn't spoken to him in six or seven years and he asked me if I think it's right that she does that.
@greatpower60636 жыл бұрын
its ok to teach your children manners and that does take training but training a child like a dog......that analogy seems pretty strange to me since you want a pet to do what you say but you want a child to think before they act so they eventually learn to act responsibly on their own. Obviously, without saying, it goes naturally that hitting a child won't accomplish getting them to think before they act. They will act out of fear, rather than out of reason to resolve problems.
@vanyasmith11253 жыл бұрын
Not that anything in this book is anywhere close to factual, but what's really pissed me off is the fact that they said newborns feel guilt. My therapist said guilt is not an innate emotion, it is a social one. You have to be taught to feel guilt or shame. That is their basis for beating their kids. Also, who puts this much thought into child-beating tools??? How did he even decide what these tools should be???
@bethgold23623 жыл бұрын
Oh God I just remembered an adult I used to really trust as a child telling me and her children that spanking "clears the conscience" of the child, and that it trains them to seek God's forgiveness when they're older or some shit. We were in a car listening to this CD of Christian songs for kids and the lyrics of the song that caused her remark literally included "Oh, Daddy, please, clear my conscience." Looking back, that was so surreal and sinister.
@spookyrosev64675 жыл бұрын
Also “the child deep down know they deserve to be punished” is the exact same thing Dolores Umbridge says. Really the entire books makes too much sense if you read it in her voice
@TsumeKyuudefunct4 жыл бұрын
Id be terrified if I was trying to write for punishment for my mom and then what im writing gets etched into my hand
@parkchimmin79134 жыл бұрын
Honestly, it sounds like some Puritan crap
@araceli76044 жыл бұрын
She also said, "A theoretical knowledge will be sufficient," which ironically makes these people worse than her
@ladyartemis92884 жыл бұрын
I sense a Harry Potter fan
@MidnightDawn4 жыл бұрын
ugh you're right.........
@weewooweewoo9066 жыл бұрын
JESUS CHRIST. the last section is literally just ‘ADVICE ON HOW TO BEAT YOUR CHILD WITHOUT LEAVING ANY MARKS TO ALERT THE COPS’
@martiqueheisler59596 жыл бұрын
Well that's not shady at all.... (sarcasm)
@mayumimaria24536 жыл бұрын
GabbityGabby what's SS?
@annabradis55496 жыл бұрын
Mayumi Maria Menezes Sugimoto hitler's bodyguard
@mayumimaria24536 жыл бұрын
Anna Bradis oh boi
@CreeketsCreek6 жыл бұрын
Xiao Mei Jesus Christ indeed, holy shit
@emberneko86404 жыл бұрын
"A child knows he deserves to be punished"..... I'm sorry, did they took advice form the Bible or Dolores Umbrage????
@ShadeATV2 жыл бұрын
This book would work good as a horror novel Edit: TIPS if you’re being raised with this book 1. You should wear socks around the house, they muffle your footsteps 2. Hide food under your bed or blanket 3. I’ll add more