The better you get to know a narcissist the more who they really are comes to the surface. Nobody is a better friend than a narcissist you just met and nobody is a worse enemy than a narcissist you know well.

Be carful confiding in friends about a narcissist that you’re struggling with. I did that, and as it turned out, she is also a narcissist who is using what I told her against me. And I know it’s to hurt me. Unfortunately, I didn’t know she was a narcissist until it was too late. They seem to be everywhere! Maybe we just have to live with the fact that they will be in your life, but we can learn how to deal with them, and that’s why I watch this channel…thanks Dr. C! You have helped me get through some tough times.

In some 12 step programs, it is said this way: To stop going to the hardward store for milk. To stop expecting people (especially a narcissist) to give you what they don't have to give and never will. 🕊

“ Questioning my goodness..” My goodness! This has been my experience, too! I am 72. I am coming out of it! Hip!Hip! Hooray! Thanks always, Dr C❤️🙏🏼

I have a real problem with anger for the narc in my life. There isn't a day that goes by much less an hour I'm not furious with him.

I am dealing with reactive abuse and triggers with a narc at work. He very effectively triggers other employees, and then makes them look like fools while he comes out smelling like a rose. His victims are the ones who are chastised, counselled and disciplined for reacting to his abuse. He wins every time, even when it initially looks like he will finally get his due. I have had to deal with him for four years now and have finally had enough. Management is utterly clueless about what he really is and feckless in dealing with him. I am leaving the company soon.

Not only do they like to trigger you and blame you for overreacting and accuse you of triggering them but they overreact to YOUR overreaction. If that makes sense 🙃

Narcissists pick and choose the people they want to inflict narcissism on… I needed to hear this!

Definitely battling a few strains of narcissism, they seem to be everywhere!

I’m still learning. It took me a long time to realize that you cannot engage with a narcissist because it will end in you being screamed at. They will deny, deflect, get angry then start screaming at you if you try to explain which will prove them wrong. They can NEVER be wrong. Example of me not engaging: I live on the second floor of a mansion turned into apartments. My narcissistic, control freak landlord lives below me. I was watering my hanging plants on my balcony. He has an entrance/porch just under my plants. I try to water when he’s at work or working in the yard where I know where he’s at. I thought he was working in the yard yesterday, but as soon as I started watering my plants on that end, he comes running out saying the water was hitting him on the head. I think he knew I was watering because he could hear the dripping from his kitchen window, so he came out at that time on purpose. Then he said the water was dripping on the security cameras. I wanted to ask him how he stops the outside security cameras from getting wet when it rains. I know, it’s so ridiculous. But I didn’t because I know from past experience where it would go. Instead I told him I would give those plants less water so that they don’t drip. End of conversation. It’s weird because he’s come out that door before when I was watering and complained it was dripping on his head. Then don’t stand there, it’s not pouring down it’s dripping. He’s complained it gets the wood trim on the windows wet, again what about when it rains? I think one day he said something about his outside porch getting wet, again what happens when it rains. Now I water late at night when I know he won’t hear the water and then step out on the patio, or when he’s gone or in the yard working. They just want control so bad, and they want to start a fight. It feels empowering when there is no engaging because ultimately you had the control.

The Narc "caught" me watching narcissism videos like these, and demanded I stop watching. Then threatened. Now punishes. Now he's trying to turn it on me. Every truth is "verbal abuse." Every boundary is "refusal to obey" justifying the punishment, or a personal assault. Now he's trying to convince me (and probably everyone else) that I'm the narcissist whose found these videos to weaponize it against him. He's living in a competition in his head, and he sees my sincere efforts at healing as just part of the game. But I'm not them. The game is old. And his refusal to see me or this different from the others, only proves his limited thinking. (He'll call that verbal abuse.)

There will always be those who never see a narc for what they are and some are brainwashed to believe and to want to think they they will be the one to never give up and somehow they feel valid for taking the abuse .Wrong true love DOES NOT hurt to the extreme.

You are a brother, uncle, father and friend figure for so many of us. Thank you for your informative and supportive time.

At 31:00 my ex narc husband did that to me a few times. He asked me what I wanted and I told him so Christmas morning I open the gift to find something so cheap and almost unusable I felt so demeaned. The gifts went to the trash. Later, it was my birthday so he bought me a cake to surprise me but I came home a bit early only to see him licking someone else's name off of it. I left him 4 months later and never looked back.

Thank you Dr. C for the Midweek broadcast. It's like getting a tune-up to make it through the rest of the week. God bless your ministry!!

Dear drC, so grateful to have found you. I’m a 50-year-old woman who grew up with a narcissistic father. I am an only child and my parents divorced when I was eight years old. Since they had shared custody, I spent a lot of time alone with my father. I have been terrified of him all my life as he was extremely unstable, threatening and mentally violent. Already understood as a child that he was not well and have always felt sorry for him. He has bound me with guilt and I have felt an enormous responsibility for him. He wants to be heard, preferably every day and blames me if I don't answer or call for a shorter time. He thinks I don't see him often enough and he wants to see his grandchildren more. Already as a child I realized that I will never be able to separate from my father as he brainwashed me with guilt. In recent years, I have thought that I have to endure and lie low for the years we have left. A few weeks ago he called and was on the offensive. Asked again why I don't want to hang out with him more often. He does so, asking the question, but refuses to take in or reflect on my answer. I felt I had enough. Answered that I don't owe him anything and that I can't help that he feels bad. Then I hung up. A week passed and it was quiet and I wrestled with all kinds of difficult feelings. Then he started calling. I don't answer. He leaves messages such as "I make no demands on you, I guess we can only be contacted sometimes". He has called every other day for two weeks. He has texted and asked if it is my intention that we should never see each other again and if that also applies to my children. I don't answer. Waiting for, don't know what.. Just know that he won't change and that I'm not responsible for his life. It is a great sadness, but I have mourned our relationship my whole life and feel more dejected, tired and also really angry. It is impossible to reason with a person who refuses to see his part in what is happening. I can no longer play this sick game, I really have had enough. I've been trying to save my dad for as long as I can remember but he's never satisfied. Do you have any advice for me? My mother says I can write to him what I feel, but I know it's useless. Should I just let it all go down the drain and then bear the guilt the day he is no longer alive? Thank you for being there and for everything you give. Cathrine

"Narcissists will destroy your life, erode your self-esteem, and do it with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that’s letting them down and paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. 💙KZfaqr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships "

Thank You!!! Being educated about what it is we are up against even helps to bring a sense of belief that, "No, I'm not going crazy"! I KNOW I'm not crazy, but he seemed to be on a path to convince me I was! Bless you Dr. C!!!!

I’m so glad you mentioned the passive aggressive giving of gifts. My grandmother and my mother have both done this- giving random stuff (clothing items that are way too big or small were their most common “gifts”) If I didn’t love it, then it’s just proof to them that I am the bad person.

Narcissists are the ultimate GUILT TRIPPERS. She preyed on my kindness, my integrity and harped on my promises. i was always on the defense, trying to prove my love. Little did I know she was manipulating me all along. What a damn shame. Thanks, Dr. Carter

Limit exposure to toxic people who like to trigger … and anyone close to them !

I needed this today. My sister is my family narc. I have been no contact for about 2 years now which has worked well for me but she recently moved back in with my parents and I have been so enraged since because she isn't helping them with bills and is gone taking trips all the time and making big purchases. My mom's 60th bday party is Saturday and surprise surprise my sister isn't going. She didn't go to any family gatherings, no holiday gatherings, and even bailed on our brothers wedding last year but my parents are still letting her mooch on them and it infuriates me to no end.

"not dealing with reasonable people" I really needed this today! My younger home care client was having a rough day, I could tell. Seemed like everything he did was off-kilter, and was throwing me off my routine. Then when we got to his barber shop, he pulled out something I hadn't heard in a while. He's got a station wagon with lights built into the tailgate, and is TOO-OFTEN concerned about me closing it too rough... or not hard enough so it's not completely closed. It gets INTENSELY annoying when someone feels the sick compulsion to repeatedly NIT-PICK you over something so simple and stupid as how you close the back door on a car. "DON'T slam the car door." I responded simply with, "I didn't." Then he pointed out "USUALLY, you don't slam it too hard like that." Without meaning to, I actually wound up quoting "Hirsch the butler" from "WKRP", when he once told his downright evil employer... "Well, there's only so much one can do." At that point, he suddenly wanted me to continue telling him a story he had JUST interrupted TWICE in 30 seconds. Instead, without a word, I took a walk around the block, and just smiled the whole time. (He'd already said we were too early and would have to "hang out" in the parking lot for awhile.) His older partner has repeatedly suggested I do JUST THAT when I get annoyed!! So I did. When I got back, it was like nothing had happened. The rest of the day went fine. It would have been SO EASY to just get pissed off and stay that way. And, it WAS still bothering me when I got home. But I felt I managed to handle it "professionally". NOT EASY, when you're dealing with 2 narcisists at once. (And they often "take turns" on who's reasonable and who's not reasonable on any given day.)

Best “passive aggressive “ gift I ever received from the Narcissist that I was in love with, for my combinated Christmas/Birthday gift, as I was born Dec 28th: a photocopy of his company’s logo, in a 5$ dollar frame. And I have been well educated enough to say “Thank you”😂😂

My ex narc (who claimed such good Christianity) would say “Jesus didn’t have boundaries. Why should you?” Trying to tug at my Christian values.

I say "DON'T POKE THE BEAR" You are such a comfort to me. Things I have learned in counseling and listening to you has really helped me. Thank you Dr. C

It is very sad how selfish people are. Also very sad how people take pleasure in making others miserable. Unfortunately we live in a world full of them .

The key is staying away from the narcissist, no matter what. That’s my policy. I’ve been told by two police officers and a judge, get a protective order if necessary.

My interpretation of a narcissist is a leach on someone’s soul and self worth😩I know it why do I keep putting up with it and I am no walkover😩

My narcissistic mother in law has discarded me because I called her out. Now I get passive aggressive treatment and that triggers me as she can pretend her actions are not on purpose or innocently motivated. I can’t help but feel so angry towards her. I’ve told my husband I want limited contact with her now.

I have learned that with several gossiping narcissists in my condo building, that I cannot even say "How are you?"--it is like an invitation to them to be critical, demeaning, mocking etc. OR to ask you questions that the answers of which will be distorted, circulated and used to smear you. It is better to be cool, detached and formal and ( if you acknowledge the person at all with other than a nod), say "Good morning" or "Good afternoon" and quickly look away and occupy your attention towards whatever may be convenient at the moment.

I came into work all positive and the day started OK. Then she started the silent oppressive treatment. Dictatorial. I got the phone and she announced 'oh you shouted at me' and acted like the victim She bullies. When I called her name as usually she can't hear me and keeps saying sorry sorry what did you say. I know how to grey rock but she triggered me criticising me. She is micro manager and I often leave the office. She always catches us off guard. She talks down to me all the time. Then she goes all smarmy and says have aniceevening all fake she is. It sickensme today. I have support at work by others affected by her.

My 40+ year old niece, with the emotional maturity of an 8yo, triggered me one morning. It is not my nature to resort to physical violence. But I flew into a screaming rage. I screamed until I was literally out of breath. I was forced to stop screaming for lack of breath. This brought me back to reality. In one sense it was the best thing that ever happened. Although I fell into the narcissist's trap, I later reflected on self control and through reflection learned how to better reign in my own self control. It was also a good lesson on how narcissists operate.

Dr. C, thank you. Alot of these questions helped me understand alot today. This is exhausting and so draining.

We love you Doc.

This was *as always* very therapeutic Dr. C. #teamhealthy #covertnarcs

Great timing 😄the narcissist just triggered me tonite but zipped the mouth and now just polite and praying✨

they know how to push my buttons really well ! they get a kick out of trying to get me to react ! staying calm is EXTREMELY hard.

Oh my, Dr. C. This lesson made me think back of so many unhappy episodes I had with my narc. Mother in my earlier adult life. I should of stayed away from her much sooner than I finally realized that this was an unhealthy situation when I was a younger woman. I can only say now, that I am doing much better by not seeing her much any longer. I thank you for this enlightening lesson. Blessings.

It's like getting hit by a bus going 80mph. Never be the same again. They like to tell you that you are the one who is emotionally abusive. But only after you've unmasked them.

Re: boundaries Once you've set clear, firm boundaries with the narc and they're not respected (surprise surprise), what's an effective next step on my part? For instance, I have said "do not touch me or try to be affectionate in any way, it makes my skin crawl you disgust me and I don't want you near me". And less than 12 hours later am woken up by being kissed on the forehead. As a person who has survived sxual trauma in the past, this is extremely triggering. Just looking for suggestions on how to feel safe in my home until the narcissist finally 'gets it' and leaves. Thanks Dr C, you're a national treasure ✌️

I get along great with friends, family and work mates. I feel good when out of the house. It's only when I see the narc I get in a foul mood. Just seeing his hateful face and stupid smirk I get triggered. He radiates negative energy and a loathing of me.....

Limiting exposure is a good idea and I'm doing that already.

When I’m pushed into a corner being blasted as a spawn of Satan and heading to burn in hell, I split and become a raging animal fighting to protect myself. Abuse is a painful double edged sword slashing my resolve and boundaries.

Yet another great video . Thank you Dr C. I feel more and more confident with the knowledge I’ve gained through your videos. I have 3 narcissists in my family of origin (mom and 2 brothers). Only one is left and I have limited contact with him. But I’m not that scared little girl anymore. I know who I am. And better yet, I like who I am. 🤩 I have a wonderful life. I’ve got problems like everyone else but the narcs have not beat me down! 👊🏼

They also use the same tactics to re-enforce their victim mode. My narc sister always says no one ever defends me. I ask why do you need someone to defend you? Are you guilty of something? How I wish I had gone no contact completely when he was out of my house. That is exactly what one should do if you can get them out or they will suck you back in. Thank you Dr. Carter, you make everything so very clear.

You have been a positive influence in my life for 2 years now. I don’t know where I’d be without you… for 4 years I’ve been trying to recover from narcissistic abuse. This will be a lifelong struggle. I am thankful for you every day. Thank you Dr C.

I do believe because I have questioned if I am becoming a narcissist, means I am not because I am questioning if that is even possible. I am also seeking counseling for the abuse I endured. Thank you Dr. Carter.

For the first time, I remained calm. The person I am dealing with, fell all over themselves apologizing for being hurtful. I accepted the apology which was sincere in the moment. It reminded me of a truth I arrived at some time ago... this person is who they are right then and that is fluid. In another moment they are someone else. It's as though they live in a mental waffle. They have a series of blocks(thought processes) they move in depending on the day or weather or politics or health issues or whatever. These blocks show up guided by some random, at times diabolic, internal barometer that truly has nothing to do with me. It's a pitiable existence, kind of an emotional pinball that I'm recognizing for what it is. Thank you, Dr. Carter, for your thoughtful perspective on the narcissistic spectrum.

I find that the narcissists in my life are the ones to dump me when I give them back some of their own medicine.

when I'm forced to have to listen to the criticism about who I am I just agree even though I already know myself. What I hear is I'm this and that but the narc says they are not like that when in fact they are, projection. I just Grey rock.

I think the easiest way to spot the narcissist is notice in any conversation they will talk about themselves and / or any topic they will relate to themselves. It’s just me, me, me... In fact, anything you say they will respond as if you are talking about them; in their mind anyway!

Your channel has been the most beneficial to my understanding of what has happened to me. I do not trigger so easily anymore and I can even laugh at myself again too. I keep d r c in the front of my mind whenever I have to interact with the narcissists in my life. Thank you x

I enjoy seeing all your art on the walls behind you . And the happy bear piece

Pilots coined the phrase "The point of no Return"✈ which refers to the exact location on a flight where due to low fuel one cannot go back to where they came from. They must land🛬 some place else. It seems to me that leaving a narcissist is like this. There is a point of no return where you've just gotta walk away and land somewhere else. As scary and painful as this may be. Your insight and willingness to share it is invaluable Dr C & Gussy is just a living example of living peacefully with people who adore you.🌻

Thank you, Thank you, thank you, God bless you for sharing your knowledge.

The day after we were married she started attacking me. I asked her"Why are you attacking me?". Now I know it's a characteristic of a narcissist. It was so unimaginable to me that it took 12 years for me to get it. I feel so sorry for her. Seriously, her power is gone. Others in her family may never know.

Damn right it's contagious. This guy is covert vulnerable and had me in a state I don't recognize and absolutely despise. The only time I won with a narcissist was when I was able to emotionally stand aside and channel the spirit of Christ and that wasn't even the guy that was my terrorist. I'm so grateful for my recent narrow escape because my guess is neither of us would have survived it. Yeah I created boundaries and he pretended those were irrelevant, he thought he would walk out pretending I ruined the relationship and I just thanked him for how much personal growth he precipitated in me and as he continued to accuse me of destroying the relationship I just assured him I would continue my journey of personal growth to ensure success in the future

Short story! I had a guy come thru my line the other day! He was originally from the area that I work at! He said he was back home visiting his family! I asked him where do live at now? He said Houston! As in Texas I asked? I said well my favorite utuber lives in Waco Texas! He said that's about 4 hours from him! I didn't go any farther with information! I just wanted to let you know that I bragged about you! No name! I wanted to protect my friendship!😊!

I seem to be the recipient of the silent treatment. Has been going on for years.

Reminds me of Gabby Petito and her boyfriend. 😭

I've just found out my sister is a narcissist and she's blocking me from seeing my mom bc I had to fly home to take her to the emergency room. Since then she claims I came acting like I came to save the day etc. And have blocked off all forms of communication with my mom with dementia, while claiming all of her stuff as if she's not with us anymore, more specifically her home. Since then she's been lying to anyone who would listen by private message only (for the most part) to discredit me. My mom is scared of her bc she won't speak up. Mom is not allowed to answer her own door or phone anymore with my sibling creating lies as to why she's not. I want to help take care of my mom also and want to spend time with her b4 she falls sick or forgets me. I don't want to end up only going to a funeral

I don't like using narc word, so I thought cran is backwards for narc, but I added berry to it! "Cranberries" Instead of narcissistic! It's silly! Anyone else have one?

My biggest hurdle at the moment is to not take the bait and snap back. As soon as I start lobbing around f ing c word this f ing c word that, suddenly I’m the bad guy 😂

Wow! I learned something new today, Dr. C. Thank you! I knew that something totally bothered me about my cousin but couldn't put my finger on it. Her son called her passive aggressive. That led me to realize that she is also a narcissist. Now I know that she has been playing me. I was trying to set boundaries with her but had no clue what I was dealing with until now.

Good day everyone!

Thankyou for your insights here. I've asked myself all of the questions- is it me or is it my husband? Why am I so triggered? Why does he defend his mate to me,when,to me,his mate is trouble? Why can't he be honest? Why does he choose to forget his indiscretions or think that they are nothing? He's said that my questions are always the same and he gives me the same answers and I should accept those- but he doesn't answer my questions! He says I'm controlling!! But he does what he wants,when he wants and how he wants. I'm the CO dependent. I try to be grey- but Gees it's hard!

I totally take accountability for my abuse back to my exes abuse. I totally get triggered by my ex. It just infuriates me at times. He loves to play victim but he totally tries very hard to get me to react. I feel so much shame afterwards because I know I’m better then that!!! Ugh.., I even find myself being triggered to people in general when they act so superior and rude. It’s totally my responsibility to get a grip of myself. Im a mother to s 12 yr old son and I hate it when he has seen me triggered a few times I’m trying to just take deep breaths when I feel myself getting upset. I try to no longer engage with my ex husband unless absolutely necessary. Thanks for all you do, Dr Carter!!!

My ex narc husband got me a horrible red, men’s track suit for Xmas when I was about 26. Looking back I think I know what he was doing. I was a beautiful, slim, tall young woman but over the nine years with him he reduced my self confidence to zero. He’d call me fat (and worse) and insist I wore dull, unflattering clothes. After I left (escaped!) it took me years to regain any confidence. I can’t remember any other gift he bought me.

Lololol ! Dr Carter I love how you say to the Australians "watch,.and then go to bed!" ..Well I'm watching now! Thank you for your most concise, logical and loving responses ....greetings from Melbourne ❤️

This video came at the right time. This morning I was being triggered by the narc

I just heard about reactive abuse here. Thank you. I was just now able to say "well that is your opinion"- knowing neither of us was going to change.

"Don't let them set your pace"

Great stream lots of great advice!

Ohh I love this more connected format! You are in a diff mood on these! More funny and personable vice the straight teacher mode. Glad I found these mid week talks! You are the best! 🤗

I love that you said at the end , that's my heart.....

I need a tip to remember not to share info, particularly good news, with a narc partner. I "know better" and gray rock sometimes but then I'll forget to be on guard which inevitably leads to my happiness being punctured by criticism. When it happens, I tell myself that I should remember and learn from this but, after a while, the cycle repeats. I would be grateful for a suggestion to stop myself before it happens again. Thanks for all you do to help those of us trying to be on Team Healthy.

I would referred to the narcissist in my life as a Pitt-Bull, because he never backed off until he got more than a pound of flesh from those that he felt had wronged him or stood up to him. He, also, went after others, in stealth mode, of those he was jealous of by attacking and ruining their reputations and or careers, while pretending to be a comforting ear and confidant.

Thank you - this particular discussion waa true eye opener, as I didn’t know those “you haven’t been doing X anymore” “you’re not x like you used to be, you’re a phoney” (I was hearing that & “I’m not feeling it from you”) are Phd levels of gas lighting. I’ve been trying so hard for months to show that I am & I’m not even being given credit for it. I’m guessing I never will and the goal post will move once more. Thank you.

I am glad I found your site Dr. C. Your approach is straight talking and simplifies/condenses complex situations and behaviors. You are helping me understand where I am. I will keep following and thank you so much. At 74 I’m still learning…

Well timed replay. I am triggered by people who behave and say things that were repeated by my abusive narcissist. But i dont like where that trigger takes me. The trigger makes it all feel very personal and pointed when their behavior has nothing to do with me at all. Yet again, a random replay that is well timed.

Since the narcs are the severest provokers, specially of the empathetic, the forgiving and the kind-hearted whom they target, assaulting them with great verbal, emotional & other kinds of abuse, the term for when the abused person is goaded into having to defend themselves, should be 'reactive response or reactive defence!!' Not reactive abuse!!

My narc , out of nowhere he'll start telling me all the things I do that he thinks is wrong or he would like me to do his way.in a very demeaning way,, I freeze in pain and wonderment of what did I do?? (I am a devoted wife, always home (not allowed friends, very jealous) work harder because he is sick and I'm a caregiver too..adding he's always been this way NOT because hes sick.....I raised our 6 children, homeschooling etc..).. I try to do most things his way..just to keep peace..... So I'm quite surprised when I get the "speach".. it lasts for about an hour, I feel pretty bad when he's done.. THEN he comes over to me to hug me and tell me he loves me... (I'm stunned and really don't want a hug ..). So I'm very quiet.. and go on with my chores...there have been times in the past that I've tried to defend myself, only to realize it will only be worse, so be quiet...but he's so off the wall, I want to say things, but I've learned through your program... best not to..... Just sharing, wondering if anyone else goes through this ... its a very lonely journey, no one sees or hears any of these things..because he wears a "mask" in front of others...and IF you say anything they think your misunderstanding him, he's son nice...you know the rest of the story...

I Surrounded and I have been all of my life. A new kind was created in the age of depression. Narcissists created out of emotional neglect….. so deprived a person that .,This creates an impossible deficit in a person. A life dedication that should be tempered with damage control. * Of corse this is all hind sight. If you are involved with narcissist of any kind my advice to you is to minimize interactions and they’re ability to affect anything or anyone in your life you can help them but on a minimal basis do not let them affect and control any aspect of your life~*

Thanks Dr. Carter

Gosh I love this guy. I’m so so grateful that you share this wealth of information with us. We all must protect ourselves from the narcissists with healthy firm boundaries. Love the idea of planning ahead- how you will react . Excellent. God bless you .

Anger, which is very easy to experience with a narcissistic person, they can keep calm master calm, however are so strategic in making everything your blame or belittle or most of all shameing.I get so upset I scream . They want the gotcha.. then you are the “ crazy” person! Ugh, the behind is so crazy!!

I gave my narc the exact model of shop vac he wanted, with very little reaction to the gift. Only to find out he bought one and hid it in case he didn’t get what he wanted. I tossed the receipt to him and let him pick which one he was going to return.

OMG ,they are so evil !! Psychologically mind warped ,to the max.Dont fall for their sick,abusing tactics .Educate and educate some more about narccasism and watch your back when they are trying to trigger you,you can end up in a dangerous situation.

Wonderful, insightful info as always. You help me stay stable so much. Thank you for all you do.

Here's a thought Dr.C. A great response for me has been " YOU MIGHT BE RIGHT". THAT WOULD SHUT THE NARC DOWN....HE ACTUALLY HAD TO STOP RAGEING AND THINK ABOUT WHAT I SAID. KINDA MIND BLOWING FOR HIM. LAUGHING ON THE INSIDE STILL!!!

Thank you for all this very valuable information. I’ve had the joy(not) of being a colleague/friend of a narcissist. Everything I heard you say I’ve done and it has helped me tremendously. I so enjoy and learn from your videos.

I so needed this today. Thanks 🙏

I have someone I work with that I’m convinced is a narc. The problem is I never know when she’s going to pull one of her stunts and I get triggered…once actually yelling. I go home shaking and feeling ashamed. That’s really the worse part of having to deal with her. The bad feelings about myself and inability to deal with her when she surprises me with a lie or disrespect.

Love, love love the live stream Dr C. I’ve learned so much! Thank you so much for what you do!😊

I've been accused of passive aggressive behaviour.

My husband is in recovery and twelve steps and counseling-- I resent getting dragged through his secret 30 year addiction. Now I have to go to support groups and a therapist to survive and regulate my anger/triggers. He never gets mad at his FOO or mother- it infuriates me. How did I get to take all this on while he maintains a civil relationship with his mom (who supposedly neglected him causing the addiction)?

That comment on passive aggressive gifts: I gave my mother a garnet necklace for her 50th birthday. She said it wasn't suitable at her age because of her chicken skin at the neck. After many birthdays of no gift or card for me, on my 50th birthday, she gave me a necklace!

I love your forthrightness:” that’s a false statement.” 👍🏼

THANK YOU for your informative and practical insights into this subject as we need to realistically negotiate this behaviour in meaningful ways that identify yet do not escalate the behaviour pattern.