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He was a red flag from the moment I saw him have so many female friends Cynthia had to meet. Hope he really works on himself and does better. Love Cynthia, she seems so sweet and gave up being the queen of real housewives for him, she deserves true love 💕

I have been married to a black man for 12 years together for 14. Our marriage works because we went into it knowing that we were entering into a covenant with God, periodt! Perfect, nope! But I can honestly say we are best friends first of all and actually like each-other. He has my back and I have his periodt! Your mouth will get boxed if you come for either one of us! 🤣 We are perfect for each-other! I feel couples don’t take the time to get to really know each-other. Before you marry get to know the good, bad and ugly because not much will change with that person so you have to fall in-love with who they are. If you marry for superficial reason more times than not it will be a wrap at the end of the day. Marriage is honored by God and having him as your third strand, (the third person in your marriage) you have a shield, protection, comforter, love, cheerleader and you are covered by the blood of Jesus! Stop 🛑 getting married just for the sake of saying weeze married now… Shalom

If a woman stops going out it doesn't mean it is a red flag. Stop the nonsense. All women are not the same. Some are homebodies, career goals, kids, relationships, and so on. Really.

Just pointing out that everyone wants love, even if they’re traumatized. When we’re looking at Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the need of love and belonging comes well before self-actualization. Also, we change as we get older. Marriage is loving that person through their changes. To demand people stay the same is asinine. In fact, you should be skeptical of a person who stays the same. “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life”. It’s only natural that we change as we learn.. the mark of intelligence.

I am in Jamaica and I have been learning so much from these podcasts. Keep up the good work. Excellent stuff.

As a mature 41yr old woman i respect his transparency. Women always say they want a man thats honest yet we get mad at the man for being honest.

He needs to be on Dear future wifey so he can be on the hot seat

I’m 52. I been married once for 13 years. I am currently engaged and I am taking it slow because I never want to divorce again. I also don’t want to grow old alone or in the arms of different men.

Most of the men on this pod are all accountable and I love this for them!!!!

I love that Mike is honest about his own personal trials and traumas. I love that he speaks highly of his ex wives.

He talking out the side of his shiny neck. He’s simply a 50+ yo man out here moving like a teenager. Most solid men of this age are ten toes down in be it playing/tricking or maturity; he is neither and a man straddling the fence is not one you can depend on. Any woman who gets serious with him deserves the lack he brings…

If only he and Cynthia didn’t get married so quickly they both wasted each other’s time. I once dated a man Mikes age and he was in turmoil over losing his youth. He always tried to look younger than his age and wanted to know lots of women admired him. Grow old gracefully fellas, if you find a queen start acting like the king.

EXCELLENT interview! Mike dropped a lot of information, and cleared up some past assumptions on RHOA. Mike Hill it's clear that "you've done the work", and I love it! I'm so happy for you. #NABJPride ❤

Definitely have Mike Hill on a LIVE! He dropped some realness here that men just aren't taught to do without being seen as soft or not a "man's man". Looking forward to a live with him on it!

This was a dope interview. A confident man is one that can be vulnerable 💯🙌🏾

Enjoyed the podcast and the honesty. It’s amazing that getting dumped in high school still plagues some men in their 40 and 50’s? There are so many women who experienced that sane trauma, and they are able to not bring that into their next relationships. Very interesting.

Good Job Mike Hill man-ning up w/accountability and teaching it to others.

What I have found as I’ve gotten older, I’ve gone through years of therapy I’m really starting to understand life after the age of 50 you actually do need someone. We all need a mate or a friend. If you ever notice when you go to the doctor, they ask you about your social life. Do you live with family members? How close are they to you? Do you have? That’s because these things matter for your health just as Physical. And that is not just enough to be happy and content with your life and now want to kill yourself, but we thrive when we have a maid that we get along with in harmony and live together. It is what makes us thrives as Humans and we don’t want to admit that because everyone wants to wear a different type of life they think is fun and justify that whether it’s polygamy or being free and single, etc. with those long as are the ones that have their life made and wonderful relationships. They’ve been in a long time and they live a long time. You have to find someone that pours into you just as you porn to them, that is important. I just came to this revelation couple weeks ago after trying to understand health screening questions and understanding why do I feel a certain way? A lot of person is because. It’s not weakness to admit that someone makes you excited. You hear their voice to see them. That is a good thing when you find it you want to keep that feeling and you have to work hard at it but you have to work hard at any relationship even ones that you wanna have with your little children or adult children or mothers or aunts or uncles. Find your person and live long.

Love the hosts and the people they have on their show. The honesty is refreshing! Thank you.

I can relate to the child hood love experience. And I share that same sentiment when an ex girl who I was truly in love with broke up with me because my love was intense. And she dated my neighbor who was a womanizer and I warned her and she got used. 10 years later she came back and said I was the only one she ever dated who really treated with respect and love. Checked all her boxes but unfortunately I can never love like that again because I was “Scarred and became afraid to be betrayed and abandoned by a woman.” And I walk more with integrity but the women I see don’t mirror that intensity and commitment so I love you but I’m not in love with you. That’s when healing has to be done. Be like Elsa from frozen and “Let it Go!” We all messed up when we were younger. We realize our mistakes and be better individuals. You can be vulnerable with your soulmate and you both know how it feels to be betrayed. So you protect each others heart while respectfully holding on to who you are and becoming who you need to be for the whole.

I appreciate Mike Hill… sharing their story.

Question: Why do men in general seem to be afraid of an opiniated woman? An independent woman who can take care of her own finances is not likely to give up her voice to protect "his" manhood. Y'all need to decide. Either you want a financially independent woman, or you gonna choose a woman who you will need to provide for.

Job Well Done Hardly Initiated hosts and guest!! I absolutely love your channel!! REAL KINGS, is what this uncertain world needs!! GOD is PERFECT, NO ONE ELSE is Perfect!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️

This is a very important conversation...social media or the access that sm provides is destroying relationships. Much respect to Mike for shining a light on his weaknesses. He's definitely not by himself!

Basically, he wants a woman to be consumed with work to earn a lot of money such that she will be able to provide him a lavish lifestyle. AND he will try his best to practice monogamy. These "boss" women best come to the table with wisdom to know that they are only helping their man save more than half his income to spend on things he values more than her, such as automobiles, jewelry, clothes, shoes, and other women.

He should have not gotten married again

I’m glad I listened to this interview, I learned a lot of different views on both men & women! 👍🏾

Only single and unhappily married men have/express this viewpoint. A happily married man will be the FIRST to say unapologetically... "I NEED MY WIFE" I want her & I need her. Same for a woman. She wants & needs her man and uniquely ONLY... HIM - above all others. Things get real blurry when it's ESTABLISHED. ❤ ONENESS does that.

As a woman, I’m SO THANKFUL that I tuned into this episode. Thank you to Mike for being Humble. Open. & Transparent!!! Omg , amazing episode.

Exactly Mike! The baggage should not go into a New Relation! You should heal from the past relationships before entering a new relationship.

This guy is a self admitted serial cheater, Cynthia married him anyway. Where they ended up is exactly no surprise. He's minimizing his past as he sits here, but he wrote a book about it, Not about how to overcome. And BS- he was filmed flirting around with other women in a bar while Cynthia was not in town. He is so full of himself. How anyone can take this guy serious is beyond me. There are many amazing, devoted, honest men who have never stepped foot in this guy's ideologies that stand in their convictions, and do so without the history this dude has at his big age. They have my respect. And the theory there is forgiveness for women who cheat is inaccurate. Anyone disloyal has a problem and IS the problem. This dude has no respect for women and used Cynthia like the rest of the women he filtered through. He's still blaming her if you listen carefully. People tell him not to get married Not because of him finding the right person, but because he is Not right with the person he marries. I don't believe a word out of his mouth, he's interested in gaining clout and found the way to do it by preaching. He's preaching accountability while taking very little. Well, this isn't Church, and he needs to find God. There are Plenty of beautiful and amazing men to take advice from their experiences on this earth. Get better heros.

I believe Mike is a conniver! From the time he had that party on RHOA with all this female friends, I knew it would’t work with he and Cynthia. I’m sorry. Ladies run!

When are black men AA men going to be Matured, act Matured and be Respectable, Responsible Men? Everyone has excuses on why they do what they do! 🙄

I give Mr. Hill credit for being honest and taking accountability for his past. Credit for knowing where he was vs where he wants to be, and what it takes to get there. Men/Wo-men listen to what was said. I can hug myself after listening to this episode 🤗 While waiting for that possible one to hug me genuinely and sincerely. Thank you guy’s

Mike's reasons for getting divorced three times is not valid... Mike if you were truly honest with yourself, you'd tell the truth. You just did not commit to either marriage. Commitment involves Your mind body and soul.

This man is FIFTY+ YEARS OLD. Three marriages, still blaming the spouses, majority “female friends” and taking ZERO accountability. How the hell you still trying to “figure things out” at this big age???

Loving these interviews!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Am still watching but I wanted to answer your question about Trauma , when the person you dating act like something that happened in her past is still happening at the same severity level - this is how trauma response works , it is as if the situation is happening right now like it happened in the past - the brain and body has memory that takes folks back even people who had therapy in the past.. PSTD .. I know a woman who got raped when she was a little girl, shes married now for over 18yrs but still have trauma responses if you touch her without her knowledge . Because of the severity of what happened to her , her body takes her right back to when she was raped A lot of sympathy and empathy is needed ❤

There is a book everyone should read Gary Thomas Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? Marriage is less about finding happiness and the right one, it’s an extension of God so finding the purpose partner to fulfill your God given purpose. A Helpmate helps you to achieve the plans God has for you. Find your mate in God’s plan for you which means wholeness in God and knowing who you are and allowing God to help you discern your mate! 🙏🏾

This was an excellent interview, Mike shared truths and honest experiences from his heart. He dropped major nuggets. Become whole before you seek someone. Scarred and scared is real 💔

Omg I really enjoyed this conversation. I'm definitely subscribing to this channel ❤

I love both Mike & Cynthia not throwing dirt on either one as I'm a huge fan for both of them & wish them both the best in success. Response to baby daddy staying over... Although I love baby daddy, let's keep it real, drag your suitcase to the nearest hotel, and check in. Our child can visit you and me as an adult. Respect to my partner. Point Blank!!! ❤❤❤

He is not ready to be with one women… I saw him when I was out and about in California and I said he looks familiar and what made me pause is because he kept looking at me. I said oh that Cynthia’s ex. Smh….seems thirsty

Outstanding interview!! Thank you for providing QUALITY Content and Guest.😊❤🙏 🌻

This episode was cleansing. I appreciate the brother laying it down at the feet of those younger dudes like he did. Way to lead the flock Mike!...Just WOW!!! 💯 🔥🎯

Financial advice should come from a person successful with money, parental advice should come from someone who successfully raised children. Likewise, marital and relationship advice should come from a person that is successful at relationships. What even is this?

Something off about this dude, can't quite put my finger on it.

I ❤️ the honesty and accountability he takes.

I like listening to him- Mike Hill -talk, he seems very thorough in his explaining things without telling exactly the things that happened. I will look for his books to read. I will say this: I understand the need to be whole, healed & without baggage before they enter a relationship of marriage, but if we got so completely together before another person came to stay in our life, we would really not want or need to be in a permanent relationship as marriage. Our issues don't stop most people from indulging in sexual activities. So make sure we aren't using some of these truth-awareness topics and statement as reasons to not be in a real relationship &/or to not get married. I love the men who don't mind getting and being married, but if you're not staying married and it boils down to- they just wasn't the right person (for whatever reason), then there's still something wrong...but how about- learn to stay in for the long haul.

Never tell a man how another man treated you or challenges you had. That new man will judge you….maybe you have grown and are better but that man will judge you

Great conversation, I really appreciate this. Thank you Kings

Only cowards cheat…. Before you think about cheating just liberate that person

I'm not sure men get scarred. Sure, their ego may take a hit but cheaters especially those who are chronic cheaters don't have the capacity to be scarred because they never really respect women in the first place.

Man! Y'all are pulling in some people! Looking forward to it.

Bottom line. State intentions without lying, Never take with no intentions of giving, be truthful, never try to keep anyone out of selfishness knowing your not ready to be committed, and know when to let go. Those are the mature things a Man or Wo-man will do. Bottom line. It’s not difficult to figure out. No one wants to be hurt or played with

Great conversation, Mike I wish you much blessings

Great interview! I love that Mike was very transparent. All that matters in life is learning from your mistakes and moving forward !❤

Mike Hill is the proof for Tysean and Ryan (because most of us already know) that there are a number of men who are attracted to and prefer women who are ambitious.

Sigh...the arrogance of this guy to think he should give relationship advice after 3 failed marriages and the ignorance of our people to receive advice from him and praise him for it. #blindleadingtheblind

I get it but 3 marriages, maybe its just not for him. At a certain age, WE need to do better!

This is the interview that will for sure go viral. Looking forward to it being informative, and Initiating 😉good conversations within the black household.

I never heard of him until he started dating Cynthia Bailey. ❤😂😂 He’s not husband material. He going to blame it on the women 😢😢

Great interview, Great interview !

Hmm. .. I hope they'll be careful on who they invite to give advice. It's hard to receive advice from someone with 0 success in marriages and relationships.

Thanks for sharing your truth Mike Hill🤍 wishing for more love in your life!

He didn't love Cynthia, he just tried to play her,and messed around and got played upon. 😊

Mike, I so much enjoyed your discussion and perspective. God bless you to find love, again. You're a King 👑

Glad this popped up on my timeline! Good interview. Women definitely get scarred! They also carry things into a relationship from past experiences. They will have a wall up to protect their hearts and due 2 lack of trust.

Loved how Ty handled this interview. He asked all the questions I was thinking🤌🏾✨

Brother, you need the Most High. Repent, give your life to Christ and wait. WAIT for the Most High to fix you and send you a righteous woman. Change YOUR LIFE.

Listen, we need the Holy Spirit to live and be within a marriage cause a marriage without Christ will not last. & it's sad that we labeled marriage as something bad when it was supposed to be a blessing from the beginning. Now in days we are operating in our flesh within marriages.

LIVE! First time writing in. Fairly new to your channel and enjoying it. ~Muzette

Mr. Hill, thank you for just being honest and transparent. Very enlightening keep being honest and helping other men who want to be helped. Relearning is correct. Thank you.

Great conversation. Mike was honest from the heart.

Live with Mike Hill; great show guys. Mike If those men/women can look inside themselves as you have shown us, better relationships can start off & be better in them.

Knowledge self is critical to growth. Keep growing and showing.

Amazing interview. Thank you Mike.

This should have been a 2hr session!! He was speaking to the men, and I’m sure you know one that needs it!!! Really enjoyed!! He most DEFINITELY NEEDS TO DO A LIVE!!!!

You should never ever get out of a relationship/marriage and rush into another one. Take time heal, reflect and spend time with yourself. Because sometimes we may blame the other person. spending time with yourself you will be surprised to learn that it was two ppl who probably never knew how to love, because they never loved themselves. Self love is important before you say I do....

Great Conversation w/Mike Hill🎉🎉🎉

Thank you Mike for showing the host and others what a Man looks like from within.

I am late to the party. However, hats off to Mike. I have always been a fan and was rooting for he and Cynthia. I was so glad to hear him say "that you should want someone and not need them". People seem to think I'm crazy when I say I don't need a man. He made a lot of valid points and I hope all that heard him put their listening ears on. Excellent show! ❤

It is insane to me that Mike Hill is giving relationship advice in the same interview as his recounting of a 30 year old teenager heartbreak. How about YOU heal before giving anyone advice. You didn't make sure YOU were in the right headspace when you married Cynthia so keep your advice.

Real Talk, You Need To Be Whole, Complete And Working On Self Daily.....

We all need to start changing our mental and emotional feel and learn that we are growing in life

This guy needs counseling. Not sure what he has to share, because it does not appear he has learned anything himself. Talk is cheap.

At a certain age….by forty everyone knows how to say and play the right game for temporary disaster…the same mistakes over and over just a different victim is insane. Justifying poor results can appear to be very selfish when so many people are involved, his kids her kid had to be emotionally devastating. He still saying he can hang with the 30 year old you men and pull females, he’s still got growing up to do.

It seems this guest has mastered the art of saying what everyone else says. I look forward to this show featuring non-celebrity people to share real stories of everyday life & show the precious & specific way God touched them.

GOD DAM IT!!!..I WOKEUP 2 LATE!..My Expiry Date Is DUN! bahahaha!

Mr Hill, I like your MIND Set, marriage is for everyone that desires it. You have to know you and . And have patience with each other and learn each other and Respect each other as individuals and bond together as ONE. Being whole is simply acknowledged your short comings and working on them and Love the person you are and who they are. The main issue with everyone is TRUST after it’s been Broken

This was a great show. Michael was so authentic and transparent. Love it!

Live!! This is a great interview!

If this guy has all of this wisdom and confidence, and Cynthia is so beautiful inside and out with her own money/businesses and his cheating days are over, WHY if only after one year of marriage????

This was definitely a learning interview. LIVE!

How about marriage is not for u period. He’s too old to not have it figured out

I enjoyed this conversation. Much respect to Mike Hill for sharing his truth.

I love Mike for this❤ Thank you for being honest.

When she was on the Steve Harvey show, and they had just started dating she didn’t seem to be all the way interested in moving forward with marrying him in the first place

I think as a community we spend far too much time analyzing and dissecting “narratives” about each other. We need to spend more time analyzing who we are as an individual, and our readiness to give and receive love. This gentleman has been married 3 times, committed adultery, cheated in relationships, and that is because of unresolved issues. If you notice even while being as transparent as he can be, he is still analyzing and dissecting why. He should be at a point where he is firm as to why he carried himself as he did in his relationships, and now speaking about the emotional and mental work he has done to get better for himself. Why do I say this, because he experienced a hurt at 15 that for 30 years he never worked on and has shown up in some form in every relationship he has been in.