that mom is an evil narc. Anyone who dates someone new and ignores their kid for their new life is evil

The mum using the fact that she sacrificed so much as emotional manipulation is disgusting not only that every parent sacrifice's for their kid it doesn't make her special.

To begin with, isn't going to vacation with her family, and without OP, the definition of ABANDONMENT OF A MINOR, also the treatment towards OP from Jake and Co. count as a form of abuse?

Your mother needs to be taken to court for abuse!!!

In a few years, it'll be "Why doesn't my son come to visit me?".

This was so embarrassing on Jake's part. Imagine not only having beef with a teenager, but finding out you were doing it for NO reason 💀

Regardless instead of talking to op Jake decided to give him the silent treatment for years. I say don't respond. Also go no contact with her.

The the fuck is a 16 year old Gonna do against robbers while alone

OP's dad should go full scorched earth. Full custody, no visitation and she has to pay child support. Jake is massive C U Next Tuesday. Not even bothering to talk to OP? He didn't even try to establish a relationship? Well OP's mom is proof that a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness

There is a high probability that he would have been there when it was robbed, and he could have been injured or killed. But all she cares about is the items taken....bye mom, see you never

So here is something i don't understand- If Jake thought OP was this terrible horrible delinquent why DID he decide to leave OP alone in his house for a whole week? why didn't they go on their holiday when OP was with dad or demand OP go back to dad while they went away? As for mom's 'she wanted them to be a HAPPY family' how could they be a happy family when she was sowing distrust and suspicion?

"You should have been home when the robbers came after seeing me and my new husband and kids leave for vacation! Maybe you'd scare them off, maybe you'd get killed. Now we'll never know and we lost the TV. This is all your fault!" - Mother of the Year.

Mother's like this are worthless. Neglecting their kid for the new man and his family smfh

Jake is an adult he should have tqlked to op instead of mistreating him

The mom is the particularly bad one in all of this but the fact that Jake didn’t sit down with him even once for a whole three years to try to fix things with him is also pretty insane.

Mom is an evil tart, but Jake! He's a complete ah! This started when op was 13y/o. In 3 yrs he didn't realize his wife was lying? He was complicit in mistreating a child. What a dummy.

These mothers are pathetic! And for a grown man to ignore his partner’s child is absolutely embarrassing

So Mom is mad at OP for leaving the house??? She ABANDONED HER CHILD!!!! And what’s worse, what is OP was home when the robbers came???? She is just as bad as her husband

Op was 16, reckless endangerment of a minor, intentional abandonment of a minor.

Jake should've apologized in person. Felt the unease in knowing he played a part in emotionally abusing a child.

I don't know why people keep on saying Jake should have just talked to him when all Jake had to do was pay attention because with all his mama said that he was doing and saying would have not added up actions speak louder than words

The audacity she has to talk about "safety" while not even thinking about OP's safety. Like what makes her think some 16yr old guy would be able to do if a group of armed huge robbers broke in. It would have just put OP and his life in grave danger. Just shows how she cares more about her marriage and the stuff her husband(ex) provides/has over her own son's life. Such a horrible excuse of a human being is she

She plays to many damn games. I couldn’t be with her either

The mother pitted everyone against each other and then it blows up in her face. Also blaming her child that it is their fault a break-in occurred…. Mother of the year right there… OP sounds too serious for his age but that happens when you have to raise yourself.

My Mom used to tell me that her Husband didn't want me around. Made a big deal out of it, as if he'd mistreat her or something. I plainly asked her Husband about it. (He'd always been welcoming to me.) He looked shocked when I mentioned it. He told me that she has been telling him not to invite to functions & he's been ignoring her. She looked like she wanted to fight him afterwards. Psycho shit, for Attention & Control. She's a Narc & I'm the Black Sheep. Yeah, they divorced not long afterward. With those types of issues you have to take it to the source to air out. It breaks whatever bubble of control that's supposed to be gained by keeping you away from speaking to the other person.

Three letters CPS. You abandoned your child for a damn week to relax. It a good thing OP did leave cause, I'd fear what would have happened if he actually stayed in that house. Plus like OP said, your a 43 year old man, grow up

Wanted to have a "happy family" when you told your husband your child hates your mother in law and he refuse to talk to your child

Mom and Jake are evil. OP is a good kid but an absolute doormat. Pops is the real OG

Wow. Did she use the phrase "apologize to me and my family?" You don't just leave. You don't just leave without saying anything. You certainly don't portray your own child as a selfish beast who is to blame for everything. Though points to Jake for at least apologizing. He didn't handle this well, but that at least was a decent thing to do. But this mother is a narcissistic monster.

The Mother is an AH. Who put their kid through that! No way! Cut ties!

If I was OP, his father, or Jake then I would question everything about her. 1. Is OP's father actually his real biological father? 2. Did his father and mother sacrifice better jobs to stay near each other? 3. I wonder if OP's was dating a lot of men that he didn't know about, then it would make sense for her to create a story about OP to hide her history and it was also used to block Jake's mother from moving in. 4. Jake told OP about his mother and father giving up a lot for OP, he felt she was a saint and even though she was a single mother changed his criteria and accepted her. This would explain why he felt like being with her was not rushing into things. 5. Jake would have been confused as to why she was so against his mother moving in when she is so caring, finding out that OP is a monster (according to her lies) would have been devastating. 6. I would not be surprised if a lot more shady information was uncovered about her if OP, his father, and Jake have a discussion about everything. She is so good at manipulation that no one questioned her, not spoke up and even now she is creating a new image of herself as a victim. 7. If 2 or more separate people say a person is a monster then they likely are, but if it's only one person who keeps you informed and they try to isolate you from them and their friends then you need to thoroughly question that persons motives and try to find out the truth

How actually mental it is that a fully grown adult literaly ignores his step child & involves his own children in the same kind of behavior AND the mom just lets that happen because of the old I raised you card? Call cps ffs

People are so naive. The mother is the covert abuser that receives it's supply on watching what is happening and playing both sides. She thinks she has hands clean so there is no guilt on her. What Jake is telling OP is what his mother tells him. She is also creating the situations where Jake has the power to attack OP. She is the middle man and strategist. Edit: The "I made so many sacrifices for you" tactic using vague, distant and unproven situations is a classic for abuser worldwide.

Wow the mum totally neglects her son and she expects her son to be ok with it, also her new husband and his kids are abusing OP by sending him to Coventry for no reason. I'm so glad that OP has a decent dad and he can turn to him, OPs mum is the useless one and caused all the hate in the new family situation, if I was OP I'd go NC with his mum and let her deal with the consequences that her actions caused and of that means she spends the rest of her life alone and miserable then so be it it's what she deserves

Mom really blamed bro for not stopping the robbery. If he stayed there he was a dead man.

'It's a matter of safety!' Yeah, the KID'S safety! If the place had been robbed while the kid was IN the house? What would have potentially happened? What if the kid had gotten hurt? What if the thief had had a gun? What if he'd been killed? What would she have said then? I guess it would have been the kid's fault. An absolute terrible mother and person.

At first I thought Jake was the bastard here but after hearing the lies that your own mom said about you, she’s the real asshole here and good on Jake for apologizing to you at least. Good for you for sticking up for yourself kiddo, and you’re better off being with your dad if you ask me

Safety, what about OPs safety had he been home when the house was robbed.

How’s a fully grown Middle Aged man got beef with a 16 year old 🥲 is the stepdads frontal lobe still underdeveloped as he’s behaving like a teenager. And the mums “sacrifices” are not answerable by the child, as a parent you choose to make sacrifices for your kid as a big part of parenthood is being selfless.

This is why my son is not with his mother. I always feared some bs like this would happen

While I don't blame Jake for believing his partner and being mad with OP, I DEFINITELY fault him for at least not talking to him about ANYTHING. The moment he heard OP allegedly had something to say about his mother and children, he should've confronted OP and the truth would've came out much sooner. I mean why would even still bring your kids to live with a person who, allegedly, hates them and talks bad about them??? Like this whole scenario sounds so unrealistic, especially with the other kids being involved because you KNOW kids can't hold water

100% his mom now wishes she agreed to cut ties with OP and maintain her lie

That mother belongs in Jail for neglect and mental cruelty. Should have told his Dad. Heartbreaking.

People need to teach their children that it is okay to talk to them about people hurting them, even if it is the other parent hurting and abusing them. That witch was emotionally abusing her child, and she let a man abuse her child for her gain.

His “ mother “ , I use that term loosely, knew about Jake’s animosity towards her son BEFORE she married him , and she still did. She tried to emotionally manipulate her son telling him she passed up numerous men to put him first, yet she married a scum bag who hated her child. You need to cut her out of your life, she chose a new family over you and doesn’t give a damn about you . Stay with you father, he loves you .

Sheesh, she threw her own son under the bus for a guy? That's just low.

Honestly, this woman is absolutely messed up and I’m so happy OP at least has a wonderful father to look after them. Because I agree this woman made her bed now she has to lie in it. She doesn’t get to try and make your out to be her personal skape goat then expecting the OP to want to stick around to play happy family with her much as expect her soon to be stay with her, she lied when she could’ve just been honest with him, but made her out the punching bag. People this manipulative, toxic,selfish don’t deserve to have children.😓

Should never treat your child like this. Terrible parents raise terrible people.

Shoulf apologise. "I am sorry that you are so blind to see how terrible of a mother you are, and that you abandoned a literal child on their own for a week without telling them anything. I'm sorry you ignored my calls, and didn't call me back when you got to the hotel like you said, I'm sorry your actions caused you to be robbed, I'm sorry that you will soon have to pay my dad child support since I'm still a kid and living with him full time". See, apologies can help get things off your chest

He wanted your mom to himself and wanted your mom to raise his kids and not you, the fact that your mom let it happen is very telling

Is it just me, or does it seem like a lot of single dads are WAY better at looking after/raising their children than most single moms?

This reminds me so much of my mother. She left my dad for a new man but loved to lie about and come up with all sorts of stories. She wouldn't defend us when he yelled at us for no reason and expected us to be sympathetic. I was 14 and am glad I decided that I would stay with my dad. It was hard enough to visit. I feel for OP.

Abandonment off child

What kind of mother does that? Lady you made that bed. Now sleep in it cupcake.

It shocks me that the mother would still date a man who treats her kid this way. Wth.

He was kind enough to lock the house up. I would probably not have bothered. I was a horrible and angry kid around this age. I know i would have lashed out if my mother pulled something like this.

Should have told dad years ago, Mom dont care and guilt trip op with her bs. Mom is filth

So the lad has been punished for, something, for three years!! Ouch.

The mom really tried to talk "safety" of their house?? What about OPs safety should they have been present when the robbers broke in and were the violent type? What if something else happened?? Disgusting

There are those in this world that don’t deserve to be parents, this lady is one of em.

What a sorry excuse of a "mother". Good on the father for actually BEING A DECENT PARENT.

If you are forced to spend time with her (due to being a minor) just ignore her and not talk to her the way she forced you to live due to her lies. The fact that she was not charged for neglect and abuse shows either she had a good lawyer or you and your dad are good people who didn't force the issue.

When the house got robbed he could of been killed, a few belongings got stolen and she didn't even consider that fact that she could of came home to him dead after the robbery.

She deserves a heartfelt apology. "I'm sorry you're my mother." 😮‍💨

I can completely understand OP

Yeah nah.. The mom is a horrible person. OP owes her nothing, and Jake is a dick to mistreat a teenager on her word. He should of tried to get to know OP himself.

Honestly felt she was a trash mom from the moment he said how he was being treated and his mom allowed it and now that we know the reason i feel even more so. Im glad the mom got her karma.

Dude move in with your father and block your mother she ain't worth it, any mother who would be ok with this is wicked and a viper, I bet she is spending his child support money on them, this is why dudes need to be ruthless when being used and abuse same for woman.

That Jake probably hates that he has to share your mom's affection and time, there is douchebags who get with women who have kids and then "complain" about them showing their kid affection and spending time with the kid!

I agree with OP.

The mom is the definition of a self inflicted wound!

She left a 16-year-old alone in a house while they slept. Imagine trying to tell a judge that you abandoned your underage child at home while they were asleep. never told them you were going on vacation without them. They ran to their dads for shelter and you believe that they should pay because your house was robbed. I wonder if Mom sacrificed anything to stay in that town? She acts like she sacrificed nothing. I bet the Dad was the only one that gave up careers and maybe love for the son. If you had sacrificed for a child all that time. You would never marry someone who was even slightly hostile toward your kid. How desperate are you to have a man that you don't run when he suggests moving in together after 3 months?

Nah but if i dated a woman and she even THOUGHT about treating my kid like that, instant break up and blocked, no questions asked. Who the fuck lets a complete STRANGER treat their children like that?

It sounds crazy.. biggest problem is communication. If you don't speak up and tell your dad, it will never be cleared up. And that Mother should be held accountable for leaving children alone at home.

Sounds like the mom didn't sacrifice relationships for OP, she just has shitty choices in men who didn't commit.

When I married a woman with children, I committed myself to them as much as to their mother. Now, they are all grown, and have children of their own. My marriage didn't last, but my relationships with my step-kids is really strong to this day. I love them like they're my own, I would lay down my life for any one of them.

Well it seems the Mom had enough love for OP in her heart to not disown him, and admit that she lied about him to her Husband... But not enough to NOT do it in the first place, and allow him to be mistreated through having to deal with the passive emotional abuse from her husband, and his two sons, via the silent treatment for over 3 years... ALL BECAUSE she didn't want to tell her SO that she didn't have the room to house his sick mother, so she blamed him for it, because it didn't make her look as bad, and made it look like she was doing her a favor by keeping her out of her house. She was completely selfish throughout all of it, she chose her own image over her own son, and allowed him to take the fall. Good on Jake for owning up to it, and apologizing for it, though he should've had the maturity to talk to OP about it in the first place. Furthermore, good on him for divorcing her ass after finding out she lied about HER OWN SON. I can't imagine how guilty he would've felt about treating him the way he did (as well as telling his sons to do the same), when he didn't even do anything wrong. Hell, I would too! I'm sure the other reason for the divorce would be because if she was willing to lie about her own kid, and then allow me, and my own kids to mistreat him just so she could cover her own ass... What else was she willing to lie about? Was probably the question, and the other major reason for why he made the decision to divorce her, ontop of the guilt of having mistreated her kid over that lie. So anyway, if I were OP, I would forgive her, but I would never forget about how she lied about me to her boyfriend (just so she didn't have to tell him she didn't have enough room for his Mother, who is also sick) and allowed me to be mistreated for years, because of it, and how took him telling her to disown me after leaving the house, after they left for a week long road trip, and didn't bother telling me about it until I called her to ask where they had gone, since they couldn't be bothered to tell me about until after, then blames me after they got robbed, even after I told her how pissed I was, and how I was leaving to go to my Dads, but she kept hanging up, and made it clear she didn't want to talk to me, or hear what I had to say (so for that reason, I wouldn't have bothered texting her either). The thing that irks me the most is that it never had to be this way, if she was honest to Jake from the get go, but she was too selfish, and too cowardly to do that, and while I may Forgive her, I would never forget that, and I could never get close to her ever again (at least not for a very long time), after she betrayed me like that, over something that could've been resolved in a much more harmless manner that didn't involve anyone taking the fall, much less ME, her own damn Son. Absolutely Deplorable.

My mom didn't lie but she tried to get me to live with her and her boyfriend who beat her years later she was saying how she always wanted me to live with them so I told her very bluntly he beat you all the time right her: yeah me: what the fuck did you think would happen to me? Her crying I never thought of that yeah you were selfish and my grandparents and I both always said no I was very aware as a kid and I knew it would have been miserable.

What kind of hirrible dad moves his kids in with a child he believes to be a juvenile delinquent who hates his kids and old people? If Jake really believed all that then he would be knowingly putting his kids in harms way.

Who else is sick of the "ungrateful" argument in real life. No matter what you do, you're never treated with respect and when you stand up for yourself or do something wrong, you're "ungrateful". The person has clearly suffered more than you, you can't comprehend how much they've sacrificed. You just have to learn to deal with it, no matter how they act.

The silent treatment is a serious form of emotional abuse. SHAME on the mother, this was An evil betrayal

This kinda hits home for me. I have a narcissistic mother who emotionally manipulated me to make choices that were to my detriment for many years, even as an adult. It's a shame that you can only love your mother because she's your mother but not because she's a great and wonderful person. If she were a complete stranger, I would have nothing to do with her.

Yo this would have been heaven for me I usually don't like it when people try to talk to me too often I'm such a big introvert

I’d take that email to the police as proof of his mistreatment of OP and have him charged with a slew of abuse allegations.

Forgive but never forget. At least in Jake’s case. Mother deserves to be cold and alone, manipulating everyone for her selfishness.

Oh boy, OP's mom is a Covert Narc enabler of a Covert Narc. ONLY the weirdest kind of Covert Narcissist would play such a cruel dehumanizing "game" on a LITERAL CHILD as not only not speaking to OP and pretending OP isn't even present, but also training their own children to do so. The stepkids are equally awful and probably Clusters Of Bees-in-Training just like their dad (ONLY refers to abusive instances of Cluster B, and BOY is this ABUSIVE AF). Problem with being raised by a covert narc, is people get conditioned to not complaining about clear mistreatment. The covert narc mom's excuses are just that; excuses. She is complicit while not participatory by not explaining wtf is going on with Jake (and his kids). NOTHING OP did 'set jake off' or whatever. Jake just found him a convenient Invisible Child to abuse in the most passive-aggressive way possible.

Oh, come on, are we meant to believe that a teenage boy could not come up with a single way to torment his AH stepdad and stepsibs who liked to pretend he wasn't there. This is unbelievable.

15:20 "Her and her family" I think this is pretty telling what OP's mom thought of OP

Parents never sacrifice anything for children, any parent who believes such is immature and a narcissist and probably shouldn't have children as they see the responsibility of raising kids to be a job or chore and that mentality is wrong and broken.

Jake being neglectful was terrible yes. Honestly i feel he's worthy of at least forgiveness. Though the least he could have done is try to clarify with the kid. That mother is twisted and evil

I mean by the time they went on holidays OP was 18 so he's an adult and can live where ever he want's.

"trust and Safety" yes leave your son alone in the house by himself because he's supposed to ward off robbers xD. Whether he believed her lies or not, the cognitive incompetence to think the 16 year old boy was somehow terrorizing her boyfriends when he had done literally nothing to him is astounding.

Sad part is that only reason OP got an apology or any answer is the fact that woman had a spoonful of conscience. She could have easily burried the leads if she kept her mouth shut and just removed OP from her life.

ok so his house got robbed but would there any bigger difference if he was at home..!? I mean, if the robber took lots of things along with a freaking TV then definitely he could've been dangerous for the OP.. He is infact lucky to have coincidentally made a decision that probably save him from any injury or harm from the robber or robbers...!!!

I do have a playlist on youtube called "Holy Shit" where I put story vids like these into it, but only when it gets to a point where I say, "Holy Shit" its very self-explanatory, but might I just add, Holy Shit.

I find it crazy that she calls to yell at him when she should be glad he wasnt there alot of people have been killed in robberies gone wrong

A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family, but s woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.

I don’t know why you keep calling her your mother, she is a POS . They wanted you to keep watch on their property while they were on vacation, they didn’t give a damn about your safety , now she is mad she got robbed of material things, not that you were safe ? Glad your father is going for full custody.

Admittedly, he shouldn't have left the key under the plant pot if the house was going to be empty for a week (I presume that's how the thieves gained entrance) but that's nothing in light of the way the OP was treated for years, all at the instigation of his mother. I'm glad the stepfather apologised and didn't forgive the mother for it, but surely he saw with his own eyes that the OP was always polite and well-behaved. It's a shame the OP didn't tell his father everything sooner but I understand that at that time he still wanted a relationship with the mother who he thought loved him. I just hope the OP is doing well emotionally and mentally now.

honestly don't blame my stepdad for favoring his children and doing things for them he wouldn't do for me. My mom wanted to send me to the same private school as his children because I was highly gifted and his children were just average students. But I went to public schools that weren't very well run and was bussed across town to a fairly violent and poor inner city highschool where I was beaten nearly to death.. we got in a fight right before my 18th birthday and I moved out.. That was my father's choice to not be involved, (and it was his choice, you can't force love,) not my stepdad who did alright by me my mom and my sister and I do miss him (he died a few years ago).