Black parents problem is they have kids and then make the kids feel like we owe them. I didn’t ask you to bring me in this world you did that on your own. So yes you have to love me, take care of me, provide for me, put me before yourself etc etc etc.

To whoever DID raise this man, you fkn ATE that. Hearing him speak was kinda therapeutic. This wasn’t your typical “child of celebrity gets on the internet and acts a fool” response.

One thing about our black parents, they always want to be RIGHT. And everything is DISRESPECT to them. They didn't even try to address his feelings, they went straight into defensive mode. Typical. Thats y i don't share my TRUE feelings with mine, i just smile and nod

So Monique’s son who apparently grew up around this man isn’t allowed to call him Dad but his 60 year old wife can call him Daddy?… they don’t see anything wrong with that?

And this is the consequences of child neglect. This man literally has no deep emotional connection towards his own mother. I need parents to understand that if you want the quickest way to make sure your child doesn’t give a fuck about you even if you have died this is one of those ways. Also, shouldn’t have to be said but, this will ALWAYS be the parent’s fault. It’s not the responsibility of your son or daughter to build that relationship. It’s YOUR job as a PARENT to instill that relationship from the START. It’s sad but not surprising.

Black parents have that "All the things I've done for you" attitude towards anything you say to them that challenges their parenthood and calls it into question. They become so upset at the fact that the person they are permitted to take care of, asks for more lol. Quiet as it's kept, most times it's because the parents just do not want to parent. "I put food in your stomach and a roof over your head". Okay? But where's the love? Lol

“Why are you talking?” Those were my thoughts as well, Dee. 😂

She keeps chasing Tyler Perry and Oprah and have a son she abandoned.

If children fall out with their parents and it’s the parents fault it shouldn’t be the child’s responsibility to try and repair the relationship. Having children is a CHOICE, not being there for them is a CHOICE, the child didn’t ask to be born.

“Let time do the healing…” Mam, just go have time with your son.

Her husband has no right on talking about her strained relationship between Mo’Nique and HER son. The third person always got something to say when they don’t even know the full story. The two of them have been strained long before she remarried and even if she told her side he still doesn’t know the whole story. And why should the son reach out for a better relationship? You are his MOTHER what the fuck. So because he no longer wants to reconcile unless the intentions are good you wash your hands and give up too? That’s messed up.

OK.. Monique is a narcissist. Period! Open and shut case. Wrap it up. Done. Notice, they spoke nothing on accountability. Her son’s message was full of accountability. Narcissist are not accountable for anything.

18:39 “Egghead?!” Took me OUT! 🤣🤣🤣

Her(Daddys) response was even worse than I would have imagined. How is she such a strong woman but can't speak for herself? They even tried to talk about his mental health. Mo'nique and Daddy are not good people. Daddy defending her calling him Daddy by saying he calls her Momma, makes it worse and he doesn't even get it. Like vice president Pence calling his wife Mother. Its freaking weird

Everybody is getting exposed even the exposers. No one is safe

These generational curses needs to go. It’s sad how some black parents don’t get it but will use material things towards their children.

"Are you dumb...egghead?" They scream I scrumpt!! 😩🤣🤣

For anyone whose had issues with their parents they understood this energy 100%. My mom and I mmkay had zero relationship but SHE stepped up, owners her shit and we been smooth ever since. I love Empressive but her take is wrong as far as him “dropping the grudge.” He doesn’t have a grudge, he literally is saying “I can’t keep being rejected by you so I’m good.” Monique gotta get it together

This is sad and was kind of triggering for me because Im going through the same thing with my father.

She said, "let time do the healing". Girl....Ma'am...TIME ain't gone do it baby! That's your son! GO TALK TO HIM!

Going through the same thing with my grandma. Her bitterness has almost destroyed three generations of family, and I’m breaking it.

heavy on when she said "this is triggering" lmaoo cant wait to move out

When her “daddy” kept talking for her I was like ok this is what people were talking about 😂😂😂 like stfu. The irony of them saying he wasn’t paying attention when they clearly ain’t listen to what he was actually addressing in the video. He wanted a mother and son relationship and he also wanted her to have one with his child.

dee using her psychology degree to use HAHAHAHAHA she always predict people true color

As someone who’s had this type of mom, I felt him having to read from bullet points in my SOUL. I know that man has had to fight the urge to smack the shit out of people speaking ignorantly on his situation and how addressing lie after lie after lie can just overwhelm and make you want to not speak at all. Bruh I can’t even think straight right now. Even them throwing material things in his face as if that’s a valid response…boyyyyy😤 21:25 ….”If you think you’re not loved, that’s because you haven’t been paying attention”…AFTER she admits SHE wasn’t there for him….

Damn so Mo'nique is literally the mom from Precious in real life?! Wow no wonder she played that role perfectly

Damn I see why Monique played her role in precious so well.

Her son seems like a great person. I wish him happiness and success

I can tell he was raised by someone else because he comes off calm, logical and most of all, GENUINE

My dad recently retired. He made a lot of bad choices in life, consistently. Namely, not taking any risks or opportunities - and not constantly educating himself to grow in life. Do you know this man had the audacity to then turn around and tell one of his family members that he wishes he never had kids, he would have did better by himself? He ignored job promotion opportunities, got on his boss' bad side with being so stubborn / resistant to changes and ultimately worked at a company for years without a significant raise until his last 5 years of employment. To top it all off, he made the excuse of being halfway across the country "for work" - for a little more than minimum wage. The same amount he could have been making *here*, at home. He made my mom quit her job, uproot her life and move away from her family just to be with him under the promise of "I'll take care of you", but really he was just insecure and prideful. Now that those choices are eating him up inside, it's everyone else's fault and everyone else has to suffer with him. No relationship with his kids - but their fault / responsibility to repair it. All because *his* feelings are hurt over his own choices. Make it make sense.

Dee honestly as much as u say u don’t want kids u would be a amazing mother fr, we got to many selfish individuals who feel the need to bring more life into this world for self validation and it’s cancerous. Something that is very prevalent in the Black community unfortunately.

Monique and her husband are extremely narcissistic. Theyre only bringing up what theyve done for his son to escape accountability

A lot of times when people say “time will heal this” they really mean maybe they’ll forget what I did and I won’t have to say sorry

Sending love to all the Dee-Hive 😘

I’m glad I have a deep connection and love towards my parents. They really did everything possible to make sure that I was loved and cared for and that whatever I did, it was because they were there for me.

I love how the son said i needed this and i didnt need that... and they responded back with all the things that the son literally said he didnt need.

I understand Shalon so much. I’m with you Dee, I saw through Monique from the beginning, I never liked her.

Hearing Shalon's story triggered me so much because it sounds SO SIMILAR to my situation with my own 'parents.' Hella neglectful, emotionally absent, downright verbally abusive, narcissistic etc. Good for Shalon speaking his TRUTH. He could've cussed her out, but he didn't. It takes a lot to be the 'bigger person' when YOU'RE the CHILD in the situation. All the 'BeLiEvE mOnIqUe' people are so easily to be MANIPULATED by her passive aggressiveness and narrative TWISTING skills smh definitely narcissistic. Sending all the healing and love to Shalon. That boy just wants his MOM

i wanna give her son a hug. i will never take her seriously again, the fact that she can just treat her son like that is deplorable

I overheard my dad talk about me in a negative way. It really hurt my feelings they way he was talking about me, i mean, like i was some dude off the streets. Iwas dealing with anxiety and depression as a kid, and he never talked to me about anything i was going through. He saw me sitting around feeling down and later on i overheard him say "with the way he is, he's not going to last on a job." I wouldn't be the way I am had he intervened and helped me. There's a lot I heard him say in that conversation and I totally lost that dad son feeling towards him before he passed away. I still loved him and forgave him, but parents need to realize how damaging it is to their children to neglect them and then talk negatively about them. He never even knew I heard him. I could go on and on, but your parents are supposed to make you feel safe, loved and taken care of. Parents, if you care about your children, I promise you, you do not want your children to have that feeling of not having a relationship with you. It is very damaging and tragic as well. I loved my dad and miss him, but the things I heard really hurt me and only made my depression and trust issues worse. Be willing to forgive though... there's no healing without it!

If I was the son I would give them the fucking car back. I'd just park it in front of their crib, ring the bell and bounce without saying a word 🤷🏽‍♂️

This is the dilemma of being a narcissistic absentee parent, just because you have allegedly improved and now you want to make things right doesn't mean that the person you have wronged is going to be there patiently waiting. This young man has a life and responsibilities he has to take care of, so the time for her to right her wrongs may have come and gone

Thank you! This is what I told my husband - it is on the parent, not the child to make it right ..Omgee you preaching today!!!

His demeanor in his video was very inviting and willing to change things. Their demeanor in their video was very defensive and not inviting one bit. This perpetual victimhood and not taking accountability I think is universal. Just from the wide range of other videos I watch it seems Asians, Hispanic, Indian, etc have this issue too amongst the older generation.

Yes, perfume absolutely does expire bc of the alcohol content in it, and it's shelf-life is relatively short of only about a yr or 2. Also, it's rumored that the perfume stores in the malls are cheaper than the dept stores bc the perfume is expired or near expiry date & comes from the dept stores.

I thought the title said “deadbeat son” 😭😭

I can definitely relate to him but this is me with my “father”. I was very frustrated growing up but I’m now pushing 30 and just accepted it.

I hope to get to the point he is at when it comes to both of my parents. Bless that young man and his family.

You don't pray to the "universe." You pray to the God who made the universe.

His relationship with Monique is damn near identical to my relationship with my pops. Almost the same thing.Only difference is my pops aint famous and is probably more self centered. It is really an issue among black parents and black families feeling like the elders dont have to make the effort to repair fractured relationships that they caused. And it’s hilarious that they actually validated what he said in his video without even realizing it.

As someone whose first heartbreak was their momma and is actively working hard to be able to go as close to no-contact as possible, parents truly need to understand we are born into this world to love yall fr and when things go south they need to realize 8/10 its on THEM, take accountability and reflect on every bad interaction, argument and conflict because you ought to know why your child wants no ties to you Wheh finally finished and this is gross definitely reminds me of the way my stepdad and mom would team up on me and pretend to be decent people wtf is material goods to a child who resents the fact that they feel no love from you... smfh

Oh Monique....just when the public was on your side girl

the whole "ill just pray to the universe that its fixed" when your son is hurt is sick. i can hear my own narcissistic mom in her words.

There’s nothing more frustrating than having a parent (or family members) acting like they want to have a relationship with you while proving at every turn (through verbal and nonverbal communication) that they don’t. Especially when they fail to acknowledge how their actions have hurt you and put the onus of maintaining the relationship on their child. Childhood Emotional Neglect is as harmful as abuse.

Dee is me all the way 🎉😂 she put a lot of things in perspective a CRITICAL THINKER if you will 💯💯💯

Sadly, both of my parents are worse. They lie, are manipulative, narcissistic, mentally and emotionally abusive, gaslit the hell outta me most of my life, and other traumatic things. I can care less about trying to mend relationships with people that’s not going to take accountability ever. I just turned 30 in December and it’s still hard for me to build relationships and friendships with people cause I don’t trust people at all. I’m still working on myself.

18:40 “Are you dumb, egghead?” Had me on the floor

4:45 DEE CANNOT WITH YOU 😭 LMFAOOOOOOO

I think he says that cause Monique calls her man “daddy” so I took it as a slight shade or jab lol

I watched Monique's Club Shay Shay interview and there were some things that I agreed with that she said, but there were others like this situation with her son that I did not agree with, especially since it hit home for me for personal reasons. Seeing her son's response to what she said in the interview, definitely provides a lot of context and I agree with everything that he is saying. He fully states that he did not want monetary things or possessions, he wanted the love of nurturing of a mother, which she did not provide. Monique and her husband's response to that was to point out that they paid some things off for him and gave him gifts that he should be grateful for even though he fully stated that he didn't want that. And let's point out that in them mentioning that they gave him these things, they never said that he asked for it, just that they gave it to him and expected him to be grateful for it. Also, you can clearly you see that the husband seems to be speaking the most in the response video, which i don't understand because the issue is between Monique and her son. During the interview with Shay Shay, she did mention that a lot of people have problems when their husband speaks up for her, and I didn't see an issue with it because sometimes obviously you want your husband by your side and he's her manager as well. However, seeing this response video now, if that's how it always is with other people, I can kind of understand people's issues with it. While he is her husband and should offer her support, she should not be letting him speak for her, especially in an issue like this. Doesn't matter that this man has been uncle to him throughout his life. This is a mother-son issue. She should be the one addressing her son, not the husband addressing him for her. And the husband mentioned that her son never talked about his bad relationship with his father. Why would he? His father, as far as we know, never came out publicly talking about their relationship together. Only his mother brought up the relationship, or lack thereof, with her son, so her son addressed what his mother said. Why would he address his father when his father never said anything public that he needed to address? Monique also never mentioned her son's father and their relationship, so again, no need for the son to address it.

Happy Valentine’s Day. Tho I’m single I’m happy with myself

This is why step parents have a bad rep, check your wife and stop trying to blame the kid

Happy Valentine's Day Dee and Shanellites ( ˘ ³˘)♥︎

This is sadly more common than people think . My relationship with my mother is similar to this . I believe that many of our parents is too dysfunctional and toxic to be healthy in our lives . It’s best to leave them alone .

“let time do the healing” is her way of saying she don’t give a fuck enough to actually fix the relationship. i’d never expect my child to come to me if something happened between me and them. that’s the parent’s responsibility.

He put out a response!

You need to talk to your kids so that when they're older they will talk to you. It's way easier to continue a conversation than it is to start one.

I said the same thingggg….why is he talking? He’s loud AND WRONG! When he married Mo’Nique…..her son became his son too (no matter his age)! 😒 You’re a step parent!

FOR DEE TO KNOW SINCE SHE ASKED [kinda]: Short answer: yes, you can use your perfumes even if it has been a long time. Long answer: Used/Opened: Perfumes last 12 - 18 months.😊 But if never used/opened perfumes can last for years up to decades depending on the ingredients and packaging. Average life span is 3 - 5 years for MOST perfumes.

Parents do and say such hurtful things to their children. Then they wonder why their children have strained relationships with them or don't want relationships with them at all in adulthood. If you treat your children like human beings who are deserving of dignity and respect instead of like second class citizens we wouldn't see a lot of the issues we see in society today.

18:39 EXACTLY! "are you dumb?" And go to hell immediately they are proving the child's point 👁👄👁

I agree that if Monique hasn’t tried hard enough to reconcile then she should. But if she has, that’s on her son atp. He’s a grown man & can do what he pleases. If she’s already apologized for the past & put forth a lot of effort to reconcile, you really can’t force a grown man to fuck with you if they don’t want to.

he talked about how he wanted real love and not stuff bought for him and the first thing out that womens mouth was about money...

After this latest bullshit I stopped following Monique. I can't respect the way she's hiding behind her husband. She needs to deal with the pain she's caused Shalon PRIVATELY. I do think Shalon is hurt and that he needs Monique to make things right even though he's saying differently. She really fucked him up and she needs to detach from her husband and start making phone calls to her son. Legitimate phone calls. Not talking about money but really talking about how sorry she is for fucking him up. As a mom I know it feels to be called out by your kids. I RAISED them to be that way so if and when they call me out on my bullshit I reflect on it. I apologize and I make CHANGES. That's how I'm able to have close relationships with my kids NOW. They're 35, 32, and 23. My son is the oldest. My daughter's are the ones I had to do the most work with and I didn't have a "daddy" to hide behind because THATS what she's doing. She's hiding behind Sydney. That needs to stop. He shouldn't be addressing Shalon at ALL. Shalon has resentment toward Sydney but most of it is toward Monique. She needs to get off the internet and fix that.

Her son is incredibly insightful and EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENT, which is something that both Monique and her husband seem to be lacking. Perfume does expire, Dee, but it takes YEARS. Heat, humidity, & light exposure will all speed up that process. But you’ll definitely know if you spray it. Most modern perfumes are made with fixatives that keep their scent for a very long time.

50 Cent's son, TI's son King, now Monique's son. Who's next Will Smith's oldest son? Their parents chose these careers that would take them away from their families, regardless of intentions. I would understand if you just don't want your kids in the lime light like this. My thing is this is a common thing among families who've had their kids young. That level of disconnect from the older kids who were born during a time when they weren't ready to have kids

“He needs some chapstick” Dee* puts on chapstick

Mo'nique just feels cold. Like you know how come people feel personable and warm? She doesn't. She just seems really distant and fake and cold af.

A lot of us can relate but and a lot of us made in spite of the neglect. Props to him

4:33 yes. This is me and what I have experienced. And I’m often told I need to be the bigger person by my brother because “our dad is unlikely to change due to his age”. So I need to be the bigger person and continue to be dogged on by someone 30 years older than me? Whatever man.

It really sad bc it sounds like they both hate her son. Funny how parents can acknowledge “hey I know I destroyed you mentally and our relationship but I am acknowledging it now and… sorry 🤷🏽‍♀️ so now the ball is in your court.” Like wtf.

With African parents it's like the enhanced version tbh😂

As black man around the same age as Monique's son, this video and a lot of the comments are making me further realize something I already knew. If there's a such thing as a parental lottery, then I won the biggest jackpot. And this is despite the fact that my mother in particular had a really traumatic childhood due to abusive and neglectful parenting. To this day I only acknowledge and have had any type of relationship with one grandparent, which is my grandmother on my Dad's side. So, I'm grateful my parents chose to break the cycle when they had children.

4:20 “OHHHH OHHHHH!!!” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Yea that last little “you wanted to call me your father” info he shared is disgusting. They know exactly why they shared that. They were trying to be petty and throw a shot at, what they know is a side affect of what she did. And to sit there quietly why yur “daddy” says that about your son? She ain’t sit still that whole video she know what tf she did😂

Again!! Amen!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

It will always creep me out that Monique calls her husband her "daddy." That man has caused so many issues for her in her career and personal life but she just excuses it.

For the longest I been saying Monique never takes accountability for anything, and to hear her own son say it tells a lot. And why is her husband doing so much talking in the response??? And I hate how they mention what they did financially for him, you can’t throw money at him and expect it to be all good when you weren’t a good parent. I also feel Monique is gonna keep playing the victim to stay relevant, I’m getting tired of it.

2:06 Dee funny asf😭😂😂😂😂

Why in tf is "Daddy/Uncle" speaking for Mo?! Monique shouldn't respond on social media/camera. I fk wit Mo but I'm on her son's side with this. Daddy needs to go on a walk or something

literally all that video did with Monique and her husband was just proved her son’s point even more. i have the exact situation going on with my father, instead of admitting they’re in the wrong and actually putting forward the effort to be in your kids lives, instead he doesn’t take any accountability and blames it on the kids for not reaching out to him first. like what-

When i say Dee said every word i said i just laughed

18:42, yo they lookin like elderly mr and mrs potato head😂😂😂😂

Best response for parents like this is get your own and turn your back on them for ever. Even if it means move out of your own country. Choose your new family!

I don’t think it’s just a black parent problem, I think it’s more of the “older” conservative/christian/church influenced parents. I definitely have/still have many of the same issues. It’s sickening and heart breaking hearing the way they speak to and about her son, as a mom I literally could not imagine not speaking to my child for an entire month let alone 3 years! there is no excuse for that. These old school parents are pathetic when it comes to looking in the mirror taking accountability, and making changes to make it right! The whole stay in a child’s place and your grown and require no love or support after 18 is toxic and so damaging!

Amen!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

And if he didn't want to be a father figure in his life when he asked why does he feel the need to talk on the situation cuz he wasn't even talking about him like I just feel like that's stupid you don't want to be his father figure but you still feel like you can tell him how he should be feel or act like no

It bothers me that he doesn’t accept him as his son. If he’s known him his whole life, that should be easy. Calling him his nephew is ODD. And why isn’t Monique speaking! Why does this man gotta be her mouthpiece all the time! If he ain’t his daddy, then STFU. But her saying let this play out is weird too bc why would she want us to see any of this? It’s like she is so wrapped in being right, more than she is with having a relationship with her child.

I hate when people say "pray to the universe.' Why not God? Why are you praying to a creation and not the Creator?

Why is Sydney even there? I understand he’s her manager but this isn’t a business call… This was supposed to be a personal response to her son..?