Thoughtful mom. Love how she says her daughter is living her best life and doesn't want to make her daughter worry about looking perfect.

I don’t know where stained clothes equaled neglect, but people acting like kids being messy is sometime new. Now if she went to school dirty, unkempt & smelly, that’s different.

As a daycare director I absolutely agree with this mom 💯❤

My younger brother had a shirt specifically for taco day at school

I 1000% agree with this! Let your kids even inherit play - clothes from others (that are still wearable ofc). I'm a kindergarten - teacher (or a child - and youthworker as we call it here) and we expect children to be children. Jump in puddles, paint with their whole body and everything in between. The kids are going to come home with stains no matter who you are or what you do. The goal is not to be pristine, but to learn about everything, make friends and have fun while discovering who they are. These children are our future - let them be kids while they can! 🙏😄❤️

Kids don't remember the clothes, they remember how they got the stain.

Thank you I was kind of scared sending my 5 yr old to school with his stained clean sweater I didn’t know if they were going to think I was being neglectful

My preschooler often comes home with marker on his clothes. So he has jackets specifically for preschool that I don't care about getting stained

I spent several years working in daycare with all ages and 3 years specifically teaching preschool and this mom is so right! Stained clothes are not dirty… they are just clothes kids don’t have to worry about staining!

I work in a low income part of England as a nursery, reception and year 1 TA. We get a lot of children coming to school wearing stained, consumed, hand-me-down uniforms. But the uniforms are clean and smell lovely, and the children are always fresh out of the bath, happy, well rested and well fed. It never crossed my mind to ever tell a parent that their 3 to 6 year old child should always have a pristine uniform, no matter if they're going to grow out of it in less than a year anyway, if it's going to get permanently stained in one single afternoon and if they have 4 or 5 more children to send to school. I see those stains as a sign of a happy child living a happy childhood. Grass, dirt, paint, blood from skinned knees, yummy food, markers, juice and unexplainable matter. I want to see all those stains, and only then I'll be satisfied knowing we are all providing our most precious gifts from above the best life possible ❤

Where I'm from, this is actually the NORM. Parents shouldn't really be angry at their kids for staining their clothes. It's part of learning. Unless they are part of the "AESTHETIC COMMUNITY"😅

Like when Maria dresses the Von Trapp children in old drapes bc they didn't have any play clothes

My mom still has 2 little art smocks that my brother and I decorated and used in daycare back in the 80s. They’re all stained and full of whatever mess we created.

Kudos mom! I do the same with my 5 year old. She comes home with stains in her clothes and she would say, “ Sorry mama, I got dirty.” But I just ask her one thing… “ Did you have fun in school?”and the only answer that I want to hear is “yes!” Nothing matters more than these kids learn through purposeful play.

I have a casual dress with a stain. I put it in the laundry every week. I don't apologize for the stain on my dress. Thank you for amplifying stains on dry clothes

As a parent and teacher. I totally agree. I am tired of buying clothes weekly for my 3 year old to come back home in red dirt stained clothes from the playground. It’s very expensive.

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Shout stain spray is wonderful!! Just spray every stain as they take the clothes off and throw in the hamper to sit at least a couple of hours and then just do the laundry and most all go away. But who cares if a child wears something stained to play in. They're having fun ❤️

I agree with this mom. It took me 3 days to get washable marker stains off a dress with alcohol and oxyclean. Some were stubborn…I gave up and let her wear it with the stain and said we’d be learning how to tie dye clothes from now on.

Yep, I think the depends on the age and the child. A lot of children don’t care about whether what they’re wearing has stains-the only time it’s different is if it’s a stain from something that is embarrassing that the child WILL care about. A “stain” is not dirty; if the clothes are clean, they still might have stains.

I agree , three years old doesn’t need new clothes all the time, they outgrow fast so let them wear stained clean clothes

I agree! I do it all the time, especially when it is a favorite of his. My son doesn’t mind, and neither do I. Let’s go to school son! 😊 ❤

That must be in y'all community. As soon as I send my kid like that they calling CPS.

100%. Kids learn through play and should never be held back by their clothing. Stains are just a sign of a good time!

Growing up I had nice clothes and play clothes. My partner had a horrific experience growing up for staining a new pair of pants at school he was abused terribly for everything but he was playing and got muddy at a school and his crazy family was convinced his 7 year old self did it to spite them. So he got beat, people are insane. Kids are messy let them be.

My granddaughter is 10 and loves clothes but is constantly getting stains, paint, marker and other stuff on them. I always ask her to try to be more careful, but it doesn’t help.

Thank you😞🤦🏽‍♀️😂😂😂😂My 12th grader is still doing this lol

Actually it isnt. Not because it makes you a bad mom, but because repeatedly doing so will cause a lot of schools to call CPS and judge the rest of your parenting and home life as unfit. Especially if your child is special needs. You should find it a privilege that no one judges your parenting as harshly as they do special needs kids parents. I have seen this over and over.

As a daycare/preschool teacher, the difference between stained and dirty is very obvious. Kids are messy, shit happens. I dont mind stained clothes because for some reason spaghetti is part of our meal plan and we dont always have enough smocks for everyone. Honestly please dont send your kids in their sunday best, there is no garuntee it will stay clean and it hinders your child's ability to play and be a kid. Now if you're sending your child in the same clothes for a week straight that mysteriously started smelling like pee on Wednesday, or matted dirty hair, then we're gonna have a problem. Thats neglect and that's not okay.

I have a seven year old boy…. I send his little butt in stained pants often…. He’s ALWAYS getting dirt of recess and ink from his markers…. What am I gonna do? Yell at him o to stay clean? Spend money I don’t have on new clothes he grows out of in two months? Yea right hahah!!

My son has sensory issues so he refused to get dirty when he was younger, my 3 year old daughter on the other hand does not care. She has clothes specifically for daycare, and oxiclean is a must to get most of the stains out.

All she needs is a Fels Naptha laundry bar and her daughter can live her best life and have stain-free clothes. I spend a lot of time getting stains out of my kiddos clothes because I take pride in keeping our clothes in great shape so they can be passed down to younger kids in our family.

Love this!!! My almost 10 year old has those stained prints on her knees from playing at the playground. I wash laundry daily. I also let her change her clothes at many times as she wants at home. I can’t afford a new outfit for every day of her 18 years of life. Clothes are clean but stains are permanent.

I totally agree with this!

The way I used to drive my mom crazy in my adolescence from wiping the graphite off my fingers from shading the still life sketches I did wherever I was! I hated using the shading sticks since my fingers did such a better job, but man, that stuff got EVERYWHERE and I was OBSESSED with sketching!

Aww I’m glad you said something, my 9 year old is so messy it’s just part of who she is, her only clothes not stained is clothes I’ve bought for concerts 😂

I get bundles of clothes for my toddler from Vinted. Most of the time the clothes are unused but there are some that are. Im saving loads by not buying new and its not a big deal when they get messy/stained. She also gets hand me downs from her older sister.

Thanks I needed to hear tht

Good for you mom!

If they already go to school in clothes that are stained, it save them the trouble of staining the clothes while they’re there ha ha

If your kids get stains, you could have them wear pinafores over their dresses or aprons… and for the knees with grass or mud stains, put stain remover on the minute they get home, and soak them… most stains will come out. Patches on knees might help too, they do make iron on ones.

Absolutely!

As moms, we have the fancy pile of clothes, presentable clothes, school clothes/stained clothes so we can pick accordingly. I use some old dresses as pjs too!

Right, when I was a kid I got 2 brand new outfits twice a year, Christmas and Easter. The rest of the time I wore hand me downs and garage sale finds. All it did was turn me into an adult that can dress well for super cheap.

I had a family member whose older child was not even a year apart from my youngest so she would pass down his clothes to us. I never had to buy clothes because the giving well was plentiful and I was great full

If i had a kid that took after me they'd have to all black & only black. There's a reason I change my clothes as soon as I get home into my house clothes & its because I WILL stain the crap out of them. I also craft in them. But thats not why they get stained. I'm just naturally messy when relaxed. I tend to keep using the same old stained but clean clothing in my home for years upon years. It also makes my good clothes last longer. Kids have always had play clothes that were meant to have life happen to them. But if this is a problem you can always redye the clothes another probably darker color.

I've always used oxiclean

People put too much emphasis on looks. Stop projecting on to kids! They don’t need to match, their clothes gets stained! They are happy and healthy and that’s all that matters!

Agreed.

I have a 6 year old who is also autistic and very messy and he stays his clothes all the time and I can't afford to replace them every time he stands them so yeah I put my son in stain clothes as well now if we're going to town or going out to eat that's a different story you know if we're going to like a family function depending on what we're doing where we're going we were going to be with nine times out of 10 he will have stained clothes on

Why did this even make the news? Lol

It depends on the age. If she is grade 2 I would not do that. Kids are picky and it there is the chance she can get bullied.

When my daughter was in preschool, I gave the daycare an art bib for her to wear. I grew up wearing smocks during art, not sure why that practice went away. Also not sure why preschoolers need markers. Give them crayons until they know not to mark up the whole room and themselves.

My boys favorite shirts have paint on them from school. It wont come out, but its stll their favorite shirt 🤷🏻‍♀️

Did just that this morning

My job is to do laundy and soak the stain cloths for a 3 and 7 year old. I get paid 30 and hour for this... Not everyone can afford that.

Im this mom. lol, as long as my kids are clean I don't care if have stains. Or even holes in the knees of the pants. She's happy.

That’s why I never wore my best clothes to work (work with a lot of preschool kids. They can be messy but that’s ok, play is messy and important for child development. But please, wipe the food off their face….

She will get bullied in elementary school if she goes to school in stained stuff.

Only in America

Shoot I am an adult and I do clean stained clothing. Off second hand too. Same for my child. Everyone know he is well cared for. He is not a doll to dress up.

While she does art, she can wear a smock to protect her shirt and pants.

Soak in oxi for a good amount of time. Evena few days. Most stains will come out. 🧚🏻‍♂️

Agreed

Amen

Imo u can still send ur kid in clothes a day or so in a row not underwear ofc but as a autistic I like to wear my comfy clothes

If your a homeschooler its worse. People look for any excuse. Thats why alot of homeschoolers look like they live on a farm or just came from church.

I do the same. Idc.

My kids are in hamd me downs from cousins so we don't add more clothes waste. My 2nd kid is wearing shirts that have small stains from 3 kids prior. I don't care because they are clean and still in good shape except for a paint, marker, grass stain. Oh well lol. Not gonna buy cheap fast fashion to keep my little mud magnet spotless every day all day. I'd rather see a happy active kid with stained knees in jeans than thr kid terrified to get dirty because mom will get mad if they stain their dress and white tights. Let kids be kids and embrace the stains. There is already waaaaaay too much clothing waste in kids to need to replace every sweater or pants due to a small mark.

Where I'm from cps gets called

💯!! We have kids! Not TikTok influencers! Who the fudge cares?! If you care get a life.

I went to school with grass strains on my pants lol its fine

We had kids come in with Gucci clothes often, with parents demanding that they don't get dirty. As soon as the parents left we would change the kids into play clothes, then change them again into the Gucci. If the parents were really rude, as soon as the parents left, we would make sure a huge stain would occur on the Gucci outfit, and then say, " whoops, sorry".

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Real life .😊

I did it this morning. 😂

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Only americans need this reminder. This is a given everywhere else.

Oh, I’m *sorry*, is someone actually complaining about a THREE YEAR OLD coming to school in “stained” clothes? The freaking *audacity*.

Yes, now let’s stop putting pressure on kids to have dog manners, get rid of the dogs and put kids health and life first!

I am this like of mom that can’t stand stains on my girls clothes.. I felt like it’s embarrassing sending ur kids on those clothes even if it’s clean stained clothes. I have one full trash bags here with those stained clothes mostly worn for two weeks and stained so I have to buy more clothes again. Thank you for this video now I know it’s OKAY . Not to mention everything is so expensive now! Just bought my girls Jean shorts from target and it’s $15 ea! Now I’m going back to the trash bags hahahah ..

Why don't western countries take cues from developing countries like ours and let learners wear uniforms? It will save you a lot of time and resources.

Get Shout or stain removal.

Just dry her clothes out in the sun that will get rid of the stains .

I don’t see anything wrong with this at all

I mean if they messy why not have them wear darker clothes.

As long as they’ve been cleaned who cares

Americans are too image driven. In Australia we purposely send our kids to kindy and daycare wearing clothes we bought from the thrift store that are already messed up 😂. People regularly sell kids clothes with the caption…’stained…still good for daycare ‘😂

the economy is in ruins, look at the bigger picture, we cant afford what we used to. elections have consequences,

Seriously this is nothing new. Come on. How is this a topic.

NOBODY CARES

The teachers said they prefer for kids to come wearing PLAY clothes not STAINED clothes. There is stain remover at all grocery stores to remove the stains. I’ve used stain remover faithfully.

When she does this, it’s viewed as being practical… When Black parents do this, it’s seen as neglect.

I'd like to see these parents, wear stain cloth to a Sunday Outing.🙄

Back in my day we had school clothes and play clothes. Then again we had respect. Clothes cost a lot of money. We took care of our stuff. Clearly mom doesn't care

Lmao i cant believe this is getting attention. 2 words people school uniforms. Or you could just send your kid with clean clothes every day which is not hard.

Stain remover exists , and now they have some you just throw in the wash. But for schools it is a health and safety issue if you keep sending kids to school in stained clothes. Even if the stain happened at the school

I 1000% agree with this! Let your kids even inherit play - clothes from others (that are still wearable ofc). I'm a kindergarten - teacher (or a child - and youthworker as we call it here) and we expect children to be children. Jump in puddles, paint with their whole body and everything in between. The kids are going to come home with stains no matter who you are or what you do. The goal is not to be pristine, but to learn about everything, make friends and have fun while discovering who they are. These children are our future - let them be kids while they can! 🙏😄❤️