Though it may sound ludicrous at first blush, most men in the western world are romantics. To understand why this is the case, we need to clarify the core belief of romanticism that dwells in the heart of hearts of most men, namely: "I can be loved for who I am." For better or worse, this is not the basis of an adult relationship with women. Men need to provide value to secure mating and dating opportunities. This is the red pill in one sentence. Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jdiIdd2Cl66odYU.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzfaq.info/love/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Sponsor an episode: oriontarabanpsyd.com/sponsor-an-episode Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #dating #relationship
@WoziduranJahemter Жыл бұрын
There is a larger dynamic to be observered, there are abusers that abuse women in order to make them act recklessly when they find a good man, if they have unhealed traumas they ruin a good relationship potential with a decent guy. Hurt people hurt people.
@DeepInsideZettaiRyouiki Жыл бұрын
You people are lost and drown deeper and deeper. P.s. What about badboys that provide NADA, nothing and parasite upon a woman, yet got choosen and being toxic woman still refuse tonleave or even return after breakup. Nope... HUMANITY IS TRAUMATIZED AND SICK, you mix LUST and TRAUMA RELIVING challange to overcome with love. You don't know what love is and poser as psychiatrist and an adult.
@tancreddehauteville764 Жыл бұрын
@@wileyann9449 You just chose the wrong guy. Stop going for asshole Alpha males and go for a quiet geek instead.
@briant5135 Жыл бұрын
Then why did my single mom tell me to be prince charming, kind and sweet wtf?
@anotherpilgrim8313 Жыл бұрын
Then why do some women date losers? If his instrumental value is emotional, then isn't that her liking him for who he is?
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
"Men value love while Women love value" and "Men are in love. Women are in business" are phrases often used in the manosphere. In reality, these phrases may actually relate to the biological fact that men are just trying to access mating opportunities with women, and women are just trying to ensure their own and their kids survival.
@marcusmcgraw3519 Жыл бұрын
Which is why men are pussies for begging for chances with women. Plain and simple
@riceball1232 Жыл бұрын
funny how looking for mating opportunies in a very self-interested way is branded as innocent love in the manosphere, while reality is both men and women are driven by evolutionary instincts
@titsbitchmcgee7502 Жыл бұрын
If that was actually the case then no man would bother sticking around to support a wife & children. The whole idea behind romanticism is about reducing the number of mating opportunities that a man's evolutionary instinct inclines him to take.
@frcomet5009 Жыл бұрын
This is actually the truth women accomplish more then men. So while men are still trying nd working hard to obtain sex the woman has already had lots of sex since middle or high school nd know she can fuck almost anyone she wants so she starts looking for more. While the man is still trying to get past level 1 the woman is already on level 3.
@patriceesela5000 Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@_6-6_ Жыл бұрын
My first girlfriend didn’t fall in love with me until she saw me DJing a party. She saw me in a leadership position, smiling and having a good time. She always commented on my passion. She wasn’t in love with me- she was in love with my lifestyle. This was true when later on (I began to cater to her every need and slowed down on my hobbies) she broke up with me without further discussion. It wasn’t a “can we talk” or “I want to be with you but…” it was just “we need to break up.” Doesn’t matter that she was saying I love you the night before and that we were laughing and kissing before. She no longer saw me as a potential partner. Even though I loved her through her own faults and weaknesses as soon as I had my own phase it was just “see ya”.
@mitragyninethespeciosa6891 Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry, I wish the world wasn't so cruel.
@sammyb1651 Жыл бұрын
Yup. Willing to bet most men have at least one of those stories!
@johngalt6838 Жыл бұрын
******* And that "love" only lasts a while.
@macrowolf7 Жыл бұрын
Preach, brother. I fully get you what you're saying.
@hypergraphic Жыл бұрын
I can so relate. I met my wife when I was a minister, and she saw me preaching in front of the congregation. Even though I was broke, because I had status in that community, she was interested in me. And when I left the ministry, things started to go downhill after that.
@sayuri39178 ай бұрын
I think this channel is a gem. We women are led to believe that "men don't want romance." The other day I was on KZfaq and rewatched a scene from "The Last Samurai" (Tom Cruise) in which Taka dresses Nathan for war. I was surprised by the number of comments from men saying how beautiful they thought that scene was and that they thought it was even more sublime because there was no sex. That they would die for a woman who looked at him like that. Yeah, we women really don't understand men. I'm glad I found this channel. I will certainly have a more empathetic view next time I meet someone. I think we are all dealing with relationships in very defensive positions and missing out on good opportunities. Thank you, doctor! 🙏
@rose92ful7 ай бұрын
100%%
@BaronHalcyon5 ай бұрын
Very happy to hear from a woman who gets it.
@nelsonzambrano57885 ай бұрын
Watching the last samurai and picked up on that? Impressive!
@rodriguesaplacino66125 ай бұрын
If you have not attracted every man you ever wanted before, now you certainly will 😌 But you will probably hurt him right after and he will end up here anyway 😆
@paulcolin907116 күн бұрын
Agree
@DanTheManGruen Жыл бұрын
I used to be a hopeless romantic and now I’m just hopeless.
@neoreign Жыл бұрын
You're supposed to use this knowledge to be absolutely ruthless not 'hopeless' lol
@DanTheManGruen Жыл бұрын
@@neoreign oh I guess I missed the memo. But seriously fukkkk being ruthless.
@SpookyGhost114 ай бұрын
@@neoreign ...To what end?
@yechris200129 күн бұрын
@@neoreignyup, ruthlessness is the name of the game
@vipondiu Жыл бұрын
If only I could turn back time and show these 8 minutes to my younger self...... To fully learn this took me years in my youth. It feels like truly wasted time when the lesson could be destilled to something that simple. But it is what it is, cheers
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
it is such a shame I have learnt all this stuff after my divorce (where I lost my money, house and kid). the problem is, I would have never believed this video before my divorce, because I thought women were special, and amazing, and heaven-sent.
@FergusHodgson Жыл бұрын
Agreed. I learned the hard way and wasted so much time and money seeking something that just was not there. Learning this hurt me, but that is just reality.
@psychacks Жыл бұрын
Better late than never. You still have the rest of your life.
@scottverge938 Жыл бұрын
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 I felt the same way about my ex wife. She was amazingly loyal. Right up until she wasn't and it broke my world.
@thomaskatt4450 Жыл бұрын
Ancient saying, "when is the best time to plant an oak tree ? 100 years ago. When is the second best time to plant an oak tree ? TODAY.
@fre1786 Жыл бұрын
I am a young heartbroken man. Your videos have been healing me. I understand the nature of women to a much deeper extent and my pain is vanishing. God speed. Riccardo
@maxcavalera979711 ай бұрын
Feel ya. Beingn young man is tough in the sexual marketplace. Those women your age, are being sought after by male aged 18-50 years old. 😅😅
@superboy36339 ай бұрын
I understand you bros. Stay strong and wise💪🧐
@blackfishgaming7145 Жыл бұрын
I’m 48, done a lot of work on myself, went back to school, got a degree at 40. I’m now working at a great job making 6 figures. I did all of that due to the reality that women’s love is transactional. I lived the fantasy this guy is talking about. Now that I’ve found a level of “success” as defined by most women, I’ve come to a place where I no longer want to bother dating. The return of investment is simply not enough. What they give in return is pennies on the dollar (if I were to quantify it)
@marcoluiz9694 Жыл бұрын
Wich degree did you get? Thinking about going back to school but I feel a bit old for it
@deepaklachman9340 Жыл бұрын
@@marcoluiz9694 you will get older nevertheless. It's better to get older with a degree than to get older without one. If you think it will enhance your life and open a passage to experience a bigger slice of life than don't let anything stop you brother.
@deepaklachman9340 Жыл бұрын
Very inspiring to hear that you got the job done and eventually got your degree. Kuddos to you sir.
@edwardyoutube Жыл бұрын
True. You end up getting way more attached and interested to your own money and success than on women. The reward and satisfaction given by your own success is way superior in quality to what you can get from women. Sorry to say this ugly truth, but once you are a successful guy you look at them almost like they're opportunistic parasites.
@DionLYA Жыл бұрын
Computer science degree?
@doctornazgul547 Жыл бұрын
This reminds me of the famous manosphere quote: "Women are human beings, men are human doings."
@jack_galt Жыл бұрын
Also, "Women are born, men are made."
@Krash845 Жыл бұрын
I’m surprised men still pursue relationships after hearing this truth. It’s like Christmas just isn’t the same for a child after finding out Santa Claus doesn’t exist.
@TheOutlierToday Жыл бұрын
Yeah. I always knew this but it was hard to hear
@nocapnobs7845 Жыл бұрын
I stopped in February 2018 :) I realized women are always "what have you done for me LATELY" NOT even what you've done in the past but you're always on a trial basis. Meanwhile women can get fat and men won't throw them out of the house lol
@Ed-xv4sy Жыл бұрын
@@TheOutlierToday so you've always known this and yet continued to ignore reality?
@TheOutlierToday Жыл бұрын
@@Ed-xv4sy where did I say that I ignore reality? I'm just saying it's still hard for me to hear.
@marktapley7571 Жыл бұрын
First you believe in Santa, next you don’t believe in Santa and finally you are Santa.
@leviathon2 Жыл бұрын
I've seen the evidence first hand. My brother was in a long term commited relationship. He became ill land as he worked for himself his life collapsed. I remember dealing with his partner and over a period of a few weeks at the beginning and witnessing the realisation come over her that her life was going to change radically as the income stopped. It only took aboout 6 weeks before she was out like a scalded cat on the back of some lame excuse. Never heard from her since. That experience really changed my outlook on a woman's motivation in 'love'.
@forgottenfuryan Жыл бұрын
Muney ❤
@DaveCollins123 Жыл бұрын
Women are just there for what they can get - nothing else.
@adsmith12263 ай бұрын
But statistics show that when a woman gets ill the man is more likely to leave.
@Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero Жыл бұрын
And there it is. What you want, doesn't exist. Enjoy the ride gentlemen. This opens up so many options. If women are free to never love you for who you are, you are free from spending your life trying to give them what they want. In a world where the former basis of relationships (sex) is exchanged on the front end, this is actually a great benefit to you.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
for most men, it will be too hard to unlearn all the hollywood brainwashing. so many will continue to get married without pre-nups.
@toddjohnson271 Жыл бұрын
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 pre nups get thrown out.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
@@Khan-rz8qi RIP beta male provider husbands. Your wife really wants Chad and Tyrone but could never lock them down despite her "best efforts" (swallow, etc).
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
@@user-us4qc5zt3n Chad and Tyrone are on the right path. Get the physical intimacy upfront, and then a few months later get out of the relationship. There's no need staying in the relationship and letting her continually extracting value from you. Marriage is a complete disaster for men from a value extraction point of view.
@user-hx5hu4wx4k Жыл бұрын
It is incredibly liberating because many men think that in order to be fulfilled complete human being they need to find a soulmate. Once you realize the painful harsh reality that women love opportunistically, you no longer have to orient your entire life around slaving away for one again.
@dwightbrown Жыл бұрын
You nailed it again. This sobering truth is not told to men, they must experience it for themselves through cold hard reality.
@Oneandonly-xn5ey Жыл бұрын
Sounds about right. I make almost half a mil a year. I hide it from women i meet hoping they will tell me they like me the way i am. I guess i am truely romantic. 😅. Your video has been solving a lot of my self understanding issues. 🎉
@neoreign Жыл бұрын
dum dum lol
@Khan-rz8qi Жыл бұрын
I’m a very attractive guy and even though I’ve always been red-pilled my whole life because of my father, I truly woke up when I started sleeping with a series of women who were married to wealthy men. They would only be with those guys because they can afford to give them a good life, but deep down I’m the type of guy they truly crave because I look good and got good charm. Based in my experiences, you will never truly understand pure and raw attraction from women if you aren’t a naturally attractive men. That’s just the way life goes.💯
@Oneandonly-xn5ey Жыл бұрын
@@Khan-rz8qi Well i used to be poor so i know how these girls think. They have to appreciate you first to appreciate the things u give them. Agreed with the raw attraction thing. It needs to be tested before they know u have money.
@mbg9650 Жыл бұрын
It is right. Lead with your wallet & you'll have an abundance of gold diggers after your resources.
@jackdeniston59 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, you think you hide it but it will show in how you behave. The 'ease of walking the world' is how one woman described it. Look for women who come from wealth.
@JaySmith-pv2mw Жыл бұрын
Oh, how I wish I had learned this a long time ago. It would have saved me so much heartache and squandered resources. It took me 57 years to have the epiphany. Never again!
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
💯% facts. i had to lose my money, house and kid in divorce, before I took the red pill and began accessing this stuff. i would have never believed it before my divorce. as the saying goes, a man will sacrifice his life for a woman. a woman will sacrifice her man for her life.
@bernibeckmann9753 Жыл бұрын
I was 56. So I guess I win this round.
@Rockownz5150 Жыл бұрын
And you would have done what instead? Not talked to women? Just convinced them to bang you (somehow) and the hit the bricks every single time?
@gustavocve1779 Жыл бұрын
Most women I dated hated romance. They liked the effort and display of resources, cause it showed how commited I was to the relation, but they themselves never showed much romance in return. I know most women I dated left because of my status. When I lived in a big house and had a nice car, I had no problem keeping relationships for years. By the time I got unemployed and had to move to a simpler place, no girl would date me for "who I am", even though I had reserves and never let them pay for anything. Then I moved to a better life again, but it was never enough, specially dating "up". If the girl has a better job or earn more than you, she just leaves to find a better option. No love, romance, sex, or connection can change that. Women are on it for the business, meanwhile men never care for those things... If we love someone, we truly love someone as long as there is sexual attraction and some connection.
@gaylahibner11 ай бұрын
Yeah you men truly love them..till they get fat. Or get cancer. Or you have a chance with a prettier girl. It’s not love motivating men either. It’s sexual attraction you told yourself is love.
@jochem19867 ай бұрын
My first girlfriend wrote me 200 reasons why she loved me. It didn't matter that I left my job, it didn't matter that I was living far away, it didn't matter what I did. On the contrary, my colleague who I've been in love with for a year and a half appreciates that my side hustle is growing rapidly, that I'm an award winning designer, that my social life is becoming very healthy, and that all of our design students look up to me. But she doesn't love me back. I'm just not her type. So in my eyes, this video is quite a gross generalization. I've had women love me when I was a nobody, and I've had women not love me when I was rather successful.
@mrreliable22207 ай бұрын
@@jochem1986 I agree. These generalizations are very bad because it places to much importance on one factor when people including women are extremely different. For the sake of helping a random man that reads this.. In my biased opinion there are 3 things you can offer a women and if you provide 1 of the 3 women will date you if you provide 2 of the 3 women will love you and if you provide 3 of 3 women will be obsessed with you and all three hold the same value non above the other contrary to what most believe. 1. Resources (doesn't have to be rich) as long as you have money to sustain courting, delicious dinner, dates, travelling, activities in other words your spending money to give her an experience these things will beat cars and houses 10/10 times because it is something she can have while a car and house is yours (unless you got married and she is plotting to have your house, joke). 2. Physical attractiveness , ignore what women say about this... Women do want a strong naturally muscular physic and a handsome face to come with it. If you ask attractive athletic man with an average job if he has issues getting women you will soon learn it is not the case, you will also find that lots of accident babies come from these kinds of men simple because they offer women strong genetics. Women don't want ugly kids, and willing to have kids with men who offer strong genes. Believe it or not only the few athletic and handsome men can attest to this. I can use myself as an example, i have dated multiple rich women with houses and all and i would always stay at their place, non of these women would make me use a condom or care much or at all if they got pregnant they also always wanted a long term relationship with me and would put effort ( tips for dating a women with more money than you... Don't care about what she has, it will never be yours...and spend your money on her like you normally would.. go to places you can afford and do fun things within your lane don't bother competing with what her rich family or friends do for her and offer a unique chill experience). Lastly for Physical attractiveness, learn to get good in bed. If you can't consistently give a girl an orgasm or don't think it is important your hopeless and women won't love you the way they do me, take the initiative get a vibrator and show dominance to the women by giving her multiple types of orgasms, Vibrators, finger, tongue, penetration all, educate yourself in the art of sexually pleasing a women and you will see just how much more women want sex than men. 3. Emotional Stability I won't write much more, but for this it is simple enough. Have a consistent personality and stable emotions. You can laugh and make jokes but only when it makes sense like your both playing a board game, be serious and decisive when making decisions. This does not mean you don't ask a women's opinion or ideas as many of you lack good leadership skills, a good example is "Hey, I'm thinking about dinner are you in the mood for something?" She may give you a direct answer of which you answer " Lets do it" or more than likely an indirect answer such as " Do you have any suggestions?" and you just give a 3 direct suggestions for example " Sushi, home cooked steak, Lasagne" she picks one and you again just do it.. You can get a women's input and make a quick decisive decision using her input to make her feel like she is united with you while still feeling like she can follow your lead if she wants to (big on if she wants to). I could go on and on. Be nice and gentleman but do it in a don't care way that makes it seem like you are not looking for validation, example you open the door for a women she says "thank you" and you can either say nothing or in a monotone voice say "your welcome" if she says nothing you can also just say nothing as if the act is normal. There is a lot to this but I'll just add you want to the place she can relax and find comfort in the world of chaos and drama, avoid giving women your problems it generally doesn't workout but you can communicate to them that your dealing with an issue and need time. Anyway I'm wasting time on this for no reason. In conclusion every man needs to be able to offer 2 of the 3 things i listed above. The easiest of the 3 is to provide emotional stability, easily done by critically analysing your own behaviour objectively and working on it, one of the worst things you could have is a bad uncontrolled temper. You could be attractive and have resources and many women will hold on to you but there is no reason to miss out on building on yourself having strong emotional stability that will make women admire you. Work on your mind and if your naturally handsome /athletic have a respectable job that can pay for experiences. If your abundant in resources and have emotional stability but unattractive invest in smelling good, good hygiene, style and coming across as clean and possible working on your physic. Of course you still need to learn to communicate with women be it in person or texting but the above is large factor towards why women will stay and hold on to you vs leaving.
@ogolden83157 ай бұрын
@@jochem1986Liked reading your balanced comment. When it comes to romantic rlsps, there isn’t always a cookie cutter formula.
@ogolden83157 ай бұрын
@@mrreliable2220Great comment. I think it’s a good foundation for men to build on. However, I think it will trigger many of those who read it, lol.
@tawanium Жыл бұрын
Makes me miss my student days when women take an interest in you because they enjoyed interacting and being with you without considering much about your career. Being also from similar social backgrounds also makes it quite negligible back during the school days.
@weirdcoincollection Жыл бұрын
Same here man. I'm glad I got my swings in during my early 20s. I was a broke college kid who worked at the movies, but dated girls who lived in mansions, took trips to Europe etc. I can't imagine trying to pull off the same thing in my 30s where women are all either already taken, married, or looking for both with a sense of financial security.
@karansharma2352 Жыл бұрын
@@weirdcoincollection Good for you man! By the way, how is sex with a woman life? Be honest, eh?
@ankaorama Жыл бұрын
I think that love is mutual exchange of everything. You said in your other video that if you want the cat to come hang out, you have to put the good milk.Women want to be loved for who they are also.
@user-hx5hu4wx4k Жыл бұрын
Those girls still loved you opportunistically. They just did so based on your potential but most of all looks and what those looks implied about you as a man capable of eventually providing and securing her.
@tawanium Жыл бұрын
@@user-hx5hu4wx4k To be fair I feel attracted to a woman initially based on her looks too. Fair to say that my attraction for someone is also conditional too. Since nature made us this way (men and women value certain things in the other sex), what do you propose that we do then?
@_tesla666 Жыл бұрын
I'm saying goodbye to my longtime girlfriend this weekend. Along with the idea that I can be loved for who I am. I'm done with the pain.
@pocketdweller3771 Жыл бұрын
Good luck my friend.
@_tesla666 Жыл бұрын
@@pocketdweller3771 Thank you🤝
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Did you truly love her for who she is? - Then stay, talk, share your love, dreams, and pain, both sides. Be honest and work this out!
@forgottenfuryan Жыл бұрын
@@DNA350ppm Never trust someone wearing a mask
@Insight-music Жыл бұрын
How did that go
@juandrevandermerwe38811 ай бұрын
I am in my mid 30's, I have always had my own businesses and always worked for myself or in a contractor supplier capacity. I only now realize the truth in this, having a rough childhood with emotionally unavailable parent compounds this fantasy. I was washing dishes now and Orion said grieve and I felt my heart sink into my shoes. It's hard to accept.
@thomasparg1981 Жыл бұрын
100% truth spoken here and a very important video for us single dudes. This is the reality we got to deal with.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
listen up single dudes. women love value (not the high value man). do not be the next divorce court victim.
@aaronlang2764 Жыл бұрын
Ive shown this video to two women so far this morning.. i enjoy how upset they get as it quickly tells me how spot on everything that is being said is truth.
@H0lolo Жыл бұрын
What did they say about it
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
women have been rumbled. bravo, dr taraban.
@NilsMacQ Жыл бұрын
lol, pt.II please, what happened
@sandlerfrancois666 Жыл бұрын
@@firestick4991no matter how much you try to copy and paste this post on every comment (that I’ve seen), it ain’t working. If you mean it, God Bless. If you’re trolling….you failed. God bless anyway….😊
@zhhrah Жыл бұрын
@@firestick4991 Are you sure you’re a woman and not a bot? This is the fourth time you use the exact same response to a different comment
@sandlerfrancois666 Жыл бұрын
Give this man a Noble Peace Prize. He might have just changed the lives of everyone that has the courage to listen and apply…… 1million dollars worth of game.
@Jai2ez Жыл бұрын
You're right. Good luck getting a woman to agree with you on this point.
@mbg9650 Жыл бұрын
Orion did not reveal female dual mating strategy yet.
@zhhrah Жыл бұрын
@@firestick4991 Are you sure you’re a woman and not a bot? This is the sixth time you use the exact same response to a different comment
@joymrsjoy Жыл бұрын
I’m a woman and I agree, but only because my poor husband had to go through hell to show me who I really am. I agree that the vast majority of women simply will not see themselves truthfully. It is beyond a shame, it is destroying our civilization. Really hard times. Thank you to good men like Orion who hold the line of truth.
@toxicmale2264 Жыл бұрын
@@joymrsjoy I appreciate your honesty.
@joymrsjoy Жыл бұрын
@toxicmale2264 Honesty is great and important and severely lacking. For me, it's really too little too late. I fear the same for our society, "to be honest"...thank you for replying, and I hope you're well in your life.
@Denmosocial Жыл бұрын
This man makes great content
@ibizawavey8630 Жыл бұрын
Bro, why'd you stop making content?
@sujaymishra7303 Жыл бұрын
Yoooo @Denmosocial ya'll should collab
@Fred-zt5ky Жыл бұрын
yeah so pls don’t copy it the same way you copy hamza, wheat waffles, 1stman etc
@ibizawavey8630 Жыл бұрын
@neptune4375 oh i'm sorry i'm not online every day consuming content lol fk pssy, go outside ffs.
@num3willie Жыл бұрын
Once you have secured resources and shared it with your mate, the perceived lack of romance will then become the priority to her and she will find someone (who is not necessarily resource-rich) to fulfill that need. It's not a given but I've seen this play out many times.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
💯% facts. once you have given her the diamond ring, house and kids, you are screwed. because she has all the leverage and value now.
@mbg9650 Жыл бұрын
Eat Pray Love phase.
@jellyjams7217 Жыл бұрын
Very interesting…it’s like the last chapter they look for, but you have to give them the basics first
@grantwithers Жыл бұрын
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 simple societal fix for that bs is to simply have all that shit belong to men by default.
@Me-eb3wv Жыл бұрын
💯💯 In all dating apps you will find divorced 40y old women who are looking to find a young man to fulfill her emotionally, and if she doesn’t get that quick enough she will become desperate and that’s how sugarmommies are made.
@mathias1dk Жыл бұрын
I am in a high status, high salary profession, however, I dress rather low key most of the time when I am not working. I can see when women are looking at me, giving the scan, and then rather quickly looking away. When I drive in my small Volkswagen, women look away instantly. In many ways, I embody many of the things that make me an average invisible guy. When I am at the hairdresser, dentist or anywhere else where the talk is naturally going towards occupation, I can always predict what the reaction is going to be. A surprised look, a second of confusion and then a 180 degree shift in body language and tone of voice, going from mundane and neutral to interested and submissive. Then a lot of questions, because they want to know more. I absolutely hate it. And because of it, I will never show my best cards to a potential partner, if they haven't shown any interest in my "normal" self first. I will not sell myself that cheap.
@RicksPhatPharm-vw2lb Жыл бұрын
"I can be loved for who I am" you dishing out red pills today. This is the sole reason why I chose to remain single... Women cant love the man, she can only love what he does for her! Most men today are way past doing anything for the cyborgs prancing around today
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Can a man keep loving a woman if she gives him nothing back? Not a smile, not a word, not a kiss? She keeps providing for herself, has her family, her friends, her mission in life, but just lets him love her from afar, like if he was a trubadour from a 12th C French Court? He demands nothing, just a second long glimpse, a few times a year, to behold her beauty and virtue from a distance. She demands nothing, he needs do nothing for her - he keeps loving for nothing....he then feels he is loved for who he is, just like that, a pure feeling, because he can love regardless if she does something for him! (And he needs do nothing for her, as she is not demanding.)
@Rockownz5150 Жыл бұрын
But I thought you're not supposed to "do things for women" (other than your wife, let's say), that's simping.
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
@@Rockownz5150 Whom do you listen to!? Hope you have female friends whom you can ask. There are language-use barriers so be patient. Men shouldn't initially do anything for women in the hope to get something in return. Just do acts of random kindness, out of a general generosity. Not to show off, not to make a fuzz about the gender difference. If you help with holding a heavy door open for an elderly lady, you can also do it for a girl your age walking behind you. If she doesn't like it, just say nonchalantly: "Sorry lady, no offense intended". Add a very small non-ironious inward smile, hardly visible. Show with your behavior that you intended no long contact. Always compare your actions with what you would do for an elderly lady, whom you of course don't need to impress. (For cute young women it is annoying how men out of the blue are hitting on them in obvious ways perhaps even with phrases they have repeated at home or picked up from "tougher" guys. Don't be one of them, it might be new for you, but boring for them, 10 times a day, so you set yourself up for disappointment.)
@peripheralparadox4218 Жыл бұрын
I’d say that truly becoming at peace with this reality means you’re a giant step closer to ‘enlightenment’ and true self mastery.
@dificulttocure Жыл бұрын
This idea is actually shown pretty well in the Barbie movie, when the Kens are happy playing guitar and singing songs to their Barbies by the campfire, and then the Barbies use that to manipulate them.
@notsojharedtroll23 Жыл бұрын
Off topic but at this point, every role that Ryan Gosling has been given makes him look like a complete moron. But he gets payed a hefty chunk.
@Tom-vq2hw9 ай бұрын
Oh gosh, what a coincidence that Ryan gosling would look like a complete moron
@gregrosenberg1541 Жыл бұрын
If anyone truly cared about the state of men and their mental wellbeing this would be such common knowledge you wouldn’t need niche podcasts to sneak this out. This is truly a cure for a lot over grieving and confusion after breakups
@rdptll Жыл бұрын
Once I finally learned this lesson I walked away from dating altogether. I don't want that kind of relationship. I'd rather just have friends.
@Isaax11 ай бұрын
"I can be loved for who I am" Like most men, I made the mistake of assuming this, and it became my folly. I threw away fantastic relationships because I never once felt like the things that were "loved" about me were the things I actually liked about myself, the things that made me who I am, and I was right. For years I struggled to find out why I stopped loving women who loved me, it was because I just couldn't deal with the fact that I wasn't loved for ME. I was loved for what I provided. Not in a superficial sense either - I never once provided significant practical or financial support, I was young and penniless, what I instead provided were the words and feelings that the women that loved me wanted. When I was loved for those things, it mislead me further into the idea - I thought "Since I am not providing the usual things women are said to want, she must really love me for who I am if she's still interested regardless." Best advice you can give a young man is to get it in his head as soon as possible that this romantic idea sounds good but is never and will never be true.
@dreiraven3rvn457 Жыл бұрын
This is the best, most succinct explanation of the Red Pill, at its core, that I have heard since I first took the Red Pill almost a decade ago. Thank you!
@Rockownz5150 Жыл бұрын
What happened since you took it? You're no longer delusional, that part we get, but what else?
@vaaaaaas Жыл бұрын
After fully accepting this, the only reason you have for not going your own way is the masochistic desire to be used as a success object.
@alienkishorekumar Жыл бұрын
Probably goes back to childhood trauma where you seek approval from your mother or father or both. But they are not given to you. Now you seek them in others mainly in romantic relationship.
@simonbeckford Жыл бұрын
Essentially, it boils down to this. My 20 year old daughter recently started to date a 21 year old guy who was ‘between jobs’ and said she wasn’t going to continue with him if he didn’t get a semi decent job soon. I can’t imagine too many men demanding this of a woman as most wouldn’t be too bothered by it, and if they did demand it, they would probably come off as callous and heartless.
@chrishnah Жыл бұрын
You can't see why your 20 year old daughter, in her prime, would want the man she is dating to have a job?
@javier.alvarez764 Жыл бұрын
Women are always heartless. They also hoe around. Example if guy A can't provide her needs, she will have a guy B that can while still having guy A. Women want a guy for attention, a guy for money, and a guy that will fulfill her needs.
@simonbeckford Жыл бұрын
@@chrishnah I can see exactly why… but it’s to merely point out, as Dr Taraban points out, men and women operate differently in the aggregate.
@sammyb1651 Жыл бұрын
@@chrishnah What a profoundly silly question. Was there a single syllable within his post that came across as unintelligent?
@Ashtonishing1812 Жыл бұрын
@@simonbeckford interesting you get to see such truths in action now being a father...
@mattsss Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad this illusion is just that: an illusion. Life becomes much better when you realise that only you can improve your situation, your lifestyle, your relationships, and even your inner game and confidence. Once you no longer wait for a woman (or any externalities) to do the work for you, you can finally make your life better. And that’s when women will start to respond: when you put yourself first, because that’s when you have more to give to the world.
@toddjohnson271 Жыл бұрын
Somewhat......
@forgottenfuryan Жыл бұрын
Not worth the effort
@mattsss Жыл бұрын
@@forgottenfuryan not worth the effort to do it for women, agreed. But you can do it for yourself.
@colerainswaggify6387 Жыл бұрын
@@mattsssThat's cap. Nobody improves themselves for themselves, because there has to be a reward involved.
@mattsss Жыл бұрын
@@colerainswaggify6387 creating a better reality and becoming a better individual IS the reward.
@alpinewolf7751 Жыл бұрын
I've watched this after the grieving process. Spot on. It did hurt to give up on this fantasy but it is better to look at reality straight on.
@hypergraphic Жыл бұрын
This is so true, and it's quite timely for me to hear it. I'm going through a divorce and today would have been our 16th anniversary. It was heartbreaking for me to realize that I did stuff for her that she never would do for me. And I totally believed that if because I loved her so much, that would engender some loyalty or understanding. But nope. She wanted what she wanted regardless of anything I did or felt. I'm not going to make the same mistake next time, that's for sure! Thanks for the glass of cold water in the face :)
@jamess6656 Жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear what you are going through. I have been there myself. Learning about this stuff helped me get peace by accepting responsibility for my contribution to the failure. I didn’t know any better.
@zhav3d Жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear! Any more advice you can give a youth in his mid 20's?
@hypergraphic Жыл бұрын
@@zhav3d Work on yourself and learn how to be content on your own. Relationships can be amazing, but you gotta have yourself squared away first.
@ME-xh5zq Жыл бұрын
I never understood women, the only people who kind of explained some of their confusing behaviour to me was the red pill, this revelation from the video is a breakthrough for me, i need to reflect on it.
@sammyb1651 Жыл бұрын
It's getting fairly well covered now online. This message isn't original, it's merely re-packaged.
@toddjohnson271 Жыл бұрын
Because you are programmed from birth opposite of your firmware. You are controlled.
@eladbari Жыл бұрын
@@toddjohnson271 what's the original atual programming for men, then?
@toddjohnson271 Жыл бұрын
@@eladbari propagation
@maam-yj8ph4 ай бұрын
@@toddjohnson271 more like consumption and destruction.
@edwardyoutube Жыл бұрын
Learned this long time ago by direct observation and experience but struggled to believe it for a long time. Once you truly embrace this truth you'll never see women the same way again, ever. You'll actually see them as employees that you may or may not hire, based on their skills and attributes. And I give you a hint: considered what's available in today's marketplace, you won't hire many of them at all.
@Rockownz5150 Жыл бұрын
As if many men have the option to be picky when it comes to "employees". They'd settle for crumbs but can't even get that.
@edwardyoutube Жыл бұрын
@@Rockownz5150Who said that many have that option? Obviously only who has gone through a long period of self improvement financially, physically and psychologically can have his pick. I have been in long and short relationships and I've learned about women through direct experience, not just KZfaq, and it's enough to say I would only go for a woman with specific attributes, and until then, nothing is preferable.
@Tom-vq2hw9 ай бұрын
What skills do they bring? I legit don't know. No desire for sex. So honestly, what else can a girlfriend do for me? Inane conversation I have to carry?
@ready211 ай бұрын
Yes this is the black (not red) pill I swallowed a few years ago and since then I just stopped dating. It's not really worth it to always have to put up a facade and "provide value" for a woman. 99% of them are really not worth it.
@themightyafrodite50299 ай бұрын
This belief of yours is false and limited. You don’t have any evidence for it either. Try a different belief.
@ready29 ай бұрын
@@themightyafrodite5029 I don't care about beliefs. Experience is what matters which taught me that most women aren't worth it.
@faby11053 ай бұрын
@@themightyafrodite5029I’ve never seen a more weaker attempt at convincing someone to change their minds. 🤦🏻♂️
@themightyafrodite50293 ай бұрын
@@faby1105more weaker is poor grammar. That wasn’t an attempt to convert someone’s beliefs. I don’t care if y’all stay single for life. That’s your choice.
@faby11053 ай бұрын
@@themightyafrodite5029 That’s very toxic of you. Telling someone to change their beliefs, how? Then saying that it wasn’t an attempt to get them to change and that you actually don’t care, then why say it?! His experiences make him bitter, and then you go ahead and say his mindset is wrong and provide no other perspective or solution. Like bruh, you’re just kicking him while he’s already down. It’s so unnecessary.
@timtarbet4594 Жыл бұрын
This isn't just a red pill, it's a black pill. Why would I want to enter into a romantic relationship, open myself up, invest my heart and my soul into someone who just views me as a means to an end? Someone who's just going to leave me the moment a better opportunity shows up?
@vault-tecrep8565 Жыл бұрын
because everything in life is transactional, even down to the physics of the universe. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. You don't go to work because you want to make your boss happy, you go to work for money so you can eat.
@Insight-music Жыл бұрын
The problem is materialism. Value of exchange is not always resorted to physical tangible things. However society at large can’t see past the physical. What women truly at the most subconscious level NEED in a man is one who has unwavering INTEGRITY. INTEGRITY is the most valuable character trait a man can posses, because it requires years of discipline, commitment, devotion and wisdom to posses. All of these are masculine protector qualities that speak for themselves. However since it’s so rare these days, and culture constantly pushes superficial romance through novels, movies, TV shows, music… 24/7, women circumvent that need for materialistic desires provided by a man that she “thinks” has the value she needs… but because she likely has never seen an example of a real integral man, she doesn’t know how to spot it or even how to look for it.
@timtarbet4594 Жыл бұрын
@@Insight-music That's bullshit. All women want is a wallet. Don't believe me? Tell your girl you lost your job. See how long she sticks around.
@Insight-music Жыл бұрын
@@timtarbet4594 I see my point went over your head
@GoatHolyfield Жыл бұрын
That just the thing my dear friend you shouldn't there is literally no benefit in getting into a serious relationship with women literally nothing the only thing women Bring into a man life is pain Stress and drama let not forget how expensive they are outside of sex women generally don't bring much and lucky for us we live in a time period where women are more sexual free then ever women are literally out here fucking for free the real question is why would you want to commit
@tucobenedicto1780 Жыл бұрын
Women often consider having a huge wedding, expensive dress, giant ring, tons of guests, photographers, etc all focused on them as romantic.
@eugenerider07013 ай бұрын
It's about attention. The more attention she gets, the more "romance" she believes she's in.
@csmith9699Ай бұрын
Yuk. Never wanted that. Superficially never did it for me. Meet great guys all the time
@prosper4206 Жыл бұрын
Being 25 and having being told this truth is mind boggling. But im going to work on myself for myself not to obtain a woman.
@ArizonaVideo99 Жыл бұрын
Don't run from woman. Be a leader, don't let them have control of your resourced by marriage. Kids and family are great. Set the rules, all of them. If you want 1 kid fine, What if you want 10? You will need to plan on more than one wife in your life time. Make the rules and do the work. The biggest problem is what the state can do to you.
@stalechipz450 Жыл бұрын
@@ArizonaVideo99 The Family Court will destroy your control of resources/rules once she's unhappy and wants a divorce.
@alimo3011 Жыл бұрын
@@ArizonaVideo99 💯
@jojo5107Ай бұрын
Then you'll never experience the magical love and affection that'd enrich your life.
@nwanyanwuchibuzor8143 Жыл бұрын
This is like a classic masterclass all men who desire to be best in dealing with women should attend.. "Abiding in a fantasy causes more pain than accepting reality ever could cause you ". Definitely sharing this video to many men as possible.... thanks Platinum content❤
@Rclrs5 Жыл бұрын
great video. I experience this myself and I’m stuck with overcoming the fact that me as who is am is not good enough and it is only through value that I can be accepted. I agree 100% and that is my experience dating as a 6’3, 35yo man but not sure how to get past it. Have a 200k salary in software sales, have hobbies in various sports and so forth, but I still can not find a girl who will like me for me. The only interest I seem to find are from women who demand expensive dates, rings, and houses. I can’t afford those things to the extent they are desires by women, so here I am single unless I can 10x my income to 2M+.
@Krash845 Жыл бұрын
I know all women are hypergamous, but you seem to draw in the gold diggers especially
@melawieeinapfel8594 Жыл бұрын
love, I hear you are hurting. still, try to change your point of view: the fact she is looking for expensive things will - in the best case - be not a act of selfishness but to secure the future of her and your offspring. those gifts are there to secure her and your children if anything happens to you. anybody can make promises through words but only gold, purses and rings can be transformed into cash, it needed. Look for example at the Sri Lankan commuinities, where the girls and women are wearing their golden bangels as a sign of wealth.
@MoYessir Жыл бұрын
Maybe try to hide much money u make??? And if they ask tell them u make 60k-80k(if she makes 90k say 110k & so on) . Also, they research your zip code, company/job title, and etc. So watch out. After they had their fun a lot of women start to become “intentional” aka predatory/manipulative and will happily prey on a naive well off nice guys. Even if she likes him. So start planning seeds in their head early on like “I’m not a materialistic, I like simple things”
@forgottenfuryan Жыл бұрын
Marriage, sex and childbirth rates are at all time lows.
@javier.alvarez764 Жыл бұрын
@@MoYessir Women always know for some reason when men are high income.
@letsworkoutabit195910 ай бұрын
As an older guy, this is what I understood about relationships: • Looks • Money • Status If you don't have at least 2 of these things, postpone dating and continue building yourself first. That's just it. You don't need game or have good moral character, you just need to have at least 2 of those things.
@findinglela9 ай бұрын
Yes
@Embearr4 ай бұрын
What about women? Just looks I presume?
@lycan249413 күн бұрын
@@Embearr nope
@TheEllsworth811 ай бұрын
And in just a few minutes, I've finally discovered why none of my previous relationships have worked. Not only that, but why they were ended BY the woman, which is key. Let the grieving begin. On the other side is a new life.
@aalvarez305 Жыл бұрын
Brutal. I don’t think I’m past the denial stage yet.
@jamess6656 Жыл бұрын
It will take time. You have been conditioned with lies your whole life.
@phillipcotton833 Жыл бұрын
Not sure of the origins of romanticism in Western culture, but the pursuit of it has done most of us men a disservice. Respect is more honorable.
@edwarda.tokash8166 Жыл бұрын
“It's not who you are underneath, it's what you do that defines you.” - Rachel Dawes, Batman Begins
@markallen2984 Жыл бұрын
Very well presented explanation of a concept I have long intuitively felt was true. It speaks to the same idea that the recent Chris Rock routine does when he says "only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved for what he can provide" I wonder if men believe hope/believe they can be "loved for who they are" is due to our elevation of women's nature as being superior and more pure than our own? ( Obviously, another romantic thought). It is popular wisdom that "men are little boys and need parenting from their women" but I have observed something different: Most women don't want partners. They don't want to be in a relationship of equals. They want a daddy. A daddy who pays the bills. A Daddy who has the answers. A Daddy who can protect them. A daddy who can provide status. A daddy who is interested in providing emotional support and encouragement but makes few (or no) emotional demands of his own. Often, she's not very interested in knowing him well at all. Because she has not fallen in love with the man, she has chosen him to perform a role in her life.
@Incognito38709 Жыл бұрын
I confirm this. Im a woman. I hope as many man and woman as possible will hear this truth. Thank you, dr Taraban!
@unlimitedlynch Жыл бұрын
Before I met my husband, I decided I just wanted someone with a good heart who would love me for who I am. I think that is a core human need if people choose to get honest with themselves. I got that 100% with him and have been blessed in life ever since. I wouldn't trade him for anybody even if he lost everything. He makes me feel safe and he really SEES me, and I look forward to even deeper connection over time. I did my research on him beforehand but only to avoid deception/predators/lunatics and to find out his interests so that I could avoid awkward silences. I think women are socialized to be sociopaths today, but not all of us are like that. I hope viewers on your channel find real love without the BS, I really do.
@richrich2862 Жыл бұрын
I am disappointed these types of rhetorics are reiterated and scaring men further away - not that modern women today is making it any easier for men but not all women are like that
@user-hx5hu4wx4k Жыл бұрын
Everything you described about your husband is framed in that you love him for what he does for you and makes you feel. Once again proving the point. Men will loyally take care of their wives for 60 years, working themselves into a deathbed until they stuff him into a coffin, happy as a clam, because he took care of his family. Not once in the history of mankind have women done that. Your husband is paralyzed from head to toe and you had to live in a car with him, you would maybe stay for a small amount of time, but every minute that passes will be another minute you gradually love him less and less until you abandon him. The opposite is true for men. When their woman is needy or unsafe or vulnerable then that increases their love. That's the difference. Men love idealistically and women love opportunistically.
@unlimitedlynch Жыл бұрын
@user-hx5hu4wx4k I described idealistic love, and you still managed to reframe it to fit your beliefs. I don't think anything I say will convince you. I wish you the best.
@monkeyboyalcoholic11 ай бұрын
You are blessed to have found true love. As a practical matter it isn't wise for men to gamble on unicorns like you. In reality every woman says she is different, and that this relationship is different; but when the hard times come, her "feelings" change and she rinses him for everything he's worth. Every prisoner in Shawshank is innocent, that's the bit.
@jamesshapiro676710 ай бұрын
@@user-hx5hu4wx4k To be fair, you don't know this person's situation.
@StarboyXL9 Жыл бұрын
As a "romantic man" I wold rather die single than fall in love with a woman who doesn't feel romantic love towards me. If its "pragmatic" I don't want it.
@LizPlantLady Жыл бұрын
I think that is a healthy thought.
@steve3131 Жыл бұрын
Marry a bot. They're more romantic than women, especially North American women.
@clauaome2511 ай бұрын
you have made the right choice
@nygeriunprence10 ай бұрын
At least a baseline sexual attraction is required.
@awsambdaman3 ай бұрын
I think good can come from understanding. The way we were taught about women and love growing up was nice to believe, but robbed us of the ability to have a genuine relationship with them. We never really loved women because they weren’t what we thought they were. The creatures we loved and thought were innocent and perfect were not real. You won’t even go back to being delusional, and thank your lucky stars for that. Now, if you so choose, you can have a real relationship with a real person. Also, isn’t it a relief to find out that women aren’t perfect? If they’re just as flawed as us, now we’re kinda back down on the same level. Women are JUST people. There’s nothing really super special about them. Redpill kinda forces you to see that. They’re just people like us, responding to biological desires and incentives, living in a weird kinda fucked up at times world, trying to make ends meet and figure things out. Yes, there is a fundamentally different male experience that no women will truly 100% understand, but we probably will never truly understand how it feels to be the weaker sex. The one that’s vulnerable to 50%+ of the population. The one that can be killed by every other person walking around. Reality can be a relief sometimes. You never loved women because the people you thought were women were your ideals expressed onto her. Just like women see a hot guy idealize him, making up stories about what he must be like and how their lives would be together, men did this too. But in both instances, you’re not actually fantasizing about a real person
@SomeGuy-xf9bc Жыл бұрын
The unfortunate black pill corollary to this is that if anything throws a man off his game, either his fault or not, he is likely to be left by the woman in his life just when he needs her the most.
@yomismo1888 Жыл бұрын
Sad but true 😞
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
a man will sacrifice his life for his family. a woman will sacrifice her family for her life.
@marcusmcgraw3519 Жыл бұрын
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540which is why men shouldn’t have families
@neoreign Жыл бұрын
@@marcusmcgraw3519 BINGO!! Look at the recent news of women trying to delete men, and not only that but women trying to delete their children. This is not something no one should accept. I have NO TROUBLE providing and protecting a woman but what about my end of the bargain?
@Mr._Anderpson Жыл бұрын
Ain't that the truth? Happened to me. "Happily" married for 20 years. Hit a snag & had an issue which required spinal surgery. Like I tell people, about the time my back went out, so did the wife. Never again will I look at a woman as anything other than a recreational activity.
@mrtuber3491 Жыл бұрын
Its also the line “what have you done for me lately” that encapsulates the females. A man can have provided many riches and experiences to a woman and on the moment he loses his wealth or health and capacity to continue providing she’s out the door. When your with a woman never drop your standard of living otherwise it’s exit time for her.
@darioz5894 Жыл бұрын
A man's love is unconditional. A woman's love is conditional, with a (what have you done for me lately) vibe. I used to be romantic, but opportunistic modern-day women killed that side of me a long time ago. At 42 thankfully I've never been married and no kids. I'm much happier this way and live a decent, comfortable life. Watch yourselves Kings, don't get bitten 🐍💰
@Ed-xv4sy Жыл бұрын
i'm 41, here's what i am asking myself lately. Shouldn't we be using this new found wisdom to our advantage? I'm not saying to get married, fk no
@capmidnite Жыл бұрын
I wonder how unconditional your love would be to a woman if she gained 200 lbs.
@sammyb1651 Жыл бұрын
Same. Knowing what I now know the best I can offer these days is a very conditional affection, which is strictly performance based. It's a highly unusual state, (ie it doesn't come naturally), however it's the only thing I feel is reconcilable to the maintenance of self respect, long term. When you examine it, a settlement where the man must provide value, but the woman gets to insist you "love her as she is" is an unconscionable deal.
@darioz5894 Жыл бұрын
@@capmidnite I would never go for a woman like that, as I take care of myself, I eat well and workout 3 - 4 X a week, so normally I would only go for a women who shares a similar lifestyle and values 🤷🏼♂️
@capmidnite Жыл бұрын
@@darioz5894 Well, I said "if." You didn't answer my question.
@internetfella7822 ай бұрын
Almost fell over laughing after hearing Dr. Taraban tell me who I am isn’t enough only to follow it up with “if you’re liking what you’re hearing..” 😂
@AetherXIV Жыл бұрын
Been married for 11 years. I think my woman loves me for me, but if my "value" drops my respect drops. I think I agree with you. The "love me for me" love is I think something we were supposed to get from our Moms and can't expect from our wives.
@michaelmurrell19874 ай бұрын
"No one will ever love you...If you like what you are hearing, please consider subscribing", 😂😂😂
@nissarahamed Жыл бұрын
Damn. That's the cold harsh truth every man needs to hear and accept. Another good episode.
@superboy36339 ай бұрын
Thanks for your valuable words. As a young romantic guy I felt sad hearing these. But these words will be always in my mind in a relationship 🙏
@josealexi5141 Жыл бұрын
Men: "Love me for who I am" Women: "Nope" Woman: "Accept my massive bodycount" Men: "Nope"
@xxChacaronXX Жыл бұрын
That's because those men that laid with her accepted her as an easy whore. When men want to get serious with a girl then they consider their character and sense of accountability.
@Incognito38709 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂 true
@cevanille1104 Жыл бұрын
Women are not sleeping around, most people on dating apps are men. Only men think it's all about sex, you're projecting because you'll spend your life with your left hand.
@stefanisilva2493 Жыл бұрын
No one is loved by who they are, 99% of time. This same men are the ones that gonna divorce in case of a hard female illness, like cancer (solid stats about this phenomena).
@jonathan284711 ай бұрын
The difference is even if a man is rich she won't love him for who he is. But if a woman is pure he will love her for who she is.
@vdl3984 Жыл бұрын
Reality never fails to disappoint. In a way this makes me not want to provide for them at all.
@phoenixrisin226911 ай бұрын
Men invented romance during medieval times because the high value men were kings, princes, knights, and nobles and the average man needed something to separate him from those high value men with harems. Romance was not invented by women but by desperate men.
@tancreddehauteville764 Жыл бұрын
I used to be romantic - until my late 20s and after having had my metaphorical teeth kicked out by women. Then I just became cynical. The problem is that men take relationships much too seriously when in reality they should just 'pump and dump' instead. The thing is that the average 17 year old kid wants is to be in love and to be loved, and it can take 10 years of heartache and disappointments to learn the bitter truth.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
i got pumped and dumped in divorce court. lost my money, house and kid. getting pumped and dumped in divorce is an awful experience.
@LizPlantLady Жыл бұрын
Please do not give up on love. Love is waiting for you. It's really hard to find, but there are women who can love you deeply.
@IkesPimpHand Жыл бұрын
@@LizPlantLadyplease stop selling romantic fantasies to men. We are not privileged enough to afford to believe in it.
@forgottenfuryan Жыл бұрын
@@LizPlantLady Women file 80% of divorces and marriage, sex and childbirth rates are at all time lows. Say love again.
@kevinlow69420 Жыл бұрын
@@LizPlantLadyStop the cap
@zishiwu7757 Жыл бұрын
I just read chapter 1 of “No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Dr. Robert Glover which said that men with “Nice Guy syndrome” (avoid conflict, don’t know how to set boundaries, seek people’s approval) have internalized a belief from childhood that they are not enough, so they must hide their mistakes and try to change themselves to please others. I think that your argument - that men falsely believe their personality and love are enough for women - is more likely to benefit men who overvalue themselves and don’t wish to change at all. In contrast, men with “Nice Guy syndrome” might not benefit from that advice as much. For such men, the book advises they should learn to accept both their strengths and flaws, and be comfortable with who they are and not feel compelled to change themselves to please others. The caveat is most of the stories of men with “Nice Guy syndrome” in that book have already achieved financial success and/or are in a relationship. They figured out how to acquire the financial resources but their internal confidence has not been updated yet to match their external confidence. I think men should avoid over-correcting their behavior to either extreme of changing everything about themselves to please others or to not change themselves at all.
@GregMunro Жыл бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@GregMunro Жыл бұрын
@LenParliament5 Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@GregMunro Жыл бұрын
@LenParliament5 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@ovidiuzakarias678 Жыл бұрын
@@GregMunro Dude, this is a scam... There's no such thing as a "bring back your ex" spiritual counselor. People have free will, if they want to leave, they will leave. Simple as that.
@jack_galt Жыл бұрын
@@ovidiuzakarias678 This conversation reads like two bots.
@Unvaccinatedpureblood Жыл бұрын
The trick women play is to get you to love them. Once you are in love, she has successfully enclaved you.
@KingJoshwer Жыл бұрын
If you be yourself, the people who choose you will like you for you, you can relax and be yourself in their presence. If you change the way you act, the people you attract will like you for who you present yourself to be, but it will take effort to keep up the presentation.
@shanti888 Жыл бұрын
True. But idealistic. Like myself
@Insight-music Жыл бұрын
Ego constructs
@Cyberpunker108811 ай бұрын
Good points. The good part is that once we accept that ladies want certain things as a precursor to a relationship (not just loving you for you), then we can finally filter out the ladies we would actually want to be with. All this talk about what ladies want, I totally get. Now the question is if the ladies can give the men what the men want. It's really a 2 way street.
@neoreign Жыл бұрын
The great Myron Gaines once said. Men love romantically, Women love opportunistically. It hit me like a hammer to my head, it was the perfect cheap shot to the stomach I needed to wake up. It singlehandedly changed how I view everything. Women are COLD and CALCULATING, to secure the best possible deal they can.
@SomeGuy-xf9bc Жыл бұрын
Ho got that from Rollo.
@AtheismF7W Жыл бұрын
No, Rollo said it on his blog, years before FnF were a thing.
@rabbychan Жыл бұрын
The great? LMFAO
@marcusmcgraw3519 Жыл бұрын
If men stopped throwing themselves at women’s feet, they wouldn’t be given the chance to do this. You people are pathetic and weak for not realizing men are the problem
@Menstral Жыл бұрын
What a doofus. He's not great and he's just reiterating Rollo Tomassi
@AbdulRashidYakubu Жыл бұрын
Spot on. I think an intricacy that this video doesn't point out is that a woman can love a man for how he makes her feel. If the feeling is strong enough it can create pairings that may seem illogical to casual observers. I think this is most important. Of course this is also conditional
@leviathon2 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, feelings change. And when they do, you can be sure, she'll be off.
@AbdulRashidYakubu Жыл бұрын
@@leviathon2true
@alitava68449 ай бұрын
Your message to us hurts but it will make us stronger. I have decided to just take care of myself more than before. Because from experience, no one (especially women) would care about you and your needs. They always want a fool that gives them a lot while don't want much in return.
@seanyshepfit7 ай бұрын
So glad you went on Fresh and Fit. One of the best guests ever and I would have never discovered your channel otherwise.
@d3r4g45 Жыл бұрын
You can be loved for who you are. If you are tall, handsome, rich or high status.
@sleeper9638 Жыл бұрын
Saying men have to provide value/resources is still blupill thinking. Plenty of guys get laid purely for their looks and provide nothing at all. To women, desire is entirely about physical attraction and relationships are just for resource acquisition. Relationships are not beneficial to a man and an attractive man doesn't need to engage with them
@d3r4g45 Жыл бұрын
@@sleeper9638 infact i wrote above tall, handsome..
@sleeper9638 Жыл бұрын
@@d3r4g45 height is a part of a man's looks
@d3r4g45 Жыл бұрын
@@sleeper9638yep
@Sclunger11 ай бұрын
This was very important but horribly difficult to realize for me. It honestly felt like a spiritual experience that completely changed my perception of reality. It's as if I woke up from a fantasy I didn't know I was in. However, if I would have heard this 2 years ago, I'm not sure I would have been able to handle this truth. In the last two years I trained myself to keep bitterness and resentment at bay and now I happened to hear this message, but I cannot fathom the pain some men are going through who weren't ready to hear it.
@EC-yl7xk Жыл бұрын
Men also love women for what she does not for who she is. Actually its more about a woman's looks.
@diplomat26233 ай бұрын
THIS!
@user-ur7hp3gm2i3 ай бұрын
True. That makes what this guy says apply to everyone not just men. Humans aren’t that different. But let’s not forget men aren’t always the same. He looks like he belongs to the lower status men who have to use romance to get laid.
@paulcolin907116 күн бұрын
I agree though we don't set the bar crazy high
@lycan249413 күн бұрын
@EC-yl7xk Cope.
@lycan249413 күн бұрын
COPE
@adurb9 ай бұрын
It’s hilarious how he smoothly follows harshest, painful truths with “if you like what you hear…” 😂
@mickadatwist1620 Жыл бұрын
every men, especially young loverboys, must hear this content.
@theironson1043 Жыл бұрын
"I have often said, and oftener think, that this world is a comedy to those that think, a tragedy to those that feel - a solution of why Democritus laughed and Heraclitus wept." -Walpole
@davida.taylor8444 Жыл бұрын
That is deep. Thanks for sharing this.
@tallywave2511 ай бұрын
And a “happy ever after” for real Christians
@Tom-vq2hw9 ай бұрын
I've always said that comedy is tragic and drama is a joke
@sahilp94709 ай бұрын
genius dp
@MLHunt8 ай бұрын
I married a woman I met in college over 30 years ago before either of us had anything more than potential. This year was the first year since we were both out of school that she didn't outearn me, so it certainly wasn't my ability to improve her access to economic resources that kept her with me. I guess we're an anomaly?
@user-kx8le5lp9z7 ай бұрын
I agreed with just about every single thing you say in all your videos. Great messages for men and woman, who are willing to understand your content.
@MarceloHenriqueAlmeida Жыл бұрын
"How Women Love" is a video waiting to happen. The title is ready. You've mentioned that women are in a relationship for what we do it for her and how we make her feel, but is this exclusively for women? This reminds me of the video about relationships being an exchange medium and, in that sense, isn't this true for men as well? This video was exceptional.
@justinsugay1149 Жыл бұрын
My current girlfriend believes that I'm not romantic, and I know growing up in my heart of hearts, what the truth is, and how heartbroken I've become. And it is more painful to abide in fantasy than to accept reality, sad, but true. I hope most of you reading this are much luckier than I've been.
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Maybe you just are young, and a little self-centered, it's no great sin or fault. Be kind and tolerant, give other people help and support, try to be self-sufficient when it comes to confidence and trust in your path in life. These are learnable and trainable skills, and will give you a base for generosity. Tell yourself, you have enough to spare, so share it, be loving and hopeful, live from an attitude of being brimful with what's good and positive - people will love and trust you, and you'll reap what you sow! You can handle sadness and sorrow, you can manage challenges and obstacles, you can fall onto your kness, get up, brush the dust off your knees, and walk on, believing in your value and values and your mission on this earth: to be a good human being, a contributor to the solutions! And don't count only beautiful young ladies as people - look around, and notice all kinds of human beings, and share some of your strength and inner light with any of them. Random secret acts of kindness will teach you important lessons!
@alienkishorekumar Жыл бұрын
@@DNA350ppmmodern man has nothing to share 😂
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
@@alienkishorekumar I'm surrounded by all modern men who have a lot to share, and who do it IRL, too! You must be in the wrong company - any chance you can improve that part of your life? Why not start by finding men who would share an interest in life-wisdoms like the interviews made by a "wounded healer" like Lewis Howles - he is on YT!
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Sorry, Lewis Howes is the correct spelling!
@briandonovan568711 ай бұрын
If were watching this video than we probably havnt been 😮
@LarryNgetich Жыл бұрын
I think romance controls men the way religion controls the mass population. I am waking up to the fact that I have been romantic alone this whole time, and it really sucks.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
romance is the opium for the masses of men. most men are sedated and asleep at the wheel. most men will only wake up when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce. its sad but true.
@mbg9650 Жыл бұрын
Get red pill awareness.
@kinglaylxwz Жыл бұрын
Iza bro
@Dewane1511 Жыл бұрын
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 "Hopium"*
@JamilLynch Жыл бұрын
Where outside of the Islamic world does religion control the population? The West is secular and has been for decades.
@zincvalley6974 Жыл бұрын
4:33 you really put that “if you like what you’re hearing” at the wrong spot there. NO I DON’T LIKE WHAT I’M HEARING 😂. Great content tho
@jimosborne2 Жыл бұрын
I don’t see how we can honestly and intelligently discuss male-female relationships without discussing both perspectives simultaneously. I think analyzing data is only a part of the totality of the circumstances. I think it sheds some light on the issues- but it’s on part of seeing the big picture.
@Moribus_Artibus Жыл бұрын
"Though the tongue swears the heart remains unsworn" - Euripides
@psychosiszz11 ай бұрын
Romance written by men - Romea and Juilet. Romance written by women - fifty shades of grey. One about love and sacrifice, the other about some rich very good looking guy having sex with an average women. Men have always been the romantics.
@filipkominos31117 ай бұрын
Holy shit. You're right. That explains a lot
@davegebbings7632 Жыл бұрын
Another great video-straight to the point. I have to say that your videos are getting better lately in terms of getting straight to the heart of the matter. My personal opinion is that, in the past, your presentation style was that you used the go round the houses to get were you are going and use 3 words instead of one. Now things are more more succinct. Thanks Doc your content helps a lot.
@clauaome2511 ай бұрын
It's incredible that a man on youtube has to explain something that men have always know for centuries.
@Shaykh-Waleed-White Жыл бұрын
This is true Most men want to have a women they loved and did all for her but the fact is Women bring games and complicated stuff and most men should be aware of red pill facts such as hypergamy, briffaults law,Coolidge effect etc to be able to navigate These were as a result of centuries of research and traditions and was supposed to be passed along generation by generation but father world wide failed perhaps due to Disney propaganda about happily ever after
@sammyb1651 Жыл бұрын
The biggest problem is self extrapolation. Men love sacrificially and because they do this they think women do the same. Until they learn to the contrary. The paradox is that, while red pill thinking is required to survive, it can be demotivating compared to blue pill delusion. The latter is a huge driver for many measures of prosperity.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
Men will sacrifice their life for their families. Women will sacrifice their families for their life.
@marcusmcgraw3519 Жыл бұрын
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540which is why men should not have families. We should care about ourselves
@zeeninjatrongamer5652 Жыл бұрын
Like kangaroos!
@zeeninjatrongamer5652 Жыл бұрын
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 🦘
@Snappypantsdance Жыл бұрын
I loved my husband for who really he was. He was smart and kind, but not wealthy. We were not rich, but happy. He died at 48 when I was 45. I have 2 kids left I’m raising and am obviously not young. Why is it always so out of balance??
@refraf803013 күн бұрын
Sure.
@MasterOfCope11 ай бұрын
I learnt this hard truth when I was about 14, it was a tough pill to swallow especially when everyone around you is spouting blue pill bs to make themselves feel better. The worst is when your own Mother does this, blatantly lies to your face when you need guidance: 'just be yourself', 'just be nice' etc. Knowing that the average man is just a tool (and not very good one), for me at least saps a lot of pleasure out of life. Knowing that I can never stop succeeding, never stop looking over my shoulder for other better men or a cheating girlfriend makes me wonder if its actually worth it. We are basically destroying ourselves for temporary pleasure, reality is ice cold.
@jeanlari121111 ай бұрын
As a woman, i want to ask is a woman ever just loved for herself either? We are not allowed to become physically unattractive or to let our sexual appeal lessen. Beauty and the beast would never have worked if the woman was the beast and the man was the beauty. I believe this is a human condition that most of the time we are all loved for how much we can provide either financially sexually or physically.
@MasterOfCope11 ай бұрын
Both men and women have to be physically attractive, if you're ugly you'll have a bad life. It doesn't matter what gender you are. The difference is that the average man is unattractive whereas the average woman isn't. That's not because men are unhygienic or have bad personalities or some bs, its just nature, its how evolution works. Just because its natural doesn't mean its less painful, my point was that I'd rather people say the brutal truth instead of sweet lies.
@matthewnorris2034 ай бұрын
THIS is why the rep pill and manosphere conversation is so important for men to be talking about
@Heallove24 Жыл бұрын
This is actually beautiful and sad at the same time. I think everyone ultimately wants to be loved for "themselves". I know I do. Sadly, some people come with issues that are difficult to fully love unconditionally. In a nutshell, I think this is why for some it's hard to love their mate just as they are. 'Love is a many splendid thing', that confuses a lot of us- speaking for myself. Dr. O, you amaze me. Your ability to conceptualize topics that most people cannot even wrap their heads around is a gift from God. Thanks for giving me and your viewers lots of things to think about. Food for thought. I still hold on to the notion that love is the answer in a general sense. The Biblical notion of loving our neighbor as ourselves/God certainly goes far in creating a better world. I do see the merit of such a discussion though. It seems that with age, relationships can become more complicated leaving some people to question the meaning of love again and again. Thank you.
@alienkishorekumar Жыл бұрын
It's ugly.
@modickens1272 Жыл бұрын
The problem is men take women and love way too seriously. They strive, work long hours, fight other men, go in debt for big houses and cars etc. Because their ego wants a wife and kids in most cases. A mans ego is his own worst enemy. If you view women as prostitutes, you'll become indifferent to their behavior and certainty won't jump through hoops to placate it, nor will you get hung up on if she loves you, if she leaves etc. I learned this in my 20s. Yes, you may still have emotions, but part of being an adult is not reacting to them. I'm 44, never married, no kids and most of my relationships have been drama free. Even the ones that ended usually ended amicably. Why? Because I never took them seriously. And had 0 desire to have kids so there was no bargaining chip there for her. Once again, reduce ego and expectations through practice and life is easier.
@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Жыл бұрын
Leonardo Di Caprio? Is that you? I loved you in The Reverent and Inception.
@Wong-Jack-Man Жыл бұрын
Nothing special just harem.
@abrahiemdash7676 Жыл бұрын
You have an ego for a reason you shouldn't get rid of it but build it the right way and focus it on the right stuff so it becomes unbreakable If your ego is centered around women or relationships its like building a house on a quicksand
@tancreddehauteville764 Жыл бұрын
A man is what he is. You can't change that.
@motorbreath22 Жыл бұрын
Some of us want children
@justanother240 Жыл бұрын
I can't recommend your channel enough. I find it easier to satisfy romantic desires in roleplaying video games with my partner who also loves gaming. We both understand that it is not the reality but it does scratch the itch for need of pure romanticism.
@AndrewBrownK8 ай бұрын
same with fiction, whether books, shows, anime, or games as you mention.
@justanother2408 ай бұрын
@@AndrewBrownK right, but multiplayer games allow you to interact with your partner, making it quite different from fiction, books, shows, anime, and singleplayer games.
@hnoedgargarciaАй бұрын
Thanks Doc. This series is really helping me understand women. I have had lashback from many people for not accepting a girl that I am courting because of her sexual past. To be honest, I am disgusted by the idea of her giving herself away to other men. The first video of this series and this one is truely making me see that she is not that special .