Where to start.....we all come into the world with gifts. He is genius at unpacking those compartments of trauma & emotion, in order to explain how they manifest. The thought process & how he delivers the questions changes everything. Knowing you need help, getting help, working through the issues with help etc. are important parts to the process. However.....unless you have someone helping you to ask the right questions, you don’t get to the actual root of the problem. You can’t “learn” what he does. You can study and attain every PhD available but it doesn’t give you that innate gift. Just incredible....and he’s so very young to have the type of wisdom he’s sharing. Very thankful to have stumbled on to his content. If I could hire him I’d do so in a heartbeat!

You should make a podcast please I would listen to you on and on every single day and you have such a voice that would I feel like could be more on a podcast

Absolutely amazing. I was in tears thinking about my childhood dreams, the things I've given up because of fear of criticism and rejection. The times felt like I was not "one of them" and how deeply it still hurts. Amazing reflection. Thanks for being you and for what you do. You inspire and enhance other people's lives by sharing your own reflections and by teaching us to reflect on ourselves and see things from a different perspective. Healing at its best!

Mathias thank you for sharing!! It takes a lot of courage to share something that hurt so deeply. I've been there, what I ended up doing is, for a long time convincing myself I don't need friends because no one understands such a complex thinker like myself. I would see people who didn't like me because they thought I was too real, or too open that they felt like I was hiding something! I realized because somewhere down the line I got afraid of people spending too much time with me, they would end up not liking me anymore, calling me fake, and so on. I guess that's why my closest friends to this day I've never met. Almost all my friends are in my gaming community. I know that is a substitute for the real thing. You see this a lot these days!

Wow...this hit me. I remember so many times where I’d walk up to my “friends” and they’d not even say anything. Someone would just need to get coffee or water or the bathroom and they’d move. If I tried to follow then they’d just move again. And someone who’s as my friend would get “stolen” by someone else because then they could be included. I live with a constant fear that I am only good enough until something better comes along. Constantly it is a feeling of loneliness. And you’re right even with work I work in a cubicle in a dark little section by the printing room, I’m never invited to any of my departments calls, and no one ever checks on me. And I wondered why I so hated my job. I don’t wonder anymore...

This hit me so hard. I was tearing up, acknowledging childhood wounds do bring healing. Thank you for this, thank you for your wisdom and vulnerability. God bless.

Thank you so much for this Matthias. I experienced the exact thing when I was young, and your videos have had such a positive impact on me. I hope you realise how much these videos mean to soo many people.

I STILL feel constantly on the outside. It’s really hard for me to make new friendships and maintain any and I’m constantly obsessing over what I said or did because I am always trying to feel like I belong and just never feel like I do. Anywhere. It’s really hard especially now being 24. I find comfort in knowing I’m not alone in this and that you know exactly how I feel. That feeling of isolation and like I don’t belong or matter or ever heard really haunts me. I also relate to exactly what you said about making things worse while trying to make it “better” and think about that often.

Thank you for sharing! I appreciate your video’s and am so glad I came across your KZfaq channel. God Bless you Matthias!

Wow man it’s like u took flashlight and shined it on stuff I forgot about and didn’t even think that they could ever be reason that I feel this way. Now I know why I don’t want friends I’m just afraid that they’re gonna make me feel like I’m again in that period from 1 to 8 grade when I got bullied. That hit really close.

Thanks Mathias. It means a lot that you are transparent enough with us to share your wounds so that we can try to work on our own.❤

Meaningful to all sorts of experiences in life...thank you.

Thank you for your videos. You are a beautiful soul ❤

Thank you so much for sharing! This touched me, and I came across some childhood wounds.

My wife sent me a tik tok video of yours which is why I am here. I just want to say thank you. This video hit me right in the gut, like a freight train. I can relate to this on so many levels and it has triggered me to see how the biggest mistakes and some of the poor decisions I have made in my life to this point are connected. Your raw emotion and soothing tone is just so engaging, I wish my therapist was like this. Not that my therapist is bad, I feel safe and connected in a different way with the work that we are doing but I haven't come across anything that has just gotten me like this. It's as if you see me but you don't even know who I am. And I am way oversharing on a public platform but this long winded comment could just easily be surmised with Thank You, I needed this.

Definitely helpful. Thank you Mathias. I’ve always been inclusive, feeling like, we all can have fun and the more the merrier, but like you I was shown the error of my ways, more than once, I was told, no, I want to play with so and so, not you. That wound has definitely affected how I interact with the world. A mixture of feeling like I need to impress to be included and withdrawal. I’m not sure but I suspect I started out an extrovert but quickly became an introverted shy child. I believe I saw the same happen to my son, he was so extroverted and open when he was little, he’s still very loving, but he’s now a definite introvert. Thank you Mathias for helping us make steps toward healing. ❤️

Thank you so much for your videos. You're making a huge difference to people lives, I'm so grateful to hear your reflections.

This Hit Home. 😔😪

Thank you! 👏

cant even remember how many times my "friends" said this to me lol, i was always in a group of 5 or 3 where there were pairs and i was the one left out lol and when sometimes to check if im important to them, id not go out, noone will come to call me lol

I love your content by the way🥺💗

Coincidentally watched this on a friday

Im so sorry that happened to you

i wanna hug you...❤

Self criticism is/has been huge in my life for long time